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Speaker 3: My in laws gifted me a car and it accidentally

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Speaker 3: revealed my husband's affair. Was he boinking in the car?

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Speaker 3: My husband Mail thirty eight, and I female, thirty six,

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Speaker 3: have been together since high school. We have two daughters

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Speaker 3: sixteen and fourteen, and three dogs. That's a full house.

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Speaker 3: I work from home and he drives a truck for

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Speaker 3: trips that last up to a week, then comes home,

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Speaker 3: spends a couple of days, then gets back on the road.

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Speaker 3: This hasn't been so much of a problem since the pandemic,

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Speaker 3: when the company I worked for switch to the home

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Speaker 3: office model. Even after we were able to go back

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Speaker 3: to the office, I decided to keep working from home

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Speaker 3: so I could be around the kids. I even started

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Speaker 3: taking small marketing jobs on the side. Nice The way

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Speaker 3: we manage finances at home is we split all bills

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Speaker 3: and get expenses and expenses in half, and each gets

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Speaker 3: to keep their money. Yes, we have a couple of

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Speaker 3: shared saving accounts for disease, family trips, et cetera. But

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Speaker 3: other than putting in our share, we don't really bother

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Speaker 3: asking the other what we do with our money. I

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Speaker 3: always thought that's just how our relationship progressed, and that

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Speaker 3: we were two very independent individuals. By the way, this

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Speaker 3: comes from Nervous Good ninety five to forty seven. And

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Speaker 3: the r slash Okay storytime subrend I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 3: I'm Keon, and we're here to give some good advice

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Speaker 3: in a little weird goofy way. But we don't have

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Speaker 3: all the answers. We don't only let you know what

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Speaker 3: we would do, but you should let us know what

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Speaker 3: you would do in the comments. As Op says, well,

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Speaker 3: for the last year, my in laws have been asking

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Speaker 3: how my new electric car has been working out for me.

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Speaker 3: At first I had only wonderful reviews, but later I

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Speaker 3: started noticing some inconveniences, like what do tell I told

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Speaker 3: them about needing to pay a subscription to use the

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Speaker 3: navigating system? Huh what? You already spent money on the car.

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Speaker 3: I just feel like it should just come with it.

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Speaker 3: I know that's crazy. Everything costs more. That blows my

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Speaker 3: mind and also pisses me off. And at some point

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Speaker 3: even the radio. Yes, the radio, I understand, because there's

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Speaker 3: like certain channels. I told them about the system updates

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Speaker 3: taking very long, and the car is staying locked for

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Speaker 3: the entire process. My sweet in law's worried I might

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Speaker 3: need a reliable backup vehicle just in case. Two weeks ago,

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Speaker 3: they showed up in front of my house with a

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Speaker 3: cute little Fiat used but perfectly functional. I could tell

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Speaker 3: they worried I wouldn't want to take such a gift

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Speaker 3: because the first thing my father in law mentioned is

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Speaker 3: how cheap. It was a bargain he couldn't pass. So

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Speaker 3: I said thank you and took them for a ride.

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Speaker 3: I have always lived for the flare. Every single vehicle

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Speaker 3: I have owned has gotten a pink or purple paint

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Speaker 3: job or been covered in stickers. So as soon as

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Speaker 3: we got the keys to this cute little thing, my

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Speaker 3: girls and I were off to get it wrapped. We

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Speaker 3: got a smoky lavender wrap that sparks just a little

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Speaker 3: in the sun. When my eldest saw it, she said,

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Speaker 3: it's beautiful. I love that. That's cute, like the millennial

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Speaker 3: I am, I said, like diamonds, like diamonds in the sky.

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Speaker 3: This is actually really sweet.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's cute, like you and your daughters

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Speaker 4: do a little fun thing, little fun activity wrapping your car.

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Speaker 5: Fine, surely nothing will go wrong.

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Speaker 3: No, noon, so we knew what was next. Bumper stickers.

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Speaker 3: This is a rap of a killmella and my favorite

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Speaker 3: is she even Italian. I don't know any of this. Okay,

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Speaker 3: they're all it's all Twilight Twilight quotes. Anyways, let me

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Speaker 3: tell you about the absolute meltdown my husband had when

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Speaker 3: he saw the car, something neither of us had ever

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Speaker 3: seen before. What was wrong? Well, that was fine when

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Speaker 3: cars were mine, but this one was purchased by his parents,

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Speaker 3: so technically it was his. I told him they bought

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Speaker 3: it for me, gifted it to me, and the title

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Speaker 3: was in my name. He said, then it was ours.

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Speaker 3: It's literally mine. I said, okay, I can understand that logic,

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Speaker 3: I guess. But then still, why the meltdown? He said?

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Speaker 3: The car lost its resale value with everything I did

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Speaker 3: to it. I said, okay, it's a rap. Also, no

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Speaker 3: one is selling it, so what he said he already

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Speaker 3: had a buyer, and we needed the money. Need the

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Speaker 3: money for what? Oh?

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Speaker 4: Wait, so he's trying to sell the car that his

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Speaker 4: parents bought you that probably also isn't even worth that

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Speaker 3: It was cheap. Yeah, he said he got a deal

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Speaker 3: he could not pass out. I know, That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: So your husband's trying to sell a car that he

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Speaker 4: probably can't even get a lot of money for.

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Speaker 3: Why is he also trying to sell it? He's desperate

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Speaker 3: for money. We don't know why it freak well, folks,

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Speaker 3: it wasn't a buyer. It was his other wife. Oh no, Kenny,

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Speaker 3: he won't call her a mistress. She stocks us on

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Speaker 3: social media and was tired of the favoritism and threatened

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Speaker 3: to tell everyone the truth unless he gave her the car.

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Speaker 3: Why because his parents have never met her and she

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Speaker 3: has never gottene anything from them like I have. Because

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Speaker 3: you're the afir partner girl, favor to lady. We didn't

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Speaker 3: even know you existed. You are literally the affair partner.

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Speaker 3: How is it favoritism? No one in this town even

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Speaker 3: knows you exist. Eight crazy nights.

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Speaker 5: Come on, that's a great, Well, give it to me.

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Speaker 5: It's a great one.

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Speaker 3: That's a technical We all know what happened at Escape today.

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Speaker 3: Now I learned they have a child too. What but

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Speaker 3: I will not be talking about the child since it

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Speaker 3: is not his fault.

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Speaker 5: Wait wait wait, wait wait wait their child? Your husband

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Speaker 5: and mist just have a child.

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Speaker 3: Oh I don't know. It's not clear.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, oh, make it clear, make it clear. I want

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Speaker 3: What do you mean it just says they have a

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Speaker 3: child too. I learned they have a child too.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I don't know if it's like husband and well

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Speaker 4: it says it's not.

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Speaker 5: It just that Okay, yeah, that's a keep going.

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Speaker 3: Maybe we'll find out in the end. Me refusing to

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Speaker 3: sell the car and my kids posting it on social

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Speaker 3: media made her come out and dms everything about their

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Speaker 3: relationship with receipts and all. That's nicer her honestly, just

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Speaker 3: posting to make sure it's not a dream. I feel angry, heartbroken, stupid,

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Speaker 3: still don't know what to do first, lawyer, therapists, in laws, lawyer.

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Speaker 3: My girls are devastated too, and it all started with

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Speaker 3: a little kawhi fiat. There are some comments what a shame?

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Speaker 3: Thirteen says that is horrible. Is he still trying to

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Speaker 3: contact you? Did a fair partner reach out again? How

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Speaker 3: did he prefer to her as other wife? Op? He responds,

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Speaker 3: We fought over the car in the afternoon. She messaged

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Speaker 3: me in the morning. Screenshots showed they argued all night

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Speaker 3: over the car. She said, I'm not playing. I will

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Speaker 3: tell her, and she did. I was not playing. She

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Speaker 3: wasn't playing, and she told her. I was making breakfast

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Speaker 3: and he came when the fire alarm went off because

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Speaker 3: I burnt the toast. When he saw my face, he

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Speaker 3: knew he was talking, but I couldn't hear him. Then

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Speaker 3: he said something around I had to take responsibility for

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Speaker 3: my son. And at some moment he said my second wife.

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Speaker 3: I told him to stop talking and leave. Yeah. I'd

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Speaker 3: be like, oh your second wife? Oh are you legally

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Speaker 3: married to her?

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Speaker 4: Is there some sort of marriage papers? Then you don't

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Speaker 4: have a second wife. You have one wife who you're

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Speaker 4: cheating on with your mistress.

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Speaker 3: And then my kids came down screaming she messaged them too.

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Speaker 3: That's diabolical. Oh, the affair partner messaged your kids. That's discus. Ugh,

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Speaker 3: what a way to find out, not even through like, no,

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Speaker 3: you know you couldn't even like Trost say anything. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's just like, got this weird message from this lady

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Speaker 3: saying my dad is cheating business not faithful time mom sucky.

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Speaker 3: He went upstairs to grab a bag. I screamed after

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Speaker 3: him that he takes everything he could because I would

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Speaker 3: burn everything else. He sent me his live location from

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Speaker 3: a motel. I didn't reply. Tequila says, you must. He

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Speaker 3: is a massive liar and nothing he has ever told

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Speaker 3: you is true. Get your affairs in order, and get

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Speaker 3: out as best as you can. This is a business transaction. Now,

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. Opie responds, We've been together since we

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Speaker 3: graduated high school, so my entire life has been a

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Speaker 3: lie to being worried. He's out there driving. Has he

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Speaker 3: eaten yet? Is he getting enough rest to find out

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Speaker 3: what he was actually doing while I was at home

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Speaker 3: thinking I was holding down the four Southern Midnight seven

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Speaker 3: forty one says it's interesting that it was his parent's

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Speaker 3: kind gesture that led to this discovery. Do his parents

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Speaker 3: know about her now? Op response, I'm ninety nine percent

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Speaker 3: sure they don't. They aren't good with social media, so

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Speaker 3: even if she tried to contact them, they'd think it's

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Speaker 3: a hacker or something. Plus they haven't showed up. One

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Speaker 3: percent they might know and felt so ashamed of the

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Speaker 3: sun they raised they went into an underground bunker. Ninety

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Speaker 3: nine percent that don't know. Negative till three eight eight

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Speaker 3: eight says, where is your husband right now? I'm so curious.

