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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Uh, Tanya is gonna be oh oh oh oh.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh oh out of the office.

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Speaker 3: That's right.

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Speaker 2: So we're doing a little uh scrub and scrub and

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Speaker 2: scrubbing before she goes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And if Becca seems a little unwell, it's because she is.

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Speaker 2: I'm not unwell. She is all right, It's.

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Speaker 1: Okay because she's for the first time in her life

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Speaker 1: getting a taste of what it feels like to be

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Speaker 1: a Tanya and she doesn't like it.

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Speaker 4: Here's the thing, I my whole life have.

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Speaker 2: Prided what's the word pride?

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Speaker 3: Pride, Yeah, private myself.

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Speaker 2: I've been pride in myself on not being emotionally needy

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Speaker 2: or needing anyone and being independent, loving my space. It

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Speaker 2: was fully my brand. And somewhere along the way in

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Speaker 2: the last four years, you fell in love, Well, I

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Speaker 2: fell in love. And then I've done therapy and I've

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Speaker 2: opened my heart to allowing myself to need people or

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Speaker 2: not need to put on a front that I or

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Speaker 2: I don't even know if it was a front, but like,

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Speaker 2: let myself be vulnerable vulnerable, and frankly, I don't like it.

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Speaker 4: You know, the other way was easier.

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Speaker 3: I get it because I lived this life on.

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Speaker 2: A daily Yeah, I feel very like connected to Tanya

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Speaker 2: in a way that I have it before, and I

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Speaker 2: don't like it.

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Speaker 3: So Hailey left for tour this week.

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Speaker 1: She left on Wednesday, and I already knew, like I

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Speaker 1: was already planning on checking in on beckun just being like, hey,

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Speaker 1: how you doing, Like what's going on? And I get

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Speaker 1: a text message from Haley that morning and she's like, Hey, Tanya,

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Speaker 1: just wondering if you could maybe check in on becka

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Speaker 1: to day or make plans with her for dinner or something.

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Speaker 3: She's not doing really.

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Speaker 1: Well with me leaving, and I was like, I know.

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Speaker 1: So I'm frantic because I can't I can't imagine Becca

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Speaker 1: being in this state, and so I'm like I need

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Speaker 1: to be here for her. And I was going down

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Speaker 1: I get my teeth cleaned in like the South Bay.

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Speaker 5: So it's like an hour and a half who conversation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, way, So it was an hour and a half there,

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Speaker 1: an hour and half back, and I didn't know if

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Speaker 1: I was gonna have cavities or how long I was

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Speaker 1: gonna be there, and it was in the afternoon, so

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Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know how I'm gonna make

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Speaker 1: it back, but luckily she had plans that night.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think that there was a hint of like.

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Speaker 4: I think it was a combination.

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Speaker 2: So the night before she left, in the morning she left,

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Speaker 2: I cried so much, like I was inconsolable, and it

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Speaker 2: was like not myself, you know, like it was weird.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't like get myself together together.

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Speaker 4: And I'm sure she was.

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Speaker 2: Like, what the heck, like is she okay? And I

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Speaker 2: think I just I think it was like I need it. Normally,

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Speaker 2: when I cry, I need like a full release, because

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Speaker 2: I don't cry a ton. I cry more than I

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Speaker 2: ever have. But even when I cry, like I just

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Speaker 2: need like a fool, I need to get it all out.

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Speaker 2: So I think it was a combo of that, and

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Speaker 2: then also the fact that she's been so busy, like

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Speaker 2: with the album and releasing and all the stuff that

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Speaker 2: she has going on, Like in general, we haven't seen

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Speaker 2: each other a ton, So I think the anticipation of

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Speaker 2: her leaving just like crept up on me. And I

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Speaker 2: mean I still I was talking to someone the other day,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, I have I love being alone,

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Speaker 2: Like I have no problem being alone except for with Hailey,

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Speaker 2: Like if Haley's the option, I want to hang out

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Speaker 4: And so yeah, but now I'm fine, Like it's been

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Speaker 4: a few days.

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Speaker 3: Yeah she's fine. She totally fine.

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Speaker 2: Tanya doesn't believe I'm fine, but I'm genuinely like, we're

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Speaker 2: you know, we've talked, like we've been apart before.

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Speaker 4: This isn't the first time, and so yeah, we're good.

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Speaker 2: I totally fine, totally fine, gonna be fine. But I

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Speaker 2: was finally like, did you tell everybody to check in

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Speaker 2: about me? But this is weird. She was like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know. I I texted Tanya and I was like,

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Speaker 2: what about Caroline, my sister. She's like, yeah, her too, Okay,

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Speaker 2: anyone else that I should be expecting to invite from.

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Speaker 2: So all good. Her first show was last night, and like,

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Speaker 5: The video, like in videos, so if you get maybe

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Speaker 5: you two are in the long term process of swapping personalities.

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Speaker 5: Wouldn't that be something? Is Becca's just gonna continue becoming

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Speaker 5: more and more Tanya, and then over time Tanya's some

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Speaker 5: point down the road be like, oh I need to

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Speaker 5: go away for a few weeks.

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Speaker 4: We haven't.

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you've seen a lot of us switcheroos

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Speaker 2: from Tanya to Beca's long term Yeah, yeah, I would.

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Speaker 1: Be delighted to have a little in me, let me

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Speaker 1: tell you, because I think you would do good for

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Speaker 1: my relationship, honestly, if I had a little bit of

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Speaker 1: Becka in me.

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Speaker 3: But I don't have it.

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Speaker 1: And actually, as a matter of fact, it is the

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Speaker 1: Jewish Valentine's Day, So I'm gonna go pick him up

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Speaker 1: a Valentine's.

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Speaker 3: Day cards and I'm sure he doesn't even know it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I hope he's got something waiting for you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's gonna mean there's gonna be some box of

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Speaker 1: chocolates at home.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So all good. We're I'm totally fine. I do

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Speaker 2: feel like I'm really gonna embrace you know how I

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Speaker 2: love being a third wheel because everyone like takes care

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Speaker 2: of me. So I'm really gonna embrace that. That time

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Speaker 2: with Robbie and Tanya, Alan Carston, Brett and Mike, Well,

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna be like, if anyone invite me over

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Speaker 2: them need to be taken care.

