WEBVTT - Capri Energy 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:04.480 Scrubbing In with Italy and Tanya Rad and iHeartRadio and 0:00:04.600 --> 0:00:07.600 two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. 0:00:10.600 --> 0:00:16.799 Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. You heard that right, 0:00:16.920 --> 0:00:22.120 Tanya Rad is back from Italy. She's tan. 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:25.560 Oh oh, oh we're good. 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:32.239 Oh she's tan. I am. She's a tan line, an 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:34.080 actual natural tama that. 0:00:34.080 --> 0:00:39.000 Is not fake tan, that is real sun kiss. Wow, 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:41.400 thank you. I don't think I've had a real tam 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:46.320 line since I was like fifteen. Welcome back, Thank you 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:47.000 so much. Happy to be. 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:49.400 I feel like you're a college era self would have 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:51.960 had some tan line. She was pretty wild and reckless, 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:54.440 she was. She was in the tanning bed. Yeah right, yeah, 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:56.840 quite often. You had a playboy bunny little. 0:00:56.960 --> 0:01:00.240 Yes, I have the little hearts on my crotch area. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:04.720 Yeah, gry days. Someone someone might say, how are you 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:06.119 feeling well? Are you jetlagged? 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:09.520 Yeah? I feel like absolute garbage right now. Okay, but 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:11.440 we're here, we're scrubbing and we're living. 0:01:12.840 --> 0:01:16.839 Honestly, but I was gonna say, it felt so good 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:18.520 to see you living. 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:24.240 I don't even think I realized like how dark of 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:26.080 a place I was in until I was like on 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:28.440 a vacation. Yeah, I'm gonna like cry. 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:31.959 No, I feel you need a release because it really 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:37.120 you could. I felt it through the screen on my phone. Really. Yes. 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:39.920 Yeah, I don't think I realized it until I was 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:43.320 like there, and I'm just so happy and so thankful 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:46.080 that we like went and we did it and we 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:48.000 like did it and made it happen. 0:01:48.120 --> 0:01:48.600 Yeah. 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:51.520 Well, because like a week before you were leaving, you 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:53.040 didn't even know where you were going. 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:56.440 Because I also, like I had I just it's so 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:58.840 hard to plan because I hadn't gotten my period, and 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:00.280 I just I didn't know. And then I got my 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:03.680 period and I was like literally, when I tell you, 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:06.200 I was on so much progesterone that I was like 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:10.280 psychotic between my birthday and and then before I left 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:14.760 for this trip, like I was so dark, and we 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:19.280 were just like let's go. We literally planned in four days. 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:26.160 Shout out to Cinemascal because we booked. I don't even 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:30.680 know how we did it, but we did. And it 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:33.240 was honestly, I want to say, it was like life changing. 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:34.960 Like I feel like I'm a different person now than 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:36.600 I was like ten days ago. 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:40.480 Yeah, it looked amazing. Yeah, Well what where Okay? For 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:41.239 where did you go? 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:45.920 So we went to Capri cap not Capri, It's Kapi. 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:49.720 Okay, we can I think we're just dumb Americans again. 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:52.440 Yeah, I know, I say Capri, but and we say 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:56.720 there the whole time. And we had seven days. So 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:58.680 we left on a Saturday, came back on a Saturday, 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:04.520 and we I ate croissants for breakfasts, I ate pasta 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:09.800 for lunch, I ate pizza for dinner. I had gelato 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:13.600 for dessert. I drank spritzes every day all day. I 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:15.760 was just like living. 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:21.000 See to me, that's tender Tanya. 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:20.720 Doing all that. 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:25.040 Yeah, really yeah, because you're just eating and doing what 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:26.680 you want. You're not overthinking anything. 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:28.960 No, But that's what I don't think I realized is like, 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:34.280 for the last at least twelve maybe eleven months, I 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:38.040 have been so focused on everything that I eat, keeping 0:03:38.040 --> 0:03:41.800 my feet warm, taking my pills, eating specifically for like 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:45.760 the two week wait, counting my this, counting my that. 