WEBVTT - Sam: Part 1 - Abuelita Works Security… at Sam’s Club 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:08.360 Have you had a few dates but don't know why 0:00:08.400 --> 0:00:11.840 they fizzle out, not getting a text back and don't 0:00:11.880 --> 0:00:15.480 feel like going ghostbusters? Is your family asking when you're 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:19.040 going to bring back somebody home. If you've turned to 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:21.480 your Ahalita for help in the past, maybe she can 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:21.960 help again. 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:22.280 Now. 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:26.320 This is Date My aw Walita First, where our fabulous 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:30.960 Awalita Liliana plays matchmaker for our star dater and three 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:35.200 lucky contestants looking for Awalita's stamp for approval. 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:40.400 Let Aurita soul of your dating worlds and turn them into. 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:45.400 I am your host, Vico Ortiz, joined by our lovely 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:46.360 Aulita Li. 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:54.040 Lalita Vicoso Totos meets me at this I am so 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:56.760 so beyond excited to help you love Brits, find all 0:00:56.880 --> 0:00:58.840 the love you're looking for. 0:00:58.880 --> 0:00:59.040 And. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:02.639 I love it. I will eat that. Today's main dat 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:03.840 is Sam. 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:07.040 Sam has been single for three years and is just 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:11.560 flat out tired of the ups and downs of using apps, 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.880 either talking so much on them that there's this like 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:17.600 preconceived notion, or talking so little that it's like do 0:01:17.680 --> 0:01:18.679 you even want to meet me? 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:21.520 Please? Let me tell you. I have never had to 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:23.800 deal with apps. I'm too old for that. There were 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:27.479 no apps back in the time, but maybe things were 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:30.880 going to be a little simpler before, you know, there 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.400 was like you don't have to worry about anything online, 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:36.400 or maybe they're just a little too easy right now. 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:40.199 I can't imagine how I handle having a billion singles 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:41.800 on my fingertips. 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:44.280 I know, I feel like you, you would totally be 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:46.400 into that. I mean you you're looking for a husband 0:01:46.480 --> 0:01:49.960 number six, so I feel like you might want to 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:51.440 get on the apps ilually eat that. 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:54.760 Let's bring in Sam. 0:01:55.400 --> 0:02:00.200 Sam is a self proclaimed star personality, a little bit 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:04.120 more extroverted and once someone who is okay letting them 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:08.680 shine just a little bit more. Sam's own grandparents seem 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:12.799 to be confidants in their love life, so Sam's got 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:15.440 a lot of trust in the power of a Walitas 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:17.639 already Welcome Sam. 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:18.440 What's up. 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:20.239 Hi? 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:24.000 How's it going so great? So great? 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:24.400 Sam? 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:26.119 Tell us a little bit about who you are. 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.400 Obviously we know your name, but your age, What sparks 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:32.840 joy in your life? What foods you hate, you love, 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:34.960 et cetera. Three fun facts. 0:02:35.240 --> 0:02:38.679 Okay, so I'm twenty eight years old. What sparks joy 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:42.440 like painting art? I lived in Chicago for a really 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:44.960 long time, so I really miss like that walkable city. 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:46.560 But I just can't do snow anymore. 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:49.919 A food that I really hate I hate mashed potatoes, 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:52.839 which is like a very like everyone kind of gives 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:56.720 me shit for that. I work in photo management. I 0:02:56.800 --> 0:03:00.160 really love anything creative and yeah. 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:03.040 Love love love, Oh my gosh, thank you for that intro. 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:04.799 How I need that? 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:07.840 I am so ready for Sam? Are you ready for 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:09.800 I need that? Are you ready? 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:10.680 I'm ready? 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:13.360 Well, my love, I want to ask you a very 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:18.160 importante question. Please, why are we all here today? Because 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:23.560 we want to find love just a dating relationship, a 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:27.519 casual encounter. What does Sam want? 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:30.640 Just like out the gate, I'm like a monogamous person, 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:33.680 like down, you know what I mean. Like I've definitely 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:37.720 been single for like yeah, the three years. I'm newly sober, 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:41.440 so that's another thing that's like just like had me 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:44.400 way more clarity in life. I'm like open to a 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:47.120 relationship with the right person. I'm also open to like 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:51.720 friends of benefits. Like I guess I'm just pretty open 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:54.600 definitely like on the hierarchy of needs. If I meet 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:58.240 someone and like we connect, I'm one like ready to 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:01.880 be with someone, but I'm also down to like just 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:03.480 meet someone and we like have fun. 