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Speaker 1: from Coast to Coast AM on iHeart Radio. Ariel Ford.

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Speaker 1: It's a leading personality in the personal growth contemporary spirituality movement.

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Speaker 1: She has spent the past thirty plus years living and

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Speaker 1: promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She's been called

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Speaker 1: the Cupid of consciousness and the fairy Godmother of love.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Coast to Coast ariel Ford. Oh hey, George,

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Speaker 1: how I'm fine? What do you mean You've spent the

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Speaker 1: past thirty years doing this? That would have made you

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Speaker 1: two years old at the time when you started. I

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Speaker 1: have good gee. I actually turned sixty four recently, so

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Speaker 1: I am not so young anymore. You don't look at

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Speaker 1: nor do you sound it. Congratulations to you, Thank you well,

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Speaker 1: you know once you figure out how to do life.

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Speaker 1: It can be a lot of fun, that sure can.

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Speaker 1: And that brings up a question because you have on

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Speaker 1: your website something about misery. Yes, and that caught our

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Speaker 1: eye and Donna said, George, you've got to see this.

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Speaker 1: And I went to look at it, and we're going

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Speaker 1: to get into the latest work you did, inspirations. I'm

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Speaker 1: not saying inspirations, folks, it's inspirations. We'll talk about that

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Speaker 1: later on. But why are so many people are yell,

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Speaker 1: so miserable right now? Oh? You know, it's a really

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Speaker 1: stressful time on the planet. And you know, if you

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Speaker 1: talk to the astrologers, whether they're Western or Vedic, they

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Speaker 1: can tell you the planetary alignment that's causing all the disruption.

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Speaker 1: But if you just look at how stressed out we

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Speaker 1: all are. You know, we've got working kids and aging parents,

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Speaker 1: and you know, a government and chaos, which is you know, now,

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Speaker 1: we have a world in chaos and people are running

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Speaker 1: here and there, and they're not taking care of themselves.

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Speaker 1: The level of self care is declining rapidly, and what

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Speaker 1: we need to do is really give ourselves a break.

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Speaker 1: We need to take some time to do what I

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Speaker 1: like to call being pleasure pigs. And here's what being

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Speaker 1: a pleasure pig is. So for women, when they get

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Speaker 1: really stressed out, what happens is they've used up all

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Speaker 1: the oxytocin in their brain. So oxytocin is the bonding hormone,

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Speaker 1: or that's called the superglue of love. You sound like

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Speaker 1: our buddy John Gray. Well, John Gray is my buddy too.

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Speaker 1: Where I learned all that is a matter of fact,

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Speaker 1: He sent me an email tonight about you. Oh he did.

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Speaker 1: He's just amazing. So yeah, So, so what happens is

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Speaker 1: you've got to rebuild your oxytocin, at least women do.

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Speaker 1: And the fastest way to do it is by giving

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Speaker 1: yourself pleasure, and it's so easy to do. My favorite

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Speaker 1: way to do it is by coloring, which is why

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Speaker 1: But the other ways that you can do it, especially

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Speaker 1: getting your hair done, going shopping, shopping, You just have

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Speaker 1: to look and feel and taste and touch, go laughing

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Speaker 1: But it makes him happy. Well, you know, that's what

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Speaker 1: all have what Deep October would call jittery platelets, right,

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Speaker 1: got chronic spilkies, which is Yiddish for ants in your pants. Right,

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Speaker 1: So we're all just kind of a mess, and we're

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Speaker 1: and there couldn't be a more important time to figure out,

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Speaker 1: you know, how can I take some time to be

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Speaker 1: going to do it for you. What does schlebille mean

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Speaker 1: so back to misery. So what are the techniques that

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Speaker 1: thought no, a total yeah, that was a total basket case.

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