WEBVTT - #16 Help! Dating Sucks 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:04.240 All right, Hell I suck at Dating with Dean Angler 0:00:04.640 --> 0:00:12.879 and I Heart Radio podcast. Hello, Hello, Hello, part of 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:21.880 my uh annoyed temper today because I've just been um, yes, 0:00:21.920 --> 0:00:23.840 I'm very annoyed with one of our producers in studio 0:00:23.920 --> 0:00:28.159 right now. This is real and raw. She makes it 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:30.600 seem like I have an opinion that that is taken 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:33.199 into consideration in every turn, but in reality it's just 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:36.280 really whatever she says goes and well, Dean, now I 0:00:36.760 --> 0:00:40.040 to defend the production staff of this show for a moment. 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:42.239 When we say to you, Dean, what do you want 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:44.920 to talk about on this show? I don't know. You 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:47.599 don't really bring a lot to the table. You don't say, hey, 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:49.360 I did this, we could talk about that. Hey, let's 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:51.839 talk about that. So we try to give you ideas 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:54.880 and sometimes you don't like those ideas. Well, yeah, you're right, 0:00:54.880 --> 0:00:56.480 a lot of times I don't like the ideas. Let see, 0:00:56.480 --> 0:00:57.880 so you have no ideas of your own, but you 0:00:57.880 --> 0:00:59.840 don't like our ideas. So then when where does that 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:02.680 of us? I have a lot of ideas, but you 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:06.160 guys shoot them down every single time. Go ahead, changing 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:08.560 the name of the podcast for one budge on one thing, 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:11.080 budge on one thing, and then I will begin to 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:13.800 snowball and waterfall in some more ideas. Jessica makes a 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:15.760 really good point about the title of the podcast. If 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.800 I may dean funny story. I was at this guy's house. 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:21.600 I just started seeing him. He was looking at something 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:24.360 on my phone went out of nowhere. He just starts laughing. 0:01:24.800 --> 0:01:26.520 I'll like go over at him, and after a second, 0:01:26.560 --> 0:01:30.559 I hear your voice coming from my phone. He then goes, 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.880 I accidentally started the podcast Help I Suck at Dating? 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:36.800 And he kept laughing. He couldn't even breathe. Another friend 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:39.280 of ours and laughing too. They both started making fun 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:42.000 of me. How much I must suck at dating if 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:45.880 I'm listening to a self help dating podcast. Now, whenever 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:48.480 I do something related to dating, he says, oh did 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:51.720 you learn that from Dean. As fun as the ongoing 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.280 joke is, I vote in favor of a name change. 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:57.480 Help Dating Sucks works fine, And maybe next time someone 0:01:57.520 --> 0:02:00.080 stumbles upon your podcast on my phone. Don't think I 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.680 just agree that dating sucks now that I actually suck 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:06.640 at dating love the podcast, Jessica. Well, Jessica, first and foremost, 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:09.160 I apologize because the tyranny here at iHeart Radio will 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:11.480 not allow the name of the podcast to change, no 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:14.959 matter how much we lobby for it, and it's it's 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:17.560 kind of frustrating sometimes and a lot of it Like 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:19.000 I don't know what to talk about now because I 0:02:19.000 --> 0:02:21.080 still can't really be as open and honestly as I 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:22.280 want to be for the next two or three weeks 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:23.959 while the show hasn't even aired yet for Winter Games 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:25.680 all that kind of stuff. So I don't know, Like 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:28.320 it's like a weird, weird limbo phase right now. Well, 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:32.840 let's could we end this podcast and start a new 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:38.400 podcast with a different title. Yeah, all that costs money. 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:40.880 Oh I didn't know that cost money. Okay, we have 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:45.600 a really nice looking logo. I can stay. Just change 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:47.639 the words in it. Look, all we have to do 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:50.600 is remove the eye and A put the dating in 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:53.280 front of the suck, and then double the s put 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:55.240 it at the end. Help dating sucks. Why isn't you 0:02:55.320 --> 0:03:00.280 heard it so much? Diners? Because A I think that 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:02.280 only one percent of the people out there understand that 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:07.720 it's a satirical title. No, be when I tell people 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:11.120 what I do every Tuesday from noon to two pm, 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:14.040 I would much feel feel much more comfortable saying I 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.440 have a podcast named help Dating Sucks instead of help 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:21.480 I Suck at Dating. See, maybe it's just a sense 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:24.440 of a principle where you know, if I have an 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:27.240 idea for the first time in the twenty weeks we've 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:29.840 been doing this and it gets adopted and accepted, it 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:31.560 made me feel more comfortable about this hole being a 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:34.080 joint effort instead of me just kind of following my 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:38.720 uh opinions blindly. There there could be Maybe there's a 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:41.240 compromise to be found here. What if it became help 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:44.960 Do you suck at dating? What's the difference? Well, that's 0:03:44.960 --> 0:03:47.640 not you, it's someone else. It's them, it's the listener. 