WEBVTT - 9 Powerful Reflection Questions for 2021 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.640 What I love about this question is often we're asked 0:00:02.680 --> 0:00:04.440 to reflect on you know, what was the thing that 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:06.080 you won, What was the thing that you did that 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:09.360 was most successful. That's usually the question people ask. But 0:00:09.480 --> 0:00:13.160 I think asking a question on happiness is even more important, 0:00:13.240 --> 0:00:16.279 even more powerful, because we want to do more of 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:26.320 what makes us happy. Hey, everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.840 I am sitting here in the bedroom I grew up in. 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:35.120 My parents laughed as I record this because I just 0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:39.120 got into London for the holidays. I am here to 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.400 be with my family and I'm so lucky to be here. 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:43.640 I feel so grateful that I could get in to 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:47.320 see them. And as I sit here, it's been a 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:50.760 really interesting twenty four hours that I've been back now 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:54.720 as I'm recording this, and it's been really fascinating because 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:57.800 I've been doing a lot of reflecting. I've only been 0:00:57.880 --> 0:01:02.240 here once in the last two years, and everywhere where 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:05.200 I'm walking, I'm noticing the nursery that I went to, 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:08.080 the school that I went to the bank that I 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:11.720 opened up my first bank account. I'm noticing where I 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:14.559 used to sit and meditate when I first started practicing, 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:16.560 where I would read. I've got all these books that 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:19.560 I'm surrounded by right now, books that I grew up 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.200 on that change my life, that formed the way I think. 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:25.360 It put me in a very reflective mood. It's so 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:29.360 important at this time of year to reflect. It's so 0:01:29.440 --> 0:01:32.520 important at this time of year to take some time 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:37.440 out to look back. And the interesting thing with us 0:01:37.520 --> 0:01:39.880 when we're reflecting is that we don't usually make as 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:42.480 much time as we'd like. We may say that we 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:46.039 want to reflect this Christmas or this holiday season. We 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:48.600 may even try to take an hour out and then 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:51.960 get distracted by Instagram or TikTok. Maybe you've been really 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.400 good for it, and you've made some great progress and 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:57.240 really put some time aside. But what I wanted to 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:00.200 share with you today was a plan, questions and plan 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:03.200 of how to really reflect on how this year has been. 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:06.200 I'll share some of my reflections as well as I 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:10.000 go along, and I'm hoping that all of you, after 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:12.000 listening to this episode, which is going to be around 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:16.640 thirty minutes long, I really hope that you can take 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:20.480 out around an hour. An hour is all it will 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:24.200 take take an hour to really reflect on these questions 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:28.480 and give yourself the time to do that, because what 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:30.680 I find is that the world moves so fast. The 0:02:30.760 --> 0:02:33.200 next thing, you know, it will be January first, will 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:35.760 be busy with the next thing, the new thing, and 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:37.839 then all of a sudden, we've forgotten about this year. 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:41.959 And I've started to notice how much my memory is 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:45.600 erased of years gone by, How you lose the details, 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:47.960 and then you have to really try and search, and 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.520 when you find it, you're like, wow, some amazing things 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:54.280 happened that year. But by then you don't even have 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:57.920 the full depth of your memory to understand it, appreciate it, 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:04.560 recognize it. One of the first questions that I would 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:08.200 ask myself when I'm reflecting is what made you feel 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:12.560 most happy? And I'm going to share with you a 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:15.640 really clever way of doing this. I hope this is 0:03:15.639 --> 0:03:18.400 going to help you, And I just did this, and 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:21.200 so I think you'll love it. Is I went on 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:24.440 to my photo album, like my photo reel on my 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:29.079 phone my photos app, and I scrolled back to January first. 