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Speaker 1: What's up?

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Speaker 2: My loves it is La La Kent. Happy hump Day.

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Speaker 1: With Randal, Happy day period.

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Speaker 2: I know Rand's feeling a little under the weather, but

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Speaker 2: I think he can get through this, right, Yeah, I just.

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Speaker 1: Have a little head cold. I got a tested for

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Speaker 1: COVID twice, so we know we don't have COVID, so yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's just a little sinus infection.

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Speaker 2: That was the first thing I asked when I called him.

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Speaker 2: I was at the Salt Lake City Airport this morning

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Speaker 2: and was like, do we have the VID because that's

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Speaker 2: going to be an issue. I mean, just stay here,

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Speaker 2: and he said he got tested twice came back negative.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I wouldn't have you come to the house

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Speaker 1: if I had COVID, but I was on my second

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Speaker 1: test at that point, so yeah, negative.

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Speaker 2: Love it. So I went to Utah for a few days.

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Speaker 2: I got to introduce Ocean to some of my childhood

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Speaker 2: friends that hadn't met her before. Ocean turned six months

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Speaker 2: on September fifteenth.

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Speaker 1: Happy birthday, right baby, I know.

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Speaker 2: And to Cate, I know. To celebrate her, I went

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Speaker 2: and got a little tattoo on my hand. My brother

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Speaker 2: Easton said, you have way too many names and words

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Speaker 2: on your arms. So instead of getting her name, I

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Speaker 2: got a little tiny the needle was like a size three.

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Speaker 2: For anybody who knows tattoos, that's like a very fine needle,

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Speaker 2: and it's just like a little ocean wave the tribute.

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Speaker 2: So now I have your name tattooed on me, and

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Speaker 2: I have a wave for ocean.

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Speaker 1: I love it. You got the whole fam on there.

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Speaker 2: I got the whole gang.

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Speaker 1: It's really really nice. I'm glad you got that. I

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Speaker 1: think she'll appreciate it when she's old enough to understand

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Speaker 1: what that is.

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Speaker 2: I know. I tried to show it to her and

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Speaker 2: she didn't give me like the googu gaga that I

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Speaker 2: was hoping for. But then I remembered she's six months

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Speaker 2: so that reaction hopefully will come.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So you were in Utahl. Tell everybody what was

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Speaker 1: a typical day of Utah.

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Speaker 2: Like, a typical day in Utah is very chill. There's

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Speaker 2: so many times.

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Speaker 1: Different, different than a typical day here in La.

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Speaker 2: Very different from La. When I got there, I was

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Speaker 2: driving to my mom's house and I was like, you

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Speaker 2: know what, there's so many times in the past year

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Speaker 2: where I'm like I got to move back to Utah,

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Speaker 2: Like I've talked to you about it. I'm like, what

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Speaker 2: are the chances that we do fifty to fifty? Like

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Speaker 2: how can we get out of LA? And then I

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Speaker 2: get there and I'm like, you know what, I think

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Speaker 2: I'm good. I think I love it so much, but

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Speaker 2: visits I'm okay with.

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Speaker 1: It's like I knew when you would say that shit.

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Speaker 1: I was like, dude, I just let you rant, because

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Speaker 1: if you're like an energizer bunny, if I just let

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Speaker 1: you tire yourself out with your thought, yeah, well you'll

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Speaker 1: find your place back. But the thing about Utah that's

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Speaker 1: great is it's an hour and twenty five minute flight,

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Speaker 1: so you can literally go there on a Tuesday, come

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Speaker 1: back on Thursday and still have a great Like there's

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Speaker 1: no exhaustion.

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Speaker 2: No. I literally we go out to the airport at

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Speaker 2: six and I landed in LA at eight fifteen.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, Like, if you went there for

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Speaker 1: a weekend, you could fly back Monday and be here

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Speaker 1: for work. So it's like but it's like me, I'm

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Speaker 1: the same. My love for Florida is the same as

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Speaker 1: your love for Utah. But I don't need to be

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Speaker 1: there full time now. I like going there. I like

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Speaker 1: being in the water. I love Florida. You know how

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Speaker 1: much I love Florida. But I need to come home

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Speaker 1: and be in my environment where you know, this is

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Speaker 1: like where I work, this is where our family is.

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Speaker 1: So I think we're kind of people that get to

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Speaker 1: a point sometimes where we're burnt out. We need to

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Speaker 1: go retreat and then come back and like re energize.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't see either one of us living

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Speaker 2: Oh swhere, Yeah, no, I agree ocean.

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Speaker 1: Was your mom broken hearted that you broke her dreams

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Speaker 1: of going back home the Salt Lake?

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Speaker 2: You know, I think she would have been if she

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Speaker 2: They're like, so she's loving living in La. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: my mom doesn't live in Oa. My mom lives the Ark.

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Speaker 2: I'm staying at her house.

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Speaker 1: Well, if you add up the room nights at at

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Speaker 1: Casa Emma La La, she's probably here fifty one percent.

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Speaker 2: Right, like her doctors are here now. That's why she's

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Speaker 2: here right now. She had to fly back for a

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Speaker 2: doctor's appointment.

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Speaker 1: Your mother, if she'd have a doctor's appointment to see

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Speaker 1: a hamster in a gardenia, okay, your mother would come

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Speaker 1: up with something. So it's okay. I'm glad that I

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Speaker 1: got our good doctor though, because health is is wealth, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, absolutely, So ocean was amazing on the way there,

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Speaker 2: and amazing on the flight back. Rockstar, rock star, And

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Speaker 2: she's never slept better. Rand, that's great and so happy.

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Speaker 2: I had this like pack and play amazoned to my

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Speaker 2: you remember last Christmas, we bought Riley a pack and

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Speaker 2: play for her dolls. So I'm like, I'm not gonna

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Speaker 2: buy a new pack and play. I'm gonna use Riley's

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Speaker 2: for her dolls. I'm literally setting it up in our bedroom.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you're just robbing the other children's toys.

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Speaker 2: Well no, no, no, I never would have taken the

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Speaker 2: pack and play if Riley still played with it. But

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Speaker 2: now she's in a new She was.

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Speaker 1: A kid right now. Riley's all weekend we were teaching school.

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Speaker 1: She was the principal. Then she was the student, then

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Speaker 1: I was the teacher, and then she got in trouble

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Speaker 1: So Riley's in. Oh and by the way, Riley went

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Speaker 1: to gymnastics Sunday with her best friend and now she's

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Speaker 1: in gymnastic. So yeah, Riley's moved on.

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Speaker 2: Riley's moved on. But let me say this about Riley.

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Speaker 2: She's the golden child, like besides Ocean. Because she's my

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Speaker 2: biological kid, she's obviously my soulmate. But Riley's like my

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Speaker 2: other soulmate, right, like a golden child. Even if she's

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Speaker 2: still played with that pack and play. If I asked

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Speaker 2: her for it, no no, no, no, I wouldn't steal it.

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Speaker 2: But if I told her I ordered one, she would

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Speaker 2: have said, you could have used mine, because even like

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Speaker 2: I'll talk about clothing for ocean, and she'll say, if

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Speaker 2: you ever need clothes for ocean, you can use some

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Speaker 2: of my dolls clothes they don't wear.

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Speaker 1: Them, she'd get but I'll tell you something. You know,

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Speaker 1: they're both like that now because they both asked about

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Speaker 1: ocean London my other golden child, asked about Ocean, said,

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Speaker 2: Both golden children. But no, no, but London's in the

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Speaker 2: phase where she wants nothing to do with either of us.

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Speaker 1: No, Lundon's already shucked down. Yeah, London's like, LUN's like

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Speaker 1: she's pledging a solorty right now.

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Speaker 2: She's like, where's my phone? Where are my best friends?

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna wear them all really cute when you

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Speaker 1: know no one you're gone, then they miss you. London

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Speaker 1: because London had no interest, but for her to ask, right,

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Speaker 1: it was like out of our wayst It was really

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Speaker 1: really nice. One last thing about children growing up. I

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Speaker 1: you know, because you've been in the mall in your

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Speaker 1: times with London and Riley in the Ocean. Now, when

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Speaker 1: All of a sudden, I have these flashbacks to when

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Speaker 2: Take me there, you go somewhere else and we're going

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Speaker 2: to like roam.

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Speaker 1: But I wasn't ready for that, and so it was

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Speaker 1: like this this emotional moment. But it was like I

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Speaker 1: at that. You always say to me, You're like, babe,

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Speaker 2: But I also don't have my own. Now I have

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Speaker 2: my own children, so it's going to be very different.

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Speaker 2: Me saying that to you is easy for me to

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Speaker 2: say because I right, right, So I've experienced my own

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Speaker 2: My dad did the same thing what you're doing. They

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Speaker 2: have a dads have a hard time letting their girls

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Speaker 1: Oh so I love you. No. So I went to

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Speaker 1: the mall. It was just this big moment where like

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Speaker 2: And they're like, they're like, we actually want to ditch

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Speaker 2: you is what we're really wanting, I swear to you.

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Speaker 1: After I took them to lunch, I sat on a bench.