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:05.800 What are those qualities you're looking for. 0:04:06.720 --> 0:04:10.640 I definitely want someone that's affectionate, someone that's like really 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:18.160 open minded, and someone dependable reliable I guess like slash, 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:20.400 someone who could like speak their minds. 0:04:21.160 --> 0:04:24.159 That sounds wonderful. But there's one thing I want to add. 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:28.640 Congratulations and being sober. Oh thank you, what an amazing 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:31.680 thing to do. Yes, absolutely, I love that. 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:34.760 Okay, just said you've been zinicle for three years. How 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:36.520 was that last relationship? 0:04:36.520 --> 0:04:38.760 What are some things that you've learned from that, things 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:41.599 that you definitely want to for sure like continue to 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:43.400 work on, or the things that you're like, actually, I've 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:45.560 learned that I don't want that anymore. What were some 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:47.520 of those like educational moments. 0:04:47.960 --> 0:04:50.040 I think like an educational moment for me was that like, 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:53.200 even like the past few relationships, I would rushed into 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:56.400 relationships just to be with somebody just because like they 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:58.720 like really liked me. And I was like, oh my god, 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:01.599 like someone's best quality to me is liking. 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:02.520 Me, you know what I mean? 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:04.799 So I was like, oh, the fact that like they're down, 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:07.200 I was like, really attracted to that, and of course 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:08.960 I was attracted to them at the point, but like 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:12.520 there were just things where like because like I wasn't 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:15.080 mature enough and like self aware enough to know that 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:17.599 like more for more or less words, I couldn't like 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:19.800 just change somebody to be who I want them to be. 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:22.480 I just have to accept somebody one percent for who 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:25.080 they are or don't. Those are things that like I've 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.880 learned in the three years of being single, and something 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:30.120 that like if I can go back and like talk 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:32.120 to ex'es, that would be something that I would like 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:34.480 own up to and like you know, kind of make 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:36.560 amends with absolutely. 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:41.279 With that in mind, how do you see yourself now 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:45.280 approaching conflict? How do you want to handle repair? 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:48.800 I definitely just want to like have that open stream 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:52.760 of communication about like if someone if I hurt someone's feelings, 0:05:52.800 --> 0:05:55.039 like not taking that personal and just like being like, 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:57.919 oh I'm more now like instead of like taking a 0:05:57.960 --> 0:06:00.599 personal white hurts someone's feelings, I'm like great for the 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:04.159 opportunity to like hear someone out and like learn from that, 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.679 because like hurting someone's feelings isn't the end of the world. 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:07.640 It's just going to happen. 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:09.239 I feel that so hard. 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:13.479 Having friendship conflict along the way has really helped me, 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:18.800 you know, like kind of have that groundwork for relationship confrontation. 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:21.480 How do you go about communicating your needs? 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:26.400 I'm a pretty direct person. Yeah, I'm pretty like I 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:29.480 want this. Are you okay with that kind of person? No? 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:30.080 No? 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:30.240 No? 0:06:30.400 --> 0:06:30.640 Did? 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:33.440 I just like I lose my patience with like indirectness, 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:34.320 Like I needed to. 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:35.080 Kind of be blunt. 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:39.599 You know, there's a blunt with you. I love it. 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:41.440 I'm like very attracted to that. 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.840 Tell me one thing, you are ready for a relationship? 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:45.400 I am. 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:46.120 Yeah. 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:48.920 So what is the most serious relationship you've ever had. 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:52.920 I've had like three various serious relationships that have all 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:54.440 lasted around two years. 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:55.480 Oh wow. 0:06:55.880 --> 0:06:58.440 The first one, I was like eighteen and he was 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:00.560 like twenty six, So that was just kind of like 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:01.560 going to end. 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:04.640 Yeah you know, yeah, fair, but it was serious. 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.560 And then the second one was just kind of like 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:09.120 that first queer relationship, It. 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:10.000 Was kind of just like. 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:14.600 And then the third one of my most recent kind 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:17.840 of like during lockdown, spending all that time together just 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.400 have me realizing that, like we are not a. 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:25.040 Match where you go have a dating with this person. Yeah, gotcha? Oof. Yeah, 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:25.800 I feel that. 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:28.120 A lot of relationships went down the drain. 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:30.560 So I moved to La, like after we broke up 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:33.240 from where Chicago? 