Speaker 1: All right, let's get to the trending report, Tanya.
Speaker 2: All right, so we're talking about Selena Gomez and the
Speaker 2: big revelation, and it is that our body is not
Speaker 2: and will not be what it was ten years ago.
Speaker 1: An early amen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think that general idea of what Selena
Speaker 2: Gomez is talking about, it flies to every single woman
Speaker 2: on the planet. So she posted these two pictures of
Speaker 2: herself on Instagram on her stories. One of the pictures
Speaker 2: was taken in twenty thirteen. She was in like this
Speaker 2: zebra print bikini, and she said, today I realized I
Speaker 2: will never look like this again. And then the next
Speaker 2: slide in her story, the following photo was taken from
Speaker 2: twenty twenty three, with the caption I'm not perfect, but
Speaker 2: I am proud to be who I am. Sometimes I
Speaker 2: forget it's okay to be me. And in the photos
Speaker 2: you can see I'm in Her body does look different,
Speaker 2: and to me, for her to post that so vulnerably
Speaker 2: was just so so cool. But also it's just this
Speaker 2: important thing that we all need to realize, because I think,
Speaker 2: especially as women, our bodies change so much as we
Speaker 2: get older, you know, like so many things happen your hormones,
Speaker 2: you have a baby, just age in general, it changes
Speaker 2: our bodies and medication, and so I think that, you know,
Speaker 2: we always kind of look back and like, oh, when
Speaker 2: I was eighteen, you know, like we all had just
Speaker 2: our bodies were different, and like we're always trying to
Speaker 2: get back to that. And after you have a baby,
Speaker 2: it's like the post getting my pre baby body back,
Speaker 2: and it's just like our bodies change, and that is
Speaker 2: what it is. And so I think sometimes accepting it
Speaker 2: and realizing it is there's so much freedom in that.
Speaker 3: It's true, that's a good lens to look through because
Speaker 3: I remember I think back to my twenties, right, and
Speaker 3: I think back to like that body, and oh yeah,
Speaker 3: you can compare the pictures. You can do the side
Speaker 3: by side like the Selina did with these two. And
Speaker 3: I was way more insecure that with that body and
Speaker 3: then those years right that I am now with this
Speaker 3: body and I and all that it went through, and
Speaker 3: it gave me my babies and it gave me like
Speaker 3: everything that I have right now. And I have so
Speaker 3: much more confidence now being a few pounds heavier than
Speaker 3: I was in my twenties, with a quote unquote better
Speaker 3: body Yeah, I don't know what it is, but it's
Speaker 3: it's so I don't know what wisdom maybe who knows?
Speaker 4: So what what would be? And we can sort of
Speaker 4: just go around the room. What would be everyone's current
Speaker 4: biggest insecurity right now? Like what would be the insecurity
Speaker 4: for you?
Speaker 1: Tanya? It doesn't be body could be any insecurity.
Speaker 2: Uh insecurity, I'd say, that's a great question.
Speaker 1: Come back to you, come back to me.
Speaker 3: I think it's not insecurity. I think it's just the
Speaker 3: unknown of trying to be a good parent. So I'm
Speaker 3: trying to navigate life and I'm trying to do the
Speaker 3: right things up for exactly, And so it's the decisions
Speaker 3: that I'm making for them. Am I picking the right schools?
Speaker 3: Am I picking the right And I'm you know, I'm
Speaker 3: making the right choices for them? And that's kind of
Speaker 3: like my insecurities, I guess.
Speaker 4: Because it's it's your it's your family, it's a legacy,
Speaker 4: is it's it's all of that.
Speaker 3: And it's also the way I'm parenting. It's I'm it's
Speaker 3: the way I react when I get frustrated. It's it's
Speaker 3: the way I come home from work one day. If
Speaker 3: I'm if I'm tired, if I'm in a bad mood,
Speaker 3: or if i'm you know, all of that reflects on
Speaker 3: my children. And then it's like if you drags out
Speaker 3: over time, like that's the person you're becoming, and then
Speaker 3: that's the person that they see and then those are
Speaker 3: the memories they're gonna have. And that's my biggest insecurity
Speaker 3: is that too much time is going to go by
Speaker 3: and then it's going to turn out that like I
Speaker 3: missed four years because I was just so like in
Speaker 3: a fog. That's that's where I'm at, well deep.
Speaker 1: And so, okay, tany did you come up with one?
Speaker 2: I think mine would be I'm a big people pleaser.
Speaker 2: What I'm realizing is.
Speaker 1: You can't please everybody all the time.
Speaker 2: And Robbie's right, right, like I'm a big people pleaser
Speaker 2: and it's like very debilitating to things that I want
Speaker 2: to do and I'm trying to get better about it.
Speaker 2: But also it's like the fear I do have this
Speaker 2: fear of like making people upset, and so it stops
Speaker 2: me from doing things.
Speaker 4: Well, okay, so and what about the guys tells, like,
Speaker 4: what's your biggest insecurity?
Speaker 1: Uh? I don't know that I really have one.
Speaker 3: Wow, what a dream to be to.
Speaker 4: You.
Speaker 1: Blessed to be you. Every morning in the mirror, I
Speaker 1: am or how about you? I mean, there's physical stuff,
Speaker 1: there's parenting stuff. There, there's it's a long list.
Speaker 2: You know what's interesting. I thought of a physical one too.
Speaker 2: I have this one tooth that's crooked, and I know
Speaker 2: nobody can notice it. But I'm very insecure, and now
Speaker 2: I start I realize that I start turning when I
Speaker 2: take pictures to the other side, and I'm like, why
Speaker 2: do I care? Nobody can tell this tooth is crooked.
Speaker 1: It's in your head.
Speaker 2: It's totally in my head. What about you?
Speaker 1: Ryan?
Speaker 4: For me, it's actually it's a little relatable to Tanya
Speaker 4: and some of the stuff we've talked about in the past.
Speaker 4: Definitely body, my stomach, my skin, my body, all of that,
Speaker 4: because I was, you know, chubby as a kid, and
Speaker 4: I still see that kid every time I look in
Speaker 4: the mirror, so that's always on my mind. I cannot
Speaker 4: still cannot take off my shirt people are around. I
Speaker 4: don't like doing it too. I like to please people too.
Speaker 4: I like everybody to be happy. I want to make
Speaker 4: sure everyone's like, are you good, do you need anything?
Speaker 1: Are you okay?
Speaker 4: But I actually love so It's weird because I do
Speaker 4: love doing it, but at the same time, I never
Speaker 4: relax because of it. Yeah, Like I could never have
Speaker 4: a big wedding because of that, you know. And I
Speaker 4: will never take off my shirt at my wedding for sure,
Speaker 4: but most people don't.
Speaker 1: So I think you're good.
Speaker 4: Then if you're invited, you will not see this skin
Speaker 4: at my wedding. Love yourself a little bit more today,
Speaker 4: Love yourself a little bit more if you can