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Speaker 1: Hello, my loves, welcome back to give them La La

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Speaker 1: podcast is La La Kent. I've got my right hand

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Speaker 1: tea tea here and a very a very special guest,

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Speaker 1: very someone who if if Ramnation is listening, they're gonna

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Speaker 1: be Is that what they're called, Kelly, Oh the Ramilly

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Speaker 1: what they're called?

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Speaker 2: Yes, I have Kelly Stafford here, and I'm freaking out

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Speaker 2: because let me tell you why. When I was thinking

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Speaker 2: about the direction of the pod and wanting to have

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Speaker 2: people on, especially women who have gone through fertility journeys,

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Speaker 2: who are you know, mothers to four girls, I was

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Speaker 2: really drawn to that because I thought, holy shit, that

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Speaker 2: could be my future.

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Speaker 1: Give me the window to look into.

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Speaker 2: But you live under a rock more than I do

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Speaker 2: when it comes to what's going on in the world,

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Speaker 2: and like pop culture.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, girl, I'm not.

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Speaker 3: I have a podcast myself and my co host is

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Speaker 3: very much into the pop culture.

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Speaker 1: But I am.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm too busy. I don't know. I

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Speaker 3: don't know what's going on in the world, which is

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Speaker 3: horrible to say. I honestly feel like sometimes like I

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Speaker 3: really need to dive in just a little bit. So

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Speaker 3: when people are carrying on a conversation. Maybe I can participate.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know you're in good company here, Okay,

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Speaker 2: good I find out things. I'll go to my friends

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Speaker 2: and be like, did you hear prime example, I've talked

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Speaker 2: about this before, but I said to my friend, I

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Speaker 2: was like, have you heard of this army hammer who

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Speaker 2: like has a cannibal fetish? And they're like, that happened

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Speaker 2: six months ago. Yes, I'm like, it just popped up

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Speaker 2: on my feet like today, like recently.

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Speaker 1: I actually knew about that one.

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Speaker 2: This was a couple of years ago, but because six

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Speaker 2: months had passed since. But I was like, that's me

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Speaker 2: in a nutshell of like finding things out after everyone

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Speaker 2: has talked about it, no one cares, and then I've

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Speaker 2: officially entered the chat when no one's there anymore.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I give you a lot of credit to

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Speaker 3: carry on a full podcast without really annoying what's going on.

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Speaker 1: We just know the headlines. I've never thought of a

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Speaker 1: damn headline. I'll tell you what, I hate a headline.

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Speaker 2: But you know that's okay, you know what, you have

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Speaker 2: a reason to hate to hate a headline. So your

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Speaker 2: co host for your podcast it's called The Morning After

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Speaker 2: with Kelly and Hank. Yep, Hank is like your guys band,

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Speaker 2: like your gay husband.

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Speaker 1: Yep, sure is.

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Speaker 3: He's from Detroit, Michigan, where we spent my husband, I

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Speaker 3: spent twelve years. He was like my only friend in

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Speaker 3: Michigan basically, so we got really tight. He and he

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Speaker 3: got married now recently divorced and has a little girl

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Speaker 3: through adoption.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, how old is the little girl?

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Speaker 3: She is just from six?

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Speaker 1: She's five or six okay? Age?

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Speaker 3: Yes, and got her since very little and honestly meant

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Speaker 3: to be his daughter because she has his mannerisms all.

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Speaker 1: In the place. Yes. Isn't that so wild? It is

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Speaker 3: I mean, one, she doesn't shut up, which is very

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Speaker 3: much Hank, and I love him so much for that.

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Speaker 3: But just everything she does, you just see him in her,

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Speaker 3: which is wild.

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Speaker 1: That makes me so thrilled.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what higher power you believe in, but

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Speaker 2: when it comes to adoption. I have people who are

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Speaker 2: is so crazy because I'm like, literally, these are not

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Speaker 1: It's just like this was intended by god, I completely agree.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I always thought I was this little girl

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Speaker 3: was meant to be yours.

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Speaker 1: That makes it so? Is he still in Detroit? That

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Speaker 1: he's still in Detroit? Yeah? You guys record via zoom? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah remote? How does that? Do you like that? No?

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to get him to move here. But uh,

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Speaker 3: he's pretty settled. He's born and raised Michigan, so he's

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Speaker 3: pretty settled there. Well, the headlines are, you're pretty settled

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Speaker 3: in LA For a minute. Now, let's go excited than

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Speaker 1: Oh? Yes, I really am.

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Speaker 3: That was I mean, obviously what I wanted along and

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Speaker 4: Because because I want to ask you the mental stress

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Speaker 3: Oh god, the relief I felt was pretty unreal.

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Speaker 3: You just you wake up every morning there's a new

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Speaker 3: husband's gonna be traded here, my husband's gonna be traded there,

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Speaker 3: my husband's gonna stay. I mean, every day it was

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well with this situation, you can't really plan ahead.

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Speaker 3: And this is what happens in the end off al

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Speaker 3: a lot that people don't understand, Like guys get traded randomly,

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Speaker 3: So I honestly I tried to stay away from media,

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Speaker 1: Right of course, even if I turn it on and

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm getting it's almost reading your mind.

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Speaker 2: So even if you don't want to see it, it's like,

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Speaker 1: So here's everything.

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Speaker 3: Yes, if you typed in rams at all in the

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Speaker 3: past year, I felt like you were just fed these headlines, right,

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Speaker 3: So it was it was tough to live under a rock.

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Speaker 1: We're thrilled about it. I mean I I could like, again,

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Speaker 3: That news and you see how one happy your husband is,

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Speaker 3: and then I'm like, let's get some cocktails, let's sell totally.

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Speaker 3: I am ready to just let loose because holy hell.

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Speaker 1: Of course, how long is he set to be here?

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Speaker 3: Just so he's at a one year he's old.

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Speaker 4: Careers, it's up to him and yeah.

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Speaker 3: It's and it's a it's it's you know, the one

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Speaker 3: my husband commits to something he commits. So if he

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Speaker 1: You're by your basis from here on out.

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Speaker 3: What is old in the NFL twenty eight Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: the really I mean yeah, quarterbacks obviously can play longer. Quarterbacks, kickers, punters,

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Speaker 1: That's really okay.

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Speaker 4: You're looking at a thirty three thirty four retirement, right usually.

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Speaker 3: And that's like a very very good at NFL.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow, people they play in the league three years,

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Speaker 4: Dude out of out of college. It's a revolving door.

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Speaker 4: Like what's that show on Hard Knocks?

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Speaker 1: Hard Knocks? Yeah, if you haven't seen Hard Knocks, I've

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Speaker 4: You look into how hellish that life, yeah.

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Speaker 3: Can be. And that's why if you don't put the

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Speaker 3: and this is what you don't put the effort forward,

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Speaker 1: Of course.

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Speaker 3: So I mean in this league and yees, so he is.

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Speaker 3: I don't like to say I'm gonna say older. I'm

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Speaker 2: I was older and older, yes, so still playing like

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, this is a lot of people to

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Speaker 1: It was just wild. I'm not great at math, but

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Speaker 3: Got it. I would say, uh, there's not many people

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Speaker 3: It is. Yeah, And that's just the way the way

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Speaker 1: When did you guys get together?

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Speaker 3: We met right before I started my freshman year of college.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, And where'd you go to school?

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Speaker 3: We both went to University of Georgia, so that's where

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Speaker 3: I was born and raised. That's a bulldog, right, that's

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Speaker 3: a bulldog.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you.

