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Speaker 1: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing. I'm Amy and

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Speaker 1: I'm Kat, And today's quote comes from one of our listeners, Melissa,

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Speaker 1: who emailed it to us. She said, Hey, Amy, I

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Speaker 1: just saw this quote and thought about your recent episode

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Speaker 1: with Cat. I think it's because we were talking about hobbies.

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Speaker 1: Like Kat has all kinds of hobbies. Right now, she's

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Speaker 1: doing everybody's nails, like everybody in Nashville. You need your

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Speaker 1: nails done, go over to Cat's kitchen. It will take

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Speaker 1: me three hours, but it's looking good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: She does painting classes also in her kitchen, and soon

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Speaker 1: to be pottery classes. She'll tell us more about that

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Speaker 1: in a minute, because she just ordered a pottery kit.

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Speaker 1: But Melissa sent us this quote. Every time I think

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Speaker 1: I have a new hobby, it turns out i'd just

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Speaker 1: like to buy stuff. And I was like, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I was just unboxing things before Kat got to

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Speaker 1: my house and my face cupping tool came in the mail.

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Speaker 1: I am still doing. Face fitness is not a hobby,

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Speaker 1: it's a lifestyle. And my cupping tool is like, you know,

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Speaker 1: apparently I haven't even used it yet. I just pulled

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Speaker 1: it out of the box and it's going to like

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Speaker 1: suction to my face and.

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Speaker 2: How does are you supposed to stick it on your

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Speaker 2: face and leave it there? No?

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Speaker 1: You do like, like, have you ever had a cupping

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Speaker 1: done on your body or seen it done? I'm an Olympian. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I've never personally needed it for whatever reason. I'm not

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Speaker 1: an Olympian, but I've had cupping done before, and it's

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Speaker 1: like glides across the face and like suctions like and

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Speaker 1: then and you do it to your forehead. But I

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Speaker 1: know there's rules, like this is a bigger cup and

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Speaker 1: I'm only supposed to use it on certain parts of

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Speaker 1: my face and there's a smaller cup that you use elsewhere.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but this is my algorithm now because

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Speaker 1: it's what I talk about and everything that pops up

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Speaker 1: in my for you page or whatever. Is face fitness interesting.

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Speaker 2: We have very different algorithms, but it's interesting because face

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Speaker 2: fitness is something that you really could do with yourself

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Speaker 2: and no real products. But now you're probably getting targeted

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Speaker 2: for all of these fun, fun tools you can get

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Speaker 2: to make your experience even better. And that's where the

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Speaker 2: shopping addiction hobby comes in.

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Speaker 1: I know I could see myself ordering more tools, but

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Speaker 1: that actually looks kind of cool. Yeah, And I'm not

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Speaker 1: spending money on botox, so.

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Speaker 2: You're saving money because that's cheaper than botox.

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Speaker 1: That is my hobby. There you go, saving money. That's

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Speaker 1: my hot heck, it's a heck. Maggie. My cat is

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Speaker 1: in here with us, and cat was just looking over

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Speaker 1: at her therapy cat. He was looking at my cat, Maggie,

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Speaker 1: and she was like, oh my gosh, she looks like

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Speaker 1: a human. And I said, oh my gosh, I have

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Speaker 1: to tell you what I told my boyfriend today this morning.

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Speaker 1: Early this morning, he had to leave for like a

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Speaker 1: work trip, so he was up early, and I guess

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Speaker 1: his colleague they were traveling together and they were going

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Speaker 1: to be in the car for a long time, and

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Speaker 1: I don't know. For whatever reason, I was like, well,

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Speaker 1: if I come up, it's like, you should just tell

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Speaker 1: him that I'm I too, because we're going to talk

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Speaker 1: about red flags this relationship. Even thinking back on it now,

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Speaker 1: the fact that he had to listen to me say

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Speaker 1: red flag, Like I don't know if later today when

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Speaker 1: he gets back, if I'm gonna have a boyfriend, I said,

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Speaker 1: what are y all going to talk about? Like, y'all

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Speaker 1: need to talk about interesting things, like if I come

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Speaker 1: up like you should you could tell him about me,

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Speaker 1: but you should tell him that I was raised by cats.

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Speaker 1: And see what he says, and I'm like, and don't budge.

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Speaker 1: Just go with it, be like, yeah, she was raised

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Speaker 1: by cats, and these say like people named cat or

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Speaker 1: actual cats. You should just with a straight face as possible,

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Speaker 1: just be like, no cats, she was raised by cats.

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Speaker 1: I'm Another potential red flag question also has to do

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Speaker 2: Did you do this?

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Speaker 1: Maybe I'm just having in my head only to myself.

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Speaker 2: Though, Oh you kept this one in you had enough

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Speaker 2: self awaren just to say it. I did this?

