WEBVTT - Are You Coachable? (BA Q&A)

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<v Speaker 1>It's time. Oh the b a q a b a

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<v Speaker 1>q a what you say the b a qa just

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<v Speaker 1>tiff and nay the b a qa. We miss you man,

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<v Speaker 1>dame b a q aa. Ooh. So if you listen

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<v Speaker 1>to the Wednesday show and you heard me talk about

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<v Speaker 1>the Lauren Hill, so I met to shout out this

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<v Speaker 1>young woman named Keimani so one I went. So many

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<v Speaker 1>of y'all stopped me. Who listened to the show or

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<v Speaker 1>love the Budgeonista. That's so many, at least ten different people.

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<v Speaker 1>I took pictures. But there's one young woman in particular, Keimani,

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<v Speaker 1>who she saw me, she stopped and she's like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my gosh, and then she proceeded to pour so much

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<v Speaker 1>love into me. She spoke life into me. She just

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it was the most beautiful interaction that I've had.

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<v Speaker 1>I literally started to cry. You know, she was just like, tiffing,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't possibly know all that you've been through except

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<v Speaker 1>for what you shared. And this is just like a

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<v Speaker 1>snippet of what she said. But I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>know how many people that you've helped. My life is

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<v Speaker 1>different because of you. I talk about you all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I share your book with everyone, you know, Like she's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I hear how you uplift Mandy on the podcast how

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<v Speaker 1>you up with your Unicorn squad? How you uplift your mentor?

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<v Speaker 1>And she was like, despite all that's happening, you choose

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<v Speaker 1>joy over and over and over again, and I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you know how much that means to us. It was

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<v Speaker 1>like I tried to hold together and then I just

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<v Speaker 1>started crying. It was the most beautiful interaction I've had

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<v Speaker 1>in so long. She was like, she's a real listener.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, I know you don't like hugs, but can

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<v Speaker 1>I hug you? It was just a beautiful interaction in Keymannie.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to say thank you so much. And

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<v Speaker 1>she said something so powerful. She's like, when things get

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<v Speaker 1>really rough, I hope you remember this conversation and let

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<v Speaker 1>it fill you with the light that you put into

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<v Speaker 1>other people. And it was just amazing. So I just

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<v Speaker 1>forgot to shout her out in the last episode, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to do that. So I'm gonna take

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<v Speaker 1>a question that has come up. Actually was talking to

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<v Speaker 1>one of my mentees earlier. You know, we'd be a

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<v Speaker 1>Q where we answer business questions, finance questions, career questions,

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<v Speaker 1>and so y'all know I be mentoring, right, I have

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<v Speaker 1>a mentorship program. It's twenty bucks a month. Well, it

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<v Speaker 1>depends if you listen to this five years from now,

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<v Speaker 1>it's probably more. But it's my mentor at Tiffany dot

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<v Speaker 1>com and have a ton of mentees in there. And

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<v Speaker 1>a question came up and I was kind of like coaching,

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<v Speaker 1>and here is the here. I wouldn't say this is

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<v Speaker 1>the question, but here is the response that I have

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<v Speaker 1>that I want you to think about this, not just

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<v Speaker 1>if you have a business, in general in life. And

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<v Speaker 1>here's the question I have for you. Are you coachable?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you coachable? No? For un gather around leaning because

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<v Speaker 1>the vast majority of people I find are not coachable.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you want to know what is the secret

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<v Speaker 1>to success if you're talking about external success, not even

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<v Speaker 1>just external success, but just success across the board. But

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<v Speaker 1>for ease of conversation, let's talk external success. Right, here's

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<v Speaker 1>the problem. People will reach out to me all the time, timpany, Timothy,

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<v Speaker 1>can you mentor me? And I don't take on too

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<v Speaker 1>many one on one mentors. I started the mentorship program

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<v Speaker 1>at my mentor Tiffany dot com because I can't possibly

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<v Speaker 1>talk to every single person on the phone. But every

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<v Speaker 1>once in a while, somebody will stand out to me

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<v Speaker 1>and then I'll just say, oh, you know, like mentors

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<v Speaker 1>usually choose you, I mean, and you choose them too,

