1 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 1: And being on social media more. To be honest, I'm 2 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: coming from a place of no So just this morning 3 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: is an example of what's been going on with me 4 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: for a couple of years. When I was leaving The 5 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 1: Housewives for the second time, I just didn't want to 6 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:36,560 Speaker 1: be there, and I had business manager saying, it's several 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: million dollars for a couple of months, so you should 8 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: just do that. Because your ten year endorsement deal with 9 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: Skinny Girl, which I had, it was originally I think 10 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:49,880 Speaker 1: five and then it was taken to another five years. 11 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 1: It was a seven figure deal. That's up and those 12 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 1: two were big things, like so it was a seven 13 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: figure deal and then it was like multiple millions of dollars, 14 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: and I was walking away from The Housewives, and my 15 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 1: business managers like, just do it another year, Like it's 16 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,040 Speaker 1: a couple you know, it's more than a couple million dollars, 17 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 1: so just do it, And I said, no, I don't 18 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:09,920 Speaker 1: want to do it. And the reason I say all 19 00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:14,559 Speaker 1: this is that that was when I was, I think 20 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: starting to do a podcast or planning to do a podcast. 21 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 1: And the podcast is very lucrative, but it's not to 22 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 1: the same level of all of that combined, and I 23 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: was having some anxiety thinking I have these different homes 24 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: and my nut is bigger, and yes, I have made money, 25 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: but you make that pile. And when you make a 26 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:38,479 Speaker 1: pile of money versus just income every year, you want 27 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: to put that to the side and never touch the principle. 28 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 1: That's what people are talking about when they say don't 29 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: touch the principle. So I never wanted to touch the principle. 30 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: And so I was like, I have these houses and 31 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: these expenses, and I travel differently than I used to, 32 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 1: and I spend differently, So am I going to be 33 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 1: able to piece this puzzle together? It was almost like 34 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: a game, like, of course I could have made less 35 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: money and just lived off what I have in the interest, 36 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: but I wanted to try to find a way to 37 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 1: get back there. But I didn't want to do it 38 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: in a way that didn't felt good to me. And 39 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: I left Housewives because I felt gross about it. I 40 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: hated the way I felt about it. I felt embarrassed 41 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: by it. I didn't want to tell anybody I was 42 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 1: doing it. I just think it's it's not writing the 43 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,679 Speaker 1: hand that fed you, or not knowing where you came 44 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: from it's devolved into something different, and I didn't want 45 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 1: to be there. So now I had to try to 46 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:29,799 Speaker 1: pull up my big girl panties and do things honestly 47 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: with integrity that I love doing. So I just started 48 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 1: saying no to anything that doesn't serve me and it 49 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: doesn't have an ROI financially or from a philanthropic standpoint, 50 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: And most importantly, I want to be with my daughter. 51 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: I'm never getting that time back, and I just don't 52 00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: want to feel gross about what I do for a living, 53 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: and I don't want to have her feel gross about 54 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 1: what I do for a living. And I also just 55 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 1: want the quality time. So that was the beginning of 56 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:56,600 Speaker 1: what I was thinking in my mind was like a 57 00:02:56,600 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: semi retirement, meaning I'm going to just do things that 58 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: are meaningful to me and I will likely make less money, 59 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 1: but that's okay. And what I ended up happening was 60 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: in being more honest and just doing things that I 61 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:13,000 Speaker 1: love and that I feel passionate about. I created this 62 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: whole other business, and my brand business started to exponentially fly. 63 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 1: I don't know if that was just energy or what 64 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:23,360 Speaker 1: it was, because I wasn't really doing anything different with 65 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 1: Skinny Girl, But that started to exponentially fly, like one 66 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 1: year was a two hundred and twenty percent growth. So 67 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 1: