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Speaker 1: Get ready because class is almost in session. Welcome to

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Speaker 1: the TVG University podcast, tailored for the twenty something who's

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Speaker 1: packing for a new year on campus, thinking through their

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Speaker 1: gap year, enrolling in a community college, grabbing their souls

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Speaker 1: for graduation, and everything in between. I'm your host and

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Speaker 1: TVGU coordinator Jana Ellis.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm sorry, Taylor. We'll return to Jena right after

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Speaker 2: the break.

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Speaker 1: The most exciting time of an undergraduate school year is

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Speaker 1: tiar y'all, and no, I'm not talking about Halloween or

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Speaker 1: the in of mint terms.

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Speaker 3: It's homecoming season, a.

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Speaker 1: Time for tailgates, parties, special performances, yard shows, and, of course,

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Speaker 1: for postgrads like me, the chance to reconnect with all

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Speaker 1: my besties from undergrad. When it comes to homecoming, there's

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Speaker 1: so much to talk about, whether it be the dues

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Speaker 1: and dunce i'm networking with alumni, the importance of staying

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Speaker 1: safe when hopping from after party to after party, and

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Speaker 1: even how to afford all the events that are occurring.

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Speaker 3: Joining me today.

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Speaker 1: To discuss this and more is tbg's associate podcast producer,

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Speaker 1: Zaria Taylor. Let's dive into the third edition of our

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Speaker 1: TBG Girl Chats.

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Speaker 3: Hey, Zariya, Hey girl, how are you.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing all right. I'm feeling a little daunted by

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Speaker 2: the fight. Hurricane Helene has gone through my immediate area.

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Speaker 2: My power has gone out, my WiFi has gone out.

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Speaker 2: Ah while I'm going through midterms, so it's a lot

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Speaker 2: going on. And on top of that, this is like

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Speaker 2: way minor. But my hair and my nail appointment got

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Speaker 2: canceled because of the weather, and I was really looking

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Speaker 2: forward to both of them. I was going to wade

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Speaker 2: not look it's real, real bad. But she taked me.

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Speaker 2: She was like, there's been an ambroillery about floods. You're

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Speaker 2: not going to risk your life for these braids. So

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Speaker 2: I was like, I had to accept it. So, yeah,

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Speaker 4: But how about you.

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Speaker 3: I'm doing good.

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Speaker 1: I'm not experiencing any of that, but I am experiencing

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Speaker 1: a little bit of the rain and wind. But being

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Speaker 1: season anymore. But I appreciate everyone down south fighting the

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Speaker 1: good fight. I hope everyone is safe. I hope everyone

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Speaker 1: has the resources they need because hurricanes are no joke.

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Speaker 1: They're no joke.

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Speaker 3: But though that list, braids will come.

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Speaker 4: They will.

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Speaker 2: But lord, I've been without my hair dup for too long.

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Speaker 3: I know the feeling.

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Speaker 2: I know the Yeah, we could have a whole conversation

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Speaker 2: on hair depression, but we're not going to go there today.

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Speaker 3: Yeah we're not.

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Speaker 1: But I wanted to check in, like, how is the

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Speaker 1: semester a Spelman going so far?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: So, as I mentioned, this week is my mentoring week

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Speaker 2: and it's been a lot on top of the hurricane.

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Speaker 2: And you know what, I was actually really happy. I

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Speaker 2: canceled because of the hurricane because I just needed this

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Speaker 2: I'm only taking four classes, but I'm doing a lot

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Speaker 2: So I needed this break. Shout out to Hurricane Helen,

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Speaker 2: pushback because the work isn't piling up, but I'm surviving.

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Speaker 2: So that's how my semester's going. But how has this

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Speaker 2: season of postgrad life been treating you?

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Speaker 1: It's been treating me well. Our last girl chat, we

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Speaker 1: it's you versus you. Like it's no more you're peers

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Speaker 1: it's you versus you, and you're the one encouraging yourself

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Speaker 1: every day. That picture of the black woman getting out

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Speaker 4: Much I know exactly what you're talking.

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Speaker 1: Yes, tired, malnourished, that's mentally how I've felt. But I'm

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Speaker 1: but everything that I prayed for, everything that I asked for,

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Speaker 4: Well, I love that for you.

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Speaker 2: It sounds like you're stepping into a new season of thriving,

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Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 1: But before we get into our main conversation for today,

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Speaker 1: can we do a quick little pop culture rundown?

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Speaker 3: Catch up? What's on your feed right now?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: So I'll say I've been seeing a lot of stuff

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Speaker 2: there was a whole controversy with Tyla and her you

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Speaker 2: know what I'm talking about with Yeah, no board to

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Speaker 2: like Halle a little. I scrolled right past that. I

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Speaker 2: really was like, y'all are making step up, y'all are bored,

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Speaker 2: Like why are we arguing about this?

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Speaker 4: So I'm just completely tapped out. You know who else?

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Speaker 2: I keep seeing a lot on my timeline Chappelle Roon.

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Speaker 4: I'm so sorry. I just can't, and she's.

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Speaker 2: All over my timeline and I just get into it,

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Speaker 2: Like I'm over I'm so over it. I don't care.

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Speaker 2: That's really what's been all my time, a bunch of bs.

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Speaker 4: Let's about right, what about you?

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Speaker 1: And then I want to note, like Offset, that was

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Speaker 1: like he tried to like play her. That's his ex wife,

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Speaker 1: But I also have had so many negative moments, like

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Speaker 1: If there's any positivity, to just click on the comment

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Speaker 3: But I also have been.

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Speaker 1: Seeing the Tyla and Halle controversy, which all of the

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Speaker 1: gen Z millennial news channels that talk about pop culture

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Speaker 1: It was just exhausting and at this point with Hollywood

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Speaker 1: it's just exhausting. Y'all are drama queens, Like it's too much.

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Speaker 1: But I also did not watch the VMAs because if

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Speaker 1: Beyonce's not performing, then why am I watching it. The

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Speaker 1: VMAs have not been the same since then, so there's

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Speaker 1: no needs for me to engage at all.

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Speaker 4: Do you have any Halloween plans?

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Speaker 1: I feel like an old lady now. I just pass

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Speaker 1: out candy to little kids, but it's so much fun,

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Speaker 1: like they're so cute, and kids are just when they're cute,

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Speaker 1: looking forward this year just passing out candy. I never

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Speaker 1: was a type like in college, I went to Halloween parties,

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Speaker 1: but something always happened on Halloween, either rain or I

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Speaker 1: something like always happening for me to never get a

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Speaker 1: real Halloween during college, so I just retired from trying

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Speaker 1: and I just pass out candy now, But what about you.

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Speaker 2: I might be entering my college party era this Halloween

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Speaker 2: because fun fact, I'm a junior and I've never been

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Speaker 2: to a college party, and people judge.

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Speaker 3: Me so bad for that.