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<v Speaker 1>But there's usually like you know, asking a random person

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know to mentor you. It's likely not going

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<v Speaker 1>to happen, but you know, you build a relationship. They

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<v Speaker 1>like you, you like them. And what I'm looking for

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<v Speaker 1>when I do take on a like a mentor a mentee,

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<v Speaker 1>is are they coachable. There's this great I'm not a

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<v Speaker 1>football stand but there's this this video of this young

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<v Speaker 1>black football player who is like being interviewed after like

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<v Speaker 1>I guess the game or whatever, and they as they're

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<v Speaker 1>asking him, we saw the coach was pretty angry with

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<v Speaker 1>you when when you were on the field. And they

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<v Speaker 1>show a clip like beside him, and it's like you

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<v Speaker 1>could see the coach like red face walking on and

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<v Speaker 1>saying ah, and he was like, they were like, what

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<v Speaker 1>were you thinking of that time as he was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of chewing you out? You know, football coaches be all

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<v Speaker 1>wild and crazy, and he said, I mean, this dude

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<v Speaker 1>had smile on his face. He said, here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>When the coach walked on the field, mad I said,

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<v Speaker 1>oh sha, the coach is mad. I wonder who he's

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<v Speaker 1>mad at. And then he was like, oh wait, it's me.

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<v Speaker 1>And he was like. The coach basically was like, there

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<v Speaker 1>was a play I guess that he had told this

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<v Speaker 1>player to do in a specific way and the player forgot,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and the heat of the moment and didn't

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<v Speaker 1>do it, and whatever bad thing happened at the result

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<v Speaker 1>as a result turned over whatever happened, and so the

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<v Speaker 1>coach came on the field to be like, I told

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<v Speaker 1>you to do blah blah blah nah again. And so

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<v Speaker 1>he said, how did that make you feel? This is

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<v Speaker 1>a reporter asking the player. And he said, here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I have learned to not listen to how coach says it,

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<v Speaker 1>but what he's saying, because he was right. He told

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<v Speaker 1>me this is the play because this team reacts this way,

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<v Speaker 1>and I didn't do it and as a result, we

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<v Speaker 1>got what we got. And he was like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>react negatively when the coach. Now, I'm not saying you

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<v Speaker 1>should you should tolerate abuse. I'm just this is a

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<v Speaker 1>bigger lesson. I don't react when the coach, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>is angry on the field with me. I don't give

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<v Speaker 1>that energy back because I want to remain coachable. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be able to hear what he's saying and adjust.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want him to not coach me, because

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<v Speaker 1>that's why I came to this team. I knew the

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<v Speaker 1>coach was really tough on this team, but I also

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<v Speaker 1>knew that he coaches you to be a better player.

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<v Speaker 1>Now let's take it on back to what that looks

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<v Speaker 1>like in your life. Like I said, I don't believe

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<v Speaker 1>in abuse, but oftentimes people will ask me for I

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<v Speaker 1>remember a friend of mine asked me to help his

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<v Speaker 1>girlfriend with like credit advice, and so we got on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone and I was like, you know, I was

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<v Speaker 1>talking to her and I was like, let's say her

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<v Speaker 1>name is Eve, Hey, Eve, you know, like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Steve said you need credited by She said yes, and

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<v Speaker 1>I said, well, tell me what's going on. So she

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<v Speaker 1>shared and I said, oh, well, are you you know

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<v Speaker 1>paying off your debt and full Well, I heard that

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<v Speaker 1>you should leave a little bit on your card. I said, well, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a myth that's been debunked no, because such as

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<v Speaker 1>I said, So that was for me. It was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like strike number one, Okay, I said. All I

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<v Speaker 1>said was okay. And then I was like, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to pay it off in full by the

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<v Speaker 1>statement they No, I heard that you should pay it

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<v Speaker 1>twice a month. Well, actually that's not true. One of

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<v Speaker 1>my friends is like this like really highlight. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I know credit, but my friend Nativa is like super

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<v Speaker 1>high level credit experts. She was like, actually I told her.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, Na, Tiva's actually sat down with like

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<v Speaker 1>they have, like the federal government has like not courses,

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<v Speaker 1>but kind of like open conversations with like credit experts

