WEBVTT - Jeopardy! Changed My Life

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<v Speaker 1>Pushkin. If I thought about who I was, it was

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<v Speaker 1>just a very like someone who's good at memorizing things,

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<v Speaker 1>someone who's good at like knowing things. But there was

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<v Speaker 1>no one tapping me on the shoulder and saying, Scott,

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<v Speaker 1>you're You're a great guy, and I need to get

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<v Speaker 1>to know you more. There was no one saying that

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<v Speaker 1>for sure. Scott Mankee never thought he had a particularly

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<v Speaker 1>compelling personality, but he did feel he stood out in

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<v Speaker 1>at least one way. He had a natural ability to

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<v Speaker 1>learn and remember interesting facts. So in two thousand and nine,

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<v Speaker 1>when Scott was in college, he tried out for the

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<v Speaker 1>trivia game show Jeopardy, and he made it. Scott was

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<v Speaker 1>excited to put his trivia skills on display and to

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully earn some cash, but he was surprised when viewers

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<v Speaker 1>responded not just to his performance but to who he

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<v Speaker 1>was as a person. One of the first comments that

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<v Speaker 1>I remember seeing was this person saying, I really like

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<v Speaker 1>Scott's demeanor on the show. And I didn't expect that reaction.

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<v Speaker 1>It seemed to be like they liked who I was

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<v Speaker 1>and they thought I'd seemed like a good, good hang

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever, And so that one really struck me on

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<v Speaker 1>today's show. Sometimes we just get ourselves wrong. I'm Maya

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<v Speaker 1>Shunker and this is a slight change of plans, a

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<v Speaker 1>show about who we are and who we become in

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<v Speaker 1>the face of the big change. I've been friends with

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<v Speaker 1>Scott Mankee for just about a year. I met him

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<v Speaker 1>through my husband Jimmy. They played some trivia leagues together,

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<v Speaker 1>so I wasn't surprised when I learned that Scott's always

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<v Speaker 1>been a big fan of the TV show Jeopardy. He

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<v Speaker 1>started watching it when he was in high school, right

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<v Speaker 1>around the time a contestant named Ken Jennings was taking

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<v Speaker 1>Jeopardy by storm, breaking records and winning every game. Scott

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<v Speaker 1>became mesmerized by Ken's epic run, and by the time

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<v Speaker 1>Scott got to college, he was obsessed with the show.

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<v Speaker 1>He skipped class to watch it, taped episodes, and rewatched them.

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<v Speaker 1>He even used a ballpoint pen as a stand in

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<v Speaker 1>for the buzzer, and Scott often found himself thinking, Huh,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe this is the kind of thing I could win.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing I liked about Jeopardy was that it's very

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<v Speaker 1>black and white. There are right answers and there are

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<v Speaker 1>wrong answers. It's something that you can improve at, it's

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<v Speaker 1>something that you can get better at. There's very little

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<v Speaker 1>gray area whether Budapest is the capital of Hungary. That's

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<v Speaker 1>just right or wrong. And I think I'm the type

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<v Speaker 1>of person that that would appeal to. And there's something

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<v Speaker 1>comforting about that. There's something comforting about not having to

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<v Speaker 1>leave anything up to someone's interpretation of something. You can

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<v Speaker 1>just know the answer and prepare and you're done right.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was the same way for me growing up

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<v Speaker 1>in school, right spelling tests. That was the best speller.

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<v Speaker 1>You just have to know how to spell the word,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you're done, versus you know, writing an essay

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<v Speaker 1>about Charles Dickens, and then your teacher has a different

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<v Speaker 1>viewpoint on some point that you're making, and I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to succeed on that. There's no

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<v Speaker 1>guaranteed way to succeed at that, and that's un comfortable

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<v Speaker 1>for me. The good old days when things were true

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<v Speaker 1>or false. You're already making a nostalgic Scott. But so

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<v Speaker 1>you're in college, right, and you are now exclusively devoting

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<v Speaker 1>yourself to jeopardy. You're not attending class. What is that experience?

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<v Speaker 1>Like when you you become a super fan of Jeopardy.

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<v Speaker 1>What I found when I was watching the show so

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<v Speaker 1>consistently was that I was getting better and I started

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<v Speaker 1>noticing that I was getting clues that the contestants weren't getting,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, I was. I was sweeping categories in

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<v Speaker 1>my mind, so I could tell that I was, all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden like in the mix, you know, I was.

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<v Speaker 1>I was being competitive with those characters on the screen.

