Speaker 1: Hey, welcome to your Second Date podcast, and today we've
Speaker 1: got a brand new awkward Tuesday phone call for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. A lot of
Speaker 1: neighbor drama, a lot of neighbor drama and mom drama
Speaker 1: in this one.
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Speaker 1: I'm sure there'll be people in the comments calling out
Speaker 1: their bad neighbors.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: After that, moms that have students graduating and kim relate fact.
Speaker 3: When I graduated, my mom.
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Speaker 2: I tell you get the money?
Speaker 1: Bruh, Like, no, it's cool, party, bounce into other people's house.
Speaker 4: So we're good.
Speaker 3: Mom.
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Speaker 3: It's your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1: It's brand new. It starts right now.
Speaker 2: There's no one more chill, more zen, more easy going
Speaker 2: than a mom planning a major celebration for her family.
Speaker 2: Are you with me, jeff Yeah, Okay, I'll admit some
Speaker 2: mothers can get a little bit uptight, little neurotic in
Speaker 2: the lead up to something big like this mom. And
Speaker 2: that's exactly the headspace one of our listeners is in
Speaker 2: right now because there's one major thing standing in the
Speaker 2: way of her son's perfect graduation party, and that thing
Speaker 2: is her next door neighbor. Wow, she needs help working
Speaker 2: out a deal without completely burning all her neighborly bridges.
Speaker 2: Oh boy, you're gonna hear it in your brand new
Speaker 2: awkward Tuesday phone call coming out right after this. It's awkward,
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. Remember those old
Speaker 2: nineteen fifties TV shows where everybody lives in a perfect
Speaker 2: little suburban community and all the neighbors are friendly and
Speaker 2: helpful and they let each other borrow cups of sugar
Speaker 2: and wave from their front porch. Turns out the real
Speaker 2: world isn't always quite like that like that a lot
Speaker 2: of the times, it's more like a Cold war standoff
Speaker 2: where you're desperately trying to get your neighbor to stop
Speaker 2: parking their old sailboat on their front lawn and you
Speaker 2: maybe asked them to rotate their creepy garden. No, ma, Armie.
Speaker 2: So they're not staring directly into your bedroom window.
Speaker 1: But here where I'm front, good news, there is a
Speaker 1: bomb shelter you can go to.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, there's like four on your block. So the
Speaker 2: point is it could be super awkward dealing with your neighbors.
Speaker 2: And that's why one of our listeners has come to
Speaker 2: us for a little bit of help today. Her name
Speaker 2: is April, So April, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 3: Hey, how's it Goingay?
Speaker 2: You sound like a friendly type. I am, but apparently
Speaker 2: something is going on with one of your neighbors that's
Speaker 2: caused an issue for you. What's happening?
Speaker 3: Yes, so, Okay, my son is graduating from high school
Speaker 3: and in a couple of weeks we have the graduation party. Okay,
Speaker 3: and my husband and I like, we're super excited, but
Speaker 3: there's one thing I'm not excited about.
Speaker 5: And I'm a.
Speaker 3: Little bit stressed out about this.
Speaker 5: Okay. We like our house to look really nice.
Speaker 3: We like to keep everything super queen. Lawn is nice
Speaker 3: and tidy, the house is painted nice, like, everything looks great.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: And there is a neighbor our next door to us
Speaker 3: that has not mowed his lawn for I mean, it
Speaker 3: looks like it's been years and it looks awful, and
Speaker 3: I'm just kind of embarrassed.
Speaker 1: You're embarrassed by your neighbor.
Speaker 4: You obviously don't have an ho a right or they
Speaker 4: would have made him cut.
Speaker 1: I love a messy neighbor because it makes me look
Speaker 1: so put together. I mean, honestly, the more rusted out
Speaker 1: cars you have in your front lawn, the more it
Speaker 1: looks like I am top notch.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it makes the whole neighborhood like a little worse.
Speaker 2: It makes people coming over being like, oh God, like
Speaker 2: she bought a house here is I just.
Speaker 3: Think that you're looking at this.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of positive April.
Speaker 2: Why does it bother you so much?
Speaker 3: The thing is is it just makes the whole neighborhood
Speaker 3: like that, and it just is a reflection on my neighborhood,
Speaker 3: which I am a part of.