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:49.320 Like I've been so preoccupied with all of it that 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:53.240 I just haven't really been like living my life in 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:56.720 the present, which is likes so crazy, right, But also 0:03:56.760 --> 0:04:00.080 I don't regret doing that because I'm like it's something 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:01.720 that I want so much, So why wouldn't I give 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:03.520 it my own? And like, hm hmm, that's just the 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.560 type of person that I am. But I think what 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:08.640 I realized being like on vacation and just like taking 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:10.160 a step back from it is I feel like these 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:12.520 two things can exist at the same time. Like I 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.400 can still want something really bad and try the best 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:17.720 that I can, but also still like live my life 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:18.520 and be in the present. 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:22.640 Yeah, I mean I think that I haven't been right. Yeah, 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:27.719 Well I'm glad. I mean, I'm glad this trip gave 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:31.760 you that perspective. Yeah, because it's I think it's easy 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:35.440 to see someone it's hard to realize it when you're 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:39.320 in it, but as your friend watching, you know, I 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:43.120 could tell I was like she needed this just like release, yeah, 0:04:43.120 --> 0:04:46.040 of not having to overthink everything she was doing and 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:47.800 just being able to go and be. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:51.120 Yeah, Like if I wasn't in the like I would 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:53.560 have been so stressed out about my circadian rhythm being 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:55.800 like off and like do you know what I mean, 0:04:56.000 --> 0:05:00.960 Like every little thing it's it's it's so it's such 0:05:01.040 --> 0:05:04.120 a mental like it really truly is, because it's like 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:06.320 you're living your life, but you're so preoccupied with something 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.680 else going on in the background and you don't realize 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.480 it until it just like smacks you in the face. 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:15.960 So what y'all do aside from eating carbs? 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:21.119 Yeah, we played a lot of cards. I swam every 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:23.960 single day, Like I swam like a mermaid, Like I 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:28.360 was like one with the sea. Yeah, And we played 0:05:28.360 --> 0:05:32.240 cards every day. We walked around a ton. We we 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:33.760 did like a boat day so we could just like 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:35.640 go and explore and like see things. 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:37.680 What was your favorite thing that y'all did. 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:43.120 I feel like the food. I just feel like the 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.279 food was like so nice and just like the quality 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:47.080 time too, you know what I mean, Like it was 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:50.320 just us. I felt like we haven't been that care 0:05:50.440 --> 0:05:53.080 free and like I don't know, I just I feel 0:05:53.080 --> 0:05:54.680 like I'm also just like more in love with him too. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:56.880 Like I had some deep conversations with him over the trip. 0:05:56.920 --> 0:06:00.479 I was like, I think if he wasn't my partner, 0:06:00.560 --> 0:06:02.279 I think I could have gone on like a really 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:06.119 really deep dark path after January. Yeah, And I feel 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:08.000 like because he is the way that he is like 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:11.920 made me not go down that dark path. And I'm 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:13.800 just like so grateful to have a partner that like 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.960 has a happy go lucky spirit about him, because I 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:20.360 think if he was like me, it would have been 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:21.159 really bad for me. 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:25.160 Yeah. I think it's a true testament of who you 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:29.160 choose as your partner, who you go through. I mean 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:31.480 this is the you know, in sickness and in health, 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:35.360 and not that you're sick, but I'm saying, like, you know, 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:37.880 the hard times, the highs, the lows, all the things. 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.320 How the person that you're choosing is going to show 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:40.760 up for you. 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:45.000 Yeah. But it was like so cute. We met this 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:49.320 couple out to dinner that they'd been married for like 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:54.000 forty plus years and her husband had two boys when 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:56.800 they got married of six boys total. 