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:33.800 Right on? 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:36.000 I know you've been single for three years, but have 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.640 you been actively dating? Have you been going out? Has 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:39.840 been the dating scene for you in La? 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:40.960 Yeah? 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:44.760 I like dat around. I like him on the apps? 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.880 You know, I don't love the apps. 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:50.840 Are you had the approacher or the approach he I 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:52.160 approach definitely. 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:55.840 Yeah, I'm definitely attracted someone that would approach me. 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:57.000 I love that. 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.320 An ideal date would it look like would you be 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:03.680 the one preparing it or would you allow somebody to 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:04.520 prepare it for you? 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:05.280 What's the vibe? 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:07.840 I would love someone to prepare it for me because 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:11.160 I am someone who usually prepares everything. It's like I'm 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:14.440 not very much like the prepare the planner. I'm just 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:16.000 like I'm a boss. 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:18.440 Like if you're the approacher, then you are doing it 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:19.440 all exactly. 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:21.800 So like when someone is just like a bigger boss 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:24.960 than me and like takes control of that, I'm just like, Wow, 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:27.000 that's like very like horny to me. 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:33.280 Yes, yes, I love that word. I'm amazing. I love that. 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:35.480 What does it mean? No, I'm kidding. 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:38.120 I'll tell you when you're older. 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:39.520 Oh yes, I. 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:41.079 Do. 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:46.520 Check this out. You have three matching tattoos with your exes. 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:49.040 I do, Yeah, I do. Did you do it because 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:52.880 things felt so sure or just because you're always down 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:55.680 for a new tad or anything like I have. 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:58.760 Zero comitment issues, I would say, yeah. Like I'm just 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:02.400 like because to me, every relationship that I'm in, I 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:04.719 don't plan on breaking up until it happened, you know 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:05.040 what I mean. 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:06.720 Like it's not like I'm like this is going to end. 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:09.120 I'm just kind of like it may end, it may not, 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:10.280 but who cares? 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:12.040 Like you know what I mean? For now? 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:13.240 Like who cares? 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:16.199 I have one here that's like very faded because it's 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:18.800 just pink. But it was just like an ear. Oh 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:20.920 like just like an ear, but like we both. 0:09:20.760 --> 0:09:23.679 Got it like pay attention or what what was the 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:24.079 ear for? 0:09:25.800 --> 0:09:28.040 Like posted flash? And we were both just like hanging 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:30.200 out and we just were like, oh, we should both 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:34.720 get this. And then I have like these dog cherries 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:37.400 that I have with my most recent ex we just 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:41.400 like like dogs and we got that. Oh my god, 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:43.000 do you mind if I take my pants off. 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:47.400 And show you, please do it to our listeners. We 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:48.880 are having a great time here. 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:55.880 So I have I love here. Oh my god, yes, yes, 0:09:58.720 --> 0:10:01.800 oh my goodness to meet him, Oh my god. 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.439 And it's like so it's a very fun when we 0:10:05.559 --> 0:10:08.720 got bad together, just because it was like a Friday 0:10:08.800 --> 0:10:10.320 the thirteenth special. 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:14.560 So none of them really mean anything, but they all 0:10:15.040 --> 0:10:16.679 were just fun. 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:19.240 I really want to know if Sam and I are 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:20.480 getting a tat together. 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:25.400 I meant tattoo. She's finishing for a tongue at that through, 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:26.280 so maybe you'll get. 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:29.320 To oh gorgeous, I'm ready. 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:31.920 I love it. 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:35.559 Well, thank you so much for being here with us, Sam, 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:39.680 We appreciate you sharing a bit of yourself. I will 0:10:39.720 --> 0:10:41.559 need that is going to do her best to keep 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:45.040 you off those damn apps, So just go ahead and 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:47.040 book your tattoo apointment. Well, I want to eat that 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:51.319 works her magic. I'm ready know, Mosiae, I will eat that. 0:10:51.520 --> 0:10:54.280 What do you think we're looking for in Sam's partner? 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:58.720 A person who's affectionate, a person who's monogamous, A person 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:03.120 who is would be very nice so they can compliment 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:05.960 each other in that way. They want to take their 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:10.120 time and have fun and find love. So we're here 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:11.439 for them. Absolutely. 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:14.679 I think definitely someone who's very intentional, someone who's a 0:11:14.720 --> 0:11:17.720 go getter as well just as a hard worker, someone 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:21.000 that can stand their own and don't like mashed potatoes. 