1 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:03,360 Speaker 1: Hey, guys. 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:06,160 Speaker 2: As you know, season four of Chiegis and Chill is 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:09,120 Speaker 2: officially over, but there are still some things I want 4 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:10,000 Speaker 2: to talk to you about. 5 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:11,680 Speaker 1: That's why over the next. 6 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 2: Few weeks, we'll be revisiting some of my favorite episodes 7 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 2: over the last four seasons. I'll be sharing where I 8 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 2: am now versus where I was when I recorded the episode, 9 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 2: and also talk about how I feel today compared to 10 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:24,639 Speaker 2: how I felt then. I want you to think of 11 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 2: these episodes as a countdown to something completely new, something 12 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 2: coming very soon. 13 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 1: Be excited. 14 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:41,560 Speaker 2: So let's do this, shall we? Hello, my beautiful listeners. Okay, 15 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 2: so this week, I want to revisit the episode called 16 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 2: Cheating and Dealing with Betrayal. This is another episode from 17 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 2: season one. In this episode, I shared a lot of 18 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,159 Speaker 2: personal information with you, guys. I opened up about the 19 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 2: times I've been cheated on and about the time I 20 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 2: cheated on my partner, and now that I think about it, 21 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 2: I don't regret talking about that because I always say this, guys. 22 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 2: In order to help people change their lives, or give 23 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 2: them hope, or inspire them empower them, you have to 24 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 2: be honest about your story. So I'm not ashamed I'm 25 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:18,319 Speaker 2: not happy you're proud of doing that, but I was younger. 26 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 2: I learned from it and we're growing from it. And 27 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 2: another thing I said in the episode is that if 28 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 2: your partner cheats on you, it doesn't mean your relationship 29 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 2: is necessarily over. But I also said that if a 30 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 2: media cheats on me, I would have to let go 31 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 2: of the relationship. So let's talk about how I'm feeling 32 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 2: about this statement today. I still feel the same. I've grown, 33 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:46,959 Speaker 2: I've learned, I've been cheated on again. I cheated. Not 34 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 2: something I'm proud of, but I share it because I 35 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 2: think it's important to be honest, and I stand on that. 36 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 2: I don't think my heart would be able to take 37 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 2: something like that from Emilio, just because I'm such a 38 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:10,079 Speaker 2: different person now and it would hurt me to let go. 39 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 2: But I know that if I stayed in the relationship, 40 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 2: it would just torment me and I would torment him, 41 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:24,799 Speaker 2: and I just don't. I don't want to do that 42 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 2: to myself or do that to him, and I God, 43 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:30,519 Speaker 2: please Lord, I ask you for it to never happen. 44 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 2: He has also cheated, and he you know, He's also 45 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 2: expressed here on the podcast that he was in relationships 46 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 2: and he wasn't the nicest and I think we both 47 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 2: learned from our past and now we're ready to just 48 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 2: be the best versions of ourselves for ourselves but also 49 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:48,919 Speaker 2: for each other. 50 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 1: I don't want to even think about. 51 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 2: That, but yeah, and I mean, just to be clear, guys, 52 00:02:56,720 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 2: Emilio and I are good. None of that is happening 53 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 2: hopefully ever. AnyWho, Guys, I hope you enjoyed listening to 54 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 2: my update on cheating and dealing with betrayal, and I 55 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:13,399 Speaker 2: hope you tune into the rest of the episode. Yes, 56 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 2: I've been cheated on, but I also have cheated before you, guys, 57 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 2: and it's something that I'm not proud of, and it 58 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:25,080 Speaker 2: definitely ruined the relationship. If I look back now, everything 59 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:29,040 Speaker 2: that I've learned, how I've matured, There's absolutely no way 60 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 2: on earth that I would deal with half of the 61 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 2: things I dealt with in that relationship. 62 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 1: I'm not going to. 63 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 2: Tell you that if your partner cheated or you're cheated, 64 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 2: the relationship is broken forever. It's going to take a 65 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 2: lot of work, though, and you have to forgive and 66 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 2: try to forget. Hello everyone, Happy Monday. Today is actually 67 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 2: the last Monday in the month of June, and that 68 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 2: means we're pretty much halfway through the year. I hope 69 00:03:57,040 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 2: you're all doing great and counting your blessings if you 70 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:02,520 Speaker 2: didn't know, that's something I do every single morning, and 71 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 2: I recommend you guys do it too. We have a 72 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 2: pretty interesting episode in store for you today. 73 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 1: It's all about. 74 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 2: Cheating in relationships. So let's get into it and do 75 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:21,279 Speaker 2: the damn thing. This is Cheeky's and chill all right, guys, 76 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 2: So let's talk about cheating. It's obviously a major form 77 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 2: of betrayal. When you cheat on someone you supposedly care about, 78 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,919 Speaker 2: you're violating their trust. I don't know if you guys know, 79 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 2: but I've been cheated on in the past. It's something 80 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:35,839 Speaker 2: I've talked about briefly in a recent interview, and I 81 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 2: want to talk about it more here on my podcast 82 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 2: because this is where I feel safe. So wow. Like 83 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 2: I said, cheating is definitely a form of betrayal. It 84 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:51,599 Speaker 2: is disrespectful. Obviously. There are people that feel that texting 85 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 2: someone that you shouldn't be texting is cheating. 