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:57.839 Now, oh my god. 0:06:58.200 --> 0:07:00.359 We like went through and got like their whole history 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.599 and their whole story, and like I changed phone numbers 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:05.760 with her and she's like coming to l A in 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:06.640 a couple of months. 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:07.440 Where were they from? 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:08.360 New York? Oh? 0:07:08.400 --> 0:07:08.679 Fun? 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:10.480 Yeah, And like we just like met a lot of 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:14.440 like really interesting, fun people and yeah, it. 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:18.400 Was just did Robbie like having someone cook for him? 0:07:18.760 --> 0:07:20.920 Did you get to enjoy just like eating food? 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:22.920 Yeah? It was cute because he's like, I'll learn how 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:24.600 to make that I make that for you when we 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:25.800 get home, Like okay, but. 0:07:25.960 --> 0:07:27.520 I know, I feel like I'm we're gonna see a 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:32.640 lot of Italy inspired dishes coming up. Ye yeah, yeah, no, 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:35.040 I'm I'm just so happy I'll got to go and 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:37.720 have a trip like that and just you know. 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:44.520 V D and I think, like I'm such like a 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:46.080 like in my mind, I was like, let's just do 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:50.160 something that's super easy, one quick flight, something easy that 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:53.200 we know, and Robbie was like, no, like let's like 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:55.520 do it. Let's really like do it. And I'm so 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:57.480 glad that he pushed me to do it because even 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:01.520 though it was a treck, like we figured out how 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:03.560 to like do it all on our points and like 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:05.760 I don't know, like we we just did it. Yeah, 0:08:05.800 --> 0:08:06.880 I'm so glad. 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:10.080 That we did. Yeah. So that's like a lesson. 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:10.960 It is a lesson. 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:15.920 Well, there's times where sometimes doing something that's comfortable is 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:17.840 maybe the best choice if you don't have capacity. But 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:22.160 it's like you won't regret doing something. I mean, especially 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:24.880 when it involves Italy, you won't regret it. 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:27.320 I've never been I've never been to Italy. This is 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:28.640 like my first time and so. 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:30.720 It's never been I've been to Italy like in the winter. 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:33.480 I've never been in the summer. It looked amazing. 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:36.560 It's just chal it's like just so and everybody's like 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:37.280 so kind. 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:41.880 So where are you at now? Coming back? 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:46.200 Well, I definitely feel like weird. I just feel like 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:51.480 jet lagged and like luki yah. Yeah, but I feel 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:53.400 like I need to just live my life a little 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:56.280 bit more. So I'm gonna try and like meet in 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:56.720 the middle. 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:01.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Is there a world where you're just 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:06.760 living and having sex with your husband and not overthinking 0:09:06.800 --> 0:09:07.240 about it? 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:11.480 You know. It's just like something that society does as 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:13.720 a woman as you get older. They just like make 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:15.719 you feel like you're running out of time and they 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:17.800 just like show you these statistics and so like me, 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:21.160 I'm such like a person that takes on those statistics 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:25.599 that I like really truly like I hold on to 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:29.960 them and and so it's like it's this fear based thing, 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:31.800 you know what I mean. And so I'm like, well, 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:36.480 I don't want to regret not doing all the things. 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:39.200 You know. It's just like this weird balance. 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:42.360 Yeah. I think there's so much information out there and 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:45.040 I always go back to like our parents and how 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:47.800 there was none of this information. It was very just 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:51.080 you had sex when you thought you were gonna have sex, 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:53.920 and then you'd get pregnant and they were smoking SIGs 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:56.839 doing all the things, you know. And I think now, 0:09:56.960 --> 0:10:01.040 especially with social media, you're inundated with so much information 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:03.400 and if you're someone like you who like read something 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:04.880 and then that's facts to you. 