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Speaker 3: I do have to say.

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Speaker 1: The only reason so we went to Variety's Young Hollywood

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Speaker 1: Party last night, and the only reason that I actually

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Speaker 1: went to it was because you were going.

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Speaker 2: Wow, yeah, you did not seem it was definitely not

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Speaker 2: something you seemed like you wanted to be.

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Speaker 1: Well, I did, but I had work really early this morning,

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Speaker 2: I mean, so, yeah, it was Variety's Young Hollywood Party,

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Speaker 2: which I don't know how many more years I'm going

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Speaker 2: feel like I should go, Like, I don't know, when

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Speaker 2: does young Hollywood quit be in young Hollywood?

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Speaker 3: Wait, we are.

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Speaker 4: Youth, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I felt.

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Speaker 4: I definitely felt on the older spectrum of things.

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Speaker 2: What.

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Speaker 3: There were so many older people there.

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Speaker 2: It was a mixed bag, but we were definitely not

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Speaker 3: We were in the middle. Yeah, okay, we're like being

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Speaker 2: It should just be.

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Speaker 4: Called Variety's Hollywood Party.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, but you know what I found my

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Speaker 2: Yeah, your excitement of that kind of piss me off

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Speaker 4: Like was it was just rude.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, it gets a bad rap

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Speaker 3: So yeah, I saw it and I was like, wow,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I remember my first one.

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Speaker 3: Cut it off. I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I

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Speaker 2: Just gonna go? I like am so honestly the women

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Speaker 2: I will not be that person.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think that gray hair it's not like necessarily

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Speaker 1: so I don't think it's a bad thing.

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Speaker 2: I don't either, But I'm just saying the women who

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Speaker 1: So we, uh, Originally last night we were gonna have

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Speaker 2: Like it's weird, like when you're busy, you have less time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I don't know, it's hard, but I see

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Speaker 1: So anyways, last night we had dinner plans. We were

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Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, we're already going to

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Speaker 1: all the plans. You know, I was gonna have sex later,

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Speaker 5: Though undred percent you were closing the deal that night,

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Speaker 5: so it's really hard to tell.

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Speaker 1: Well, so it's funny you say that because I didn't

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Speaker 1: there's just no way, Like, there's no way. But I

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Speaker 1: will say he did tell me how beautiful and amazing

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Speaker 1: I looked more than like regular, Like I felt that

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Speaker 1: he like was like very attracted to me last night.

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Speaker 6: Did he say it? Did he go like, you know

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Speaker 6: you look beautiful?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like you smell amazing.

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Speaker 3: No, nothing about.

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Speaker 1: Smell, but like, look like you look like you look amazing.

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Speaker 1: I so, in my mind that's a win.

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Speaker 2: I just feel a little bit upset that I hugged

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Speaker 2: me and yeah, like I'm just feeling a little bit.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't in a place where you would have touched me.

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Speaker 2: What so just I thought it was.

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Speaker 1: Like, you're putting it on my pulse points. I put

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Speaker 1: it like, do you really want to know?

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Speaker 5: I think I think we need to know.

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Speaker 1: I put it, well, I showereds that's fine. I put

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Speaker 2: Way too close for hugging. That is too close for

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Speaker 2: someone who hugged you.

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Speaker 3: Well, were you attracted to me last night? No spot,

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Speaker 3: I just put on the one.

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Speaker 7: It works.

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Speaker 3: It's like clinically, what did you want me to tell

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Speaker 2: I zabed, Yeah, don't hug me. I vabbed. Did you

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Speaker 6: Yeah? You need like an indicator for like your like

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Speaker 3: In the perfect world, it would have just been date night,

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Speaker 2: Nah.

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Speaker 3: It was like contained.

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Speaker 3: But so it's hard to say if it works or not.

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Speaker 4: I have no proof.

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Speaker 6: Some of the Facebook group I can't remember their name,

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Speaker 1: But it works, she said, see, and I also saw

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Speaker 1: BuzzFeed posted something everybody was sending me, this BuzzFeed article

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Speaker 5: Well, bad news for the Becky G's of the world.

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Speaker 2: It's a lucky few, just us. It's a lucky few of.

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Speaker 2: No, this is the first year they did twenty nineteen, and.

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Speaker 4: Pretty general bracket.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well I'm going to get there because I

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Speaker 3: He does like magic videos. And I was like, so

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Speaker 5: And they're mind bogging. You have no idea how you

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Speaker 5: Wait, it's double doubles ping pong.

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Speaker 1: So we're playing Brad Paisley and this other guy, Kevin

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Speaker 1: we won our first round. We beat Brad Paisley. I

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Speaker 2: So I get to the tournament and I see my

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Speaker 5: There. He's a Dodger and he's from Kenosha, Wisconsin, which

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Speaker 2: Oh well, there you go, you know exact it was

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Speaker 2: So we find him and I was like, are you

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Speaker 3: The wrong person, picked the wrong scrubber.

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Speaker 2: I would have been fair, yeah, Like I should have

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Speaker 2: First of all, it is still like so hot at

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Speaker 2: I'm like looking, Yeah, I watched Tanya and her partner

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Speaker 2: off day. So I felt bad being like, hey, get

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Speaker 4: So we don't warm up.

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Speaker 2: Oh and we're playing on the main table that's like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's like one. There's like a bunch of tables

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we were playing Will Ferrell and Justin Turner.

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Speaker 5: O my god, So.

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Speaker 2: I'm like torn between like sod and Will's like good,

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Speaker 4: I've ever, I think I would have chosen you.

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Speaker 1: No, it's not ping pong is so not like everyone

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Speaker 3: Totally different.

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Speaker 2: We lost it was probably like we made it. I

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Speaker 2: This one was picking up.

