Speaker 1: And being on social media more. To be honest, I'm
Speaker 1: coming from a place of no So just this morning
Speaker 1: is an example of what's been going on with me
Speaker 1: for a couple of years. When I was leaving The
Speaker 1: Housewives for the second time, I just didn't want to
Speaker 1: be there, and I had business manager saying, it's several
Speaker 1: million dollars for a couple of months, so you should
Speaker 1: just do that. Because your ten year endorsement deal with
Speaker 1: Skinny Girl, which I had, it was originally I think
Speaker 1: five and then it was taken to another five years.
Speaker 1: It was a seven figure deal. That's up and those
Speaker 1: two were big things, like so it was a seven
Speaker 1: figure deal and then it was like multiple millions of dollars,
Speaker 1: and I was walking away from The Housewives, and my
Speaker 1: business managers like, just do it another year, Like it's
Speaker 1: a couple you know, it's more than a couple million dollars,
Speaker 1: so just do it, And I said, no, I don't
Speaker 1: want to do it. And the reason I say all
Speaker 1: this is that that was when I was, I think
Speaker 1: starting to do a podcast or planning to do a podcast.
Speaker 1: And the podcast is very lucrative, but it's not to
Speaker 1: the same level of all of that combined, and I
Speaker 1: was having some anxiety thinking I have these different homes
Speaker 1: and my nut is bigger, and yes, I have made money,
Speaker 1: but you make that pile. And when you make a
Speaker 1: pile of money versus just income every year, you want
Speaker 1: to put that to the side and never touch the principle.
Speaker 1: That's what people are talking about when they say don't
Speaker 1: touch the principle. So I never wanted to touch the principle.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, I have these houses and
Speaker 1: these expenses, and I travel differently than I used to,
Speaker 1: and I spend differently, So am I going to be
Speaker 1: able to piece this puzzle together? It was almost like
Speaker 1: a game, like, of course I could have made less
Speaker 1: money and just lived off what I have in the interest,
Speaker 1: but I wanted to try to find a way to
Speaker 1: get back there. But I didn't want to do it
Speaker 1: in a way that didn't felt good to me. And
Speaker 1: I left Housewives because I felt gross about it. I
Speaker 1: hated the way I felt about it. I felt embarrassed
Speaker 1: by it. I didn't want to tell anybody I was
Speaker 1: doing it. I just think it's it's not writing the
Speaker 1: hand that fed you, or not knowing where you came
Speaker 1: from it's devolved into something different, and I didn't want
Speaker 1: to be there. So now I had to try to
Speaker 1: pull up my big girl panties and do things honestly
Speaker 1: with integrity that I love doing. So I just started
Speaker 1: saying no to anything that doesn't serve me and it
Speaker 1: doesn't have an ROI financially or from a philanthropic standpoint,
Speaker 1: And most importantly, I want to be with my daughter.
Speaker 1: I'm never getting that time back, and I just don't
Speaker 1: want to feel gross about what I do for a living,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to have her feel gross about
Speaker 1: what I do for a living. And I also just
Speaker 1: want the quality time. So that was the beginning of
Speaker 1: what I was thinking in my mind was like a
Speaker 1: semi retirement, meaning I'm going to just do things that
Speaker 1: are meaningful to me and I will likely make less money,
Speaker 1: but that's okay. And what I ended up happening was
Speaker 1: in being more honest and just doing things that I
Speaker 1: love and that I feel passionate about. I created this
Speaker 1: whole other business, and my brand business started to exponentially fly.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that was just energy or what
Speaker 1: it was, because I wasn't really doing anything different with
Speaker 1: Skinny Girl, But that started to exponentially fly, like one
Speaker 1: year was a two hundred and twenty percent growth. So
Speaker 1: those are all those products that I have that just
Speaker 1: that sell and do well when and make me money
Speaker 1: when I sleep. That's licensing. But then separately, the podcast
Speaker 1: became other podcasts and it started to do really well
Speaker 1: and be its own business. And then my social media
Speaker 1: hobby started to be really compelling and a way to
Speaker 1: really connect to an audience directly and not need to
Speaker 1: go pitch ideas to dinosaurs in suits in boardrooms in
Speaker 1: midtown Manhattan, and that's archaic. So it's hard if you're
Speaker 1: in that space to realize when you're on television that
Speaker 1: you're a dinosaur, because really young people consume content immediately
Speaker 1: on their phone and on their personal devices, and it's
Speaker 1: hard for people who are dinosaurs to understand that. And
Speaker 1: I was a dinosaur too, I just didn't realize until
Speaker 1: I got into it. Wait a second, direct to consumer
Speaker 1: shopping has become a massive thing, Like that's why retail
Speaker 1: was dead because big stores aren't what they used to
Speaker 1: be and people can buy everything online. Well, this is
Speaker 1: what that is in media. Social media is part of
Speaker 1: media and when I'm offered TV shows, which is often so.
Speaker 1: Just in the last six months, I was offered a
Speaker 1: TV show on dating. I was offered a TV show
Speaker 1: on business. I was offered a movie, which I did.
Speaker 1: I was offered another TV show on dating, a competition
Speaker 1: show to host something for in the food space, endless
Speaker 1: and I've said no to all of them because what
Speaker 1: happened is we get into Okay, how long do I
Speaker 1: have to go? Sometimes it's twelve days, some as it's
Speaker 1: sixteen days. Okay, what's the money, It's bogged down, it's
Speaker 1: twelve hours a day. It's the money that is completely
Speaker 1: inconsequential compared to what I could make doing things I
Speaker 1: love to do. You know, I love going to do
Speaker 1: personal appearances in different places, and that's really connecting to
Speaker 1: an audience. But to sit in a studio in some
Speaker 1: other state and get paid, which is a lot of money,
Speaker 1: I'm now spoiled. I feel like I'm like Linda Evangelista
Speaker 1: saying I won't get out of bed for a certain amount.