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Speaker 2: My great uncle wrote all of the books about the

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Speaker 2: rivalries between Georgia and Georgia Tech.

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Speaker 1: No way, yes, wait, Why where did your uncle go Georgia?

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Speaker 3: You went to Georgia.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and my mother's family they come from Georgia, so

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Speaker 2: to tell my mom that that you're a bulldog.

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Speaker 1: Wait are they still in Georgia. They're still in Georgia.

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Speaker 2: Some of them have trickled into North Carolina, South Carolina, Tennessee.

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Speaker 2: But Georgia is where like every family reunion is held.

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Speaker 3: Did you grow up in Georgia?

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Speaker 1: I did not. No, I grew up in Salt Lake City. Okay.

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Speaker 2: My mom's dad was in the army, so she kind

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Speaker 2: of bounced around, got it, Okay, Georgia. Then they moved

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Speaker 2: to Japan all all the things. Texas ended up in

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Speaker 2: Salt Lake That's where we're from. But everyone has like

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Speaker 2: that cute accent southern bell.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so keep going. Sorry, I didn't mean to go

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Speaker 1: on a team.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 3: No, I know as you're talking about Southern accents, like,

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Speaker 3: I feel like I missed mind.

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Speaker 1: The only thing I have left is y'all, and I

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Speaker 1: try to really drawl that whenever I'm like y'all.

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Speaker 3: And my my grandmother always like, where did your southern accent. Go,

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: We got to get you back there for a minute.

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Speaker 3: It's true. I haven't been back in Wow, I need

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Speaker 3: but they wanted to have legs in California.

440
00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:40,000
Speaker 1: So we did a gala gala, I don't know which one.

441
00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:44,040
Speaker 3: I don't either, Okay, great, perfect, So we did one

442
00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:47,199
Speaker 3: of those on Saturday to raise money for people in

443
00:20:47,200 --> 00:20:52,240
Speaker 3: actually California to get grants to go through infertility services.

444
00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 3: So anything you can think of IVF, IUI surrogacy like

445
00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:00,600
Speaker 3: acupunchers supposedly is like this new and.

446
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:02,960
Speaker 1: I love accupyture, so firm believer in it.

447
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:04,679
Speaker 3: Okay, So there you go. So it just covers like

448
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,040
Speaker 3: a broad base of things.

449
00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:09,720
Speaker 1: But that is so incredible that you guys did that.

450
00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 3: Oh thank you. This is well it was you know,

451
00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:15,679
Speaker 3: I am I'm not the founder of this, I'm the

452
00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:18,480
Speaker 3: board chair, but she, Lauren is the founder and.

453
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:19,880
Speaker 1: She's incredible, amazing.

454
00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:21,680
Speaker 3: So we raised a good amount of money and hoping,

455
00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 3: you know that. And it's fun to see the babies.

456
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:27,600
Speaker 3: We call them Chosen babies because the charity is called

457
00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:30,479
Speaker 3: Chosen Fertility, so we call them Chosen babies. And it's

458
00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:33,520
Speaker 3: pretty awesome to see these families that finally have the

459
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:36,359
Speaker 3: dream of you had a kid. Yeah, so that's pretty awesome.

460
00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:38,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, that sounds amazing. Yeah.

461
00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 2: You know, my second again, I did not have fertility issues.

462
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:46,560
Speaker 2: My second baby was brought into the world conceived via

463
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 2: i U I.

464
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,080
Speaker 1: Oh really she was okay.

465
00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:52,119
Speaker 2: So I went the donor route for my second baby

466
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 2: because I was so traumatized. You know, the fertility clinic

467
00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:59,440
Speaker 2: that I went to, they're used to people coming in

468
00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:03,240
Speaker 2: either having fertility issues or it's same sex couples that

469
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:08,160
Speaker 2: are getting a donor a surrogate, and so you they

470
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,680
Speaker 2: still put me through all of the things that they

471
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:14,320
Speaker 2: put a woman who's struggling with fertility, you know, all

472
00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 2: the testing going in sorry Easton doing the cervix thing.

473
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 2: He knows way more than he probably wants to know.

474
00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:25,960
Speaker 2: But he is the best uncle. We have a lot

475
00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 2: of co parents in the house.

476
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:32,399
Speaker 3: Honestly, it's the best.

477
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:33,919
Speaker 1: It is the best.

478
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:35,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I am very jealous of that none of

479
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 3: my family lives near me.

480
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 4: No, there's times where like I'm just in the a

481
00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:41,240
Speaker 4: du and I'm like, I missed those peanuts, so I'll

482
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:43,439
Speaker 4: just walk over and I'll just grab one and go

483
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 4: and hang out.

484
00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:48,840
Speaker 1: A lot of chaos. But yes, I did.

485
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,639
Speaker 2: I did the whole the whole bit that you know

486
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,359
Speaker 2: people that are women that struggle with fertility. So I

487
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:57,679
Speaker 2: think that is so incredible because it seems to me

488
00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:01,480
Speaker 2: to be a larger amount of women every single year

489
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 2: that are like, I need to talk about this and

490
00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:07,680
Speaker 2: I can't imagine. I love that the conversation is being

491
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:12,320
Speaker 2: open because, like you said, I feel like it would

492
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:13,480
Speaker 2: be so isolating.

493
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 1: It really is.

494
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 3: And I truly love that it's become less of a

495
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,240
Speaker 3: taboo subject because I think the statistic is like one

496
00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 3: in six couples experience and fertility, so it is something

497
00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 3: that surrounds us and I feel like, the more we

498
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 3: talk about it, the more it allows people to open

499
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 3: up about it, and it's not so isolating.

500
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:32,679
Speaker 2: Right, you have someone that you can reach out to

501
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:36,720
Speaker 2: and know exactly what you're going through. Did you intend

502
00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 2: to have twins or was it like we're going for it,

503
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 2: this is.

504
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:42,640
Speaker 1: A crazy thing.

505
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,720
Speaker 3: Our doctor told us we'd have a better chance with two,

506
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,159
Speaker 3: which obviously there is a better chance. There's also a

507
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:49,919
Speaker 3: lot of things, a lot of reasons they won't do

508
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,919
Speaker 3: that because you're immediately the highest pregnancy if you have twins,

509
00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:57,119
Speaker 3: and there's more complications, and if you're really wanting a baby,

510
00:23:57,240 --> 00:24:01,440
Speaker 3: sometimes carrying one is way safe and way easier. So

511
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:04,320
Speaker 3: we put two in due to some things that were

512
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:08,200
Speaker 3: going on with me, and so we we were aware

513
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 3: that we could get twins. Now, the way we got

514
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 3: twins was not how we expected. We walked in and

515
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 3: the doctor was like, so, Matthew, like, what do you

516
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 3: what do you want to want? What do you think

517
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 3: you'll see in here? He's like, I mean, I hope

518
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 3: a baby.

519
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 1: I don't know.

520
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 3: He's like, well, you have twins, which, like, again we're

521
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,240
Speaker 3: and at this point we're just ecstatic that there's baby.

522
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:27,840
Speaker 1: I mean now there's two totally.

523
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 3: And I remember him like kind of going closer and

524
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 3: then and then it made me nervous. He was kind

525
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 3: of like trying to see and I was like, oh god,

526
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:39,520
Speaker 3: and he was like, well, you know what, these actually

527
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 3: look identical, so don't look to see if the third

528
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,679
Speaker 3: of the other baby took. And I was like, you know,

529
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:51,160
Speaker 3: in my nursing state, going oh, go back to the

530
00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 3: mono dye twins. It was this mean and it meant

531
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:57,200
Speaker 3: that one of the eggs that had taken had split, okay,

532
00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 3: and so that gave me the identicals, and then there

533
00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 3: was a chance that that other egg took and that

534
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 3: would give me triplets.