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:08.400 Oh, that's really hard to you can't even I don't 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:10.200 even want you to know how many times how many 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:13.040 Instagram things I've sent Robbie about like things that he 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:15.480 should be eating, and like he's like, if you send 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.520 me one more Instagram post about uh, not putting a 0:10:18.600 --> 0:10:22.560 laptop on my lap, I'll freak out. 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:29.360 He's like, I know, Like, Okay, God bless that man. Truly. Yeah, 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:32.680 we Ali came in and filled in for you while 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:34.880 you were gone, and we had a really good conversation 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:38.480 about her journey of getting pregnant and pregnancy and then 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:41.120 you know, postpartum and all that. And it was the 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:44.400 same kind of thing of her postpartum journey was there 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:47.560 was a lot of trying to have control over something 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:50.000 and like making sure she was doing everything right, and 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:52.720 that was kind of part of the spiral. And so 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:56.040 I think it is kind of being able to separate 0:10:56.240 --> 0:11:00.000 social media and not getting obsessive about seeing those things 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:01.640 and not taking them in. 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:03.680 Yeah, because you're like, you see these things, so you're like, 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:06.520 why would I not want to give myself the best odds? 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:09.280 But every chance so different? Like to think about the 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:12.079 different bodies and how all of our bodies work so differently, 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:15.000 and how some people can process gluten and some people 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:16.400 can some people can have dairy. 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:18.840 I have friends that are thirty eight and got pregnant 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:21.439 right away, you know, and like they say it like 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:24.200 after thirty five, it really goes down, and like you 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:25.640 know what I mean, I take all that stuff and 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:27.840 I really like take it in right. But the other 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:29.680 thing that I've also like learned so much throughout this 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:33.320 process is like your brain and your ovaries are like 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:35.480 in direct communication. Yeah. 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:38.000 I mean they say if you're stressed or you're not 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:41.600 your bodies your body's not gonna want to house yeah 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.520 and grow a child when it's in a state of 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:45.400 fight or flight. 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:46.319 Yeah. 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:49.320 So maybe it's like getting the brick and just not 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:57.200 doom scrolling, separating yourself from seeing too much information yeah, tough. 0:11:57.559 --> 0:11:59.320 Did you say off social media when you were like, 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:00.959 did you find your self not on as much? 0:12:01.120 --> 0:12:03.480 Yeah? I wasn't on. I was posting a lot, but 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:06.480 I wasn't like engaging and scrolling. Yeah no, and it 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:07.400 wasn't really scrolling. 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:09.040 I do think it makes a difference. 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:12.240 Yeah, so your mindset, it does, because my mindset was 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:15.120 on fuego yeah week. 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.360 Yeah, but you got to keep that energy. 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:20.680 You gotta keep that cup pri cupri entered. 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:23.199 Hop pre hot, pretty hop pretty energy. 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:26.160 Yeah, I do have in la I do. 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:29.160 I know. So I'm proud of you for going and 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:33.479 doing something new and letting yourself just live your life. 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:36.120 And on our way home, we had these two girls 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:38.720 on our flight that were like big fans of my book, 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:43.760 which is something I don't get every most often, and 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:45.760 it was so crazy because it was such a reminder. 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:48.600 She's in her late thirties and she's like, I always like, 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:50.720 I read your book and it makes me like realize, 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:52.600 like it's coming for me. You have this amazing man. 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:56.199 She like met Robbie and she's like the sunshine mine, 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:58.120 the sunshine mine, And I was like, I have let 0:12:58.160 --> 0:12:59.000 that sunshine mind. 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.160 She's been behind some clouds. 