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Speaker 3: I would talk to the in law soon so he

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Speaker 3: doesn't spin a narrative OPI responds, he's at a hotel.

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Speaker 3: I know because he sent me his location, like it matters. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: we got a live location. He's like, I'm not cheating currently,

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Speaker 3: to my knowledge, he has work on Wednesday. But that

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Speaker 3: He always sent me pictures and videos of him on

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Speaker 3: the road. But were they recycled? Yeah? What were they recycled?

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Speaker 3: Like the pictures of the road red papade? Wow? Did

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Speaker 3: he even apologize or explain his actions? He responds, I

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Speaker 3: think he tried. I couldn't hear him. There's pictures, videos,

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Speaker 3: entire conversations. All I could hear was a ringing in

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Speaker 3: my ears. And then I told him to please just leave,

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Speaker 3: and he did. She did apologize something like she was sorry,

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Speaker 3: but didn't want to live in the shadows anymore. I

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, I don't want to live in the shadows any.

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Speaker 3: You just want a car. Life Ball twenty five thirty

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Speaker 3: six says, how do you know she stocked your social media's?

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Speaker 3: OHP responds because of all the screenshots she sent in

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Speaker 3: their conversation. She confronted him with pictures taken off my

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Speaker 3: daughter's account. That's so weird, weird, that's really icky. She

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Speaker 3: complained about the things my girls get. When I said

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Speaker 3: we are okay financially, I didn't mean like we are rich.

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Speaker 3: I meant we have our basic needs covered. My girls

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Speaker 3: said they didn't want birthday parties or gifts. My daughter

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Speaker 3: turned sixteen and all she wanted was a ticket. The

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Speaker 3: car was a gift from their grandparents. I don't know

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Speaker 3: if she knew the entire context when she complained about favoritism.

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Speaker 5: That's still insane to me, Like, oh, there's favoritism because

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Speaker 5: you're as actual one.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, theree is favoritism because I'm legally his wife

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Speaker 4: and you are the affair partner. He's cheating on me

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Speaker 4: with you, so if anything, you're winning, I guess him

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Speaker 4: calling her his other so stupid xoxo. Gossip Girl twenty

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Speaker 4: eight ninety says, OPI how long has this been going on?

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Speaker 3: What the f op? He responds. She sent pictures of

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Speaker 3: They met seven years ago after she separated from the

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Speaker 3: She said she would ask for child's support. He didn't

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Speaker 5: Wow, back to present day.

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Speaker 3: Back to present day? Bang girl, nang? That was crazy, Yes,

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Speaker 3: so dramatic. Yeah, messy, messy, messy, Thank you. I do

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Speaker 3: Oh, oh, my man? All right, what up been next?

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Speaker 3: I called my in laws. They're coming over for dinner.

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Speaker 3: What a shame? Thirteen comes back for the second time.

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Speaker 5: Hope?

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Speaker 3: He responds, I blocked him on my phone, so he

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Speaker 3: while she was willing to share there. I learned that

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Speaker 3: this is bad. This is pretty bad.

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Speaker 5: This span has two families. He's been doing this for

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Speaker 3: I don't know, man, I don't know how people keep

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Speaker 5: How do you think of the time, the time, the energy,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, away on your soul right. Basically, this man spends

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Speaker 3: My best friend came over the moment I told her

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Speaker 3: So sweet. Yeah, good friend. I also had to stop

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Speaker 3: full record of all the transactions. Update two, boy, let's

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Speaker 3: keep checking my god. Talk to the in laws. Oh no,

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Speaker 3: they were shocked. My mother in law had a harder

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Speaker 3: me a liar. She just kept reciting my sentences back

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Speaker 5: Your mother in law was like, he cheated me, he

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Speaker 4: Give the fiaza his wife whose second wife he's a.

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Speaker 3: Second child, is the second wife who was his second wife?

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Speaker 5: What's going on?

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Speaker 3: The fact that she contacted the girls made him so upset.

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Speaker 3: I worried for his health. He's just a word Grandpa, dang.

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Speaker 3: After I told them how everything went down, I told

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Speaker 3: always be their family. They understand there's no going back

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Speaker 3: from this, and they would never advise me to try

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Speaker 5: Good in laws, great in laws, perfect laws.

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Speaker 1: Lights.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, an good. I mean they go to our car already.

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Speaker 3: I knew they were good.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but like the fact that they, oh, our own

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But they also were clear that at the end

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Speaker 5: That's fair. But like they know, they're going to back

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they'll probably they'll take her side first, but they're

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Speaker 5: Do they like silver linings this? You're like, so we

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Speaker 3: As for the other grandson, oh, they haven't met him

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Speaker 3: They said they'll cross that bridge when it comes to it,

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Speaker 3: but as of now, they won't create more conflict. Also

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Speaker 5: Oh again, these are good people, good people.

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Speaker 3: I think.

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Speaker 5: I think this is OP. He's coping in a good

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Speaker 5: this suck one hundred percent?

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Speaker 3: But I think, Op, you're going about it in the

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Speaker 5: One prepares you for this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no one. There's not a class on divorce.

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Speaker 5: Just I think therapy, truly therapy for the.

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Speaker 3: The kids, Yeah, definitely the girls.

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Speaker 5: I think the girls are so fine, they're like, are

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Speaker 3: I feel very grateful to them. I can understand them

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Speaker 3: because they didn't line on me about punting him to

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Speaker 3: Although this may be TMI, we've used protection for the

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Speaker 3: me into thinking it was for me. Boom knew it.

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Speaker 3: I had some issues with birth control, and at some

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Speaker 3: He could be the one to use protection. Liar, thinking

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Speaker 4: Yep, Well there you go. So you're probably fine with

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Speaker 4: the STDs. That's a positive. I guess.

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Speaker 3: Ah. That sucks though. Man, I'm sorry, Dad, I'm sorry, yike,

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Speaker 3: I said, yike, not even yikes, yike, one yike for you, yike.

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Speaker 3: But that's the end of the story. That's the end story.

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Speaker 3: I confessed. I saw my biological parents as strangers. They

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Speaker 1: But they weren't even there for you.

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Speaker 3: And there's a truer warn't he here for self harm?

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Speaker 3: I'm a twenty four year old female. My biological parents

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Speaker 3: while they moved to Australia to.

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Speaker 1: Settle plot of Harry Potter.

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Speaker 3: I stayed with them until I was nine. I was

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Speaker 3: When I finally moved to Australia, my younger sister had

436
00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:23,240
Speaker 3: already been born a year before. From the start, it

437
00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:25,879
Speaker 3: just didn't feel like I belonged there. My sister was

438
00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:29,000
Speaker 3: always the priority, which I understand, but I was kind

439
00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:31,679
Speaker 3: of just there. In my first year. They even forgot

440
00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:34,000
Speaker 3: to pick me up from school a few times and

441
00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:37,080
Speaker 3: said they were used to not having me around. How

442
00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:38,760
Speaker 3: do you say that to your own child.

443
00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:41,320
Speaker 1: They're gonna make a real life Matilda if you don't

444
00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 1: watch out.

445
00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:46,800
Speaker 3: During that time, I was also emotionally mistreated by my mother,

446
00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,160
Speaker 3: who would tell me to end myself whenever I forgot

447
00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:53,960
Speaker 3: to mop the floors or clean up my sister's toys.

448
00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:56,960
Speaker 3: At twelve, I told them I wanted to go back

449
00:20:57,000 --> 00:21:00,639
Speaker 3: to the family friends I had before. Eventually they agreed

450
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:04,040
Speaker 3: it would be best if I left. What so I

451
00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:07,159
Speaker 3: went back and those family friends fully took me in

452
00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:10,800
Speaker 3: and raised me. My biological parents later signed away their rights.

453
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Speaker 1: Wow, old world.

454
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Emotional Cash eighty five

455
00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:18,359
Speaker 3: forty four. And if you want to submit your own stories,

456
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:21,240
Speaker 3: go to the r slash Okay storytime Subredd and I'm Savannah,

457
00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:23,080
Speaker 3: I'm Riley, and we are here to give some good

458
00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:24,639
Speaker 3: advice on a little goofy way. But we don't have

459
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:26,640
Speaker 3: all the answers. We only tell you what we would

460
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 3: do in this situation, but you shall let us know

461
00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:31,679
Speaker 3: what you wone knew down in the comments. As Opie says,

462
00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:34,440
Speaker 3: I built my life there and made a really close

463
00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:37,479
Speaker 3: friend group. Four girls, three boys. We go on trips

464
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 3: every year and we are very playful, like joking, insults, swearing,

465
00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:45,320
Speaker 3: sometimes hitting each other lightly. That's just how we are. Recently,

466
00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,120
Speaker 3: my biological sister found me on Instagram and reached out

467
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:51,159
Speaker 3: wanting to reconnect. After talking for a few months, she

468
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 3: asked to visit. I said yes, and she came for

469
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:58,199
Speaker 3: three weeks with permission from my biological parents. It was

470
00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:01,560
Speaker 3: honestly awkward. I thought it was gonna be like it

471
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 3: was honestly the best time.

472
00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:05,600
Speaker 1: Nope, No, they still didn't want me around.

