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Speaker 1: M hm okay. Welcome to the Therapy for Black Girls podcast,

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Speaker 1: a weekly conversation about mental health, personal development, and all

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Speaker 1: the small decisions we can make to become the best

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Speaker 1: possible versions of ourselves. I'm your host, Dr joy hard

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Speaker 1: and Bradford, a licensed psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. For more

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Speaker 1: information or to find a therapist in your area, visit

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Speaker 1: our website at Therapy for Black Girls dot com. While

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Speaker 1: I hope you love listening to and learning from the podcast,

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Speaker 1: it is not meant to be a substitute for relationship

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Speaker 1: with a licensed mental health professional. Hey, y'all, thanks so

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Speaker 1: much for joining me for such a their feed for

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Speaker 1: Black Girls podcasts. We are finally at the finish line, y'all,

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Speaker 1: is almost over, and I hope that you've had some

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Speaker 1: time recently to rest, eat some good food, laugh, connect,

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Speaker 1: and just take some time for yourself. For the past

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Speaker 1: couple of days, I have indulged deeply in spending time

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Speaker 1: with my family and catching up on my playlists including

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Speaker 1: Bridget In the Flight, Attendant Soul, and Sylvie's Love. And

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Speaker 1: I'm currently looking for my next watch, So if there's

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Speaker 1: something that you've watched recently that I need to add

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Speaker 1: to my list. Hit me up on Twitter at hello

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Speaker 1: Dr Joy and let me know what to watch next.

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Speaker 1: I've also been spending some time thinking about the whirlwind

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Speaker 1: has been something I've been working on with my therapist

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Speaker 1: is being able to do a better job of processing

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Speaker 1: things as they happen, as opposed to storing it all

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Speaker 1: up to process later. And I felt like so much

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Speaker 1: has happened this year that it's been difficult to do

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Speaker 1: that in real time, which is probably why I've been

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Speaker 1: thinking about it lately. Now that my schedule is slower

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Speaker 1: and I have a little more downtime, I've spent some

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Speaker 1: time thinking about how this year has changed me in

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Speaker 1: ways that I can see, and probably lots that I

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Speaker 1: can't see right now, and what happens next year, as

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Speaker 1: so much still feels uncertain and precarious. I've made myself

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Speaker 1: a list of twelve questions to journal about, and of

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Speaker 1: course I want to share them with you. You're welcome

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Speaker 1: to write them down, but of course we've also made

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Speaker 1: a handoff for you that you can download. You can

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Speaker 1: text the word questions to five O four four nine

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Speaker 1: nine zero six six three and you'll get a download

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Speaker 1: sent to you. Again that number is five O four four, nine,

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Speaker 1: nine zero six six three and just text the word questions.

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Speaker 1: As with all of my prompts, I invite you to

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Speaker 1: find some time in the beginning of your day or

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Speaker 1: at the end to write and trying not to get

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Speaker 1: too in your head about what you're writing. It's not

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Speaker 1: an assignment, but more in exercise in bringing what's inside out.

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Speaker 1: And by no means do you need to ponder on

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Speaker 1: or write about all of these things in one sitting.

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Speaker 1: Take as much time as you need, and it doesn't

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Speaker 1: need to even be done by January one. You can

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Speaker 1: do this on your own time. So question number one,

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Speaker 1: how are you really feeling when you think about what

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Speaker 1: has been and what might be? What comes up for you?

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Speaker 1: Number two? What was most difficult for you about? Number three?

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Speaker 1: What brought you joy this year? Number four? What helps

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Speaker 1: you to feel safe? Question number five? What surprised you

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Speaker 1: about yourself this year? Number six? What surprised you about

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Speaker 1: others this year? Number seven? And how are you planning

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Speaker 1: to take care of yourself next year? Number eight? How

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Speaker 1: do you know when you've overextended yourself? What are the signs?

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Speaker 1: Number nine? What boundaries need some readjusting in the new year.

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Speaker 1: Number ten. What additional supports have you recognized would be helpful?

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Speaker 1: Number eleven, how can you help make a difference in

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Speaker 1: your community next year? And number twelve what are you

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Speaker 1: most looking forward to in one? I know that last

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Speaker 1: year we talked about choosing a word or a theme

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Speaker 1: for the new year. I've not done that yet this year,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not sure if I will. I'm not quite

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Speaker 1: feeling like I'm ready to choose a word for But

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Speaker 1: if that's something that you're gonna do, then I think

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Speaker 1: that that would be a good idea to journe all

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Speaker 1: about that as well. So these are the questions I'm

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Speaker 1: writing about, but y'all always have great questions too. So

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Speaker 1: if there are other things that you're reflecting on as

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Speaker 1: we wrap up, if you're comfortable, please share them with

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Speaker 1: us on social media using the hashtag TBG in Session,

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Speaker 1: And don't forget to text two sisters in your circle

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Speaker 1: right now so that they can check out this episode

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Speaker 1: as well. If there's a topic you'd like to have

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Speaker 1: us cover next year on the podcast, please admit it

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Speaker 1: to us at Therapy for Black Girls dot com, slash mailbox,

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Speaker 1: and if you're looking for a therapist in your area,

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Speaker 1: be sure to check out our therapist directory at Therapy

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Speaker 1: for Black Girls dot com slash directory. If you're looking

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Speaker 1: just about everything else. You can join us at Therapy

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Speaker 1: for Black Girls dot com slash y CC. Thank y'all

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Speaker 1: so much for joining me agive this week. I hope

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Speaker 1: that you have a peaceful remainder of twenty twenty and

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Speaker 1: a joyful entrance to twenty twenty one. I look forward

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Speaker 1: to continue in this conversation with you all real soon.

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Speaker 1: Take it care