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe you should start the h Okay, it sound
Speaker 1: like you sound like an h oo a president for sure.
Speaker 5: A couple of things that have happened.
Speaker 3: So I'm a little bit nervous to ask him because
Speaker 3: there was a time a couple of years ago when
Speaker 3: he asked me if I could trim one of my
Speaker 3: trees so that he could have a better view, okay,
Speaker 3: And I was really slow to get around to it.
Speaker 3: I eventually did get around to it, but it was
Speaker 3: definitely not a priority of mine. So I'm just worried
Speaker 3: that he's going to remember that and be like, I'm
Speaker 3: not going to mow my lawn anytime soon, or I'm
Speaker 3: going to wait until the day before or something. I'm
Speaker 3: just it's really stressing me out. And I'm looking back,
Speaker 3: I should have definitely gotten to that earlier. I didn't think. Okay,
Speaker 3: this is come full circle.
Speaker 1: So it sounds like you guys don't have a real
Speaker 1: close relationship you and this neighbor.
Speaker 3: No, he's nice, he's fine, he's we don't talk or
Speaker 3: get together. So I just I'm a little bit worried
Speaker 3: about asking him.
Speaker 5: And I mean, so you.
Speaker 2: Haven't even like reached out to him at all about this.
Speaker 2: You haven't texted him or anything regarding his No.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you don't know. Maybe there's something going on
Speaker 1: for why he can't mow the lawn. Maybe the easiest
Speaker 1: solution is just to offer to do it yourself.
Speaker 3: Did your son go do it?
Speaker 4: They hired someone, but the soun's way better.
Speaker 1: Like he got to be dealing with a sickness, or
Speaker 1: he could be out of town. Like this could be
Speaker 1: a lot of different reasons. Why he's a.
Speaker 3: Young, healthy guy. He's he's young and healthy.
Speaker 4: Okay, we're imagining like an old guy.
Speaker 3: I mean I see him outside all the time. You know,
Speaker 3: he works on his car and he like he works out,
Speaker 3: and Okay, I just I am not sure what the
Speaker 3: deal is with this lawn, like why he doesn't keep
Speaker 3: it up.
Speaker 2: I see, I mean because the thing is, like, normally
Speaker 2: in this segment we would help people with like their
Speaker 2: relationship issues, but this is a really relatable problem for
Speaker 2: a lot of people who have one neighbor who they'd
Speaker 2: like to ask to like address something at their house.
Speaker 2: But it's uncomfortable to ask them to do.
Speaker 3: That, right, because it's not your house and not your business.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, it's like it feels a little judge to
Speaker 1: be worried about the neighbor's lawn.
Speaker 4: Neighbors can be judgy. My neighbor tried to fight me
Speaker 4: because I was too loud one night, remember was with
Speaker 4: a girl.
Speaker 2: So with your awkward call here, you're looking for advice
Speaker 2: on how to call your nameabor and politely get him
Speaker 2: to agree to fix up the mess that he's made
Speaker 2: of his house.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I would be insulted honestly like that.
Speaker 1: I think that's probably what you're worried about, right, It's
Speaker 1: like insulting him and saying that he's not taking good
Speaker 1: care of him some things.
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm I think he should be
Speaker 3: cleaning everything up. Like, so I'm not worried about me
Speaker 3: being insulting. I mean, I just want him to do it.
Speaker 4: You should want a relationship with your neighbor.
Speaker 2: They don't seem to talk very much at all.
Speaker 4: And if he's going to do something that you'd like
Speaker 4: him to do, you may want to focus on kindness
Speaker 4: or you know, like positivity.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, and I am I'm going to do that.
Speaker 3: You're going to host a big party next door and
Speaker 3: if i'd watch because yeah, and I mean I I
Speaker 3: have I have signed up all over that he's graduating.
Speaker 5: So it's like.
Speaker 1: It's probably something that doesn't embarrass him, right, Like, you're okay, but.
Speaker 2: Remember they have that. They already have the animosity built
Speaker 2: up between them from when he asked her to do
Speaker 2: a favor. Yeah, and she just ignored it for months.
Speaker 4: If she just made a giant sign that says don't
Speaker 4: look at this lawn.
