WEBVTT - Detox 360` 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.680 Sometimes you got to restart everything in your. 0:00:04.600 --> 0:00:09.200 Life that is a fact, and you will be surprised 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:14.800 how much mental clarity a detox can bring that asks. 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:21.080 It all started with real talk, unfiltered, honest and straight 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.120 from the heart. Since then, we've gone on to become 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:26.599 Webby award winning podcasters in New York Times bestselling authors. 0:00:26.640 --> 0:00:29.160 Dead Ass was more than a podcast for us. It 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:32.560 was about our growth, a place where we could be vulnerable. 0:00:32.240 --> 0:00:35.480 Be raw or but most apportly be us. 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:38.120 But as we know, life keeps evolving, and so do 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:41.519 we And through it all, one thing has never changed. 0:00:41.960 --> 0:00:42.559 This is. 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:47.559 Because we got a lot to talk about. All right, 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:49.800 story times. I'm gonna take it over today. I think 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:53.560 I do a storytime once every blue ass moon. But 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:55.600 for me, let me take it back to I know 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:58.800 you like to do like a time frame. Let's take 0:00:58.840 --> 0:01:02.480 it back to the top of Maya. I would say 0:01:02.480 --> 0:01:05.560 top of may is a good place to start the story. 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:11.520 So we were simultaneously assisting both sets of pearents with 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:16.120 closing on their homes. Devo's dad came down here for 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:20.840 Jackson's birthday in April and after a brief quick conversation 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:26.199 about you know finances where they are, what's next? Deval 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:28.680 proposed the question to his dad, you know, like, why 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:30.560 don't y'all just retire? Why don't yad? I mean you 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:32.800 are retired. Why don't y'all just move down here to Georgia? 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:34.960 I mean you've been wanting to come down now that 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:39.240 Devo's mom is officially retired. Why not? Like, what's stopping you? 0:01:39.480 --> 0:01:43.080 What's your plan? So you can correct me if I'm wrong, 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:44.640 But your dad kind of looked at you, thought for 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:47.319 a second, and was just like, you know what, we 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:47.880 should move. 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:49.800 It literally went just like that, we should move. 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:50.120 Yeah. 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:52.440 And that was on like a Monday. Jackson's birthday was 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:58.040 on a Monday, and by Friday, Devo's dad we affectionately 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:01.360 called Scoop you don't know Scoop, myself and our good 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:04.640 friend Curtis Lancaster, who was an amazing realtor. Out here, 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:09.440 we're looking at houses for Papapa, Scoop and Nana, and 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:12.160 I don't think your mom quite understood what was happening. 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:13.799 I think she was just like, AhR, yeah, let's start 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:16.560 looking at some houses. We'll see what's out there. We 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:20.160 put in an offer by Saturday, yeah, you know, after 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:23.360 looking at maybe two houses, your father was like, this 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:25.920 is the one that house ended up falling through had 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:27.959 a bad inspection. So we went back on the hunt 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:30.880 a couple of days later and found what is now 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:35.680 the house. So in the middle of that, my parents 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:38.320 we were also simultaneously helse hunting. We've been on and 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.400 off for two years. But of course y'all know my 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:43.160 dad wasn't well in his health crisis and whatnot. We 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:47.360 paused the house hunt and we decided to start looking again. 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:50.320 Top of May. Devau said May first would be a 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:51.679 good day to start looking. 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:52.959 So. 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:56.120 We buit off a bit more than we could chew 0:02:56.360 --> 0:02:59.680 de that was in the middle of filming Satima I 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:05.359 trying to juggle both sets of parents paperwork. Financial also 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:07.240 didn't wait till May. I was looking at for my 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:10.400 mom last week of April and happened to found something 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:12.680 that we loved and I'll put in an offer. But 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:15.799 that house was not the one May first, though, because 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:18.920 my husband said to wait till May first. Ladies listened 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:24.680 to your husband. Okay, May first was the day. So yeah, 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:29.200 we found the house and put the offer in simultaneously 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:30.959 closing on the houses but also in de Valle and 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:35.280 I trying to figure out how we can get our 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:39.520 trust approved and everything confirmed before we purchased the homes. 