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Speaker 1: A true story by myself. I sat on a bench

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Speaker 1: in front of Sophora for an hour.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like, what the fuck? It's so cute though.

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Speaker 1: It was, it was really nice, and honestly, I would

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Speaker 1: cool that my oldest child now it could like go

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Speaker 1: and and and she would come back and she'd be like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: we went, we went to the bookstore. We're going to

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Speaker 1: go get ice cream now, And I was like, okay,

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Speaker 1: here's the credit card. By like it's yeah, so weird

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Speaker 1: because going with Riley.

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Speaker 2: No, No, she wants to write. So two things with

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Speaker 2: your story. Number One, you're a fantastic dad. I love

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Speaker 2: that you took them. I know it feels like, oh

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Speaker 2: my gosh, she's growing up, but those moments that you're

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Speaker 2: because that's how I was with my dad. My dad

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Speaker 2: would like, take me to the mall, and I'm sure

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Speaker 2: he was like, I can't believe I'm taking my kid

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Speaker 2: It was sweet. So today is going to be a

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Speaker 1: I love her. Oh my gosh, she's so fucking fun.

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Speaker 1: She is she's the Lalla of Shaws.

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Speaker 1: No, she she actually I think I have to ask her.

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Speaker 1: It's one of my favorite shows. It's been from the jo.

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Speaker 1: Wait, you have a huge, huge, fucking week next week,

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Speaker 1: because next week after a two year hius, guess what's

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Speaker 2: Vander pump ruh. Give it a good clap, Give it

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Speaker 2: a good clap, snaps all around.

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Speaker 1: So you are back. Your cast is back season fucking.

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Speaker 2: Nine, nine, nine or ten, no season.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you. So Today's Wednesday. The world

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Speaker 2: September twenty eighth.

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Speaker 1: The amount of tea that you're going to be is

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Speaker 1: it dropping or spilling?

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Speaker 2: Well, now, all the podcasts that we do until the

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Speaker 1: Not only that, we're going to be doing our mystery

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Speaker 1: No, you guys are pretty uh you guys are You

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Speaker 1: It is.

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Speaker 2: It makes my day.

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Speaker 1: All I want to say is we are literally six

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Speaker 1: days away from the season premiere, Season nine. Everybody tune

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Speaker 1: in to catch your lava because she is back.

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Speaker 2: Vander Palm Rules airs Tuesday, September twenty eighth, only on Bravo.

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Speaker 2: We'll take a quick break and we will be back

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Speaker 2: with Gigi from shas of Sunset. We are back with

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Speaker 3: I'm a spirit animal.

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Speaker 2: Because that's the Grinch. You're my other besides the Grinch. Yes,

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 2: You went from Lochnessa to the voice of reason this season.

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Speaker 4: I did, And I don't know how I did it

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Wow, Yeah, a lot of good weed and maybe a kid, okay,

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Speaker 2: and a child right that may snap you back.

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Speaker 1: You both have that because you both are you know, intense,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll see how it plays out. We just finished filming.

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Speaker 2: This is the first season that I've had a kid,

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Speaker 2: and I liked to think that I'm different this season,

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Speaker 2: it's like a mirror. You know, you're like, WHOA, what happened?

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Speaker 3: I have to be honest.

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Speaker 4: When when you joined vander Pomp is when no offense

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Speaker 4: because I you know, I have I don't get certain people.

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Speaker 2: I don't get offended.

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Speaker 4: It was it was when you joined is when it

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00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:37,280
Speaker 4: became interesting for me. No, I'm saying no to the

437
00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:37,840
Speaker 4: other people.

438
00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:41,560
Speaker 2: I was like, that's a cool compliment you could give me.

439
00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:43,800
Speaker 3: No, it became a little bit more interesting.

440
00:19:43,840 --> 00:19:46,560
Speaker 4: You're a beautiful woman and like you said, you're you're intelligent,

441
00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:50,360
Speaker 4: and you have that spicy, you know, opinionated, like I'm

442
00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,639
Speaker 4: not going to take shit personality, and I identified with that.

443
00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:55,280
Speaker 4: So I would love to see how you are as

444
00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:56,200
Speaker 4: a mom on the show.

445
00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:59,800
Speaker 2: Now, well, I'm excited to also see it, but this season,

446
00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:03,000
Speaker 2: because I who knows which way it'll go. We'll find

447
00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:06,160
Speaker 2: out on the twenty eight. What was it like filming

448
00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:09,960
Speaker 2: this past season, because this was like the first, right you,

449
00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:10,919
Speaker 2: you hadn't.

450
00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,320
Speaker 4: Filmed, and it was the first time with Eli. We

451
00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 4: started when he was five months old, and it sucked because,

452
00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:20,400
Speaker 4: as you know, COVID made everything a little different, and

453
00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:23,359
Speaker 4: you know, having a nurse at my house three times

454
00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:27,280
Speaker 4: a week for testing everyone and random people, random.

455
00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:28,919
Speaker 3: Would get COVID. It was inevitable.

456
00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:31,760
Speaker 4: So it was just interesting and I was not fully

457
00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 4: comfortable bringing Elijah out in about too much to scenes.

458
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:37,760
Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, if you guys want to come

459
00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 4: every now and then to the house and just get

460
00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:42,800
Speaker 4: glimpses of him, no problem. But that was it, and

461
00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,200
Speaker 4: I just wanted to just do the shots thing with

462
00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:46,640
Speaker 4: that outside of my home.

463
00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 1: Right.

464
00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:48,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have to.

465
00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:52,399
Speaker 2: Ask you, did you get any backlash? For having a nanny.

466
00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:55,280
Speaker 4: Oh my god, you know what, I thought I was

467
00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 4: going to get backlash for using a sperm donor.

468
00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:01,000
Speaker 3: I was praised for that, but I backlash for.

469
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,240
Speaker 4: Being a single woman who happened to get a sperm

470
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 4: donor to have a baby to get help. What you

471
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:07,920
Speaker 4: think I was all of a sudden a sperm donor

472
00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:10,000
Speaker 4: came out of the juban had arms in life.

473
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:13,040
Speaker 3: To cradle the baby. No, right, Like what the fuck?

474
00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 4: And I have an autoimmune disease, so it was I

475
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:18,880
Speaker 4: get a lot of shit for it. But I think

476
00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:22,000
Speaker 4: that the people who give you the most shit, unfortunately,

477
00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 4: were the ones who could not afford the help, okay,

478
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:27,560
Speaker 4: and are a little upset that they couldn't afford the help,

479
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,080
Speaker 4: And to them it was like, well I did it

480
00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:31,240
Speaker 4: on my own, Like okay, but what if you had

481
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:32,160
Speaker 4: the means to not.

482
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:33,720
Speaker 2: Right, like if you had an option?

483
00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:34,880
Speaker 3: Right totally.

484
00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:37,679
Speaker 1: But also I think that people don't understand that you

485
00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:40,920
Speaker 1: guys also work full time. You all have businesses. You're

486
00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:43,600
Speaker 1: running companies and building brands, and you know, at the

487
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:45,639
Speaker 1: end of the day. We've had a lot of powerful

488
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 1: women on the show, and they all have said like this,

489
00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:52,199
Speaker 1: is part of being able to have a successful brand

490
00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 1: for a company, you know. So I think it's like,

491
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:57,399
Speaker 1: I just think the hating in that world is just

492
00:21:57,960 --> 00:21:59,440
Speaker 1: so unnecessary on every level.

493
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,240
Speaker 2: I didn't realize mom shaming. I had heard that word,

494
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:04,919
Speaker 2: but I didn't think it existed until I had a baby.

495
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 2: And it was like coming left and right at me,

496
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:08,640
Speaker 2: where do you.

497
00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 4: Get at the most and which area of a mommyhood

498
00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:12,479
Speaker 4: have you gotten the most shaming?

499
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:17,160
Speaker 2: Well, there was a lot about having help, yeah, because

500
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 2: and definitely it's a luxury. I was able because of

501
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 2: my fiance to have a night nurse, so I was

502
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:25,800
Speaker 2: getting a good night.

503
00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:29,320
Speaker 5: Safe your Yes, I think most of them and get

504
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 5: you know, postpartum depression because that time frame as a woman,

505
00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:38,680
Speaker 5: you need to sleep and heal right, you have to heal, Yes,

506
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:39,359
Speaker 5: you have to.

507
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:40,440
Speaker 3: It is a luxury.

508
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 2: It's definitely a luxury. And you know, fortunately and unfortunately

509
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:49,199
Speaker 2: I have a partner who also couldn't wake up and

510
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:50,880
Speaker 2: do that because he has a full you know, he's

511
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 2: got to be ready to go right the next morning.

512
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:56,439
Speaker 2: So it was just like this battle of people coming

513
00:22:56,480 --> 00:23:01,159
Speaker 2: for me for having a lot of help, and I'm like,

514
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 2: am I a shitty mom because I'm like asking, she.

515
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 3: Questioned it every day.

516
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:10,400
Speaker 2: There's a lot of things I didn't shake off. That

517
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 2: was a tough one.