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:50.640 Do you suck a dating? That that's enough of a change, 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:54.240 Like we can change it to that. Possibly I don't 0:03:54.280 --> 0:03:56.360 like that. You don't like that either? You want the 0:03:56.360 --> 0:04:00.640 words suck when you don't mind dating sucks? Because I 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:02.600 don't want to make all about them. I'll still take 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:06.720 some of it for myself. Okay, we have another proposal. 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:10.320 Do we suck at dating? Help? Do we suck at dating? Why? 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:12.560 What's wrong with help Dating sucks? I'm so confused with 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:15.920 what's wrong with that one does. There's a little negative. 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:19.920 Does there have to be like pinpointing whether it's you 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:22.560 meet us. There has to be a pronoun in there somewhere? 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:28.360 Are we married to pronouns as another corporation? Somebody else 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:30.120 didn't make a point that dating sucks would be kind 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:32.160 of a negative name for a podcast. I'm trying to 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:35.800 find that one. That's probably Amy's email. She sent it 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:38.640 from here. It is dating sucks. This is Jenny Help 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:40.560 dating Sucks. It sounds too negative, and you might be 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:43.520 advertising there's just a podcast of people who hate romance. 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:45.880 If you want to keep it similar the format of 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:49.520 the current name, how about something like help Becoming Datable, 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:53.600 or how to suck lass at Dating? What about that one, 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:55.800 how to suck lass at Dating? Maybe that I like 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:58.840 that one? Okay, all right, it's a it's a start. 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:01.800 Well Dean smiling, that's a positive staff. I feel like 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:03.440 I have a pizza in my in my teeth. Well, 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:07.000 we got pizza from CPK. Was fantastic. It was cauliflower crust. 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:09.480 Healthy too. It's like eating a vegetable. If I didn't 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.480 know what was cauliflower crust, I would have said, boy, 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:13.320 that crust is really good. I would have said that 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:15.400 just out of nowhere, because I had noted in myself, 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:18.360 that's really good crust. Turns out it's cauliflower really initiated. 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:21.200 That's California Pizza Kitchen, right. I don't think they go 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:22.640 with that anymore. I think, oh yeah, I guess they 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:25.120 do it right there on the box, because sometimes these 0:05:25.120 --> 0:05:27.159 companies do that. They go to initials that you never 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:31.960 ever hear again. What like KFC Kitchen Fresh Chicken. I 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:33.440 sort that's what they changed it to. It's no more 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:37.360 Kentucky Fried anyway, But forget about Kentucky Fried because CPK 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:40.640 is here and it's delicious. Will you accept how to 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:45.599 suck at Dating less? That's a little how to suck less? 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:48.880 It dat Yoda if Yoda made a title how to 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:53.760 suck less a dating is what Jenny proposed. Yeh, it's 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:57.240 it's a step in the right direction. That's great, Thank you, Dean. 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.400 Let's iterate upon that and figured it figure out exactly 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:01.120 who want to do? Tell us about your week, because 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:03.400 we're later than usual this week. What's been going on 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:05.600 with you? It's Thursday already? Day? Yeah, I feel like 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:07.080 it's been so long since I've seen you guys. It's 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:09.000 been too long. What have you done this week? Have 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:12.080 you gone out? What have I done this week? Spent 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:13.840 the week in New or spent money to Wednesday in 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:15.360 New York? Wow? What were you doing there? I went 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:17.600 with Amanda Stanton, n Ashley, I and Eric Bigger out 0:06:17.640 --> 0:06:20.040 there for a an event with Lord and Taylor in 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:22.080 the league. H It's funny enough. We were giving out 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:24.520 dating advice and fashion advice for for some New York 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:27.880 locals out there. Um went to the beach a bunch 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:30.040 this weekend with some friends. Is it too cold to 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:31.800 go to the beach? I mean it's jary, It was 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:33.839 like in the eighties. Was actually nice? Um. We had 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:35.680 a whig party for one of my bald friends. He 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:38.200 turned twenty seven, so we all decided to wear wigs 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:40.320 and have a surprise birthday party for him. Is he 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:44.000 bald by choice or bald by nature or bald by illness? 