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:40.920 It was just a lot of things happened in the 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:44.120 one time, in addition to just coming off of the 0:03:44.160 --> 0:03:46.840 previous nine months of dealing with everything my dad had 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:48.360 going on. Of course, you guys know, I had a 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:51.200 couple losses in the family, so there were heavy It 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:53.720 was heavy. It was a very heavy, heavy time, and 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:55.880 I was just spread thin. So there were just too 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:57.800 many things happening. I needed a break. I felt like 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:01.760 Devell and I were having sent moments of I wouldn't 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:06.280 even say arguments, just like bickering physically, Yeah, we were 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:09.800 bickering physically. I felt like I was just at my max, 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:12.120 like I couldn't take any more of the output that 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:15.880 was happening. Nothing was being restored. I was spread way thinned. 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:18.640 Deva was spread thin. We were just barely staying afloat. 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:20.480 The kids were ending the school year, so there's a 0:04:20.520 --> 0:04:21.839 ton of things that happened to that had to be 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:25.000 done at the end of the school year, celebrations, graduations, 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:27.360 travel and all the things. So I felt like I 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:31.680 needed a reset I needed to shut shit down everything 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:35.280 and then refocus on myself first, so that way I 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:38.560 would be better equipped to be an asset to my 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:40.960 husband and my children, because for far too long, I 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:44.120 felt like I was just spreading myself then being everything 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:47.080 to everyone, and it was to my detriment. So I 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:50.480 did a fourteen day detox, y'all, raw raw food detox. 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:54.279 Made it all fourteen days, and I feel amazing, and 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:56.479 I'll share more with y'all when we come back. 0:04:57.080 --> 0:04:59.480 She had on the second to last day, she had 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:00.400 three of them my scene. 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:01.360 Three of them I seen. 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:02.680 I was like, why would you do that? And you 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:05.279 had two kernels of popcorn I did. She was perfect 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:08.840 for thirteen eight hours and she had a little bit, 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:09.680 But that's the little bit. 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:11.480 It's like we were in that was our second time 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:14.160 going to the movie, and I didn't like. I didn't 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:15.480 know notchos, no popcorn, nothing. 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:18.440 The funny thing is popcorn. It says on the detox 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.359 that you should try to do the detox up to 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:21.760 fifteen percent, right. 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:23.880 It said you should try to do it one hundred percent. 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:25.680 Rong, one hundred percent rong, So you were probably like 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:28.520 ninety nine point five percent role I think you accomplished it. 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:30.880 I was, Yeah, I was. Essentially, I didn't have anything 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:33.320 cooked for fourteen days. I have fruits and vegetables, with 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:36.200 the exception of three cheetos and two kernels of popcorns. 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:39.320 I don't even count that. I probably shut that out. 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:41.600 I definitely did, because it was there was a lot 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:42.120 of that happening. 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:44.080 You've been talking about that a lot lately too. Every 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:46.480 time we sit down with Jackson, she'd be asking about poop. 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:47.280 I don't understand what. 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:49.040 I want to make sure everybody's regularly, y'all. 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:51.240 I want to make sure detoxes always want to talk 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:53.600 about poop. Nobody want to talk about police. 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:55.240 And you have to see what's coming out from the 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:56.360 inside because. 0:05:56.360 --> 0:05:59.720 Nobody want to hear that. Man break bro y'all. See 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:02.320 what I'm when people going detalking, what they. 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:07.200 Do inside is murky like a swamp. I'm telling you 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:12.320 all right back for karaokea time. So this has nothing 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:14.080 to do with nothing, y'all. That's just my song right now. 