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<v Speaker 1>And as I started getting getting better and better, I

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<v Speaker 1>had the thought that I could probably be good enough

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<v Speaker 1>to pass the test and be a contestant, just based

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<v Speaker 1>on how many questions I was getting right so on

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<v Speaker 1>the one and I felt like my knowledge base was there.

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<v Speaker 1>But the flip side of that is being a contestant,

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<v Speaker 1>being someone who comes into people's living rooms and being

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<v Speaker 1>having somewhat of a of a personality. I didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>if I was if I was there, and I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know if I had that to offer necessarily. And where

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<v Speaker 1>do you think that? Where did that originate from? You

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<v Speaker 1>said you you had a who was the phrase you use?

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<v Speaker 1>A somewhat personality? Yeah? I think in college I was

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<v Speaker 1>just kind of a shy person and all my life.

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<v Speaker 1>I had been that way growing up. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>being a super interesting person and being the life of

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<v Speaker 1>the party was necessarily valued by my family. By my parents,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom immigrated here. She's Chinese, She's born in Hong

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<v Speaker 1>Kong and moved here from Singapore when she was thirteen,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think she really valued hard work and achievement academically,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, any of like the social stuff and

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<v Speaker 1>you know who my friends were and what kind of

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<v Speaker 1>clubs and activities I was doing. I think that was

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<v Speaker 1>secondary or like forgotten entirely, and so I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>I had that much encouragement to to try and work

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<v Speaker 1>on that part of myself, Like I don't think I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I hung out at anyone's house or

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<v Speaker 1>did a sleepover maybe like once or twice throughout all

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<v Speaker 1>of high school. And I don't think that was a

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<v Speaker 1>very big concern for them. I think they were just

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<v Speaker 1>cool with me hanging at home with them. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>getting an a in French got to conjugate those verbs, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>very important. I didn't think that there was anything remarkable

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<v Speaker 1>about me as a person that would that would make

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<v Speaker 1>me stand out in any way other than I know

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<v Speaker 1>the powers of two up to the twentieth power, or

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I got a perfect math SAT score when

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<v Speaker 1>I was thirteen. I was just I. I if I

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<v Speaker 1>thought about who I was, it was just a very

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<v Speaker 1>like someone who's good at memorizing things, someone who's good

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<v Speaker 1>at like knowing things. But there was no one tapping

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<v Speaker 1>me on the shoulder and saying, Scott, you're you're a

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<v Speaker 1>great guy, and I need to get to know you more,

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<v Speaker 1>or you need to you need to be out in

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<v Speaker 1>front of people and telling them all about it yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>There was no one saying that for sure, So I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know why. I don't know how other people are

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<v Speaker 1>are comfortable doing that when there's a very real chance

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<v Speaker 1>that no one wants to hear from them, and all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden everyone loses from that interaction. Yeah, that's interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it seems like your default assumption was that

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<v Speaker 1>unless you were explicitly told otherwise, what you had to

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<v Speaker 1>say wouldn't be interesting to people. Is that right? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I think that is right. I think I just didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have a lot of self confidence. I didn't feel comfortable

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<v Speaker 1>putting myself out there with people. I didn't know, with

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<v Speaker 1>a large group of people that may have different interests

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<v Speaker 1>than me, I didn't think that I had anything to

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<v Speaker 1>offer them. Really, I was into my thing, but you know,

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<v Speaker 1>why would any one want to know my thoughts and

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<v Speaker 1>feelings about subjects that I'm not necessarily an expert in

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<v Speaker 1>or you know that I don't have all the right

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<v Speaker 1>answers too, And so I was just shy and had

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<v Speaker 1>reservations about sharing anything with them. Yeah, and that's particularly

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<v Speaker 1>interesting because it's not like I mean, correct me if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wrong, But it seems like it's not like people

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<v Speaker 1>were actively saying negative things about you. They weren't coming

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<v Speaker 1>up to you and saying, Scott, your personality sucks. You

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be in front of large swots of people sharing

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<v Speaker 1>who you are. Inside the feedback you're getting was the

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<v Speaker 1>absence of feedback, right, Yea, So there was really no

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<v Speaker 1>confirmatory evidence in either direction. But it seems like you

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<v Speaker 1>decided in your mind anyway that no, I'm you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm smart, but not really that fun to be around.

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<v Speaker 1>People don't really care what I have to say. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's right. I think that's totally right. So so

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<v Speaker 1>so maybe maybe I've gotten some feedback in the past

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm a nice person. But it seemed a stretch

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<v Speaker 1>to me to suggest that I would then go on

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<v Speaker 1>a on a game show and say, hey, everybody, look

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<v Speaker 1>at me. I'm great. That that that didn't track to me.