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Speaker 1: Okay. So I ordered some new cat food and it

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Speaker 1: Maggie doesn't like it. If it's been if like air

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Speaker 1: And cats are very picky. I'm pretty sure if they

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Speaker 1: don't want what you're serving them, and they don't have

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Speaker 1: But the cat food came in and there's this really

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Speaker 1: Maggie made this weird face and I was like, well,

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Speaker 1: that was weird. And I was like, Maggie, She's like

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Speaker 1: looked at me, like what, And I said, oh, I

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Speaker 1: know what it is, Maggie, And then I started this

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Speaker 1: whole story. I was like, you're mad because your sister's

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Speaker 1: for cat food, and you are sad that you're stuck here.

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Speaker 2: Wait so this was just in your head. Well, I mean,

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Speaker 2: I'm saying it to her, but nobody was around.

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Speaker 1: Nobody was around.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you're just having conversations in your head, your cat.

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Speaker 1: But it was this whole thing about how her sister

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Speaker 1: is the cat model for this cat food and she's mad.

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Speaker 2: Because she's living here.

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Speaker 1: She's living here and her sister's living her best life

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Speaker 1: modeling for this cat food company in New York City,

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Speaker 1: and Maggie can't even go outside, like she's she.

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Speaker 2: Can't even go outside. So what a sad life you live?

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Speaker 1: I know, But is that weird.

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Speaker 2: Before you had a cat.

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Speaker 1: I just feel like I've been doing weird things lately.

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Speaker 1: Like here's another one. My son he woke up and

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Speaker 1: I was like, like, a what year is it? And

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Speaker 1: he was like twenty twenty five and I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh okay. I was like I don't know. I'm just

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Speaker 1: and it's got time on it, all this stuff, and

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Speaker 1: he's like what is happening? And I'm like Steven said,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like what is this? And I'm like I

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Speaker 2: He just was like, Mom, you're crazy, You're crazy.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, I went to bed and it

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Speaker 2: And I mean, I kept it up for but he

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Speaker 1: A little bit. I mean, he just kept looking at me.

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Speaker 1: But he thought once I was he realized I was

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Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, I think there's just something to

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Speaker 1: I laugh.

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Speaker 2: With you because she's a cat.

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Speaker 1: I do think that maybe there's something inside of me

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I had a brain appointment last week. Did it unlock something?

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Speaker 2: But also, do you think you're just in a lighter

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Speaker 1: I do wonder though, Like I had my neurofeedback check

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Speaker 1: unlocked something that's like be playful. Yeah, have conversations with

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Speaker 1: because I've always sort of talked to myself, but now.

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Speaker 2: I'm just talking to other people as I'm talking to myself. Right.

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Speaker 1: So, anyway, are these red flags.

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Speaker 2: Depending on the person, they could be, but maybe they're

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because he likes says things like you're funny. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that any of this stuff is

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Speaker 2: No, I think if you did that, if you told

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Speaker 2: you childhood and you're like, well, I was raised by

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Speaker 2: It could have been funny depending on the person, or

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Speaker 1: Well, I think that leads perfectly into the conversation of

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Speaker 1: not everything is a red flag, because it could end

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Speaker 2: Wait was it you that I was just looking up

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think depending on when it comes to

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Speaker 2: red flags, green flags, yellow flags. There there are some

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Speaker 2: but most of the things that people call red flag

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Speaker 2: not a red flag for me some things.

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Speaker 1: buzz things we see on social lot, speaking of algorithm,

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Speaker 1: Like a lot of times you can just be fed

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Speaker 1: when it can turn you away from a relationship with someone,

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Speaker 1: and then you're missing out.

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Speaker 2: Well. I didn't like it because it turned all my

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Speaker 2: that's what the aluminum does. No, that's the antiperspriant, right,

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Speaker 2: That's just deodorant makes you not smell. But if it's

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Speaker 2: The clinical strength. Yes, well, I think a lot of

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Speaker 1: They have under armed they have under legs, or they

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Speaker 2: Well you're the one raised by cat, so I guess

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Speaker 1: So when we stop looking at everything as a red flag,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I have never had any of these

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Speaker 2: Sure, No, I never.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna get all these emails, being like I went

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Speaker 1: I've never done this. Okay, ever, and to be fair,

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Speaker 2: True, true, true. Well, also I think with red flags

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Speaker 1: Yeah, nobody comes without flaws, by the way, Well.

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Speaker 2: And I always would say that of I can't judge

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Speaker 2: Like you. People can get really picky with that stuff. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Okay, that just reminds me about this one guy right

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Speaker 2: Was a white belt like a I don't know, you

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Speaker 1: I thought he was really cute. He's the guy I

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Speaker 2: Lot and then they wear a white belt and ruin it.