535
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 1: Now I always say this, that was my boy. My

536
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 1: boy was like I'm out of here, Like that one

537
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 1: didn't take.

538
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 3: They're gone. I don't know that. I didn't know the

539
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 3: sexes when I put them in, but but in my

540
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:16,760
Speaker 3: mind I'm going, yeah, that was the boy.

541
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 1: I like, I like where your head's at. Yeah, yeah,

542
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: so that feels comforting to me. It was like, this

543
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 1: seems like a lot. I'm gonna let you guys take

544
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 1: this one.

545
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:29,479
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, you know. So it was we were we

546
00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:31,720
Speaker 3: weren't expecting anything. But we did know there was a

547
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 3: chance that we could have twins. We just didn't think

548
00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:36,919
Speaker 3: we'd have identical twins. That is crazy to me. It

549
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 3: was it is crazy, and it's crazy now to look

550
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 3: at them. And honestly, I'm talking to one and I'm like, Chandler,

551
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:44,399
Speaker 3: you gotta do this. It's essential.

552
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:48,119
Speaker 1: I'm Sawyer and I'm like, nah, oh, really you every one.

553
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 3: I mean, they go through phases and it's I cut

554
00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 3: one's hair really short for the teacher's sake and honestly

555
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:58,400
Speaker 3: for I mean I say it for it's for everybody's sake.

556
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 1: But they go through stages.

557
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 3: And over the past like year, they were kind of

558
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 3: looking different, and now over the you know, the last

559
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,440
Speaker 3: three months, they have turned a corner to where everyone

560
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 3: is struggling.

561
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 2: Okay, to tell them apart, that is my dream that

562
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 2: would be an identical twin.

563
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:19,359
Speaker 1: I would love that and make everyone so confused. I mean,

564
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,200
Speaker 1: to be honest, I told them, I said, listen, if

565
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 1: one is good in math and one is good in English,

566
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 1: Mommy's not gonna hate if you just switch for that class.

567
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: Totally totally like, if you're not gonna math, guess what

568
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 1: you're not gonna have a career in math. So why

569
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 1: are we strug Why are we going to deal with that? You?

570
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:39,159
Speaker 1: Thank you? You know what.

571
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:40,200
Speaker 3: I'll take that. Thanks so much.

572
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:41,400
Speaker 1: Excellent.

573
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,679
Speaker 3: How did you come up with the names Chandler? The

574
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 3: twins are Chandler and Sweyer. So Chandler is my brother's name.

575
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 3: I told you all we were very close. I love this, Yes,

576
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 3: so that is my brother's name. Sawyer Math you came

577
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:55,239
Speaker 3: up with and it was the first one that I

578
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 3: liked that he came up with.

579
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: So we did that. Do you have one that you

580
00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:00,160
Speaker 1: can give us that you were like that he came

581
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 1: up with it. You were like not happy?

582
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:05,240
Speaker 3: Ooh, you know what? God, it was so long ago.

583
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 1: He liked really girly names, and I just.

584
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 3: I will tell it. Well, I've told it, but I

585
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 3: wanted I thought I was gonna have a boy mom, okay,

586
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 3: oh boys, and so I was very much into the

587
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 3: gender neutral names.

588
00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 1: Love it. I love the name, yes.

589
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 3: So. And then Tyler or Hunter was our third. And

590
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:26,680
Speaker 3: always loved the name Hunter for a girl.

591
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: I never love it.

592
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 3: I never met like a not fun or unattractive Hunter. No,

593
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:36,200
Speaker 3: it's very like, it's so good, you know what? I mean,

594
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 3: and then my last one, Tyler. She was named after

595
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 3: a cousin of mine.

596
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 1: That is so cute.

597
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 2: So did you have these names picked out ready to go,

598
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 2: whether it's a boy or a girl.

599
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 1: This is happening. Yeah, So we didn't know with Tyler.

600
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 3: What she was.

601
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 1: Oh, you got surprised. We got surprised. How hard was that?

602
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: You know find out? It was hard, But when you

603
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 1: have three running around, I mean, time was by fast,

604
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 1: time goes by. And then when she don't fit that

605
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 1: doctor's appointment in anyway.

606
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:07,879
Speaker 3: They were and she came out and I had the

607
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 3: same staff for every single one of my c sections.

608
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,879
Speaker 3: I had to see sections for each one, but same staff,

609
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 3: same nurses, same doctor, same like pre nurse post house. Yes,

610
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 3: one of my nurses came out of retirement. The post

611
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 3: Uh what's it called? I see, this is where the

612
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 3: nursing comes in. I don't remember what it's called, but

613
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:30,359
Speaker 3: you were exactly. You would know whatever it is whenever

614
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 3: you have after you have your baby and you're in

615
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:33,879
Speaker 3: the hospital for a few days. That nurse actually came

616
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,680
Speaker 3: out of retirement and did to do our last baby.

617
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: Wow, which was very sweet. I mean it was it

618
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 1: was Michigan.

619
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 3: You know, sports are a very big deal there, so

620
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,719
Speaker 3: we were it was amazing, We had amazing experiences.

621
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it says a lot about you guys for

622
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 4: her to come out of retirement.

623
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, even if you love something, if someone's not nice,

624
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 2: you're like, I don't, well.

625
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 3: I appreciate it. But she's she's she was fantastic. I

626
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 3: was so relieved when she said that she would come back.

627
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 3: But I will say, Tyler, they pulled her out and

628
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 3: they're like, do you want to know? And I was like, well,

629
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 3: obviously now and they're like, it's a girl. Just like

630
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 3: like not he wanted all girls?

631
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 1: What? Really?

632
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 3: He did not want a boy. That was one of

633
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 3: attention in our marriage. I was like, I want all boys,

634
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 3: and he did not want one boy. So he also

635
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 3: didn't really want four kids.

636
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 1: But here we are, So there's that, you know what he.

637
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:29,280
Speaker 3: He just knows and honestly, now that we have been

638
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 3: parenting for this long and they're in sports, and how

639
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 3: crazy parents are in sports, including myself, so I mean

640
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 3: I can't not I mean, I'm I I'm competitive. So

641
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 3: there's that.

642
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,560
Speaker 1: But a boy would have a lot of pressure to

643
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: live like it it's.

644
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 4: Like living under a name, yeah, and that you're expected.

645
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 3: Of a lot. And even if he didn't want to

646
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 3: play sports, they'd still be like, wait, your stuff was,

647
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,040
Speaker 3: kidd and you know you play the piano, do you

648
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 3: know what I mean?

649
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:56,719
Speaker 1: I totally get that.

650
00:29:56,960 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 3: So and I you know, even before, I was like, well,

651
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 3: you don't need to worry because he's going to be

652
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 3: more athletic than you anyways, because he's half of me totally.

653
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 3: And he goes and here's the pressure already. The child

654
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 3: isn't even in existence. And you're like, don't worry, he's

655
00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 3: gonna be more athletic. He's like, what if he doesn't

656
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 3: want to be an athletes? He want to be an athlete?

657
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 1: You know. So there, yeah, see this and this is

658
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 1: this is me.

659
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 3: And so immediately I started to see, especially now with

660
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 3: my kids knowing what I know, when it comes to girls'

661
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 3: sports and they're seven, the oldest are seven, and.