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<v Speaker 1>M So, Scott, give given everything that you've just described, right,

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<v Speaker 1>being relatively shy, um, not feeling that anyone will want

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<v Speaker 1>to have the opportunity to get to know you in

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<v Speaker 1>any deep way, why go on a game show? Yep, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a good question. So Number one, if you win

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<v Speaker 1>the tournament, this college tournament, you can win one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars. That's the amount of money that goes to

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<v Speaker 1>the winner. Wow, so there's there's a real incentive there.

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<v Speaker 1>Number two, I felt like you would be good for me,

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<v Speaker 1>uh like for my resume somehow, Like I wasn't doing

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<v Speaker 1>that great in school. I thought if I if I

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<v Speaker 1>was representing my school on Jeopardy, that that would be

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<v Speaker 1>kind of reclaiming like some kind of you know, good

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<v Speaker 1>points for me in some sense. So you mustter up

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<v Speaker 1>the courage to audition for Jeopardy, right, Yeah, So I

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<v Speaker 1>finally decide it's time. So the first thing I did

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<v Speaker 1>was you take an online test, And a few days

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<v Speaker 1>after that, I got an email that says, Hey, you're

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<v Speaker 1>invited to come to Washington, d C. For an audition

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<v Speaker 1>in person where you'll get to play the game and

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<v Speaker 1>you'll get to meet some of the crew at the show.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's exciting. So go there a month later and

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<v Speaker 1>get into the room and there's fifty other hopefuls who

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<v Speaker 1>are from nearby colleges sitting in this conference room, and

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<v Speaker 1>I feel intimidated because a lot of them have better

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<v Speaker 1>stories than me from the outset, and I'm like, I got,

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<v Speaker 1>I got nothing, um, And so I'm I'm I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>little discouraged in the moment because even amongst the Jeopardy faithful,

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<v Speaker 1>who you would imagine are a little less interesting than

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<v Speaker 1>the than the than the average person, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not scoring well against them. So that was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of the backdrop for for that audition. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I did decently when I was actually buzzing

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<v Speaker 1>and answering questions. Um, that was kind of my crutch.

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<v Speaker 1>I can do pretty well just answering questions, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my bread and butter. That's what I've been practicing

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<v Speaker 1>all these years and then comes time for me to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about myself, and sadly, one of the one of

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<v Speaker 1>the fun facts that I wrote about myself was simply

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<v Speaker 1>repeat eating a line in my bio. It was just

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<v Speaker 1>my name is Scott. I'm a senior in college. So

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<v Speaker 1>there was nothing remotely interesting about that. It was just

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<v Speaker 1>repeating information that was contained on the other parts of

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<v Speaker 1>the form. I love how the line of your bio

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<v Speaker 1>you chose was literally your nave in college, that fact

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<v Speaker 1>that you're a college student. It's a college tournament. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean they probably could have deduced that that's very that's

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<v Speaker 1>very charming. Yeah, like you weren't even willing to go

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<v Speaker 1>to that. I used to play the violin and hated it,

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<v Speaker 1>or I don't know what other hobbies one might have

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<v Speaker 1>had growing up. Right, very interesting, right, that was? That

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<v Speaker 1>was number one? That was number one fact. And I

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<v Speaker 1>remember how I knew something about the show that no

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<v Speaker 1>one else in the room had known. And what it

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<v Speaker 1>was was the producer asks, does anyone remember who won

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<v Speaker 1>the college tournament the previous year? And I raised my

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<v Speaker 1>hand and I said, of course, it was Joey from

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<v Speaker 1>Mississippi State. And I think that in my mind was

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<v Speaker 1>the difference maker. You know, I was kind of unremarkable

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<v Speaker 1>in the other aspects, but the fact that I was

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<v Speaker 1>such a super fan and knew, you know, the show

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<v Speaker 1>backwards and forwards and what had happened was what allowed

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<v Speaker 1>me to kind of differentiate myself. And yeah, that was it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was. It was pretty quick. Didn't feel that optimistic

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<v Speaker 1>about my chances, and you know, I felt like I

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<v Speaker 1>did okay on the trivia and subpar on the personality part,

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<v Speaker 1>as expected. And so then what is it like to

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<v Speaker 1>get the call that you you had been chosen from

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<v Speaker 1>all those hopefuls? Yeah, that was that was great. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember ever since I auditioned, I would fantasize about seeing

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<v Speaker 1>that number show up on my little flip phone, and

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<v Speaker 1>I would just imagine, like what what that feeling would

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<v Speaker 1>be like when I when I saw this call him

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<v Speaker 1>through the way I've felt at that moment was was joy.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember looking out into the into the distance, into