Speaker 1: But I won't get out of bed if it doesn't
Speaker 1: have a financial or emotional or a fun factor for
Speaker 1: britn ROI I just won't. So it's become the place
Speaker 1: of no. And this morning I was supposed to do
Speaker 1: a very big TV network interview, and I'm just so
Speaker 1: trained because I'm such a worker and used to saying
Speaker 1: yes for years to just go try to be something
Speaker 1: and get somewhere and be somebody. So I'm used to
Speaker 1: saying yes to these archaic TV interviews and they never
Speaker 1: do anything. They never move the needle, nothing ever happens.
Speaker 1: You just sort of do them because we're used to
Speaker 1: being dinosaurs that still think that, like, you know, we're
Speaker 1: gonna turn on channel two, four, seven, five and eleven
Speaker 1: which came later, and thirteen, which came later, and like
Speaker 1: that's the way that we're gonna watch TV. I don't
Speaker 1: have a turn on regular TV. I only turn on streaming.
Speaker 1: So and I look at social media a lot, and
Speaker 1: I look at YouTube a lot, which is social media.
Speaker 1: But I'm saying, like TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, So everything's changed
Speaker 1: in the way that we consume content, and you kind
Speaker 1: of have to just realize that. So for me to
Speaker 1: get on a plane and go somewhere and work for
Speaker 1: two weeks, I don't need to do it. If I
Speaker 1: want to tell you, guys, something I want to entertain you.
Speaker 1: I want to if I want to talk about business
Speaker 1: to you, food, dating, sex, politics, other people, gossip, I
Speaker 1: could do it right here. I could do it right here.
Speaker 1: I could film it, I could say it. I could
Speaker 1: post it unedited. My hair looks like a wreck. Who cares?
Speaker 1: That's that's my television show. So it's like, what the
Speaker 1: hell am I gonna bulk it up for? So this
Speaker 1: morning it was like, okay, So I'm gonna go into
Speaker 1: the city on a Friday during the summer when it's hot,
Speaker 1: my daughter's just gotten out of school two days before.
Speaker 1: I'm We're gonna be in the Hamptons on the beach.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna come back in. I'm gonna get a sweaty
Speaker 1: outfit on, I'm gonna do hair and makeup. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: sit down in a studio. I'm gonna talk about something
Speaker 1: and they're gonna air it, and then it's gonna get
Speaker 1: pick up everywhere. Well, I could sit down and talk
Speaker 1: on my channels and I can air it and it's
Speaker 1: gonna get pick up everywhere. Because when I all I
Speaker 1: did looking like a train wreck. When I talked about
Speaker 1: Chanel and the fact that I couldn't get in. There
Speaker 1: was post a bad quality video that's gotten one hundred
Speaker 1: and fifty million plus views. One hundred and fifty million
Speaker 1: plus views. What the fuck do I need to go
Speaker 1: into New York sweat, put makeup on, break out my pores.
Speaker 1: I can look here with frizzy hair like a turning
Speaker 1: back and a T shirt, or in my pajamas and
Speaker 1: say the exact same thing, and I don't have to
Speaker 1: get asked questions. I can just tell you, guys, what
Speaker 1: I think you might want to hear, and if you
Speaker 1: want to ask me a question, you can ask me
Speaker 1: in the comments, and I'll go do another video answering
Speaker 1: your question. Because you're my people. So I don't need
Speaker 1: to go do fictitious programming for fictitious people. I've got
Speaker 1: my people, and we pick up new people along the way.
Speaker 1: I used to be really eighteen to forty nine, you know,
Speaker 1: and when I got older, it was like twenty five
Speaker 1: to thirty five, thirty five to fifty five. Certain women, yes,
Speaker 1: seventy year olds like to follow me, et cetera. But
Speaker 1: now guess what, thirteen year olds My daughter's friends follow
Speaker 1: me why cause I talk about lip gloss or makeup,
Speaker 1: or because they think of me as they're crazy, and
Speaker 1: I found my own audience. I don't need anybody else,
Speaker 1: which is why it's so funny when people are like, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're writing you let you know you left, and you
Speaker 1: can't stop talking about I left television twice. I left.
Speaker 1: Andy Cohen has publicly said it. Everyone publicly said it.
Speaker 1: I left, and then I was offered another show and
Speaker 1: I left that contract. So I don't want to do it.
Speaker 1: It's the place of no era because you're in your fifties,
Speaker 1: you've worked your ass off in your twenties, thirties, forties,
Speaker 1: and fifties, and you don't want to do anything you
Speaker 1: don't want to do. You just don't. So today I
Speaker 1: was talking about the fact, you know, I did a
Speaker 1: post today saying to young girls, like, work your ass off,
Speaker 1: work your ass off in high school, in college, in
Speaker 1: your twenties and your thirties and your forties, because in
Speaker 1: your fifties you're gonna be in the zero fox era
Speaker 1: and you're gonna want to say no. And not unless
Speaker 1: you've worked your ass off and paid on the back
Speaker 1: end in many ways, will you even have the possibility
Speaker 1: of saying no of picking and choosing, because at this age,
Speaker 1: you don't do plans you don't want to do. You
Speaker 1: don't talk to people you don't want to talk to.
Speaker 1: You don't wear heels you don't want to wear. You
Speaker 1: don't wear makeup you don't want to wear. You don't
Speaker 1: meet people you don't want to meet. You don't give
Speaker 1: two fucks, so you just do what you want to do.
Speaker 1: So I've teed that up. But guess what the people
Speaker 1: who are realizing that they can be to control of
Speaker 1: their own destiny of smart ones