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of express these are the new rules or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, you know, one of the things

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<v Speaker 1>she learned at that time was that's not true. No,

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<v Speaker 1>that is true, because so this is Eve telling me

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<v Speaker 1>that Eve with the four hundred credit score telling me

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<v Speaker 1>with the eight h two credit score that's what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just said okay. And then the third thing

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember what it was, you know, but I

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<v Speaker 1>think I was telling her like, oh, her utilization or whatever. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I heard that you shouldn't even and I just said okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and then we were just both quiet since she knew everything,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was like, well, you know, I guess my score.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I don't know how I'm going to get

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<v Speaker 1>it to go up. And I said, well, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't be more helpful. I had a lot more,

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<v Speaker 1>because there are basic credit things, you know, basic things

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<v Speaker 1>like paying off your debt in full, you know, making

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<v Speaker 1>small paints like they're basic things. She was not able

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<v Speaker 1>to receive the basic because she had decided she knew everything,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I kept the next level stuff that was

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<v Speaker 1>really going to change, just sore. I kept it to

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<v Speaker 1>the sound girl, I'm not going to battle you to

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<v Speaker 1>improve you. You ain't coachable, and some of you are like, ooh, Eve,

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<v Speaker 1>it's crazy you Eve. Go look at that mirror. Go

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<v Speaker 1>look at that mirror, you Eve. So many of y'all

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<v Speaker 1>are not coachable. You go to who knows more than you, admittedly,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's why you sought them out. And then when

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<v Speaker 1>they give you advice that's contrary to the thing that

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing that's not working. That's the part of child.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't let me get hopped. Literally, you go to

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<v Speaker 1>someone because what you're doing is not working, because if

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<v Speaker 1>it was working in the way that you wanted, you

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't be seeking advice. You just be living your life.

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<v Speaker 1>But what you're doing currently is not working. You go

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<v Speaker 1>to someone. I know, I'm reading somebody for filth right now.

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<v Speaker 1>You go to someone because they have the expertise, and

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<v Speaker 1>when they give it to you, because it don't fit

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<v Speaker 1>the thing that's not working for you, you like, nah, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>they can make sense, make it make sense, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And so you know what happens when you find that

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<v Speaker 1>mentor that coach. They check out because guess what, they're

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<v Speaker 1>busy experiencing the success that you say you want. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't tell you how many people come me. I have

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<v Speaker 1>mentees who are literally like you know, they're just starting

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<v Speaker 1>out in business, and I'm just like, oh, girl, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>try this thing. Yeah, but or it's not big enough

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<v Speaker 1>for them. Yeah, but will that make me a million dollars?

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<v Speaker 1>Says you have no money. We're just starting out. Sis,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just trying to get you a hundred, one hundred dollars,

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<v Speaker 1>then five then you want me to give you million

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<v Speaker 1>dollar game? You don't have the skill set to manage

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<v Speaker 1>that yet, you know, And so what I see is

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<v Speaker 1>when I see that people won't do the thing for

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<v Speaker 1>the hundred or the five hundred, one thousand. I stopped

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<v Speaker 1>mentoring cause I'm God, waits my time. You ain't gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do it anyway. I have one friend who is She

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<v Speaker 1>was one of my favorite people to mentor. When I

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<v Speaker 1>met her, she was negative six figures in business, and

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<v Speaker 1>now she's positive. I think the last time I took

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<v Speaker 1>it was like a year's ago. She said that year

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<v Speaker 1>she had made two million dollars. I said, damn, what

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<v Speaker 1>did I say? It's not just what I said. She

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<v Speaker 1>took what I said and put I just booked her

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<v Speaker 1>yesterday and put into action when I call b right.

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<v Speaker 1>She called me, she said, hey, girl, what do you know?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I just woke up from a nap.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm about to be with my financial advisor. And in

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen minutes she said, that's all I need. Can I

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<v Speaker 1>ask you a question? Sure? Now me and be at

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<v Speaker 1>the same age, and she was like, I'm about to

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<v Speaker 1>do da, da da, I'm not really sure about this.

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<v Speaker 1>I listened for two minutes and then she was quiet,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, honestly, I've been in this situation before.