86 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:55,840 Speaker 1: Flirting is cheating. 87 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 2: Basically, anything that you wouldn't want your partner to do 88 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 2: you should not be doing. And I completely agree with that. 89 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 2: And I'm going to start off by first saying that, yes, 90 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 2: I've been cheated on, but I also have cheated before 91 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 2: you guys, and it's something that I'm not proud of. 92 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:17,360 Speaker 2: I was young, and it definitely ruined the relationship. 93 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:18,719 Speaker 1: So let me go back. 94 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 2: So, the first time I was cheated on that I 95 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:23,520 Speaker 2: knew of, that I found out was with my very 96 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:28,560 Speaker 2: first boyfriend, my formal boyfriend, the one that I think 97 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 2: I talked about a little bit here on one of 98 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 2: the episodes. I was basically nineteen when I met him. 99 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 2: We lasted like four years. We were engaged. We were 100 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 2: going to get married in December, I believe of like 101 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:46,480 Speaker 2: two thousand and six. Oh my gosh, yeah, it was December, 102 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 2: December sixteenth, two thousand and six, I remember precisely. 103 00:05:51,839 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 1: So a lot happened. I'm telling you. 104 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:55,600 Speaker 2: I was young, I was very attached to my siblings, 105 00:05:55,880 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 2: I was attached to my mom. I was afraid of marriage. Basically, 106 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:02,839 Speaker 2: I woke up one day and I said, I don't 107 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 2: want to get married. I told him on a Wednesday, 108 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 2: I'll never forget. A month before getting married, we had 109 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 2: the location we had the honeymoon. I was getting my 110 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 2: dress made and I just woke up one day and 111 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 2: I said, I can't marry you, like I'm not ready. 112 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 2: I still want to be with you, but I'm not 113 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:20,720 Speaker 2: ready to get married. Of course, he was devastated, he 114 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 2: was heartbroken. He was just like, how can you do 115 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 2: this to me? Which I completely understand. I was just afraid. 116 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 2: I was afraid to leave the nest. I was afraid 117 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 2: of not being there for my siblings, for my mom. 118 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 2: And although my mom loved him and said he can 119 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 2: move in with us, obviously he didn't want that. 120 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: He's like, no, we need to have our own home. 121 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:40,680 Speaker 2: But I was just very attached, and that I think 122 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 2: was the first big thing in our relationship. 123 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:45,000 Speaker 1: He started acting. 124 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:49,279 Speaker 2: Different, and of course I got attention from someone else 125 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 2: and I kissed him. Here's the thing. He never found 126 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 2: out about that. But I don't know if he listens 127 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 2: to this podcast. Maybe his because I'm really cool with 128 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 2: his wife. Now they have three boys, he's happily married. 129 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 2: I'm very happy for him. Her and I are cool, 130 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 2: so I'm sure she listens to it. I think, so 131 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,279 Speaker 2: now he's going to know, but he doesn't know, and 132 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 2: the reason I'm saying is because I don't want to 133 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 2: talk about being cheated on and not first saying that 134 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 2: I have also felt in this area. And anyways, I 135 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 2: got some attention. He was acting weird, as he should 136 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 2: because I had just broken his heart and I just 137 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 2: canceled our engagement, our wedding. I called it off, and 138 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 2: he just wasn't being the same. And I got attention 139 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 2: from someone. I went out to like a nightclub with 140 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 2: my friends, and he was a very cute guy. 141 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 1: He was a lot. 142 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 2: Older than me, a lot older than him, and I 143 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 2: don't know, I just I liked him. There was something 144 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 2: about him. He flirted with me and he gave me 145 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 2: some attention. We kissed and nothing went further than that, 146 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 2: but we did kiss, and that's still cheating you guys, 147 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 2: even flirting, I was wrong, And again he didn't find out. 148 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 2: But then he continued to act weird, and I found 149 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 2: out that he had also gone out and met this 150 00:07:57,320 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 2: girl at like I think I was working or something. 151 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 2: I remember exactly why. I wasn't with him that night, 152 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 2: but I didn't go and he went out and there 153 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 2: was a very pretty girl. She had black hair with 154 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 2: green eyes, and I think I looked through his phone 155 00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 2: or something and he was texting this Girl'll never forget 156 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 2: because we were baptizing his sister's son, who's still my godson. 157 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 2: I love their family very much, and he was like 158 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 2: on his phone, and I'm like, he's been so weird, 159 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 2: like ever since we called off the engagement. He was 160 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 2: acting very, very different, and he was just like not 161 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:34,080 Speaker 2: like it seemed like at all into me. I felt 162 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:36,559 Speaker 2: like he was a little disgusted. He was just very disappointed. 