WEBVTT - TRENDING- Selena Gomez

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<v Speaker 1>All right, let's get to the trending report, Tanya.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, so we're talking about Selena Gomez and the

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<v Speaker 2>big revelation, and it is that our body is not

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<v Speaker 2>and will not be what it was ten years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>An early amen.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I think that general idea of what Selena

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<v Speaker 2>Gomez is talking about, it flies to every single woman

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<v Speaker 2>on the planet. So she posted these two pictures of

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<v Speaker 2>herself on Instagram on her stories. One of the pictures

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<v Speaker 2>was taken in twenty thirteen. She was in like this

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<v Speaker 2>zebra print bikini, and she said, today I realized I

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<v Speaker 2>will never look like this again. And then the next

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<v Speaker 2>slide in her story, the following photo was taken from

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<v Speaker 2>twenty twenty three, with the caption I'm not perfect, but

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<v Speaker 2>I am proud to be who I am. Sometimes I

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<v Speaker 2>forget it's okay to be me. And in the photos

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<v Speaker 2>you can see I'm in Her body does look different,

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<v Speaker 2>and to me, for her to post that so vulnerably

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<v Speaker 2>was just so so cool. But also it's just this

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<v Speaker 2>important thing that we all need to realize, because I think,

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<v Speaker 2>especially as women, our bodies change so much as we

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<v Speaker 2>get older, you know, like so many things happen your hormones,

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<v Speaker 2>you have a baby, just age in general, it changes

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<v Speaker 2>our bodies and medication, and so I think that, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we always kind of look back and like, oh, when

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<v Speaker 2>I was eighteen, you know, like we all had just

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<v Speaker 2>our bodies were different, and like we're always trying to

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<v Speaker 2>get back to that. And after you have a baby,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like the post getting my pre baby body back,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's just like our bodies change, and that is

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<v Speaker 2>what it is. And so I think sometimes accepting it

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<v Speaker 2>and realizing it is there's so much freedom in that.

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<v Speaker 3>It's true, that's a good lens to look through because

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<v Speaker 3>I remember I think back to my twenties, right, and

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<v Speaker 3>I think back to like that body, and oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>you can compare the pictures. You can do the side

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<v Speaker 3>by side like the Selina did with these two. And

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<v Speaker 3>I was way more insecure that with that body and

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<v Speaker 3>then those years right that I am now with this

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<v Speaker 3>body and I and all that it went through, and

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<v Speaker 3>it gave me my babies and it gave me like

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<v Speaker 3>everything that I have right now. And I have so

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<v Speaker 3>much more confidence now being a few pounds heavier than

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<v Speaker 3>I was in my twenties, with a quote unquote better

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<v Speaker 3>body Yeah, I don't know what it is, but it's

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<v Speaker 3>it's so I don't know what wisdom maybe who knows?

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<v Speaker 4>So what what would be? And we can sort of

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<v Speaker 4>just go around the room. What would be everyone's current

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<v Speaker 4>biggest insecurity right now? Like what would be the insecurity

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<v Speaker 4>for you?

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<v Speaker 1>Tanya? It doesn't be body could be any insecurity.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh insecurity, I'd say, that's a great question.

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<v Speaker 1>Come back to you, come back to me.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's not insecurity. I think it's just the

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<v Speaker 3>unknown of trying to be a good parent. So I'm

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<v Speaker 3>trying to navigate life and I'm trying to do the

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<v Speaker 3>right things up for exactly, And so it's the decisions

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<v Speaker 3>that I'm making for them. Am I picking the right schools?

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<v Speaker 3>Am I picking the right And I'm you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>making the right choices for them? And that's kind of

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<v Speaker 3>like my insecurities, I guess.

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<v Speaker 4>Because it's it's your it's your family, it's a legacy,

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<v Speaker 4>is it's it's all of that.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's also the way I'm parenting. It's I'm it's

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<v Speaker 3>the way I react when I get frustrated. It's it's

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<v Speaker 3>the way I come home from work one day. If

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<v Speaker 3>I'm if I'm tired, if I'm in a bad mood,

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<v Speaker 3>or if i'm you know, all of that reflects on

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<v Speaker 3>my children. And then it's like if you drags out

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<v Speaker 3>over time, like that's the person you're becoming, and then

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<v Speaker 3>that's the person that they see and then those are

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<v Speaker 3>the memories they're gonna have. And that's my biggest insecurity

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<v Speaker 3>is that too much time is going to go by

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<v Speaker 3>and then it's going to turn out that like I

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<v Speaker 3>missed four years because I was just so like in

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<v Speaker 3>a fog. That's that's where I'm at, well deep.

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<v Speaker 1>And so, okay, tany did you come up with one?

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<v Speaker 2>I think mine would be I'm a big people pleaser.

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<v Speaker 2>What I'm realizing is.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't please everybody all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>And Robbie's right, right, like I'm a big people pleaser

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like very debilitating to things that I want

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<v Speaker 2>to do and I'm trying to get better about it.

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<v Speaker 2>But also it's like the fear I do have this

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<v Speaker 2>fear of like making people upset, and so it stops

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<v Speaker 2>me from doing things.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, okay, so and what about the guys tells, like,

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<v Speaker 4>what's your biggest insecurity?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh? I don't know that I really have one.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, what a dream to be to.

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<v Speaker 4>You.

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<v Speaker 1>Blessed to be you. Every morning in the mirror, I

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<v Speaker 1>am or how about you? I mean, there's physical stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>there's parenting stuff. There, there's it's a long list.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what's interesting. I thought of a physical one too.

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<v Speaker 2>I have this one tooth that's crooked, and I know

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<v Speaker 2>nobody can notice it. But I'm very insecure, and now

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<v Speaker 2>I start I realize that I start turning when I

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<v Speaker 2>take pictures to the other side, and I'm like, why

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<v Speaker 2>do I care? Nobody can tell this tooth is crooked.

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<v Speaker 1>It's in your head.

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<v Speaker 2>It's totally in my head. What about you?

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<v Speaker 1>Ryan?

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<v Speaker 4>For me, it's actually it's a little relatable to Tanya

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<v Speaker 4>and some of the stuff we've talked about in the past.

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<v Speaker 4>Definitely body, my stomach, my skin, my body, all of that,

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<v Speaker 4>because I was, you know, chubby as a kid, and

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<v Speaker 4>I still see that kid every time I look in

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<v Speaker 4>the mirror, so that's always on my mind. I cannot

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<v Speaker 4>still cannot take off my shirt people are around. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't like doing it too. I like to please people too.

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<v Speaker 4>I like everybody to be happy. I want to make

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<v Speaker 4>sure everyone's like, are you good, do you need anything?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you okay?

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<v Speaker 4>But I actually love so It's weird because I do

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<v Speaker 4>love doing it, but at the same time, I never

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<v Speaker 4>relax because of it. Yeah, Like I could never have

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<v Speaker 4>a big wedding because of that, you know. And I

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<v Speaker 4>will never take off my shirt at my wedding for sure,

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<v Speaker 4>but most people don't.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think you're good.

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<v Speaker 4>Then if you're invited, you will not see this skin

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<v Speaker 4>at my wedding. Love yourself a little bit more today,

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<v Speaker 4>Love yourself a little bit more if you can