WEBVTT - Second Cup: Don't let uncertainty hold up your life

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that you don't need to let uncertainty hold

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<v Speaker 1>up your life. Even if you are unsure what your

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<v Speaker 1>future holds, you can still make plans. You might need

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<v Speaker 1>to hold them loosely, but if you are respectful and

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<v Speaker 1>and transparent, that can be okay. So there are lots

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<v Speaker 1>of reasons that people become hesitant to make plans for

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<v Speaker 1>the future. Maybe they're looking for a new job and

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<v Speaker 1>don't know when an interview opportunity might come up or

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<v Speaker 1>what their daily rhythms would be at a new organization.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe they're supporting a relative who is ill and can't

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<v Speaker 1>predict when they'll need to provide care or be a

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<v Speaker 1>second set of ears at a medical appointment. I know

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<v Speaker 1>people who are trying to start a family who've put

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<v Speaker 1>long-term plans on hold for a long time because, well,

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<v Speaker 1>is that when there will be a newborn in the house?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that when the adoption agency will come through and

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<v Speaker 1>we'll need to drop everything? It is all understandable. And yet,

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<v Speaker 1>life keeps going. And we only have so much time.

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<v Speaker 1>It would be so much easier to decide to take

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<v Speaker 1>that long-wished-for trip to California instead if you knew you

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<v Speaker 1>would find the perfect job in three months. But when

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know that, the trip planning gets put off.

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<v Speaker 1>Who knows when it happens? So here's something to remember.

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<v Speaker 1>Even if you can't carve your plans in stone, you

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<v Speaker 1>can still plan. You can make plans to spend a

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<v Speaker 1>weekend with your best friend who lives a few hours away.

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<v Speaker 1>But let her know that if your mother takes a

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<v Speaker 1>turn for the worse, you may need to reschedule. You

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<v Speaker 1>can make plans to have lunch with a friend next month,

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<v Speaker 1>presuming that you haven't started a new job with a

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<v Speaker 1>short and inflexible lunch break. But you let your friend

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<v Speaker 1>know that you are looking, and that she can hold

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<v Speaker 1>the plans lightly too. You can look for a new

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<v Speaker 1>job or apply to graduate school, even if you are

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<v Speaker 1>looking to start a family. If it happens, you'll figure

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<v Speaker 1>it out. Anywhere that deserves you will be excited for you. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps some folks listening to this are wondering what the

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<v Speaker 1>big deal is. They make plans and cancel them all

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<v Speaker 1>the time. But I'm guessing perhaps a few more folks

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<v Speaker 1>listening to this fall in the category of what Gretchen

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<v Speaker 1>Rubin calls upholders. These are folks who aim to meet

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<v Speaker 1>all inner and outer expectations. I fall in this category

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<v Speaker 1>and I never want to cancel anything. I am so

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<v Speaker 1>loathe to cancel things. that I generally won't agree to things,

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<v Speaker 1>if I think there is even a small chance that

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<v Speaker 1>I might need to cancel. But the funny part of

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<v Speaker 1>that is that when other people cancel things and have

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<v Speaker 1>a legitimate reason to do so, I'm not put out

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<v Speaker 1>by it. When someone tells me, I'd love to talk

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<v Speaker 1>with you that day, but just a heads up that

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<v Speaker 1>I am interviewing for jobs and might need to reschedule,

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<v Speaker 1>I would totally understand. So if you are facing uncertainty

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<v Speaker 1>in your life, don't think you have to forego all

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<v Speaker 1>future planning. I mean, maybe buy the refundable plane tickets.

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<v Speaker 1>But you can buy them. Quite possibly you will get

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<v Speaker 1>to take your trip, even if life is uncertain. And

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<v Speaker 1>you will probably be glad that you did. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura. Thanks for listening. And here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach

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<v Speaker 1>me at laura at lauravandercam.com. Before Breakfast is a production

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