473
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:09,240
Speaker 3: She kept telling my friends to stop joking around or

474
00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 3: stop hitting each other, even after I explain this just

475
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,120
Speaker 3: how we are. Then she started swearing at them too,

476
00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:18,400
Speaker 3: like she knew them well, but it made everyone uncomfortable.

477
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 3: She also made comments like, you're not your dad, why

478
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:26,080
Speaker 3: are you acting like it? When I was joking with

479
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 3: my father figure, one of the family friends who raised me.

480
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:33,119
Speaker 3: After she left, I didn't really continue contact. Recently, she

481
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 3: messaged asking to come again. I said no. She got

482
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 3: passive aggressive and then involved my biological parents. I ended

483
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,520
Speaker 3: up telling them I don't see them as my family,

484
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:45,160
Speaker 3: and then in my eyes, they are my baby juice

485
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,120
Speaker 3: donors and surrogate.

486
00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 1: Basically at this point they signed the rights away.

487
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 3: Yeah. Like, and even when you did go over there,

488
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 3: you didn't like it because they didn't treat you as

489
00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:02,200
Speaker 3: like a normal human being. So like, they literally said, oh,

490
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:04,920
Speaker 3: we're not used to having you here, Okay, we'll get

491
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:05,399
Speaker 3: used to it.

492
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then they did it. So it's so weird.

493
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,679
Speaker 3: Now they're all upset and saying I'm cruel and shutting

494
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,280
Speaker 3: them out for no reason. So am I the ahole?

495
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:19,920
Speaker 1: Really no reason, no reason at all. They did nothing

496
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 1: that would ever so cause this in their eyes.

497
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 3: I don't think you're the a hole for not wanting

498
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:29,120
Speaker 3: to like be a part of that life, because oh no, gosh,

499
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 3: they kind of chose it for you in a way,

500
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:37,399
Speaker 3: because it's like if you if they were I guess

501
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 3: I don't want to say like normal parents or whatever,

502
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 3: but I mean like if they were just like loving,

503
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 3: carrying parents, they would have brought you with them and

504
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,880
Speaker 3: made a life there. Instead, they went there, settled down,

505
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,880
Speaker 3: like left you. I couldn't even imagine like moving across

506
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 3: the entire world without your child.

507
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a survival instinct. At the end of

508
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: the day, they didn't want you around. You got the hint,

509
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 1: you got out of town at twelve. You're good. You're good.

510
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:13,400
Speaker 1: You're not the a hole. You're protecting yourself. And they're

511
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 1: trying to, for some reason weasel therselves back in.

512
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:19,439
Speaker 3: What uh it's literally because the sister wants something, and

513
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:21,880
Speaker 3: so they're like, oh, well, she wants it, so she needs.

514
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 1: Little golden child wants it, Let's get it for her.

515
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 3: Why because she's the one who involved them in the

516
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 3: first place. Because yeah, she's like, I want to come back,

517
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 3: and he's like, no, it was weird the first time.

518
00:24:31,400 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 1: She's not gonna get it. She's not gonna get the

519
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 1: way you grew up or why you do the things

520
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 1: you do, because she wasn't there. She was treated like

521
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 1: how you were supposed to be treated. Loft.

522
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:40,360
Speaker 3: There's an update.

523
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, the sister comes back. She turns into Ursula.

524
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:50,880
Speaker 3: Why Colin and not the hot version update? I genuinely

525
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 3: wish I never posted this. Oh. The night after my

526
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:58,120
Speaker 3: original post, my biological sister somehow found it and message

527
00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 3: to me furious, say, you humiliated her and our biological

528
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,399
Speaker 3: parents online and made them sound like monsters over a

529
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 3: few mistakes.

530
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 1: You call that a few mistakes. Oh we forgot to

531
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 1: take her with us. Oh we just signed the adoption papers.

532
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 1: How silly us.

533
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 3: That was a mistake that honestly made me snap, because

534
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 3: to me, abandoning your child twice, forgetting them at school repeatedly,

535
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 3: and telling them to end themselves over chores is not

536
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 3: a few mistakes. Apparently, she showed the post to my

537
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 3: biological parents too, which turned into a complete disaster.

538
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,399
Speaker 1: Who cares. They're not even your parents anymore. They signed

539
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:39,920
Speaker 1: that away and they're across the world.

540
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 3: So my biological mother sent me this huge paragraph, and honestly,

541
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,960
Speaker 3: I just staring at my phone after reading it. You

542
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:51,120
Speaker 3: have absolutely no idea what things were like back then.

543
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 3: You were too young to understand the pressure we were under.

544
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:57,719
Speaker 3: Money was tight. I was struggling mentally and physically, and

545
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,720
Speaker 3: then I had another baby to take care of, overwhelmed,

546
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:03,439
Speaker 3: and I made mistakes, but I was trying my best.

547
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 3: Do you know how painful it is to see your

548
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:10,440
Speaker 3: own daughter reduce you to a surrogate online for strangers

549
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:14,399
Speaker 3: to judge. We thought sending you back was what you wanted,

550
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 3: because you bonded more with them. Anyway, we never stopped

551
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 3: loving you. You talk about your trauma, but never once

552
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 3: think about what this has done to us as parents.

553
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 3: Your sister has been crying for days because all she

554
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 3: wanted was to know you. I don't know why you're

555
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 3: so determined to punish us for things that happened over

556
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 3: a decade ago.

557
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 1: Oh oh my gosh, and every single one of those

558
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 1: things is your fault. Look I am aokay, I'll get

559
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 1: into that later. I am aokay if you leave your

560
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:50,120
Speaker 1: child behind, if these three things happen. One, your planet

561
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: is about to be destroyed, so you send it on

562
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 1: a spaceship, the child, and you send it to Earth

563
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 1: and they land in the middle of Kansas. Superman. Two,

564
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:02,320
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you and your wife are a very

565
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 1: smart scientists and you were being hunted down by some

566
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: weird agency, and you need to leave your child with

567
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: your brother whose name is Ben, so that Ben and

568
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 1: Mary can take care of your kid. Spider Man. Or three,

569
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: both of your freaking parents are wizards and they got

570
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,959
Speaker 1: off so you had to go to another thing, Harry Potter,

571
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 1: unless you it is that one of those three you

572
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 1: cannot leave your child behind.

573
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 3: Honestly, pretty valid. I like those three choices.

574
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 1: And they're like, Oh, your sisters wanted to know you better. Sorry,

575
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: Maybe if I stuck around and you treat me like

576
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: an actual human, she would have known me. This is

577
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 1: all your fault. Parents. I can't. I can't people in

578
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:46,400
Speaker 1: the comments speak for me, now speak for me, And.

579
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 3: Honestly, reading that changed something in me, because not once

580
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 3: in that entire paragraph I'm going to finish that, did

581
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 3: she apologize. Let's see, was there an actual apology? It

582
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 3: was just excuse after ex's mixed with guilt tripping.

583
00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: Your name is Peter Parker, Kevin Kleine.

584
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 3: Colvin Kly, not Kevin, Bruce Wayne.

585
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:16,680
Speaker 1: No, this Batman, Clark Kent or Harry Potter. You were

586
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 1: not supposed to be with your parents. If you're if

587
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: your name's anything else, are Bruce Wayne? The list goes on.

588
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:25,240
Speaker 1: All right, it does sound like that's any of your names.

589
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:27,399
Speaker 1: This shouldn't have been your story.

590
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 3: I just don't like how they really just chose and

591
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 3: didn't give an explanation. Besides, well, you know, life gets

592
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:36,440
Speaker 3: in the way.

593
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 1: It's like you were kind of stressing us out. Can

594
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 1: you blame us?

595
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 3: Life gets in the way of literally everything. So to

596
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:47,200
Speaker 3: blame life on I don't know, not bringing your child

597
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 3: with you at what like three years old?

598
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 1: I think I think so.

599
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 3: I think someone missed that. How like I couldn't just

600
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 3: like have a child for three years and be like, okay, bye,

601
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 3: I'll see use some time and leave them with like,

602
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 3: you know, my brother or sisters.

603
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 1: They weren't even that. It was just some people. You're

604
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: just some friends.

605
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 3: Oh that's true.

606
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, not.

607
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 1: Even old family, just some friends, you know, which could

608
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: be family depending on the context. But still, come on, what.

609
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 3: Could you imagine? I have a baby, it's three years old,

610
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 3: and I come to you. I'm like, hey, I'm gonna

611
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 3: go at Australia. See if I can settle down. You

612
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 3: mind watching this kid for a while.

613
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 1: If it was I would watch your kid, were you.

614
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 3: Well, if it was doward, But this is not doer.

615
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: You're not a scientist. Nope, you're not a wizard. Your

616
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 1: planet is about to be destroyed and my planet's fine,

617
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 1: Oh that's happening. Okay, well yeah I'm not watching your kid.

618
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 3: Well that's rude and now and now I'm gonna blame

619
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 3: it on you. Then my biological father called me crying,

620
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 3: saying he didn't realize I still carried all this anger.

621
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 3: The weirdest part is that my actual parents, the people

622
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 3: who raised me from twelve onwards, were more angry reading

623
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 3: her message than I was. Right now, I've blocked my

624
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 3: biological parents because the constant messages were becoming too much.

625
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 3: Before I blocked her, my biological sisters sent one final

626
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 3: message saying she hopes someday I stop being bitter. Enough

627
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 3: to have a real family. Again, that actually made things

628
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 3: easier for me because I already do have a real family.

629
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 1: Yes, queen, oh my, I mean very true. It just

630
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 1: you don't need those people. Yeah, that's baby juice, Downer

631
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: and surrogate. Really all of this.

632
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 3: Is, yeah, they cause you more harm than good. So honestly,

633
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 3: no reason.