Speaker 2: Yeah, with the other sign. They're looking for advice, and
Speaker 2: you said you are willing to actually doing it yourself
Speaker 2: or having your son do it for him. Yes, that's
Speaker 2: a starting point at least, so we can come back.
Speaker 2: We'll try and think of some advice to give you
Speaker 2: and let you call your neighbor and force him to
Speaker 2: clean up his dirty, disgusting front lawn. We'll do it
Speaker 2: more polite when we do it with your awkward Tuesday
Speaker 2: phone call right after this, thank you. Hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 5: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 2: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. How do you get your
Speaker 2: neighbor to agree to make changes that you want to
Speaker 2: their house? Yes, that is a fun pretty normal because
Speaker 2: a big party is happening for our listener, April, because
Speaker 2: her son is having a graduation from his high school.
Speaker 2: He's graduating on his very first try. Oh Man, good
Speaker 2: for him. Je It's okay, but there's going to be
Speaker 2: at least fifty people at this party. They're going to
Speaker 2: be parking all down the street. And the problem is
Speaker 2: her next door neighbor's front lawn is a total eye sore,
Speaker 2: so she needs him to cut it clean it up
Speaker 2: in the next forty eight hours. And it's turned to
Speaker 2: us for advice on how to have that awkward conversation politely.
Speaker 1: I never knew someone who wanted an HOA before that
Speaker 1: she does.
Speaker 2: But since she doesn't, we're the closest thing she has broke.
Speaker 2: What's your advice to her before she calls this guy.
Speaker 5: I think it's.
Speaker 1: Pretty easy, April. I think that what you have to
Speaker 1: do is you have to invite him to the graduation
Speaker 1: party over.
Speaker 2: What do you think of that, April?
Speaker 3: I don't think that's a good idea. And he's not
Speaker 3: part of our friend group. I could make him a
Speaker 3: plate of food and bring it over.
Speaker 2: He's your neighbor.
Speaker 1: He doesn't have to be part of the friend group.
Speaker 3: He's your neighbor.
Speaker 1: Invite him over, and if he's invested in the party,
Speaker 1: then he's more likely to help you out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it sounds like they're just acquaintances, Like we're
Speaker 2: not friends.
Speaker 1: How do you become friends if you don't start somewhere?
Speaker 3: How do you know that I want friends? Yeah?
Speaker 2: And how do we know that this neighbor isn't going
Speaker 2: to get upset when he finds out the Sun has
Speaker 2: graduated high school. We don't know if he's graduated. It
Speaker 2: might hurt his feelings, right, Remember? Okay, so Brooke wants
Speaker 2: to education shame your neighbor. I don't know if that's great.
Speaker 1: Invite him over.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's over one. Okay, Jose, what.
Speaker 4: Do you think do something that I like to call
Speaker 4: a neighbor favor for favor.
Speaker 2: No, Jeff, not those favorites. Those could work.
Speaker 1: She said he was young.
Speaker 2: And what's your advice, jose Focus.
Speaker 4: You tell him that you have a favor to ask him,
Speaker 4: and if he says yes, then you will do any
Speaker 4: favor that he would like from you within reason.
Speaker 2: Okay, right, you get like a pre prom What do
Speaker 2: you think about that, April, I'll mow your lawn if
Speaker 2: you mowed mine.
Speaker 3: I like that neighbor favor for what is it.
Speaker 4: Called neighbor favor for favor? Trademark patent pending.
Speaker 2: Somebody told me you're.
Speaker 3: Not gonna like whatever favorite he asks.
Speaker 2: He doesn't even want to make reason. He would even
Speaker 2: come to the party.
Speaker 1: You know, you can't even invite into your house.
Speaker 2: Brook, You just got owned in your advice by I win.
Speaker 2: Education doesn't always win, brother, Okay, Brook, just be quiet.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yes, I'm actually a good neighbor.
Speaker 2: Okay, you need to swallow your pride right.
Speaker 4: Now, marinate in that bird own you.
Speaker 2: You're reflecting poorly on our entire show. So let's call
Speaker 2: this this guy.
Speaker 1: I'm growing my grass out in protests.
Speaker 2: Okay, you already do we know? Okay, here we go.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna die your neighbor for you. What's his name,
Speaker 2: by the way, April, Matt. Okay, we're calling him right now.