518
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 1: But then you talked to She talked to a therapist

519
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,200
Speaker 1: that she also talked to a lot of other women,

520
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:17,239
Speaker 1: and all the other ones were like, listen, you have

521
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 1: to embrace like this is the time to work, Like

522
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:22,120
Speaker 1: this is the fine if you're going to be out there,

523
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 1: because when they're five six, seven four, you know, that's

524
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 1: when they're like, well, where are you going? You know,

525
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:28,639
Speaker 1: why are you leaving the house?

526
00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:32,120
Speaker 2: So I think you just yeah, yeah, I'm shaking it off.

527
00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 2: But we'll see what happens.

528
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 4: When I'm I'm kind of shocked that you would have

529
00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 4: taken that personally because it's I don't know, it's almost like, well,

530
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 4: you're I don't give a fuck what people think about

531
00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 4: me personality, and you created this whole miracle on your own.

532
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 4: I'm surprised you would give a fuck what anyone thinks.

533
00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 2: I called every name in the book, so I'm you know,

534
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,080
Speaker 2: used to all of that, but like the you know,

535
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 2: me becoming a mom, who is you? Territory very you know,

536
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 2: when you're when someone's questioning hormonal RM the hormones, oh

537
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 2: child eyes, Well for you, Well, IVF.

538
00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 3: Was the hardest part when I came to my hormones.

539
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 4: Literally and I tell this story a million times, but

540
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 4: it's just just the most relevant. I was, you know,

541
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,959
Speaker 4: injecting three times a day of the hormones and all

542
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,720
Speaker 4: that stuff. And my mom came over my house one

543
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 4: day and I'm watching Beyonce at Bachella, right and it's

544
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 4: starting up, and my mom comes and sits down and

545
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 4: she goes, oh, is that Beyonce?

546
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 3: I must have ripped her new ass because she didn't

547
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,679
Speaker 3: realize that it was Beyonce. Why would she even fucking

548
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:39,159
Speaker 3: ask me?

549
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 1: Yeah?

550
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 3: I mean I almost killed her?

551
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 1: And then every day every.

552
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:51,360
Speaker 4: Day that's crazy. The hormones were nuts, but I am because.

553
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 2: We're women, were already hormonal, and then you're going through

554
00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 2: the IVF process where you're pumping yourself even more.

555
00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 1: Is this every day you're normal?

556
00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 3: It was? It was a lot of hormones for IVF.

557
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 3: It was a lot of harm.

558
00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: How long did that?

559
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 4: I went through it a couple of times, only because

560
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 4: my first pregnancy was a random fluke and it turned

561
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 4: it topic and ruptured and I lost both my Filippian tubes.

562
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,360
Speaker 4: So three months later I was like, I'm I don't

563
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 4: give a fuck. I know I'm going to be a mom,

564
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 4: so let's let's put that embrya back in me. So

565
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 4: I went through to so I had to go through

566
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:28,679
Speaker 4: it again. It was just, you know, it was it

567
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 4: was a lot, a lot. So God bless my white nurse.

568
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 2: Because my God, you deserve it. Yeah, so what was

569
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 2: that process? Like, you, we know that you're very independent,

570
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 2: You're you've spoken about how you're not into just having

571
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:47,960
Speaker 2: one partner. You just feel like you're not built that way.

572
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 3: I'm not I respect it.

573
00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 2: So when did you say to yourself, I'm going to

574
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 2: have a baby, but I'm doing it on my own.

575
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 4: I think when I realized that I'm not good in

576
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:03,239
Speaker 4: ren relationships. I think when I realized that it's just

577
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:04,199
Speaker 4: not built for me.

578
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 2: Were you realized, Like when did it start sinking and

579
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 2: like this isn't for me?

580
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:12,640
Speaker 4: I think probably two ex boyfriends ago, maybe my ex

581
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 4: husband and an ex boyfriend ago. I mean, come on,

582
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,719
Speaker 4: I was married for six weeks. I literally woke up

583
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:22,399
Speaker 4: and a week seven I was like this is hold on.

584
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 2: You felt trapped so you.

585
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 1: Were married for six weeks. Explain to me when you

586
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 1: go into the marriage, because now I get a better

587
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,560
Speaker 1: sense of you. When you go into the marriage, you're

588
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 1: excited about it or weren't excited?

589
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 3: We were together for three months?

590
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 1: No, it wasn't great.

591
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 4: No, No, So I always have I always have that rush,

592
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 4: that adrenaline we all get when we meet someone, the

593
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 4: butterfly infatuation, and then when I conquer the mind, I'm

594
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 4: over it. Yeah, as soon as that word, I think,

595
00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 4: I love you like I love you too, baby, I

596
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:05,160
Speaker 4: love you too.

597
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 1: Wait, now, hold on, Has there ever been a man

598
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:11,600
Speaker 1: in your life that has been that much of a

599
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 1: challenge for you that you didn't or that you've conquered

600
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 1: them all? Like they always given? Did they give it?

601
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 2: It's like one of course they're given because she's never

602
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:24,400
Speaker 2: available enough. So that's when they want you the most.

603
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,400
Speaker 2: I'm sure every single one is beating your door down

604
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 2: because you're like, I'm not.

605
00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:31,199
Speaker 3: I don't believe in marriage. Okay, I never have.

606
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 4: The reason I got married was for I was trying

607
00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:34,640
Speaker 4: to help him out.

608
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:35,719
Speaker 3: He was in an issue.

609
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 2: Let's just leave it there, Okay, he.

610
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:39,679
Speaker 4: Was in an issue, needed some help. I got an

611
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 4: amazing six and a half carrot you know stone to

612
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 4: keep me that.

613
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 2: It was gorgeous.

614
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 3: So thank you girl, as you should.

615
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 4: Okay, he took me to you know, literally almost two

616
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 4: years to he was trying to come for me, sue me,

617
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 4: you know, for a divorce. Yes, he wanted to ring back,

618
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 4: and I said, well, I found some information out about you.

619
00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 3: So no, no, it's okay, exactly, No, I'm mistake, mistake,

620
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 3: big one.

621
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 1: Okay. So you basically said him straight and he goes

622
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: on his way.

623
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 2: Yes.

624
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 4: So two years of that ship and I'm just realizing,

625
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 4: you know what, I can't keep doing this to men

626
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 4: because it was me.

627
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:20,200
Speaker 3: I let him on into that point.

628
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 4: I got the previous one to that point and then

629
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 4: I just dropped them.

630
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:24,439
Speaker 6: Wow.

631
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 1: So but I give you a lot of respect because

632
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:30,159
Speaker 1: the fact that you know this about yourself is like, listen,

633
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 1: I'm just not in that space. And by the way,

634
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:34,919
Speaker 1: maybe five years from now you'll change. But today and

635
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 1: this is who you are.

636
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 4: It is today, and I've been reading about it once

637
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 4: I started my podcast. I again, you know, we were

638
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 4: just talking about this. I'm trying to keep my podcast

639
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 4: controversial and talk about those things that a lot of

640
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 4: people don't want.

641
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 2: To discuss like that.

642
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 4: And polyamory is something I have been resonating with for

643
00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 4: a while now, and I've been reading extensively on it

644
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 4: and trying to understand it, and because of COVID, I

645
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 4: haven't been able to put it to fruition. Yeah right,

646
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 4: I'm trying to find someone and I've met someone just recently.

647
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 3: Oh, and I've laid out the laws.

648
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 2: Hold on, how can you say how you met this person?

649
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 2: Did you get on a nap?

650
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 3: I met him through Resa. I have a great question

651
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 3: for us, ask a baby.

652
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 1: I have a great question. So let's pretend we're that guy.

653
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 1: I what is laying out the law? Because this I

654
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 1: want to you, this is what I want.

655
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 2: I want to answer.

656
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 1: You go to dinner with you, We're at dinner, You're

657
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:33,160
Speaker 1: into me, I'm in the you, and you say this

658
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 1: is the law? What is that? I'm dying here because

659
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 1: this is great.

660
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 4: This is so when I see, when I can see

661
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 4: that the emotions are there for both sides, when I

662
00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 4: can see I'm into the person and he's equally into me,

663
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 4: I'm like, Okay, maybe we need to have that conversation

664
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 4: and I'll bring it in.

665
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 3: It'll be like, so.

666
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 1: This is good.

667
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 2: I start with the sow.

668
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 3: I always start with the sow. I always start with

669
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 3: the sew, and then it's the well.

670
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 4: So most of the guys in my life right now

671
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 4: that my best friends, all my guy best friends are

672
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 4: typically my ex boyfriends, and my exes stay in my life.

673
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 4: And the reason they stay in my life is because

674
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 4: I realized, you know this, the relationship wasn't thing, but

675
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 4: the friendships were great.

676
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 3: And that's just sort of what I realized.

677
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 4: I don't really want relationships as far as commitment. I

678
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 4: just want the relationship.

679
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 2: Right, the companionship.

680
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 4: I want the companionship, partnership. I want the homie, the

681
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 4: ride or die, I want the I want that part.