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Speaker 2: it's Melacunas and she's like, hey girl, and we had

444
00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:55,240
Speaker 2: met at like the last one, which was in twenty eighteen,

445
00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:59,399
Speaker 2: and I don't like Melacunas is like kind of on

446
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:02,159
Speaker 2: the same level Jennifer Aniston where I'm like obsessed with

447
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:06,200
Speaker 2: her and like think she's like so cute and want

448
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 2: to be her and be her best friend. And she

449
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:13,800
Speaker 2: and Ashton played right after us, and they were just everything.

450
00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:14,760
Speaker 3: They're everything.

451
00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:17,919
Speaker 1: Watching them play, I was like, she's just in like

452
00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 1: converse and like I think, were they wearing Dodgers.

453
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,800
Speaker 2: Jerseys, No, just in like T shirt, jeans and just.

454
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:27,560
Speaker 1: Like chill like that. That's it right there. Yeah, that's

455
00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:28,680
Speaker 1: wealth and love.

456
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:31,879
Speaker 2: Got to watch them. They lost to which you know

457
00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 2: made me feel good.

458
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:34,440
Speaker 3: Bet Yeah.

459
00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:36,840
Speaker 2: But then like I was playing, I was playing Robbie

460
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 2: and I was playing Tanya's partner. After just like saying,

461
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:40,679
Speaker 2: oh wait, okay.

462
00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:41,560
Speaker 3: Okay, this is the best part.

463
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:43,440
Speaker 1: So because I did tell him, I was like, ah,

464
00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:45,399
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but like you totally should have got my

465
00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:47,400
Speaker 1: best friend because she's so good at ping pong.

466
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 3: As a partner.

467
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 1: So we go into the second round and by the way,

468
00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:52,679
Speaker 1: like after I won the first round. I was feeling

469
00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:55,160
Speaker 1: like I was feeling myself. I was like, I'm playing

470
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,639
Speaker 1: the best ping pong. I have a great partner, like

471
00:21:57,880 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 1: let's go.

472
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,200
Speaker 4: This is my night, this is my night, Like.

473
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:02,640
Speaker 1: We're gonna make it to the five. Like we're gonna

474
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 1: make it to the finals. So we play Pete Wentz

475
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 1: and some other Dodger. I don't remember the Dodger's name.

476
00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:09,560
Speaker 1: Do you remember the Dodgers name?

477
00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:13,440
Speaker 2: I could, I could not tell you. I was watching you, okay,

478
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:14,240
Speaker 2: the table.

479
00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:16,800
Speaker 3: But they had this like strategy.

480
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:19,320
Speaker 1: So basically I would like serve it and then they

481
00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 1: would hit the ball back to my side, like my corner,

482
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,119
Speaker 1: meaning like my partner would have to run and like

483
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 1: hit me out of the way because he needs to

484
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:26,440
Speaker 1: hit the next ball.

485
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,680
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, sure, yeah, Alex Vesia, that sounds right.

486
00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:33,680
Speaker 1: So they're doing this like this trick, so he gets

487
00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 1: a couple of like they get some points right away

488
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,359
Speaker 1: because it was hard to do that.

489
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:41,240
Speaker 5: Mm hmm. But that's their strategy to kind of keep

490
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 5: your guys off off your game.

491
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 1: I guess I don't really know. I was just trying

492
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:46,119
Speaker 1: to get the ball back. That was like my that

493
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:47,359
Speaker 1: was like my job.

494
00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:48,879
Speaker 2: Tanya I had no strategy.

495
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:50,680
Speaker 3: I had no strategy, just get the ball back.

496
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:56,240
Speaker 1: And and there was this weird sense of like I

497
00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 1: never felt competitive, but I wanted to win so badly

498
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,239
Speaker 1: for my partner. And like his wife was there and

499
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 1: she was sweet and fun and encouraging, and like Robbie

500
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 1: was there and the kids and they were all.

501
00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 3: Like, Tanya, you're playing so good. We're so proud of you.

502
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 1: And like this weird like I felt almost felt like

503
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,159
Speaker 1: a little bit of Becca came over me in the

504
00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:13,639
Speaker 1: sense that like I really want is.

505
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,400
Speaker 5: What I'm saying, You guys are changing roles.

506
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:17,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I really really wanted to win.

507
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 1: So cut to we lost, and I lost the like

508
00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 1: losing point, which like suck the.

509
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 2: Funniest video of Tanya hitting it, and then it was

510
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:29,639
Speaker 2: like the game was over and she looks up at

511
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 2: him and she goes, is that the She says, like,

512
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:33,360
Speaker 2: is that the end?

513
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:37,200
Speaker 4: Did I just lose it?

514
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 1: And I felt I genuinely felt so bad. But then

515
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:43,520
Speaker 1: I have this like epiphany of like a moment, and

516
00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 1: I and I'm tough first of all, and I Zach

517
00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 1: King I just met him that night, and I'm having

518
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 1: this hard to heart and I go, this has really

519
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:53,439
Speaker 1: taught me a life lesson having a partner that encourages

520
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:55,720
Speaker 1: me and pushes me and wants me to be stronger,

521
00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,439
Speaker 1: elevates me and makes me play better. And I was

522
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:00,440
Speaker 1: I played the best ping pong of my life tonight,

523
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: and I was like having this grand epiphany and I

524
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:04,160
Speaker 1: was like, Babe, we have to talk when I get

525
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:05,680
Speaker 1: in the when we get in the car tonight, because

526
00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:10,119
Speaker 1: I had this like like huge epiphany of life and

527
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 1: and it just made me realize a lot because I

528
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,800
Speaker 1: really I feel like I was my best self because

529
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 1: my partner was the way that he was. If I

530
00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 1: had your partner, Gavin, I would have just sucked and

531
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 1: like thrown it away and like not cared, you know.

532
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 3: But I didn't. I didn't.

533
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:28,400
Speaker 1: I had a partner that cared and wanted to win

534
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:30,880
Speaker 1: and like made me a better version of my ping

535
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 1: punk self.

536
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 4: It's true.

537
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:34,479
Speaker 1: And we became like friends. I think he's gonna come

538
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:35,800
Speaker 1: to like a Taco Tuesday with his.

539
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 3: Wife and oh nice.

540
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 5: Yeah.

541
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,240
Speaker 3: So then we get in the car to go home.