those are all those products that I have that just 68 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 1: that sell and do well when and make me money 69 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: when I sleep. That's licensing. But then separately, the podcast 70 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 1: became other podcasts and it started to do really well 71 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 1: and be its own business. And then my social media 72 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 1: hobby started to be really compelling and a way to 73 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: really connect to an audience directly and not need to 74 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 1: go pitch ideas to dinosaurs in suits in boardrooms in 75 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 1: midtown Manhattan, and that's archaic. So it's hard if you're 76 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 1: in that space to realize when you're on television that 77 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: you're a dinosaur, because really young people consume content immediately 78 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: on their phone and on their personal devices, and it's 79 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 1: hard for people who are dinosaurs to understand that. And 80 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:18,799 Speaker 1: I was a dinosaur too, I just didn't realize until 81 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: I got into it. Wait a second, direct to consumer 82 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 1: shopping has become a massive thing, Like that's why retail 83 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 1: was dead because big stores aren't what they used to 84 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:31,359 Speaker 1: be and people can buy everything online. Well, this is 85 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: what that is in media. Social media is part of 86 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:42,039 Speaker 1: media and when I'm offered TV shows, which is often so. 87 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:43,919 Speaker 1: Just in the last six months, I was offered a 88 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 1: TV show on dating. I was offered a TV show 89 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: on business. I was offered a movie, which I did. 90 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: I was offered another TV show on dating, a competition 91 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: show to host something for in the food space, endless 92 00:04:58,160 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: and I've said no to all of them because what 93 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 1: happened is we get into Okay, how long do I 94 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: have to go? Sometimes it's twelve days, some as it's 95 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 1: sixteen days. Okay, what's the money, It's bogged down, it's 96 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: twelve hours a day. It's the money that is completely 97 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: inconsequential compared to what I could make doing things I 98 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 1: love to do. You know, I love going to do 99 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 1: personal appearances in different places, and that's really connecting to 100 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 1: an audience. But to sit in a studio in some 101 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: other state and get paid, which is a lot of money, 102 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: I'm now spoiled. I feel like I'm like Linda Evangelista 103 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 1: saying I won't get out of bed for a certain amount. 104 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:33,559 Speaker 1: But I won't get out of bed if it doesn't 105 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: have a financial or emotional or a fun factor for 106 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:52,000 Speaker 1: britn ROI I just won't. So it's become the place 107 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:54,480 Speaker 1: of no. And this morning I was supposed to do 108 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 1: a very big TV network interview, and I'm just so 109 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 1: trained because I'm such a worker and used to saying 110 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 1: yes for years to just go try to be something 111 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: and get somewhere and be somebody. So I'm used to 112 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 1: saying yes to these archaic TV interviews and they never 113 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 1: do anything. They never move the needle, nothing ever happens. 114 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:16,159 Speaker 1: You just sort of do them because we're used to 115 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: being dinosaurs that still think that, like, you know, we're 116 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 1: gonna turn on channel two, four, seven, five and eleven 117 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:25,599 Speaker 1: which came later, and thirteen, which came later, and like 118 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 1: that's the way that we're gonna watch TV. I don't 119 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:29,839 Speaker 1: have a turn on regular TV. I only turn on streaming. 120 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:33,600 Speaker 1: So and I look at social media a lot, and 121 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: I look at YouTube a lot, which is social media. 122 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 1: But I'm saying, like TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, So everything's changed 123 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: in the way that we consume content, and you kind 124 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:45,479 Speaker 1: of have to just realize that. So for me to 125 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 1: get on a plane and go somewhere and work for 126 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: two weeks, I don't need to do it. If I 127 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:52,359 Speaker 1: want to tell you, guys, something I want to entertain you. 128 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:54,279 Speaker 1: I want to if I want to talk about business 129 00:06:54,320 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: to you, food, dating, sex, politics, other people, gossip, I 130 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 1: could do it right here. I could do it right here. 131 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:06,120 Speaker 1: I could film it, I could say it. I could 132 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: post it unedited. My hair looks like a wreck. Who cares? 