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Speaker 2: People are surprised when they hear that, and there are

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Speaker 2: various reasons behind it. But I might be entering my

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Speaker 2: era this year because Michael Rainey junior from the show Power,

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Speaker 2: who plays Threek, He's having a party in Atlanta, and

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I might have to I might

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Speaker 4: So I got my little free ticket off event. Right.

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Speaker 2: We'll see if I end up going or not, but

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Speaker 2: scary movies candy.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, well there's no judgment coming from me. But like,

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Speaker 1: really quick, why haven't you gone to a party in college?

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Speaker 1: What's your take on like party culture? Because I think

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Speaker 1: that's really important to talk about because not everyone parties

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Speaker 2: For me, I am not like a drinker or a smoker.

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Speaker 2: I'm a wall hugger. I'm not going to be out

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Speaker 2: like in our current generation, I've seen too many people

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Speaker 2: even let go and have fun. And on top of that,

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Speaker 2: rape culture, having to worry about safety, things of that nature.

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Speaker 2: So those are mainly the reasons I've just never been

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Speaker 2: a part of your period. So let me just say

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Speaker 2: that as well. But I just don't find any incentive.

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Speaker 1: And I respect that, and I think I totally agree.

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Speaker 1: As a partygoer, I definitely can respect that. And I

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Speaker 1: think that there's a lot of black girls in college

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Speaker 1: who are made to feel bad, Like I said that,

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Speaker 1: they don't want to participate in party culture and all that.

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Speaker 1: But I'm excited for your Halloween. I feel like it's

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Speaker 1: going to be good and we'll see it's gonna be

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Speaker 1: a good party. A free event by a party has

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Speaker 1: me a bit worried, but I'm excited for you.

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Speaker 2: Excited, just gonna vibe exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: So we're here today to discuss all things homecoming. To start, Azaria,

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Speaker 1: can you share for those who may be unfamiliar, what

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Speaker 1: a typical homecoming consists of.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so college homecoming is basically just like a huge

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Speaker 2: family reunion or you're having people of all ages who

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Speaker 2: basically just having a huge party. They're connecting with people

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Speaker 2: who they haven't seen in years, who are their classmates,

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Speaker 2: and there is tailgating. There is usually a homecoming football game,

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Speaker 2: And then there's a comedy show, there's a fashion show.

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Speaker 2: Is there anything I misschaning that you add?

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Speaker 1: I feel like outside are looking in because I did

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm only speaking for UNC Chapel Hill.

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Speaker 1: Experience traveling to other pwis for homecoming. If I Butcher

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Speaker 3: That's where everyone goes to.

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Speaker 1: Like the girls don't go to the game for real,

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Speaker 1: that's similar to HBCU culture. Still you're coming back for

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Speaker 3: So you can see.

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Speaker 1: Old alums, new alums, like recent grads, like all that jazz,

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Speaker 1: But as black students, we create our own fun and

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Speaker 1: In My favorite, favorite favorite HBC homecoming is hands down

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Speaker 3: I don't care like Central is so much fun.

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Speaker 1: I have so much respect for all Eagles, Like being

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Speaker 3: It's just a good vibe.

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Speaker 1: And a very homey vibe. And I always respected that.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I might have to pop out.

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Speaker 2: I haven't traveled to any other ones because I'm still

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Speaker 1: But yeah, the girls, the girls do have fun there

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Speaker 1: Like is it the same weekend? Is that why you can't.

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Speaker 2: Go or the auc kind of does it altogether gotcha.

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Speaker 2: And I'm not really tapped into the Georgia asps to

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Speaker 3: So yeah, and that's a lot of money too. That's awesome.

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Speaker 3: So then that the girls don't talk about homecoming.

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Speaker 4: We're gonna get into that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, we are, we are so Spellhouse homecoming is

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I have stories for both.

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Speaker 2: For the good, my freshman homecoming was hands down such

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Speaker 2: All the other events were cool as well, but nothing's

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Speaker 2: It was absolutely trash. The hip hop concert was a

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Speaker 2: And then our Neo Soul concert, the headliner was Division No,

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Speaker 2: I didn't really participate in homecoming last year, so that

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Speaker 4: So we'll see what junior year has to bring.

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Speaker 1: And I'll say, like, I remember seeing that on my

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Speaker 3: Like, oh my God, like to be there before he

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Speaker 1: But I'll say my senior year homecoming has to be

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Speaker 3: And to see our alums.

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Speaker 1: we sew. And a lot of people came back that year.

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00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:34,800
Speaker 1: I think at you and C, it's a hit or

436
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:36,920
Speaker 1: miss if people are going to come back. That's one

437
00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:40,000
Speaker 1: thing you can take from a PWY homecoming is you

438
00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 1: don't know if everyone's coming back. I feel like at HBCU,

439
00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,359
Speaker 1: nine times out of ten everyone's coming back. I feel

440
00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:47,879
Speaker 1: like at you and C, like I'm not going this

441
00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:53,280
Speaker 1: year because it's not my homecoming like I went last

442
00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:56,639
Speaker 1: year because I graduated that spring. So I think a

443
00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:59,679
Speaker 1: lot of us think like that because it's like again,

444
00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 1: you have to pay for the flight, you have to

445
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:02,520
Speaker 1: pay for the fit, you have to pay for the hotel,

446
00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:04,800
Speaker 1: to pay for the car, pay for all the activities

447
00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 1: you're doing, and if a lot of your friends aren't going,

448
00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:12,399
Speaker 1: what's the point of going. Whereas other schools, I feel like, no,

449
00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:15,240
Speaker 1: you're just gonna go because that's what you do. And

450
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 1: me coming back for homecoming was pretty boring. I'm not

451
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,400
Speaker 1: gonna lie like coming back to campus was pretty mid

452
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:27,200
Speaker 1: I didn't like coming back, honestly. I feel like if

453
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,800
Speaker 1: I came back years later, I feel like it would

454
00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:31,920
Speaker 1: it had more of an impact on me. But I

455
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:34,119
Speaker 1: did enjoy seeing my friends that I hadn't seen in

456
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:35,920
Speaker 1: month because I moved to a couple of states over.

457
00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:38,160
Speaker 1: You know, I got to chop it up with some

458
00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:41,639
Speaker 1: other alumps see how they're doing. But homecoming also bread

459
00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:44,760
Speaker 1: a lot of anxiety for me coming back to campus

460
00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:48,200
Speaker 1: because everyone's trying to like not one up each other,

461
00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:50,800
Speaker 1: but you're trying to see like what are you doing?

462
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:51,720
Speaker 3: Okay, what am I doing?

463
00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:53,840
Speaker 1: And you know what I mean, and being postgride in

464
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:55,439
Speaker 1: that when you're still trying to figure out your life

465
00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 1: was semi intimidating for me.