542
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,040
Speaker 1: And I'm like, who, I got to look up this

543
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:44,680
Speaker 1: this guy, this Zach King go to like his TikTok

544
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 1: and he's like one of the top five most followed TikTokers,

545
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 1: like in the world. He has like billions of like

546
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,880
Speaker 1: Instagram followers and I was, yeah.

547
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 5: Sixty nine million followers on TikTok, which is very impressive

548
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 5: and almost a billion likes.

549
00:24:57,160 --> 00:25:00,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we're like watching his videos and they're so

550
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:03,679
Speaker 1: good and like wholesome, like he's not like I don't know,

551
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:05,600
Speaker 1: it's not you know sometimes you're watching tiktoks they're kind

552
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 1: of trashy and like, yeah, why are these peoples and

553
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:12,359
Speaker 1: making money? Like he is salt of the earth, wholesome,

554
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 1: good content, interesting and like so I don't know. Now

555
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:20,919
Speaker 1: I'm a fan of his And yeah, it was a

556
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: great night.

557
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:23,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a great night.

558
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 4: It was so fun.

559
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:26,879
Speaker 2: It's like one of my favorite events. It's just fun.

560
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:30,160
Speaker 2: It's like everyone there is just like having the time.

561
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:30,639
Speaker 3: And their life.

562
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 4: Yeah.

563
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:32,960
Speaker 1: So then like after the after people start like losing

564
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 1: and the courts are open the ping pong tables, Becca

565
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,400
Speaker 1: and Robbie were like playing against each other and mind

566
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 1: you watching them play like that, Like Robbie over exaggerates,

567
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 1: like he like serves like all like very it's very dramatic,

568
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,440
Speaker 1: and Becca's like, you know, does her thing and it's

569
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:50,120
Speaker 1: so like all whatever, And I'm watching Zach watch you guys,

570
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 1: and he's like, I gotta play them. Like he was

571
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 1: like I gotta play them.

572
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:54,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

573
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,239
Speaker 3: I think that's why he wants to kind of talk

574
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 3: without Tuesday, because he just wants to play ping pong

575
00:25:56,760 --> 00:26:01,159
Speaker 3: with you guys. Yeah. I beat all of them, and

576
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 3: she was in heels and she was in heels.

577
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 2: Impressive, but I didn't lose in the tournament where it mattered,

578
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 2: So that's something I'm still coming to terms with.

579
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:11,320
Speaker 4: But you gotta have a good partner.

580
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:15,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, I honestly was not an encouraging partner to Gavin,

581
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 2: Like I did the best that I could, but I

582
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 2: was not an encouragement.

583
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,760
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, imagine, if your approach was more

584
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:24,159
Speaker 1: like empathetic and encouraging, maybe he could have played a

585
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: little bit better.

586
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 2: I said words of encouragement, but it was through like

587
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 2: gritted teeth, you know, Like I was like, you got this,

588
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 2: you know.

589
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:34,360
Speaker 1: But I also realized I want to practice ping pong

590
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:36,200
Speaker 1: and I want to get really good and next year

591
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,360
Speaker 1: I want to play as partners you and I because

592
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: there was no female like actually, I think the team

593
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,639
Speaker 1: that won was one guy, one girl, but there was

594
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:45,959
Speaker 1: no double female teams.

595
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 2: There was this one girl who's like literally a professional

596
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 2: Olympian ping pong player, and I wish.

597
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,359
Speaker 4: That you could watch this girl.

598
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 2: It was like every single shot was like a slam,

599
00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 2: like so hard. It was so impressive. It's a fun

600
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 2: it's a fun sport.

601
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 1: It is so fun, Like I did not expect to

602
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 1: have as much fun as I did that night living.

603
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:20,160
Speaker 8: And and wait, I'm going to say something about there

604
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 8: was something that I was going to talk about.

605
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 2: Oh oh, so we're gonna take a break and I'll

606
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:26,679
Speaker 2: be right back because I wanted to bring something up

607
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 2: about something we talked about last week.

608
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 3: What was it?

609
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 4: Stay tuned, all right, we are back.

610
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 2: So I just wanted I don't want to get into

611
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 2: this conversation again, but someone sent me. I had a

612
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 2: lot of people send me a response to the right person,

613
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 2: wrong time conversation, and they're like no, no, no, but

614
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 2: they were saying they were saying that just like your

615
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 2: one of your favorite movies, he's just not that into you.

616
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 2: You're the exception, not the rule. And maybe if you

617
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 2: can look at it, through that lens, it'll it'll ease

618
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 2: the debate, Like your situation isn't the like general consensus.

619
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 2: You were just an exception to the rule.

620
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 3: My actual real life. Well no, it's it wasn't wrong person,

621
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 3: It wasn't right person.

622
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 2: Okay, no, we're not doing this again. But I did

623
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 2: was I was like.

624
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 4: Maybe and then and then you know who had.

625
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 2: The audacity to agree with Donyel because he showed me

626
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 2: the DMS Robbie himself. Wow, And I go, not you like,

627
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 2: you can't agree with it done?

628
00:28:58,720 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 3: That's my guy.

629
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 4: One thing about him, he is loyal to a fault.

630
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, well I do like that thinking about it through

631
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 1: the lens of Jennifer Goodwin's character, and he's just not

632
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 1: that Indian exception not the rule. And what a beautiful

633
00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 1: thing to be an exception not the rule. Yeah, a

634
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: rule breaker, some may say.

635
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 2: I also got so many messages of people, you know,

636
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 2: were like, you know we did in college. We needed

637
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 2: time to like do our explore and do our thing.

638
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 2: And we've been married with kids for four years now.

639
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 2: Once we reconnected at a different time, the right time anyways,

640
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 2: moving on, can't go down that gaslighting path. Wait what

641
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 2: is this thing about closing the toilet lid when you flush.

642
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: Oh, I thought you were talking about Meredith Gray only

643
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: being a nine hours like eight. I think it's eight

644
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: of the nineteen. I do want to talk about that,

645
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 1: which is just like are they wanting us to watch?