Speaker 2: We'll step in if we feel like you need a
Speaker 2: little help. But you got this all right, gotcha? Okay,
Speaker 2: good luck?
Speaker 5: Boo.
Speaker 1: Hi Matt.
Speaker 3: This is April, your neighbor right next door. How are you?
Speaker 5: I'm doing well, what's going on? What's what's up? What's
Speaker 5: the call? Oh?
Speaker 3: I mean I I just you know, checking in and
Speaker 3: haven't seen you out doing much lately, So I just
Speaker 3: concerned and stuff.
Speaker 5: And you're calling for welfare check on your.
Speaker 3: System, I mean, not not not so much on you,
Speaker 3: but more on your lawn. So, I mean I was
Speaker 3: just curious, like, so, well.
Speaker 5: Now, what did you just say about my wom Well.
Speaker 3: We noticed your lawn has been very overgrown, and I
Speaker 3: think it's overgrown. Huh yeah, yeah, I mean just just
Speaker 3: it's not super bad, but it just doesn't look like
Speaker 3: it's been a mode for a really long time.
Speaker 5: Two weeks ago. What's wrong with you?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 5: Did you? It's it's just really overgrown with this Yeah,
Speaker 5: you keep saying it's overgrown. But it's not.
Speaker 3: Well, I mean, if you look at it compared to
Speaker 3: any other other houses in the neighborhood, it's very different.
Speaker 5: You know, just get to the point, what do you need?
Speaker 3: Well, just hoping that you know that you would be
Speaker 3: able to kind of get it mode, because I have
Speaker 3: a big graduation party coming up for my son and
Speaker 3: all right, you know, I.
Speaker 5: Can do anything. I can get to it in a
Speaker 5: couple of weeks.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, so the graduation party is in like three days.
Speaker 5: So what I seem to remember a favor that I
Speaker 5: asked of you a while back, and it took me
Speaker 5: about a year to do it. Do you remember that
Speaker 5: branch I asked you to cut?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: And I am so sorry about that. I am so sorry.
Speaker 3: That was absolutely yeah. I mean just so you know,
Speaker 3: like if you would have had a party or something happening,
Speaker 3: I absolutely would have done it right away.
Speaker 5: That's all I need to say. I got a freaking
Speaker 5: party going on over here for you to cut a branch, Yeah,
Speaker 5: oh yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3: If it was something that was like pressing, of course,
Speaker 3: of course I would, you know, And like if there's
Speaker 3: any favor, like what neighbor favor for a favor if
Speaker 3: you have something that you need done.
Speaker 5: I will help you.
Speaker 3: Like but then reason of course, like if you need.
Speaker 5: What did you just say, a neighbor favor for a fit? What?
Speaker 3: Yeah, neighbor favor for a favor?
Speaker 5: You know what I mean? Could we could start right
Speaker 5: now with an apology for the branch? Okay?
Speaker 3: And I said I was sorry, you know I did
Speaker 3: say it again. I'm sorry. I'm very sorry. I am
Speaker 3: It's true. I should have gotten to that earlier, and
Speaker 3: in the future that will be different.
Speaker 5: All right, Well it was pretty good, I guess. I
Speaker 5: guess it can wear something out.
Speaker 3: Oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 5: Well, what I'm thinking is maybe if you, you know,
Speaker 5: if you guys want to come over cut my lawn
Speaker 5: for like six months or so, we can work something
Speaker 5: like that out.
Speaker 3: Wait, you want us to come and cut your lawn
Speaker 3: for six months?
Speaker 5: Well, doesn't have to be all of you, just one
Speaker 5: of you.
Speaker 3: Oh, you're taking advantage of the situation here. This is
Speaker 3: kind of silly, or I mean, I said, within a reason.
Speaker 5: Well, maybe we just talked it over your graduation party
Speaker 5: after you invite me to it.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, oh my god.
Speaker 3: What the hell is that is not I don't think
Speaker 3: that that's gonna happen. I can bring you over a plate.
Speaker 5: She's going with this, but yeah, wait, what is what
Speaker 5: is going on?
Speaker 2: Hey? What's up, Matt. You're on a radio show right
Speaker 2: now called Broke and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 1: We're just handling neighbor relationships, right yeah.