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<v Speaker 1>The best way to approach it is one, two, three, four, five, six,

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<v Speaker 1>seven eight. And then she asked some questions and I

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<v Speaker 1>said yeah, no, yeah, because there's a difference between pushing

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<v Speaker 1>back and asking clarifying questions. She asked clarifying questions, not

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<v Speaker 1>contradictory questions, like now I have heard that online that

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<v Speaker 1>if you do that with your credit. That's not a

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<v Speaker 1>clarifying question. That's like we're rid of the battle. Question.

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<v Speaker 1>She has clarifying questions. I answered them, and then I restated,

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<v Speaker 1>so here's the plan you're going to do one, two, three, four,

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<v Speaker 1>five six. She was like, got it, Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Two minutes to spare. And that's why whenever I get

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<v Speaker 1>tools and resources and access, I hit be up and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, girl, like I just you know, I learned

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<v Speaker 1>a new thing, my big homiecause I got big mentors.

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<v Speaker 1>Have mentors, like I've got a lot of peers, people

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<v Speaker 1>who are in the same position as me, give or take.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of mentees, and then I have

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<v Speaker 1>some mentors who who like mentor me, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>have big homy mentors who are like, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>if I said their names, you'd be like, wait, you

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<v Speaker 1>know that me. Yes, So I don't tap into them

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<v Speaker 1>too often because I respect their time and not that

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<v Speaker 1>I don't respect my peers time. It's just that with

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<v Speaker 1>peers you can go back and forth regularly. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's different. And so anyway, so sometimes a big homi

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<v Speaker 1>mentor will drop a huge gem on me, and she

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<v Speaker 1>be is one of the first people that I then

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<v Speaker 1>passed that gem onto because she's going to plant the

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<v Speaker 1>seed that I have given her. You know what, you

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<v Speaker 1>need a menum to marinate. Let's take a quick commercial break,

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<v Speaker 1>a quick break, murderate all that for a little, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be right back. Okay, I'm back, all right, And

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<v Speaker 1>so like are you coachable? And so it's so important

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<v Speaker 1>to in the mirror and say currently, I'm not. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>always pushing back. I'm not really listening. I'm not doing

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<v Speaker 1>the small things. Because most people, so I met with them,

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<v Speaker 1>I won't say his name because I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>he wants me to tell the story. So I met,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really cool with He's this Grammy Award winning, very

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<v Speaker 1>well known black man who is now the huge investor

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<v Speaker 1>in business owner. Right, So he he and I we

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<v Speaker 1>did like a project together and afterwards we just had

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<v Speaker 1>some chatbout afterwards and I said, okay, And during that

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<v Speaker 1>chat bout, he asked me, you know, what is it?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? Is there anything I could do for you

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<v Speaker 1>to if you know? Everybody was asset, and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>actually I had a very specific clear asset. I say, actually,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm making the transition in the budgetista. Here's a specific

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<v Speaker 1>way I'm making a transition. Here's what I've done and

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm really good at. Here's a small piece that

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really get. I would love if you had

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<v Speaker 1>some feedback or whatever, like if you know anything or

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<v Speaker 1>anybody that can help me with this piece of this?

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<v Speaker 1>He said. First of all, can I commend you? He said,

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<v Speaker 1>Most times I ask people that they either say nothing

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<v Speaker 1>or they basically want you to put them on. There

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<v Speaker 1>is nothing more telling about your lack of desire to

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<v Speaker 1>do the work when you give somebody a big help

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<v Speaker 1>me out, put me on to what I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>help me out. Oh, you ain't willing to do no work.

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<v Speaker 1>You want me to do the work for you, because

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<v Speaker 1>what does that even mean? Help you out? How that

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<v Speaker 1>means you have not done any of the prior work?

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<v Speaker 1>Necessary to get you ready to actually receive any specific help.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you have to have done some pre work

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<v Speaker 1>so you can be ready for whatever someone's going to

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<v Speaker 1>plan into You never waste to ask. I never waste

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<v Speaker 1>and ask if I don't if I'm not clear on

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<v Speaker 1>my ass, I'm not. I'm gonna be quiet, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>not from my big homemie, not for my big mentor.