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Speaker 1: And then he wore a white belt.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you've grown, I've grown. Yeah, good for you.

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Speaker 2: You gotta be honest if you give them a second chance, Yes,

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Speaker 2: I don't, Yes, like I need to go on a

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Speaker 2: so I can see?

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00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:42,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, like this is not a deal. Breaker. We can

437
00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:46,920
Speaker 1: work on this. I can eventually sup my way into

438
00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:48,080
Speaker 1: your closet and get rid of that.

439
00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:51,840
Speaker 2: Sometimes I feel like with the Red Flags also, I

440
00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:55,720
Speaker 2: think it's been rebranded as X. You know you've heard

441
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:57,720
Speaker 2: that shortly. If you give me the next okay, you

442
00:20:57,720 --> 00:20:59,320
Speaker 2: look at me like you didn't know I was talking about.

443
00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:01,760
Speaker 2: I'm like, you taught me a couple slang words, like

444
00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:04,680
Speaker 2: I cooked last week, so you have to know itck.

445
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 2: I think it's become like fun to like bring these

446
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 2: things out in a game, and then it just like

447
00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 2: creates an idea in your head, like if you're coming

448
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 2: up with all these ix you have towards your partner

449
00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:19,040
Speaker 2: or the person you're dating, so we need to create

450
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,200
Speaker 2: a game or a trend where you're finding all the

451
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 2: good things about somebody.

452
00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,440
Speaker 1: The reason why I gave you the look is because

453
00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm unsure if I put them in the

454
00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:29,879
Speaker 1: same category. Really, red Flag and X, I think that

455
00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 1: a lot of people do. I don't think you're wrong,

456
00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:34,920
Speaker 1: but I guess I was more contemplating that in my

457
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:38,879
Speaker 1: head because I feel like an ick to me is

458
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:43,400
Speaker 1: a fraternity tattoo on your ankle, and you're in your

459
00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:46,240
Speaker 1: forties now, and it's like, shoot, dang, why do you

460
00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 1: make that decision?

461
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:49,360
Speaker 2: But would you go back out with them?

462
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:53,200
Speaker 1: Yes, But I'd be like, we're not still making bad decisions,

463
00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:53,520
Speaker 1: are we?

464
00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 3: You know?

465
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,040
Speaker 2: Well, I guess I've heard some of my clients that

466
00:21:57,080 --> 00:22:00,240
Speaker 2: are younger and they're dating, they've talked about like, oh

467
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 2: I was seeing this guy and then he did this

468
00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 2: thing and he gave me the ick and I just

469
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 2: couldn't ever see it.

470
00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:06,479
Speaker 1: Okay, I guess that's like, you're right, you're probably hearing

471
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:08,920
Speaker 1: more of that type of talk from that. Just like

472
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:14,040
Speaker 1: I saw him hold an umbrella once, what No, what's

473
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:15,240
Speaker 1: wrong with holding an umbrella?

474
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 2: That's my point of like, or like I saw him

475
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 2: like run holding something and like gave me the ick.

476
00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 2: I think that's the point where I'm like, it's funny.

477
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 2: Some of these are funny, like oh I have an ick,

478
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:27,680
Speaker 2: where like I can't, I can't see a guy hold

479
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 2: an umbrella, But then it really gets in your head.

480
00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:32,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, but still now I'm now I am seeing the

481
00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 1: ick is like something different than red flag. Like I'm

482
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:36,680
Speaker 1: seeing like red flag.

483
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 2: Red flag is like oh bad idea that person. Yeah,

484
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:43,280
Speaker 2: but it just it is like, I'm not attracted to you, right.

485
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:46,439
Speaker 1: So I guess my ick was the white belt.

486
00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:48,199
Speaker 2: Yes, it because he gave me.

487
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 1: He gave me the ick. So now we're sorting this out.

488
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,359
Speaker 2: So red flag is that she thinks she was raised

489
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 2: by cats.

490
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 1: We're millennials. We're trying to figure this out. So the

491
00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 1: ick is the stupid little stuff that's like, uh, ick,

492
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:05,159
Speaker 1: But red flag. Sometimes what we want to encourage you

493
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:07,560
Speaker 1: to do, all of us to do, is not everything's

494
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 1: a red flag. Is like if there is even something

495
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 1: you notice, it's like, seems to be like a character thing,

496
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 1: but if you put it into perspective of were they

497
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:21,639
Speaker 1: responding to something in this moment that's very contained to

498
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 1: this or is this.

499
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 2: Overall who they are? Yes, like that's where, Yes, you

500
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 2: put that so perfectly I did.