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:32.239 Now I don't take pictures of everything. I'm actually terrible 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:37.040 at documenting things because when I'm not creating for work 0:03:37.200 --> 0:03:39.600 or not thinking about an idea, I'm pretty much not 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:42.120 on my phone, and so I don't even take that 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:45.880 many pictures. But still I look through on my phone 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:53.120 from jan first until today, and I was amazed to 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:56.960 see how many beautiful things happened this year. And I 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:59.800 don't even take pictures of everything. So if you're someone 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:02.320 that pictures of everything, you're going to love this. And 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:04.720 if you're someone like me who doesn't take pictures of everything, 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:07.440 I promise you you're still going to love it. You're 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:11.520 still going to appreciate it because even with the few 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:13.320 memories you have, or maybe you have memories of things 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:19.880 people sent to you, it's incredible. It's beautiful to see 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:23.160 what you captured and what was there with you. And 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:25.680 so I want you to do that right now when 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:28.120 you go to photos app, I want you to look 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:31.400 from January first, and I want you to ask yourself, 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:38.640 what were the things that made you the most happy? Right? 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:42.000 What were the things that made you the most happy? 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:45.080 That's what I want you to focus on. And what 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:48.000 I love about this question is often we're asked to 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.120 reflect on, you know, what was the thing that you won, 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:52.360 What was the thing that you did that was most successful. 0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:56.360 That's usually the question people ask, but I think asking 0:04:56.360 --> 0:05:01.000 a question on happiness is even more important, even more powerful, 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:03.920 because we want to do more of what makes us happy. 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:08.560 So when I think about what memory or what happened 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:12.159 this year that made me feel the most happy, what 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:15.400 made me feel the most happy was the quality time 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.200 I spent with Rady this year. We found that in 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:20.720 the last two years we spend more time together than 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.960 ever before, and we deeply appreciated it. When I went 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:27.680 through my photos app, I literally found just pictures and 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:31.560 pictures of us being silly, taking fun selfies, messing around. 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:34.080 It just made me so happy. It brought me so 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:36.120 much joy that me and her have had so much 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:39.080 quality time, and especially in the last month we haven't 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:42.000 seen each other as much. She came back to London 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:44.520 a bit earlier than I did. I was traveling a 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:46.800 bit before that, and when I looked at that, thought, wow, 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:48.960 that makes me so happy. I'm so joyful about the 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:52.719 fact that we actually, for once got really quality time together. 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:55.880 And whether it was us on a hike or whether 0:05:55.960 --> 0:06:00.520 it was us when we were trying out a new experience, 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:03.000 we had a lot of amazing experiences together this year 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:06.480 as well, so that was really really special. And I'm 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:09.000 just so grateful that we we got to have this. 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:11.680 So what made you most happy? Now? I don't want 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:13.200 you to just ask yourself that question. You're like, I 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:15.520 figured out what made me most happy, so what with 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:19.760 what made you most happy? I want you now to 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:22.359 ask yourself, how will you make more time for that 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:27.520 this year? How will you continue to water that? It's 0:06:27.520 --> 0:06:30.279 almost like you're looking at your garden and you see 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:33.440 that the plum tree or the rose bushes are growing beautifully. 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:36.080 The question is how do I not forget to water 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:38.960 that just because it's going well. So often things are 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:41.960 going great in our lives and we're not conscious of it, 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:45.200 and then they don't go so great next year. Let's 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:47.760 use this as a reminder to say, continue to do this, 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:51.159 continue to spend time with this person. It brings you joy, 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:54.960 continue to value it, to be grateful for it. Now, 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:59.080 the second question that I want you to answer is 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:03.640 what made you unhappy this year? Right? What was it 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:06.600 that took joy your way from your life this year? 