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Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey fam Today on the bright Side, we're

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Speaker 1: popping off on the biggest pop culture moments of the

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Speaker 1: week and digging into a few age old relationship questions

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Speaker 1: like whether your boos should be your best friend and

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Speaker 1: what the experts have to say about sharing finances. Plus,

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Speaker 1: in honor of their fiftieth anniversary, we're revisiting some of

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Speaker 1: Saturday Night Live's most iconic oneliners.

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Speaker 2: Sweat a Weather, one cow Bell. It's Friday, February fourteenth.

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Speaker 1: I'm Simone Boyce, I'm Danielle Robe and this is the

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Speaker 1: bright Side from Hello Sunshine, Hello, Hello, Hello, Happy Friday

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Speaker 1: and Happy Valentine's Day to all of our busties. We're

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Speaker 1: sending you cupcakes and chocolate and love today. Consider this

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Speaker 1: your official reminder that you are truly adored.

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Speaker 3: Yes, you deserve love in all its forms.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Today we're popping off and talking about the biggest

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Speaker 2: pop culture moments of the week, and because love is

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Speaker 2: in the air, expect some hot takes. Joining us is

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Speaker 2: everyone's favorite showrunner, Emmy Award winning producer and bright Side bestie,

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Speaker 2: Tim Palazzola.

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Speaker 3: Welcome back, Tim, Hi, Tim, Yay.

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Speaker 4: Happy Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 5: Everybody, Danielle, I want to I want to thank you

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Speaker 5: for those delicious gummy bears that you brought in honor

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Speaker 5: Valentine's Day into the office earlier this week.

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Speaker 6: That thing says love like her rebos.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for that. They are gone, so I will

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Speaker 4: be requesting some new ones. Very surely.

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Speaker 6: They went Valentine's Day space, They're gone forever.

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Speaker 4: To they went very fast.

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Speaker 5: I also want to thank both of you because last

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Speaker 5: week's popping off you inspired me to do something that

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Speaker 5: was a long time in the making, something that I

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Speaker 5: should have done much much sooner.

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Speaker 6: What are you about to say.

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Speaker 4: I washed my sheets?

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Speaker 5: Huh?

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. How long has it been the animal?

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Speaker 5: I don't know too long based on the conversation had

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Speaker 5: last week. It was too long. The sheets, the bedspread, everything.

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Speaker 5: So everything was happy for you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm more happy for Brian.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 6: How about your jeans and your pillows.

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Speaker 4: Jeans, pillows, everything's been washed.

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Speaker 5: And I also was I was stuck on is it

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Speaker 5: okay for the dog to sleep in the bed? And

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Speaker 5: I did a little research and it turns out the

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Speaker 5: experts are mixed. A lot of people say it's really

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Speaker 5: great cuddling with dogs releases oxytocin, which is a benefit,

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Speaker 5: but they also say they can bring bacteria into your bed.

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Speaker 5: So my dog stays in the bed, but I'll be

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Speaker 5: continuing to wipe down his paws before he jumps.

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Speaker 1: I feel like this is a major turning point. And

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Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day, congrats.

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Speaker 2: We're changing lives here on the bright side, Yes, we

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Speaker 2: did it. It is time to pop off, and in

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Speaker 2: honor of Valentine's Day, I would like to start by

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Speaker 2: celebrating something we all love. For the first time ever,

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Speaker 2: women in leading roles have reached full parody with men

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Speaker 2: at the box office.

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Speaker 3: This is so huge.

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Speaker 2: According to the Center for the Study of Women in

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Speaker 2: Film and Television, forty two percent of the year's top

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Speaker 2: one hundred grossing films featured women protagonists, and for the

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Speaker 2: first year ever, that is the exact same percentage as

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Speaker 2: male protagonists. So for anyone wondering why we talk about

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Speaker 2: these things so often, why we talk about gender parity

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Speaker 2: and representation, this is exactly why. This is the progress

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Speaker 2: that we have needed to see. And usc also just

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Speaker 2: released some data on women in film. Their Annenberg Inclusion

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Speaker 2: Initiative has been studying representation in films since two thousand

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Speaker 2: and seven, and this year they actually measured an all

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Speaker 2: time high in girls and women as protagonists in the

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Speaker 2: biggest films of the year. They found that fifty four

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Speaker 2: a female lead or co lead. And also both studies

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Speaker 2: pointed to one of our bright side favorites, The Substance,

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Speaker 2: as an especially impactful film for its inclusion of a

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Speaker 5: I wouldn say I am both so incredibly thrilled to

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Speaker 5: same time. Right, I cannot believe it is twenty twenty

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Speaker 5: five and we are finally reaching a sense of equality

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Speaker 5: for women. But I think beyond the science of it,

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Speaker 5: I think anecdotally we're also seeing not just that women

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Speaker 5: the performances that the women gave this year are extraordinary.