662
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 1: It is is it intensely, it is so intense, It

663
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 1: is beyond intense. What do they play? They play?

664
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 3: They do gymnastics right now, they do competitive gymnastics, which

665
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 3: hm hmm, soccer, basketball, and tennis.

666
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 1: Oh, they are booked and busy well, and they know.

667
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 3: You split it up per season totally, like well most

668
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 3: kids don't.

669
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 1: Now they like they backboard and they do year round,

670
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 1: year round. That's a lot.

671
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, And so now I'm I told Matthew, I was like,

672
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 3: I feel like our kids are behind in every sport

673
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 3: because each sport we go to, these kids have been

674
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 3: just playing it, playing playing it. If we had a boy,

675
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 3: I don't know how I would handle that. So I

676
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 3: don't like, I just think, you know, I would want

677
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 3: to have him specialized, which I don't. I don't love

678
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 3: in kids sports Like kids should be able to figure it.

679
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 1: Out on their own, on their own total.

680
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 3: Time to see if they even like sports and what

681
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 3: sport they might like. And so it's it's a massive

682
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 3: blessing that we did not have a boy.

683
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 1: Massive like I am.

684
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 3: I thank God every day for that because I.

685
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 4: Was thinking Matthew was the one that was like somebody

686
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:29,959
Speaker 4: standing and being with me.

687
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 1: Please he loves.

688
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, he loves being a girl.

689
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 1: Dad.

690
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, And that's like, that's that's really sweet of you

691
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 3: to say. But he you know, it is something that

692
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 3: he was meant to be too. I don't think he

693
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:44,239
Speaker 3: was meant to father a boy, and I don't. I

694
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 3: definitely don't think I was meant to father a boy.

695
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 3: Now that father mother a boy, definitely not father.

696
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 1: Yeah. You know.

697
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 2: Also, I feel like it's hard just seeing men in

698
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 2: sports when they have sons who get to that age

699
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,959
Speaker 2: where they're about to be drafted, and even if they

700
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,959
Speaker 2: are good, they always get that well, I don't know

701
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 2: that he would have made it if you weren't so

702
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 2: and so son. There's literally not one aspect where there's

703
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 2: not something that comes into question.

704
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 3: It's like nepotism in the sports world.

705
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 1: One hundred percent. It exists.

706
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 2: It's alive and well, yeah, what sports do they prefer?

707
00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 1: Like are they are? The twins into the soccer most

708
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: the gymnastics. That's pretty good.

709
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 3: So the twins love soccer and basketball, which is good

710
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 3: because they have a little like I can tell with

711
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 3: their uh what they're they're more their dad's side. They're

712
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:39,719
Speaker 3: gonna have height, yeah, so, and they want to try volleyball,

713
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 3: which I would love. But the little are the two

714
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 3: younger ones I think are more my side, and they

715
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 3: are with all I like, they love gymnastics.

716
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 2: That freaks me out. My daughter loves gymnastics. You were

717
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 2: a cheerleader, so you do what were you top of

718
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 2: the pyramid?

719
00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 1: I won flips?

720
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 3: I was, But you know why it freaks me out.

721
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 3: Everything's changed so drastically that like it scares me for gymnastics, dance,

722
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:12,960
Speaker 3: cheer for like overall confidence in what they.

723
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:14,840
Speaker 1: Look like, got it, their bodies look like.

724
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 3: And with the pressure we have from social media, I

725
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 3: just fear that there's I don't know, I wouldn't be

726
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 3: strong enough. I'm still not strong enough to handle all

727
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 3: the criticism that gets thrown my way.

728
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,480
Speaker 1: But to be young and in those type.

729
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 3: Of sports, you get criticism by just like showing up

730
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 3: and you're in a leezard and you look different than

731
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 3: you know what I mean?

732
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 1: I do know what you mean, So like.

733
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 3: I tend to want to get them out of that.

734
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 3: In fact, that's like my threat because they love it

735
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 3: so much. It's my threat when they're not doing so,

736
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, we're gonna we're done. Gymnastics is over.

737
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 1: Like we're done. A solid threat is part of surviving

738
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 1: as parents.

739
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 3: I listen, I'm not beneath a threat, Okay, I'm really

740
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,960
Speaker 3: or bribing, not beneath any of those two.

741
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 1: You're an uncle. Yeah, you're a briber, of course. And

742
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 1: then I tell I mean, it's great. I'm jealous.

743
00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 2: I know you're a briber. And I tell them just

744
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 2: like I tell my mom because we all live together.

745
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,759
Speaker 2: She's like, I'm giving her this because i'm her GG.

746
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,359
Speaker 2: I'm like, it doesn't work when you're with her every day.

747
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 2: That card can only come into play when you see them,

748
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 2: you know, once a week, once a month, because grandma

749
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 2: lives in a different state.

750
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 1: Not every day. It's a lot.

751
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 3: That would make that would that would make me a

752
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 3: little upset. My parents, my grandparents are their grandparents. My

753
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:31,440
Speaker 3: parents and Matthew's parents don't live anywhere close Dallas and Georgia,

754
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:36,280
Speaker 3: Dallas and Atlanta, so whenever they coming down, they are donuts.

755
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 3: They were in town last weekend for this event. Saturday,

756
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 3: my dad got them donuts in the morning, took them

757
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:45,359
Speaker 3: for pancakes for chocolate, and pancakes for lunch, and then

758
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:48,320
Speaker 3: when they got home, he was like, we's mice cream Sundays.

759
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:51,399
Speaker 1: I was like, ah, I like this family, Oh my god,

760
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 1: he goes, we want your sugar up. Didn't they crash?

761
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 1: That's not how it works anymore, not at all.

762
00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:59,600
Speaker 2: By the way, your dad sounds like my baby dad.

763
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, we not with ocean.

764
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,280
Speaker 1: Let's have a fruit stay it with me, fruits people,

765
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:09,319
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, well there you go. Yeah, you know,

766
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:10,400
Speaker 1: now you know who my.

767
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 3: Dad is, so I totally get it. By the way,

768
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,160
Speaker 3: it's so fun that, you know what, It's great. I

769
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 3: do let him for the most part to it. But

770
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:19,760
Speaker 3: I can see my husband just churning in the background,

771
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 3: like like pissed.

772
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 1: Off anyway as well just walk around exactly.

773
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 3: And knowing that even if Matthew's like, hey, Jay, do

774
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:31,840
Speaker 3: you mind not feeding them candy?

775
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,240
Speaker 1: It's gonna happen anyways, Like it's just gonna happen.

776
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 2: He's like, just one more, that's my everyone's favorite thing

777
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:39,520
Speaker 2: to say to me is just one more.

778
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, it would work.

779
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 2: If like she had four and we could round it

780
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 2: up to like the five. But when she's had, you know.

781
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: Fifteen cookies, just one more ain't gonna fight. We're done.

782
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:55,359
Speaker 1: What's your stands on social media with your kids as

783
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:58,319
Speaker 1: in like posting them or as then getting one you.

784
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 2: Know what both, where are you at with post and

785
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:02,400
Speaker 2: then where are you at with them having social media.

786
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 3: You know what, I need to do a better job of,

787
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 3: probably not posting them. I've I've kind of taken a

788
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 3: step back because this is my life, like, this is

789
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 3: this is all I do right A mom and I

790
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 3: get a football game, so that so that's kind of

791
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 3: what I post. But you know what, they they were

792
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 3: sick over the playoffs this last year and when they

793
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 3: went back to school, they're like, Mom, how did all

794
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 3: of our friends know we were sick? And I was like,

795
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 3: I'm not expecting their friends to be on social media?

