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Speaker 1: to be born today. Calm Down with Erin and Carissa

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Speaker 1: is a production of iHeartRadio. The thing is well, our producer,

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Speaker 1: Ryan is so angry with us as we welcome everybody back.

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Speaker 2: Brian's stay on for two seconds.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Calm Down Podcast broadcast, and welcome

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Speaker 1: to the pregame show. Ryan, what did you say when

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Speaker 2: I said, I can't believe this could have been our

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Speaker 2: best episode we've ever had.

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Speaker 1: The ship we were dropping offline was insane.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm gonna make the listeners feel better because all

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Speaker 3: of it is going to be talked about at some point.

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Speaker 3: It just needs to be appropriate when it is. That's

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Speaker 3: They're like, why are we listening to stupid podcast? Then

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Speaker 3: if you don't even talk about the good stuff, Oh

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Speaker 1: Part of this good stuff is going to be happening

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and I'm all for it. Baron's drinking tea.

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Speaker 3: There's the tea. Welcome everybody. Ryan is back from his

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Speaker 3: vacation and thrilled to be back in the saddle with us.

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Speaker 3: I'm in it looks like I'm the poor longhorn that

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Speaker 3: From this little viewer whatever viewing, it looks like it's

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Speaker 3: going through your head. That's what I'm saying, going through

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Speaker 3: that's dramatic. I know my poor puppy is sick. Okay,

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Speaker 3: are we ready pregame? Here we go our favorite anonymous

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Speaker 3: And by the way, I want to know which one

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Speaker 3: workers that never shut up about themselves and aren't that interesting?

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Speaker 1: How is there any way to trace this to Richard Zion's,

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Speaker 2: Who who else submitted this question about us? Julian Edelman?

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Speaker 2: Is that you? Okay?

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Speaker 3: I don't know coworkers that never shut upbout themselves and

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Speaker 2: How are we dealing? Is the question? Comment and concern.

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Speaker 3: I have a lot of thoughts on this, and I

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Speaker 3: can't say Okay, Well, then while you get your thoughts together,

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Speaker 3: I will say this, Why don't we redirect the questions

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Speaker 2: I don't know, like if.

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Speaker 2: You're traveling from LA I'm sorry, are you in the

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Speaker 3: that would get back to them, but like just read,

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Speaker 2: That's my suggestion.

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Speaker 1: My coworker Kevin Burkhardt, who may or may not have

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Speaker 3: I think we answered that, but if we didn't, nineteen

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Speaker 1: But there's always the surprise songs, which I'm nervous about because,

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Speaker 3: If I ever are at a surprise party, we would

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Speaker 2: They would never Actually I don't like surprise parties either.

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Speaker 1: But what do we got here? Brandy eight eight seven

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Speaker 2: She's such a fastifle convenience. I'm heaving his baby, but

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Speaker 3: The answer to how soon after dating after a divorce

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Speaker 3: Like there's a great song. Carly Pierce wrote this album

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Speaker 3: Those of you cut called twenty nine and the song

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Speaker 1: So basically, to summarize what you just said, I it

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Speaker 2: I should just see where I am and go for that,

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Speaker 3: Don't put any kind of time limits on anything because

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Speaker 2: Bluss you.

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Speaker 1: What I would say is you've handled it great. But

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Speaker 1: I don't think that past things should shape future.

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Speaker 2: Okay, this is Aaron.

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Speaker 3: This is Aaron trying to like not just like she's

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Speaker 3: I'm going through something, so fine, let's just talk about

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Speaker 3: it on the podcast, shall.

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Speaker 2: We on the Big Show? Right the show.

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Speaker 3: I'd love everyone's opinion and that can help me through

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Speaker 3: the situation I'm in in my life.

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Speaker 2: So there's a tease. We'll see you on the Big Show.

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Speaker 2: Join us on. There's one more question.

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Speaker 1: Oh we do not on my form? Go for it

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Speaker 1: ql Ale runs. My teenagers want to plan this summer trip,

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Speaker 1: but time is ticking. Do I take the reins? Yes,

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Speaker 1: because before you know it, summer will be over. Summer's

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Speaker 1: already over for us.

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Speaker 2: It's over. It's over, keep been over. Yeah, it's our

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Speaker 2: pre game's over. We'll join you on the Big Show.

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