634
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 1: To stick around people that make you better, especially when

635
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: they already signed the rides away as parents. Because what

636
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:42,880
Speaker 1: was the thing? You can't You can choose your friends

637
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,440
Speaker 1: without your family. For some reason, these people chose not

638
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 1: to have you in your life. That's wild. And that's

639
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 1: the end of the story. We're gonna read the next one. Hey,

640
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 1: this is Riley the New Californian.

641
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Speaker 3: Here.

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Speaker 1: in Las Vegas on February twenty eighth, Little Vegas. They're

653
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 1: super excited. They've already booked the chapel, paid for the hotel,

654
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 1: and have everything finalized. Forget all that quick wedding, then

655
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:47,959
Speaker 1: hit the roulette table, black track table, whatever whatever you're

656
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 1: gonna spind all wedding. Put it on that double it.

657
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 1: When I mentioned the date to my cousin Monica, she

658
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 1: didn't say congratulations to them or how exciting. Instead, she

659
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 1: had a little all meltdown. Apparently Monica and her partner

660
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 1: have been planning to elope in Vegas on that exact

661
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 1: same day for a while.

662
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 3: Okay, so this is just like bad luck, bad.

663
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: Or like stealing it. I don't know, I'm not are

664
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 1: you buying this.

665
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 3: That she already had like a date in everything. If

666
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 3: she's like super upset, I'd be like what And then

667
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 3: you're like, I picked that date, but I just told

668
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:30,480
Speaker 3: anyone me.

669
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, well, oh, here's the catch. It was

670
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 1: a total secret. She never told a single person in

671
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 1: the family. No announcement, no save the date, nothing. Now

672
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: she's spiraling and accusing Leo and Sarah of slapping her

673
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 1: in the face, stealing her moments. She's genuinely convinced that

674
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 1: they somehow targeted her, even though there is no way

675
00:32:55,720 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: they could have ever known her secret date. You have

676
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 1: someone in your family, don't you that everyone's after me.

677
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 1: Everyone's trying to get me, like always playing the victim,

678
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 1: not playing the victim, just like they're getting targeted. Oh,

679
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 1: this bad thing happened because they've been they've been after me.

680
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 3: Oh, I mean I have friends like that. I don't

681
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 3: think anyone of my family is like that, Like I'm

682
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 3: the victim. I'm the victim. Not really, everyone kind of

683
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 3: takes accountability. But no, I do have a friend like that.

684
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 3: That's like always something is like the end of the

685
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 3: freaking world. It's like, I'm uh er exhausting.

686
00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: Monica has also insinuated that I try to talk to

687
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 1: Sarah about changing their date. Her elopement is private, zero guests.

688
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 1: My brother's wedding is a family event and he has

689
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: already paid non refundable deposits. By the way, this comes

690
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 1: from fault one two, seven, three, eight and if you

691
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 1: want to my own stories, you know where to go.

692
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: I'm Riley, I'm Savannah, and Savannah I are gonna read

693
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 1: this goofly and if you have anything you like to add,

694
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 1: please put it in the comments. Ope be set. I

695
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:03,920
Speaker 1: told her that that is a crazy coincidence, but no

696
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 1: one is moving their dates. Since then, she has unfollowed

697
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 1: me on Instagram and stop speaking to me.

698
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 3: That's crazy all because of a you booked something that

699
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 3: nobody had any idea about.

700
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you want me to ask my brother to

701
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 1: change it? You're crazy?

702
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:23,319
Speaker 3: Yeah. And the thing is, I mean they planned that date,

703
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 3: but did they like put down like a deposit and

704
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:27,359
Speaker 3: all this stuff, like did she actually pay for it?

705
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 1: So with with Sarah and Leo's, they already put all

706
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 1: the deposits sound non refundable. They can't get their money back.

707
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 1: They put in stuff and they're doing a family event

708
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 1: while as Monica just a altement told no one.

709
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:44,600
Speaker 3: I don't know, I feel like you could do it

710
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 3: on the same day because then like all the families

711
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 3: just gonna be there get you know, two birds one stone.

712
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 1: So people can't handle that. It's now a multi generational

713
00:34:53,760 --> 00:35:00,080
Speaker 1: war Monica's mom is actually defending and enabling this behavior. Now,

714
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 1: my aunt and my mom have contention because my aunt

715
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 1: keeps hinting and insinuating to my mom that Leo should

716
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 1: move his entire wedding date to accommodate a secret elopement

717
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:16,360
Speaker 1: that doesn't even involve guests. So because my brother picked

718
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,360
Speaker 1: a date that happened to be his but was also

719
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:24,440
Speaker 1: secretly hers in her head, he and Sarah are the villains.

720
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:28,840
Speaker 1: Monica's currently holding a grudge from behind a blanche profile,

721
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 1: and our moms aren't speaking like they normally do.

722
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:37,200
Speaker 3: That's crazy to cause this much drama over something that

723
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 3: nobody knew it was a secret elopement, So how are

724
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 3: we supposed to know? Like?

725
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 1: Does she can we pick another secret date?

726
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 3: Right?

727
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 1: February twenty eighth sounds kind of cool. You could probably

728
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: pick another fun secret date, move it up, move it back.

729
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:56,320
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like February twenty fourth sounds funner.

730
00:35:56,760 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just don't understand like the logic behind this

731
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 3: and how she feels like she is like validated for

732
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:07,280
Speaker 3: feeling this the way.

733
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,960
Speaker 1: Hear me out, hear me out. Whatever year it is,

734
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 1: twenty twenty six, get married on February twenty six. We're

735
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 1: married two twenty six in twenty twenty six. It's a

736
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 1: fire anniversary date.

737
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,880
Speaker 3: I just don't like. The thing is if the people

738
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 3: Sarah and Leo, if they get rid of their dates,

739
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 3: they will lose so much money, a lot of people,

740
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:34,879
Speaker 3: you know, Like, you know, it affects more people than

741
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 3: them doing something that only involves the two of them

742
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 3: because there are no guests, Like, why is this such

743
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 3: a big deal?

744
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 1: Imagine being that entitled that you think you own a

745
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 1: date you never even told anyone you wanted. Vegas has

746
00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:52,359
Speaker 1: hundreds of weddings a day, but apparently February twenty eighth

747
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 1: is Monica's property. This is so absurd to me, and

748
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 1: I feel like Monica and her enabling mom live in

749
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 1: a crazy town right the side of Vegas. They're both

750
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 1: making me and my mom feel bad about something that

751
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 1: we had no idea about. We have an update. I

752
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 1: think Monica's gonna pull through. What do you think the

753
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 1: family dynamic is gonna look like?

754
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 3: I would hope that they can solve this, and the

755
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 3: obvious solution is just they go get eloped on another day,

756
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 3: or they just keep that day, and you know, just

757
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:26,840
Speaker 3: I don't know if you'll even run into your family,

758
00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 3: But I like, I don't know what the issue.

759
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: I don't think Sarah and Leo are gonna care if

760
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:34,840
Speaker 1: you get married on that date. Doesn't sound like they'd

761
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:35,320
Speaker 1: be bothered.

762
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 3: No, they don't care. It's Monica who has the the

763
00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 3: uh issue with it. But yet she didn't do anything

764
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 3: to like, I don't know, she didn't do anything to

765
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 3: prevent it.

766
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:51,480
Speaker 1: So update on the Vegas wedding situation now that February

767
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 1: twenty eighth has passed. First, the good news. Leo and

768
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:59,959
Speaker 1: Sarah had the most beautiful day. They were glowing, small

769
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 1: and genuinely happy from start to finish. This ceremony was perfect.

770
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:08,720
Speaker 1: The family dinner was full of love, and they didn't

771
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 1: let any of the pre wedding drama touch their joy.

772
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 1: Seeing them so happy made it even more clear that

773
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 1: sticking to their plans was the right move. So they

774
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 1: didn't move anything, dude.

775
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 3: Then they shouldn't have to. Heck, no, there was more

776
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 3: moving pieces with theirs, Like Monica is just them, you

777
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 3: do it literally any day.

778
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 1: And but it's her date, she thought of it, it's

779
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 1: her date.

780
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 3: Whatever. Fig A different one.

781
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:39,120
Speaker 1: Team Monica over here, Oh my god, now for Monica.

782
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 1: As expected, Monica still hasn't spoken to me or my mom.

783
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 1: Monica has me unfollowed, and the silent treatment continues. However,

784
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:52,320
Speaker 1: we found out that she was busy being sour even

785
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 1: on her own wedding day.

786
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 3: Well, she's doing it to herself at this point because

787
00:38:57,680 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 3: no one else is worrying about it, but her move on. Yeah,

788
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 3: it's like, uh now, and now my whole day's ruined,

789
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 3: and I'm gonna make everyone pay for Oh wait, nobody

790
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 3: was invited and nobody cares. Oh yeah, so I'm just

791
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 3: gonna ruin my own day.

792
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 1: A close cousin ran into Monica in Vegas on the

793
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 1: twenty eighth. Instead of being bubbly or focused on a

794
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 1: new marriage, Monica spent the entire encounter trash talking the family.

795
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:31,279
Speaker 1: She actually told this cousin that she wasn't invited to

796
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:35,799
Speaker 1: Leo and Sarah's wedding. I think this is so delusional,

797
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 1: since Leo and Sarah's wedding was a family event she

798
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 1: was absolutely aware of she wasn't uninvited. She chose to

799
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 1: throw a tantrum and stop speaking to everyone because they

800
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 1: would have changed their date for her secret elopement, She

801
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:56,840
Speaker 1: effectively uninvited herself by going ghost. She also told the

802
00:39:56,920 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 1: friend that she and I aren't speaking because of something.

803
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 3: I send on her says down.

804
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:04,400
Speaker 1: That is a total lie. As I mentioned in my

805
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 1: first post, we aren't speaking because I refuse to pressure

806
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:11,760
Speaker 1: my brother into losing his deposits. I haven't even spoken

807
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 1: to her sister about this. It seems she's inventing a

808
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 1: new narrative to make me look like the villain so

809
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 1: she doesn't have to admit she's mad about a calendar date.