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Speaker 4: They're the ones that we have been talking about all year.

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Speaker 5: You mentioned The Substance, We cannot stop talking about Ariana

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Speaker 5: Grande and Cynthia Reevo, Amy Adams and Knight Bitch, Nicole

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Speaker 4: The list goes on and on.

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Speaker 5: It's not just that women were acting in these films,

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Speaker 2: They were lucrative films, which is that is the key

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Speaker 2: that's been the missing piece. We need people to show

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Speaker 2: up for these in the same way that we need

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Speaker 2: people to show up for women's sports, because that means

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Speaker 1: Every time there's a successful female led film or TV show,

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Speaker 1: it proves to these studios that success for female led

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Speaker 1: shows are undeniable. What's so interesting to me is that

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Speaker 1: the majority of moviegoers are women, Like women make up

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Speaker 1: the demo. And I took this great class in college.

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Speaker 1: It was like a children and TV criticism class, and

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Speaker 1: I learned that people identify most with people who look

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Speaker 1: OC growing up, and I loved Rachel Bilson's character, I

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Speaker 1: wasn't really Misha Barton fan as much. And I realized,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, that's because I look more like Rachel Bilson.

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Speaker 1: It's just so it's such a natural instinct. And so

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Speaker 1: I bring that up to say that this is really

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Speaker 1: important because we consume TV movies so often throughout our

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Speaker 6: So I can't wait for this to continue to trend upwards.

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Speaker 5: Absolutely more women in films and someone what you're saying

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Speaker 4: Important part of the term show business.

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Speaker 5: So when we continue to see women led films dominate

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Speaker 5: to see more studios double down on that, and that's

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Speaker 5: really where the power is going to be. So I

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Speaker 5: encourage everyone, it's Valentine's Day weekend, go see a film that.

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Speaker 4: Is led by a female protagonist.

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Speaker 5: That's my PSA, that's my Valentine's PSA.

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Speaker 1: Well, I have a Valentine'sday question for you, okay, and

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Speaker 1: it's sort of this classic relationship debate should your romantic

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Speaker 1: this New York Times article that I read, I just

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Speaker 2: I don't do quick yes or nos. My answer are

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Speaker 2: okay all the rules. I just think this is like

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Speaker 2: I think there's some nuance here. I think sometimes your

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Speaker 4: That's really interesting. That's really interesting.

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Speaker 5: I having been in a relationship for a very long time,

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Speaker 5: I know that there are going to be ups and downs,

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Speaker 5: really important in that formula.

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Speaker 1: So The New York Times tackled this idea, and no surprise, opinions,

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Speaker 1: just like yours, we're all over the place. Some psychologists

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Speaker 1: say it's a modern idea that can bring couples closer,

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Speaker 1: and some say it sets them up for failure. So

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Speaker 1: they got some reactions from readers. One woman interviewed said

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Speaker 1: she and her husband's friendship is the key to their

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Speaker 1: successful relationship, just kind of like what you said, Tim,

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Speaker 1: And then another woman gushed about her husband, calling him

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Speaker 6: Character, and very much not her best friend.

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Speaker 1: So more in line with what you said, Simone, she said,

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Speaker 1: I don't have sex with my friends, I don't pay

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Speaker 1: it would change the whole dynamic of the relationship preach.

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm more on Tim's side with this. Any

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Speaker 1: like good relationship I've had was rooted in friendship.

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Speaker 6: In friendship, but I'm also not married, so.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no.

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Speaker 5: Well, the thing that I think is interesting about this

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Speaker 1: Exactly, Like it's a very modern ideal to want your

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Speaker 6: You're one and only, and it's a lot of pressure.

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Speaker 4: It's a lot of pressure.

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Speaker 5: I will say that is the biggest thing that I

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Speaker 6: So this is very personal, But what did you decide

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Speaker 5: I'll be so candid and I love him very very much,

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Speaker 5: but you know, Brian is not the emotional support. There

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Speaker 5: are a lot of fundamental things that we get from

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Speaker 5: But I if I need emotional support or I need

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Speaker 5: to talk about feelings. I outsource that to other people, yes,

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Speaker 5: And it was a really challenging thing for a while

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Speaker 5: I'll just outsource it. He doesn't have to he doesn't

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Speaker 5: have to be all of those things. I can get

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Speaker 5: that from so many other people in my life. He

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Speaker 5: doesn't have to be the one to provide that for

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Speaker 1: So I dated somebody who was I think there's different

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Speaker 1: And that was like they're so smart, but they weren't

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Speaker 1: intellectual in the sense that I was used to, which

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Speaker 1: was like, how do you decide what you need versus

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Speaker 1: what you want? Because sure my mom is a very

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Speaker 1: smart person. She's a CPA, Like she's really smart, but

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Speaker 1: she's not really having a conversation with my dad about politics.