796
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:31,320
Speaker 1: Does that? Parents?

797
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 3: Yes, I think some of them have social media and

798
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 3: oh some of the kids, yes, already they do. But

799
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 3: seven and eight, seven and eight, but I don't like that. No,

800
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 3: it's way too early. So anyways, I I just have to,

801
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 3: I truly need to take a step back and kind

802
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 3: of figure out what that looks like. I've told myself

803
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 3: after we figured everything out, that I would maybe do that.

804
00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 3: But with social media, with them, I'm hoping praying somehow

805
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 3: it is either not banned, but like they really do

806
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 3: put this age limit on it. I do too, because

807
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,279
Speaker 3: it is it is gonna I don't think you can

808
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 3: stop it now. Matthey and I already talked about just

809
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 3: doing like the foot phones.

810
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 2: Total just like just like Mom's number, dad number, Yeah,

811
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 2: where you can group text your friends or whatever.

812
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 3: But but Safari and internet, so no internet and stuff

813
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:29,000
Speaker 3: like that is not available. So it's like, yes, you

814
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:30,959
Speaker 3: can still be in the group chats with your friends,

815
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 3: because I feel like that's what everyone tells me. The

816
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,919
Speaker 3: downside of not giving your kid a phone is that

817
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 3: they tend to get left out of things. Now, I

818
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 3: don't mind that I have four daughters, so like you

819
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 3: get left out, you got three friends at home, I'm there. Yeah.

820
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 3: But at the same time, like eventually they're gonna have

821
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:49,399
Speaker 3: to like when they start driving and stuff, We're gonna

822
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:50,919
Speaker 3: have to know where they are and stuff like that.

823
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,880
Speaker 3: And I'm really hoping this generation, you know how, like

824
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 3: what is it generation? What's the one underneath us? I

825
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 3: don't actually don't know how.

826
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 1: I'm a millenni gen z gen z.

827
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,839
Speaker 3: I feel like they hate trends or they ha like

828
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 3: I feel like it's just getting more and more where

829
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 3: they I'm hoping they'll want to be closed off more,

830
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 3: like they won't be as open this total. They yes, yeah,

831
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:15,319
Speaker 3: it's like trendy to be like incognito or like no

832
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 3: one knows much about me.

833
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,759
Speaker 1: It is also what's in is not drinking, which I

834
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,840
Speaker 1: freaking love. I hope that stays. God for when my

835
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 1: kids sad at that.

836
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 2: Oh but for the kids, my biggest fear is I

837
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:31,279
Speaker 2: sit there and I'm watching these these kids in junior

838
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 2: high in high school, and I'm like, this is very

839
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 2: much the time that they start experimenting going to their

840
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,240
Speaker 2: friend's house, maybe smoking a joint.

841
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 1: Maybe what they're saying that they don't they don't need

842
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:44,360
Speaker 1: to drink.

843
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 2: They're so they want to go. They're very into health,

844
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 2: and I'm like, let's keep that. That's great because Easton

845
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,280
Speaker 2: and I are in the program, so there's no telling.

846
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: If one of my girls picks up, you may have

847
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 2: earned yourself a one way to get into an AA room.

848
00:38:58,080 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 1: Wow.

849
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 3: Okay, I didn't know that both yeah, both of us. Okay,

850
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 3: And how so how long are you all sober for I've.

851
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,960
Speaker 1: Been sober for over no, not at all. I've been

852
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:07,320
Speaker 1: sober for over six years.

853
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 4: Wow, and I'm working on i mean seven months right now.

854
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:13,120
Speaker 3: Oh wow. Congratulations to both of you. Well, thank you,

855
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 3: that's really impressive.

856
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: Well, thank you for saying that. Yeah, you know, I

857
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 1: just know.

858
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 3: I mean, I have family members that struggle with addiction,

859
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 3: so I know how hard it can be.

860
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: It's been great.

861
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 2: Actually, Like drinking, when I think about it, takes me

862
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:30,879
Speaker 2: to a pretty dark place because I really started hitting

863
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 2: the bottle hard.

864
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:35,160
Speaker 1: Same with Easton once our dad died. Okay, so that

865
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: part is.

866
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:41,320
Speaker 2: Fine, But I think about, like, Okay, when my kids

867
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:44,239
Speaker 2: get to that point in time, I have to be

868
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 2: very open with them. Right, if you're going to drink,

869
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 2: there is no version of you driving, getting in the

870
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:52,800
Speaker 2: car with someone.

871
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:53,279
Speaker 1: Call me.

872
00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 2: I will ask zero questions, Yeah, not one question. Just

873
00:39:57,719 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 2: pick up the phone. I will be there.

874
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:01,799
Speaker 1: You don't have to say thing to me. Yeah. So

875
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:02,959
Speaker 1: trying to.

876
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 2: Allow them to have open dialogue with you, which is

877
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 2: I think what keeps me up at night. And my

878
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 2: kids are only ocean turns for next weekend. So still babies,

879
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 2: so says only six months? Oh what real baby, the

880
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 2: real baby.

881
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: Wow real new wow wow wow.

882
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 2: But I'm like, these are the things that keep me up.

883
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 2: When do I allow my kid to have social media?

884
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 2: I don't freaking know.

885
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:28,760
Speaker 3: No, I'm hoping it's gone somehow.

886
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 1: I don't know just like shuts down.

887
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 3: I like, well, you know, you don't know with the

888
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 3: way things trend in these days and how fast things

889
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 3: are new things are made or whatever. Yeah, I just

890
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 3: feel like by the time they're old enough, it'll be

891
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 3: like you just like blink your eyes in your own

892
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 3: I don't know it so hard. No, I know it's

893
00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 3: gonna be weird, but I also I agree with you. You know,

894
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 3: we talked about this, but I was the baby. I

895
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:49,919
Speaker 3: had a brother and a sister, and by the time

896
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 3: my mom and dad got to me, they were just exhausted,

897
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 3: and so we had a very open dialogue. It was

898
00:40:56,400 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 3: very much like, Okay, my parents trusted me to to

899
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 3: know what's right what's wrong when it comes to like

900
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 3: if we went to a party, I would let my

901
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 3: parents know, Hey, I'm sneaking out.

902
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 1: I won't be drinking. I'm gonna be the d D

903
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 1: And they're like, okay, just let us know where you're going,

904
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 1: and when you're back, let me know, not a sneak out.

905
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:17,560
Speaker 1: You know you're sneaking out. I did.

906
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 3: They would be I mean out cold, and I would.

907
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:23,360
Speaker 3: My dad never knew. My dad never knew until literally probably.

908
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: Five years ago.

909
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,160
Speaker 2: He was like you did what, Oh, that's that's awesome.

910
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 2: So you still felt like you were doing something kind

911
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:28,479
Speaker 2: of not yea.

912
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:31,280
Speaker 1: Was my mom was badass?

913
00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 3: So but I will say like I felt like I

914
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 3: was a pretty good kid, and that is because I

915
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 3: had an open dialogue with my mom, could ask her

916
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 3: anything I wanted to and also tell her things that

917
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 3: I would feel like most parents or most kids at

918
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:50,759
Speaker 3: my age during that time couldn't tell their parents right,

919
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 3: and so our house was always the house to go

920
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 3: too because they were like, Oh, your mom's cool with

921
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:57,000
Speaker 3: the reason we were cool with each other's because she

922
00:41:57,040 --> 00:42:00,360
Speaker 3: trusted me to just make right decisions because we had

923
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 3: that open dialogue.