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:15.640 It's a little bout for the summer. Shout out to 0:06:15.720 --> 0:06:20.520 young Miami where my scamming Nick, Oh my Matt, you're 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:22.120 ready to back me up? The scamming niggas. It's my 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:24.920 song you song to. This is not your saying it's 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:29.880 your song though, Oh my scamming niggas. Where y'all at 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:30.679 where y'all last? 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:38.960 Hey, Hey, y'all bag boosting bitches? 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:39.880 Where y'all at? 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:41.760 Where y'all ast? I sound so old? 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:48.239 Seriously though, she said, y'all, Miami, don't sound like she's. 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:49.680 A Negro spiritual. 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:55.160 Spiritual span that ship. 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:58.640 Ship only black people. 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:03.839 You can be orally sound. But when that booster comes 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:06.240 back something. 0:07:06.000 --> 0:07:10.480 I'm back in the Dominican hair salon. Baby. They used 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:12.440 to come in with all the things. Okay, they were 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:16.200 boosting everything from dove bar soaps to coach bags. 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.480 I can hear that, Oh you can. They were. 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:23.160 They were boosting everything from dove soap to coach bags. 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:26.600 Saying boosting, like do people still say boosting? Y'all boosting? 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:35.040 Yeah, teeth fell off, the back of the fell off, 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:35.760 the back of the truck. 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:38.640 Doesn't just got out of jail from boosting. She was 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:41.000 selling like school uniforms. 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:42.040 That was her thing. 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:45.080 We need those, yeah cookies. 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:50.880 It's crazy ideal back in Brooklyn. I mean that's a great. 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:56.880 Market, expensive, right, school stores and speaking to the uniforms 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:59.080 that they say that every kid gotta have twelve. 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:05.760 Oh my goodness dollars to crazy you and they know 0:08:05.840 --> 0:08:08.600 how kids grow. So whatever, it's fit. Thank God for the. 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:12.160 Don't even sweat as school man, because it just got 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:13.840 she's going back. 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:18.720 She's going. Yeah, she's going back in Georgia right away. 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:20.720 You know what I'm saying. Thank God the boys are 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:23.880 all like size of place order because what didn't fit 0:08:23.960 --> 0:08:25.640 Cairol no more is gonna fit cast. 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:27.200 Events a fact. 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:29.680 So as long as it's held up and gotten no 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:32.440 holes and Marcus things all over it, well that's left 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:34.880 to be seen. All right. All right, let's take a 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:37.280 quick break and we'll be back with ow op y'all. 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:41.760 All right, we're back, y'all. Let's see what's going on, 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:42.640 and yeah. 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:45.120 What's going on in the world, because I've been detoxed 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:46.520 and I don't know what's going on. People have been 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:48.840 I haven't. Just it wasn't just a detox from food, y'all. 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:51.640 I detoxed from social media for the most part, except 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:53.280 for sharing a couple of things about my journey. But 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:56.080 I haven't been in taking so bring me up to 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.480 speed on what's been happening lately. 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:03.280 Well, lately, there's been two cases in the news and 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:10.480 both were being defended using the self defense argument. Two 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:14.920 young black men involved. The first case was Carmelo Anthony. 0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:17.960 You probably heard about that case down in Texas. He 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:23.280 stabbed and ended up killing another white student who had 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:28.320 been apparently aggressive toward him during a track meet, and 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:30.880 there was a lot of discourse about whether or not 0:09:30.960 --> 0:09:35.280 he would be charged, and he eventually was, and recently 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:38.480 he was just found guilty and I think it's being 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:41.400 sentenced to thirty five years in prison. He's seventeen years old, 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:44.680 so there goes his life. The second case happened in 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:49.840 South Carolina. A fourteen year old boy named Cyrus Carmack 0:09:49.960 --> 0:09:52.880 Belton went into a convenience store. He had a backpack. 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.840 They made him put his backpack down. He picked up 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:59.360 some bottles of water and put them back, and because 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:03.520 of that, the store owner thought he was stealing. He 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:05.520 kind of motioned to show them he didn't have anything 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:07.439 in his pockets, but he wouldn't take his hands out 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:10.040 of his pockets, and he ended up leaving the store, 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:13.640 after which the store owner and his father chased him 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:18.000 down The street and shot him dead. They claimed that 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:19.240 it was out of self defense. 