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:09.360 This is a really important question to ask, and this 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:12.120 one you may not find in your galleries. Maybe you 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.360 didn't take pictures of these times, but maybe you have 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:17.400 them in new journals, maybe they come up in your conversations, 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:20.600 Maybe they come up when you're talking to a loved 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:23.560 one or a trusted person in your life. What was 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:28.040 it that took energy away for me? There were times 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:31.320 this year where I was completely a follower of my schedule, 0:07:31.960 --> 0:07:34.960 and I feel that there were times when I wasn't 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:37.000 being as creative as I wanted to be. I wasn't 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.800 as reflective or thoughtful as I wanted to be. I 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:42.280 was just following my schedule because there were so many 0:07:42.320 --> 0:07:44.400 things being filled up, and I just kept doing whatever 0:07:44.520 --> 0:07:48.120 was in my schedule, and that didn't make me happy. 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:50.960 I didn't like living a life that felt like I 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:54.000 wasn't focusing on what my priorities were. I didn't feel 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:55.760 like living a life where I wasn't getting time to 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:58.640 be creative and thoughtful and reflective how I wanted to be. 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:04.080 I wasn't feeling happy about the fact that I couldn't 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:07.680 focus on that, which was important to me. So it's 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:10.800 really important to analyze that because that has been one 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:15.040 of my biggest takeaways this year, and that simple takeaway 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:18.520 of what made me unhappy this year has made me 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:22.720 understand now. Notice something really interesting about this question. It's 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:26.080 very easy with this question to say someone or something 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:28.840 else like I wasn't happy because this person broke up 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:32.480 with me, or wasn't happy because this happened. Look for 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:38.840 your own choice or your own learning in that. So 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.080 I'll give you an example. I could say that the 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:46.199 problem was the people creating my schedule, but the real 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:50.880 challenges I wasn't being focused enough, I wasn't being selective enough. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:54.960 I wasn't being curated enough. That's really where the ownership 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.959 and the responsibility lies. When we make decisions about who 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:02.199 to date, to see, what job to take. Are we 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:06.720 being as conscious as aware as we possibly can to 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:10.120 make the right decision for ourselves or are we just 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:13.360 accepting whatever comes into our life or being carried away. 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:16.079 It's so important. So now it's not just what made 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:18.679 you unhappy and write it down, it's actually saying, well, 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.400 let me look at what is it about that? How 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:25.400 did I end up in that situation? When you get lost, 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:28.840 you don't just get mad at your GPS. You wonder 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:31.240 why did you get here? How did you end up here? 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:34.800 Maybe you didn't charge your phone, maybe you had an 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:38.320 old version of the app. Maybe you weren't driving a 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:41.480 car you were used to driving. What is it that 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.240 you can take responsibility for, Not to judge yourself or 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:47.880 to beat yourself up, but to use it as an 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:51.320 opportunity to say, this is something that I'm not going 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:56.760 to allow me to affect me again. So the third 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:02.120 question is what was the biggest lesson you learned? Now, 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:06.360 this question, obviously it takes hints from the first two, 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:09.280 but really trying to ask yourself what's the biggest lesson? 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:11.559 And imagine you were on a podcast. Imagine you were 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:15.240 on on purpose and I asked you that question. Give 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:18.480 the question that gravitas. You listen to the podcast, you 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:20.839 hear the answers that our guests give. If you were 0:10:20.880 --> 0:10:23.720 on the show and I asked you what's the biggest 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:27.080 lesson you learned in the last twelve months? How much 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:29.040 would you care about that answer? How much would you 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:30.880 think about it knowing that millions of people are going 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:33.240 to hear it, But more importantly, you're saying, this is 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:36.120 the biggest thing I learned this year. And I've been 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:38.480 thinking about that to think about how to share that 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:41.760 with you as well, Like, how do I tell you 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:44.480 what's the biggest lesson I learned this year, Not the 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.240 most recent lesson, not the immediate one that comes to mind, 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:50.920 But what's the biggest lesson I learned this year? And 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:55.000 the biggest lesson I learned this year? And sometimes it's 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:56.880 the same lesson you learned every year, so you have 0:10:56.920 --> 0:11:00.880 to really push yourself. The biggest lesson I and this 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:07.720 year is your schedule shows what you care about. What 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:10.440 you do with your free time, what you do with 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:14.520 your mornings, your evenings, your weekends shows what you care about. 