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:45.679 Kind of one of those things where he was balding 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:49.160 as a young early twenties individual and decided to just 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:50.400 kind of take it around with it and shaved his 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:51.880 head bald and now he kind of accepts it, you know. 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:53.880 Smalled by choice, but by necessity is I know a 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:56.280 guy who in high school lost it, just went completely bald, 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:58.240 and now he wears a wig. But it's a very 0:06:58.320 --> 0:06:59.960 high end wig because there's something about being in con 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:01.760 troll of a situation that makes you feel more comfortable 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:04.160 about it. Wig maybe not so much. But what what 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:07.080 would you do? Like, I have a I have a 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:09.680 bald spot. Uh if you got that, would you have 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:11.720 an issue with that? Would you shave your head? I 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:14.760 shipped my head bald last year, last October, like a 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:18.120 year and a half ago. For what reason? Um? There 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:23.360 were multiple reasons. One reason there were dynamics. I was 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:29.200 I was trying to actually qualify for the Summer Olympics. Um, 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:31.560 I just got a mole removed on the side of 0:07:31.600 --> 0:07:33.200 my head that I always thought was really unsightly, and 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:34.840 it was like it was like you could see it 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:36.240 through the hair sometimes, And I was like, I always 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:37.560 want to be bald, but I didn't want this mole 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:40.640 to be stick. Now, UM, I don't know. My mom 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:42.840 was bald for a long time, so what what would 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:43.920 it be like to be bald? You know? So there's 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:45.440 like a lot of things that was like yeah, and 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:46.360 then I was just like, you know what, I'm just 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:48.200 gonna do it. And so I took the clippers and 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:49.720 and bused the line through my hair and I was like, 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:51.000 all right, there's no turning back now. And it was 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:56.600 honestly horrible experience. I looked hideous for two or three months. Um, 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:59.400 but what else? And then you don't have the head 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:02.040 for it, all the shape the cranium, you know, I 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:05.000 don't know. I don't, I don't know. I think my 0:08:05.120 --> 0:08:07.840 ears are weird, yeah, And I think that one of 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.440 my best physical qualities is my hair. And so when 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:12.440 I lose that, like if I if I was bald 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:15.240 ahead brown eyes, I probably would never know it even 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:19.880 look twice at me. That's not true, Dean, some people 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:23.280 pull up brown eyes. I'm just saying, everything else on 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:26.560 my face is is unsightly, like my nose, my lips, 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:28.760 my cheeks, all that kind of stuff. But it's it's 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:31.040 but it gets brought up a little bit higher because 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:32.520 of the blue eyes and because of the flow hair. 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:35.440 You're saying, flowy hair and blue eyes like the draw 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.760 for you, those are your best features and you and 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:40.280 you're proud of those, and you feel like that's what 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:42.319 gets people attracted to. But if you look past the 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:44.360 blue eyes and the hair, there's not much going on. 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:48.920 I mean, this is a weird conversation because I don't 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:50.840 want to sit here and reassure you that you're attracted. 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:53.679 But I think there's a lot going on. Um not, 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.240 I think, But it's because you lost in the eyes 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:59.440 and the hair, and now you're a heterosexual female. Imagine 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:03.679 Dean different hair, brown eyes, green eyes, whatever, but not 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:05.920 such striking eyes. Problem is, I think I've seen you 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:11.120 the photos. It's not awesome. Okay, it's admittedly not awesome, 0:09:11.440 --> 0:09:13.520 but I don't know, the rest of your face is fine. 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:17.679 But maybe I think you just proved his point that 0:09:17.840 --> 0:09:19.960 without his hair in his eyes, he's an average looking guy. 