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:19.839 They claimed that. 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:24.400 He brandished a gun, but there were multiple eyewitnesses who 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:28.360 said they never saw him holding a gun and that 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:36.760 shooter Ricky Chow was acquitted. They gave the defense. They 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:42.280 gave them two options. They said, either murder one or nothing. 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:47.160 So if he didn't get if he did. 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:47.679 Not get. 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:51.680 Sound guilty of first degree murder, he would walk basically, 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:55.480 and he walked free using the self defense. So I'm like, Oper, 0:10:55.600 --> 0:11:00.760 no Op, is this a case of race racial bias 0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:03.240 in these two situations or do you think that either 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:05.480 one of these could have or could have not been 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:06.439 self defense. 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:11.040 I think that this is one of the cases because 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:13.080 they happened at the same time. People try to compare 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:15.600 the cases and say this happened here and this happened here. 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:17.440 I don't want to do that. The first thing I 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.679 want to do is say, with the Carmelo Anthony case, 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:24.199 nobody on the internet can decide whether he's guilty or innocent. Right, 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:25.880 so nobody here can go up here and argue what 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:27.599 the guilt in it because he wasn't there. But I 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:31.240 will say this the same state, I think it was 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:33.640 four years ago, there was a young white man, young 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:36.240 white boy who killed his class mate in the bathroom. 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.560 I think he went in the bathroom, stabbed his class 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:40.480 made a bunch of times. And this is the part 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:43.520 that I want to point out to people. No one 0:11:43.559 --> 0:11:46.600 here is saying that Carmelo Anthony, whether he's innocent or guilty, 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:48.040 or whether he was right or wrong. But what we're 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.440 saying is how the criminal justice system come down on 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:53.720 black men seems to be very, very unfair, because Carmelo 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:56.800 Anthony is now getting thirty five years for what happened 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:58.680 at a track meet, which people are arguing could be 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:01.440 the self defense or not, whereas the other young white 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:04.080 man who stabbed a man in the bathroom got ten 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:05.800 years because the jury felt like it was just a 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:08.880 tragic mistake. So what I want to point out here 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:11.840 is how they view black bodies, whether you're the victim 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:15.959 or whether you're the villain, right, it doesn't matter which 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:18.000 one you're talking about, whether it's child or whether it's 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.160 Carmelo Anthony. It just seems that when it comes to 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:23.240 black bodies, they always get discarded and they never get 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.480 the benefit of the doubt, even when, especially when it 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.760 comes to young black boys. If it's a young black 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:30.360 boy involved, whether it was Tamiya Riights, Mike Brown, or 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:32.720 he was guilty, he was a villain, he's just he's 0:12:32.760 --> 0:12:35.080 made out to be this worst guy. But then when 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:37.320 it's somebody else, for example, like a Kyle Rittenhouse who 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:40.760 travels cross state lines with a gun and commits murder, 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:43.320 he's given the benefit of the doubt. That's what black 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:45.960 people are arguing about, and no one wants to say it. 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:48.360 They want to make it seem like it's a carmelo 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.440 versus a child thing. We're not making about those two cases. 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:54.160 What we're talking about is how the criminal justice system 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.760 sees us as people. And it gets me upset a 0:12:57.760 --> 0:12:59.240 little bit as you hear it, because it's like we've 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:01.520 been going through this. I remember when I was nine 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:04.000 years old and it was Rodney King, and you watched 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:06.800 Rodney King get get his face beat in by cops 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:09.559 and get willed on, and they all walk away acquit. 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:12.360 It to Anthony Thomas and Cincinnati, you see. 