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Speaker 1: Thank you the nephew. Subject My wife keeps leaving me

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Speaker 1: and coming back. She keeps leaving me and coming back.

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Speaker 1: To Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty five year old man

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Speaker 1: with two kids and a step daughter by my wife.

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Speaker 1: I love my family, but I have come to a

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Speaker 1: breaking point with my wife. For the second time in

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Speaker 1: four years. She has left the home and cut off

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Speaker 1: all contact with me and the kids. The first time

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Speaker 1: met online. She bought a bus ticket and wrote wrote

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Speaker 1: out west and didn't contact us for a month. Eventually,

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Speaker 1: the guy dumped her and she reached out to me.

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Speaker 1: I ended up sending her four hundred dollars for her

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Speaker 1: to get back home. Earlier this summer, I was grilling

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Speaker 1: and the kids were in the pool. My wife said

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Speaker 1: she had to run to Walmart to get a few things.

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Speaker 1: We have not seen her since then. The kids and

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Speaker 1: I rode all around town looking for her that night

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Speaker 1: and the next day. I kind of figured she'd left

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Speaker 1: us again, but I didn't want to upset the kids.

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Speaker 1: I filed a missing person's report with the police, and

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Speaker 1: and instantly I got all kinds of messages saying that

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Speaker 1: close by. I wasn't surprised, and I waited for her

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Speaker 1: to call home. After forty five days, she called, saying

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Speaker 1: of what she keep doing to the family. I told

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Speaker 1: They said I shouldn't let her come back, and we'd

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Speaker 1: be just fine without her. We've been married fourteen years,

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Speaker 1: and I've kept the marriage together for the kids. But

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Speaker 1: now they're saying to throw her and the whole marriage away.

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Speaker 1: Do you think I should take their advice or give

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Speaker 1: my wife one more chance, please advise well, I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know, the decision, of course, is ultimately up to

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Speaker 1: you what you do. Should you take the kid's advice

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Speaker 1: you want to do? Well, it's certainly not what the

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Speaker 1: They really are, and they let you know so you

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Speaker 1: stop feeling guilty about all this, your wife leaving and

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Speaker 1: coming back and running off with some man she met online,

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Speaker 1: and you know, just not hearing from her, no contact

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Speaker 1: for forty days and a month, forty five days. What

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Speaker 1: is all of this? And then you have two kids

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Speaker 1: and one of them is her stepdaughter. She's sick of

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Speaker 1: her mom too. They want a divorce from her, and

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Speaker 1: really so should you At this point your wife doesn't

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Speaker 3: And your kids I don't know how old they are.

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Speaker 1: You said they were in the pool while you were grilling,

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Speaker 1: but I mean they're cool just with being with you.

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Speaker 1: I just say, I'm saying sorry here, but your wife

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Speaker 3: I'm sure it is. Who does this?

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Speaker 1: Why should they have to continue to go through this

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Speaker 3: And why should you have to continually go through this?

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Speaker 3: Who can live like this?

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Speaker 1: I just you know, you never know from one day

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Speaker 1: She's selfish and that's what the kids want you to

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Speaker 1: and I don't see why you wouldn't, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: Okay, she's a source of misery for you guys.

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Speaker 2: Steve, Well, let me start by saying this to you.

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Speaker 2: It ain't a good look when your kids is smarter

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Speaker 2: than you, right, you know, it just ain't a good look.

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Speaker 2: Let me just start there. Okay, hright, here we go.

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Speaker 2: You're thirty five year old man, got two kids and

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Speaker 2: a step daughter. I love my family. But she had

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Speaker 2: a breaking point. For the second time in four years,

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Speaker 2: she'd have left home, cut off all contact with me

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Speaker 2: and the kids the first time. She first time she left,

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Speaker 2: bought a bus ticket and rolled out west. What a

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Speaker 2: trifling this badass decision. Who buys a bus ticket to

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Speaker 2: ride out west? You know, like she in a Western

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Speaker 2: or something. Go west, young man, fortune out there. And

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Speaker 2: left you for a man that sent her a bus ticket.

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Speaker 2: Your wife is not a bright person. The kids are,

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Speaker 2: sense of it. And she brought a bus ticket rode out.

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Speaker 2: She didn't contact us for a month. Damn man, that's

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Speaker 2: hard it's hardful. Eventually, the god dumptor she reached out

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Speaker 2: to me. I ended up spending four hundred dollars for

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Speaker 1: Ticket hold on, We'll hold on, Steve, hold that buck,

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Speaker 1: just hold it, hold it. We'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up in twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's subject my wife keeps leaving me and coming back.

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Speaker 1: We'll get into it right after this. You're listening hard

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Speaker 1: morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. The subject my wife keeps leaving me and

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Speaker 1: coming back?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, she been doing it, second time in four

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Speaker 2: years she done left. The first time she left with

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Speaker 2: a man she met online. She bought a bus ticket

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Speaker 2: and rode out west. I knew this relationship was doomed.

