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Speaker 1: what makes us happy. Hey, everyone, welcome back to On Purpose.

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Speaker 1: It put me in a very reflective mood. It's so

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Speaker 1: important at this time of year to reflect. It's so

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Speaker 1: listening to this episode, which is going to be around

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Speaker 1: This one was from Lacy. She says, can't stop listening

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Speaker 1: And then this one from Tiff says, you are truly inspiring.

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Speaker 1: this one. This one is from Tatty. I just think

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Speaker 1: there's something about Jay's energy that feels genuine, and his

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Speaker 1: so much. You know it's one of those things that

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Speaker 1: none of us are perfect. We're always trying to figure

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Speaker 1: that I'm trying and that's all I ask for, is

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Speaker 1: that just know that I'm trying my best. Ritzel says

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Speaker 1: today's episode was so powerful. I love you, Jay, thank

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Speaker 1: you for your mindfulness and constant support. My friend, thank you.

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Speaker 1: This was from Christina Gray. I was feeling stuck. I

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Speaker 1: Consistency is key. A podcast a day keeps the inst

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Speaker 1: beautiful reviews. I'm so grateful and I will speak to

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Speaker 1: you soon next week. Thanks everyone, Bye,