646
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 2: I think what they're doing, and I this is just

647
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 2: I have no ground to stand on with this theory,

648
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 2: but I think I.

649
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 3: Think I know what you're gonna say.

650
00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 2: Just say it, because I think they're trying to go

651
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 2: to season twenty.

652
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 3: Oh.

653
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 2: I think they're like trying to have twenty seasons because

654
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 2: like how much more iconic does twenty sound other than

655
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 2: like nineteen or eighteen.

656
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 1: But then having Merredith having her in less episodes is

657
00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 1: not making us want at season twenty.

658
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 2: I know.

659
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 1: I thought you were saying because they posted this photo

660
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: of like the new interns, like this is the new class,

661
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:41,959
Speaker 1: and I feel like they haven't done something like that

662
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 1: since the very beginning, So I almost feel like they're

663
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 1: wanting to like totally start over with this new like

664
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 1: interns and they kind of resemble, you know.

665
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 3: The original squad. Yeah, whoa, that was my theory based on.

666
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:58,479
Speaker 5: No, I'm fine with it. Honestly, I don't find her

667
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:02,200
Speaker 5: terribly interesting staying in recent seasons, So I think it's fine.

668
00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:04,000
Speaker 5: It might it might freshen things up a bit. I

669
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 5: don't know I trust these people at this point.

670
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 1: Oh, this guy that works at KISSFM just told me

671
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 1: yesterday that he was an extra on this new season.

672
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 1: So when his episode, Ronnie, he does the social media

673
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 1: for kiss God. Yeah, So when his episode airs, I

674
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 1: told him he has to come on the podcast.

675
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 5: Is how did he get that? And you guys haven't

676
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 5: gotten so I asked.

677
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 1: And he's in some sort of like central casting. He's

678
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:31,600
Speaker 1: like in something where they call it they need extras,

679
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: and he was in like a scene with Amelia Shepherd

680
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 1: and he has to go back to film something else,

681
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 1: and like he says that, Well, I don't even know if

682
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: I'm allowed to say this, I probably shouldn't.

683
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 2: Well, this might be part of the NBA that he's so, well.

684
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:46,959
Speaker 5: That's exciting. Ronnie's awesome.

685
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, so when is I told him when his episode

686
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 1: airs to come on the podcast and give us like

687
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:52,760
Speaker 1: the behind the scenes.

688
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 2: I just know that you and I would be like

689
00:31:55,280 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 2: hour two like tapping our feet trying to like weasel

690
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 2: around the set and us getting like yelled at her,

691
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 2: banned or kicked off. Yeah, that's how I picture it happening.

692
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:08,960
Speaker 3: He did say it was a long time, like it

693
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 3: was like a long day.

694
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:13,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, well something something to look forward.

695
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 1: But yeah, but I also told him to put in

696
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:16,479
Speaker 1: a good word. I was like, well, now that you're in,

697
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 1: put in a word for us, and he was like, yeah,

698
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 1: totally like me and Debbie Allen.

699
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 2: Speaking of you when we were when you were like,

700
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 2: I thought I was going to say the same thing

701
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 2: that you were thinking. So last night after I got

702
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 2: in the car on my way home and I was

703
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 2: talking to Haley and she was on her tour bus

704
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 2: with like her team, and she was like, so, we're

705
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 2: playing this game where like on the count of three,

706
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 2: you say a word and then you try to like

707
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 2: say the same word eventually, like you try to get

708
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 2: to where you're on the count of three, you say

709
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 2: the same word. Do this makes sense to anybody? Like

710
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 2: you say like one, two, three, and then like Tanya

711
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 2: and I would both say a word and like you

712
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 2: kind of see yeah, like you see the pattern of

713
00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 2: thinking and you try to get to the same word. Anyways,

714
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:04,720
Speaker 2: she goes so I wanted to try it with you.

715
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 2: So she goes one two three and we both say

716
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:12,200
Speaker 2: car at the same time. It was so crazy. I

717
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 2: was like, Wow, we're so InSync.

718
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, if you do make kids. I used to play this,

719
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:19,600
Speaker 5: but usually by the sixth or seventh word, you'll hit one.

720
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 5: You kind of see where the other person's going, they

721
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 5: see where you're going, and you come together. But that's impressive.

722
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 2: You want to try it.

723
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 5: Okay, Tanya, don't don't be trepidacious all in one.

724
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 3: Two three you say just anyway, anyway, any word?

725
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 2: Okay, ready, one two three podcasts, Oh, those are very different.

726
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 5: It's okay, keep going, you can.

727
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 4: Don't over one two three?

728
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 3: Hair, What was that?

729
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 4: I can't panic because I didn't have.

730
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 2: A word, so I just tried to say what you

731
00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 2: were saying.

732
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 3: This game is really fun.

733
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 2: Anyways, we said it at the exact same time, and

734
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:08,800
Speaker 2: that was really cool. So that's a little bit about us. Yeah,

735
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 2: we do have an email, and I know someone said

736
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 2: our last email was repetitive.

737
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 4: We can't tell if it's the exact same email or

738
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 4: if it was.

739
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:18,040
Speaker 2: Just the topic that felt repetitive, which it was, because

740
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 2: we've talked about that topic many at times, but I

741
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 2: think this one's new. Is it Mark?

742
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 5: I don't know, I really I'm not sure. But this

743
00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 5: is from anonymous, and I'm going to read it. Darn it.

744
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 5: I've been dating my boyfriends.

745
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 3: It's a little boy today.

746
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 2: You know.

747
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 5: I have a thing with baseball caps that more often. Honestly,

748
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 5: I don't think so. I look seven and seventy simultaneously

749
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 5: when I wear a baseball cap.

750
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 3: No you don't, you look seventeen.

751
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 4: I like the basement cap.

752
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:45,360
Speaker 2: Wait, putting it on backwards?

753
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 5: Oh no, oh yeah, that's right. That's the hot way

754
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 5: to do it, though, right.

755
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, backwards? Right?

756
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:52,239
Speaker 7: Say it?

757
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, Backwards is the move. It's like a universal thing,

758
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 2: it is.