682
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 4: But I'm not into Polly for this sex. And I

683
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 4: think people keep confusing polyamory with polygamy or.

684
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 2: Just not being able to keep it in your parents.

685
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 4: I don't believe in cheating. I don't believe in people

686
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 4: sleeping around. I don't ever want to be with someone

687
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:47,880
Speaker 4: who's just gonna fuck every bitch.

688
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 3: You know that. I don't want my shoehead.

689
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 5: Okay, let's just let's just savage, Okay, so now, how

690
00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 5: does he.

691
00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 1: React to this? Because you're very, very honest, straightforward, and

692
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: that's I think most men want a woman that will

693
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 1: tell him how it is so that they don't get

694
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 1: into something that they maybe thought was one thing. Yeah,

695
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: So how does he respond to.

696
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 4: This when he's un fortunate that he's just coming out

697
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:16,480
Speaker 4: of a long, long relationship, so he's on the same

698
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 4: mindset that he's not ready to jump back into anything

699
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 4: right now.

700
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 3: But I also have to bring it up.

701
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 4: I say, I've had these conversations with men before, and

702
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 4: they all promise me that they're not going to turn

703
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 4: into that, but they do, right, and they do because

704
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 4: they see that I don't wither, I don't alter my ways,

705
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 4: I don't have the emotional thing, and they want to

706
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 4: own me.

707
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:39,719
Speaker 3: They get it and they end up getting hooked.

708
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 2: It's like the right challenge.

709
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: Men want a challenge.

710
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 2: Okah, you would think when you first present that they're like,

711
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 2: this is awesome.

712
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 3: Tell yeah, They're all that, fuck yeah.

713
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 2: And this is exactly what I've been looking for my

714
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 2: whole night.

715
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 1: It's good.

716
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 2: Men are very needy. Yes, people think that we're's some

717
00:31:55,920 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 2: meaty No, we're just forwards about what we're looking for Fairly,

718
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 2: Gigi has been forward about what she wants. Dudes aren't

719
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:07,960
Speaker 2: like that. They just like think a different way.

720
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 4: Very simple minded, a productive way of Yes, I think

721
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 4: you guys, you guys know what you want and that's it.

722
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 4: There's no I'm going to play this game, this and

723
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 4: this and this.

724
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 3: You know.

725
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 4: That's why I always try to give my girlfriend's game.

726
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,520
Speaker 4: I'm like, you want him, then, you know what, go

727
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 4: get your life over here together. So they're gonna come

728
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,560
Speaker 4: after you one when they see you. Don't give a fuck.

729
00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 4: I love you for you, you know. And I think

730
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 4: women are relying so much more and more on that

731
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 4: man to make them a whole person or better gay

732
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 4: strait doesn't make a difference just looking for that significant other, right,

733
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 4: And I'm not and I'm very forward that I am

734
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 4: a whole honey. I have my child on my own,

735
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 4: I pay my bills on my own.

736
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 3: I don't need you to add.

737
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 4: You can add to my spirituality, my energy, my happiness.

738
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,440
Speaker 2: Yes, my mom always said, you don't want you don't

739
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 2: want to find your other fifty percent. You want to

740
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 2: find your one hundred percent and someone else who has

741
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 2: a hundred So that instead of it being fifty to fifty,

742
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 2: it's a two hundred percent type of thing because you

743
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 2: got to be good with or without a person.

744
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 4: That's why I've never been heartbroken because when I left

745
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 4: a situation, I've always been a whole and I'm abnormally logical,

746
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 4: so I think my logical yeah, heart's really Yeah, it's

747
00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 4: a little bit too much when you long I'm November

748
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 4: twenty seventh.

749
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 2: Is that a sad Yeah, Yeah, you're a good one.

750
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 1: That's like very robotic almost. It's like a little likes

751
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 1: so logical to the thing of like analytical. But what

752
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 1: I do like is that you're straightforward. So when somebody

753
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 1: comes into your life, they either they're hearing it. If

754
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: they hear it, they have to accept it. If they

755
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 1: don't want to accept it, then that's their own issue.

756
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: It's like you've told them. So that's pretty because very

757
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: few women, i think, could say that you know that

758
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 1: way and really own it so totally.

759
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 2: Because we're like born into this atmosphere of like what

760
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 2: is right and normal and correctized path we're supposed to follow,

761
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 2: and it's some of us don't want that cookie cutter life, right,

762
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:00,800
Speaker 2: you know, absolutely respect it.

763
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 3: Thank you.

764
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 2: So you you decide you're going to have a baby

765
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 2: with or without a dud, and with.

766
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 3: Or without I don't need the dude, I don't need

767
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 3: to do and I did.

768
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 4: It literally shopping for sperm.

769
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 3: You know, it's like if they've got to build a

770
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 3: bear workshop kind of store.

771
00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:18,240
Speaker 2: On right. You see the bases. You see the bases,

772
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 2: you can like check out. I've only seen movies. I

773
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 2: think you're the first person that's actually talked about it

774
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:24,760
Speaker 2: really real life.

775
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, you get in.

776
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,600
Speaker 1: I don't understand. So you look at the person and there.

777
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 4: So I hired a company. It's called a donor concierge.

778
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:35,000
Speaker 4: Now there's different ways to go about it. You can

779
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 4: go to your local sperm bank kind of concept or whatever.

780
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 4: The company I hired is like a concierge company. Okay,

781
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 4: they will do a two hour analysis on you see

782
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 4: what you're.

783
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 3: About, what you're looking for, all.

784
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:50,840
Speaker 4: The details, and then they just set it out to

785
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 4: all the banks in the nation and neighboring.

786
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 3: Countries, like like for a match, basically for a match.

787
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 4: It's like it's it's so difficul when you think you're

788
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 4: doing this to create a child. It's not like a

789
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 4: cute like dating site anymore. This is like your genetics

790
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 4: and mind and everything.

791
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 2: I mean everything, Like they state their education and everything.

792
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 3: Like that, everything down to the grandparents, uncles on think.

793
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 4: So what the packet is like this thick it's about

794
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 4: fifty pages deep. And I told them one of my

795
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:25,839
Speaker 4: terms was I have to see photo. I can't take

796
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 4: a one without a photo like I have. That was

797
00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 4: one of my Okay, so you.

798
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:31,200
Speaker 2: See some of them not send photos.

799
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 4: I think about eighty to ninety percent of donors don't

800
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 4: really like to leave a photo.

801
00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: Wow.

802
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 4: Most donors statistically are donating in college because they need

803
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:43,840
Speaker 4: the money. It's like they get like if they have

804
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 4: good sperm, they'll go from like one hundred dollars to

805
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 4: five hundred dollars per.

806
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 1: This is so fascinating. So you get a picture. Do

807
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 1: you meet the person?

808
00:35:57,400 --> 00:36:00,440
Speaker 4: No, it's strictly anonymous, so there's a lot of legal aspects.

809
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 3: You don't have to know the guy's name if they

810
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 3: offer it.

811
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 1: Okay, what does the guy look like? What did he

812
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 1: look like?

813
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 4: I can I can show you a picture of what

814
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 4: he looks like. He's very good looking. He's probably a

815
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 4: shade more tan than I am as Tana, is your right?

816
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 2: I love that. Was it important for you to have

817
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 2: your donor be Persian?

818
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:30,800
Speaker 4: I didn't particularly want a Persian person. I wanted someone

819
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 4: with darker skin and darker features because I wanted to

820
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 4: make it as easy as possible from my child that's

821
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 4: going to be a donor child. I wanted to make

822
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 4: it a little bit easier to not be like, you

823
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 4: don't look anything like your mom. Were you sure you're

824
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 4: not adopted? I don't want my child to deal with

825
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 4: all that, because it's going to be enough that they

826
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 4: don't have a dad and Father's Day and all those

827
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 4: kind of yeah.

828
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:55,879
Speaker 3: So I was just like, all right, But I also.

829
00:36:56,200 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 4: I didn't typically want a Persian person. So I found

830
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:00,919
Speaker 4: this guy.

831
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:02,240
Speaker 3: He's just perfect.

832
00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 1: He's taugh, he's.

833
00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 3: Charming, he's amazing.

834
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 4: And I have all the genetics to aunts and uncles

835
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 4: and you know, parents are judges and attorneys.

836
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 2: You want to know. I see he gets older, like

837
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: the health, what health concerns do I need to be looking?

838
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 2: What allergies should I be looking?

839
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 3: Exactly?

840
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 4: So when I see that, and I match my genetics

841
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,880
Speaker 4: to his genetics, and then we see, like is this

842
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 4: going to be a good mixture of chromosomes, genetics, and

843
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 4: then you know, we do the embryos. And then I

844
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 4: waited for ten days after we grew the embryo to

845
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:33,279
Speaker 4: test all my embryos, and I made sure to get

846
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 4: you know, the perfect score embryos to insert right.

847
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: Back up, you know, And did you did you care

848
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 2: if it was boy girl? Not?

849
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 3: Really? I wanted the healthiest.

850
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 4: I knew that I wanted a child, and I was

851
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 4: thinking that it's going to be super hard to have

852
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:53,399
Speaker 4: a boy without a male figure to teach him how

853
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 4: to be a man. I was scared of.