924
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:04,960
Speaker 1: Did you feel like I I have open dialogue with

925
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:05,319
Speaker 1: my mom.

926
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:08,959
Speaker 2: She has shown me that she trusts me. One wrong move,

927
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:10,360
Speaker 2: she ain't gonna be so cool.

928
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:12,879
Speaker 3: I didn't. I did not want to disappoint her like

929
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:15,719
Speaker 3: I She gave me so much tress that I could

930
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:16,919
Speaker 3: not disappoint her right.

931
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:19,320
Speaker 1: And that was my mindset. Whenever we went to parties

932
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:19,840
Speaker 1: and I said.

933
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 3: I was gonna be a d D or whenever, you know,

934
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 3: I would make sure that I stuck to that Because

935
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 3: I don't know, I just if you put that much

936
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 3: trust me, look, and as I'm young too, it means

937
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 3: a lot. And so I didn't. I just didn't want

938
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 3: and you're right, you make one mistake. She pulls those

939
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,440
Speaker 3: reins back real quick. Oh yeah, so that was I mean,

940
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 3: didn't want to disappoint her. Also didn't want the rains

941
00:42:39,239 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 3: pulled back totally.

942
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 2: It's always the parents who are so chill, because I

943
00:42:44,040 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 2: feel like if I end up being that type of parent,

944
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 2: when I've given you such a long leash, retractable as fuck, yeah,

945
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:56,839
Speaker 2: and then you do something, I'm gonna feel betrayed and

946
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 2: now you're gonna witness my wrath. And that's how I

947
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:01,839
Speaker 2: picture my mom. I'm like, I know my mom, she's

948
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:03,320
Speaker 2: so cool. Same with my dad.

949
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 1: But if they're this cool there, that means they're putting

950
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:10,280
Speaker 1: their trust in me. I fuck this up. It's gonna

951
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 1: be scary out of my bad. Yeah no, I totally

952
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: agree that.

953
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:14,839
Speaker 3: I will tell you this is like in a in

954
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,000
Speaker 3: a smaller or in a younger age.

955
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 1: I've done this with my four year old. I'm so tired.

956
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:23,439
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not gonna lie I sucked up parenting this one.

957
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 1: She is love her so much, Tyler.

958
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:31,360
Speaker 3: I love you, but she is probably my worst behaved

959
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 3: child because I did not parent her, and I think

960
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 3: I got tired. And I think as you get older

961
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,600
Speaker 3: and your parenting gets tired, you might get a little nicer,

962
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 3: and it seems nicer at the time, but she breaks

963
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:47,240
Speaker 3: my trust all the time, and so then she gets

964
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:49,919
Speaker 3: you know, the hammer laid down a little bit, right.

965
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:52,319
Speaker 1: But I also blame myself because god, I was a

966
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 1: horrible parent. I just gave her what she wanted. I

967
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 1: was like, stop her from crying. You took something and

968
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 1: challenge it's mine. I'm like, I don't care give it,

969
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:04,800
Speaker 1: you know, just to keep the waters.

970
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 3: I mean, but now she's horrible, so that's I know,

971
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:09,239
Speaker 3: she's not horrible, you know what I mean. She's not

972
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 3: my best behave child.

973
00:44:10,480 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 2: That's fine, you know what, she's the baby. I feel

974
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:16,160
Speaker 2: like even if you did. There's a reason why they

975
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 2: say the baby is always kind of the golden child.

976
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 2: It's not because they're the golden child. It's because the

977
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 2: parents are fucking tired.

978
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, they seem easy.

979
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 2: Just give it to or I don't want to hear

980
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:28,839
Speaker 2: the cry. Yeah, I'm doing this for my own peace

981
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 2: of mind.

982
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 1: It's exactly right.

983
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 3: Like at this point, I'm not parenting for you. I'm

984
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 3: parenting for me one hundred person.

985
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 2: And you know I I would like because I love

986
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 2: what you said. If something starts happening outside, like in school,

987
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:45,359
Speaker 2: people are left out, it's like you've got three more

988
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:47,360
Speaker 2: at home. I want to create that. I want to

989
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 2: create a football team. Yeah, girl, what is that like too?

990
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:55,919
Speaker 1: If it's that's really good, that's really good. Just work

991
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 1: on maybe the backfield or something. What's that mean?

992
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:00,360
Speaker 3: Maybe just like the receivers in the cour rack, that

993
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:00,839
Speaker 3: would be fine.

994
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 1: Are they tall? Yes?

995
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 3: Can you be tall?

996
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 1: Are we? Are we on the same wavelength?

997
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:06,080
Speaker 4: Now?

998
00:45:06,160 --> 00:45:07,919
Speaker 1: Now I'm thinking about my next baby down.

999
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 3: Like do you when you choose uh, sperm donors, you

1000
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 3: see all their like statistics?

1001
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:15,320
Speaker 1: You do? Wow?

1002
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 2: The only thing I opted to not see, which it

1003
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 2: wasn't even an option for this donor. He didn't release

1004
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 2: his adult photos to the picker, which I'm the picker,

1005
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:27,000
Speaker 2: got it. I only saw photos of him as a

1006
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 2: toddler and then like his first school picture, but everything

1007
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:34,120
Speaker 2: down to like his favorite color.

1008
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 1: And there's the largest genetic testing panel that.

1009
00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 2: I had to go through as well, as he had

1010
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 2: to go through. They quarantined them for like two weeks

1011
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 2: before they actually donate. Did you know out of all

1012
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,919
Speaker 2: of the people who decide to donate sperm, only one

1013
00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 2: percent are actually get the green light too?

1014
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 1: Yep? Whoa, Yeah?

1015
00:45:58,800 --> 00:45:59,959
Speaker 3: Is that because of genetic tests?

1016
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 1: Like what they have, genetic testing, it's the they do

1017
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: like drugs and alcohol. They make sure that like you

1018
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 1: are not into that, but also family history. Yeah, if

1019
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:18,080
Speaker 1: your family history shows that, like you don't have the

1020
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: best genes, it can become a kind of sticky situation

1021
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 1: if someone picks a sperm donor and something goes wrong,

1022
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:29,359
Speaker 1: you know, so they've got to be very particular.

1023
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 3: I will say infertility in general, everything you go through,

1024
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:36,440
Speaker 3: that's like the most perfect, Like I think because of

1025
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:38,759
Speaker 3: what you're saying, you're picking a donor or something like,

1026
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 3: but it has to be perfect. It's the only medical field,

1027
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 3: right it thinks they have to be perfect, right, Like,

1028
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:45,879
Speaker 3: even when we are going through it and they tell

1029
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 3: you, you know, this embryo is stage what you know, you

1030
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 3: have these different stages and I'm going I mean, I

1031
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:54,799
Speaker 3: feel like it's incredibly hard to get pregnant with a

1032
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:57,960
Speaker 3: healthy baby, But I do think your body, if you

1033
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 3: do have an unhealthier embry or whatever that might say,

1034
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:02,200
Speaker 3: your body kind of corrects it.

1035
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, but they won't put that in because they know

1036
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 1: they can't take the chance.

1037
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:06,880
Speaker 3: They can't take the chance of it.

1038
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:07,279
Speaker 1: Right.

1039
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:09,680
Speaker 3: But like saying, like, I you know, I think the

1040
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:12,840
Speaker 3: first round I had like nineteen eggs and then we

1041
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:18,239
Speaker 3: got like, I mean eleven embryos, which is a lot four.

1042
00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:22,600
Speaker 1: Where four were like considered viable four out of these.