501
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've learned it from my cat. I was gonna say,

502
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 1: probably you cat, you being cat. I'm sure you probably

503
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,640
Speaker 1: said it that way at some point you're the therapist.

504
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,240
Speaker 2: I don't know, you put that pretty nicely where, Yeah,

505
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 2: if you zoom out, is this a character thing or

506
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 2: is this just in the moment something that's happening.

507
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:50,960
Speaker 1: I don't thing you need to ignore your gut like

508
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,400
Speaker 1: in the moment, like if you have a strong gut

509
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:56,879
Speaker 1: feeling about something that you know, like, oh, but I

510
00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,240
Speaker 1: probably need to lean into this little more just in case, see,

511
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 1: like if you're unsure or ever unsafe like this like

512
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 1: red flag, Like is this just in the moment or

513
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 1: is he psycho crazy?

514
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:11,199
Speaker 2: Why? As you were saying that, I was thinking like

515
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:15,360
Speaker 2: if somebody texts too much, if somebody's texting you and

516
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:19,120
Speaker 2: texts you three times in a row, send a triple text,

517
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:21,800
Speaker 2: you might be like red flag, like he's too needy,

518
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:25,440
Speaker 2: blah blah blah. But what if you guys had plans

519
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 2: and he just like was nervous because you were late

520
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 2: and thought something happened to you? You know what I mean?

521
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,919
Speaker 2: Like is that is he really over communicative and too

522
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 2: clinging for you? Or is something in the moment happening

523
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 2: you know? Right?

524
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,439
Speaker 1: That makes me think of an example of being on

525
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 1: time for something, like if it's a first or second

526
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 1: date and they're five minutes late and you see it

527
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 1: as like, oh, he must not really beat that into me,

528
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 1: like he's not making me a priority or he's this

529
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: respect Like if it's just happening that one time. That's

530
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 1: not who the perspective is. Yeah, overall, you don't know

531
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 1: who they are. You have to it takes time to

532
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:03,719
Speaker 1: get to know that. Now, if you start dating him

533
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:05,639
Speaker 1: and he's just late all the time, then you have

534
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: a decision to make. But it's not a red flag.

535
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 1: If he's five minutes late on the first or second date.

536
00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 2: That could have been the only time that guy ever

537
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 2: wore a white belt.

538
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think so. He's favorite belt. I got

539
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,480
Speaker 1: some batborn is my favorite belt vibes like I showed

540
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: up looking my best, like this is what I wear

541
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 1: on my.

542
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 2: D Amy's gonna love me in this white belt now?

543
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,440
Speaker 2: And then I was like, what him know that I've

544
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,640
Speaker 2: ever clocked somebody wearing a white belt now that we're.

545
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,440
Speaker 1: Talking right now, this was two thousand and four.

546
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 2: Well, I was alive during then. I know.

547
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:43,959
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, I'm like, well, Kad, this was eighteen.

548
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 2: Sixty two in the Gilded Age. Yeah, ridiculous.

549
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 1: I might have had a white yeah, but you having

550
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 1: a white belt. It's very different than a guy having

551
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: a white belt.

552
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 2: I don't know if I had it, but I remember

553
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 2: people wore the gramat white belts with like the holes

554
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 2: in them. You know what the little grama. You know

555
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 2: what a grama is?

556
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:05,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know who that is.

557
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 2: You know those They had him in black too, but

558
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 2: people wore them in white. I swear.

559
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:12,879
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, maybe I just wasn't in on. Maybe it

560
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 1: was you white, Maybe it wasn't he.

561
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:16,480
Speaker 2: Maybe I you're the red flag.

562
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 1: I'm the red flag. Well, I think it's obvious that

563
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:21,639
Speaker 1: I am. After this conversation. I think it's very obvious

564
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,440
Speaker 1: I need help. And I guess we'll find out if

565
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 1: he ended up saying that on the car conversation. I

566
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: tried to call him earlier to get an update on

567
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,400
Speaker 1: if they had the conversation or not, and I guess

568
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 1: they're busy working or something because he didn't answer it

569
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: is a work trip. So then I just sent a

570
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: text saying does so and so I fit the person's name.

571
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:45,919
Speaker 1: I think it's weird. I was raised by cats and

572
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 1: he just sent that face palm emoji where the guy's

573
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 1: like oh, fitting his face in his hand, like oh

574
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:56,199
Speaker 1: my god. And then that's it. He hasn't communicated with

575
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: me yet, but I'm going to take that as he

576
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:00,919
Speaker 1: didn't ye take the challenge.

577
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 2: Is this somebody he knows? Well, Yeah, I missed that. Okay,

578
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 2: it would be even weird if it was like a

579
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 2: newer colleague.