810
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 1: It honestly shocked me that on her own wedding day,

811
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 1: a day that was supposed to be about her and

812
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 1: her partner, she was more focused on spreading rumors and

813
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 1: talking crap than on her own happiness. Savannah, we got

814
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: a little bit more. Isn't this just sad?

815
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 3: I mean that's how you know that, Like they're just

816
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 3: not a good person. They just they just live in

817
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 3: missury and let them. I mean, it's cool if that's

818
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 3: how you want to like live your life, be like, oh,

819
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 3: like you know, I can't even be happy for my

820
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 3: cousin now I have to cause all this drama with

821
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 3: my family because of a date that I kept secret

822
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,399
Speaker 3: from everyone and also didn't invite anyone to come.

823
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: That's on you, man, totally on you. Leo and Sarah

824
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 1: are happily married and moved on. Monica's married, but apparently

825
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 1: still carrying a heavy grudge and a lot of negativity.

826
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:14,400
Speaker 1: I'm saying no contact for now because I don't have

827
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:18,680
Speaker 1: the energy for someone who prioritizes drama over their own

828
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 1: wedding day. Bliss. She's still in crazy town and everyone

829
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:26,280
Speaker 1: else has moved on and is living their best life.

830
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 3: I see in the story, Well and whatever, she can

831
00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 3: go be miserable by herself, her and her husband. Can

832
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 3: you know, be a miserable kuffle?

833
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 1: How does this guy and not get it? It's like, bro,

834
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: you're gonna also be miserable, don't you see that?

835
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:41,760
Speaker 3: Misery loves company?

836
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 1: Dang, ain't that right? But we have another story for

837
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 1: you company.

838
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:52,400
Speaker 3: My mother called me cruel for inviting my aunt but

839
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 3: not her ex boyfriend.

840
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 1: So confusing.

841
00:41:56,280 --> 00:42:00,320
Speaker 3: There's a trigger warning here mentions of mistreatment. My fiance

842
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:02,720
Speaker 3: and I are getting married in November, and we decided

843
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 3: on a small ceremony with just eleven people. My aunt

844
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:08,440
Speaker 3: is currently in Europe, and when I messaged to check

845
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 3: if she could come, she said yes, but then asked

846
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:13,280
Speaker 3: if she could bring her ex boyfriend to the ceremony,

847
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:15,839
Speaker 3: even though she's seen someone else overseas.

848
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:20,320
Speaker 1: Is the ex boyfriend O my dad? Ying, Yeah, a

849
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 1: father figure in my life. We're just so when you

850
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 1: want to hook up with I.

851
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 3: Said he was welcome at the reception, but not the ceremony.

852
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:30,360
Speaker 3: It might sound harsh, but the ceremony is being filmed

853
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 3: and photographed, and I don't want to be explaining who

854
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:36,400
Speaker 3: this random man is in the footage or photos. She

855
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:38,960
Speaker 3: pretty much just wants to bring him so he can

856
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 3: drive her around since she sold her car, but she

857
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:43,279
Speaker 3: could easily take the train.

858
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:48,360
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that's the only reason.

859
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:52,400
Speaker 3: Pro When I told my mom, she had a meltdown.

860
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:55,960
Speaker 3: She said I was being cruel and heartless because he's family.

861
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:59,880
Speaker 3: I've met him maybe four times, and my fiance probably less.

862
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 3: She said I was lacking empathy and even offered to

863
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:06,880
Speaker 3: pay for him to be included, even though she hasn't

864
00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:09,879
Speaker 3: helped pay for anything else. I told her I didn't

865
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 3: want people we aren't close to at the ceremony. This

866
00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 3: dragged on for weeks, and my fiance eventually had to

867
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,880
Speaker 3: speak privately with my dad, who said that while my

868
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:23,799
Speaker 3: aunt might be upset, he understood our reasoning. By the way,

869
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:27,320
Speaker 3: this comes from commercial half six one two eight, and

870
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:28,840
Speaker 3: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

871
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,840
Speaker 3: the r slash Okay storytime subredd and I'm Savannah, I'm Riley,

872
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 3: and we're here to give some good advice goofy, but

873
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 3: we don't have all the answers. We would only let

874
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:38,040
Speaker 3: you know what we would do in the situation, but

875
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 3: let us know what you would do down in the comments.

876
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 3: As Opie says, about a week later, I was on

877
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 3: the phone with my mom talking about vendors, and she

878
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 3: casually said, it's fine. If he's in the photos, you

879
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 3: can just pick the ones he's no in. Why would

880
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 3: you want to upset your grandmother and aunt by not

881
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:58,480
Speaker 3: having him there. I was on speaker and my fiance

882
00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:01,759
Speaker 3: reminded her that the entire ceremony is being filmed and

883
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 3: you can't just film around someone. He also pointed out

884
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:07,960
Speaker 3: that we're already pushing the limit. We paid for a

885
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:11,240
Speaker 3: ten person ceremony package and had to convince the venue

886
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 3: to let us have eleven so my grandmother could come

887
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 3: any more people and we would be charged in extra

888
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 3: one thousand dollars.

889
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:22,760
Speaker 1: Boom, can't you just would you rather pay a thousand

890
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 1: dollars for him to drive you around or one thousand

891
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:29,799
Speaker 1: dollars for whatever kind of transportation you pick? Mom, you pick? Oh,

892
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 1: looks like there's no choice. You have to pay for

893
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: your travel. Just do that, Just do that, I think.

894
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 3: Sorry, But like the venue won't let us have more

895
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:40,320
Speaker 3: than eleven people. We're already pushing it.

896
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:43,320
Speaker 1: So it's crazy that people have to fight their family

897
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:44,800
Speaker 1: members on who gets invited to that?

898
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 3: And he's also he's just not invited to the ceremony

899
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 3: and actually not like truthfully, the ceremony like supposed to

900
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 3: be like the big thing whatever, but like the receptions

901
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 3: where it's at, Like the reception is where you're gonna

902
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 3: get down and dirty, have fun the the but you

903
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 3: can't do that at the ceremony. The ceremony's like, oh yay,

904
00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 3: we could see the wedding party whatever. Oh they did

905
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 3: their vowels, Oh my god, they're so cute. Okay, let's

906
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 3: take pictures. Reception is like all right, howim to get down,

907
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:18,600
Speaker 3: So like he's invited to that part, which is more

908
00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 3: fun than going to the ceremony anyway, So it's not

909
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 3: like he's completely disinvited.

910
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 1: But I don't think it's that kind of party though,

911
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:28,480
Speaker 1: ten people, I don't know it be fun.

912
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 3: He explained again that we only want people we deeply

913
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 3: know and love to be there. She just kept interrupting,

914
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 3: saying she didn't understand how we could do this too, family,

915
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:41,319
Speaker 3: and she called my dad gutlass for not standing up

916
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 3: for her or telling us we're wrong. Eventually, my fiance

917
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 3: had to hang up because she wouldn't listen to anything

918
00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:49,399
Speaker 3: he was saying. The next day, I got a text

919
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 3: saying I was letting Satan win by not inviting him.

920
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 3: She said I was being cruel to a man in

921
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 3: a wheelchair and that she thought I had more empathy

922
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:03,280
Speaker 3: for disabled people. Now, wait, she's pulling the disabled cards.

923
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:06,359
Speaker 1: She's pulling the religious card and disabled car card. Time out?

924
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:09,760
Speaker 1: You letting a disabled person drive you around?

925
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 3: Yeah?

926
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 1: Also wait, and that's why you want him there?

927
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 3: Girl? Yeah? How is he supposed to drive? Oh? I

928
00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:20,399
Speaker 3: guess maybe she takes his car because he can't drive.

929
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe It is just ridiculous all the

930
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 1: way around. We know why you want to get there.

931
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: I don't think he even wants to go.

932
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 3: He's also an ex he's not even like truthfully.

933
00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 1: In an X and he's disabled.

934
00:46:33,360 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 3: Nobody wants to.

935
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 1: More than X part, more than xpart. But also think

936
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 1: about the disabled part. You were taking a guy relatively

937
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:46,160
Speaker 1: a long distance that probably doesn't travel well. I don't

938
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: think he'd want to go. That's so selfish on you, mom.

939
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:52,799
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, is his mom or aunt?

940
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:56,400
Speaker 3: Aunt is the one who wants well, Mom is the

941
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:58,640
Speaker 3: one who's like calling them and being like you should

942
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:00,880
Speaker 3: be ashamed yourself, stans winning one, blah blah blah. But

943
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 3: the aunt is the one that is saying no, he

944
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 3: can't come. No, is the one that wants him to come.

945
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 3: That's her ex.

946
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:11,239
Speaker 1: Oh, that's her right, aunt. You're crazy, Mom, you're wild,

947
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 1: all right?

948
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 3: There were four context Iran on Disability Support Service for

949
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:19,240
Speaker 3: over five years, so that was like the old twelve

950
00:47:19,440 --> 00:47:21,880
Speaker 3: to the face. She also said I was trying to

951
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 3: estrange the family and went on about how I don't

952
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,279
Speaker 3: speak to my brother who mistreated me and never once apologized,

953
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 3: and how I should forgive him, because that's what God

954
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 3: would want.

955
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 1: As a Christian. That's Opie's journey with God and his brother.

956
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 1: That's something you should talk about.

957
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 3: I called my fiance sobbing, and he ended up calling her.

958
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:45,560
Speaker 3: He tried to explain how hurtful her behavior was, but

959
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:48,600
Speaker 3: she doubled down and said she didn't regret anything she said.