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:14.800 What I'm saying. So it's like, then when you say, well, 0:13:14.800 --> 0:13:16.960 why everything got to be about race? This case wasn't 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:20.559 about race? When has it not been about race for us. 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:22.440 And it was one hundred percent about race because to 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:30.440 your point, prosecutors knew that race would because they knew 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:33.040 that how different people view black bodies. I just feel 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:35.760 like punishment because what they did was they struck every 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:42.840 black educator from the jury white jury. Yeah, because they 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:47.760 didn't want They claimed that educators would see him as 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:50.319 a student and have more empathy for him because he's 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:54.040 a student. But they didn't strike any white educators from 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:54.520 the jury. 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:57.760 You know why, because we're not viewed in the criminal 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:00.720 justice system as human. And that's that's what black people 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:01.240 are arguing. 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:04.760 People in the school to prison pipeline people as well. 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:08.880 White teachers go into those schools with biases, especially against 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:12.800 black boys, and so those biases were more valuable to 0:14:12.840 --> 0:14:16.760 the prosecution than empathy from black adplicators. 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:17.920 So it is about race. 0:14:18.240 --> 0:14:21.680 People know how race affects outcomes and they use it 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:24.320 to their advantage. So I definitely think absolutely that that 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:27.080 was a part. It played a part, for sure. 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:27.600 For sure. 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:29.480 I do want to call out the name of the 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:34.560 young man that was found guilty of stabbing his classmate 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:36.560 in the bathroom and only got ten years. The reason 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:37.840 why I want to bring that out because it was 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.240 in the same state. Here it is is they're the 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:43.520 same ages, right. One boy claims it was self defense. 0:14:43.560 --> 0:14:45.280 The other one they didn't even claim self defense. He 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:47.480 was being bullied and he went in to attack the boy. 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:50.080 But they were able to empathize with the young man 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.440 and see him as a student. They didn't want that 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:55.240 for Carmelo Anthony. And that, to me is what I 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:59.160 think people don't understand. No one is saying because child 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:02.240 got off, Carmelo Anthony should have got off. Nobody is 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:04.160 saying that. What people are saying is do y'all not 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:07.160 see how they view us in the criminal justice system? 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:10.360 And it's unfair. That's all people are saying. We can't 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:13.360 even defend ourselves. Even in the Breonna Tailor case, you 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:16.400 don't make yourself known. You shoot into her apartment. Her 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:20.200 boyfriend shot back and then he was I think he 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:22.920 was charged right, And it's like, as a black man, 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:25.040 you're not even able to defend your own family. 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:29.800 Even in the Cyrus karmac Beltan case, the store owners 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:32.600 chased him out of the store over what they thought 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:37.240 was stolen bottled water, and then when he allegedly brandished 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:38.920 the gun, then they had a reason to shoot him. 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:41.320 But he was gonna shoot him regardless. 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:43.960 Regardless because was he didn't brandish the gun supposedly in the. 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.320 Stew and not at all, and all of that is 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:47.360 on camera. 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:50.880 Right, And then leaving the store, it's like you have 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:53.280 to go follow somebody like that was like intent. 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:55.200 Yeah, And even though he was shot in the back, 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:59.480 you know, normally investigator would say, you can't be You 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:01.560 can't claim self defense when somebody is shot in the 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:03.800 back if they're running away from you, right, So he 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:06.040 shouldn't have even been able to use that because he 0:16:06.240 --> 0:16:09.880 chased that boy down the street, Like it's no longer 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:11.800 self defense when somebody is running. 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:12.760 From you, from you exactly. 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:13.680 But they don't. 0:16:13.440 --> 0:16:15.280 Really care because at the end of the day, what 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:17.520 the jury thinks is that this young black boy is 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:20.520 going to cause more problems alive than he is dead. 