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Speaker 1: And my dad is so politically inclined, and he was like,

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Speaker 1: what do you think I need to discuss politics with

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Speaker 1: your mother?

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Speaker 4: For?

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Speaker 1: Like I could just go read myself or talk to

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Speaker 1: a friend. You can't have everything in one person. But

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Speaker 1: I struggle with determining what I need from a partner

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Speaker 1: versus what I want.

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Speaker 4: That is the ultimate, the ultimate question.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if there's a perfect sort of mathematical.

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Speaker 6: Equation to it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, there's something about thinking about a relationship as just alchemy.

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Speaker 1: About this, So I think it really depends on your

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Speaker 5: I couldn't agree more with that. We do not combine

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Speaker 5: It gets dicey. So a lot of what we have

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Speaker 2: Well, I think that's culturally that that applies to a

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Speaker 1: Well, a Valentine's Day gift to all of us is

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Speaker 1: that Saturday Night Live is celebrating its fiftieth anniversary this Sunday.

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Speaker 1: So the list of a listers was just announced, and

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Speaker 1: few of them, and I know you guys are both

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Speaker 1: comedy fans. I want to see if you can figure

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Speaker 1: out who performed them and what sketch I'm talking about.

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Speaker 4: Oh my, well, I love this, Yeah, yeah, yeah, this

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Speaker 4: is great.

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Speaker 6: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I also want to give you a fair warning that

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Speaker 1: I do bad impressions.

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Speaker 6: So I will not be impersonating these people.

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Speaker 3: No, please, bad impressions welcome.

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Speaker 4: Yes.

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Speaker 1: The first one is we are too wild and crazy, guys.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, that's like vintage, right.

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Speaker 6: Who do you think performed it?

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Speaker 5: I'm pretty certain Steve Martin was involved, and there's someone

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Speaker 5: else and I don't know. I don't know who the

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Speaker 5: other person is, Simone.

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Speaker 4: Do you know this one?

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Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna get this wrong. This isn't Hans

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Speaker 2: and Franz.

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Speaker 4: Right, No, that was a pomp.

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Speaker 1: You up.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Okay, yeah, this was from the seventies. This is

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Speaker 5: like Steve, This is like og this is Steve Martin.

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Speaker 5: And they were always wearing these like leisure suits. They

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Speaker 5: would come in with like polyester.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I think Tim's right. I'm gonna go with Tim's answer.

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Speaker 5: Danielle, do you know off the top of your head,

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Speaker 5: I know we don't have just so everyone knows at home,

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Speaker 5: we don't have the answers in front of us. Our

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Speaker 5: producer Amy is going to reveal them for us, so

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Speaker 5: it's not in front of us.

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Speaker 4: Do you know who it is?

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Speaker 6: I have no idea. Okay, now that I am.

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Speaker 1: Seeing the answer, you were right, Tim, It was Steve

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Speaker 1: Martin and dan Ackroyd in nineteen seventy seven.

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Speaker 3: Dan Ackroyd, dan Akrol.

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Speaker 4: Oh, my god, amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, here's another saying sweat a weather sw wether.

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Speaker 3: Oh, of course, Amy pull or my Roudolph.

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Speaker 4: One of my faves.

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Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, two thousand and seven, iconic.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 6: The next one is diet starts Monday.

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Speaker 2: I know the phrase, but I don't. I didn't even

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Speaker 2: know this came from us and l me neither.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I know this sketch.

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Speaker 5: This feels like this would be This one sounds outrageous

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Speaker 5: to me. This one feels like it would be someone

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Speaker 5: trolling something.

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Speaker 4: Is this the nineties?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 4: Is this is this Chris Farley?

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Speaker 3: Is this it is job?

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Speaker 6: You're so good tim Yes it's Chris Farley.

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Speaker 1: He said it in one of the Gap girls at

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Speaker 1: the sweet Court suches. Yes, okay, I have one more guys.

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Speaker 4: That was that was ridiculous.

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Speaker 5: And I will say from that sketch in particular, they're

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Speaker 5: all sitting around. It's Chris Farley and David Spade and

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Speaker 5: they're dressed as like Gap. They they work at the

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Speaker 5: Gap and they're like sitting around the mall food court

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Speaker 5: and they're all sitting around, and obviously Chris Farley is

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Speaker 5: a little overweight, and he's kind saying like it starts Monday,

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Speaker 5: and he reaches for some fries and David Spade goes

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Speaker 5: to like swat his hand away, and Chris Farley responds.