580
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:11,359
Speaker 1: No, I think it's like a colleague that like, let's

581
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:13,959
Speaker 1: just say, like his job. He's pretty high up. But

582
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,399
Speaker 1: this person is part of like a company that's there,

583
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: like investor like, so then that would make this person,

584
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 1: I guess, like a boss. I don't really know exactly

585
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 1: how it works. Maggie's been doing okay ever since she

586
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 1: learned her sister as a model, and.

587
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 2: She looks just fine.

588
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 1: Is she She's pretty? She just sleeps all day. Meanwhile,

589
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:45,920
Speaker 1: Kara was in here and she didn't make a peep

590
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 1: the whole time.

591
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 2: She's very good.

592
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 1: So we're almost gone. Are the days where pets are

593
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:52,680
Speaker 1: gonna be with us? Kat and I are going to

594
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 1: start filming every episode and no animals will be allowed.

595
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 1: Will be in the new podcast room that I'm working

596
00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: on at my house, and we're just gonna be way

597
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 1: more buttoned up and official. But until then, it's the

598
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:05,679
Speaker 1: wild wild West.

599
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 2: Are you gonna be sad to not have car next

600
00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 2: to you? No, as much as you get frustrated with

601
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 2: the noises, I feel.

602
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 1: Like, Yeah, I like her. I think I'll be around

603
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 1: her enough. But we're we're cat and I are up leveling.

604
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:23,919
Speaker 2: So wait, wait up leveling? Yeah, did you mean to

605
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 2: say leveling up? No, it's up up leveling. I'm not

606
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 2: It's not gonna make fun of you. I just didn't

607
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:31,920
Speaker 2: know if this is another way to say it. Up leveling?

608
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:36,400
Speaker 1: What does it mean having greater capabilities or a higher

609
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: version number? Up leveling? What is up leveling? Let's go

610
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 1: back to the literal meaning. Up leveling means going up

611
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 1: a level i e. To the next level. It's a

612
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: bigger jump than just a small incremental increase.

613
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 2: Okay, here's your vocab word of the week. But I

614
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 2: think you did mean leveling up.

615
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 1: No, okay, what does up level mean? In business? It

616
00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 1: means doing the hard work to get you or your

617
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 1: business to the next level, up leveling.

618
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 2: So what does leveling up mean? Then?

619
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 1: Maybe it means the same thing.

620
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 2: Okay, you know what? Up leveling sounds more prestigious and

621
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 2: leveling up. It's kind of like armpit and underarm.

622
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 1: What is a synonym for up leveling? And it's to

623
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: propel forward, to rise to the next level.

624
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 2: Take it up?

625
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 1: A notch succeed elevate one's game.

626
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:25,719
Speaker 2: But not leveling up.

627
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 1: Well, leveling up may mean that, but I guess I'm

628
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 1: used to saying up leveling because of business.

629
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:33,960
Speaker 2: Oh wait, you really do say that.

630
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 1: I'm a business person, cat, I'm.

631
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 2: From the Gilded Age and we do business there.

632
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 3: I praised by business cats. They are very, very well

633
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 3: respected in the business game.

634
00:29:58,320 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 2: I wonder if anybody else existed.

635
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 1: I had to be like, people are gonna think we're drunk,

636
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: but I'm doing dry February too. I just finished dried January,

637
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 1: and now I'm gonna I'm level to February. Because well,

638
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: I read somewhere that to give your liver or really

639
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 1: good tea tucs, you should have stained from alcohol for

640
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 1: six weeks, And so if I already made it to

641
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 1: four weeks, then might as well go two more. And

642
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: then maybe on Valentine's Day, I'll have a glass of wine.

643
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 2: Why Valentine's Day?

644
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 1: Yes, because what are you about to say about cats?

645
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 1: I was gonna say if I still have a after today.

646
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 1: We were at the liquor store, like around Christmas time,

647
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 1: and he was buying some gifts and he ended up

648
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 1: getting like a really good bottle of red wine. He

649
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: was like, we'll save this and we'll have it for something,

650
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:55,920
Speaker 1: and so I think we're gonna have it on Valentine's.

651
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 2: Oh that's sweet. Wait, I have to share what I'm doing.

652
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 2: I don't think I said this earlier. What I'm doing

653
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:03,719
Speaker 2: Valentine's Day. I told you my pottery.

654
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: Thing, her hobby, her new hobby.

655
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 2: Okay, I've been trying to get into pottery for a while.

656
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 2: The classes are very expensive, and they do them in

657
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 2: the community center like Nashville does them, and they're cheaper,

658
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,239
Speaker 2: but they're so hard to get into. Anyway, I was

659
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 2: going to sign Patrick and I up for a Valentine's

660
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,479
Speaker 2: pottery class, but it was pretty expensive, and so I

661
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 2: was kind of like on the fence, I found why

662
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 2: are you looking at me like that?