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:24.160 Absolutely yeah, no need for mas potatoes, no need for meshatas. 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:27.720 All right, when we get back, we'll start our round 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:34.680 of guffeschitos. Gonna wili that welcome back today, my hourly 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:35.200 the first. 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:40.600 All right, I think it's time to let our three 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.200 contestants into our Liita's. 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:46.840 House for a little speed date action. Let's get our 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:48.280 little guffercito going. 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:53.720 Oh, Anita following, fill up these thatsses already this stuff? 0:11:54.040 --> 0:12:00.120 All right, Oliita, it's meat Skyler. What's good? Skyler? Tell 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:00.959 else about yourself. 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:05.239 Hi, I'm Skyler, I use him, and they then pronouns 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:10.839 I'm a graphic designer and illustrator and I like to 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:13.600 foster and rescue CAATs. Oh also, I'm twenty e twy 0:12:13.640 --> 0:12:14.600 seven cute. 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:18.079 I love that, well a pleasure, Skyler. 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:21.319 I'm gonna go ahead and pass you off to I 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:23.800 will lead that for a guffe seat those speed date 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:25.880 go ahead, I will lead them take it away. 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:27.240 How are you, my love? 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:28.360 I'm good. 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:32.280 How are you? I am well? Thank you? You are adorable. 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:35.520 Oh just say that and get it out of the way. Okay, 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:40.080 let's ask you a few personal questions, like what kind 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.400 of person have you been dating so far? And what 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:44.800 is it that you're looking for? Something different? 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:48.839 I guess mainly what I be core is that people 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:53.000 are kind and interesting. I find myself dating people that 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:55.560 have like sort of different interest than me a lot 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:57.599 of the time as well, just because I like to 0:12:57.679 --> 0:13:00.720 hear people talk about what they're passionate about. So as 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.240 long as somebody is, you know, kind of like enthusiastic 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:06.800 about the world and they like to learn think about things, 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:08.480 that's the kind of person I'm into. 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:13.599 Have you been dating a lot lately or not so. 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:16.199 A couple of years ago, I got out of a 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:20.719 pretty serious relationship and I've been dating casually since then, so, 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:23.640 you know, like seeing I guess a good amount of people, 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:27.199 but not very seriously, especially since I just moved from LA. 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:30.640 So what was serious about it? And how long did 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:31.080 it last? 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.480 We were together a couple of years and we were 0:13:34.640 --> 0:13:35.679 actually engaged. 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:39.280 Oh my goodness, you know, things happen for a reason 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:42.120 in life. It's all good, you know. We learn from 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:45.760 every experience. Now, what are you looking for right now? 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:50.040 I'm looking for somebody that I guess just to share 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:53.640 my life with. I don't necessarily need to be hyper committed, 0:13:53.760 --> 0:13:55.439 but I like to have a partner, you know. I 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:58.240 like to have somebody who could like participate and kind 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:00.520 of be along for the ride of what I'm doing. 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:04.880 Okay, now, you mentioned that you are not close with 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:05.520 your family. 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:09.560 Correct, not super close to know. We're kind of working 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.839 on it. But when I first came out, we had 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:16.640 sort of a rough few years and we're kind of 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:20.960 in the process of preparing that relationship that I'm not 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:25.400 particularly close to them yet. I guess there's just kind 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:28.440 of some like tess that has to be rebuildable where 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:31.520 they're kind of allowed back into my personal life. 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:34.520 And I'm sorry about that, but I'm very happy that 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:37.760 you guys are working on it, because the most important 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.080 thing that we are trying to do here is to 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:43.480 help people understand what is going on that at the 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:45.760 end of the day, we are all human and we 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:49.880 all just want love company to be accepted for who 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:53.160 we truly are, so I commend you for moving on 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:57.400 and trying to repair that relationship with them. You did 0:14:57.520 --> 0:15:00.240 say that you have found a lot of life love 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:05.480 and mentors from the LGBQT community. What has that been about. 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:07.520 Let's see. 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:11.760 I mean, I came out as transgender when I was fifteen, 0:15:12.080 --> 0:15:14.920 which is super common for people in my age range. 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:19.600 So I experienced a couple of years of instability, we'll 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:20.000 call it. 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:22.160 And I don't know that I. 