854
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 2: That and I could be completely off my rocker. I

855
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 2: feel like it would be more of a challenge to

856
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:02,640
Speaker 2: raise a woman without a father.

857
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 4: That's what everyone told me. That's what everyone said. They're like,

858
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 4: it's going to be harder to have a daughter without

859
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 4: a father. Yeah, you know, the boy will end up

860
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 4: raising you. You're he's going to be your protector, boy Elijah, Elijah, Yeah,

861
00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 4: he's almost seventeen months.

862
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:20,839
Speaker 1: Blays all the time. We're always mama's boys, you know.

863
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:25,359
Speaker 4: And great, I feel like I works he's not going

864
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 4: to be a mama's boy.

865
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 3: Literally, like we're at the park the other day.

866
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 4: This person will like looked at me and said something

867
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:32,840
Speaker 4: because he fells on the floor and he goes and

868
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 4: I can tell he's okay, and I look at him.

869
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 3: I go get up, Baker. This guy goes, Wow, you're

870
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:42,360
Speaker 3: a tough one. But I'm like, he's a boy. He

871
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 3: needs to fall, he needs to go through totally. You know.

872
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 1: Let me say something. I think. I think whether you're

873
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:50,359
Speaker 1: I think if your child, whether boy or girl, has

874
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 1: the love that I know you have your child honestly,

875
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 1: and I really mean this. There are a lot of

876
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 1: families that you know, have two parents and they're very broken.

877
00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 1: I think when you have love come from one parent

878
00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 1: or two parents of any type or sort, they're going

879
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:04,280
Speaker 1: to be.

880
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,879
Speaker 2: Just I agree with you, you know, I don't.

881
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 1: I don't worry about you at all.

882
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 3: Yeah.

883
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:10,759
Speaker 1: I think I think that this child is very lucky

884
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: to have you.

885
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:12,719
Speaker 3: Thank you. I appreciate this.

886
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 2: So was your was the labor good? Like? What was

887
00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:19,520
Speaker 2: your experience doing? I have to know now that I.

888
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,360
Speaker 3: Did did you do vaginal?

889
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 1: Oh?

890
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 2: Did you did you? I did too?

891
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 3: I did vaginal. Yeah.

892
00:39:24,640 --> 00:39:27,800
Speaker 4: I wanted to do the whole badge experience. I wanted

893
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 4: to as much as I could. I had to induce

894
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 4: early because of my health and my mother condition. Not

895
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 4: too early, like less than a month, less than a month,

896
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 4: but it was my health was getting bad, okay, so

897
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 4: we had to get a mouth putting back on the chemo.

898
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 3: So it was just we came out.

899
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 4: But it was literally the third or fourth week that

900
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 4: the first quarantine hit.

901
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:48,799
Speaker 2: Oh my.

902
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 4: So they were saying, going into birth, you have to

903
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 4: go alone, and then like a week before they changed

904
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 4: it that you can have one person go to your

905
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 4: sister right by. I chose my sister because at that

906
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 4: time they were saying it's an old person ends disease,

907
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 4: and I didn't want my parents to go to the hospital,

908
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:07,239
Speaker 4: like what the fuck would happen? So they induced me

909
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 4: at one am. At eight am, they came in and

910
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,359
Speaker 4: they said the baby's going to be coming soon.

911
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:15,360
Speaker 2: So I just got chills.

912
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, they just began the process. I'm like, Okay, this

913
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 4: isn't too bad. But then I like, you know, closer

914
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:22,799
Speaker 4: to seven pm, I was like.

915
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 2: They're like, what exactly is it coming?

916
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 3: Did you keep getting the bullet?

917
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:29,760
Speaker 2: What is the bullet that sounds?

918
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 4: So you have your epidural and then you, Yes, that

919
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 4: the anesthesiologist comes in and he hits you with a bullet.

920
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:38,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can only have it every thirty to forty

921
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:39,240
Speaker 3: five minutes.

922
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 2: And I nothing. No, I enjoyed. Can I tell you

923
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 2: I've never slept better than to.

924
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 3: Earth definite labor while you were in Later they were sleeping.

925
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. They induced me at eleven am, and I went,

926
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 2: I was like, literally, they came in. They broke my

927
00:40:57,360 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 2: water at probably ten pm. Oh, they had to break

928
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:01,839
Speaker 2: your while had to break my water. And then they

929
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 2: said we're going to change your your sheets because there's

930
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:05,960
Speaker 2: a lot of water. And I was like, can you

931
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 2: just leave it? I can't fink shit. I'm like tired.

932
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 2: I slept like a baby am she was born. Oh wow,

933
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 2: I was like, this is the best I want to

934
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,840
Speaker 2: give every day. Yeah, I know, I got lucky.

935
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 3: You got that.

936
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 2: Not everyone has that eat yet.

937
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,279
Speaker 4: No, mine wasn't too bad either. I was just I

938
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 4: didn't sleep too much. I was so excited. My sister

939
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 4: was passed out on like filming my sisters slurring and

940
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 4: sleeping right next to me, and like no, I was

941
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 4: excited to be there and to have a baby and

942
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 4: just the whole concept that was just cool.

943
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 2: And that's why I was so confused why I slept

944
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:41,799
Speaker 2: so well, because I'm like, you're having a baby. You

945
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 2: would think that I wouldn't be able to sleep now

946
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 2: the night after I had her, Like there, she and

947
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 2: I couldn't.

948
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 3: I couldn't sleep.

949
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 2: I didn't want to miss anything, even though she wasn't

950
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:54,839
Speaker 2: doing anything. We're going to take a quick break and

951
00:41:54,880 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 2: we will be right back. We're back with Gigi gol Meessa.

952
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 3: Gol Meessa. I love thely you say.

953
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 2: You say it's so proper, do what you do a

954
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 2: lot of shut it up well because you've said it

955
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 2: so many times, and I'm like, I like that.

956
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

957
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 2: So we spoke about your baby. He's seventeen months. You're

958
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 2: digging it all. He's looking at her face and sometimes

959
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 2: it gets rough. I know, I.

960
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 4: Feel like I feel I don't know what's coming next.

961
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 3: I'm getting nervous for your bout.

962
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 1: Well.

963
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:29,800
Speaker 2: I just wanted to quickly ask, because you have a rottweiler. Yes,

964
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 2: did you get a lot of people talking about that,

965
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 2: like how could you allow a rottweiler around your baby?

966
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 3: Yeah? I get it.

967
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:37,480
Speaker 4: I still get it a lot on social media when

968
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 4: I post pictures of Jajah.

969
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 2: Love that name, by the way, thank you.

970
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 4: She's my little Jajaabor. She's just Eastern European, big and

971
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 4: just sexy.

972
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:47,240
Speaker 2: She's sexy.

973
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 3: She's so sexy. Yeah, she's a Rottweiler.

974
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 4: And I think that society has Pacey's misconceptions on certain dogs,

975
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 4: that they're bad and they're dangerous. But you know, after

976
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 4: so much reason, I'm a research person, I'm a reader.

977
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 2: I'm getting that to read.

978
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:07,320
Speaker 4: So they were rated amongst the top dog for children

979
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:10,480
Speaker 4: and families, So it was a no brainer for me.

980
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 2: I love it. It was my mom. I was telling

981
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 2: you my mom has two pit bulls, and obviously I

982
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 2: don't really I just know, like an animal's an animal.

983
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:23,759
Speaker 2: And if my baby grabs a dog in any way,

984
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 2: you know, like they don't know. So no matter what

985
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:29,840
Speaker 2: the dog, even my dog Lily, who's like a little mutt,

986
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 2: I get nervous just in case. But my mom's pits

987
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:41,360
Speaker 2: could not pitbulls. My mom's my mom's piples could not

988
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 2: get enough of ocean when we were in Utah, I

989
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 2: mean guarding her with all of their I mean, they

990
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 2: like they didn't give a damn about me. It was

991
00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 2: all about like how do we make sure that baby

992
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 2: is okay?

993
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:54,440
Speaker 1: It was the.

994
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 4: Sweetest thaiss babies, They really do.

995
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 2: So I love that you have your your son.

996
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 4: I get a lot of shit for it, but I

997
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 4: don't really care. I got her specifically for the child.

998
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 3: You know.

999
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:07,760
Speaker 4: I found a breeder that was just an amazing breeder.

1000
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 4: They didn't do in a breeding. They don't believe in

1001
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 4: cutting body parts of the dogs off, and so you know,

1002
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:16,279
Speaker 4: it's like she came all the way from Pennsylvania. But

1003
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:19,879
Speaker 4: I mean she went through great training before I got

1004
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 4: her with cats and kids, because.

1005
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 2: She's still of this animal, right, she's my ears.

1006
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:26,799
Speaker 3: Okay, she's in my ears. She'll tell me she you

1007
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 3: know what.