663
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: I'm excited for you to tell people.

664
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 2: I found a at home pottery kit, Like it's just dry,

665
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 2: like air dry pottery. You don't like put it in

666
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 2: the kiln because I would totally buy a kiln. That's

667
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 2: why I'm looking.

668
00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: At you like them like wait for it for Kat's

669
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 1: cans to start teaching pottery classes. That's why I said,

670
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 1: oh yeah, earlier I mentioned Catt. I'll tell you more

671
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 1: about that, because she's gonna be holding pottery classes and

672
00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: might get rid of her oven in her kitchen and

673
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 1: replace it.

674
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 2: With a kill. Okay, this was only fifty dollars and

675
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 2: it comes with enough clay to make like six things.

676
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 2: So I told Patrick, we're going to have it at

677
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 2: home Valentine's Day pottery class. I saved one hundred and

678
00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 2: fifty dollars by and now you have a Valentine's Date. Yes, exactly, something.

679
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:18,840
Speaker 1: To do, and you saved money.

680
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 2: So everybody. I forgot where what the company was, but

681
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 2: I'll post it somewhere.

682
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: By well, I can link it in the show notes

683
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: if you can find it by the time the show

684
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: notes go up. Okay, then we can link it.

685
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 2: And if you want to take a class from me,

686
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 2: I'll probably be teaching them about six weeks.

687
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 1: Maybe you could do it virtually. Actually, people could get

688
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: their little pottery kits. Yes, in the mail.

689
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 2: I can create my own pottery kit and sell them.

690
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 1: I'm about to get my starter for my sour dough

691
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: and I'm making my own bread. I know I'm five

692
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: years late on this trend.

693
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 2: I think people are picking it up now.

694
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, but I feel like twenty twenty was

695
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 1: really the time that I should have taught myself.

696
00:32:56,880 --> 00:33:01,800
Speaker 2: But yeah, but now people have perfected their recipes, so

697
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 2: it's gonna be better for you. Yeah.

698
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 1: I feel like I keep it pretty simple back in

699
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 1: the eighteen hundred how we used to do it. It's

700
00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 1: just three ingredients. But I got to get a Starter.

701
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 1: But apparently there's this one bakery here in town. You

702
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 1: can go get it, and their starter is one hundred

703
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 1: years old.

704
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, you can get it from my

705
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 2: mom for free, but that sounds pretty sweet, but also

706
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 2: sounds crazy.

707
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 1: A hundred year old, it's just been multiplying for one

708
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 1: hundred years.

709
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 2: That kind of weirds me out. I think my mom

710
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 2: bought hers off of like Etsy.

711
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, people do that too. So I had a friend

712
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 1: that ordered one like that and it was okay, Like

713
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 1: she was making okay bread, and then she went to

714
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 1: this bakery to the hundred year old thing, and she's like,

715
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 1: bread is next level. She's doing everything the same, but

716
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: it's just better.

717
00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 2: It's local here. Oh, I have time mom. My mom

718
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 2: has found a way to make everything out of Starter.

719
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 2: That's her life now.

720
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 1: That is her hobby.

721
00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 2: It's gonna be me with pottery.

722
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, will you make pottery, I'll make bread.

723
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 2: I can make a pottery bowl and you can put

724
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 2: the bread in the bowl. Okay, and we can sell

725
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:08,160
Speaker 2: them together like you can sell your bread and helping

726
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 2: this too. Don't know this in my head. This is

727
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 2: gonna blow up.

728
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 1: Okay, you know, we have other things we need to

729
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 1: work on, but like business wise.

730
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:18,720
Speaker 2: It could be we could weave it in somehow, well.

731
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:19,319
Speaker 1: We could weave it in.

732
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, we can do.

733
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: So back to that our business that we're working on,

734
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,759
Speaker 1: it's up leveling. We're about to up level up in here.

735
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 1: So no dogs, no cats except for cat therapy cat

736
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 1: cat Vanburen. No cats with a C, only Katherine. Can

737
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 1: you want to go by Cat or Katherine when we up.

738
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:44,439
Speaker 2: Level Well, if we consult with the business cats, they'd

739
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:50,399
Speaker 2: probably say Catherine because it's more sophisticated. But I think

740
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:51,840
Speaker 2: I'm kind of stuck with Cat.

741
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 1: So we'll be up leveling to Amy and Catherine.

742
00:34:55,600 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 2: What's the long form of your name, Amelia? Beautiful name Amy, Elizabeth.

743
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 2: I love the name Elizabeth. Okay, Amy, Elizabeth and Catherine's

744
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 2: pottery and bread classes.

745
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 1: Should I get rid of Brown? I mean, I did

746
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 1: get divorced.