466
00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:59,720
Speaker 2: That makes me think of the fact that I feel

467
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 2: like they're is an idea that the older you get,

468
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,200
Speaker 2: like coming back to homecoming is like lame, Like let

469
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:07,720
Speaker 2: go of your glory years kind of vibe, and so

470
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 2: I'm curious what you think about that. As somebody who

471
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 2: is proscrad and you've mentioned that you're not going to

472
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 2: go this year, I'm wondering do you have plans to

473
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:16,199
Speaker 2: continue engaging in future years? And do you feel like

474
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:17,960
Speaker 2: there is such a thing as being too old for

475
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:19,159
Speaker 2: homecoming tee.

476
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 1: That's a good question. I feel like that's a hot topic.

477
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 1: I feel like my friends and I talk about this

478
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:26,359
Speaker 1: so much about being washed up, and we also have

479
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:28,800
Speaker 1: like a fear of being embarrassing. I think for me,

480
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,160
Speaker 1: I've already established that I don't need to come back

481
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,560
Speaker 1: to like my campus, and I also want to put

482
00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 1: it out there. No one's waiting for me to come back.

483
00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:37,119
Speaker 1: No one's rolling the red carpet out Like I'm not

484
00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:38,680
Speaker 1: thinking that at all. I never know, you know what

485
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 1: I mean, Like I'm not over here, like oh my god,

486
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:43,239
Speaker 1: I'm not coming back until no one cares. But I

487
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:45,640
Speaker 1: think for me, I'm not going to come back into

488
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:50,159
Speaker 1: like my five years of graduating or my lines like

489
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:53,800
Speaker 1: fifth year. That's the only time I would consider coming back.

490
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:57,439
Speaker 1: And that depends on planning, that depends on life that

491
00:22:57,480 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 1: depends on money. I didn't see me going to homecoming

492
00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 1: important after the last one I went to, I got

493
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 1: my little dispel picks, I put on my fit, I

494
00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 1: said hi. But my friends and I establish that we

495
00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:15,439
Speaker 1: can just plan a trip of the friends we wanted

496
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 1: to see at homecoming aside from being back in Chapel Hill.

497
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,000
Speaker 1: And so that's the mindset we're all in is we

498
00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:25,199
Speaker 1: should be seeing each other so frequently enough throughout the

499
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,239
Speaker 1: year that we don't feel like we have to go

500
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 1: to homecoming. And I feel like throughout the year post homecoming,

501
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:32,639
Speaker 1: we made that a priority. Like I saw my friends

502
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 1: once a month all year, and if I didn't, it

503
00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:37,480
Speaker 1: was every other month. And I don't feel like I

504
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,520
Speaker 1: need to go to homecoming to see them. I can

505
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 1: just come back to North Carolina like any time. But

506
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 1: I do think at YOUNC like I hate to say this,

507
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 1: but there are some people who will come every year

508
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 1: like you're never taking you and see from them like

509
00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:53,400
Speaker 1: you're never gonna take being a guitar heel like they

510
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:54,400
Speaker 1: love you and.

511
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 3: See like love it, love and love and love love it.

512
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,400
Speaker 1: And I feel like I don't feel that all the way,

513
00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:00,679
Speaker 1: Like I love my school, but I don't have this

514
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 1: crazy pride for my school. I felt like my circle

515
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 1: was small enough for me to just travel to my

516
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 1: friends when I need to, Like I don't have that

517
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 1: connection or tie to my university like that anymore. So

518
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 1: I do feel like there is a thing of being

519
00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:16,679
Speaker 1: washed up. And I feel like for the old heads,

520
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 1: it's cute, that's fine. If you graduate in the nineties

521
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:22,160
Speaker 1: in the eighties, I'm not taking enough from you. That's

522
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 1: a legacy, that's history, Like you walked a pack.

523
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 3: I never had to.

524
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:28,679
Speaker 1: But I feel like the recent grads, like in the

525
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 1: twenty tens, we don't.

526
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 3: Have to come every year, Like we do not have

527
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,159
Speaker 3: to come every single year. But that's just me.

528
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:35,879
Speaker 1: I'll throw it back to you really quick, like, what

529
00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 1: do you think is there such a thing as being

530
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 1: washed up?

531
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 3: Going back to campus?

532
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 2: I feel like this a lot of my interactions with

533
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 2: alum as an undergrad during homecoming, A lot of alum

534
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 2: really acts like they still run the campus and like

535
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 2: they use this time to time travel back into their

536
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,680
Speaker 2: old cells when they were undergraduates and have the same

537
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 2: crew around them and kind of just for I don't

538
00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 2: want to say pretend, but play this role of like

539
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 2: they're still undergrads again and they're like the top dogs

540
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 2: on campus, and because they're older than you trying to

541
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 2: I don't want to say, boss you around, but just

542
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 2: act a certain way that I personally don't appreciate.

543
00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 4: I'm just gonna be honest.

544
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:16,119
Speaker 2: During my interactions during tailgate and my freshman year, I

545
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 2: had a lot of negative interactions with alum who're just

546
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 2: like rude and they feel like because you're younger than them,

547
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,440
Speaker 2: or because you're still a student over the old heads,

548
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 2: so we get to act this way. And sometimes you

549
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 2: just gotta let it rock because they lived that fantasy

550
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,440
Speaker 2: and they have the right to write like they did

551
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 2: their time, and they do get a little of respect

552
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 2: because the fact that they're older than you, right, I

553
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 2: believe that, and so sometimes you gotta let it rock.

554
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 2: But I did have a lot of rude interactions, and

555
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:45,439
Speaker 2: I think sometimes alum need to consider that this is

556
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 2: not your campus anymore, Like this is not your time anymore.

557
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:51,720
Speaker 2: Your time has ended, and it's okay to let the

558
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:55,440
Speaker 2: new students have their time to soak in this experience,

559
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,400
Speaker 2: Like I feel like another example is when alum try

560
00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:00,959
Speaker 2: to get into the concerts and stuff like that, and

561
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 2: it's like there's a limited amount of seating, so like,

562
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 2: I feel like there should be priority for the students

563
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 2: who are experiencing this for the first time. And I'll

564
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 2: be honest, I also had experience where I was getting

565
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,840
Speaker 2: cat called by Oh and I'm just like, well, I

566
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:16,880
Speaker 2: thought this was unity, like their family reunion. I thought

567
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 2: this was like black magic. I thought we were all

568
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,640
Speaker 2: in this together. I thought we were a family, and

569
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 2: they were just as rude as anybody else had me

570
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 2: on the street. So and that's not all of my experiences.

571
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:27,880
Speaker 2: I've had great experiences with the Love where they'll put

572
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 2: some money in your account. There are a lot of

573
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 2: very sweet alum, but there are others who just are

574
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 2: very much caught up in the fantasy of being back

575
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 2: in school, and for some of them, this was their

576
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 2: peak in their life and now they're not necessarily experiencing

577
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,680
Speaker 2: that same glory, so when they come back, they get

578
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:45,679
Speaker 2: like an ego trip. And I understand how I'll let

579
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 2: it rock, but yeah, that's my opinion on I'm coming

580
00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 2: back like just well, like know your role. Hi, I'm sorry, Taylor.