759
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:01,880
Speaker 5: He is going to stay that way. I'll test it

760
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 5: out on my wife when we're done.

761
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: All yeah, yeah, yeah, all right. Takes away the seven

762
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:09,880
Speaker 1: and makes it like twenty seven.

763
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 6: This is the male version of babbing. It's gonna work it.

764
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:19,279
Speaker 5: Anonymous says, I've been dating my boyfriend since March. He

765
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 5: has seemed like the most genuine and real person I've

766
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 5: met in Nolile. Well, last night we got to his

767
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:26,839
Speaker 5: house and I found another girl's used underwear on his

768
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 5: bedroom floor, next to his bed under a pillow. His

769
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 5: ex moved out in October, so that's why it's ten

770
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,399
Speaker 5: months ago. And I know there was at least one

771
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 5: other girl after her. He has someone who cleans the

772
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 5: house every two weeks. He also has two dogs. The

773
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 5: underwear was not their last week. He said he has

774
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 5: no idea how they got there, but that his dogs

775
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 5: could have found them somewhere, and that they've been known

776
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:50,080
Speaker 5: to love socks and underwear. I don't know what to

777
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:52,279
Speaker 5: do because I've started falling for this guy and I

778
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:54,440
Speaker 5: believe him, and I don't want to end it, but

779
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:56,839
Speaker 5: to have no good explanation for how they got there

780
00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:59,759
Speaker 5: was telling me that he cheated. I asked him, if

781
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 5: he has an ex, let's try to mess with him.

782
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 5: Did a friend come and change in his house to

783
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:06,400
Speaker 5: go swimming? I literally tried to give him any excuse,

784
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:09,239
Speaker 5: and he said no. He didn't get defensive. He said

785
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:11,319
Speaker 5: he hadn't been with anyone since we started talking, and

786
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 5: even a little bit before that. I should run, shouldn't I?

787
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 2: This is so interesting.

788
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 4: I'm like, because.

789
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:25,359
Speaker 2: I will say Phoebe always, like Phoebe always, I'll find

790
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:29,600
Speaker 2: underwear and I'm like, you're discussing, like why is this

791
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:34,360
Speaker 2: like under the bed, and I don't I don't doubt

792
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 2: that his dog may have gotten into underwear.

793
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:41,399
Speaker 5: From where where would be lost for a year?

794
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,879
Speaker 2: A year? Why is it a year?

795
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 5: Because that's the last time another woman would have been

796
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 5: in his place. They've been dating since March. I mean

797
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 5: she left, so when she moved out, she accidentally underwear

798
00:36:57,880 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 5: behind a couch.

799
00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: I wear this story because it's so crazy and like

800
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 1: I too blew up because I thought my boyfriend at

801
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:08,920
Speaker 1: the time was cheating on me.

802
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 3: So this is my boyfriend.

803
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 1: Like when I was twenty four and he had an

804
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 1: apartment in Arizona and there was two bedrooms, two bathrooms,

805
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: and when he was moving out of this apartment, I

806
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 1: was helping. I went out there to help him pack up,

807
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 1: and I found women's underwear in the guest shower, like

808
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 1: on the you know, like on the shower thing kind

809
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:31,840
Speaker 1: of like what you do when like you get period

810
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:33,879
Speaker 1: in your underwear and you, like Washington just gave it there.

811
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 3: It was not my underwear, and.

812
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 1: I freaked out, like I literally was like, you cheating mother.

813
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 1: You know, we were long distance, so it would have

814
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:44,360
Speaker 1: been way easy for him to like cheat and like

815
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 1: this girl's underwear is just in the bathroom, and so

816
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 1: I like lose my I lose my cool and he's

817
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:53,800
Speaker 1: like swears he doesn't know where it came from.

818
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 3: I'd never I have never had girls here. I don't

819
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 3: even know.

820
00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:58,399
Speaker 1: Like he just like had no idea. He literally had

821
00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:01,319
Speaker 1: no idea. Turns into a whole thing.

822
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 2: Cut to.

823
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 1: I find out because I was telling one of my

824
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:07,800
Speaker 1: girlfriends about the story and I found this underwear and

825
00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 1: she was like, oh my gosh, that's mine. I left

826
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:13,719
Speaker 1: that there. So my one of my girlfriends and her

827
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 1: boyfriend came. This was like months before, but they came

828
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: to stay with us, and so they stayed in the

829
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: second bedroom, and she got period on her underwear and

830
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: like washed him in the shower and like left them

831
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:27,399
Speaker 1: there and just like forgot and I guess I didn't

832
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 1: tell me, ton't even think about it until I brought

833
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 1: it up, and she's like, oh my god, those are mine.

834
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 2: Wow.

835
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 1: So they were my friend's underwear in his shower, and

836
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 1: we got into a whole fight, and I thought he

837
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 1: was like cheating on me.

838
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 2: So you're saying maybe if they had friends come and stay.

839
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, you knows, like I don't know the

840
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 1: details of your guy's situation the last couple months, but

841
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 1: like I'm saying, there is a possibility that he's not cheating.

842
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,439
Speaker 5: I mean, she says right in the email, she said,

843
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 5: I believe him. To me, that's the bottom line. You

844
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,279
Speaker 5: know better than us, and the vibe off you're a

845
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 5: boyfriend if you trustworthy or not. So if you believe him,

846
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 5: then you got to give him the benefit of the doubt.

847
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:06,719
Speaker 5: I'd keep my eyes open. But I think you're fine

848
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 5: to stick around.

849
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 2: I also, I do think it's a green flag that

850
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 2: he didn't get like defensive or like try to fight

851
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 2: or like battle. He was just like I don't know

852
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,879
Speaker 2: where they came from. That's a good sign. Unless he's

853
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:21,240
Speaker 2: a psychopath, then.

854
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 6: There's nothing you can do that point.

855
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is what it is.

856
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 1: I literally would have been like bye bye, leave this dude,

857
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:33,400
Speaker 1: Cyonara sucker. But this story that happened to me like

858
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 1: always brings me back of like.

859
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 3: It can happen.

860
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 2: Are you is anyone else like a little like upset

861
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 2: about the fact that we know they're used, Like how

862
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 2: do we know they're used.