1008
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 4: Now she doesn't do it anymore because I think my

1009
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:33,840
Speaker 4: son does fake cry so much. But she used to

1010
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:36,439
Speaker 4: notify me every time the baby would cry. She would

1011
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 4: come over to me and kind of like nudge me

1012
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:40,760
Speaker 4: or just like cut the paw up, and it was like, mom,

1013
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 4: can you hear him?

1014
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:42,319
Speaker 1: Now?

1015
00:44:42,360 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 4: It's like because my son Elijah's always like yeah, randomly,

1016
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 4: I think like Josh I just looks so much shut

1017
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 4: up kid.

1018
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:53,880
Speaker 2: Like you're a shaker totally. So what was I have

1019
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:55,279
Speaker 2: to ask you, are you an MJ good?

1020
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 4: I mean, it's you know, I think where we left it,

1021
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 4: where we left did that the reunion was I would

1022
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:06,360
Speaker 4: I would be open to her efforts. Okay, And something

1023
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 4: has taken place recently which put all that backwards for me,

1024
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 4: which I'm sure season ten.

1025
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 2: I love that we're getting season ten. I've been obsessed

1026
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 2: with Shaws since you guys started, which I think I

1027
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 2: was like still living in Utah at the time, and

1028
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 2: I was like, I got to get to La and

1029
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:26,879
Speaker 2: I got to be friends with these fabulous persians. Yeah,

1030
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 2: you came to give them.

1031
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 4: It was amazing for you guy, was it was really nice? Well,

1032
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 4: thank you for coming, Resent.

1033
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 3: I had a blast, Oh my god. Yeah.

1034
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 2: And you guys are still close, Oh my god.

1035
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 4: Resident and I are getting closer by the day, especially now

1036
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:45,399
Speaker 4: that I just met someone through him.

1037
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:46,759
Speaker 3: So it's kind of like, that's cool.

1038
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:49,120
Speaker 1: Now you guys all have like a foursome. Yeah.

1039
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:49,799
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1040
00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. The worst moment for

1041
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 1: you in all of the history of being on the show,

1042
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 1: and the best moment of being on the show that

1043
00:45:58,200 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 1: you can remember.

1044
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 4: Worst moment was when I tried to physically attack Reza

1045
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 4: and his husband Adam jumped in the way and I

1046
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:09,760
Speaker 4: ended up gashing at him very badly.

1047
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 1: Wow.

1048
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 4: And I love Adam to death like two pieces, and

1049
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 4: I ended up hurting him because of my anger for

1050
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:17,439
Speaker 4: his husband, and it.

1051
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 3: Was it was a big wake up call for me.

1052
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 4: I was going through a lot at that time, so

1053
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:25,160
Speaker 4: I immediately just checked myself into two different facilities. I did

1054
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 4: cognitive behavioral therapy and I did spiritual healing.

1055
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 3: So that was my best and worst.

1056
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,480
Speaker 4: Because it grew me. I needed a moment and I

1057
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 4: grew and I came back this new goal Neessa.

1058
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:38,840
Speaker 3: That's where Lachanessa died there.

1059
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 2: Wow, what season was that, because I remember that was

1060
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 2: I think season five or six.

1061
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 3: That was what he was saying.

1062
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:47,120
Speaker 4: It was lying about having Ara and going through chemo

1063
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 4: and all that stuff, and it was just I wasn't

1064
00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 4: so much physical pain at that time, and I was

1065
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 4: drinking heavily and I was taking oxy because the pain

1066
00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 4: of my ARI was so bad, and I was trying

1067
00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:59,480
Speaker 4: to deal with the concept that I have to start

1068
00:46:59,560 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 4: chemo now, and it's just the word didn't sit right

1069
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 4: with me.

1070
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 2: I'm angry about it.

1071
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 4: I was going through a lot and then to come

1072
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 4: on and have to fight for what I'm going through

1073
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 4: on my show.

1074
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 3: It was It was tough. It was tough.

1075
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 2: That's always That's always been something that has rubbed me

1076
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 2: the wrong way because there was also so you went

1077
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,880
Speaker 2: through that and then Yolanda had deed with her limes disease.

1078
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 2: That was question that. It always bothers me when like,

1079
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 2: I don't care how entertaining we're trying to make a

1080
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 2: show and how real life it is. I don't care

1081
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:30,120
Speaker 2: if cameras are on or not. You're not questioning what

1082
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:32,400
Speaker 2: I'm going through health wise. If I tell you this

1083
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 2: is how I'm feeling, don't question me. So that must

1084
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 2: I'm sure you were very angry and at the top

1085
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 2: of all of the pain and then trying to like

1086
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:40,920
Speaker 2: mask how you're feeling. Probably with the alcohol.

1087
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 4: Alcohol, definitely, the alcohol definitely helped the pain, you know,

1088
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:47,239
Speaker 4: and helped me have fun because I was in so

1089
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 4: much pain I couldn't have fun, right, So, yeah, I

1090
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:53,280
Speaker 4: got through that drink.

1091
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 2: With the drink. Yeah, mine was more just like mine

1092
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:59,439
Speaker 2: was triggered by so many other things I wasn't going through,

1093
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 2: was based on that.

1094
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:03,040
Speaker 4: My triggers of life and what I grew up with,

1095
00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 4: you know, and I got clean in two thousand and

1096
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 4: five from drugs.

1097
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 2: But wow, yeah, that's amazing.

1098
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 1: It's a big deal about it.

1099
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:11,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sated is sixteen years that I quit.

1100
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 2: Wow, good for you.

1101
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 3: I did one hundred and twenty days and rehab.

1102
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 1: Dam.

1103
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 4: I did a seven day in the hospital, Detox, Full Hospital,

1104
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 4: Broughtman Hospital, and then I did one hundred and twenty dys.

1105
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 1: What were you cutting off of? Was it oxy?

1106
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 3: I was No.

1107
00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 4: I was not doing pills at that time. It was

1108
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 4: just coke for me.

1109
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 2: I was.

1110
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:30,439
Speaker 4: I used to snort anything, any anything I could crush,

1111
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:31,120
Speaker 4: I would snort it.

1112
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:31,720
Speaker 1: Wow.

1113
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:34,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was big on snorting ecstasy and coke.

1114
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 1: Did you stay up for days and days?

1115
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:37,440
Speaker 3: No? No.

1116
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 4: It got to the point where I was just normal

1117
00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 4: and if I needed to eat a meal, I'd smoke

1118
00:48:41,160 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 4: a joint and eat and then I'd do.

1119
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:44,279
Speaker 3: A couple more lines. Yeah.

1120
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:45,160
Speaker 1: Like functioning.

1121
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:48,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a functional addict. My ex was a coke dealer,

1122
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 4: so I would literally it was a bad situation. It

1123
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:52,880
Speaker 4: was a bad We all go through that.

1124
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:55,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, she talks about it all the time, drinking.

1125
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:57,520
Speaker 2: I do. I think it's important to talk about. And

1126
00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:59,880
Speaker 2: you know, there's some things that I wrote in my

1127
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:02,440
Speaker 2: book where people like it made a very interesting and

1128
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 2: funny headline. But the reason I talk about those things

1129
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 2: is because, you know, people don't realize how bad things

1130
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 2: are when cameras are down, when you're by yourself, no

1131
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 2: one's around. So for me, if I could help people

1132
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 2: who are who are battling the same thing and they're

1133
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 2: watching our lives from the outside thinking that it looks clamorous,

1134
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:25,319
Speaker 2: it looks glamorous, let me tell you what it's really like,

1135
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 2: right when everything when everyone goes to bed, right, So,

1136
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:30,800
Speaker 2: I'm very proud of you. That's amazing. I wasn't aware

1137
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:31,719
Speaker 2: that you did that.

1138
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:32,120
Speaker 3: Thank you.

1139
00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 4: I'm proud of you too, girl, Well, thank you. I

1140
00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:37,920
Speaker 4: never read about it. The one time I think I

1141
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:40,359
Speaker 4: talked about it, I got shut down so fast because

1142
00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 4: everyone was like, how can you say you got over

1143
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:45,480
Speaker 4: using drugs if you drink alcohol. I was like, well,

1144
00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:48,040
Speaker 4: a lot of very different addictions that I had, But

1145
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:50,040
Speaker 4: you know, I get it, I get it.

1146
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:51,000
Speaker 3: I totally get it.

1147
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 1: But now if the drugs were, you know, the thing

1148
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:56,640
Speaker 1: that brought you down, then you stop using drugs. And

1149
00:49:57,000 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 1: you know sometimes alcohol. I know that most added you know,

1150
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 1: recovers say you got to stop everything, but you know

1151
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:03,840
Speaker 1: it was you.

1152
00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 4: Do the book Book, The Big Book definitely says that

1153
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 4: to stop everything, you know, because you don't want to

1154
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:11,239
Speaker 4: pick up on other tendencies. But I started using at

1155
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:12,839
Speaker 4: the age of eleven woow.

1156
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 2: And you were born and raised in Los Angeles.

1157
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:19,319
Speaker 4: Eleven years I smoked my I took my first boon

1158
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:20,640
Speaker 4: whip when I was eleven and a half year.

1159
00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 1: When did you for the first time? When did you

1160
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:24,880
Speaker 1: coke for the When did you start doing the snorting?