163 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:38,719 Speaker 2: But then I never will forget that he was just 164 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 2: on his phone the entire time at the party, like 165 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:43,200 Speaker 2: the family was there, everything, and he was just in 166 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:45,719 Speaker 2: a corner texting. So I looked through his phone and 167 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 2: sure enough, he was talking to a girl, and I 168 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 2: got her number, and of course I called her and 169 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 2: I spoke to her, and I was devastated. Mind you, 170 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:55,959 Speaker 2: I knew what I had done, but we were, I guess, 171 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 2: doing the same thing at the same time, which means 172 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 2: a relationship was over obviously, and he had just met her, 173 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 2: I think, like two weeks ago, and she told me, 174 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 2: oh my god, I had no idea he had a girlfriend. 175 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 2: He told me he was single. He told me that 176 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 2: he had just broken up with his girlfriend. But the 177 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 2: thing is, her friend, I guess knew who he was, 178 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 2: had noticed him from, like I don't know where, but 179 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 2: this friend of hers knew that he worked with my 180 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 2: mom and that he was my boyfriend. So I think 181 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 2: she knew. I don't know if she was lying, but lacosay, 182 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 2: escape they were talking, she said that they had only kissed, 183 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:31,440 Speaker 2: they hadn't had sex. They had only been two weeks 184 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:34,320 Speaker 2: that they had been talking, and apparently he's like, I 185 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:36,680 Speaker 2: could see myself marrying you, I could see myself having 186 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 2: kids with you, this and this and that, and then 187 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:42,560 Speaker 2: she was at first really cool when I spoke to her, 188 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 2: and then she became a bitch. I was like, what 189 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 2: the hell? Of course I was devastated. Of course, I 190 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 2: told him off. I was just like, how could you 191 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 2: do this to me? 192 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:55,559 Speaker 1: This entire time? 193 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 2: You guys, I was being hypocrite because I knew what 194 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 2: I had done. Obviously I didn't tell him, but of 195 00:10:02,040 --> 00:10:04,440 Speaker 2: course either way, I was hurt. I was just like, 196 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 2: I can't believe you do this to me. I never 197 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:08,680 Speaker 2: in a million years thought that he would do that 198 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 2: to me. He bought her flowers he took her in 199 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 2: our car. She's like, oh, yeah, I was in his 200 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:16,080 Speaker 2: car and his BMW and your guys' initials are on 201 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 2: the headrest, and I'm like, oh my gosh, she's not lying. 202 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:22,439 Speaker 2: So she told me all these details. I was obsessed 203 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 2: with her. She was a beautiful girl like o Rosberes 204 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:29,840 Speaker 2: Belo Negro, like completely different from me. I have green eyes, 205 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 2: but they're a little bit like hers were like green green. 206 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:33,319 Speaker 2: So I was just like obsessed. I was like, oh 207 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,719 Speaker 2: my god. So of course we broke up for a 208 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:39,520 Speaker 2: little bit. He begged me and I just it was 209 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 2: never the same. It was never the same. The relationship 210 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 2: was over when him and I. I think him and 211 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,200 Speaker 2: I were actually I think I had just done the 212 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 2: same thing, like maybe like a month before, you know 213 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:51,480 Speaker 2: what I mean. So it's like we were both like, 214 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:54,199 Speaker 2: I think, just trying to make it work because we 215 00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:56,720 Speaker 2: were comfortable, but I guess it was just over. 216 00:10:57,640 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 1: Anyways. 217 00:10:58,160 --> 00:11:02,439 Speaker 2: I forgave him, and I told myself, I'm going to 218 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 2: make him fall in love with me even more and 219 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 2: I'm going to let him go when I'm ready. And 220 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:09,640 Speaker 2: that's not the right thing, but I'm I was younger 221 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 2: and I'm admitting to it because I've learned so much 222 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 2: from that situation that I feel like I ruined something good. 223 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:18,960 Speaker 2: And I've told you guys this before. He was a 224 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:21,200 Speaker 2: really great guy. He is a great guy. I love 225 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 2: his family. I still have communication with Michael Madre. Her 226 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 2: little boy. That's not a little boy anymore. He's like 227 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 2: sixteen years old now. And you know, I learned from 228 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 2: that situation. It a'm maze golicia'm maza dsid. Okay, you 229 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 2: cheated on me. I'm going to make you fall in 230 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 2: love with me, and then I'm going to leave you. 231 00:11:37,240 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 2: I never felt the same after that, and I basically 232 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 2: broke up with him. I think we lasted maybe like 233 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 2: a couple months. It just didn't work out because it 234 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:50,080 Speaker 2: wasn't the same, and quite frankly, I was having feelings 235 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 2: for this other person. I had stopped talking to him 236 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 2: after I was like, no, this is it right. But 237 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 2: then once we broke up, him and I started talking again. 238 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 2: He was no good for me, that other dude at all. 239 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 2: I met him at a club. Okay, he was like 240 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:03,959 Speaker 2: a bouncer at a club. It's just it was not good. 241 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 2: I needed to learn my lesson so I feel like 242 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 2: I lost something good and it was because I was young, 243 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 2: because I was too attached to my family, and I'll 244 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 2: never forget he told me, you give so much for 245 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 2: your family that one day. This is what he said, 246 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 2: word for word he said, and I was like, no, 247 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 2: that's never going to happen, Like I'm going to always 248 00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 2: be there for my mom, always going to be there 249 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:30,720 Speaker 2: for my siblings. And basically that relationship ended him and 250 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 2: I tried maybe like a couple of years after and 251 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:36,160 Speaker 2: it just didn't work. It's just once you break that 252 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 