1043
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:26,200
Speaker 3: And I'm going, holy shit, how do people have healthy babies?

1044
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:27,439
Speaker 3: Like that blows my mind.

1045
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:30,480
Speaker 2: You wonder when you hear all of the stories how

1046
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:33,799
Speaker 2: there's so many fucking people on the planet and who

1047
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:36,320
Speaker 2: are like functioning, going out and like getting jobs inside.

1048
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:40,840
Speaker 3: It's like if you work in the imfertility situation or

1049
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 3: in a clinic, you probably are asking the same thing,

1050
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:44,760
Speaker 3: like how are there so many functioning humans?

1051
00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 1: Yes?

1052
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 2: And no matter what scientific jargon you tell me about

1053
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:54,240
Speaker 2: how a baby is created, No, it is a miracle,

1054
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:58,319
Speaker 2: period it is. You can tell me the science behind it.

1055
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:03,400
Speaker 1: X y M baby. No, No, I agree, miracle it is.

1056
00:48:03,480 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 3: I mean I feel like God like they just it

1057
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:09,120
Speaker 3: all works out while in utero before but it blows

1058
00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 3: my mind blows. In fact, miracle Hunter, our third baby

1059
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 3: came very quickly and as a surprise.

1060
00:48:16,239 --> 00:48:18,040
Speaker 1: I have always heard that that happens.

1061
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:20,359
Speaker 2: It just like, I don't know, do you think it's

1062
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 2: because the hormones are so like on ten or do

1063
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 2: you think the pressure was taken off of you?

1064
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 3: I think both me and I think my body like

1065
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 3: all of a sudden knows what it like, found out

1066
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 3: what it was supposed to do.

1067
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 1: But let me tell you what start.

1068
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:36,480
Speaker 3: The Twins and Kicks started that that was a wild surprise,

1069
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 3: and I like, the twins couldn't even sit up and

1070
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:41,760
Speaker 3: I'm over here, like I didn't want to tell Matthew.

1071
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 3: I was so scared because we again we are new

1072
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:46,240
Speaker 3: parents of twins. Season in the middle of the season.

1073
00:48:46,400 --> 00:48:49,200
Speaker 3: Oh no, And I'm just like, and I don't remember

1074
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 3: if it was a good season or bad season, but

1075
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 3: you know, Detroit, we can guess. And so I I no, no,

1076
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:00,120
Speaker 3: I mean they're great now. They're awesome now. And I'm

1077
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 3: so happy for that town and that organization. They did

1078
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:07,320
Speaker 3: do really well. They're amazing. They have guys. I've got guys, guys.

1079
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:09,400
Speaker 3: So anyways, yeah, I did tell him. I told him

1080
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:10,799
Speaker 3: on Christmas because I was like, I don't know what

1081
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 3: else to tell you this, but so here's your gifts.

1082
00:49:13,680 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 3: He looked at me and goes, are you are you?

1083
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 3: Are you fucking kidding?

1084
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:22,319
Speaker 1: And I was like, Merry Christmas. I mean, now, she

1085
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 1: was great. She's a great baby. That made us go

1086
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 1: for the fourth because she was fantastic. She was so good,

1087
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:28,879
Speaker 1: she was so easy, and I thought it was just one.

1088
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 3: Oh it's one, it's easy compared to the two. Oh

1089
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:34,439
Speaker 3: hell no, Tyler came out that bitch was hard.

1090
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:37,399
Speaker 1: So that immediately was like, and we're done.

1091
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 3: Like Hunter was just a good baby, turned like.

1092
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:44,279
Speaker 2: Immediately tubes tied. Yeahsect to me, we're good over here.

1093
00:49:44,360 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 1: I'm still waiting on the vasectomy.

1094
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:51,400
Speaker 3: Oh oh, listen, this has been a five year conversation,

1095
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:53,840
Speaker 3: not really for three year conversation.

1096
00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:56,160
Speaker 1: What when I retired?

1097
00:49:56,200 --> 00:49:58,719
Speaker 3: You know, he's just lazy. He's not against it. He's

1098
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:00,359
Speaker 3: just like, well, then I gotta take a week off

1099
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 3: for working out or two weeks, I don't remember what

1100
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 3: it is.

1101
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:05,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, guys go to work the same day. Babe, like, yeah, fine,

1102
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 1: just a quick little snippy He'll be pumping weights by

1103
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 1: the next day. Yeah. Right.

1104
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:12,680
Speaker 3: Meanwhile, he's like, I feel like, weren't you gonna get

1105
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:13,680
Speaker 3: your two side anyways?

1106
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 1: I like, no, not if you get No, there's a

1107
00:50:16,120 --> 00:50:17,319
Speaker 1: point where met my two side.

1108
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 3: Say to me, also, I've been opened up three times.

1109
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 3: It's your turn.

1110
00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: I'm tapping out. I'm out this man, right, yeh man, No,

1111
00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 1: let's just before we sign off.

1112
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 2: This man. Most men, all men, all men. Huh, they

1113
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:39,319
Speaker 2: go out, they're being sacked. They're doing X, Y and

1114
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 2: Z to just be like who tough? Right, we kind

1115
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:44,919
Speaker 2: of like lean in on them, like if shit gets

1116
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:47,840
Speaker 2: sticky in downtown La, I got my man with me.

1117
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 2: We give birth to babies pre mentally we are just

1118
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 2: we will. If football were just a mental game, we

1119
00:50:58,239 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 2: would funck shit up.

1120
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:02,719
Speaker 1: Period. Agree, we're shoving humans out of our twats, all right.

1121
00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 2: He's doing all these things and you're asking just for

1122
00:51:06,400 --> 00:51:08,520
Speaker 2: one little snip, and he's like, I just can't do it,

1123
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:11,719
Speaker 2: just one. You know that is I love hearing that

1124
00:51:11,760 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 2: because it's just men.

1125
00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:17,239
Speaker 1: Yes it is. Yeah, but it's he's he's going to practice.

1126
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:24,319
Speaker 1: He's got clinic. They cut through eight layers of you

1127
00:51:24,360 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 1: know what.

1128
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 3: He's got a lot he's an old man in that

1129
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 3: locker room, so he needs that man and he feels like, well,

1130
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:34,360
Speaker 3: I will say one thing, Yes, that's it.

1131
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:36,439
Speaker 1: You're right, probably when he retires with you, But uh,

1132
00:51:36,520 --> 00:51:37,200
Speaker 1: I will say one thing.

1133
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:39,279
Speaker 3: It's pretty awesome. You watch him out there and he's

1134
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 3: a different person on that football field that even I know.

1135
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:44,120
Speaker 3: Like they show him in the huddle and I'm like, whoa,

1136
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 3: this is yeah, turn super hot. I'm like, oh yeah.

1137
00:51:49,680 --> 00:51:53,120
Speaker 3: And then he comes home after a gameer after being

1138
00:51:53,160 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 3: this manly man in the locker room, he comes home

1139
00:51:55,080 --> 00:51:57,359
Speaker 3: to these four little girls and he is the ten,

1140
00:51:57,640 --> 00:52:01,840
Speaker 3: so tender and so sweet to them. It really is

1141
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:04,280
Speaker 3: incredible to watch. Like I love him as a football player,

1142
00:52:04,280 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 3: but him as a girl dad is the biggest turn

1143
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 3: on the wall, which is why he needs to get snipped,

1144
00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:12,279
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.

1145
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm tapped out on the turn. I can't be.

1146
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 1: I need more turned on than I am right now. Yes, agreed.