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:25.160 Would have made it through without my community. When you're 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:29.080 coming from kind of a vulnerable, marginalized group, like really 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:32.160 what you have as each other and so I was 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:35.800 really supported and looked out for by people from my community, 0:15:36.280 --> 0:15:39.400 and so I really aspire to do that for other people. 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:42.920 You know, my home is always open. I'll do whatever 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:44.120 I can to help other people. 0:15:44.520 --> 0:15:48.040 Okay, Scylar, you're making me cry now. No, my heart 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:51.160 is very open to everything that you are saying, because 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:55.640 it is absolutely imperative that this world opens up and 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:59.600 accepts everyone for who they truly, truly are. I'm very 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:02.120 proud of you, and I'm very happy that you found 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:07.320 that comfort in others, especially in your LGBTQ community. So 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:10.960 thank you for that. Another question is go a little 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:15.760 bit happier times here. No, hello, hello, hello, Oh I 0:16:15.960 --> 0:16:19.560 like this one. You mentioned that being a pretty clean person, 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:24.880 down to the point of disassembling the toilet to clean it. Now, 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:27.200 do you need a person in your life that is 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:30.440 like that? It would you settle for something lesser than that? 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:34.960 I definitely don't need a person to be on my level. 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.840 The several of my friends have informed me that maybe 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:40.280 my habits are a little out of the ordinary when 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:43.480 it comes to clean and I'm not particularly picky about 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.720 like chores or anything, but you know, sort of like 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:50.359 a base level of cleanliness and hygiene is very important 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.760 to me. I can be a little a little bit 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:54.880 hussy about that. 0:16:55.200 --> 0:17:00.760 They're so funny, just that little bit. No, let's talk 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:05.000 about the fact that you work with animals. Oh yeah, 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.560 you work in a doggy daycare. Correct, So I just 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:09.040 left that. 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:12.920 Job actually, and now I'm all time with illustration and 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:13.720 graphic design. 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:16.760 Again, that is amazing, Good for you, thank you. 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:20.560 But yeah, I got started working in animal care pretty young, 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:22.720 like when I was twelve, I started volunteering at the 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:25.560 main society, and then all through art school I worked 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:28.200 at different doggie daycares and then I just kind of 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:30.720 finished up in others then with a doggy daycare. 0:17:32.000 --> 0:17:34.440 That's all the time we've got for this scuff I 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:38.600 seed though, thank you for coming by Ahwalita's house, Skyler. 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:40.200 We'll talk very very. 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:41.960 Soon, thank you, Skyler. 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:45.439 All right, next up, Awalita, meet Destiny. 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.560 Tell us a bit about who you are, your name, 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:54.160 your age, where you're from, what you're doing, your zodiac sign, 0:17:54.200 --> 0:17:56.320 if you want to share that too, go for aight. 0:17:56.960 --> 0:18:00.879 Okay, Hi, I'm Destiny. I am twenty four. I've been 0:18:00.960 --> 0:18:03.680 in LA for five years. My grandparents raised me, and 0:18:03.720 --> 0:18:07.159 my grandpa was in the military, so army bra is 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:07.560 the term. 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:11.119 So I lived in Texas, Utah, Germany, Colorado, and then 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:14.080 I went to high school there, came here to pursue acting. 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:17.159 So I love, you know, acting, I love poetry, reading 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:20.440 any sort of creative things, painting, that sort of thing. 0:18:20.840 --> 0:18:21.800 And I'm a Scorpio. 0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:25.600 Fuck yes, I really Okay, God tell us about Scorpio. 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:27.920 It's they're one of my favorites. 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:31.440 All right, Destiny, I'm gonna hand you over for a 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:34.720 little guff I see those speedy that they get. 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:38.960 Away, Okay, Destiny. I was reading a little bit about 0:18:39.000 --> 0:18:41.760 your bio, and I have to tell you, I was 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:44.600 pretty touched by the fact that not only you are 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:48.760 three years sober, yes, but did you actually work at 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:52.280 a nightclub? Yeah? Tell me how that has been in 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:52.879 your life. 0:18:53.400 --> 0:18:55.719 Honestly, at first, I think it was a little bit 0:18:55.800 --> 0:18:57.280 harder to transition into it. 0:18:57.840 --> 0:18:59.879 But I think I have good coping skills. 0:18:59.920 --> 0:19:02.560 I have like a good I don't know, just my 0:19:02.680 --> 0:19:04.720 life is better, so it doesn't it's not as tempting. 0:19:04.800 --> 0:19:06.520 You know. I go there just to work, and I'm 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:08.280 at work and that's kind of how I view it 0:19:08.320 --> 0:19:10.280 and then I leave it there. But yeah, a lot 0:19:10.320 --> 0:19:11.680 of my friends, you know, they still like to go 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:13.440 out and do all that, and I'm just kind of 0:19:13.760 --> 0:19:15.800 I'm like, I'm here with my water or my Red 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:18.359 Bull or whatever. But I'm still very like outgoing. I 0:19:18.480 --> 0:19:20.840 like to dance and do fun things. I just yeah, 0:19:20.920 --> 0:19:22.600 don't need alcohol to have fun anymore. 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:24.600 Good for you, Very proud of you. 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:25.080 Thank you. 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:26.960