2: glass and that trust you, guys, just it's never the same. 253 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 2: And now he's happy and everything happens for a reason, 254 00:12:42,360 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 2: and I'm happy for him. And I learned myself that 255 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:47,680 Speaker 2: I don't ever want to treat someone that way because 256 00:12:48,559 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 2: I was so focused on my siblings, on my mom, 257 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:55,679 Speaker 2: that I was not giving my relationship the place that 258 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:59,040 Speaker 2: it required, the place that it deserved. And I learned 259 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:01,719 Speaker 2: because cause there were times on him and I were 260 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 2: on our way to a date and we had things 261 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:04,839 Speaker 2: planned and my mom would call me or one of 262 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:06,840 Speaker 2: the kids, and I would just like drop it just 263 00:13:06,880 --> 00:13:09,640 Speaker 2: to go, you know, to go help my mom or whatever, 264 00:13:10,160 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 2: and because I felt for a long time that's what 265 00:13:11,960 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 2: I had to do, you know what I mean. But 266 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 2: I also always left him like well where do I stand? 267 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:17,560 Speaker 1: You know? 268 00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 2: And he was a good guy, he was loving to me, 269 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:24,200 Speaker 2: he was respectful. I was just afraid, and I also 270 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 2: did things that I think karma came back and bit 271 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 2: me in the ass. So that's what happened with the 272 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 2: first time I found out that they cheated on me, 273 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 2: and that was tough. And from there I was like, Okay, 274 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:40,800 Speaker 2: I'm going to make sure that in every relationship I am, 275 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 2: if we break up, it's going to be because of them, 276 00:13:44,280 --> 00:13:46,400 Speaker 2: not because of me. I'm going to do what I 277 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:48,960 Speaker 2: can and I'm going to be good and I'm going 278 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:56,360 Speaker 2: to be respectful. And then I met someone else and 279 00:13:56,720 --> 00:14:07,800 Speaker 2: he also cheated on me. So a few years go by, 280 00:14:08,480 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 2: I meet someone else. I was with him for about 281 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,959 Speaker 2: four years and a half. I was determined to make 282 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:18,160 Speaker 2: the relationship work for many, many, many reasons. If you 283 00:14:18,200 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 2: guys want to know, you guys can read both of 284 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:24,120 Speaker 2: my books. I mention it in perdon Or Forgiveness and 285 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 2: in Unstoppable. So I talk about a little bit more 286 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:28,600 Speaker 2: in Debt, but Anyways, I was determined to make that 287 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:31,400 Speaker 2: relationship work. I was going to be the best girlfriend ever. 288 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:35,040 Speaker 2: I was not going to cheat. I was afraid of 289 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 2: what could come around and bite me in the ass. 290 00:14:37,640 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 2: Like I had ruined that first relationship. I feel like 291 00:14:40,280 --> 00:14:42,600 Speaker 2: I ruined it. Anyways, he also did his thing. You know, 292 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:45,200 Speaker 2: it wasn't right what he did, but I take responsibility 293 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:47,000 Speaker 2: for my part. And I was also afraid of him. 294 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:49,200 Speaker 2: I thought, oh my gosh, this guy. I don't know 295 00:14:49,200 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 2: what he could do, you know what I mean. So 296 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:54,120 Speaker 2: I was faithful. I gave my everything to the relationship. 297 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 2: I wanted it to work because my mom did not 298 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 2: approve of that relationship from the beginning, because he had 299 00:14:58,120 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 2: five kids, because he had to baby mama, so on 300 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 2: and so forth. And I was determined. I was like, 301 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:06,240 Speaker 2: I'm going to make this relationship work. And it did 302 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 2: for a little while. It was a very odd relationship. 303 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:12,640 Speaker 2: If I look back now, everything that I've learned and 304 00:15:12,680 --> 00:15:15,720 Speaker 2: now that how I've matured and I've grown as a woman, 305 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 2: there's absolutely no way on earth that I would deal 306 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:21,000 Speaker 2: with half of the things I dealt with in that 307 00:15:21,040 --> 00:15:21,920 Speaker 2: relationship now. 308 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,280 Speaker 1: But I was young and to be honest. 309 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 2: He helped me grow up in every way, so I'm 310 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:29,760 Speaker 2: grateful he helped me grow up as a woman, as 311 00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:31,680 Speaker 2: an artist. He taught me a lot of the business. 312 00:15:32,160 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 2: He helped me a lot with Johnny, like a lot. 313 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 2: So I'm grateful. He has his business, he has his 314 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 2: record label. And back then he had what you would 315 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:47,360 Speaker 2: call Dell Models, and there was just a bunch of 316 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 2: these girls, hot girls you know that would you know, 317 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 2: take pictures with the merchandise, with the tanga, the whole thing. 318 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 2: I knew a few of them. I was cool, I 319 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:56,280 Speaker 2: was cordial with them. They were nice to me. They 320 00:15:56,320 --> 00:15:59,160 Speaker 2: knew who I was, they knew I was his girl, 321 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 2: and basically he cheated on me with one of them. 322 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:03,800 Speaker 1: Again. 323 00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 2: I had his passcode to his phone. He gave it 324 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 2: to me, like ilo il pass code. He said, here, 325 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:12,080 Speaker 2: here's the pass code. And I never really looked into 326 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:14,080 Speaker 2: the phone because I felt like, if he's giving it 327 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:17,840 Speaker 2: to me by himself without me asking, then he's probably 328 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 2: not doing anything right. So I would never look at 329 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 2: his phone, not even when he was asleep or anything like. 330 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 2: I just I thought, oh my god, he gave me 331 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 2: his pass code. How nice he has mine? Like there's 332 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 2: nothing to hide. Anyways, we were at his office one 333 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:34,480 Speaker 2: day and he had musicos there and a few friends 334 00:16:34,520 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 2: and some of his friend's girlfriends. We were all sitting 335 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:40,160 Speaker 2: together and he left his phone on the table and 336 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:43,320 Speaker 2: I got curious. He was drunk, and I just got 337 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:45,720 Speaker 2: the phone. I picked it up. This was I want 338 00:16:45,760 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 2: to say, two years into the relationship. And I picked 339 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 2: up the phone and I put in the past code 340 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 2: and I just looked and then there was like an 341 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:55,320 Speaker 2: email that I was like, oh what, I wonder why 342 00:16:55,480 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 2: this email's not registered? 