581
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:55,720
Speaker 2: We'll return to Jana right after the break.

582
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 1: How can alump specifically make sure they're not stepping on

583
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 1: the toes outside of giving space, is there anything else

584
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: they can do? Because I also feel like homecoming is

585
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:16,439
Speaker 1: marketed for alumps. And then when I was a student,

586
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 1: people are like, homecoming is not for the students, it's

587
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,360
Speaker 1: for the alumps, And after graduating, I do agree with that.

588
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 1: I do agree with that because y'all are in college.

589
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:28,360
Speaker 1: You have the weekly parties, you have the weekly functions.

590
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 1: We're in the nine to five world where that's not

591
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: the norm. And so I'm curious, like what tips would

592
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: you give for those individuals coming back that want to

593
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 1: relive their college days because college was fun and lighthearted

594
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 1: and they didn't have to stress about the woes of

595
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 1: the world. So like, what would you say as a student, now, you.

596
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 2: Know, yeah to this, that's real, that's real because it's

597
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,680
Speaker 2: in the name right homecoming, like it's about coming back home.

598
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 2: It is marketed towards and I think also a lot

599
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 2: of reasons for that is because a lot of colleges

600
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 2: use this has the time to try and get more

601
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 2: donations when all the alum come back. So yes, partly

602
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 2: I do feel like it is for the alum. I

603
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 2: think the time for the alum to really go up

604
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:12,719
Speaker 2: is the tailgate. Absolutely, hang out with your crew. Obviously

605
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 2: yard shows. Yes, they're gonna be front in line because

606
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:16,640
Speaker 2: a lot of them are part of these same lines

607
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 2: that they're watching and they're supporting whatever everything else. I

608
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 2: feel like you should step back a little bit when

609
00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 2: it comes to trying to mix into things that are

610
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:26,120
Speaker 2: like primarily student marketed. I feel like you should back

611
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 2: up a little bit. Yeah, and also I feel like

612
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,120
Speaker 2: all alum should come to home coming ready to open

613
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,960
Speaker 2: their purse to the students and support the fact that

614
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 2: we are still struggling. We're going to tap into the

615
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 2: financial aspects of homecoming. I feel like you should come

616
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:41,720
Speaker 2: back ready to give some money, support the current student.

617
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: I feel like that is geared towards like the big dogs,

618
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 1: because I'm I am definitely not opening my pocket any student.

619
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 3: I am still working on me.

620
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: Like, respectfully, you cannot if you graduated two to five years,

621
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 1: don't expect that.

622
00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 3: But if that's five plus years, open up the pockets.

623
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 2: There is like a vision of alum who are just

624
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 2: five years out versus the old.

625
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 1: It's a huge difference. There's a huge difference, cause five

626
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 1: years out is pushing it as well. But when you

627
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 1: get to the eighties, you're not gonna take homecoming from them.

628
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 3: So it's like you have to move around not move

629
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 3: around them.

630
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 4: But I feel like you just have to have grace.

631
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 1: Yes, you have to have grace and know your boundaries

632
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: of not allowing people to can't call you, like saying

633
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 1: appropriate things, like all those things that go into protecting

634
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 1: yourself as a student. Now you have to bring that

635
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 1: back up because there's more strangers on your campus. But

636
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: I want to segue to networking. Networking is often talked

637
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 1: about as something you should do during homecoming, especially with

638
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 1: successful alum But how do we feel about that? Is

639
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: there a best way to go about networking during homecoming?

640
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: And is getting involved in business in some way spoiling

641
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,680
Speaker 1: like that fun culture of the event.

642
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 2: I am of the view that it does spoil it

643
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 2: a little bit because I know me personally. If I'm

644
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 2: having fun with all my classmates who I haven't seen

645
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,120
Speaker 2: in year, and some young undergraduate comes up to me

646
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 2: and it's like I want a job, I would be

647
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:06,480
Speaker 2: annoyed by that. And I do think with networking period,

648
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 2: regardless of the occasion, you do have to toe the

649
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 2: line between kind of begging for a job and then

650
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:13,680
Speaker 2: just showing genuine interest in someone. Right when you're a

651
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 2: networking you should automatically come up to somebody and be like,

652
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 2: tell them everything that you need from them. It's more

653
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 2: so about starting a conversation and building a relationship with

654
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 2: this person so that way when the function is over,

655
00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 2: you can count on them to remember you later for

656
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 2: different opportunities. So that's how I personally like to go

657
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 2: about it. I was told by a professor to print

658
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 2: out like business cards and pass them out to people homecoming,

659
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 2: and I just feel like that's not it. And you

660
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 2: also have to keep in mind I'm thinking about tailgate

661
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 2: because that's when I see most alum at.

662
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 4: These people are drunk, like they're having fun.

663
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not really a place for you, as somebody

664
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 2: who doesn't even know these people, just off the virtue

665
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:49,840
Speaker 2: of y'all both being from the same school to go

666
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:51,720
Speaker 2: up to them and be like begging for a job.

667
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:53,920
Speaker 2: I feel like it's more so about coming to homecoming

668
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 2: with the attitude that I want to build relationships with

669
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 2: people who have gone to the same school as me.

670
00:30:57,960 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 2: I want to get to know them and their journey more,

671
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 2: and I'm going to start up a conversation with them

672
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 2: if it lands in us exchanging LinkedIn's, that's perfect. If

673
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:07,400
Speaker 2: it don't and don't, but I just feel like you

674
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 2: have to remember your intentions. And again, my priority does

675
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 2: have fun if it naturally comes up to where I'm

676
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 2: talking to alum and they're asking me about my career

677
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 2: interest and yeah, let's talk about it. But I'm not

678
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 2: really going to be the one to bring it up

679
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 2: for real because I just feel like it's not the time.

680
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 4: But that's just my thoughts. But I'm curious what you think.

681
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 1: I guess that the professional in me is like, yeah,

682
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 1: like network but like realistically, to your point, how are

683
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:28,440
Speaker 1: you networking?

684
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 4: Listen?

685
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: I could have done a lot more networking during my

686
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: time of college.

687
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 3: I didn't know how to.

688
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:33,480
Speaker 4: I didn't know.

689
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 1: The power of it. I got told the term so

690
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 1: many times. It was like a mute term to me,

691
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 1: like it didn't matter, like how many times.

692
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 4: You said it.

693
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 3: I didn't do it.

694
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 1: But I'm thinking now as I talk about it out loud,

695
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 1: the networking might be for like the grads because as

696
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: a student, to your point, you're just having fun, like

697
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 1: you're just in it. You're getting your burger, you're getting

698
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: your chicken from the cues, you're getting your hugs from

699
00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 1: the aunties who haven't seen you, grew up with you.