747
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 2: You would have to change so much stuff.

748
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I just mean professionally should I I

749
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 1: mean I like having the same last name for my kids.

750
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:24,080
Speaker 1: But I did notice that my ex has me and

751
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:29,240
Speaker 1: his phone now as Amy and my maiden name. No way, yeah,

752
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:29,839
Speaker 1: And I was like.

753
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 2: Which, I get it.

754
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,800
Speaker 1: We're divorced, so that's fine, but that's still your li

755
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 1: that his contacts like he synced some of them up

756
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 1: with our son's phone. So then my son had me

757
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:39,840
Speaker 1: in his phone as my maiden name, and I was like,

758
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 1: wh wait, wait, wait.

759
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:42,839
Speaker 2: Well what was you? What were you in his phone

760
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:43,440
Speaker 2: when you're married?

761
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,759
Speaker 1: I don't know, probably like wife, wife or yeah, he

762
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 1: was in mine as husband, which I get for him.

763
00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 1: Why would you put me in as Amy Brown? Because

764
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: we're divorced now, but it is still my name name?

765
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:59,359
Speaker 1: I know, but I don't really know. I don't really

766
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 1: know how to handle because professionally am Amy Brown. My

767
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 1: kids are still Brown. My mom always kept her married

768
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 1: name after my parents were together forever, but she died

769
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 1: with my dad's last name, and I don't know how

770
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 1: my dad A lot of people do that your wife

771
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 1: felt about that, but whatever, Like, if I ever get remarried,

772
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 1: I would take my new husband's last name, but professionally

773
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 1: I would still be Amy Brown, unless when we up

774
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 1: level I just go ahead and make the switch to

775
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:28,040
Speaker 1: Amy Elizabeth.

776
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,240
Speaker 2: I don't get the rationale.

777
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 1: Well, it just gets rid of any and then I

778
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:35,919
Speaker 1: can get married and voice anime as.

779
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:41,959
Speaker 2: But people who are very famous, like Hayley Bieber, who

780
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 2: was I can't remember her old last name, Baldwin. I

781
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 2: was trying to be dramatic.

782
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 4: I was kidding, but like, of course you would take

783
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 4: Bieber's last name.

784
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:53,240
Speaker 1: What are you talking about? What did she do before

785
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 1: I get you as a famous child? Did she at?

786
00:36:57,239 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 2: I don't know? Was a model?

787
00:36:58,719 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 1: Okay, so she was a model.

788
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 2: I know other people have done this. I just can't

789
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 2: think of that.

790
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: Her changing her name up levels everything to Beeper. Of

791
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 1: course she changes to Beeper. It's not going to up

792
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: level anything. Even my name right now doesn't give me

793
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 1: any like she Baldwin. She has more like do you

794
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 1: know mean Amy Brown's there are I can't even get

795
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:19,759
Speaker 1: Amy Brown dot com because Amy Brown is a fairy

796
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 1: artist and charity has this.

797
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:25,280
Speaker 2: You should google this before you make the decision. People

798
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 2: in the media who change their last name when they

799
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 2: get married.

800
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't really think it's going to impact me

801
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 1: that much. I just don't know that I'm not known

802
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: as Amy Brown, so I don't think it's that big

803
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 1: of a deal, like I think it could be. Well,

804
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:38,400
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. But right now the podcast is

805
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 1: four Things with Amy Brown.

806
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, so up levels.

807
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 1: That's our cue to go, cars making noise. We just

808
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: want to thank all of our loyal listeners that are

809
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 1: still listening at this point.

810
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 2: No matter what our names are, no matter what.

811
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 1: Our names are, maybe you have a story where you've

812
00:37:56,920 --> 00:38:00,040
Speaker 1: gone through this professionally and you've gotten divorced, Like what

813
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: do you do?

814
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 2: We could up level to Amy Elizabeth and Catherine Mary.

815
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:07,800
Speaker 2: That's my name, so many names for people to remember.

816
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 2: They sound very professional names, Amy Elizabeth, you sound like

817
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 2: somebody from the Gilded Age.

818
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, we could talk about all things eighteen hundreds.

819
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 2: That's what we're too.

820
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 1: We're gonna like to know, like to know it. All

821
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:28,799
Speaker 1: of our outfits and dresses and umbrellas.

822
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:32,200
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, is it Gilded Age? When they

823
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 2: like churned butter and stuff or is that a long

824
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:34,359
Speaker 2: time ago?

825
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 1: I think some people still churn funder. But like the

826
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: light bulb was invented then, I only know that because

827
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 1: Thomas Edison was on one of the episodes.

828
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 2: You could upload your original light bulb that still works

829
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 2: to this day. Huh from the Gilded Age. I told

830
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 2: you about the light bulbs, how they've changed the way

831
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 2: they've worked.