1161
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:27,280
Speaker 3: Snorting? Was like fourteen fifteen?

1162
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 2: Well, I was like coming off.

1163
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 4: I was snorting wide out when I was thirteen. I'd

1164
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:33,279
Speaker 4: be in school thinking it's cool to I would drive

1165
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:35,400
Speaker 4: the white out and I would like snort it up

1166
00:50:35,440 --> 00:50:37,480
Speaker 4: in class and I would think it I was I

1167
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 4: needed help. When I was asking, you were every where

1168
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:42,239
Speaker 4: I could and no one was hearing it.

1169
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 1: What school did you go to here?

1170
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 3: I got kicked out of.

1171
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 4: Ten schools, so holy shit, Okay, every back in school

1172
00:50:50,560 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 4: in LA except where the Persians went.

1173
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:54,840
Speaker 7: I never fucking went to the book where the versions

1174
00:50:54,840 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 7: go Beverly, of course, I grew up in alas Verdi,

1175
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:03,360
Speaker 7: so I was like, I went to different schools everywhere.

1176
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:05,799
Speaker 2: But you know, I have to say, what an inspiration

1177
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:09,320
Speaker 2: to hear you know, you talk about how you started

1178
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 2: smoking weed at eleven sporting at you know fifteen, kicked

1179
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:16,839
Speaker 2: out of ten schools, to being this, like obviously you're

1180
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:20,080
Speaker 2: very beautiful on the outside, but to like really just

1181
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:22,919
Speaker 2: embodying what a beautiful human is, going out and having

1182
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 2: a baby on your own, just being a badass bitch. Like,

1183
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:26,200
Speaker 2: I'm so proud of you.

1184
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:26,759
Speaker 3: Thank you.

1185
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 2: That really is amazing and an inspiration to a lot

1186
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 2: of people. So thank you for opening up about that.

1187
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 1: What are the other things that you work on the

1188
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: outside of the show, Just I'm curious.

1189
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:38,279
Speaker 4: WUSA WUSA definitely my cannabis brand. I started with the

1190
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 4: CBD brand for WUSA, but then like everybody's baby, mama's neighbors, cousins,

1191
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:47,400
Speaker 4: something has a CBD line.

1192
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:48,400
Speaker 1: You were in it early.

1193
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:51,080
Speaker 4: Mine is my own stuff, and it was because of that,

1194
00:51:51,120 --> 00:51:53,520
Speaker 4: it's it was much more expensive, and when all this

1195
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 4: became mass produced fake shit, they want to go for that.

1196
00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:58,960
Speaker 4: They don't want to go for the real stuff that's expensive,

1197
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 4: So right, doubt. I partnered up with some people and

1198
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:03,239
Speaker 4: now I'm going to launch the THHC.

1199
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 3: Side of it.

1200
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:06,239
Speaker 4: That's yeah, it's it's where the market's at, it's where

1201
00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 4: I'm at. It helps me with my nausea, throwing up

1202
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:12,319
Speaker 4: all day, and inflammation and that's from RI. That's from

1203
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:15,080
Speaker 4: ARI and the chemo. I inject myself once a week

1204
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 4: in the stomach with chemo with a low doses of chemo,

1205
00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:20,719
Speaker 4: and then I sit in a chair for IV infusions

1206
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 4: once a month and receive medications.

1207
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:24,760
Speaker 2: And what does that help with the jecty?

1208
00:52:24,920 --> 00:52:25,960
Speaker 3: Autoimmune disease?

1209
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:26,680
Speaker 2: And what is.

1210
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 3: What my issue is?

1211
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:33,360
Speaker 4: I have an overactive immune system where my my cells

1212
00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:37,800
Speaker 4: are attacking my body. Okay, they're attacking this autoimmune attacks

1213
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:40,040
Speaker 4: all my joints for some reason. That's why it's called

1214
00:52:40,120 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 4: rheumatoid arthritis. So right now, about forty four of my

1215
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 4: joints are under attack. I've had surgery as all that stuff,

1216
00:52:46,680 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 4: you know. So it's basically the medication comes in and

1217
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 4: suppresses that.

1218
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 3: So I'm on immune.

1219
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:57,480
Speaker 4: Modulators, which is what COVID sort of needs to not exist, right,

1220
00:52:57,560 --> 00:52:59,720
Speaker 4: So I have a very low chance of getting COVID

1221
00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:02,879
Speaker 4: because of my high medications. I have like a one

1222
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 4: percent chance of getting COVID for that, but I can

1223
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:08,880
Speaker 4: also it's very risky for me to get vaccinated. Oh wow,

1224
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 4: So right now we're starting the program for me to

1225
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:15,360
Speaker 4: get vaccinated because what's going to happen is the vaccine.

1226
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:19,600
Speaker 4: What it does is overstimulates YOURMN system. I have a

1227
00:53:19,680 --> 00:53:22,839
Speaker 4: massively over stimulated immune system and all my medications are

1228
00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 4: suppressing it. So I have to come off my meds

1229
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 4: for some time, get the vaccine, stay off the meds,

1230
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 4: and that vaccine is now going to put me backwards

1231
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 4: with all my So it's I've been dreading doing it.

1232
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:37,480
Speaker 4: But now that LA is passing this new mandate that

1233
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 4: you have to be vaccinated for everything, that's it.

1234
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 2: Yeah you so your your body is basically attacking itself.

1235
00:53:45,680 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, my body is killing itself.

1236
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 4: So I just have to prevent it from killing me

1237
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 4: because if it hits my lungs or heart area, then

1238
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:53,520
Speaker 4: the inflammation can kill you.

1239
00:53:53,840 --> 00:53:56,319
Speaker 1: I have a question, how do people that have this

1240
00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:58,880
Speaker 1: do they live long lives? They just have to be

1241
00:53:58,960 --> 00:53:59,880
Speaker 1: on medication.

1242
00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:01,920
Speaker 4: For us help if you if you treat it, a

1243
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:05,280
Speaker 4: lot of the times people will twine up with lupus

1244
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:08,520
Speaker 4: and fiber milage my my five. I can never fucking

1245
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 4: say this word fibro mileage, milage.

1246
00:54:11,560 --> 00:54:13,600
Speaker 2: Fibro milegia miles right.

1247
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 3: Say that.

1248
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:16,560
Speaker 2: I want a lot of TV.

1249
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:20,960
Speaker 6: They have like the ad a lot of Anatomy, a

1250
00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:24,440
Speaker 6: lot of the ads where they're like, if you're suffering

1251
00:54:24,560 --> 00:54:29,359
Speaker 6: from Yeah, you know, I watched the say It so

1252
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 6: tell me this because you you said that for after

1253
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 6: you got into it with Adam.

1254
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 2: You also did spiritual things I did to get leveled up.

1255
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 2: And there's this thing that I've been into recently about

1256
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 2: trusting my body and I mean knowing like I I

1257
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 2: believe in it. I feel like it's on my side,

1258
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:53,359
Speaker 2: and I kind of say these things every day just

1259
00:54:53,400 --> 00:54:57,400
Speaker 2: for for my own spiritual aiety. Do you find that

1260
00:54:57,760 --> 00:55:02,399
Speaker 2: it's hard to see yourself and go, how is this

1261
00:55:02,440 --> 00:55:06,319
Speaker 2: body attacking itself? It was I'm saying that that was.

1262
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 3: The alcohol and oxy use.

1263
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:11,879
Speaker 4: Oh that was me not understanding why I'm so young

1264
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:13,880
Speaker 4: and I can't do what my friends can do that

1265
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 4: I can't climb a staircase without feeling like I'm going

1266
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:19,799
Speaker 4: to die without you know, opening a bottle of water

1267
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:21,880
Speaker 4: like Randall just opened his water, but I can't do it.

1268
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:23,239
Speaker 3: I would have to do it with my teeth for

1269
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:26,839
Speaker 3: a long time. So for me being twenty something years

1270
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:27,640
Speaker 3: old getting.

1271
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:30,280
Speaker 4: Diagnosed as something you can't possess it, you don't process

1272
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:33,760
Speaker 4: it well. So it took me a while to accept

1273
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 4: that that this is it and this is the rest

1274
00:55:35,719 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 4: of my life and everyone has a flaw and what

1275
00:55:39,160 --> 00:55:41,840
Speaker 4: am I going to do with this? And when I

1276
00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 4: put it on the show and I started talking about it,

1277
00:55:45,200 --> 00:55:48,840
Speaker 4: and the outpour of people, young people who were like,

1278
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 4: oh my god, it's okay to talk about, you know,

1279
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:54,280
Speaker 4: being sick, because she's pretty, she's got our life together

1280
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:55,560
Speaker 4: and she's got this disease.

1281
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 3: Maybe I can. So it's just, well, my god, it's

1282
00:55:59,120 --> 00:56:00,479
Speaker 3: been the best. It's the best.