960
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 3: He suspects she may have even told my aunt that

961
00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:54,920
Speaker 3: we didn't want her ex there because he's in a wheelchair,

962
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 3: which is just not true at all. When he questioned her,

963
00:47:58,160 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 3: she suddenly didn't want him call my aunt to clarify anything,

964
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 3: which felt suspicious. After two days of crying, she sent

965
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 3: another message about seeking God. I'm a Christian, but I'm

966
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:13,359
Speaker 3: not the kind who throws scripture at people. I told

967
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 3: her that unless she could apologize and stop using religion

968
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:19,279
Speaker 3: to manipulate me, I didn't want to keep talking. I

969
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:22,320
Speaker 3: said she had taken no accountability, ignored my feelings, and

970
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,480
Speaker 3: pushed every boundary we've tried to set, and I asked

971
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 3: her to give me space.

972
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I can find so much scripture on

973
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 1: that part.

974
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 3: She replied immediately and said she wasn't manipulating me. That

975
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 3: I was still letting Satan lynn by dividing the family,

976
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 3: and that God demands forgiveness.

977
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:40,880
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, have you even prayed to God about this?

978
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:42,960
Speaker 1: Have you even had a conversation with God about this?

979
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: Have you have you They're just looking at a bi

980
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 1: Oh that looks like I can guilt someone send.

981
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:56,240
Speaker 3: This looks manipulative enough, peep, it's wild. She ended up saying,

982
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:59,600
Speaker 3: if you want to stonewall me, that's on you. After that,

983
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 3: I would get random messages for my dad, acting like

984
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 3: nothing had happened, even trying to talk overly nice about

985
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:07,439
Speaker 3: my mom. I ended up texting back for the first

986
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:09,840
Speaker 3: time and told him I'm not trying to punish anyone.

987
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 3: I'm just trying to protect myself for once. I told

988
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:15,320
Speaker 3: him her messages were deeply hurt full and honestly insane,

989
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 3: and unless she can apologize and take accountability, then I

990
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:21,879
Speaker 3: need space. That was five days ago, and I haven't

991
00:49:21,920 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 3: heard anything. Well, you are the one who said you

992
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 3: needed space, so so I don't think you're gonna hear

993
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:29,359
Speaker 3: anything until you reach out.

994
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:32,279
Speaker 1: You know, like you you were the one who I

995
00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:35,440
Speaker 1: think it feels weird for OPI. He asked for space.

996
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:38,360
Speaker 1: He got it, but it was more of a silent

997
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:42,360
Speaker 1: treatment rather than I understand, let's talk later, or she

998
00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 1: was it she? I thought it was he.

999
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 3: No her, it's a girl, but she's her husband was

1000
00:49:47,960 --> 00:49:50,320
Speaker 3: talking to oh the family.

1001
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 1: Wellp you got space. It came from a place of

1002
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 1: silent treatment, so I could see where that feels uncomfortable,

1003
00:49:56,560 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 1: rather than I see where you're coming from. I'm gonna

1004
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 1: give you space. That's my theory.

1005
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 3: Now I don't know what to do. If this goes on,

1006
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 3: they won't be invited to the wedding, and if that happens,

1007
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 3: I'll probably have to leave most of my family out,

1008
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 3: as my dad is the glue. It really breaks my heart.

1009
00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 3: I've spent my whole life letting people walk over me,

1010
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:16,000
Speaker 3: but this is too much.

1011
00:50:16,280 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 5: There you go.

1012
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 1: This is okay because these moments right before you get

1013
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 1: married determine what kind of partner you're going to be

1014
00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:29,240
Speaker 1: and not letting people walk over you or your freance.

1015
00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:31,760
Speaker 1: It's a beautiful thing. I'm very proud of you, Opie

1016
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,040
Speaker 1: for standing up on this. That's a hard thing to do. Update.

1017
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 3: She sent me another long message after I said not

1018
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:41,280
Speaker 3: to contact me unless it's to apologize and it honestly

1019
00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:45,160
Speaker 3: just made everything worse. In the text, she denies doing

1020
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 3: anything wrong. She says she does not know where my

1021
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:51,240
Speaker 3: feelings are coming from, even though I have explained them clearly.

1022
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:54,040
Speaker 3: She claims that using the Bible to pressure me is

1023
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:57,600
Speaker 3: not manipulation because she was just trying to follow its examples.

1024
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:01,360
Speaker 3: She also says she I cannot see how her earlier

1025
00:51:01,440 --> 00:51:04,160
Speaker 3: texts were hurtful, even though she implied I was being

1026
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 3: influenced by the devil. Right called me unforgiving and said

1027
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 3: I lacked empathy because I did not want someone I

1028
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:13,960
Speaker 3: barely know at our small wedding ceremony. She said I

1029
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:18,239
Speaker 3: blame her unfairly, that I expect her to apologize just

1030
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:22,040
Speaker 3: for having an ethical opinion, and that I apparently have

1031
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:25,600
Speaker 3: a list of pent up resentments. She kept making the

1032
00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:28,319
Speaker 3: conversation about how sad it is for her, rather than

1033
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 3: taking any real accountability. She also mentioned that she has

1034
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:34,839
Speaker 3: not told our relatives about what is going on so far,

1035
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 3: which felt like a subtle warning that she might try

1036
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 3: to turn others against me.

1037
00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:43,880
Speaker 1: Oh, you can see clearly now the rain is gone.

1038
00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:46,319
Speaker 1: It's true, or you're seeing what's caused in the rain.

1039
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:48,760
Speaker 1: This is so crazy.

1040
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:52,399
Speaker 3: This whole thing blew up because you just didn't want

1041
00:51:52,520 --> 00:51:56,920
Speaker 3: like basically this stranger at your wedding ceremony, but was

1042
00:51:57,040 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 3: also like very nice about it and was like you

1043
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 3: know what, like they can't come to the ceremony, but yes,

1044
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:05,120
Speaker 3: come to the reception.

1045
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:07,319
Speaker 1: That's it. He can still drive you around, you still

1046
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:07,920
Speaker 1: borrow their car.

1047
00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 3: No one's using it. He can't use it. He's in

1048
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 3: a wheelchair or what.

1049
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:13,760
Speaker 1: It's just crazy when people can't take a few steps

1050
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:16,560
Speaker 1: back and think about their decisions or what they're asking

1051
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:20,719
Speaker 1: people critically to understand how her they're making other people. Yeah,

1052
00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:22,800
Speaker 1: I know it's a hard thing to do. I have

1053
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 1: to do it sometimes I don't like it. But it

1054
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 1: was causing my own kid this much hurt over an

1055
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:32,000
Speaker 1: X that wasn't even the like a parental figure for them, and.

1056
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:36,360
Speaker 3: Also like on their wedding day to like ruin that

1057
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:37,279
Speaker 3: for them.

1058
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 1: Oh but you're good. You're not the ablet do what

1059
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:43,359
Speaker 1: makes you genuinely happy. Invite the people that you want

1060
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 1: to make you happy. Gottley, I can't with this story.

1061
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 1: I'm done.

1062
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,400
Speaker 3: I have written my final message to her. It is

1063
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:52,360
Speaker 3: clear and sets boundaries. I told her that she crossed

1064
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 3: a line and that if she or my dad cannot

1065
00:52:54,719 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 3: respect our decisions for our wedding, they do not need

1066
00:52:57,320 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 3: to come. I am done managing her feelings while mine

1067
00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:03,720
Speaker 3: are constantly ignored. I have no idea how she will respond,

1068
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:06,359
Speaker 3: but they're not invited to the wedding. I just don't

1069
00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:08,760
Speaker 3: know how I will explain this to family who thinks

1070
00:53:09,239 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 3: she's the nicest person on the planet. I'm honestly thinking

1071
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:16,359
Speaker 3: of doing a friend's only reception. And you can because

1072
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:18,439
Speaker 3: guess what, it's your Dane. You could do whatever you want.

1073
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 3: It's your party. You can do what you want to. Yeah,

1074
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:26,960
Speaker 3: I think don't worry about them. If they apologize, you know,

1075
00:53:28,040 --> 00:53:30,480
Speaker 3: like cool, then maybe maybe they'll be allowed back in.

1076
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 3: But as of right now, I mean, dig all ten

1077
00:53:33,480 --> 00:53:35,320
Speaker 3: toes in the sand because you're not moving and you

1078
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:38,799
Speaker 3: shouldn't have to. That's the end of that story. Hey,

1079
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:40,279
Speaker 3: we got another one, come around it.

1080
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 1: That's right.

1081
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:46,480
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fake redhead host here, and

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Speaker 2: we're going to get back to the stories.

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Speaker 3: But here's a three minute ad break from our sponsors.

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Speaker 5: May in Law's domde it a second wedding just to

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Speaker 5: suit their expectations.

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00:53:55,840 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 3: Sorry, the first one didn't work out.

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00:53:57,719 --> 00:53:59,720
Speaker 5: A few weeks before my fiance and I got engaged,

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00:53:59,800 --> 00:54:02,960
Speaker 5: his sister shared her frustrations about being asked to contribute

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00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,320
Speaker 5: to a wedding she was attending as a guest, not

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Speaker 5: a bridesmaid. This experience left me feeling uneasy, as it

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00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 5: seemed like she was hinting at something related to our

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00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:14,840
Speaker 5: future plans. After our engagement, we invited her to be

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00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 5: part of our wedding, but she seemed hesitant about being

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00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:20,800
Speaker 5: a bridesmaid. As we began planning the wedding and exploring

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00:54:20,880 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 5: venue options, we shared our ideas with both families. In

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Speaker 5: early July, my grandfather, who raised me, fell seriously ill

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00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:31,680
Speaker 5: oh no, and it was clear his health was deteriorating rapidly.

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00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 5: When he passed away on July twenty eighth, I was devastated.