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<v Speaker 1>With peers, you can go back and forth, but not

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<v Speaker 1>from the big mentor, you know. And so I had

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<v Speaker 1>the specific ass He said, you know what, I have

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<v Speaker 1>a friend really cool with that just sold their business

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<v Speaker 1>to huge hu qu qu, huge conglomerate, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>this actually be a great match for you. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>introduce you to him. And I was like, you see,

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<v Speaker 1>I have done the prior work I have, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>got really clear on the ask. I asked it to

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<v Speaker 1>the right person who I thought might be aligned with

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<v Speaker 1>the solution, and then remain open to be coachable, like

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm certainly not perfectcause Lord, I'm only being I'm

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<v Speaker 1>only able to say this to you because they're so often,

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<v Speaker 1>especially in the beginning, I was not coachable. Oh but

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<v Speaker 1>that's not gonna work. That's not go. I was not coachable,

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<v Speaker 1>and I realized that I am stating. I think one

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<v Speaker 1>of my mentors got frustrated with me. It was like, well, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>if you know everything, then just do it your way,

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<v Speaker 1>and it like it hit me, like, girl, why are

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<v Speaker 1>you asking this person questions if you're not willing to

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<v Speaker 1>make any shift? You know, I can't tell you, like

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<v Speaker 1>some of the people who are mentoring you, if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't remain open, they're not going to take you into

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<v Speaker 1>the next room. They're gonna give you a little light dusting.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like, she ain't ready because you want me to

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<v Speaker 1>introduce you, like I know, Oprah. I'm not me. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just saying like they like I know, Oprah, I know

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<v Speaker 1>Robert S. Smith, I know, Well, why should I introduce

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<v Speaker 1>them to you when you ain't ready? Because you couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>do the two things I told you to do, but

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<v Speaker 1>you want me to bring you to the big room. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you have to make yourself worthy of the dream

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<v Speaker 1>that you seek, and you make yourself worthy through the work.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, so you have to ask yourself, are you

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<v Speaker 1>going to be like b who, when given the tools

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<v Speaker 1>and the resources, put them to work. Ask clarifying questions

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<v Speaker 1>are not confrontational talking about it's not gonna work, or

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<v Speaker 1>this is my dad gone landscape and I hope y'all

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<v Speaker 1>can't hear that. Or are you going to be like

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<v Speaker 1>Eve who know every damn thing but don't have the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that you're wanting? You know, like, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>you have to decide you're gonna be like b or

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna be like Eve, you know, like if you're

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<v Speaker 1>really wanting. And I'm not just talking about success in business,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also talking about success in you know, your personal life,

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<v Speaker 1>success in whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, when you're reaching out and asking for help,

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<v Speaker 1>are you open? Are you coachable? You have a whole therapist,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't listen. M oh, I got you the assist,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't I right? You know, you got your your bestie

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<v Speaker 1>been telling you about such and such is toxic and

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<v Speaker 1>you know they are, but you ain't listening. Okay, you know, like,

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<v Speaker 1>are you coachable? Okay? Well, if you do have a

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<v Speaker 1>business and you a sister, and I mean we have

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<v Speaker 1>people who are not sisters. But if you do have

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<v Speaker 1>a business and you want to come on over and

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<v Speaker 1>let me coach you, you know, going over to my

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<v Speaker 1>mentor tipany dot com and yeah, I coach there. It's fun.

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<v Speaker 1>It's fun over there. But no, for real, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not a judgment zone. This is just a self awareness

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<v Speaker 1>zone and it's nothing is more important than being self aware.

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<v Speaker 1>So that way you know where you are, so you

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<v Speaker 1>know where you want to be and then you make

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<v Speaker 1>that leap forward. So said that would love a little sass,

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<v Speaker 1>but said that would love all right, I will see

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<v Speaker 1>you if you didn't listen to the episode on Wednesday,

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<v Speaker 1>I break down my time at the Lauryn Hill concert

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<v Speaker 1>and what a time I had. Yes, she was late

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<v Speaker 1>spoiler alert, but go ahead and listen to that episode

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<v Speaker 1>until next week. Oh. If you have questions that you

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