863
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:49,720
Speaker 3: Snail trail.

864
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: Snail trail my new favorite word, by the way, So

865
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 1: that's what I've been thinking about the last five minutes.

866
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 3: So Mark, do you know what a snail trailer is?

867
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 5: Well, I know what it is on a snail, so

868
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:05,880
Speaker 5: I can kind of put two and two together.

869
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 2: Okay, in.

870
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 5: The context.

871
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:13,240
Speaker 3: You missed the Lady Gang episode where I was informed

872
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:16,399
Speaker 3: Oh nice, Yeah, so.

873
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 6: It was delighted by the term. I made it the

874
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 6: title of that episode, snail Trailblazers.

875
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, a moment, but it's like.

876
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,320
Speaker 5: The other side of skid marks.

877
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 2: You brought it up, Tanya, I know it's all gross.

878
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 5: The second email is for Tanya, if you don't mind.

879
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 4: I cannot wait.

880
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:41,839
Speaker 2: I cannot wait for this response.

881
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 5: Jessica asks, can Tanya talk about how to express to

882
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 5: your partner and make him understand why you don't want

883
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 5: to move in before engagement? He believes we need to

884
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:56,280
Speaker 5: move in to be sure about marriage hashtag traditional modern

885
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 5: woman energy.

886
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,760
Speaker 3: Why can't you wait for this?

887
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 2: I want to hear what you're saying.

888
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 3: Why is that funny?

889
00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:08,720
Speaker 2: You? Basically it's true.

890
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:09,720
Speaker 3: It is true.

891
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 1: I basically live with him, and I feel as though

892
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:14,400
Speaker 1: most of his closet is more my stuff now than his.

893
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 2: I've seen it now too, so like I've seen how

894
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 2: much of her stuff has infiltrated his home.

895
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 1: Like I'm home. I've been home the Pascal Lakes. I've

896
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: been working from here, and I'm like, I literally have

897
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 1: no underwear. I'm wearing like a thong that's two sizes. No,

898
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:31,719
Speaker 1: they're not used, but I'm like, you know the other

899
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 1: underwear on your doors that you just never wear there

900
00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 1: no reason. That's all I have left here, So I'm

901
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 1: wearing like, ugh, so gross. Anyways, So here's the thing.

902
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 3: I don't know.

903
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:53,840
Speaker 1: It was a conversation that we had because I think

904
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 1: that my boyfriend would be open to living together before

905
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 1: we were engaged. I think he would want to live

906
00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 1: together before we were engaged. But it was something that

907
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 1: I had expressed that I don't want to do until

908
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:06,399
Speaker 1: we're engaged. And he didn't really push back on it,

909
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 1: Like he didn't really give me a hard time. I

910
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 1: guess basically because I do live there, so it's not

911
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 1: really like.

912
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 3: There's a difference.

913
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 1: And I will say that since I have been staying

914
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: like now that I stay there every night and I

915
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 1: do basically live there. There have been things to navigate

916
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:28,400
Speaker 1: that I don't think happened until you move in together,

917
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 1: like picking up around the house, like, you know, my

918
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 1: apartment looks like it's a museum, like everything is put back,

919
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:38,880
Speaker 1: it's not very lived in. And then he has two kids,

920
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 1: so it's like a very different kind of like world,

921
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:46,040
Speaker 1: you know, And so that was hard for me. I

922
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 1: had to kind of unclench a little bit in my

923
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 1: OCD tendencies of cleanliness. But he also stepped up his

924
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 1: game of you know, picking up and making sure it

925
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 1: was like it's a lot neater and more organized. And

926
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:03,960
Speaker 1: we've also kind of shared, uh, you know, cooking duties

927
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 1: and all that kind of stuff that comes with living together.

928
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:08,799
Speaker 1: So I'd say, I think that you can still get

929
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 1: that feel of living with somebody without fully one percent

930
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 1: moving in with them.

931
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 3: I think so.

932
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 5: But explain why it's important not to move in together

933
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:22,359
Speaker 5: since all your stuff is there anywhere and you sleep

934
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 5: there every.

935
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 3: Night, because I do think.

936
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:27,759
Speaker 1: I know, I know some people say like, you don't

937
00:43:27,800 --> 00:43:29,719
Speaker 1: have to get married, you don't have to get married

938
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 1: to be in a committed long term relationship, But I

939
00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:37,240
Speaker 1: believe that there is a difference in boyfriend girlfriend Beyonce

940
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 1: husband wife. I do feel there's a difference, and I

941
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 1: want our relationship to feel different at each stage. So

942
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 1: I want to save that for when I'm living with,

943
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 1: you know, with my fiance, and I want to save

944
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:52,839
Speaker 1: things for when we are husband and wife.

945
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 3: And that's just what I want.

946
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 1: I like the that I have a place to live

947
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 1: in case she hits the fan, you know what I mean,

948
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 1: Like it's not going to but in case it does,

949
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 1: I have a home. You know, nothing sounds worse to

950
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 1: me than those people who were like we broke up

951
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 1: and we were living together and then like you have

952
00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: to come like that just sounds awful, Like why would

953
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,200
Speaker 1: I put myself through that when I have I don't

954
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 1: have to.

955
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 6: From the male side, I went through this because when

956
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 6: I moved to out of my parents' house, I live

957
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 6: with my sister and then I lived by myself. I

958
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 6: never really had like a real roommate. And Alison and

959
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 6: I started dating more seriously, and I'm like, I want

960
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 6: to move in together, and she's like, I've lived with

961
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 6: a bunch of boyfriends and it never went anywhere and

962
00:44:35,760 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 6: it was a pain in the ass. I don't want

963
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 6: to do that again if we're moving in together we're engaged.

964
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 6: I was like, Okay, I guess, I guess, I'll I

965
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 6: guess I'm getting ring there. And no, I wanted, I know,

966
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 6: I wanted to do that and so and I respected

967
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 6: that and we didn't move until we got engaged. And

968
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:52,800
Speaker 6: I was like, man, what if I'm a really bad roommate.