700
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: Like you're not passing out business cards. And maybe they

701
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 1: did that back in the day and that worked well

702
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: for them, but I think now our generation, like you're

703
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: getting Instagram, you're getting socials, and then maybe afterwards your

704
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 1: following up. But as a grad, I think homecoming can

705
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,960
Speaker 1: be really useful to leverage, like when'd you graduate? Okay,

706
00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 1: I graduated in here? What do you do now? And

707
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: I feel like that's an easier transition to network while

708
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: y'all are both drinking. I feel like that makes sense

709
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 1: because I feel like as a student, not to say

710
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 1: you shouldn't network, but I really think you could have fun,

711
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't have to be business all the time.

712
00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 1: And maybe for some people it is that serious, and

713
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 1: I respect that because we don't know everyone's past college.

714
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: But I feel like we don't have to network at

715
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 1: all points of our lives. And I feel like this

716
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 1: is a weekend or a week or two that you

717
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 1: can have fun and not network. But I think if

718
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 1: you graduate, you're coming back, then you can leverage when

719
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 1: you graduated what field you're in now and having genuine

720
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 1: conversations and not necessarily networking.

721
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 3: I don't think that.

722
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: Those two have to be the same thing, because you'll

723
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 1: be surprised what so many lums do, Like I'm the

724
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 1: VP and they're.

725
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 3: Older, like they're in their career.

726
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 1: Like I'm the senior VP of City Bank, and it's

727
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 1: like real, like I'm an associate, Like how did you

728
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 1: do that? And I think that's how you quote unquote network.

729
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:20,080
Speaker 1: But I don't feel like you have to put so

730
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 1: much pressure on It can just be a conversation at

731
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 1: a football game, at a tailgate, no business cards, no

732
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 1: linkedins unless they're older. Again, unless you're graduating in the eighties, yes,

733
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 1: get the LinkedIn, get the email.

734
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 3: But if they're like new.

735
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 1: School, get the Instagram, follow up with the DM, get

736
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: the LinkedIn, follow up with the DM.

737
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 3: If you want, keep it chill.

738
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 1: I don't feel like it has to be so much

739
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 1: pressure to find your job at homecoming. I just don't

740
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:47,080
Speaker 1: think that's realistic to put that much pressure on yourself.

741
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 2: And that also made me think about the fact that

742
00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:52,240
Speaker 2: there are so many companies now who are coming into

743
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 2: these homecomings having their own booth, and I know I

744
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 2: feel about that. During my freshman homecoming HBO Max, I

745
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 2: think have their own like huge section and we're out

746
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 2: there trying to like network and get people to be

747
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 2: interested in jobs. And then Stacy Abrams was there doing

748
00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:08,479
Speaker 2: like political stuff. There were several political organizations out there,

749
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 2: and I'm just like, what happens is fun. Like I

750
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,840
Speaker 2: don't want to sound like I'm not engaged with the world,

751
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 2: because I am, but I don't know. I just feel

752
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:18,279
Speaker 2: like it tanks to experience a little bit, and it

753
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 2: almost feels like manipulative, Like you're coming into the space

754
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 2: where you know there's going to be a lot of

755
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,919
Speaker 2: black people, and so you're using this opportunity to try

756
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 2: and get whatever your numbers are for your company, and

757
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 2: it just turns into like a career fair And I

758
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 2: just don't think it's supposed to give that.

759
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 4: I feel like it's supposed to give party, fun, family.

760
00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 2: But now we have these companies coming in that are

761
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:37,799
Speaker 2: trying to like get you to sign up for their

762
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 2: job board, Like I don't like that.

763
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 1: So yeah, and the companies are going hard like I

764
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:47,800
Speaker 1: don't know when Nike and like all those big companies

765
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 1: really started like leveraging HBCU homecoming culture and profiting off

766
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 1: of it, and of course using black artists and typical

767
00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: HBCU grads. But I feel like there was a shift

768
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:02,399
Speaker 1: in years where where everything was like, oh, yeah, we're

769
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 1: going to be at this HCU homecoming, you should like

770
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:07,399
Speaker 1: go to our booth. And it's like, wait, when did

771
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:10,840
Speaker 1: this shift happen? Because I felt like homecoming was just fun.

772
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 1: But I think that's just this generation of college Like

773
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 1: maybe that's the norm now and people are wanting to

774
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 1: put their businesses and their brands in the eyes of

775
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: college students during that weekend, maybe when they know they're

776
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:23,840
Speaker 1: more relaxed.

777
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 3: Who knows.

778
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:29,280
Speaker 2: Hi, I'm sorry, Taylor. We'll return to Jana right after

779
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 2: the break. So we've touched on this a little bit

780
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 2: throughout the conversation, but now we're about to get into

781
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 2: the meat and potatoes. Let's talk about the spending that's

782
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 2: associated with homecoming. So we already know when homecome is

783
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 2: about to arrive. We're on fashion over on all of

784
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 2: our pretty little thing. We're on all of these websites

785
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 2: trying to get our outfits together for the various events,

786
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 2: and then you have to pay for the events themselves.

787
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 2: The tickets are not cheap. And on top of that,

788
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:03,319
Speaker 2: for things like tailgate, you got to secure your plate.

789
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:05,399
Speaker 2: You got to make sure that you're well fed. So

790
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:07,799
Speaker 2: for all of these various costs that we know are

791
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 2: associated with homecoming, I'm wondering, what are your personal tips

792
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:12,840
Speaker 2: when it comes to navigating those and how did you

793
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:14,759
Speaker 2: navigate those when you were in college?

794
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 1: So I think the food caught my attention for a

795
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: few seconds. But the cool thing about when I was

796
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 1: in college again, I don't know, mighta change, But when

797
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:28,480
Speaker 1: I was in college, tailgate plates didn't cost anything. It's

798
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,879
Speaker 1: free food. You just pull up. And if you good

799
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 1: relationship with the frat, the old heads.

800
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 4: You speak yep, yep.

801
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:36,399
Speaker 3: You need to.

802
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: Speak, You need to say hi, you need to be nice,

803
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 1: you need to talk, open your mouth and speak, you

804
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 1: might get a plate. And you know, if you were

805
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 1: over the age of twenty one, an alcoholic beverage like

806
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:51,399
Speaker 1: you might get that. And the alums are paying for all,

807
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:54,240
Speaker 1: like so much money into that food. So they're providing

808
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:57,319
Speaker 1: free food for the campus. So never had to really

809
00:36:57,360 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 1: worry about food. I think the biggest way to like

810
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:02,800
Speaker 1: do homecoming on a budget is to get your outfit

811
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 1: months in advance. Don't wait on that and like try

812
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 1: to exput out your shipping. Don't do all of that.

813
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,760
Speaker 1: Reuse outfits, like you don't have to have a fresh

814
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:14,680
Speaker 1: fit for every day you're there. You can reuse outfits.

815
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 1: No one's seen you. It's okay, you don't live on

816
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: campus anymore, you're straight. I also think hitting up people

817
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 1: who you know still live in the area to stay

818
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:26,360
Speaker 1: with them. I think that was a big thing for me.