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:17.240 And if you're like, well, I don't care about any 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:20.200 of that on my schedule, then let's try and change that. 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:21.760 Now we all have to work, so everyone has to 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:23.760 go to work, and we may not love what we 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:26.000 do for work, and we may have tried, or we 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:28.040 may be trying to shift, but that sometimes it is 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:30.360 out of our control. But what are we doing with 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:33.240 our evenings and weekends? Does it really show what we 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:36.160 care about? So I realized that what I really care 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:38.960 about is creativity. What I really care about is impact. 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:41.680 What I really care about is helping people find their purpose, 0:11:41.720 --> 0:11:44.800 and I want my schedule to reflect that. And yes, 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:47.880 everything I do is dedicated to that. But there are 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:50.280 some things that are more dedicated to that than others, 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:55.080 and I want to review that. So that's the third big, 0:11:55.320 --> 0:12:01.559 big question to ask yourself. Now. The fourth question is 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:06.120 an interesting one. What is something you wish you did 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:09.319 more of? What is something that you didn't make time 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:13.680 for but you wish you made more time for. What 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:15.840 is that one thing that you're like, you know next 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:19.000 year this has to be part of it. This is 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:22.800 something that I know I need to prioritize. Notice how 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:25.320 it's not judging yourself or beating yourself up for not 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:29.800 making time. It's recognizing this is important to me. This 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:31.920 is a priority to me, and I want to make 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:35.240 time for it next year. Now, when I think about this, 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:41.160 it's dedicated creative time. I would love to have one 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:44.880 of my work days be a day where I read 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:50.200 and learn more and scribble and doodle and practice and 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:55.880 play and just allow my mind to be fully expressive 0:12:55.920 --> 0:13:00.880 and creative without even wanting to create something. Often i'll 0:13:00.920 --> 0:13:03.520 write in journal to record a podcast, or I'll write 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:07.320 in journal for my own spiritual practice, or I'll be 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:09.760 creating something for a book that I'm working on. But 0:13:09.800 --> 0:13:13.439 I want to just create, to create, whether anyone sees 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.920 it or not, hears it, finds it or not, even 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:20.240 if it never goes out, And that's really important to me. 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:22.600 So that's something I want to make more time for 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:24.480 next year. What's something you want to make more time 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.880 for next year? Maybe that you want to work out more, 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.240 or maybe you want to exercise more. Now about this, 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:31.000 you want to make sure that you're not just saying 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:34.240 you want to do more of it, You're actually saying, well, realistically, 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:36.400 how often can I do that for me? Or maybe 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:39.160 once a month? Right? For me, one day once a 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:44.040 month dedicated to being fully creative is realistic. What is 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:47.360 it for you? And the fifth question is what's something 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:48.760 you want to do less of? What's something that you 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:51.800 did a lot this year? Are you like I definitely 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:53.320 don't want to do a lot of that next year, Like, 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.040 that's something I need to pull back on, that's something 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:59.480 I need to let go of. And for me, this 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:02.840 came to me probably in the last three months, and 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:06.320 for me, the answer was TV. I think I've spoken 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:08.600 about this a few times, but for ten years, pretty 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.960 much I didn't watch TV. I watched movies in theaters 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.679 or at home, but I didn't really watch TV religiously, 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:17.360 and I found during the pandemic, I watched TV a 0:14:17.360 --> 0:14:20.560 lot of evenings, and that's