969
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:54,200
Speaker 6: I'm not going to find out till this woman is

970
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 6: agreed to marry me.

971
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 1: You know.

972
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 6: Luckily it was fine, but I was nervous to do that,

973
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:02,839
Speaker 6: to make that kind of commitment before living with somebody. Yeah,

974
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 6: but you gotta trust the process, you know.

975
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 1: But I do think that, like I do think that

976
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 1: you get a sense of, like, you know, even now

977
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 1: with my morning routine because I do sleep there every night,

978
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:12,800
Speaker 1: Like we know, I put my clothes in the bathroom

979
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 1: and I get changed and I do all my stuff

980
00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 1: in there, And like I do think you get a

981
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: feel for living with somebody without necessarily fully being moved in.

982
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:22,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I do.

983
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 1: I think there's like differences, you know. I try, I try,

984
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 1: and I try and kind of check myself too when

985
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 1: I want to be like super involved in all the

986
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: decision making and stuff. I'm like, I'm the girlfriend right

987
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 1: now when I am a fiance or a wife, Like

988
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: my role and my voice should be different, you know,

989
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: so I try and like check myself.

990
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 2: I also know a lot of people who you know,

991
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 2: either waited for marriage or like waited literally until marriage

992
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 2: to move in or even stay together, and I know

993
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,120
Speaker 2: that all of them have been Like, there was definitely

994
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:55,680
Speaker 2: a huge adjustment period in our relationship, like getting married

995
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 2: and then also moving in together, and there was like

996
00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 2: we had to learn how to how I each other

997
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 2: live and like figure out what responsibilities we have. So

998
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 2: I would say, even if even if you don't feel

999
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 2: ready to move in and you want to wait until

1000
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 2: a certain point, even if it's marriage or getting engaged,

1001
00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 2: whatever it is, I think, no matter what, there's going

1002
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 2: to be that adjustment period, and you just have to

1003
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 2: know like this is normal and not to think that

1004
00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:23,320
Speaker 2: it means you're doomed. It just means, like in any case,

1005
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,479
Speaker 2: when you have a new roommate, you adjust to how

1006
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:27,920
Speaker 2: you live with them. So I don't think it's like

1007
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:30,880
Speaker 2: I don't think it's bad any way you do it,

1008
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 2: Like I think, if you want to move in with

1009
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 2: someone and make sure that you live well together before

1010
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 2: you get married. That's fine.

1011
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 4: But I think if you're.

1012
00:46:37,960 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 2: Not meant to be together, if it doesn't work, it's

1013
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 2: not going to be because someone doesn't do the dishes.

1014
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 2: You know, It's like right, there's gonna be other reasons.

1015
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 5: So and I would say, do it for you and

1016
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 5: make sure you're doing it for you or not doing

1017
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 5: it for you and your opinions. Don't do it for

1018
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 5: your parents, don't not do it for your parents or

1019
00:46:55,880 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 5: whatever else. Just make the right decision for you in

1020
00:46:57,960 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 5: the moment, but stick to it.

1021
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:03,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, good work everybody.

1022
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:13,359
Speaker 3: It is interesting though, like it is, it's an interesting dynamic. Yeah, yeah, well.

1023
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,320
Speaker 1: Especially going I mean, hello, I lived in like a

1024
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 1: museum on my own, so I can do everything. However,

1025
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:21,480
Speaker 1: I want to put everything away. And then like boys

1026
00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 1: are just messier in general. And then one and you know,

1027
00:47:24,239 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: two kids is a whole different story. It's like a

1028
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 1: whole different ballgame.

1029
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 2: You know, duty calls, you know.

1030
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:33,479
Speaker 1: Duty calls. It's time to go. Oh I do wanted

1031
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:38,359
Speaker 1: to say one quick thing. Don't try and argue that

1032
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 1: Sonny did not come out of my womb, because that

1033
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:42,759
Speaker 1: girl has a uti right now, good.

1034
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 2: Can you even from all her humping.

1035
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 1: She hasn't been humping because she's been so in pain,

1036
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 1: I know, And like I was, she's been having accidents

1037
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 1: in the house and she peed in her crate and

1038
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: I literally I told Robbie. I was like, I think

1039
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 1: she's a bladder infection, Like there's no way she's not. Then,

1040
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:04,960
Speaker 1: and He's like, she's just acting out because we gave

1041
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: her to somebody for the weekend. She's just acting out.

1042
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 1: And I go, I swear, this is not just acting out.

1043
00:48:11,000 --> 00:48:13,880
Speaker 2: She has a uti like mother like daughter.

1044
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 3: I was like, tell me, this is not my daughter.

1045
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:18,800
Speaker 5: Congratulations, don't tell her.

1046
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:20,440
Speaker 2: Then did not come out.

1047
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:26,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you very much. And with that it's time

1048
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 1: to go.

1049
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:29,560
Speaker 2: And with that it's time to say goodbye. But we

1050
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 2: will be back with an episode later this week.

1051
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 1: Yes we will, and then I'll be off the next week.

1052
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 1: Who's who's gonna is Jojo gonna come in?

1053
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 2: She is, but she's also so busy, so I need

1054
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 2: to double check. But Jojo might be co hosting with

1055
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 2: me or someone else. We're not sure.

1056
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:46,320
Speaker 3: Oh wow, a teaser.

1057
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 2: So Rachel and Tom we got so many or I

1058
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:51,399
Speaker 2: know Tanya got a ton of d ms about them.

1059
00:48:51,480 --> 00:48:56,800
Speaker 2: They are the couple that went viral for basically cooking

1060
00:48:56,840 --> 00:49:01,759
Speaker 2: foods to help with her and for and fertility.

1061
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 4: And they are the cutest humans of all times. Also,

1062
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 4: I can't wait for you all to hear.

1063
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 3: It's Tom and Rachel Sullivan.

1064
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1065
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:11,160
Speaker 3: So you want to do a little search?

1066
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, check them out on TikTok and Instagram and

1067
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:17,800
Speaker 2: then you'll feel really clued in on the next episode. Yeah,

1068
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 2: we love you all, love you so great week.

1069
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 3: Bye bye,