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:23.199 I'm sorry, but you'll have nice hand scanning. That's a 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:28.719 good thing. Yeah, but that fades. Oh well, sorry, that's 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:32.120 what I'm saying, bald his tan face. But this is interesting. 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:36.040 It's that everybody has these insecurities about their own physical appearance, 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:39.560 even somebody who seems to the outsider as handsome as 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:42.520 Dean Anglert. He doesn't even like his it knows, his 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:44.840 mouth with his Chinn's ears, whatever it is. But everybody 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:46.800 has that. You're so used to your own features, you 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:52.199 don't know how beautiful you really are. Oh, but it's 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:55.880 probably true, George Clooney, I don't know, Jaselle Bunschen. They 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:57.360 probably look in the mirror and they're like, oh, I 0:09:57.360 --> 0:09:59.199 don't like how my nose is or that. You know, 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:00.880 don't you think it's when I look back to do 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:03.040 you guys ever play like Madden? They're like NBA two 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:06.040 K or anything. You can create a player and like 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:07.640 give him a name, give them number, all that kind 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:09.880 of stuff, And like every time I would create a player, 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:12.280 like a couple of weeks into playing with that player, 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:13.640 I'm like, I'm sick of the way this guy looks. 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:14.920 But then it's like, you can't do that in real life. 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:16.160 Like you look at the mirror every single day for 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:17.719 twenty six years. You're like, I'm sick the way this 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:22.920 guy looks. Beard, I can't grow must you can't me neither? Yeah, 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:32.760 never look at that podcast stuff here everyone. Hey, we 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:35.599 got a lot of emails about the opening lines to 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:39.319 use on a dating app. Erica is so much Yes, 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:40.920 Eric is on a bunch of these. Erica is the 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.280 one that told us about the the gift, the sub 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:46.920 seal seal and you know what, it's been working pretty well. 0:10:47.080 --> 0:10:49.440 Really Yeah, I've gotten a lot of responses Erica did 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:51.600 had a date last night that you did not bother 0:10:51.720 --> 0:10:54.160 to go to. I didn't like stand him up, like 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:58.439 I told him, I didn't feel well feeling. What she 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:00.920 knows is bogus, right, he knows at I don't know. 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:03.880 We haven't talked since. He said, I'm so sorry, let 0:11:03.920 --> 0:11:06.760 me know when you're feeling better, And you said, why 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:09.439 did you decide to bail? I just was not into it, 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:11.280 like at all, Like I just didn't want to go. 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:13.800 I think it's also because this thing happens when you're 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:15.600 on dating apps where you're talking to one person who 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:17.599 you like more than anyone else you're talking to, and 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:19.240 so you feel like until you meet that person, you 0:11:19.280 --> 0:11:21.600 shouldn't go out with anyone else. So you're you're focused 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:23.679 too much on one guy in the app, and like 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:25.959 that is not a good strategy, that's not the point 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:28.120 of the apps. I encourage you to go out with 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.000 the guy last night, just because I feel like it's 0:11:30.000 --> 0:11:32.439 good to stay in the game, into practice dating. I've 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:33.760 been so out of the game so long it does, 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:35.800 I don't have to stay and thinking that's why you 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:38.040 got to get get in there a little bit. It's 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:41.079 good to get some reps in, you know what I mean. Practice. 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:43.000 Maybe it's another time. That is an interesting point that 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:44.959 you make though, with there being one person that you 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:46.520 really want to go on a date with, and then 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.800 until you get that date, you're kind of like, I 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:50.400 don't really have to go on any other date until 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:52.719 why waste my time If I'm still talking to this 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:55.400 other guy, which you are, which I am, what's inhibiting 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.040 you from going on a date with that guy? So 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.760 he lives in San Diego just kind of problematic because 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:03.120 to them he was in l A going to Australia. 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:04.760 He was in Australia for two weeks. I hope he 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:08.959 doesn't listen to this show. And then he just got 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:10.400 back and I was going to Lake Ta. That's just 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:13.320 selfish when you're travel late. He's gonna La Tallo this weekend. Yeah, 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:18.000 my oh for him? So what's interesting about this guy? 