133 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: That's that's my television show. So it's like, what the 134 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: hell am I gonna bulk it up for? So this 135 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:18,240 Speaker 1: morning it was like, okay, So I'm gonna go into 136 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: the city on a Friday during the summer when it's hot, 137 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 1: my daughter's just gotten out of school two days before. 138 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 1: I'm We're gonna be in the Hamptons on the beach. 139 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 1: I'm gonna come back in. I'm gonna get a sweaty 140 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: outfit on, I'm gonna do hair and makeup. I'm gonna 141 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: sit down in a studio. I'm gonna talk about something 142 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: and they're gonna air it, and then it's gonna get 143 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 1: pick up everywhere. Well, I could sit down and talk 144 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: on my channels and I can air it and it's 145 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 1: gonna get pick up everywhere. Because when I all I 146 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: did looking like a train wreck. When I talked about 147 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: Chanel and the fact that I couldn't get in. There 148 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: was post a bad quality video that's gotten one hundred 149 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: and fifty million plus views. One hundred and fifty million 150 00:07:57,400 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 1: plus views. What the fuck do I need to go 151 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: into New York sweat, put makeup on, break out my pores. 152 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 1: I can look here with frizzy hair like a turning 153 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: back and a T shirt, or in my pajamas and 154 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,320 Speaker 1: say the exact same thing, and I don't have to 155 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 1: get asked questions. I can just tell you, guys, what 156 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: I think you might want to hear, and if you 157 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 1: want to ask me a question, you can ask me 158 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 1: in the comments, and I'll go do another video answering 159 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 1: your question. Because you're my people. So I don't need 160 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: to go do fictitious programming for fictitious people. I've got 161 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 1: my people, and we pick up new people along the way. 162 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: I used to be really eighteen to forty nine, you know, 163 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: and when I got older, it was like twenty five 164 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:35,199 Speaker 1: to thirty five, thirty five to fifty five. Certain women, yes, 165 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: seventy year olds like to follow me, et cetera. But 166 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 1: now guess what, thirteen year olds My daughter's friends follow 167 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: me why cause I talk about lip gloss or makeup, 168 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 1: or because they think of me as they're crazy, and 169 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: I found my own audience. I don't need anybody else, 170 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 1: which is why it's so funny when people are like, well, yeah, 171 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 1: you're writing you let you know you left, and you 172 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: can't stop talking about I left television twice. I left. 173 00:08:57,200 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: Andy Cohen has publicly said it. Everyone publicly said it. 174 00:08:59,480 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: I left, and then I was offered another show and 175 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: I left that contract. So I don't want to do it. 176 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: It's the place of no era because you're in your fifties, 177 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 1: you've worked your ass off in your twenties, thirties, forties, 178 00:09:13,679 --> 00:09:15,599 Speaker 1: and fifties, and you don't want to do anything you 179 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: don't want to do. You just don't. So today I 180 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: was talking about the fact, you know, I did a 181 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 1: post today saying to young girls, like, work your ass off, 182 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 1: work your ass off in high school, in college, in 183 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:31,320 Speaker 1: your twenties and your thirties and your forties, because in 184 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 1: your fifties you're gonna be in the zero fox era 185 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 1: and you're gonna want to say no. And not unless 186 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: you've worked your ass off and paid on the back 187 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:42,839 Speaker 1: end in many ways, will you even have the possibility 188 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: of saying no of picking and choosing, because at this age, 189 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:47,439 Speaker 1: you don't do plans you don't want to do. You 190 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: don't talk to people you don't want to talk to. 191 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: You don't wear heels you don't want to wear. You 192 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 1: don't wear makeup you don't want to wear. You don't 193 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 1: meet people you don't want to meet. You don't give 194 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:57,319 Speaker 1: two fucks, so you just do what you want to do. 195 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:01,320 Speaker 1: So I've teed that up. But guess what the people 196 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 1: who are realizing that they can be to control of 197 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: their own destiny of smart ones