1283
00:56:00,560 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 1: That's great. I'm glad that you talk about it because

1284
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 1: people need to hear that. Not everybody like people look

1285
00:56:05,600 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 1: really good in their box, but it's not true. And

1286
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:10,960
Speaker 1: everybody's got their thing, whether it's that or law with

1287
00:56:11,040 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 1: drinking or everybody.

1288
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:14,640
Speaker 2: I think it's important. And as you we all have issues,

1289
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:18,600
Speaker 2: as you have gotten older, I'm sure you look at

1290
00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 2: it as like this is not going to control my life, right,

1291
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:24,719
Speaker 2: this is a small piece of what I deal with,

1292
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 2: But I have so many other things right to live

1293
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:29,920
Speaker 2: for and go and do and be grateful for it.

1294
00:56:30,040 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 2: Right do you find that you?

1295
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1296
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:33,560
Speaker 4: I mean I think what you were saying a second

1297
00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:36,359
Speaker 4: ago about the haters of having help and stuff like that,

1298
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:39,560
Speaker 4: it makes me. It's very hard for me. For those

1299
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:41,719
Speaker 4: who have been following me for years and have been

1300
00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:45,040
Speaker 4: watching me, They've seen me go through this health process,

1301
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:47,160
Speaker 4: they've seen me suffer. And those are the same people

1302
00:56:47,160 --> 00:56:50,000
Speaker 4: that are criticizing me for having help. You know, they

1303
00:56:50,040 --> 00:56:52,839
Speaker 4: don't understand. I can barely open a bottle of water

1304
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 4: without using my teeth. How do they think I'm going

1305
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 4: to hold a thirty five pound right, boy that's.

1306
00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 3: Trying to run everywhere? I can't. I phizz can't. Right?

1307
00:57:01,440 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 3: You know?

1308
00:57:01,840 --> 00:57:04,799
Speaker 4: Was I selfish to have a child knowing I have

1309
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:05,400
Speaker 4: a disease?

1310
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:07,680
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe you know.

1311
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 4: I don't know, you know, but I got set back

1312
00:57:09,680 --> 00:57:13,240
Speaker 4: because my doctor said with that fluke of a pregnancy

1313
00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 4: laws they think everything because I got I was in

1314
00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 4: remission when I decided to go for pregnancy.

1315
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 2: Oh wow, I was.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I got the clearance. I was good.

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00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:25,280
Speaker 4: But with that loss, they think some shock happened to

1318
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:27,880
Speaker 4: my body that my I came back ten times worse.

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00:57:28,320 --> 00:57:31,280
Speaker 4: So I began sitting in the ivy chair while I

1320
00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 4: was pregnant. It was six months pregnant. I had to

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00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 4: sit there like imagine my belly's out to hear and

1322
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:35,440
Speaker 4: him sitting there.

1323
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Speaker 3: So that's what they said, we got to de baby.

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Speaker 1: Out's got to be super special because the fact that

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00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 1: you fought the fight that you fight, you know what

1326
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 1: I mean, it's going to be an amazing dance. It's

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00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 1: just so really I mean that, I mean, that's.

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00:57:47,000 --> 00:57:51,800
Speaker 2: Such a strange thing to your body. It's basically attacking itself.

1329
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:55,680
Speaker 2: But then your body is sitting here creating what You

1330
00:57:55,680 --> 00:57:57,479
Speaker 2: can give me all the science in the world about

1331
00:57:57,480 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 2: how a baby's created. No, it is a fucking miracle.

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00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:00,960
Speaker 2: It is what it is.

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00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:01,320
Speaker 3: It is.

1334
00:58:01,640 --> 00:58:03,439
Speaker 2: You can give me all your facts that you want.

1335
00:58:03,720 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 2: So that's a miracle. And so you know, it's like

1336
00:58:06,840 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 2: you think about what you go through on the day

1337
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:12,400
Speaker 2: to day with Ra, but then you create this like beautiful,

1338
00:58:12,440 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 2: healthy baby. You know, I don't know, see I don't

1339
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 2: get stone, but I still have stoner thoughts.

1340
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 3: No, it's not a stoner thought it's a logical Like.

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Speaker 1: Really, what I think is amazing is first of all,

1342
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:26,120
Speaker 1: having a baby as a feat in itself, but then

1343
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 1: doing it under the circumstances that you deal with is

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00:58:28,480 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 1: like is real.

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00:58:29,440 --> 00:58:32,560
Speaker 2: That's a what was What was that like being pregnant? Like,

1346
00:58:32,600 --> 00:58:35,480
Speaker 2: were you worried about his health going through having to

1347
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 2: like still do your ivs and your injections.

1348
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:39,000
Speaker 3: I was.

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00:58:39,120 --> 00:58:42,240
Speaker 4: I wasn't worried about his health too much until the

1350
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 4: high risk doctor was like, we got to plan the

1351
00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:48,800
Speaker 4: induction kind of concept because the inflammation is rising in

1352
00:58:48,840 --> 00:58:52,440
Speaker 4: your body. But if you ask anyone who was around

1353
00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:54,560
Speaker 4: me on a day to day basis while I was pregnant,

1354
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 4: they would tell you I had the easiest pregnancy in

1355
00:58:56,760 --> 00:58:59,520
Speaker 4: the world. Right, no one would have known anything was

1356
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:01,640
Speaker 4: going on with me. I smiled through it because did

1357
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:04,200
Speaker 4: you feel grateful? Did you feel no nausea?

1358
00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:04,440
Speaker 2: No?

1359
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:04,920
Speaker 3: Nothing?

1360
00:59:05,080 --> 00:59:05,360
Speaker 2: I was?

1361
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:07,120
Speaker 3: I was? It was it was a blessing.

1362
00:59:07,200 --> 00:59:10,040
Speaker 1: But having this issue like so you literally can't go

1363
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 1: out and play sports. You can't like.

1364
00:59:12,040 --> 00:59:15,480
Speaker 4: Like I can, but I I I'm going to suffer

1365
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:17,800
Speaker 4: from it for like a week or two with I'm

1366
00:59:17,840 --> 00:59:20,640
Speaker 4: going to get swollen up and you know, my things

1367
00:59:20,680 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 4: will happen. I'll flare up and I'll get out of breath.

1368
00:59:23,720 --> 00:59:26,160
Speaker 4: But right now, my doctor said, you know, you're starting

1369
00:59:26,200 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 4: to get better. So he wants me to get into

1370
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 4: some sort of active work. He's like, now that you can,

1371
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 4: because it's time. So I'm thinking, you know, pilates or

1372
00:59:33,920 --> 00:59:36,120
Speaker 4: swimming something that's light my joints.

1373
00:59:35,800 --> 00:59:39,640
Speaker 2: Swimming square So yeah, wow, she will not be playing

1374
00:59:39,640 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 2: pickleball with you.

1375
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:42,680
Speaker 3: Randa is pickleball.

1376
00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 2: It's Randall's obsession.

1377
00:59:44,200 --> 00:59:45,400
Speaker 3: Okay, you have to teach me.

1378
00:59:48,200 --> 00:59:49,680
Speaker 2: Any time you can play with me.

1379
00:59:49,760 --> 00:59:51,120
Speaker 3: I'm not I'm not okay.

1380
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:53,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, he goes hard and paint.

1381
00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:56,280
Speaker 1: I don't even know the tennis. It's like you play

1382
00:59:56,320 --> 00:59:58,440
Speaker 1: with a whiffootball. It's like a hard racket. It's a

1383
00:59:58,520 --> 01:00:02,760
Speaker 1: smaller that sounds but yeah, but it's it's easy. I

1384
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:03,480
Speaker 1: mean it's easy.

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01:00:03,720 --> 01:00:04,240
Speaker 3: It is easy.

1386
01:00:04,640 --> 01:00:06,120
Speaker 2: That's what's great about it. It's like you don't have

1387
01:00:06,160 --> 01:00:16,280
Speaker 2: to be like super athletic. Just thinking about He walks

1388
01:00:16,320 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 2: in the house and he like wants to love on me,

1389
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:20,320
Speaker 2: and I'm like, you, you gotta get.

1390
01:00:20,160 --> 01:00:23,040
Speaker 3: Away, sweaty, I don't be from the pickle.

1391
01:00:26,680 --> 01:00:31,240
Speaker 2: Give away from me.

1392
01:00:31,520 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 3: Your pickle juice, get your pickle gros.

1393
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:39,200
Speaker 2: This was like, probably one of my most favorite podcasts.

1394
01:00:40,200 --> 01:00:42,960
Speaker 2: You're so easy to talk to. I'm so grateful that

1395
01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:44,640
Speaker 2: you were on Give Them Lalla with Randall.

1396
01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:45,360
Speaker 3: Thank you.

1397
01:00:45,440 --> 01:00:46,760
Speaker 2: Let's have a play date with our kids?

1398
01:00:46,800 --> 01:00:50,160
Speaker 3: Yes please? And I'm bringing the nanny Yeah.

1399
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:57,400
Speaker 2: Obviously, bitch you know any other way. I love it.

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01:00:57,440 --> 01:00:59,440
Speaker 2: Thank you guys so much for listening to another episode

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01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:01,840
Speaker 2: of Give Them with Randall. We will catch you next week.