819
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 1: I was not going to pay for like lodging. That

820
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 1: was never going to happen. I was gonna hit up

821
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 1: my friends. Can I crash on your couch for two days,

822
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 1: like I'll survive. Like the flight was enough, but if

823
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 1: you are coming out of state, like making sure you're

824
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:42,440
Speaker 1: budgeting like the flight or like the gas, because that

825
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 1: really can add up. And also taking time off of work,

826
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 1: like making sure that you have the money to do

827
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 1: it and not take a loss, because we're not taking

828
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:54,839
Speaker 1: losses financially just a party, Like we're too grown. We're

829
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 1: too grown for that. So thinking ahead, booking everything ahead

830
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 1: was like really important west me and her go together

831
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 1: very bad. Two free check bags will do it for

832
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,440
Speaker 1: me every time, Like you're never taking her from me,

833
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 1: But I think again, Like I booked that month in advance,

834
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:14,399
Speaker 1: I got my outfit months in advance. I make sure

835
00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:17,919
Speaker 1: when I graduated a couple weeks later, when my friends

836
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 1: are like, I miss you so much, I'm like, yeah, girl,

837
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 1: well let's make sure I have a spot at your

838
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 1: house for homecoming. And like, I plan that month in advance,

839
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 1: so there was no confusion on that. So it literally

840
00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 1: is just making sure you have the finances to do

841
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:35,759
Speaker 1: it without putting yourself into debt because it's not worth it.

842
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 1: Like maybe it is for some people, but I don't

843
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:40,880
Speaker 1: think it was worth it for me to go into

844
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 1: debt for seventy two hours of fun. But I'm curious,

845
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 1: Like for you as a student, do you have any

846
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:48,840
Speaker 1: tips financially for students.

847
00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'll also start with the food point. So

848
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 2: everything you said was absolutely correct. You will get a

849
00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 2: free play, but you do need to talk to be full,

850
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 2: Like these are old heads. They want you to show

851
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 2: your manners. They want you to be like, hi, how

852
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,560
Speaker 2: are you? They want you to talk speak if you

853
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 2: want your plate, point blank period. And as we already

854
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 2: touched on, the fraternities have the best food.

855
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 4: They really do. The queues stay on it.

856
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 1: With oh my God, the Moorehouse cues chicken today, the

857
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:20,240
Speaker 1: honey on the chickens cut out to the Moorehouse cues

858
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:21,799
Speaker 1: that is the best chicken.

859
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 2: Of They throw down, they throw down. But like I said,

860
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:26,799
Speaker 2: you do need to speak. You can't just go up

861
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,320
Speaker 2: and expect a free play. Like these are different organizations.

862
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 2: You do have to work your way in there to

863
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 2: get your plate. You got to earn that plate. You

864
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 2: don't get for free. Really, you got it. You gotta

865
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 2: talk to get your plate. So I agree about that point.

866
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 2: When it comes to outfits, I just feel like you

867
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,200
Speaker 2: need to rewear all stuff if you're worried about paying,

868
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:45,000
Speaker 2: and don't let the fact that you don't have an

869
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 2: outfit stop you from going out, because like you're gonna

870
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 2: miss out on so much. I want to our welcome

871
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 2: gym in my pajamas. I swear to God, true story.

872
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 2: I went in my pajamas because I'm just like it's

873
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 2: between me either not going because I don't feel like

874
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 2: look for outfit, or I go and I go dress

875
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:03,759
Speaker 2: true to myself. So I went, I had a great

876
00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 2: time in my pajamas and that was that, and I

877
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 2: didn't care. So I just like, don't make such a

878
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 2: big deal out of having an outfit, Like it's not

879
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 2: that big of a deal for real. And then we

880
00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 2: didn't really touch on the events and the costs for

881
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 2: each event. The only thing I can really say about

882
00:40:17,040 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 2: that is that some schools I know. At spell House,

883
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 2: we have like little packages, so if you get the

884
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 2: tickets for all of the events at once, you'll get

885
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 2: a discount compared to doing like individual events. That's the

886
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:27,919
Speaker 2: only thing I can really tell you for real, because

887
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 2: they do be checking who has their ticket. They don't

888
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 2: play about that. I save your money in advance, like homecoming,

889
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:36,040
Speaker 2: hap is the same time every year, it's Occtober. You

890
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:38,040
Speaker 2: know what's coming. So if you want to go, save

891
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 2: your little one hundred and fifty at spell House, that's

892
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 2: how much you really need to get in.

893
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 3: One hundred and fifty dollars for all the events.

894
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:47,919
Speaker 2: Yes, it's the fashion show, the comedy show, the hip

895
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 2: hop concert, the Neo soul concert, and then they have

896
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:52,239
Speaker 2: the student concert and the chance.

897
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:54,000
Speaker 3: Oh they're making a part of it.

898
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:54,879
Speaker 4: They are.

899
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 1: And what's really sick is that on top of tuition,

900
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 1: I think that's in God, that's the sick part for me.

901
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,279
Speaker 3: That's interesting, unrealistic for.

902
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:04,840
Speaker 1: A lot of students too, who are paying out a

903
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,320
Speaker 1: pocket for college exactly exactly.

904
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:08,760
Speaker 4: And that's why I was last homecoming.

905
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 2: I really had to ask myself do I want to

906
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 2: pay this much money to see a little dirt And

907
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:14,400
Speaker 2: the answer was no. The answer was no, and I

908
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:16,000
Speaker 2: had a great time in my dorm room. I saw

909
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 2: it all play out on Instagram and I was like,

910
00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:19,719
Speaker 2: thank God, I didn't pay for this. And sometimes it

911
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 2: is better to just pay for individual events if you

912
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 2: know that you're not.

913
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 4: Going to go to all of them.

914
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 2: And then another thing I wanted to touch on is

915
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 2: make sure you're not getting scammed, because there was one

916
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:29,720
Speaker 2: year I had to call it my bank and dispute

917
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 2: a charge because I had paid for tickets online. It

918
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 2: was like event bright and it was not the right

919
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:37,799
Speaker 2: ticket a lot of times. Because the tickets do sell

920
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:39,839
Speaker 2: out in spellhouse, you want to be the first one

921
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,359
Speaker 2: to get it, but just make sure that you're using

922
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:44,720
Speaker 2: the right links and don't get scammed because that happened

923
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 2: to me. Luckily I got my money back, but that

924
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:48,360
Speaker 2: did happen.

925
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:50,240
Speaker 1: To a lot of scamming does occur because you're swapping

926
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: your car and not really thinking about life. I'm a tapper.

927
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 1: I'm just tapping my phone and not really thinking. So

928
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 1: I definitely need second that do not get scammed during homecoming.

929
00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:01,879
Speaker 1: It will make the homecoming not worth it. A minor

930
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:04,479
Speaker 1: inconvenience can really throw off the whole thing. It really

931
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:08,280
Speaker 1: can throw the entire thing for me. So don't get scammed.