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:05.360 Yeah, she been cloudy. She has been cloudy, And it 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:08.040 was almost like this really refreshing way to like end 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:10.640 our trip with like that reminder. Yeah, I don't know. 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.120 I was like, oh yeah, I literally felt like seeing 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:16.200 your post the one it was like some things that 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:18.760 made me happy or something. I felt like joy for me, 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:22.040 which you're very like you're demean you're very sunshiny, but 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:26.840 there you have been more like down and like over, 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:29.840 you know, thinking so much about this journey, and so 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:32.559 it was so great to even see that through photos 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:36.400 of just like that spirit, your spirit, you know, and 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:39.160 even though there's clouds, the sun always comes through. 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:39.720 It does. 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:41.120 So I'm glad you had that reminder. 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:45.280 I did. You also had some travels. 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:48.040 I was in some sun as well, which we could 0:13:48.040 --> 0:14:07.040 talk about when we come back. What a free we're 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:11.920 back back. Yeah, So I also went to some sunshine. 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:18.160 This last week I went to surprise Jojo and she 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:20.920 lives in Puerto Rico, and I was going to go 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:25.160 the week before that. I went, and then basically what 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:28.080 happened is I have been wanting obviously to meet romy 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:33.080 and see Jojo and Jordan, and it just with schedules 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:35.240 and timing, and also I have to get on two 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:37.400 flights to get to her, so I think wanting to 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:40.600 make sure she was ready felt good about me coming 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:43.400 to see the baby, was waiting for that, and then 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:46.480 we had some things scheduled that scheduling conflicts happened. So 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:48.760 I finally just texted Jordan and I was like, I 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:50.880 want to come see Jojo and meet the baby. Can 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.040 you help me with the scheduling? I want a surprise her. 0:14:53.800 --> 0:14:57.520 So he told me some dates that worked, and then 0:14:57.640 --> 0:14:59.240 the dates that we had, which was the week before, 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:01.800 ended up falling through. So I moved my flight. I 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:05.040 was just like, please, somehow, let this day a surprise. 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:07.520 So I kept checking in with him, and I moved 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:09.680 our conversation to Instagram because I was like, if she 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:12.280 sees my name pop up on his phone show we 0:15:12.320 --> 0:15:15.080 don't talk. So she'd be like, why is Beckat texting you? 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:18.520 And so he would check in and he'd be like 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:20.560 are you all good still? And I'm like, yeah, we 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:23.720 are you good over there? And so I flew. I 0:15:23.840 --> 0:15:28.120 left at like six am on Tuesday, and I got 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:31.960 there I think at like seven thirty pm that same night, 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:35.360 and it was so fun because my uber pulled up 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:37.720 and the dog started barking, and so I was trying 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:39.960 to tell him, like keep going past the house because 0:15:39.960 --> 0:15:42.080 I'm trying to surprise her, and there was kind of 0:15:42.080 --> 0:15:44.240 a language barrier, so I was like trying to tell 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:47.360 him like with hand motions, and so he goes oh. 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:51.320 So I was like, I'm surprising her, and he goes, oh, surprise. 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.840 So then he pulled forward and then I brought my 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:56.080 bags up and Jordan came and got me from around 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:58.960 the side and he was like, she's putting Romie down. 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:01.240 And I was like, oh no, because I didn't want 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:04.360 her to be upset. You know, she she doesn't Romy 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:06.960 doesn't know me, so I didn't want to wake her up, 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:11.040 you know. So I walk in and I filmed this 0:16:11.120 --> 0:16:13.120 it's on Instagram. But I opened the door and I 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:15.040 was like, did you need help putting the baby down? 