343 00:16:57,240 --> 00:16:57,480 Speaker 1: You know. 344 00:16:58,280 --> 00:16:59,960 Speaker 2: It was in his text message, so they were emailing 345 00:17:00,040 --> 00:17:02,760 Speaker 2: from like texting, should I say, from an email? So 346 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:05,200 Speaker 2: I looked at it and there pops a picture of 347 00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:09,600 Speaker 2: an ass, like you know, all these like provocative photos 348 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 2: of this girl. And at first I didn't know who 349 00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:14,880 Speaker 2: it was. I just knew it was a girl obviously 350 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:17,879 Speaker 2: because it was it was an ass and some tits, 351 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:19,560 Speaker 2: you know. So I was like, oh my god. And 352 00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:21,959 Speaker 2: then I saw his comments and how he said yummy 353 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 2: and like put the tongue and like all these emojis 354 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,360 Speaker 2: and they were like gonna meet up. I was supposed 355 00:17:28,359 --> 00:17:30,800 Speaker 2: to fly out to Miami to do like a tribute 356 00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:33,880 Speaker 2: to Selena that weekend, and they were supposed to meet 357 00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:34,920 Speaker 2: up while I was gone. 358 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 1: So I read all of this. 359 00:17:36,359 --> 00:17:39,639 Speaker 2: Of course, I got furious because I'm like I basically 360 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 2: I felt at that time that I had lost my 361 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:44,119 Speaker 2: relationship with my mom because I defended this relationship, and 362 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:49,800 Speaker 2: I just felt completely emotionally destroyed. Like I was, like, 363 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:53,960 Speaker 2: what the hell is going on? I got crazy. I 364 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 2: went up to him in front of all his friends. 365 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:57,919 Speaker 2: I choked him. I said, I can't believe you do this. 366 00:17:58,119 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 2: I took his phone. 367 00:17:59,119 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 1: I left. 368 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 2: It got really bad, you guys, really bad. I scratched 369 00:18:03,640 --> 00:18:06,320 Speaker 2: up his car. He was kind of staying with me 370 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:07,920 Speaker 2: a little bit, like at my mom's house. He was 371 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 2: helping me there. He helped me out a lot, you guys, like, 372 00:18:10,440 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 2: he wasn't like the type of guy that was like 373 00:18:12,080 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 2: a freeloader or anything. 374 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:14,880 Speaker 1: He was just stayed with me because. 375 00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 2: Johnny was so young, and he really did help me 376 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 2: a lot in so many things. Anyway, So he was 377 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 2: staying with me a little bit at my mom's house 378 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:24,840 Speaker 2: and he would help me financially there. And so I 379 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:26,159 Speaker 2: had some of his stuff, so I put it all 380 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:29,040 Speaker 2: in back bags. I stuffed it in his car. My 381 00:18:29,160 --> 00:18:31,919 Speaker 2: plan was to take his car full of his stuff 382 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:35,359 Speaker 2: and just jam it and crash it into his office. 383 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:37,720 Speaker 2: That was like gonna be my grand entrance. Thank god 384 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:39,119 Speaker 2: I never did that. That was in my thought. I 385 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:44,280 Speaker 2: was just very furious. I rode up scratched up his car. 386 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:48,600 Speaker 2: It got really bad. Anyways, With that being said, we 387 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 2: broke up for a couple months. This girl, this is 388 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:56,399 Speaker 2: a thing. I was super disappointed because, unlike the first 389 00:18:56,440 --> 00:18:58,400 Speaker 2: time they cheated on me, she said that she had 390 00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:01,880 Speaker 2: no idea who I was. No her friend knew who 391 00:19:01,880 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 2: I was. But she says she did it. She said 392 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:05,879 Speaker 2: that she was under the impression that he was single. 393 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:11,240 Speaker 2: So okay, Bassam moossa. But this one, this girl worked 394 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:14,400 Speaker 2: at the office. I was there every other day. Everyone 395 00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 2: knew that I was his girl, and she was disrespecting me. 396 00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:22,960 Speaker 2: So I took it more of like, you're disrespecting me 397 00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:24,720 Speaker 2: as a woman, and I'm not going to allow you 398 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:28,639 Speaker 2: to do that. Obviously, things changed after I forgave him 399 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 2: when we got back together. But because she wasn't a 400 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 2: friend of mine, but I was cool with her. I 401 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 2: was very nice to her. I knew her brother her 402 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 2: brother and I went to school together and there she 403 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,639 Speaker 2: was failing with my man, was going to meet up 404 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:45,400 Speaker 2: with him. They were going to have sexual intercourse while 405 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:49,000 Speaker 2: I was gone working. I just couldn't understand. I was like, 406 00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:51,760 Speaker 2: how is it that a girl could do this? I 407 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 2: was just more disappointed in her. Anyways, of course, we 408 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:56,800 Speaker 2: broke up. We broke up for like two months. I 409 00:19:56,840 --> 00:20:01,120 Speaker 2: made him suffer because I was obviously devastated, and he did. 410 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 2: He begged me and begged me every single day, like 411 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:06,679 Speaker 2: I could you not like he begged me and I 412 00:20:06,680 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 2: forgave him. I forgave him because I was grateful with him, 413 00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:14,199 Speaker 2: because I wasn't ready to let him go because I 414 00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:18,600 Speaker 2: loved him. But ever since that happened, everything changed within 415 00:20:18,640 --> 00:20:22,320 Speaker 2: my heart, like it was just something just changed and 416 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:25,399 Speaker 2: it was never the same again. And I think the 417 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:29,120 Speaker 2: same thing happened there where I was like, Okay, I'm 418 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,880 Speaker 2: not gonna let this other person, this other woman come 419 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,880 Speaker 2: and think that she's gonna quote unquote take what I've 420 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 2: worked so hard for because I had given so much 421 00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:41,960 Speaker 2: that relationship and I helped him change so much, and 422 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:43,760 Speaker 2: he had already changed so much that I was like, 423 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:46,959 Speaker 2: I've already put in so much work. I'm not just 424 00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:49,439 Speaker 2: gonna move out of the way for a girl to 425 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:53,080 Speaker 2: come in and just Latina tan Fasci and she has 426 00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 2: it easy, you know. So it was a little bit 427 00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:58,119 Speaker 2: of ego in there as well. And of course, like 428 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,800 Speaker 2: everything I just mentioned, like there was love, there was history. 