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Speaker 4: With, layoff me, I'm hungry or something like that.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, is that what you sound like when you're hungry.

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Speaker 5: To him, channeling myself. That is me, layoff me, I'm starving.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, the last one is more cow Bell who

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Speaker 1: said that, oh.

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Speaker 4: Will Ferrell iconic, iconic, iconic, iconic.

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Speaker 6: Okay, guys, I didn't know one of these.

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Speaker 4: Really, No, are you a big SNL person? Do you

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Speaker 4: watch the show where you're just not one of those

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Speaker 4: people that like can recall quotes?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 3: Both?

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Speaker 1: I like watched SNL sparingly and I can never recall

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Speaker 1: quotes like that from TV and film.

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Speaker 6: It's so hard for me.

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Speaker 5: Some of these are so incredibly iconic and this is

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Speaker 5: just obviously scratching the service. We think of some of

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Speaker 5: the most amazing sketches that have been turned into movies

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Speaker 5: like Wayne's World, Blues Brothers, Knight of the Roxbury, Marrin,

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Speaker 5: Catherine Gallagh, you know, the list goes, yeah, on and.

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Speaker 4: On, right.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's so hard to put fifty years of these

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Speaker 1: sketches together and to celebrate.

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Speaker 6: I'm really curious to see what they do.

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Speaker 5: And not just the sketches, but you think about the

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Speaker 5: musical acts that have been on. What an incredible show

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Speaker 5: that obviously we all can relate to certain eras of

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Speaker 5: this show in some way or another. I think my

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Speaker 5: parents obviously really to like I think my parents will

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Speaker 5: be mortified to go you guys stumbled on wild and

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Speaker 5: crazy guys. I'm sure they said stuff like that all

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Speaker 5: the time, where we're so used to being like party

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Speaker 5: on Way and party on God, you know, so in

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Speaker 5: a way we just go through life.

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Speaker 4: I can't wait to see what they're going to do.

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Speaker 5: It really has been cutting edge in so many different

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Speaker 5: ways in terms of comedy. They take on politics in

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Speaker 5: such a smart way. I'll never forget Tina Fey doing

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Speaker 5: Sarah Palin during that whole Oh yeah.

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Speaker 6: Their political sketches are.

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Speaker 4: So good, so smart. So I'm super excited to see

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Speaker 4: what they do this weekend.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely yes, I cannot wait. Well, this was a blast.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Tim for coming on. We love you.

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Speaker 4: I love you too. Happy Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 1: We love you, Happy V Day everybody. Tim Pallazola is

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Speaker 1: our bright Side bestie and showrunner and an Emmy winning producer.

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Speaker 3: That's it for Today Show.

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Speaker 2: On Monday, We're kicking off the week with actor and

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Speaker 2: producer Tika Sumter. We're going to find out how she's

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Speaker 2: leveling up content in the children's audio space with her

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Speaker 2: podcast Adventures of Curiosity.

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Speaker 1: Cove listen and follow The bright Side on the iHeartRadio app,

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Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The bright

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Speaker 1: Side is a production of Hello Sunshine and iHeart Podcasts

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Speaker 1: and is executive produced by Reese Witherspoon.

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Speaker 3: Production by Arcana Audio.

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Speaker 2: Our producers are Jessica wenk Amy Padula and Laura Neukom.

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Speaker 3: Our senior producers It's Ahintaniya. Our engineer is PJ.

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Speaker 2: Shahamat additional mixing help from Zack Schmidt.

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Speaker 1: Arcana's executive producers are Francis Harlowe and Abby Ruzika. Arcana's

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Speaker 1: head of production is Matt Schultz.

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Speaker 2: Natalie Tulluck and Maureen Polo are the executive producers for

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Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine.

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Speaker 1: Julia Weaver is the supervising producer, and Ali Perry is

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Speaker 1: the executive producer for iHeart podcast. Tim Palazzola is our showrunner.

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Speaker 1: This week's episodes were recorded by Graham Gibson and Joel Morales.

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Speaker 2: Our theme song is by Anna Stump and Hamilton Lighthouser.

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Speaker 6: Special thanks to Connell Byrne and Will Pearson.

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Speaker 2: I'm Simone Boyce. You can find me at Simone Boyce

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Speaker 2: on Instagram and TikTok.

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Speaker 6: And I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok. That's ro Bay.

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Speaker 3: We'll see you Monday, y'all. Keep looking on the bright side,