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<v Speaker 1>the ocean and thinking, as cheesy as it might sound,

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<v Speaker 1>like all my life's about to change. My life's meet

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<v Speaker 1>to change. I remember thinking that, And in what way

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<v Speaker 1>did you think that it would change? I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>like I I had been watching Jeopardy for a while,

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<v Speaker 1>so to me, being on Jeopardy was a big deal. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>In my mind, I'm like, now I get to be

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<v Speaker 1>a part of this club, and you know it's going

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<v Speaker 1>to be a maybe anxiety riddling experience, but it's going

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<v Speaker 1>to be, you know, a big experience nonetheless. And then

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<v Speaker 1>what is it like, you know, to be to be

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<v Speaker 1>on the stage the lights go on, You're so once

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<v Speaker 1>we get to the stage, you're you're getting to go

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<v Speaker 1>through the motions of actually being on Jeopardy. I remember

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<v Speaker 1>buzzing in correctly on a few clues in this practice round,

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<v Speaker 1>and pretty quickly I get ushered offstage and the producers

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<v Speaker 1>are like, Scott, you're good, good job, good job. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't need any more practice. You're all set. And I

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<v Speaker 1>felt happy about that. I felt like I fit the

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<v Speaker 1>mold of a good contestant in the sense that I

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<v Speaker 1>did what I was supposed to do. I kept the

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<v Speaker 1>game moving. I was looking in the right direction and

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<v Speaker 1>pressing the buzzer appropriately and answering in with a good

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<v Speaker 1>tone of voice. So I felt like I checked all

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<v Speaker 1>the boxes of just fulfilling the contestant duties if they

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<v Speaker 1>existed on a checklist somewhere I felt like I felt

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<v Speaker 1>like I was ready to play, and so yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>felt I felt good. Well, here how Scott did on Jeopardy.

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<v Speaker 1>After the break, we'll be back in a moment with

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<v Speaker 1>a slight change of plans. We're back with Scott Manke,

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<v Speaker 1>who successfully made it on to the Jeopardy College Championship

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<v Speaker 1>in two thousand and nine. So let's hear about Scott's

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<v Speaker 1>experience on the show, starting with when he introduced himself

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<v Speaker 1>to the ten million plus viewers watching at home. Scott

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<v Speaker 1>Minky is from Flemington, New Jersey. Teaches chess to who

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<v Speaker 1>at Johns Hopkins were in the community of Baltimore. So

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<v Speaker 1>we go out into the more underprivileged communities in Baltimore

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<v Speaker 1>and we bring out a table every week and set

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<v Speaker 1>up some boards and we teach the chess the kids

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<v Speaker 1>in the in the neighborhood there. Are they fascinated by

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<v Speaker 1>the game? Are they really interested or is it just

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<v Speaker 1>a way to pass the time. It's a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of both. They're they're pretty interested. Unfortunately, they forget the

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<v Speaker 1>rules every week, so we have to reteach them. That

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<v Speaker 1>takes up a lot of time, but at the end,

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<v Speaker 1>we usually get a few good games going. How did

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<v Speaker 1>you do? How did it go? Yeah, my first game

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<v Speaker 1>went really well well. I had a small lead going

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<v Speaker 1>into double jeopardy, and then in that second round I

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<v Speaker 1>really pulled away and reached thirty thousand dollars at some point,

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<v Speaker 1>which is a pretty decisive victory. And I went into

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<v Speaker 1>the final jeopardy knowing that I had what's called a

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<v Speaker 1>lock game, or I had no chance of losing if

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<v Speaker 1>I wagered appropriately. And then the second day and then

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<v Speaker 1>the second day it was more of a back and

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<v Speaker 1>forth game. I did well enough that I had the

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<v Speaker 1>lead going into final Jeopardy, and I got the question wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>So my Jeopardy run kind of came to a crashing

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<v Speaker 1>halt when it was revealed that the answer to the

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<v Speaker 1>clue was deadline and not headline as I had written.

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<v Speaker 1>So one letter kind of brought the whole thing to

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<v Speaker 1>an end. That's so unfortunate. You should have been well,

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<v Speaker 1>good thing you weren't a real of fortune, because it

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<v Speaker 1>turns out letters matter a lot there ut Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>what did it feel like, Scott? When when this whole

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<v Speaker 1>experience was over, I would say, yeah, it was I

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<v Speaker 1>felt good about it. I felt like I achieved, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>higher than fifty percentile outcome of what could have happened.