429 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:03,240 Speaker 2: There was so much that had happened with my family, 430 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:05,359 Speaker 2: with my mom that I felt like I need to 431 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:08,639 Speaker 2: make this relationship work. And I tried, and again I 432 00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 2: was still faithful. I did not cheat on him, even 433 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 2: though he had cheated on me when we were broken 434 00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,840 Speaker 2: up for those two months I met someone, But obviously 435 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:18,520 Speaker 2: that's not cheating because we were together, you know what 436 00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:18,880 Speaker 2: I mean. 437 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:20,240 Speaker 1: He knew about it. He found out later. 438 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 2: He wasn't happy about it, obviously, but I never cheated 439 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:26,720 Speaker 2: on him anyways. That I think was the beginning of 440 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:29,119 Speaker 2: the end for our relationship when I found that out, 441 00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:32,080 Speaker 2: and it was hard to trust him. He really did 442 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:33,639 Speaker 2: make a lot of changes and said, you know, and 443 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 2: it really felt like he wanted the relationship to work, 444 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:38,400 Speaker 2: but because he had done what he had done, he 445 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:41,280 Speaker 2: then didn't trust me because he felt that I was 446 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:43,399 Speaker 2: going to do that. It was his guilty conscious, So 447 00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:47,200 Speaker 2: the relationship was just it was doomed to be honest 448 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:50,680 Speaker 2: from that moment on, and a lot of things changed 449 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,840 Speaker 2: in his office because of it, and a lot of 450 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 2: just things change in the relationship. And anyways, it didn't work. 451 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:58,040 Speaker 2: The bottom line is that it did not work and 452 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 2: the trust was lost. And I think trust is definitely earned, 453 00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 2: and I think he was doing what he could to 454 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,080 Speaker 2: make the relationship work and for me to earn his trust. 455 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:11,159 Speaker 2: But I think ultimately it was his guilty conscience that 456 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:14,080 Speaker 2: ruined the relationship because he felt like, oh, she's out traveling, 457 00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 2: she's gonna cheat on me, Like it was constantly in 458 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:18,800 Speaker 2: the back of his mind, and that was a huge 459 00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 2: part of why it didn't work out. One time, I 460 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 2: was at the gym, and it's when I lived in Corona, 461 00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,480 Speaker 2: and there was an older man and I told him 462 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:34,399 Speaker 2: about what was happening. He said, look, honey, I've been 463 00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:37,760 Speaker 2: married for forty years. He said, I have cheated on 464 00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:39,879 Speaker 2: my wife. And let me tell you. This is what 465 00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:44,360 Speaker 2: he told me. He said, every man cheats at one 466 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:48,000 Speaker 2: point in their life. One of two things happens. Either 467 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:49,960 Speaker 2: they like it and they continue to do it, or 468 00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:51,520 Speaker 2: they don't like it and they feel so bad that 469 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:53,639 Speaker 2: they'll never do it again. He's like, but every man 470 00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:57,120 Speaker 2: cheats at one point in their life. So I'm like, Okay, well, 471 00:22:57,119 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 2: maybe it's not going to be on me, but maybe 472 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:00,760 Speaker 2: he cheated on his ex girlfriend, learn his lesson, and 473 00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:02,119 Speaker 2: he won't cheat on me. It's kind of how I 474 00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 2: saw it, because it kind of did like mess me 475 00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:06,000 Speaker 2: up a little bit. I'm like, well, that sucks, like, 476 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:09,439 Speaker 2: but I guess it's bound to happen. I like to 477 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:13,360 Speaker 2: think that there are faithful guys out there now with Emilio, 478 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,360 Speaker 2: you know, you guys know that I'm in a relationship 479 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:18,119 Speaker 2: and I have I like to say, I think the 480 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,359 Speaker 2: healthiest relationship I've ever been in. To be honest, he's 481 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:23,679 Speaker 2: gone through his share of things. He also was cheated on. 482 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:28,040 Speaker 2: He also cheated, and it also taught him what he 483 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:31,480 Speaker 2: wants in a woman and what he doesn't want. I 484 00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:33,840 Speaker 2: think that's why our relationship works because we've both been 485 00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:36,719 Speaker 2: through our share of relationships where we've hurt the person 486 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 2: and they've hurt us, and now we're just like, Okay, 487 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,959 Speaker 2: let's make this work. Let's be honest, Let's put everything 488 00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:44,600 Speaker 2: on the table. But I think it takes time and 489 00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:46,840 Speaker 2: it takes experience to get to that point, you know, 490 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:51,199 Speaker 2: whether it be in the relationship that you're in and 491 00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:53,679 Speaker 2: they've already cheated on you, you know, and you forgave them, 492 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:55,760 Speaker 2: and you guys are moving past it and forward. Because 493 00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:58,520 Speaker 2: here's the thing. I'm not going to tell you that 494 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:02,720 Speaker 2: if your partnership you're treated, the relationship is broken forever. 