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00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 5: I reached out to my soon to be sister in

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00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 5: law to discuss the possibility of moving the wedding to

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00:54:40,280 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 5: my parents's house to honor my grandfather's memory with a

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00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 5: special reception. Her insensitive response to this idea, suggesting we

1103
00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:49,880
Speaker 5: move forward with plans even if he had passed by

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00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:53,600
Speaker 5: then deeply hurt me. Feeling upset, I made the decision

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00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 5: to remove her from my Facebook friend's list. By the way,

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00:54:56,400 --> 00:54:59,279
Speaker 5: this comes from a user misunderstood or what and if

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00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 5: you want submit your own stories, go to the r slash. Okay, sorry,

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00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:04,279
Speaker 5: time separated it. I'm key On and I'm Savannah and

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00:55:05,040 --> 00:55:08,239
Speaker 5: we're goofy people. We only know goofy things, so we

1110
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 5: don't know everything. We're just gonna let you know what

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00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:12,320
Speaker 5: we'd do. Let us know what you do in the

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00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 5: comments down below. Pretty please, As Ophie says, before my

1113
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 5: sister in law realized she had been removed from my

1114
00:55:18,640 --> 00:55:23,200
Speaker 5: social media, she expressed dissatisfaction with our venue search. Despite

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00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:25,840
Speaker 5: us still being early in the planning process, we were

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00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 5: exploring different options without finalizing anything or making deposits. Family members,

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00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:34,840
Speaker 5: including my fiance's stepmother, voiced their opinions, with the stepmother

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00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 5: initially supporting a destination wedding in Viva Las Vegas.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 5: To some people they love that, to some people they don't.

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00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 5: I'm one of those people who don't find it.

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00:55:46,320 --> 00:55:49,879
Speaker 3: Last Venzo would great venue to each of their own.

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Speaker 5: However, when that was decided, tensions arose The new location

1124
00:55:56,040 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 5: for our wedding is in Las Vegas, Nevada. If you

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00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:02,239
Speaker 5: were thinking of another Las Vegas, let us know in

1126
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:05,400
Speaker 5: the comments. Initially, I was hesitant about this choice because

1127
00:56:05,440 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 5: I had reservations about the typical Vegas wedding stereotypes. Wow. However,

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00:56:10,440 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 5: after doing my research, I found a wonderful wedding planner

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00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:16,000
Speaker 5: who helped us secure a beautiful garden and outdoor setting.

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Speaker 5: What made it even more special was that we are

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00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:21,400
Speaker 5: getting married on my birthday, adding an extra touch of

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00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:23,200
Speaker 5: romance to the occasion.

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Speaker 3: I would hate that. I'd be like, no, actually, that's

1134
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 3: my day. Don't get married on my birthday.

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00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:29,839
Speaker 5: Again, to each their own. So some people they don't

1136
00:56:29,840 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 5: want it. To some people they want to just cramp

1137
00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:33,759
Speaker 5: like two birds one stone kind of thing. Make it

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00:56:33,920 --> 00:56:35,480
Speaker 5: more special my day.

1139
00:56:36,040 --> 00:56:38,839
Speaker 3: Not our day. You hear that that's a different good day.

1140
00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:41,400
Speaker 3: We can celebrate on a different day. My birthday is

1141
00:56:41,480 --> 00:56:44,959
Speaker 3: not being overshadowed by this wedding, and vice versa.

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00:56:45,520 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 5: Once we made the decision, we were so excited that

1143
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 5: we immediately put down the deposit without seeking anyone else's opinion.

1144
00:56:52,040 --> 00:56:53,880
Speaker 5: We felt it was time to follow our hearts and

1145
00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 5: create the wedding day that was perfect for us, even

1146
00:56:57,640 --> 00:57:01,600
Speaker 5: if it meant bucking traditional expectations. However, there was some

1147
00:57:01,719 --> 00:57:04,760
Speaker 5: backlash from my fiance's family regarding our choice of Vegas

1148
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:08,800
Speaker 5: as the wedding location. They were particularly upset with me,

1149
00:57:09,440 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 5: insisting that it was my decision alone, and threatening the

1150
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:14,880
Speaker 5: cut ties if we went ahead with it. Despite this opposition,

1151
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:17,560
Speaker 5: we remained firm in our choice. When his sister started

1152
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 5: making excuses for not being able to attend, such as

1153
00:57:20,760 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 5: not knowing her schedule, it added to the tension. My

1154
00:57:23,760 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 5: fiancee stepmother wanted to discuss the wedding plans with us,

1155
00:57:26,760 --> 00:57:30,080
Speaker 5: which I initially hesitated to engage in, feeling it was

1156
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:34,960
Speaker 5: unnecessary since she wasn't contributing or attending. Nevertheless, my fiance

1157
00:57:35,120 --> 00:57:37,480
Speaker 5: met with her and later shared her concerns with me,

1158
00:57:37,960 --> 00:57:42,240
Speaker 5: mainly about who should cover guest accommodations and expecting welcome baskets.

1159
00:57:42,760 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 5: I stood my ground, asserting that I wasn't obligated to

1160
00:57:45,360 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 5: pay for guests stay and that I had plans for

1161
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 5: welcome baskets to make our guest feel cherished. As we

1162
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:53,760
Speaker 5: sent out the invitations, my soon to be sister in

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00:57:53,840 --> 00:57:57,880
Speaker 5: law promptly declined her invitation, which led us to remove

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00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:01,160
Speaker 5: her from the guest list without any hard feeling. As

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00:58:01,200 --> 00:58:04,840
Speaker 5: the wedding date approached, there were no hostile feelings, just

1166
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:07,400
Speaker 5: a bit of reservation towards my soon to be stepmother

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00:58:07,480 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 5: in law due to some perceives overstepping. Despite this, I

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00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:15,200
Speaker 5: maintained cordially. On a significant day, amidst dealing with a

1169
00:58:15,360 --> 00:58:19,400
Speaker 5: recent car accident in my fiancee undergoing eye surgery. Okay,

1170
00:58:19,600 --> 00:58:22,640
Speaker 5: those were pretty big things. I reached out to my

1171
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 5: soon to be sister in law on the anniversary of

1172
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 5: her mother's passing. I offered to join her for a

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00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:32,000
Speaker 5: meal in support, but she declined, mentioning other plans with

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00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 5: friends and family. Later, she invited us to join them

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00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:38,160
Speaker 5: at a restaurant, where I noticed a pre planned gathering

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00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 5: that made me slightly uncomfortable. Although the meeting seemed orchestrated,

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00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:46,600
Speaker 5: I greeted everyone warmly. During the gathering, a minor incident

1178
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 5: occurred with the stepmother inadvertently taking my drink, which led

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00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 5: to some confusion. Despite this, the evening concluded on a

1180
00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:57,000
Speaker 5: positive note, with one of the relatives expressing interest in

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00:58:57,040 --> 00:59:01,040
Speaker 5: our graphic design business. And requesting business cards. Around October

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00:59:01,080 --> 00:59:03,440
Speaker 5: twenty eighth, my fiance's cousin reached out to me and

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00:59:03,560 --> 00:59:05,960
Speaker 5: asked to meet in order to explore business card styles

1184
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:10,360
Speaker 5: that would suit her company. Watch American Psycho copy Paul

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00:59:10,400 --> 00:59:13,880
Speaker 5: Allen's card Bone White. I brought along a couple of

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00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 5: samples and headed to her business location, but when I

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00:59:17,400 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 5: was almost there, she informed me that she had forgotten

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00:59:20,000 --> 00:59:22,960
Speaker 5: our meeting due to some personal errands. She requested to

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00:59:23,040 --> 00:59:26,800
Speaker 5: reschedule at a place called Boom Boom crab sounds like

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00:59:26,880 --> 00:59:30,320
Speaker 5: my kind of place, Boom Boom crab as a boss

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00:59:30,480 --> 00:59:33,240
Speaker 5: worn native, I arrived at four forty five pm, informing

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Speaker 5: her that I needed to pick up my child by

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00:59:34,960 --> 00:59:38,400
Speaker 5: six thirty pm despite my time constraints. She proceeded to

1194
00:59:38,440 --> 00:59:40,680
Speaker 5: reveal that the purpose of our meeting was actually a

1195
00:59:40,800 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 5: family intervention concerning my decision to have a Vegas wedding.

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Speaker 3: Not the surprise intervention.

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00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:49,280
Speaker 5: Not the surprise intervention at Boom Boom.

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Speaker 3: Crab Ah in front of the Crabs.

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Speaker 5: No, this had caused distress within my fiance's father's side

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00:59:56,040 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 5: of the family. The conversation took an abrupt turn as

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00:59:59,160 --> 01:00:02,000
Speaker 5: she insisted that I hold a ceremony in Baltimore before

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Speaker 5: the planned Vegas wedding in May twenty twenty five to

1203
01:00:05,000 --> 01:00:09,840
Speaker 5: appease his family. Feeling pressured and overwhelmed, I defended our

1204
01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:13,520
Speaker 5: choices and expressed my desire for a meaningful wedding experience.

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Speaker 5: The cousin then criticized our decision not to involve certain

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01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:21,280
Speaker 5: family members, suggesting that we were selfish and should consider

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Speaker 5: their feelings. She continued to push for a Baltimore ceremony,

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01:00:25,560 --> 01:00:29,240
Speaker 5: disregarding our wishes for a reception upon our return. When

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01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:33,440
Speaker 5: she suggested financial support from other family members, I declined,

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01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:37,520
Speaker 5: emphasizing that this was about our preferences, not money. Her

1211
01:00:37,560 --> 01:00:41,840
Speaker 5: insistence and insensitivity left me feeling frustrated and disrespected. The

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01:00:41,960 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 5: situation escalated further when she relayed the conversation to my

1213
01:00:45,560 --> 01:00:48,120
Speaker 5: soon to be sister in law, which led to even

1214
01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:53,600
Speaker 5: more tension. So, Ah, I'm talking about fiance and be like, hey,

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Speaker 5: you're your side of the family. They're not cool, yea

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01:00:57,640 --> 01:01:03,600
Speaker 5: going on? Do they want to They realized it's our wedding, right,

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01:01:03,760 --> 01:01:04,600
Speaker 5: not their wedding.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: The fact that they want to change, I get like,

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Speaker 3: you know, destination weddings they're hard. But also it's you

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Speaker 3: don't have to make that track if you don't want to.