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<v Speaker 1>My parents got to see me win there, which was

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<v Speaker 1>like important to me, and I did fine, So I

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<v Speaker 1>was happy with it. So what is it like after

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<v Speaker 1>the show actually airs. I remember back in the back

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<v Speaker 1>in those days, by the way, two thousand and nine,

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<v Speaker 1>everything's everything's done on Facebook, all right. Facebook is huge

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<v Speaker 1>back then, and there's this Jeopardy message board where people

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<v Speaker 1>post about the episodes and you know, some predictions for

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<v Speaker 1>the upcoming tournament, that kind of thing. I remember people

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<v Speaker 1>on the message board being like, ooh, you know Scott

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<v Speaker 1>from Johns Hopkins, I think I think this guy could

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<v Speaker 1>be I think this guy could be the winner. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll see. So there's there's just like there's I tried

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<v Speaker 1>to consume all of the media surrounding my appearance, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>which consists of this one message board mostly and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>see what people's reactions are going to be basically. So

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<v Speaker 1>then the first episode airs, and first there's like a

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<v Speaker 1>flood of you know, Facebook friend requests, people sending me

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<v Speaker 1>notes and things like oh wow, you did you did

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<v Speaker 1>so well congratulations, And then I go to the message

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<v Speaker 1>board because that's where like the true Jeopardy diehards are.

0:20:41.116 --> 0:20:42.636
<v Speaker 1>And you know, I don't care as much that my

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<v Speaker 1>neighbor from back home said good job, Scott, because they

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<v Speaker 1>would say that regardless of how I did. But I

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<v Speaker 1>want to hear from the Jeopardy ogs. Yeah, what do

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<v Speaker 1>I have their respect? And so I go to my

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<v Speaker 1>episode page and yeah, one of the first comments that

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<v Speaker 1>I remember seeing was this person saying, I really like

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<v Speaker 1>Scott's demeanor on the show. You know, I think they

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<v Speaker 1>had some other points about my performance and how how

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<v Speaker 1>many questions I got right or how well I was doing,

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<v Speaker 1>but that was the first line, I believe of the

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<v Speaker 1>of the post, and it really stuck out to me

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<v Speaker 1>because I didn't expect that reaction. I thought it would be,

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<v Speaker 1>you know about, oh, how did I miss this question

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, good job getting getting this one right.

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<v Speaker 1>But it seemed to be like they liked who I

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<v Speaker 1>was and they thought I'd seemed like a good, good

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<v Speaker 1>hang or whatever, and so that one, that one really

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<v Speaker 1>struck me. Um So, in addition to that, what was

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<v Speaker 1>funny was someone created a Scott Mankie on Jeopardy fan

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<v Speaker 1>club low membership, definitely, but hey, better to have a

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<v Speaker 1>few high quality ones, right, that's right, that's yeah, a

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<v Speaker 1>hundred true fans, right, that's what we need. Okay. I

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<v Speaker 1>was touched by the fact that someone went to the

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<v Speaker 1>trouble of of making that um so, so that was

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<v Speaker 1>that was heartening. I thought I would be passable and

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<v Speaker 1>an acceptable person in terms of how I came off.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just remember people saying that they'd want to

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<v Speaker 1>be my friend, or they'd want to you know, they'd

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<v Speaker 1>want to meet me, just based off how the episode was.

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<v Speaker 1>So so you're starting to notice that people are responding

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<v Speaker 1>to you, right, not not your trivia prowess, but to you.

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<v Speaker 1>They they they like you. They're expressing that they want

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<v Speaker 1>to be friends with you, contrary to your working model

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<v Speaker 1>of the world, which is that you had nothing interesting

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<v Speaker 1>to say and no one would want to hear what

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<v Speaker 1>you had to say. It sounds like people do. What

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<v Speaker 1>was it like to have this realization about yourself for

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<v Speaker 1>the first time? It was it was a substantial realization,

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<v Speaker 1>and it made me wonder whether I needed to change

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<v Speaker 1>how I interact with others and need to share more

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<v Speaker 1>and need to put myself out there, if they enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>me for who I am, then maybe I need to

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<v Speaker 1>share more of that. And did this realization lead you

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<v Speaker 1>to reinterpret anything that had happened during your Jeopardy experience?