495 00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:06,879 Speaker 2: I think through therapy, through intention of you wanting to 496 00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,600 Speaker 2: make it work, it can work. It's gonna take a 497 00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:11,960 Speaker 2: lot of work, though, and you have to The first 498 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 2: thing is forgive and try to forget, because if you 499 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:18,399 Speaker 2: keep bringing that shit up all the time, it's going 500 00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 2: to ruin the relationship. If you're gonna forgive the person, 501 00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:23,359 Speaker 2: forgive them and let it go, do your best to 502 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,879 Speaker 2: let it go and work past it and work together 503 00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:29,600 Speaker 2: and make the changes necessary on both ends, on both 504 00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:33,439 Speaker 2: sides to make the relationship work and move forward. For 505 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:37,199 Speaker 2: me personally, I think if Emilia were to cheat on 506 00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,920 Speaker 2: me at this point, I would just have to let 507 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 2: go of the relationship. As much as it hurt me, 508 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:44,280 Speaker 2: I don't think I want to put myself through what 509 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:46,719 Speaker 2: I put myself in the past. Like say, Okay, I'm 510 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:48,200 Speaker 2: gonna make this work. I'm going to make them fall 511 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:49,679 Speaker 2: in love with me. I'm going to make them, in 512 00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:51,359 Speaker 2: a way suffer for what they did, you know what 513 00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,160 Speaker 2: I mean, Like, I don't have time for that. I'm 514 00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:56,399 Speaker 2: like more mature now. I don't have the energy, I 515 00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,760 Speaker 2: don't have the time for it. And we both are 516 00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:00,840 Speaker 2: on the same page. If we were to cheat on 517 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,800 Speaker 2: each other, it's kind of like, okay, let's just part 518 00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 2: ways because the relationship won't be the same and we 519 00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:09,040 Speaker 2: have to be okay with that decision. 520 00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 1: Now. 521 00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 2: I know of people that other celebrities and have forgiven 522 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 2: their partners for cheating and they move past it and 523 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:19,879 Speaker 2: they're okay. 524 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. 525 00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 2: I honestly don't know, but I think right now, if 526 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:24,520 Speaker 2: you were to ask me right now, if I found out 527 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:27,720 Speaker 2: that Immedial cheated on me, right now, I would have 528 00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:29,760 Speaker 2: to like go of the relationship because I just. 529 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 1: I don't want to deal with that, you know what 530 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:31,879 Speaker 1: I mean. 531 00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 2: And I don't want to put him through shit because 532 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 2: I probably would, like I'd probably become a bitch, and 533 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,320 Speaker 2: I'd probably I won't be the same, I know myself, 534 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:41,119 Speaker 2: So why put him through that, and why put myself 535 00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:43,680 Speaker 2: through that? You know, And he's also told me I'm 536 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:45,480 Speaker 2: not going to deal with that. It would be done, 537 00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:51,199 Speaker 2: so we have that mutual understanding. Anyways. Someone once asked me, 538 00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:58,720 Speaker 2: is an emotional versus a physical cheating situation is one 539 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:02,000 Speaker 2: worse than the other? I think they're both bad, to 540 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:05,199 Speaker 2: be honest, I mean, I think it would hurt me 541 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:09,680 Speaker 2: more if my partner was emotionally involved with someone, you 542 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,520 Speaker 2: know what I mean, like versus it be just a 543 00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:15,919 Speaker 2: one night stand. I think both are bad, but I 544 00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,640 Speaker 2: think it would be like the one with my very 545 00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:21,760 Speaker 2: first boyfriend. He was emotionally involved with that girl, like 546 00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:24,600 Speaker 2: he was talking about marriage, about children, about moving in 547 00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:29,600 Speaker 2: together within two weeks. That killed me. That killed me 548 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:32,800 Speaker 2: because I'm like, dude, how like you know what I mean, 549 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:36,240 Speaker 2: Like what the hell? Like I was just I couldn't 550 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 2: believe it. I really couldn't believe that. I think just 551 00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,920 Speaker 2: like devastated me even more. Versus with like that other dude, 552 00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:44,040 Speaker 2: it was more of like let's just bone, you know 553 00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:45,439 Speaker 2: what I mean, Like it is what it is, is 554 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,600 Speaker 2: just have sex. It still hurt me, of course, but 555 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,439 Speaker 2: I feel like I was able to get over that 556 00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,640 Speaker 2: one a little easier because I still stayed for two 557 00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,040 Speaker 2: and a half years after that, Like we still stay 558 00:26:57,080 --> 00:27:00,159 Speaker 2: together anyways, I think, yeah, if you're gonna get if 559 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:04,000 Speaker 2: you're cheating on your partner and you're getting emotionally involved 560 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:07,639 Speaker 2: with someone else and you're giving them more attention than 561 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 2: you're even giving your significant other, then you should not 562 00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,119 Speaker 2: be in that relationship at all. You need to let go. 563 00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:16,520 Speaker 2: There's something wrong. You're obviously not into your partner. If 564 00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,679 Speaker 2: you're emotionally involved with someone else, that's something that I'm like, 565 00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:23,240 Speaker 2: uh uh, I cannot And if I could just give 566 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:27,480 Speaker 2: anyone advice, anyone that is listening that has been cheated on, 567 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,640 Speaker 2: I'm not one to tell you what to do. 568 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,359 Speaker 1: I can just speak from experience. 