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Speaker 3: And you know, like she said, you know the what

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01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:24,280
Speaker 3: is it the sister in law or whatever like declined

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Speaker 3: to go. So it's like, okay, And there were no

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Speaker 3: hard feelings. No one mentioned it whatever, Like.

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Speaker 5: No one mentioned it up front, but there were people

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Speaker 5: very uh, there were hard feelings. There were a lot

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01:01:36,200 --> 01:01:40,120
Speaker 5: of hard feelings behind the scenes, which is really really annoying.

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Speaker 3: So why make it such a huge deal for what?

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01:01:44,240 --> 01:01:46,640
Speaker 3: So then you get your way, But the thing is,

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Speaker 3: it's not your day.

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Speaker 5: I agree, let's continue. Ultimately, my fiance had to step

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Speaker 5: in to pick up our daughter as I left the

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01:01:54,400 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 5: meeting feeling upset and disheartened. The entire encounter left me

1235
01:01:58,200 --> 01:02:02,920
Speaker 5: feeling angry and misunderstood. Also, yeah, to kind of corner

1236
01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:06,600
Speaker 5: you into yeah, we're going to do a business meeting. Wait, no,

1237
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:14,320
Speaker 5: scratch that intervention, change your entire wedding plans. No business meeting, surprise,

1238
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 5: that's really that's really messed up. That's crazy to do,

1239
01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 5: especially as the cousin had misrepresented herself as a counselor

1240
01:02:22,600 --> 01:02:27,160
Speaker 5: and hairstylist. It was a challenging and uncomfortable experience, highlighting

1241
01:02:27,280 --> 01:02:31,280
Speaker 5: the complexities of navigating family dynamics and wedding planning. His

1242
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:33,560
Speaker 5: sister reached out multiple times, but we were focused on

1243
01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:36,240
Speaker 5: our work for clients. When she finally spoke to her

1244
01:02:36,280 --> 01:02:39,000
Speaker 5: brother my fiance, she was upset and claimed that I

1245
01:02:39,080 --> 01:02:41,919
Speaker 5: had said things to his cousin. Both of us felt

1246
01:02:42,000 --> 01:02:46,360
Speaker 5: blindsided by her accusations. Despy my attempts to explain, she

1247
01:02:46,480 --> 01:02:48,600
Speaker 5: cut me off and hung up the call, showing no

1248
01:02:48,720 --> 01:02:52,600
Speaker 5: interest in understanding my perspective. Feeling frustrated with the situation,

1249
01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:57,200
Speaker 5: I eventually decided to block her number. The cousin, sister

1250
01:02:57,320 --> 01:03:00,280
Speaker 5: in law, and stepmother were involved in the conflict. That's well.

1251
01:03:01,000 --> 01:03:03,400
Speaker 5: I had a conversation with my father in law, who

1252
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:06,040
Speaker 5: was unaware of the extent of the issues. He tried

1253
01:03:06,080 --> 01:03:09,840
Speaker 5: to justify their actions, including looking at venues without consulting us.

1254
01:03:10,360 --> 01:03:12,680
Speaker 5: They offered money to help with the wedding, but their

1255
01:03:12,760 --> 01:03:16,200
Speaker 5: choices seem more self serving than supportive. I expressed my

1256
01:03:16,280 --> 01:03:19,280
Speaker 5: concerns about their actions regarding the venue and the potential

1257
01:03:19,360 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 5: financial strain it would cause us. While they claim to

1258
01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:25,400
Speaker 5: be looking out for us, their decisions ended up creating

1259
01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:28,800
Speaker 5: more stress. I decided to address the situation head on

1260
01:03:29,280 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 5: and emphasize the need for transparency and consideration in future dealings.

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01:03:34,240 --> 01:03:36,760
Speaker 3: I don't like your fiance silent family. Why are they

1262
01:03:36,840 --> 01:03:40,720
Speaker 3: all like going against you and like really trying to

1263
01:03:40,800 --> 01:03:42,840
Speaker 3: make this the hardest decision ever?

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01:03:43,360 --> 01:03:47,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, truly? Why are they just saying we want we

1265
01:03:47,480 --> 01:03:51,840
Speaker 5: want your wedding to be our wedding. Just our choices

1266
01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:55,280
Speaker 5: seem better than what you want? Thanks?

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01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:55,960
Speaker 4: Do it?

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01:03:56,600 --> 01:03:58,680
Speaker 3: How many people do I have to block in order

1269
01:03:58,720 --> 01:04:02,000
Speaker 3: for you to get the message this is our wedding.

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Speaker 3: We are not changing anything. If you can't come, if

1271
01:04:04,960 --> 01:04:06,200
Speaker 3: you can't come, you can't come.

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01:04:06,480 --> 01:04:10,480
Speaker 5: Sorry, it's all my wedding, my rules, my day. I

1273
01:04:10,520 --> 01:04:13,600
Speaker 5: would talk to your fiance truly again, talk to your

1274
01:04:13,640 --> 01:04:15,360
Speaker 5: fiance and be like, hey, what's up with your family?

1275
01:04:15,760 --> 01:04:18,560
Speaker 5: Because you need to do something. I'm tired of dealing

1276
01:04:18,600 --> 01:04:21,120
Speaker 5: with them. This is your family. You need to tell

1277
01:04:21,160 --> 01:04:24,040
Speaker 5: them to either you can come and shut up or

1278
01:04:24,440 --> 01:04:28,200
Speaker 5: don't come. Shut up? Easy as that a little bit left,

1279
01:04:28,280 --> 01:04:30,600
Speaker 5: Let's go in and finished up. Despite the ongoing tension

1280
01:04:30,640 --> 01:04:33,560
Speaker 5: with his family members, my fiance has not addressed the

1281
01:04:33,640 --> 01:04:36,960
Speaker 5: situation with his cousin and sister. I find it challenging

1282
01:04:37,000 --> 01:04:39,240
Speaker 5: to navigate these conflicts while trying to focus on planning

1283
01:04:39,280 --> 01:04:43,080
Speaker 5: our wedding. The strained relationships and unmet expectations have left

1284
01:04:43,120 --> 01:04:46,840
Speaker 5: me feeling hurt and disappointed, especially since family holds great

1285
01:04:46,880 --> 01:04:50,920
Speaker 5: significance for me. In the midst of all of this turmoil,

1286
01:04:51,360 --> 01:04:54,760
Speaker 5: I continue to struggle with feelings of violation and emotional distress.

1287
01:04:55,400 --> 01:04:58,360
Speaker 5: The wedding planning process, meant to be a joyful time,

1288
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:02,400
Speaker 5: has been marred by missu standings and conflicts. As someone

1289
01:05:02,440 --> 01:05:05,480
Speaker 5: who values family deeply, these challenges weigh heavily on me,

1290
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:10,240
Speaker 5: particularly given my past issues with my biological father. However,

1291
01:05:10,640 --> 01:05:13,880
Speaker 5: I remain committed to my fiance and our relationship despite

1292
01:05:13,920 --> 01:05:17,640
Speaker 5: the difficulties posted by external opinions and tendons within his family.

1293
01:05:18,320 --> 01:05:21,360
Speaker 5: And that's the end of that story. Yeah, I mean

1294
01:05:22,040 --> 01:05:24,520
Speaker 5: you're not You guys aren't even married yet. I think

1295
01:05:24,560 --> 01:05:28,080
Speaker 5: you guys need to figure this all out because this

1296
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:30,000
Speaker 5: is gonna be your future family.

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01:05:30,240 --> 01:05:32,560
Speaker 3: That's true, and you can't go into it with you know,

1298
01:05:32,680 --> 01:05:35,760
Speaker 3: all this tension and bad bloods. It's just gonna be

1299
01:05:35,880 --> 01:05:36,960
Speaker 3: so stressful.

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01:05:36,680 --> 01:05:39,400
Speaker 5: Truly, if you're gonna be blocking all of them where

1301
01:05:39,680 --> 01:05:41,720
Speaker 5: there's gonna be no more family to begin with. But

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01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:44,400
Speaker 5: I think you need to have a genuine conversation with

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01:05:44,720 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 5: your fiance and be like, Hey, what's going on here?

1304
01:05:49,320 --> 01:05:52,360
Speaker 5: I'm I am super stressed out. Your family's making this

1305
01:05:52,480 --> 01:05:55,040
Speaker 5: really hard for me, and this should be a fun time.

1306
01:05:55,440 --> 01:05:57,400
Speaker 5: It's not a fun time. In fact, it's the opposite

1307
01:05:57,400 --> 01:06:00,240
Speaker 5: of that. This sucks. What's happening. We had to deal

1308
01:06:00,280 --> 01:06:02,760
Speaker 5: with this and don't just let it slide, and you know,

1309
01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:07,120
Speaker 5: you act like it's not happening. So hopefully he listens

1310
01:06:07,200 --> 01:06:08,760
Speaker 5: and can figure it out. You guys can figure it

1311
01:06:08,800 --> 01:06:14,160
Speaker 5: out and communicate, and hopefully something positive happens and the

1312
01:06:14,200 --> 01:06:15,760
Speaker 5: wedding planning starts going smoother.

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01:06:15,920 --> 01:06:17,919
Speaker 1: But I doubt it, And that's the end of the story.