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<v Speaker 1>Seeing people respond that way made me wonder whether that

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<v Speaker 1>same thing came across when I was filming the show,

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<v Speaker 1>and whether I was getting a similar response there. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I thought back, and I do remember the different

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<v Speaker 1>crew members on the show joking around with me during

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<v Speaker 1>downtime and talking about other shows that they'd worked on,

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<v Speaker 1>and different celebrities and who was nice and who was not,

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<v Speaker 1>and different different gossip from behind the scenes of some

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<v Speaker 1>of these shows. And I wondered if it was maybe

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<v Speaker 1>them just wanting to hang out and me seeming like

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<v Speaker 1>a good person to talk to, Um, maybe reconsider that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, I imagine, you know, anytime we have

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<v Speaker 1>a profound realization, you know, we can we can prescribe

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<v Speaker 1>a future for ourselves in which we, you know, change

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<v Speaker 1>the way we are. But it's perhaps hard to put

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<v Speaker 1>that into practice, right because so much of it feels

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<v Speaker 1>so foreign. M So, so, do you have any notable

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<v Speaker 1>memories or any specific memories of when you kind of

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<v Speaker 1>took the car for a test drive, so to speak,

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<v Speaker 1>the personality car. So yeah, I remember, I remember the moment.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember a moment. The moment was in Las Vegas,

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<v Speaker 1>where I lived after graduating. I would like play poker sometimes,

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<v Speaker 1>and when you're seated at a poker table, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>like ten strangers and you're you know, in between hands

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<v Speaker 1>or when you're not when you don't have cards, there's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of table talk or banter that's that's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>And I remember engaging in that. And this was like

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<v Speaker 1>shortly after the you know, less than a year after

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<v Speaker 1>the episode it had aired, and feeling comfortable in that situation.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think any of the opinions I shared were

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<v Speaker 1>like notable, but it was things like, you know, talking

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<v Speaker 1>about the sports game that was on TV, or talking

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<v Speaker 1>about like iPhones. I remember iPhones were like new back then,

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<v Speaker 1>and kind of just like talking about the technology generally.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just remember feeling much more comfortable in my

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<v Speaker 1>skin talking with these strangers. And I think if I

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<v Speaker 1>was at a poker table before Jeopardy, I would just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, sunglasses, hoodie up, just looking at the looking

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<v Speaker 1>at the cards and caring about the game. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so interesting you mentioned, you know, and none of

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<v Speaker 1>it was notable stuff. That's exactly the point. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that you felt that in order for something

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<v Speaker 1>to be worth sharing before all this, it had to

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<v Speaker 1>be notable is such a high bar as a human

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<v Speaker 1>being to have to try and meet in conversation, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And so I think I think it's precisely because the

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<v Speaker 1>things weren't notable, that it's a sign of emotional and

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<v Speaker 1>psychological progress. Right. You were willing to share pretty benolve

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<v Speaker 1>views on the iPhone. That's fantastic, that's so true. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it can go too far where you know,

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<v Speaker 1>people are are tweeting about turkey sub for lunch, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but given where you started, yes, exactly, Given

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<v Speaker 1>given where I started, I think I think it was progress.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's a that's a great point, um.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, like that that is the difference between me

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<v Speaker 1>now and before, where this is making me realize that

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<v Speaker 1>things about myself maya maybe maybe this is the biggest difference.

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<v Speaker 1>Where it's just in these very commonplace situations, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sitting next to someone on the plane, like just having

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<v Speaker 1>small top conversations about how you feel about very ordinary,

0:27:14.796 --> 0:27:17.436
<v Speaker 1>mundane things talking about the weather, even though that's such

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<v Speaker 1>like a that's such a cliche, like, yeah, it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>getting warmer out and and I like that because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I like the longer days, and you know, it's it

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<v Speaker 1>makes I can wear a lighter jacket. It's it's it's better.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel more comfortable sharing those thoughts now than I

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<v Speaker 1>did before, and I think that is like freeing and

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<v Speaker 1>and cool in a way. Yeah, you know, I could

0:27:45.076 --> 0:27:47.996
<v Speaker 1>imagine people saying in response, oh, but Scott, like, you

0:27:48.036 --> 0:27:51.756
<v Speaker 1>shouldn't have needed other people to validate your personality, to

0:27:51.836 --> 0:27:56.076
<v Speaker 1>validate that you're likable. And I mean, it's not entirely untrue.

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<v Speaker 1>But at the same time, we are social creatures. What

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<v Speaker 1>does it mean to be objectively charming? It doesn't mean anything.