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:19.959 And she showed me the pictures of him, and he's 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:22.079 a very good looking guy, but she was concerned about 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:25.720 his height, which and I say this because we tend 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:29.520 to really nitpick these photos on these dating apps because 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:32.959 there's really no evidence as you scroll through that he's short. 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:35.640 He's standing with other guys, he seems to be the 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:37.319 same height as all the other guys he hangs out with. 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:39.400 This really new evidence. But she just had a feeling 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:42.679 he might not be tall enough for her, liking, how 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:45.160 tall are you? I'm five seven, but like five eight 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:46.520 on a good day, so I'm kind of tall for 0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:50.000 a girl. Okay, but still she at least meet hill. 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:51.679 We older enough to meet the guy before we make 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:53.400 these kinds of judgments about it. I think I could 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:56.000 be a pretty good authority on whether he's tall or not. Okay, 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:58.040 let's bring him on. Let's find out was he staying 0:12:58.080 --> 0:13:00.120 next to like, you must be this tall? To write like, 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:01.800 what are you using his reference for his height? I'm 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:05.199 just using I don't other people, But like, he sent 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:07.080 me a photo from Australia and he's taller than all 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:09.360 the girls in the picture, So, like, I don't know 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:11.440 if I should be that concern. Whenever I meet someone 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:13.599 in real life, they're always like, you, look, you're so 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:15.360 much taller than I expect you to be. That was 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.400 my first impression of you. Yeah, I don't. I don't. 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:19.600 Did I don't. Did I come across as short on television? 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:24.079 In my Instagram profile? Maybe? So, I don't know. That 0:13:24.280 --> 0:13:27.440 is interesting. You're on his Facebook. We are not. I'm 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:30.760 looking at his profile picture on Facebook. He's the one. 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:35.080 He's cute. That's what I said. I like to believe 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:38.439 I can match with cute men. Uh. I'm glad he 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:39.840 got out of his high school phase. This is back. 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:41.880 He doesn't love it, and you're probably really far into it. 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:50.360 He's short, he's probably five ten okay, gay closed. Five 0:13:50.400 --> 0:13:54.280 ten is not a deal breaker for me. Five nine 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:57.079 is a deal breaker. Yeah. Yeah, if he's the perfect guy, 0:13:57.080 --> 0:13:58.840 you're gonna say no because of an inch, because right 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:03.120 now you can wear two inch pumps. But Eric, Erica, 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:10.439 that was that was that was? That was good? Did 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:16.600 you guys plan that before you came in. Maddie has 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.640 an idea for opening lines. First of all, she thinks 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:22.720 we should bring back the term going steady. I love 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:24.440 that term. I used that when I was in the 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:26.480 dating game, and actually when I would ask a girl 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:29.040 to go steady, I would give her a pin what 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:31.680 a pen? Yeah, which is like straight out of the fifties, 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:33.600 isn't it straight out of the fifties? You give him 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:35.560 your let him in jacket. I don't play sports, so 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:37.840 I wouldn't. I would give them I would buy a pin. 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:40.120 You're supposed to give him your like class pin, but 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:42.280 my school didn't do that because it was two thou 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:45.000 and two. So I just bought a pin and I 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:46.280 would give it to him and say, do you want 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:48.360 a goot? You know, hey, Becky, we've been having a 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:49.800 lot of fun together. I would like if you went 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:52.520 steady with me. Catches them off guard. They usually say yes, 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:57.200 accidentally end up in a relationship. Then I make a 0:14:57.240 --> 0:15:00.720 miserable for a couple more weeks. And Maddie, spending time 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:03.080 with someone going out is in my opinion, dating, But 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:04.880 there's not really a word right now in our culture 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:07.680 that's used for when that dating relationship gets more serious 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:12.200 and has more intentionality. Nice word there, Maddie. That's why 0:15:12.200 --> 0:15:14.160 I think we need to bring back going steady makes 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:16.080 it sound like there was intentionality and it's more than 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:19.800 two people just casually spending time together. Lastly, the best 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:22.280 opening line and started conversation on a dating app is 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:26.440 two truths and a lie go it's not bad once 0:15:26.480 --> 0:15:28.040 they respond to try to guess which one is a 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:29.960 lie and off at leads to a conversation. We talked 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:33.480 about the true things. I like that. So what she's 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:35.680 saying is the going steady is the bridge between dating 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:39.400 and boyfriend girlfriend? Just to cover that one first, is 0:15:39.480 --> 0:15:41.960 it or is it boyfriend girlfriend? I think it made 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:45.360 a replace his boyfriend girlfriend. The problem I always ran 0:15:45.400 --> 0:15:47.160 into is that there needs to be like a you 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:49.760 need to like schedule a meeting and deliberations for when 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:51.880 you when you get to call someone your girlfriend you know. 