not like me. And I 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:22.680 started to realize I didn't enjoy it. I didn't enjoy 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:25.320 myself anymore. I didn't feel like my mind was the 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:27.200 place I wanted to live in. And I found that 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:29.760 when I was deep in books or deep in ideas, 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.960 that I feel more connected to myself. And so for me, 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:34.400 that's something I want to do less of. And I 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:36.280 started doing less of it in the last three months 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:40.560 because that helps me transition over to next year, because 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:42.760 I haven't been doing it for the last three months, 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:45.080 so I feel pretty confident that I won't let it 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:49.280 bleed into next year. It's really really powerful, right, what 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:52.360 do you want to do less of? Another question that 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:55.680 I want you to ask yourself is what was your 0:14:55.720 --> 0:14:59.320 biggest success this year? Right now we're getting into that work, 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:01.960 that profession and all that purpose, what was your biggest 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.840 success this year? And do you know what I want 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.720 you to do? I want you to trace that success 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:12.320 back to when it started, when it actually started, even 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:15.760 as a connection. So I'll give you an example. One 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:18.640 of our biggest successes this year for me and RADI 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:22.600 was that we launched psalmote, something we've been working on 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:26.760 for about a year and a half, and launching Psalmoty 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:29.040 was a huge success. So many of you have subscribed, 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:31.680 so many of you have joined the community. If you 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:34.440 haven't yet, you can head over to salmote dot com 0:15:34.480 --> 0:15:37.479 and join us be a part of our tea membership 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:40.440 and our tea community. It's been so beautiful to have 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:43.280 all these amazing, real flavors out there in the world 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:47.320 with functional benefits and adaptogens. It's been incredible and it's 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:50.840 been such a big success. But listen to this. We 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:55.880 launched psalmoty this year in fall. Let's go back to 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:59.760 when we started with the idea for creating psalmoty January 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:07.120 twenty twenty. Now let's go back to when I met 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:10.920 our partners, our business partners in starting the tea company. 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:14.960 That happened around three years ago. And now let's go 0:16:15.040 --> 0:16:17.320 back to when me and Radley got married and discovered 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:20.040 we both loved tea. That was five years ago. And 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.760 now let's go back to when we started dating and 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:24.720 we realized we loved tea. That was eight years ago. 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:27.240 And now let's go back to when I first was 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:30.280 introduced to tea by my own mom when I was 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:34.400 really young. That's probably, like, I don't know, it's a 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:36.880 long time now. How long ago was that? Maybe like 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:41.000 twenty five years ago, maybe more so. In one sense, 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:46.000 Ssama Tea has been under construction for twenty five years. 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:50.440 In one sense, it's been under construction for eight years. 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:53.680 In one sense, it's been under construction for five years. 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:58.640 In one sense, it's been under construction for three years, 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:02.360 and in another been eighteen months. Now you tell me 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:05.960 how long it's been under construction. It's fascinating, isn't it 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:09.359 when you look at how long your biggest win, biggest 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:13.200 success this year has been under construction. It teaches you patients, 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:18.000 It teaches you consistent build, It teaches you connection of ideas. 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:21.320 It teaches you growth, It teaches you commitment. It teaches 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:25.280 from learning from every part of your life. I never 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:27.600 once believed in my life that rather than I would 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:31.080 have a tea community and tea company. It wasn't part 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:33.679 of the vision, wasn't part of the journey that we 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:36.359 thought of. But it's one of the most beautiful things 0:17:36.359 --> 0:17:38.480 we've had happened to us. This year. It's one of 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:40.680 my biggest, biggest successes. But I want you to look 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:43.920 at when that journey started because what that teaches you 0:17:44.880 --> 0:17:47.359 so you can start another journey this year. When you 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:51.199 realize that one of your biggest successes was years in 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:55.160 the making, years in construction, you'll be inspired to start 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:58.040 a new one again. Our desire for things to happen 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:02.800 this year and now achievable three months targets results blocks 0:18:02.920 --> 0:18:05.520 us from starting something new because you think, oh, well, 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:07.680 this may take five to ten years. Well, let's look 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:11.119 at it this way. Even five to ten years, you 0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:14.520 achieved your purpose and your goal. Wouldn't that be the 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:16.639 best thing in the world. Wouldn't that be amazing? Wouldn't 0:18:16.680 --> 0:18:21.400 that be absolutely incredible? Wouldn't you love that? Well, it's possible. 