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<v Speaker 1>There's only such thing as subjective charm subjective likability, right

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<v Speaker 1>at least that's my view of the world. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I think it is more than reasonable for us to

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<v Speaker 1>at least seek some feedback from others. That's not to

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<v Speaker 1>say that other people's approval or validation should constitute the

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<v Speaker 1>entirety of our self confidence and resolve all of our

0:28:25.036 --> 0:28:30.276
<v Speaker 1>self esteem issues. Or cause self esteem issues. But it's data.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems relevant, right, I totally agree. Yeah, I think

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<v Speaker 1>it is data. I think it offers a glimpse into

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<v Speaker 1>how others may view you and under appreciated aspects of

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<v Speaker 1>yourself that may exist, And I would encourage people to

0:28:48.076 --> 0:28:53.516
<v Speaker 1>seek opportunities to find that, to find ways in which

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<v Speaker 1>aspects of yourself that you don't necessarily think about or

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<v Speaker 1>think highly of can be viewed in another light or

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<v Speaker 1>can get kind of a second opinion on those things

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<v Speaker 1>other than your own self image. Yeah, And I think

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<v Speaker 1>another lesson from your story is, at a minimum, we

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't take absence of evidence as confirmation in either direction. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>we talked about you're having just a default understanding that

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<v Speaker 1>unless I hear explicitly otherwise from other people, unless I

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<v Speaker 1>hear otherwise, I'm just going to assume that I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>worth hearing from. And it seems like at a minimum,

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<v Speaker 1>we should stay neutral on where we fall along different

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<v Speaker 1>traits until there's some thoughtful reflection happening in our own

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<v Speaker 1>minds or we have information from others. Otherwise we're operating

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<v Speaker 1>in a vacuum. And once we establish that default, as

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<v Speaker 1>your story shows, it's very easy to stay in that,

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<v Speaker 1>to let inertia kind of propel you forward, and to

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<v Speaker 1>make lots of life choices based on that understanding right

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<v Speaker 1>when you could actually be thriving in other ways. Yeah, yes, yes, totally.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. Everything you're sharing with me right now is

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<v Speaker 1>making me think about the fact that our understanding of

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<v Speaker 1>self is often far flimsier than we might think. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not like you had a brain transplant, Scott, right like you,

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<v Speaker 1>you had this underlying personality all along, this lovable personality.

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<v Speaker 1>And I can say that as your friend, I think

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<v Speaker 1>you are a lovely, interesting, charming person to be around,

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<v Speaker 1>but you had misjudged yourself right, And I do think

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<v Speaker 1>I think we mistakenly believe that because we have first

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<v Speaker 1>person access to who we are in our own minds,

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<v Speaker 1>that somehow our assessments of ourselves are accurate and comprehensive

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<v Speaker 1>and reflect the latest shifts and transformative experiences that we

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<v Speaker 1>have that affect us in turn. But we fall prey

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<v Speaker 1>to many of the same cognitive biases anyway that lead

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<v Speaker 1>us to misunderstand other people or create snapshots of who

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<v Speaker 1>they are that aren't fully comprehensive. And yeah, it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>just making me think about what else have you gotten

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<v Speaker 1>wrong about yourself? Like? What else have I gotten wrong

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<v Speaker 1>about myself? What am I? What am I currently getting

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<v Speaker 1>wrong about myself today that I think I'm right about

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<v Speaker 1>it? It It can go in either direction, like maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>have a totally inflated sense of self and I think

0:31:28.236 --> 0:31:31.916
<v Speaker 1>I'm far more charming than I actually am. Listeners, you

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<v Speaker 1>can let me know offline. But but more seriously, did

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<v Speaker 1>your Jeopardy experience make you revisit other assumptions that you

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<v Speaker 1>had about yourself? It did make me think that there

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<v Speaker 1>are other parts of my personality that I have yet

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<v Speaker 1>to explore, or assumptions about myself that maybe incorrect. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I haven't gone far enough down that road

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<v Speaker 1>to actively discover what those things are. It's at least

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<v Speaker 1>planted the thought thought, and I accept that there may

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<v Speaker 1>be things, and so I do try and do new

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<v Speaker 1>things in order to try and stumble across something that

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<v Speaker 1>I may learn about myself. And I know that that

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<v Speaker 1>advice may seem commonplace. But I thought I knew who

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<v Speaker 1>I was at the core, and what I like to

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<v Speaker 1>do and what I was good at, what I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>good at and I came out with an understanding that

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<v Speaker 1>was that was very different, and I think that's that's

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<v Speaker 1>changed the trajectory of how I lead my life now.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think it's it's having a willingness to say

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<v Speaker 1>yes to situations that may make you uncomfortable, especially in

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<v Speaker 1>a forum where I'm getting feedback from others, because I

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<v Speaker 1>think I kind of rely on that I need. I

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<v Speaker 1>need others to tell me if I'm getting at something. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I do try and find opportunities to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I've yet to have a sea change where I had

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<v Speaker 1>some landmark discovery about myself, but I'm open to the

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<v Speaker 1>idea and I'm going to try and seek that out more.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think that's fantastic. And I also think

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<v Speaker 1>it's so reasonable to not have had a sea change.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's not like we're getting large swaths of