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:24.160 So good job, Rick, job exactly. 0:16:24.520 --> 0:16:27.160 I honestly feel like that's where the conversation needs to 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:31.000 be curated towards, rather than people trying to say child 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:35.280 versus carmelo. You can't even compare those aren't even those 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:37.680 apples are orange, right, the scenarios, right, But what I'm 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:40.120 saying is just look at it an entirely backup, get 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:42.480 some perspective. Me and me and Matt were talking about this, 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:45.160 but called zooming out. You know how when you look 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:47.240 so hard at one case, then you want to couple 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:49.280 it with another case and you're trying to make comparisons. 0:16:49.320 --> 0:16:51.720 Sometimes you need to just zoom out and look at 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:54.680 everything in the bigger picture and just see who gets 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:58.040 sentenced at higher rates for the same crime. Yeah, history 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:01.320 to tell you that what we was saying right like, 0:17:01.400 --> 0:17:03.480 this is not even something we have to argue. These 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:07.040 are facts. There's data and statistics, and black people are 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.639 just saying, we're tired of watching it because now you 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:11.280 got to answer questions. And this is the truth when 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:14.840 you have young black kids like Jackson, who's asking me 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:18.119 like why would he get in trouble for that? And 0:17:18.160 --> 0:17:20.439 now I am forced to explain and this is what happens, 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:22.639 and people don't understand what black families as opposed to 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:24.919 other families. I now have to have to talk with 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:27.440 my son about what he has to expect going outside. 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:30.439 You're not going to be seen as human just like 0:17:30.520 --> 0:17:33.200 everybody else. I have to have that conversation so when 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:35.760 the cop pulls you up, pulls you over in the car, 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:38.120 make sure you stay calm, keep your hands at ten 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:40.240 and two, make sure you smile, make sure you don't 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:43.120 be aggressive. It's like, I have to have these conversations 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:45.400 because if something goes wrong, no one's going to see 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:49.080 my fifteen year old son as a student, as a 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:51.160 junior National Honor Society. They're going to say, well, he's 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:54.159 a black kid, so more than likely he's doing these things, 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:57.119 you know. So I think that's the bigger conversation of 0:17:57.119 --> 0:17:59.639 how they view us, not so much you know, putting 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:02.120 one against the other, like I wouldn't do that. It's 0:18:02.119 --> 0:18:04.359 not fear that any of the families involved, you know, 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:06.360 because here's another part of it. Even the young man 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:10.159 that was murdered, his family deserves empathy too, you know, 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:11.920 Like we can't just sit here and just say one 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:15.000 person lost their lives too, two kids lost their lives 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:16.960 three if you're looking at just those two, and it's 0:18:17.000 --> 0:18:19.040 unfortunately for all the families, you know what I'm saying. 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:22.040 The other thing, I don't know if you saw this 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:24.560 before your detox, but jay Z comed out his locks. 0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:28.560 Allegedly it caused the stir on the internet. 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:31.880 It caused the people just found out that you can 0:18:31.920 --> 0:18:33.880 comb out locks. 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:39.200 That man, why the alleged, you know, just to keep 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:40.000 the drama gun. 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:41.640 I like it. I like it. 0:18:41.760 --> 0:18:43.440 Trip had locks yesterday, cand you tell? 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:44.320 Can you tell. 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:47.160 Not your locks overnight? 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:51.119 I'm tender headed to comb locks out. I can barely 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:52.320 comb my hair like this. 0:18:52.520 --> 0:18:53.880 That would have to hurt well. 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:58.120 I follow his here stylist Nikia, and I'm shout out 0:18:58.119 --> 0:18:59.760 to Nikia. She's been working with for a long time, 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:02.480 and I believe she made a post saying that it 0:19:02.520 --> 0:19:05.280 took a couple of days. But it is possible, y'all 0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:07.600 to come out locks. It is. I'm sure he did 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:09.280 cut some of it though, because it's his here is 0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:12.160 not as long as it was. But yeah, it's possible. 0:19:12.400 --> 0:19:15.120 All things are possible. To christ I. 0:19:15.000 --> 0:19:18.520 Have no body might never talk about the next month head. 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:24.280 I like the change up though. The changeup is nice. 0:19:24.680 --> 0:19:26.640