0:18:22.520 --> 0:18:25.680 It's really truly possible. So that's what I want you 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.760 to do with your biggest success. And now I want 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:31.080 you to ask yourself, what is a moment that you 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:34.920 felt you failed? When did you feel you failed this year? 0:18:36.080 --> 0:18:38.679 My moment that I failed this year when I realized 0:18:38.680 --> 0:18:41.040 I was working on a project and eleven months went 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:44.320 by and I realized it was meant to be finished 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:47.760 in eleven months. But I realized at eleven months that 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:49.560 me and the person I was working with on we 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:52.679 wanted it to be different things. And that felt like 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:55.000 a failure because I wasted eleven months trying to make 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:57.720 it work, not realizing that we both trying to build 0:18:57.760 --> 0:19:01.280 something totally different, and like a failure I did. I 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:03.399 feel like, God, I just wasted eleven months. Now I've 0:19:03.440 --> 0:19:05.440 got to carry on working on this and I've got 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:08.159 to carry on building it, and it's just set me back. 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:14.719 But guess what, something amazing happened. I got another client 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:20.359 that inspired me for content for that other project, and 0:19:20.400 --> 0:19:22.720 I got that client exactly at the eleven month mark. 0:19:23.440 --> 0:19:25.160 So that project is now going to be a million 0:19:25.160 --> 0:19:27.920 times better than it would have been in the last 0:19:27.960 --> 0:19:31.239 eleven months because I've met someone who I'm working on 0:19:31.880 --> 0:19:35.600 and that directly impacts that project. So it's fascinating. If 0:19:35.600 --> 0:19:38.720 I would have finished that project in eleven months, it 0:19:38.760 --> 0:19:40.440 wouldn't be as good as it's going to be now. 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:44.240 How amazing is that? Like? Genuinely it's mind blowing to 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:47.640 me because I wanted to finish that project in eleven 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:48.879 months and it would have been good. It would have 0:19:48.880 --> 0:19:51.920 been really great. But now it's going to be phenomenal. 0:19:53.280 --> 0:20:00.159 Look for the blessing. Look for that crack. It is 0:20:00.160 --> 0:20:04.120 a beautiful, roomy quote where you know the light enters 0:20:04.200 --> 0:20:07.679 through the cracks. The crack is where the light enters 0:20:08.280 --> 0:20:12.800 when something's cracking, when something's breaking. Look for that light, 0:20:13.600 --> 0:20:16.800 look for that genuine moment of inspiration and you'll find it. 0:20:16.840 --> 0:20:18.760 You'll see it, and it will be better than what 0:20:18.800 --> 0:20:21.040 you imagine. It will be better than what you expected. 0:20:22.000 --> 0:20:27.280 It will be phenomenal. The next question is what is 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:30.840 something you want to learn next year? This is a 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:34.520 really beautiful question to ask because we often focus on goals, 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:37.240 and I want you to focus on growth instead of 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:39.680 goal setting. I want you to focus on growth setting 0:20:39.760 --> 0:20:43.399 goal setting. Is I want to be an author next year? 0:20:43.440 --> 0:20:46.640 I want to start a podcast? Okay, but what's your growth? 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:49.640 I want to learn to be a writer. I want 0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:52.560 to learn how to set up a podcast. Learning how 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:55.600 to build a podcast is better than launching a podcast. 0:20:56.480 --> 0:20:58.880 And you may say, well, part of learning is launching. 0:20:59.119 --> 0:21:01.960 Sure it is, but at least you want to learn 0:21:02.000 --> 0:21:05.560 and plan and prepare to focus on growth setting, not 0:21:05.760 --> 0:21:08.080 goal setting. What is the growth you want to have 0:21:08.240 --> 0:21:11.399 next year? When I think about my next year and 0:21:11.480 --> 0:21:13.679 the growth I want to have, one of the biggest 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:16.040 things I want to learn is I want to go 0:21:16.160 --> 0:21:20.520 back to public speaking school, drama school. These are things 0:21:20.560 --> 0:21:21.960 I did when I was growing up, and I want 0:21:21.960 --> 0:21:24.879 to go back. I want to explore different parts of 0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:28.480 myself and different ways of expressing my purpose. I loved 0:21:28.520 --> 0:21:30.639 poetry and spoken word growing up. I want to go 0:21:30.720 --> 0:21:33.480 back and learn that art again and allow myself to 0:21:33.520 --> 0:21:37.879 be even more fulfilled by being more poetic with my 0:21:37.920 --> 0:21:41.640 words and being able to share ideas and messages. That's 0:21:41.640 --> 0:21:43.119 what I want to learn next year, and I'm sharing 0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:45.200 that with you all to be accountable to it. I'll 0:21:45.280 --> 0:21:48.280 keep you updated and I want you to keep me updated. 0:21:48.359 --> 0:21:50.720 I'm going to keep you accountable because you're in the 0:21:50.720 --> 0:21:53.600 on Purpose community, and if you've joined the Genius community, 0:21:53.640 --> 0:21:57.960