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:20.040 So cute, so surprised, and Romy was just didn't cry 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.560 at all, just was like looking back and forth, like mom, 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.680 this is this. And so we pulled off this surprise 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:29.320 and Jordan was so great, like he helped make it happen, 0:16:29.440 --> 0:16:33.040 and it was fun not having Jojo have to plan 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:36.840 something because I feel like when you're in postpartum and 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:38.320 you have a baby, the last thing you want to 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:41.800 do is try to like plan logistics to host someone 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:43.800 to come in. So I was really grateful that he 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:47.240 helped me and we just had the best time there. 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:50.240 Where they live is so beautiful and it literally looks 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:52.400 like Paradise, Paradise every day. 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:54.920 It's parently to take my newborn baby to this like 0:16:54.960 --> 0:16:57.200 gorgeous beach and let her hear the sounds of the 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:58.840 waves crashing and paradise. 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:01.040 I got to go to the beach with them in 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:03.960 the morning and we got our coffees and Romi was 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:08.720 just so sweet and so cute and took to me immediately, 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:10.679 like I didn't have to warm her up. She just 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:15.439 is so easy going and sweet. And we would go 0:17:15.440 --> 0:17:17.040 to the beach. I got to spend and it was 0:17:17.080 --> 0:17:19.760 fun to just be there while Jojo was doing her routine. 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:21.840 You know I didn't. I kept telling her, I don't 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:24.200 need you to entertain me, like I'm just I want 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:27.280 to help. I want to spend time with y'all, but 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:29.640 I also don't want to mess up what. 0:17:29.640 --> 0:17:31.640 You always wake up when they woke up. 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:35.320 Yeah, I woke up early and which is three hours ahead, 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:37.720 so it was basically like being New York time. But 0:17:37.840 --> 0:17:39.560 I was going to bed early too. Hailey was like, 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:42.120 we could never do this this kind of long distance 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:44.920 because it's we would just never talk because she would 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:47.399 be asleep when I woke up, and then by the 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:49.119 time I was going to bed, it would be early 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:51.480 for her. So it's just kind of that awkward kind 0:17:51.520 --> 0:17:56.159 of time. But it was just so perfect and it 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:59.159 was so great to see Jojo and like, and she's 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:02.240 it felt so natural, like I didn't feel, you know, 0:18:02.920 --> 0:18:05.280 it's such a huge life change having a baby, but 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:08.280 she stepped in. It felt so like, oh, this was 0:18:08.320 --> 0:18:10.440 all with ROMI was always here, like Jojo was always 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:14.320 a mom. Really, yeah, It's so it's so cool to 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:17.080 see and I just it's really fun, like being in 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:21.240 the season of life. And I was just thinking about 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:24.080 like how we met on The Bachelor and how we've 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:27.199 been through so many different seasons of life together and 0:18:27.240 --> 0:18:29.199 it was just really special getting to be there. And 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:33.720 then I came home and the next day was Britney's 0:18:33.760 --> 0:18:37.719 baby cashs from first birthday, so we headed over to 0:18:37.760 --> 0:18:42.480 that party. So it's just babies. Yeah, yeah, just lots 0:18:42.480 --> 0:18:46.480 of babies, lots of babies, and yeah, it was a 0:18:46.520 --> 0:18:49.480 really good trip and made me realize, like taking the 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:51.520 effort to like show up. 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:53.800 For people, you know, I know it probably meant so 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:56.600 you don't. I don't even think you'll even know how 0:18:56.680 --> 0:18:57.440 much it meant to her. 0:18:58.280 --> 0:19:01.040 Well, I just think that I I've been seeing a 0:19:01.040 --> 0:19:02.840 lot of things, I think for a lot of my life, 0:19:02.920 --> 0:19:05.680 and I I can be very selfish with my time 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:09.200 and stuff. But for a long time I would commit 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:10.720 to things and then I would either just be like, 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:12.439 oh I don't want to go, and then I'd cancel. 0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:15.920 And I had this moment at some point where I 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:18.520 was like why when? And I I have so much 0:19:18.560 --> 0:19:21.440 capacity and time to show up for people, the people 0:19:21.440 --> 0:19:22.840 that have shown up for me and that I love 0:19:22.920 --> 0:19:24.480 so much? Why want and I show up for them? 0:19:24.520 --> 0:19:27.080 You know? And so I think in this time of 0:19:27.080 --> 0:19:29.679 my life, I'm just like really trying to be a 0:19:29.720 --> 0:19:32.439 good friend and like show up for people, whether it's 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:36.119 emotionally or physically, you know. And it sucks having a 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:38.679 friend that lives so far away, but it was the 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:46.920 best friend. I love you? Why broke this is? Progesies 0:19:46.960 --> 0:19:47.919 are just emotions. 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:51.160 Oh my gosh. 0:19:50.040 --> 0:19:50.600 You're Jeli. 0:19:50.760 --> 0:19:54.080