932
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 2: Thank god I got my money back, or else I

933
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:12,239
Speaker 2: wouldn't have been going nowhere as you should have.

934
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 1: So let's switch to like safety at homecoming, from the

935
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 1: crowded tailgates to the wall to wall parties that we

936
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 1: talked about earlier. It's important to always be mindful of

937
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 1: your surroundings. So what other general tips you have for

938
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: making sure you stay safe during these festivities on campus.

939
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:34,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, so, as we already mentioned, I can't speak to

940
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 2: the party aspect, but what I will speak to is

941
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 2: tailgate because what happened in my freshman tailgate was that

942
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 2: the way it was set up like that, much like

943
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 2: barricades and gates around right, and it's like huge, Spellhouse Homecoming,

944
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 2: like its trails, two different campuses. It's like huge. So

945
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 2: it was already hard enough to get in. Once I

946
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 2: got in, I scoped the scenery out, I was ready

947
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:56,839
Speaker 2: to go. I had no idea how to get out

948
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 2: because there was all these barricades.

949
00:42:58,760 --> 00:42:59,760
Speaker 4: Mind you was packed.

950
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 2: Trying to walk to one booths to another is going

951
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 2: to take you like ten minutes because you're trying to

952
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 2: get through all these different people who are out there.

953
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 2: So I most definitely had to jump a gate. I'm

954
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 2: speaking my truth here on this podcast. I had to

955
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 2: jump a gate to get out because I was just

956
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:15,839
Speaker 2: like claustrophobic. It was too many people around me. It

957
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:17,919
Speaker 2: was like going to be another twenty thirty minute walk

958
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:19,160
Speaker 2: for me to get to where I need to go.

959
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,520
Speaker 4: I was lost. I jumped the gate. So in order to.

960
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 2: Avoid situations like that, I feel like you need to

961
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 2: come in with the game plan and map out how

962
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 2: to get in and.

963
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 4: How to get out.

964
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 2: Know your exits essentially, because also it's hot, it's a

965
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 2: bunch of people next to you. You might encounter some

966
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,839
Speaker 2: room people. You don't want to be lost in alder

967
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,040
Speaker 2: To tailgate not knowing how to get back to your dorm.

968
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:42,960
Speaker 2: And that goes for more than tailgate, Like knowing your

969
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 2: surroundings before you go anywhere is really important just for safety.

970
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:49,319
Speaker 2: And also share your location with people around you who

971
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:51,000
Speaker 2: might be able to help you and come and get you.

972
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 2: So those will be my safety tips. But what about you.

973
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 1: I definitely think sharing your location with people who are

974
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:59,239
Speaker 1: not with you, so people in surrounding areas, if you

975
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:03,160
Speaker 1: have any sharing your location with your parents. It's not corny,

976
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:05,839
Speaker 1: it's being safe, like it's just what it is. I

977
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 1: also do agree with making sure you're aware of you're surrounding.

978
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: So if you see a fight, maybe you should walk away.

979
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 1: If you see an argument, maybe should walk away. If

980
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 1: you are seeing an uncomfortable situation, walk away. Trusting your

981
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 1: gut is going to be really important. That central homecoming

982
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 1: was so many people, and so I was doing like

983
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 1: that lifeguard scan with my head. I'm looking everywhere, like

984
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 1: making sure although i am drinking and I'm eating and

985
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 1: i'm talking, I'm socializing, that I'm aware of people around

986
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:39,919
Speaker 1: me and like watching people and watching their conversations because

987
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 1: it's getting heated.

988
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 3: Is it not being very aware?

989
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 1: Because there's unfortunately a lot of situations where you're not aware,

990
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 1: and as a student, you can get harmed. You just

991
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 1: don't want to be like all the news. That's just

992
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 1: not what you came for. You just want to have

993
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 1: a good time. If you are participating in drinking, if

994
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: you are over the legal making sure that you're watching

995
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 1: how much you're drinking, making sure that you're paying attention

996
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 1: to your limit, knowing your limit, having your friends watch

997
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: you as well, Like if you're coming with a group,

998
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 1: have each other's back. You should never be going home alone.

999
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 3: No one's drink should be on the floor.

1000
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 1: All those basic things sound so cheesy, but it is real.

1001
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:23,720
Speaker 1: It is so real to make sure you're paying attention

1002
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:27,200
Speaker 1: to those things because we see a spike and just violence,

1003
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: we see a spike in alcohol poisoning. All those things

1004
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:33,319
Speaker 1: I know we saw like last year Howard's home coming,

1005
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:36,360
Speaker 1: people hopping the gate like you don't know who's coming

1006
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 1: to the tailgate. I'm not saying any of the people

1007
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 1: who are hopping the gate were unsafe, but I'm just

1008
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 1: saying it's not a protected space.

1009
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 3: This is a public space.

1010
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:48,400
Speaker 1: But people are coming in and coming out as they please,

1011
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 1: So just making sure you're watching your stuff, yourself and

1012
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:55,840
Speaker 1: your group, I think is really important. And when it

1013
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 1: gets to dark house side, probably go home. The tailgate

1014
00:45:57,960 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 1: is probably over. Know that you don't have to be

1015
00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:03,000
Speaker 1: outside all day. You can go home and pick it

1016
00:46:03,080 --> 00:46:04,240
Speaker 1: up the next day as well.

1017
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 2: So yeah, and to add one more thing, I had

1018
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:10,719
Speaker 2: just spread an article recently about how sexual assault rates

1019
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:13,479
Speaker 2: go up during homecomings. Then I can imagine it's because

1020
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 2: it's such a busy time that it could be so

1021
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 2: easy to get away with something like that, because it's

1022
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:19,319
Speaker 2: just a lot going on at once. And of course,

1023
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 2: as women, we can't prevent necessarily, and we shouldn't have

1024
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 2: to write, but unfortunately we have to do to be precautionary.

1025
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 2: And so one thing that I try to do is

1026
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 2: make sure that my drink is always covered. And if

1027
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 2: you put your drink down and you lose sight of

1028
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:37,319
Speaker 2: it for any second, just go ahead pour it out

1029
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 2: twin like it's not that deep. You can get you

1030
00:46:40,040 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 2: another drink. So that's the last thing that I wanted

1031
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 2: to add on the point of safety. So YEA, to

1032
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 2: close this wonderful conversation, we're gonna have a little bit

1033
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 2: of a sappy question, which is what makes homecoming so valuable?

1034
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 4: And what does homecoming mean to you? Jaana?

1035
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:58,720
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I feel like those again, like those

1036
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:02,719
Speaker 1: marketed brands, and it's a person like getting interviewed in

1037
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 1: their name and their college.

1038
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 3: Is in the corner.

1039
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 1: Homecoming means but no, I think it means I know,

1040
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:13,440
Speaker 1: homecoming means community. They paying to the shoe their university,

1041
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:15,400
Speaker 1: like I love it. I will watch it every year.

1042
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:15,919
Speaker 3: I don't care.

