1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,400 Speaker 1: My friends are throwing a birthday party for my twin 2 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: brother without me. Should I ditch them? 3 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:07,200 Speaker 2: I guess you know, which of the twins is the 4 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 2: favorite of the friends. You know, sometimes it's good to 5 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 2: see people reveal their true colors, you know. No, no, 6 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 2: maybe it's time for a new friend group. Exactly exactly, 7 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:15,720 Speaker 2: but we'll find out. 8 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: So I'm a twin and my brother and I hang 9 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 1: out all the time and we're super close. In a 10 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: few days, it's going to be our twenty fifth birthday. 11 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:26,360 Speaker 1: Congratulations quarter century. That's right, have fun with your crisis, 12 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 1: my friend, we share the same friend group and we're 13 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: all really close and have been since school. 14 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:33,560 Speaker 2: Mm the title would suggest otherwise. 15 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: Oh, he has a close group of girlfriends, about five 16 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:40,200 Speaker 1: of them who I have also known for many years. 17 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:43,199 Speaker 1: I would classify them as being closer with him in 18 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 1: recent years. But we're still all good friends and socialized 19 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,520 Speaker 1: often together. Now I've been added to a group chat 20 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: labeled my brother's name surprise dinner. It's also his birthday, 21 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 1: but that his name isn't in the group chat title. 22 00:00:56,120 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 2: It's his brother's name. Oh, not him, that's so rough. Yeah, 23 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 2: to prep for your brother's birthday. 24 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, hey, hey, help us celebrate his birthday and not yours. 25 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: We need you to work on his Maybe we don't celebrate. 26 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:11,880 Speaker 1: Go on the side or something. Put a mask on you, 27 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: just put a bag and just sit in the corner. 28 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:15,839 Speaker 2: I want you to bring back down the vibe. 29 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: Hey, could you just put your hands here, put your 30 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: niece here. Yeah, so we just need you to be 31 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:22,199 Speaker 1: a stool for your brother to sit for your brother 32 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 1: a throne. 33 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 2: Actually, you know you're you know, a throne is giving 34 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:28,960 Speaker 2: him a little bit to ye, I think a step stool. 35 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 1: Seah, yeah, exactly like the one used it when you 36 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: go potty. Yeah, squatty potty, Yeah, you're a squatty potty. 37 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: It was a surprise birthday dinner for my twin brother 38 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: organized by one of the girls in that group, and 39 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: they invited me. 40 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:44,480 Speaker 2: As a guest. That's so awkward. 41 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:47,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like you doesn't occur to you, like, oh, 42 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: you know, but but then do you just not invite him? 43 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 2: I don't know. It's a tough one. 44 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 1: One of them also said in the group that it 45 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: would be nice to see me as well. So I 46 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: just feel like an afterthought. 47 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, major after I do not do anything that day? Yeah, 48 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 2: do you know any plans? 49 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 1: I wouldn't really have minded if the girls had wanted 50 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 1: to organize the surprise birthday evening exclusively for my brother 51 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 1: and themselves, but they also invited my partner in some 52 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: of my brother and I's closest friends as well. 53 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 2: So it's like on their actual birthday. 54 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: Yes, and it's like they basically share the same friend groups, 55 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:28,799 Speaker 1: so they're like, Hey, let's invite like all of your 56 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,959 Speaker 1: friends to celebrate just your brother's birthday. 57 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:35,160 Speaker 2: That's so weird, suck. 58 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: That feels inconsider and quite upsetting, as I can understand 59 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: why I would have been invited to my literal twin 60 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 1: brother's surprise birthday dinner with me only invited as a 61 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: guest as it's also my birthday involving all of our friends. 62 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:51,680 Speaker 1: My girlfriend also found this action to be extremely rude 63 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: and wondered why this girl didn't just reach out to 64 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: her and then they could have organized a surprise birthday 65 00:02:57,400 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: involving both of us instead, or having just involved both 66 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 1: my brother and I and left the surprise element out 67 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: of it totally, Like, just include him as being featured 68 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: in the you know. 69 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 2: Celebrate him staying so heartbreaking. 70 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: In the shot, it is clearly stated that we are 71 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:17,079 Speaker 1: all to arrive at one time, while my brother is 72 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 1: due to arrive about twenty minutes later. The thought of 73 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:22,080 Speaker 1: attending makes me feel weird because it's just a celebration 74 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: for his birthday when him and I are literally born 75 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: on the same day. 76 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 2: Oh god. 77 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 1: This also isn't new information to the organizer. Also, every year, 78 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: my brother and I do something together because we want 79 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 1: to and because we have the same friend group. Last year, 80 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: our friends and my girlfriend set up a massive dinner 81 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: for our birthday, to which everyone was invited, including this 82 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:44,160 Speaker 1: girl group. 83 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 2: This is so weird. I feel so bad for the 84 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 2: neglected twist of me. 85 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: He's just let it like he's just he is an afterthought. 86 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 2: He really is. I wonder who is born first? 