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<v Speaker 1>things about ourselves wrong. You know, to the extent you're

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<v Speaker 1>relatively honest with yourself. But I think the mere acknowledgement

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<v Speaker 1>that we might be wrong about certain things is a

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<v Speaker 1>critical mental change, one that I think is inspiring for

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people. Because while it's scary perhaps that

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<v Speaker 1>we may have gotten some things wrong. It's also exciting, right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, Wow, what are these unexpected, unanticipated parts of

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<v Speaker 1>myself that I might tap into in these unexpected moments

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<v Speaker 1>in life that it might uncover it, that might make

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<v Speaker 1>me realize that it was laboring under a misconception about

0:34:11.116 --> 0:34:13.476
<v Speaker 1>four years and years and years. And I'm no longer

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<v Speaker 1>going to be helped back by that, and I'm no

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<v Speaker 1>longer going to needlessly suffer. And what I find intriguing

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<v Speaker 1>and interesting about your story is that you didn't go

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<v Speaker 1>on to Jeopardy with this mission to unlock this entirely

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<v Speaker 1>new facet of Scott Minky. You went on because you

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<v Speaker 1>were like, I think I'm good at trivia, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think I can win a lot of money and it

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<v Speaker 1>would be fun. And it is fascinating how the true

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<v Speaker 1>change came after Jeoffardy. You know, you had said earlier

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<v Speaker 1>in our conversation, you know, I had this feeling like

0:34:44.196 --> 0:34:46.956
<v Speaker 1>I looked off into the distance and I thought, my

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<v Speaker 1>life is never going to be the same, or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>my life is going to change forever. Right, Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>bet you never thought that this was going to be

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<v Speaker 1>the way in which your life change forever, totally right,

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<v Speaker 1>totally right. It's you know, the ten thousand dollars that

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<v Speaker 1>I won, the wild aspirations of you know, professional implications

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<v Speaker 1>of being on Jeopardy one time, those didn't really come

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<v Speaker 1>to fruition. But I feel like the boost of confidence

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<v Speaker 1>I have just being myself around others is the lasting

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<v Speaker 1>change that has endured. Hey, thanks for listening. Join me

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<v Speaker 1>next week when I talk with doctor Edith Eager, a

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<v Speaker 1>ninety four year old Holocaust survivor. Edith was sixteen years

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<v Speaker 1>old when she her sister and mom and dad were

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<v Speaker 1>put on a train to the Auschwitz concentration camp by

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<v Speaker 1>Mom looked at me and hugged me, and she said,

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<v Speaker 1>we don't know where to be going. We don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what's going to happen. Just remember no one can take

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<v Speaker 1>away from you what you put here in your own mind.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's exactly what happened. A Slight Change of Plans

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<v Speaker 1>is created written an executive produce by me Maya Schunker.

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<v Speaker 1>The Slight Change Family includes Tyler Green our senior producer,

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<v Speaker 1>Belle our Executive producer. Louis Scara wrote our theme song

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<v Speaker 1>and Ginger Smith helped arrange the vocals. A Slight Change

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<v Speaker 1>thanks to everyone there, including Nicolemrano, Maggie Taylor, Eric Sandler,

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<v Speaker 1>Heather Faine, and Carly Nigliori, and of course a very

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<v Speaker 1>special thanks to Jimmy Lee. You can follow A Slight

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<v Speaker 1>Change of Plans on Instagram at doctor Maya Shunker. Jimmy

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<v Speaker 1>was recently preparing for a trivia show, right, what was

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<v Speaker 1>what was that? Like? Oh my gosh, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>it it tested our otherwise happy marriage, Scott. So, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean he became obsessive about it, right, like everything was

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<v Speaker 1>about everything was about learning facts. Every conversation between us

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<v Speaker 1>felt clinical in a way. But then there was this

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<v Speaker 1>one really tender moment where it was the night before

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<v Speaker 1>our five year wedding anniversary, and Jimmy and I don't usually,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, do the tradition stuff, so I didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't really thinking about it. He he never really remembers,

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<v Speaker 1>but suddenly he's laying there and he's like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>tomorrow's our five year wedding anniversary. I was like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, Jimmy, his heart is softening, like as he

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<v Speaker 1>gets older, he's getting a little more nostalgic. This is

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<v Speaker 1>so great. And I hear him muttering paper, cotton, leather,

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<v Speaker 1>and I realized he's confirming that he knows all the

0:38:21.716 --> 0:38:26.076
<v Speaker 1>anniversary gifts by year, because it is actually a trivia

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<v Speaker 1>challenge that's rough, that is rough.