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Speaker 2: You meet a dude online, he'd buy you a bus ticket,

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Speaker 2: all right, eventually got dumptor you ended up sending four

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Speaker 2: hundred dollars for her way to get back home. Yos

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Speaker 2: do it there, had bought the airline ticket. Clearly you

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Speaker 2: care more about her than the dude online. Now hit

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Speaker 2: a good one right here. Earlier this summer, I was grilly, kids,

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Speaker 2: was outside in the pool. My wife said she had

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Speaker 2: to run the wall oh Mart to get a few things.

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Speaker 2: We ain't seen her head horrible. What did she what

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Speaker 2: happened at the walmart. This is bad. The kids and

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Speaker 2: I rode around town looking for her that night.

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Speaker 3: And the next day what.

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Speaker 2: And the next day then the dude said, because he

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Speaker 2: got tuition, I kind of figured she left us again.

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Speaker 2: I ain't want to upset the kids, so I filed

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Speaker 2: a missing person report. Police told me since she left before,

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Speaker 2: they wouldn't open then investigation right away. Then you put

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Speaker 2: some pictures on Facebook, and everybody started calling you, telling

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Speaker 2: you I saw that helper doll, that Earl Turner's right, well,

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Speaker 2: I saw up at Abagail's. She was at to speak

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Speaker 2: easy too, that she came into tabbing Friday. They just

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Speaker 2: saw her everywhere. Yeah, you know she's old bro that

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Speaker 2: go do country stuff. You know this ain't no big

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Speaker 2: city chicken, Okay, because of the bus So I wasn't surprised.

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Speaker 2: And I waited for her to call home after forty

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Speaker 2: fat days so crazy. This help of call back home

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Speaker 2: says she's ashamed of what she keeps doing to the family.

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Speaker 2: Suley says, something right. Is she on drugs because this

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Speaker 2: guy crackhead rolled all over it?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, matter of fact.

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Speaker 2: Let me let me, let me, let me, let me

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Speaker 2: back it down a little bit. Is she on myth

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you what. When you see her, look

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Speaker 2: at her teeth real good? Why because if you on

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Speaker 2: matthe your teeth is shot. Oh you ain't see the

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Speaker 2: tiger king?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah his man.

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Speaker 2: Did you see his mouth?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, that's.

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Speaker 2: I don't care what your sexual preference is. You got

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Speaker 2: to want somebody with some better looking teeth than that. Damn.

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Speaker 2: You got to have your mouth.

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Speaker 3: Right, You have to, you have to.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Now, I told the kids she called and ready

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Speaker 2: We just fine without her. You know, you messed up

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Speaker 2: when your kids don't want their mama no more.

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Speaker 3: Your blood daughter, your blood daughter.

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Speaker 2: We've been married fourteen years, and I've kept the marriage

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Speaker 2: together for the kids. Now this is interesting because now

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Speaker 2: So if she had a stepdaughter, the stepdaughter got to

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Speaker 2: Let me ask you something, bro, give your wife one

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Speaker 2: more chance to do what to leave a third time?

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Speaker 2: Please advise, brother, I don't even know why you struggling

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Speaker 2: that's no longer any in love with you or her family.

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Speaker 2: She loves something else. Now. I ain't saying she owned drugs.

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Speaker 2: It do sound like drugs to me because she go

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Speaker 2: but the kids deserve better. You seem like a good man.

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Speaker 2: You probably get you a good woman.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Me personally, I'm just this just Steve Harvey talker. Please

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Speaker 2: don't tweet and facebook me about my responses because you

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Speaker 2: know I don't really care no more. I really don't.

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Speaker 2: I done got sixty three. I don't got real com

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Speaker 2: do what I'm saying on this show. Divorce, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm divorcing her. I don't think he has real choice.

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Speaker 2: I'm divorcing her. I'm not living like this is clear.

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Speaker 2: You don't want me and these kids. I don't want

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Speaker 2: in the pool.

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Speaker 3: You can leave your husband and your kids.

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Speaker 2: You will leave me or somebody that bought a bus ticket. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's what I'm throwd off. I could see if you

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Speaker 2: came up. You didn't even go lateral. You just took

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Speaker 2: a step down. You rode a bus out west.

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Speaker 3: We don't even know where that is. I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 3: y out west, just west?

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Speaker 2: Yeah Texas. Yeah, probably just went Western Mississippi, ended up

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Speaker 2: ended up in Mississippi.

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Speaker 3: Wow, just wherever.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a bad she's a bad woman. She's

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Speaker 2: not a good person. I'm down with him. You can

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Speaker 2: do what you want to do, Bro, but he's a kid.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Steve.

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