1043
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 1: But I think definitely homecoming for me. I touched on

1044
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:22,040
Speaker 1: this a little bit earlier, but like all the old

1045
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:25,040
Speaker 1: heads coming back, the memories that I have for football

1046
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 1: games and tailgates and their stories and them being so

1047
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 1: happy to come back and them telling us at least

1048
00:47:33,120 --> 00:47:35,239
Speaker 1: that you and see, like the trials and tribulations and

1049
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: being a black student in the seventies and the eighties

1050
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:41,799
Speaker 1: at a white school. It is priceless, like all the

1051
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:46,320
Speaker 1: stories you can get. And I think living out their legacy,

1052
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:49,880
Speaker 1: making our own legacy is really important. And so I

1053
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:52,280
Speaker 1: think for sure, like it means legacy, it means community,

1054
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:56,000
Speaker 1: and it means development. I feel like you're being developed

1055
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 1: in such a fast way. This is the place where

1056
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:00,879
Speaker 1: you know a lot of your girls happened, a lot

1057
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 1: of events happen, pain, happiness, and you're able to come

1058
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:08,319
Speaker 1: back and pay like respect to that version of you

1059
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 1: and then also live out another new version of you

1060
00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: that's past that point. So yeah, I think that's what

1061
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 1: it means to me.

1062
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 3: But what about you? What does homecoming mean to you?

1063
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:23,359
Speaker 2: Homecoming to me means black joy, because when I look

1064
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 2: at my own homecoming at spell House, I can never

1065
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:29,160
Speaker 2: imagine another situation where there would be this many black

1066
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 2: people all under one roof. We're all just having fun

1067
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:33,959
Speaker 2: and connecting with each other, and so that's always really

1068
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 2: joyful to witness. Then I'll also say connection because, as

1069
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 2: you mentioned, getting to hear these kind of stories from

1070
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 2: older alum being passed down, and as I mentioned, it's

1071
00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:47,879
Speaker 2: kind of a tradition at Spellmen for people who stayed

1072
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 2: in your dorm to come and give you money, and

1073
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:51,640
Speaker 2: they'll come by and they'll tell you stories about their

1074
00:48:51,680 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 2: time living in the dorm. Those stories are always priceless,

1075
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:56,920
Speaker 2: and those are the moments where I really appreciate connecting

1076
00:48:56,920 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 2: with alum.

1077
00:48:57,840 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 4: So I would say black joy.

1078
00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:02,320
Speaker 2: And connection, those are my main homecoming buzzwords. Not to

1079
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 2: get too corporate, but.

1080
00:49:05,440 --> 00:49:06,040
Speaker 3: I love it.

1081
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:08,920
Speaker 1: I love that and I'm really excited for you to

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Speaker 1: have two more homecomings. I feel like the best ones

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Speaker 1: are waiting for you and real quick.

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Speaker 2: We didn't hit this question, but I just thought of it,

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Speaker 2: like what would be your dream homecoming concert lineup? Because

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Speaker 2: me personally, the perfect thing for me is if they

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Speaker 2: did a Young Money reunion that would.

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Speaker 3: Eat for a homecoming concert.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, I guess Drake has canceled to never mind,

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Speaker 2: but like Lil Wayne and like old NICKI perform your

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Speaker 2: old music, I would, Yeah, that would eat.

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to think.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think. I'm trying to think. So even see,

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Speaker 1: we always like a spring concert. We had walka Flakka,

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Speaker 1: like we had Gunna for the virtual one. We had

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Speaker 1: like heavy hitters that would come to you and see

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Speaker 1: and the budget was there so they would pull up.

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Speaker 1: But I think I don't really care to see Young

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Speaker 1: Money now NICKI canceled me. I don't care to see

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Speaker 1: her perform personally. I don't care to see Wayne personally.

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Speaker 1: If we were in twenty twelve, yes you would catch

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Speaker 1: me there, but honestly, I would be straight with like

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Speaker 1: a little boozy. I feel like being in the South.

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Speaker 1: I would want j Cole to pull up and do

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Speaker 1: like his old music, like his Fayetteville heavy hitter music.

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Speaker 1: I would want like a North Carolina reunion, like I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't mind pd Paba popping up. I wouldn't mind Fantasia

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Speaker 1: popping up. Other associates like if we can't really speak

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Speaker 1: about they have been canceled for the most part, like

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Speaker 1: Anthony Hilton, he could pull up for the soul performance.

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Speaker 1: I think we can just have like a North Carolina Old.

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Speaker 3: And new generation lineup.

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Speaker 1: I think that would be so hard because I feel

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Speaker 1: like we go hard for our artists and they also

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Speaker 1: go hard for where they come from. It's kind of corny,

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Speaker 1: but like no other so I think that could be cute. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So where can we keep up with you? And what

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Speaker 1: are your social media handles?

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Speaker 2: Yes, I absolutely loved our conversation today and if the

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Speaker 2: girls would like to keep up with me, my Instagram

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Speaker 2: is at yours Traleia Zaria Zaria, sel z A r

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Speaker 2: Ia and then I'm also on LinkedIn. If any Spilm

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Speaker 2: and Alum are listening to this and feel inspire to

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Speaker 2: open their purse, Yes, Zoria Taylor on LinkedIn, you can

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Speaker 2: hit me.

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Speaker 1: Up open the purse and accept my LinkedIn request to

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Speaker 1: open up both.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but Jina, what about you?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 1: So you can find me on Instagram at Jana dot

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Speaker 1: lst Jyna dot Ellis and then my LinkedIn is just

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Speaker 1: my name as well. I feel like if you type

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Speaker 1: it in Google you can find it. But feel free

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Speaker 1: to connect with me on LinkedIn. But yeah, Zaria, I

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Speaker 1: loved our conversation. I'm so excited to see like you're

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Speaker 1: fit for homecoming. I'm excited and I just hope you

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Speaker 1: have the best time.

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Speaker 4: Thank you and my peop pajamas we'll.

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Speaker 3: See okay well and they'll take it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I want to thank Jana for inviting me

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Speaker 2: to be a part of this episode. Class is over

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Speaker 2: for now, but here are some affirmations to take with you.

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Speaker 2: Homecoming is meant to be fun. I can use this

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Speaker 2: time to do things that uplift me without worrying about

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Speaker 2: outside stressors. I embrace this opportunity to engage in activities

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Speaker 2: that bring me joy and interact with people who nourish

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Speaker 2: my spirits. I have the agency to tailor my homecoming

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Speaker 2: experience according to my personal desires, even if that means

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Speaker 2: skipping the events that my friends are going to. To

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Speaker 2: learn more about the work we're doing or to do

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Speaker 2: more research on this topic, be sure to visit Therapy

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Speaker 2: for Blackgirls dot com slash GBGU.

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Speaker 1: This episode was produced by Elise Ellis Csaria Taylor.

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Speaker 3: Editing is by Dennison L.

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Speaker 2: Bradberg.