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:54.600 And always thought it was such a weird thing because 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:58.040 you always feel like a nerd going like so I felt, 0:15:58.360 --> 0:16:01.480 if you, if you make it about going steady, because 0:16:01.520 --> 0:16:03.320 it's such an old term, it makes it kind of fun. 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:06.000 It takes the pressure off of it, and also it 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:09.560 lets them know what your intentions are. Yeah, I'm just 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:12.520 a man. Study I think I would want to hit 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:14.600 the brakes. I don't know. I don't know if this 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:16.560 is oversharing. I don't know if I'm gonna get scrutinized 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:21.960 for this, But in a relationship recently that I may 0:16:22.000 --> 0:16:28.360 be currently in hypothetically, hypothetically, there was the dating phase 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:31.200 that was going on and then all of a sud well, 0:16:31.240 --> 0:16:33.400 not all of a sudden, but like after a couple 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:36.480 of days of like culminating and thinking and like deciding. 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.480 I'm not deciding, but like just thinking things over. I 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:41.760 just went into it. Woke up one morning and just 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:44.360 started calling with my girlfriend. And it almost like didn't 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:46.400 really give her the chance to be like I don't 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:47.840 want to be not like that. She could, she was 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:51.480 gonna say, but it's like instead of instead of by 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:53.520 avoiding the conversation to be like are you my girlfriend? 0:16:53.600 --> 0:16:54.840 Or do you want to be my girlfriend? That kind 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:57.480 of thing, I was just like, hey, my girlfriend needs 0:16:57.480 --> 0:16:59.040 a glass of water. I'm gonna get her one real quick, 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:00.240 called her back like that kind of thing. And then 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:02.760 she heard me say that she was my girlfriend enough 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:05.480 times and then she was just like his girlfriend. And 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:09.359 here's why that's correct. I think it's fantastic because there's 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:12.679 always weirdness and nobody knows, and now you've told her, 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:14.560 and now she doesn't have to ask, she doesn't have 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:16.640 to wonder, she didn't have to have the conversation. There's 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:19.080 a girl on our staff. I don't want to name her, 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:22.080 but remember she was in the early part of her relationship, 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:24.440 wasn't sure and they were out shopping with some other 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.359 friends and he kind of came up behind her and 0:17:27.480 --> 0:17:30.160 put her shoulder and said, uh, touched her head and said, 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:31.960 is this my girlfriend? Nope, that's not my girlfriend. This 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:33.800 is my Girlfriend's the first time we've ever said the 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.960 word before, and she was like, oh, I'm his girlfriend. 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:39.159 She was happy to hear it, and then she was like, well, 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:41.360 maybe I should still have the conversation. No, you shouldn't 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:45.560 because he doesn't want The guys don't want that conversation. 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:48.880 He's saying that very intentionally, like you did. You said 0:17:48.880 --> 0:17:51.440 it very intentionally, because the girl's always like, well, maybe 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:53.040 he just saying that. Maybe he didn't think about it. No, 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:55.280 the guys thought about it. If he's going to drop 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:57.720 that word, it's very intentional and he has given it thought, 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:00.520 accept it, embrace it, and move forward. And they're obviously 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:02.280 certain circumstances where you can do it, like if you're 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:04.399 only only been on a few dates with someone and 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:06.840 you're not clearly exclusive like in this case, we were 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.760 very clearly exclusive exclusive, and I didn't I hate. I 0:18:09.880 --> 0:18:12.320 hate the arbitrary dating thing. So it's like if you 0:18:12.400 --> 0:18:15.200 go out to a bar, um you can't say I 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:17.040 have a girlfriend. If you guys haven't kind of labeled 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:18.600 yourself with a boyfriend girlfriend yet, so it kind of 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:19.920 gives you the opportunity to be like, this is what 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:22.360