87 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: Ah, I was OPI born second, you know, so now 88 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: you're second after Sorry. So now I'm at a crossroads. 89 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: I don't even know whether to attend or not. On 90 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: one hand, if I don't go, I'll feel left out 91 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 1: because all of our mutual friends are going. But on 92 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 1: the other hand, if I do go, I will feel 93 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 1: like I'm letting myself be disrespected and I'll likely feel 94 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 1: uncomfortable as it feels like only my brother is being celebrated. 95 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: So would I be that told if I took a 96 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 1: stand and didn't go. There's a short edit, But Sam, who. 97 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,040 Speaker 2: I want to know what everyone else is? This is 98 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 2: so tricky. It's not his brother's fault that his brother's 99 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 2: friends are being ad exactly, and so by him not going, 100 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 2: he's kind of like f youing the brother. 101 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 1: Unintentionally, unintentional astray. Oh so that's a predicament real quick? 102 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 1: Yes or no? Attends right now? For the update? 103 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 2: Uh uh uh? Attend because it's like, because you want 104 00:04:58,640 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 2: to be there for your brother. 105 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, and maybe tell them attend and tell them beforehand, like, yo, 106 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 1: you should have included. 107 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 2: Actually I a motify my answer. I say, talk to 108 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 2: the girl, I'd be like, ooh, it's my brother too. 109 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 2: My brother would honestly want to celebrate it with me. Yeah. 110 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,160 Speaker 2: I think it's pretty weird that we're only celebrating his birthday. 111 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:16,160 Speaker 2: What is my birthday? 112 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 1: To go to the showing and then go yeah, okay, cool, 113 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:22,240 Speaker 1: all right, Well onto the edit. My girlfriend just checked 114 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 1: the chat and the organizer booked a dinner for ten 115 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 1: people and set a menu. The problem is there's currently 116 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: eleven people attending, not even including my girlfriend and myself. 117 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 1: If we went, this would mean we are way over capacity. 118 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,720 Speaker 1: Now we really aren't sure if we want to go, 119 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: because what if we turn up and there's literally no 120 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:46,719 Speaker 1: room for us. This makes it slightly more awkward as 121 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 1: we may not be able to just pull up a 122 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: chair and join. The dinner is also tomorrow. Thanks for 123 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: all the kind messages as well. I will definitely give 124 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 1: an update after everything plays out. 125 00:05:56,560 --> 00:05:58,480 Speaker 2: This is a tricky social situation. 126 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: You're you could literally be left standing at your own birthday. 127 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 2: Whoa, there's so many it got even more complicated. I 128 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 2: would say something to the person and then not ruin 129 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,840 Speaker 2: the surprise, not go because there's not enough room, and 130 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 2: then say something to your brother afterwards. Yeah, say hey, 131 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 2: I don't know if you know this, but your friend 132 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 2: like did this whole surprise party. Hope it was great, 133 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 2: but I don't know that's pretty That friend is definitely 134 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:29,239 Speaker 2: a huge a hole. 135 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: Such an a literally caused all the like, definitely got 136 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: a confront her and just like why would you not 137 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:34,920 Speaker 1: include me in this? 138 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:35,240 Speaker 2: Yeah? 139 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 1: I don't understand, And it's like it's not like they 140 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 1: were complete strangers, I believe OPI said, like, oh, we're 141 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:43,600 Speaker 1: not like the closest, but we definitely know each other 142 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:45,800 Speaker 1: and hang out together. Yeah, so it's like you know 143 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: the you know him. 144 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I like like, like you said, like it 145 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 2: would have been fine to do a birthday dinner on 146 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:56,159 Speaker 2: a day that isn't their actual birthday. Yeah, you know, 147 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:58,719 Speaker 2: if you want to do it just like just for him, 148 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 2: then maybe may and also all the friends. 149 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 1: That was the other thing too, because this the girl 150 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: group was kind of more of the brother's friends. 151 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 2: Yea, so maybe just do the girl group. 152 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: Just do the girl group because they seem to be 153 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 1: tight knit. But she invited their entire friend group. 154 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's kind of a full move. So yeah, I 155 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 2: would say my my prescription is to confront the girl say, hey, 156 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 2: what the heck, I'm not going to go because it 157 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 2: doesn't even look like there's spaces for me anyway. Let 158 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:29,640 Speaker 2: the brother enjoy whatever. He's probably probably gonna be like, wait, 159 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 2: like where's my brother? Yeah, and then you. 160 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: Follow up after it and it was like, not only 161 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: they invited me as an afrothought and didn't ever Yeah exactly. 162 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 2: So It's like there wasn't there wasn't much I could do. Yeah, 163 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:43,200 Speaker 2: but yeah, what a right or at the very least 164 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 2: neglectual come on, oh my god, or just even at 165 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 2: the very least terrible planner, terrible, terrible for the worst, 166 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:53,000 Speaker 2: What would you guys do? This is like a really 167 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 2: tricky social situation, very much so. 168 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:57,280 Speaker 1: I want to see. I want to see it all 169 00:07:57,320 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 1: out battle. I want in the contenders and and non 170 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: attenders stook it out at it and we'll see whoever 171 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: has the most comments wins. 172 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 2: We'll get it to you, Okay, We'll see you soon.