1147
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 2: Let me ask you one more question. What is it

1148
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:23,239
Speaker 2: like in your household when there is a big game?

1149
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 2: What is it like for the both of you before

1150
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:29,359
Speaker 2: the big game? And let's just say he comes home

1151
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 2: and it's a loss. What does that look like?

1152
00:52:32,360 --> 00:52:34,680
Speaker 3: Okay, so I will tell you before a big game.

1153
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:38,000
Speaker 3: I mean he is very good at compartmentalizing. I think

1154
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:40,799
Speaker 3: that has come with age. When we learned Detroit, his

1155
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 3: first few years, it was very much football football. Even

1156
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:46,759
Speaker 3: when he was home. Kids do that too, you know,

1157
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:48,920
Speaker 3: they pull you out of it totally. So before a

1158
00:52:48,920 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 3: big game, I mean, I tell you before the super Bowl,

1159
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 3: it was the Super Bowls in town, so it made

1160
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:56,440
Speaker 3: it completely different. Like he was there until the night

1161
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:57,920
Speaker 3: before the game, and he went to stay the hotel

1162
00:52:58,000 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 3: kind of like a normal game totally. Normally teams are

1163
00:53:00,960 --> 00:53:02,879
Speaker 3: there for a week or so or two weeks before

1164
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 3: the two rule, staying in hotels and whatnot. But he,

1165
00:53:06,680 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 3: you know, he's the most calm, cool and collected person

1166
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:12,520
Speaker 3: I know. So before games, it is very normal in

1167
00:53:12,560 --> 00:53:16,439
Speaker 3: our house. I mean, I like, we carry on as if.

1168
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,200
Speaker 3: I honestly don't even really remember a time in the

1169
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:22,080
Speaker 3: past four years that it's been oh yeah, there's a

1170
00:53:22,120 --> 00:53:23,920
Speaker 3: really big game that we can like we need to

1171
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 3: like take the stress off of Dad or whatever. He's

1172
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:30,160
Speaker 3: just kind of a normal dad now. After the games,

1173
00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 3: big games, loss, it depends on when it is in

1174
00:53:33,600 --> 00:53:36,160
Speaker 3: the season where their record is if they're suck.

1175
00:53:36,360 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 1: We went one and four at the beginning of last season.

1176
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 3: That was hard, Okay. He just felt defeated and but

1177
00:53:42,800 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 3: had to keep going and like lift the guys up

1178
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:48,840
Speaker 3: a little bit. He had been in these predicaments before,

1179
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 3: again not throwing shade Detroit, but we had. He'd been there, right,

1180
00:53:52,440 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 3: and so I believe he told shown he's like, we're

1181
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:57,239
Speaker 3: gonna we're gonna win out or you know, we're gonna

1182
00:53:57,239 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 3: make playoffs, and they did.

1183
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 1: But that first stretch I remember being.

1184
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:05,799
Speaker 3: Like, God, this sucks because it's just an overall mentality.

1185
00:54:06,120 --> 00:54:10,040
Speaker 3: He's trying to be, you know, a good positive man

1186
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:13,680
Speaker 3: in this house, but what is another very important thing

1187
00:54:13,719 --> 00:54:15,319
Speaker 3: to him? Has not been going well?

1188
00:54:15,600 --> 00:54:15,799
Speaker 2: Right?

1189
00:54:16,040 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 3: And I will say, like, if it's a one game

1190
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,880
Speaker 3: and it's kind of like well, or if he played bad,

1191
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 3: he is very I will say the girls have to

1192
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 3: be around.

1193
00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 1: I want the girls around. They make him take his

1194
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 1: mind off it immediately.

1195
00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 3: They don't care about football. They asked Doddie, will you

1196
00:54:32,440 --> 00:54:34,600
Speaker 3: help me draw this? And he'll sit down and it

1197
00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:36,239
Speaker 3: kind of takes it away from him. He's like, you

1198
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:39,440
Speaker 3: know what that is in my in it's my job.

1199
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:41,440
Speaker 3: At the end of the day, that is a job,

1200
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:44,160
Speaker 3: and this is kind of what's important. And he's very

1201
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 3: like I said, he's really really good compartmentalizing that whole thing. Yea,

1202
00:54:48,560 --> 00:54:50,279
Speaker 3: where in the past he wasn't. He used to lock

1203
00:54:50,360 --> 00:54:52,360
Speaker 3: himself in the bedroom when they lost. We would have

1204
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 3: guests in Detroit and he would just be like.

1205
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 1: I'm out, I got him deal. Yeah, And I was like, Okay, well,

1206
00:54:57,640 --> 00:55:00,000
Speaker 1: I guess I'll just sit out here and I'll handle it. Yeah.

1207
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, But his turn the corner and I will say

1208
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:04,480
Speaker 3: that's age and due to our children.

1209
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:06,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1210
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 2: But I think it's also a huge testament to how

1211
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:10,880
Speaker 2: you are as a wife. I think he knows that

1212
00:55:11,080 --> 00:55:16,480
Speaker 2: you you are and I firmly believe this. When you

1213
00:55:16,520 --> 00:55:19,840
Speaker 2: see a happy, healthy functioning home, of course it's two people,

1214
00:55:20,560 --> 00:55:24,160
Speaker 2: but I believe that it's when a man looks at

1215
00:55:24,160 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 2: the worth of his wife or his life partner, mother

1216
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:30,680
Speaker 2: of his children, because you really have to keep it

1217
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:33,920
Speaker 2: together for the household, right You're holding down the kids

1218
00:55:34,440 --> 00:55:37,240
Speaker 2: even though you may not even know it. You're trying

1219
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 2: to take pressure off of him because you know where

1220
00:55:39,560 --> 00:55:41,879
Speaker 2: his mind needs to be during the season I think

1221
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:44,960
Speaker 2: it's incredible what you do. I'm so happy that you

1222
00:55:45,000 --> 00:55:48,080
Speaker 2: have your podcast because you've got your thing, which I

1223
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:51,040
Speaker 2: think is very important. I just loved having you on

1224
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 2: the podcast today.

1225
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:54,880
Speaker 3: This was so fun, so easy, right, I had a

1226
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:57,879
Speaker 3: great time. Yeah, besides the traffic getting and I don't

1227
00:55:57,920 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 3: know beside this has been that.

1228
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:03,480
Speaker 1: I know, are you fought? Are you're in Sherman Oaks?

1229
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:05,799
Speaker 3: Okay, so not far but not enough.

1230
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:09,240
Speaker 1: I mean it's far. I mean like every La everywhere

1231
00:56:09,280 --> 00:56:09,480
Speaker 1: is far.

1232
00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 2: Everywhere in La, whether I want to come here or

1233
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:14,760
Speaker 2: to the grocery store that's a mile away, thirty minutes

1234
00:56:14,840 --> 00:56:15,279
Speaker 2: plan on.

1235
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:17,800
Speaker 3: It wild, Yes it is, but you know it's totally

1236
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 3: worth the hour and a half drive. I really enjoyed

1237
00:56:20,520 --> 00:56:21,120
Speaker 3: it today.

1238
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:24,560
Speaker 1: Wow, I had no idea. Thank you so much. Please

1239
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: you said so honored.

1240
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 3: It's nothing.

1241
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:30,040
Speaker 2: Thank you guys, you guys, thank you so much for

1242
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 2: listening to another episode of the Give Them While a Podcast.

1243
00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:35,480
Speaker 2: We will catch you on Monday for the bonus and

1244
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:36,400
Speaker 2: then again Wednesday.

1245
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Speaker 1: Hi y'all,