832
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because you said they were supposed to last

833
00:38:55,120 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 1: seventy five years. Yes, and then your lightbulbs. We need

834
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:02,759
Speaker 1: a light bulb that's gonna last forever. But that's so

835
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 1: many things. M hmm. There's really trying. Everybody's just trying

836
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 1: to get us to spend more money. Yeah, that's the

837
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: cat and I we're gonna be We're going to give

838
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,640
Speaker 1: you our podcast. We're gonnakeep giving you our podcast for free,

839
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 1: but we may up level to some other things that

840
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 1: would be things added value that you could invest in

841
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: for yourself.

842
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:25,239
Speaker 2: Like sourder starters and pottery kids.

843
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 1: Our cooking show. But else Okay, I think this is

844
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 1: Houston's like, what is happening? Hi Houston? He's editing and

845
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 1: he's probably like, why is this still going?

846
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 2: A cat?

847
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 1: Where can people find you on Instagram.

848
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 2: Cat van Buren.

849
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 1: And I am at Radio Amy and I will see

850
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 1: y'all on Thursday. I'm gonna have my dermatologist on. Oh,

851
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 1: kinds of questions like how often you should be showering,

852
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 1: how often you should be washing your hair.

853
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 2: What temperature water to use? In the show we are?

854
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 1: Do you know that's lukewarm?

855
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:02,800
Speaker 2: Okay, well it would be nice to hear from them.

856
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 1: Well, I know, but whenever I said it, I said,

857
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 1: my dermatal, I mean yes, coming from his voice, you

858
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 1: mean like it has more credibility.

859
00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, no offense, thank you.

860
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 1: Lukewarm showers, but like how long should they be? And

861
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 1: then because boyfriend, my boyfriend, he doesn't he won't shower

862
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 1: every day. Sometimes he'll just lean in and like wash

863
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 1: his hair because he doesn't want to dry his skin out.

864
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,759
Speaker 2: And my word deidurant. So oh, I feel it.

865
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 1: If I had learned this early on, it might be

866
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:30,919
Speaker 1: an ick.

867
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 2: But now I'm like, wait, what's the rationale of not

868
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 2: showering your body?

869
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 1: He says, we don't need to wash our skin every day.

870
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 1: And that's why I'm going to talk to my dermatologists.

871
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:43,759
Speaker 2: Sometimes I want to take two showers a day.

872
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 1: I know, he says I shower too much.

873
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 2: He washes his hair more than he probably should wash

874
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:48,879
Speaker 2: his hair.

875
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I mean, I don't know honestly how

876
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:53,719
Speaker 1: many days he can go without a shower and he

877
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 1: doesn't smell.

878
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 2: But it's probably because he's wearing deodorant.

879
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, but he doesn't. He tells me a shower too much.

880
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:03,359
Speaker 1: And then the other day he was like we were

881
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 1: on the phone. He was like, hold on, I gotta

882
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:06,919
Speaker 1: go just stick my hair on the water real quick.

883
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 1: And I was like, wait, why aren't you just getting

884
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 1: in the shower. And He's like, I'm not gonna wash

885
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 1: my body today. It's not my body washing day.

886
00:41:16,520 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 2: I also just like love taking a shower, so do I.

887
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:21,719
Speaker 1: I love taking a bath too. But we're gonna talk

888
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: about this sort of stuff, like if you like taking

889
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 1: hot baths, like what do we do for our skin?

890
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:27,440
Speaker 2: Yeah?

891
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:31,359
Speaker 1: And then scalp health. Dermochild just focused a lot on

892
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:33,719
Speaker 1: scalp health. I didn't realize.

893
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 2: That really, so like is dry shampoo bad for our health? Yeah?

894
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 1: I do have a question for him about dry shampoo.

895
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:44,960
Speaker 1: And then other things like some stuff is just is

896
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: this trendy and good marketing or do we need to

897
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:50,480
Speaker 1: buy it? Or what drug store things do you really like?

898
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 1: How do you feel about face fitness?

899
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:55,280
Speaker 2: How do you feel about facial cupping.

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00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 1: Let's see what he says. If he says, whatever, it

901
00:41:58,080 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 1: doesn't work, I'm to be like, you're a liar.

902
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 2: What are your credentials? Anyway?

903
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:07,120
Speaker 4: You say you're double board certified. You went to Harvard,

904
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:13,839
Speaker 4: right diploma, So anyway, I'm hoping he doesn't. If he does,

905
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 4: want to be like gott Ney Botox, just object me.

906
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:20,239
Speaker 2: Now you have to go to bed. I feel like

907
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 2: it's time for you to like reach that.

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00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:25,280
Speaker 1: Okay, bye bye