569 00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 2: And if you have been cheated on, and if you 570 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:39,680 Speaker 2: chose to forgive that person, that's admirable, Like I get it. 571 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 2: Make sure that you are forgiving for the right reasons 572 00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:45,240 Speaker 2: first and foremost, because that's something I didn't do. I 573 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,640 Speaker 2: was not forgiving for the right reasons. So make sure 574 00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:51,000 Speaker 2: you are forgiving for the right reasons. Children are involved, 575 00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:54,159 Speaker 2: You have children together, you've been together for years, obviously 576 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,480 Speaker 2: you love that person and you want to make this work, 577 00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:58,639 Speaker 2: and I think through therapy, and you both have to 578 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,800 Speaker 2: be on the same page. That person also has to 579 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:01,240 Speaker 2: want to. 580 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:01,800 Speaker 1: Go to therapy. 581 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:04,159 Speaker 2: And you're gonna know You're gonna fill it in your 582 00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:07,159 Speaker 2: heart when someone is completely sorry. But you'll know this 583 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,879 Speaker 2: person's really sorry, and no one should judge you if 584 00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:11,920 Speaker 2: you decide to stay with the person and forgive them. 585 00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:15,800 Speaker 2: I think that relationships can work if both are putting 586 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:19,320 Speaker 2: in the same amount of effort to make it work. 587 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:22,399 Speaker 2: Just make sure that you forgive and you try to forget. 588 00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,359 Speaker 2: I know it's easier said than done, but you have 589 00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:26,719 Speaker 2: to forget. You can't keep bringing that thing up because 590 00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:30,119 Speaker 2: it's just gonna create more dense and more cracks in 591 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:35,959 Speaker 2: the glass. It will eventually just break completely. Now, if 592 00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:39,880 Speaker 2: you're the one cheating, you need to check your heart personally. 593 00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:43,840 Speaker 2: That's what I feel. You need to check and reflect 594 00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 2: and analyze the relationship you're in because if you're doing that, 595 00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:50,680 Speaker 2: then that means you're not happy, you're not attracted to 596 00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:54,640 Speaker 2: the person you're with, or you're just greedy and you 597 00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 2: want that person. You want to have your cake and 598 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 2: you want to eat it too. So I would just 599 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,440 Speaker 2: say leave the person you're with if you want to cheat, 600 00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:03,640 Speaker 2: leave them. 601 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:04,080 Speaker 1: None. 602 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:05,800 Speaker 2: This is going to say, Parsona, don't hurt yourself and 603 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:09,480 Speaker 2: don't hurt them. That's just my personal advice. I'm telling you. 604 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:12,600 Speaker 2: I've been on both sides of the spectrum, and it's 605 00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 2: not nice. I don't like to hurt anybody, and I 606 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,960 Speaker 2: don't want to be hurt. And I think we just 607 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,520 Speaker 2: need to treat people the way we want to be treated. 608 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:23,040 Speaker 2: We're not perfect. I ask for forgiveness. I'm like, God, 609 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:25,360 Speaker 2: forgive me, like I don't. I don't want to hurt people. 610 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 2: I really don't like all those things that I did 611 00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:30,200 Speaker 2: when I was younger, Like it just taught me and 612 00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 2: it molded me to be the woman I am today. 613 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,760 Speaker 2: And the main thing is I want to be a 614 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:39,160 Speaker 2: positive force, a positive addition to someone's life. I'm not 615 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:40,680 Speaker 2: here to hurt anybody, you know what I mean. I 616 00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:42,480 Speaker 2: don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. I want to be 617 00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 2: something good in their life, something that they can be 618 00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:48,440 Speaker 2: proud of, like they had me way yeah la Bletos. 619 00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:50,440 Speaker 2: You know, like my footprint, I was here and it 620 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:53,320 Speaker 2: always a good experience, you know, which is why I 621 00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,560 Speaker 2: feel bad for what I did when I was twenty 622 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,200 Speaker 2: twenty one, twenty two, twenty three, you know what I mean. Like, 623 00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:01,840 Speaker 2: you're young, you're dumb. I'm sorry you're barely learning. But 624 00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,600 Speaker 2: make sure that the things that you've done also teach 625 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:07,320 Speaker 2: you and you learn that lesson that you're meant to learn, 626 00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:13,040 Speaker 2: so that moving forward and in your future, you can 627 00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:15,240 Speaker 2: be happier and have peace in your heart and in 628 00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:18,600 Speaker 2: your mind. I know everyone feels differently about whether or 629 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:20,640 Speaker 2: not you should stay with someone who has cheated, but 630 00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:23,719 Speaker 2: I think everyone should make their decision and do what 631 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 2: they feel is right for them. So if your friends 632 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:27,760 Speaker 2: or family open up to you about it, just listen 633 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,360 Speaker 2: and support them and try not to judge them too harshly. 634 00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:39,280 Speaker 2: That's just something that I truly believe. With that being said, 635 00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:42,440 Speaker 2: we are going to close out the episode and give 636 00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:46,760 Speaker 2: you guys my motivational quote for this beautiful Monday. I 637 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:49,920 Speaker 2: actually have two quotes for you guys today. One is, 638 00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:53,080 Speaker 2: breaking someone's trust is like crumbling up a perfect piece 639 00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,760 Speaker 2: of paper. You can smooth it over, but it's never 640 00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,960 Speaker 2: going to be the same. The next one is the 641 00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,920 Speaker 2: secret of change is to focus all of your energy 642 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:05,160 Speaker 2: not on fighting the old, but on building the new. 643 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:08,600 Speaker 2: All right, guys, well, thank you so much for listening, 644 00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 2: for being here with me. I hope that you learned 645 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 2: a little bit more about me from my mistakes, and 646 00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:16,760 Speaker 2: a little bit for you for your future, for your present. 647 00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:23,760 Speaker 2: Catalunes I loos ljaki elm los kiro Muco. 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