Speaker 5: Wait a month I'm on the radio.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a second movie called Awkward Tuesday phone Call,
Speaker 2: and your neighbor April reached out to us for help
Speaker 2: regarding the whole lawn situation.
Speaker 5: You've been listening to this whole time.
Speaker 1: That's aggressive fighting.
Speaker 4: I've heard it a long time, bro six months.
Speaker 2: Come on, man, you don't got to do that to her.
Speaker 3: I'm kind on his side.
Speaker 5: I was just kidding.
Speaker 4: Oh is that you Now you're on the radio and
Speaker 4: there's like millions of people listening.
Speaker 5: No, no, no, that's just my sense of humor. I
Speaker 5: was joking the whole time.
Speaker 2: One of those like angry I'm gonna yell at you
Speaker 2: sense of humor.
Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly, Come one.
Speaker 2: Did you hear that he was joking with you the
Speaker 2: whole time?
Speaker 3: I'm so earlieved he he's joking, tonnyhow I didn't believe
Speaker 3: that before.
Speaker 5: I can't.
Speaker 2: I think she's being sarcastic. I think it's sarcastic. Weird.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you guys are not communicating well in your neighborhood.
Speaker 3: No, I think you're absolutely right. I think that at
Speaker 3: the end of the day, I do want to have
Speaker 3: good neighbors. I wish we had an hoa, but we don't.
Speaker 3: I can have my son come over and mololwan if
Speaker 3: he needs that. It's totally fine for.
Speaker 4: Six months your son.
Speaker 3: No, No, for what like one time?
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, so Matt, you work here.
Speaker 5: No, I was kidding that whole time. Don't even worry
Speaker 5: about it. I'll do it today. I'll take care of it.
Speaker 2: Wait now, I mean don't do it. He didn't know
Speaker 2: he was on the radio. Give him a break. Okay,
Speaker 2: this is his radio personality is compensating. What about the
Speaker 2: invite to the party.
Speaker 1: I actually think you should go to the party.
Speaker 2: I thought that from the very beginning that would be
Speaker 2: all you're.
Speaker 3: A And he said he was kidding about everything, even
Speaker 3: coming over.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I heard that. You said you'd make me a
Speaker 5: food plate. I will take that. I would love to
Speaker 5: bring you a food plate.
Speaker 3: Totally fine, looking up.
Speaker 2: This is good neighborly compromise, good communication. All we wanted
Speaker 2: to get out of this was a mode lawn. And
Speaker 2: it sounds like now your son doesn't even have to
Speaker 2: do it for him, He's gonna do.
Speaker 5: It in shand exactly.
Speaker 3: It's perfect, smallest.
Speaker 4: Plate ever made for.
Speaker 1: Here's one kernel of corn and a single potato from
Speaker 1: the salad.
Speaker 2: Noodles. So generous.
Speaker 5: By the way, I'm gluten free, so just be cool
Speaker 5: about that.
Speaker 2: That's fair.
Speaker 3: It's freaking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: And look at that. We're helping neighbors come together, one
Speaker 2: conversation at a time.
Speaker 1: I am so glad I don't live in that neighborhood.
Speaker 2: Yes, I was like, I hated it on the other
Speaker 2: side of her house. You don't like all the passive
Speaker 2: aggressive threats.
Speaker 1: I hated it all, And like, why she didn't just
Speaker 1: talk to you with person? I don't understand that with people.
Speaker 4: This is how petty I noticed they both were, was
Speaker 4: that she is telling him to cut his lawn. He
Speaker 4: cut it two weeks ago, I was imagining, and he
Speaker 4: does like a slightly.
Speaker 1: Long your ankle. He is still hanging onto that brand
Speaker 1: so hard that branch upset him so much.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, but the bottom line is we stepped in and
Speaker 2: we fixed it. Okay, everything is better now. So if
Speaker 2: there's anybody out there who's been stealing from their neighbor
Speaker 2: taking secret pictures of their able through a bathroom window
Speaker 2: that's in that realm, we can help you. I want
Speaker 2: you to reach out to us. After you listen to
Speaker 2: all of the other awkward calls that we have up
Speaker 2: on our YouTube at Brook and Jeffrey, check those out,
Speaker 2: and then send us those pics that you took.
Speaker 3: We were going to get to the picture.
Speaker 2: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.