Speaker 1: Valentine's Day is here and we're celebrating with a special
Speaker 1: Gallentine's Day addition.
Speaker 2: Look at me, I'm over here getting ready to get excited.
Speaker 3: It was getting real hot and spicy up in here,
Speaker 3: you know, in the gym, in the bedroom.
Speaker 2: Short big ones, get in my way, never out of
Speaker 2: my lad been like you was in the mom one.
Speaker 1: So what is gonna be? Baby squad? We've been the
Speaker 1: god get you running on us?
Speaker 3: Got what you need?
Speaker 1: Baby? Won't you keep me company?
Speaker 2: Give me something to due and not get I just
Speaker 2: go one for you when we get home, if you
Speaker 2: let me put it when out at the town.
Speaker 1: Hey guys, we are back with another episode of Humble Batty.
Speaker 1: Yes I'm sure, I'm actually Nicole.
Speaker 3: And I'm Alexis Well Stardomire and we are the Humble Beatties.
Speaker 1: Yes, you guys love us in the air. Yes, it is.
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day is here and we're celebrating with a special
Speaker 1: Gallentine's Day addition. Love that while Valentine's Day is often
Speaker 1: about romance, Gallentin's Day it's all about celebrating friendship. Yes,
Speaker 1: it is deeff love and the amazing women in our
Speaker 1: lives like you too, Ladies, whether you're single, in a relationship,
Speaker 1: or just wanted an excuse to have fun with your girls,
Speaker 1: this episode is just for you. Yes, welcome. We're going
Speaker 1: to dive into what Galentine's Day really means, how people
Speaker 1: celebrate it, Ladies. Yes, what does Galentine's Day mean to you?
Speaker 1: And do you celebrate Galentine's Day?
Speaker 3: Galentine's Day to me means a time for self reflection,
Speaker 3: self love, really just about really Alexis, I feel like
Speaker 3: I like to take time to really dive into me,
Speaker 3: whether it's quiet time, a spa day, staycation, or go
Speaker 3: to the beach, or a combination of all of the
Speaker 3: above my favorite meal. I feel like it's good just
Speaker 3: to really tap into your soul and yourself. So to me,
Speaker 3: that's what Gallentine's Day is.
Speaker 2: Array.
Speaker 3: On the other hand, my oldest daughter, I'm still cleaning
Speaker 3: up confetti around the house because she hosted a little
Speaker 3: gathering for her cheerleader girls from school and they really
Speaker 3: indulged in, like bringing desserts and a favorite dish and
Speaker 3: just really just had time together with each other and
Speaker 3: play games and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: So that's cut.
Speaker 3: I see what they did there, and I like that
Speaker 3: they were in pj's. They were just really coordinated and
Speaker 3: had some fun time together.
Speaker 2: With no boys. No boys were allowed, So yeah, I
Speaker 2: know that. Yeah, what about you.
Speaker 4: Ash To be honest, I've never celebrated Gallentines before, but
Speaker 4: I've seen it, like over the years, I've seen.
Speaker 2: You've been in my house for Galentine.
Speaker 1: We did a that was Gallantine. Yes, oh shit, I didn't.
Speaker 4: Know it was Galentine because I thought we were like
Speaker 4: blue or something.
Speaker 1: No, no, I'm.
Speaker 3: Did you come when we did the Gallantine? We were
Speaker 3: on the roof and did a little vibe at the house.
Speaker 1: Okay, wellite me next time.
Speaker 3: I will.
Speaker 1: We better get an invite. Yeah, I didn't.
Speaker 4: I've never I don't think I've ever done a Gallantine's Day,
Speaker 4: but I've seen like people, you know, hosts, different things,
Speaker 4: Like I've seen people have like people come whole like
Speaker 4: concerts and dinners and like they get all dressed up
Speaker 4: and it's like really really cute. So I would definitely
Speaker 4: like be into it. But Phil, we've been together. He
Speaker 4: caught me when I was young. Yeah, we've been celebrating
Speaker 4: Valentine's Day together for the past sixteen years. Yeah, so,
Speaker 4: but I mean, I'm down to doing Valentine's and bite
Speaker 4: me Alexa.
Speaker 1: I want to come. I'm actually doing one and you guys, everybody.
Speaker 1: It was the last minute thing. I was talking to Ashley.
Speaker 1: I was like, we should do something like at Galentine's sake.
Speaker 1: So Wednesday I reached out to the chef. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: we're gonna get y'all some pajamas. They don't have to
Speaker 1: be matching, but I'm doing a little special thing at
Speaker 1: the house.
Speaker 2: For y'all beautiful.
Speaker 1: It's gonna make you. We're gonna have fun, get drunk,
Speaker 1: y'all go back to y'all.
Speaker 2: Meeting if we have one.
Speaker 3: I mean, that's a good thing about Gallentinees, though it's inclusive,
Speaker 3: because for us single gals, it can be a little
Speaker 3: bit like intrusive and very much sad around this time
Speaker 3: of the year, just because it's commercialized holiday that's all.
Speaker 2: Over the place.
Speaker 3: You walk in the Walgreens, you see the candy shaped
Speaker 3: hearts like with the chocolates in there, the flowers. You know,
Speaker 3: in your workplace, everyone sees balloons and flowers being delivered
Speaker 3: and gifts and all that kind of stuff. So you
Speaker 3: can get a little lonely and sad around this time
Speaker 3: of the year.
Speaker 1: I'm not getting lonely. I'm taking serenity to Nickelodeon's studios.
Speaker 2: Oh that's gonna be just you.
Speaker 1: Do have a mommy daughter Gallentin's.
Speaker 4: I think it's good that you make the holiday what
Speaker 4: you want of it. I mean, it's about love. So
Speaker 4: there's so many different types of love, different ways you
Speaker 4: can display love. So I think that's cute. You know,
Speaker 4: you're spending time with your daughter, your daughter spending time
Speaker 4: with her homegirls, you having the Gallentines for all the
Speaker 4: girls like, I think that's that's great.
Speaker 2: I love that for us little extra.
Speaker 3: I don't think guys do like Gallentines like a guyant.
Speaker 1: They don't care about none of that. So, but did
Speaker 1: you know that isn't Valentine's Day. It's the most money
Speaker 1: spent holiday really over Christmas. Oh damn yeah.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 2: They go all out because they want the roll out.
Speaker 3: The red carpet or the rose carpet, or like the
Speaker 3: gifts and everywhere.
Speaker 1: Do women buy their do y'all? Do you buy your
Speaker 1: your man something for Valentine's If.
Speaker 4: You know, Phil is not like a gift type of person.
Speaker 4: He just wants some good ass wop.
Speaker 5: Later liked lay he won't.
Speaker 1: I know, that's right, you got time to do the
Speaker 1: call it.
Speaker 4: But the starfish, Oh no, no, no, no cockroa she said,
Speaker 4: cock cockroach that night.
Speaker 1: Ain't no starfishing that night. He could get some wap
Speaker 1: that night.
Speaker 2: Okay, So then that's preparation. You can be ready to go,
Speaker 2: have a ready time.
Speaker 1: Are you bringing out your what the kids? The tools? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: everything comes out, everything comes out. Do the kids go away?
Speaker 1: We go like usually we'll do.
Speaker 2: Like a see that's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: Go book that hotel, y'all get away, lead them kids.
Speaker 3: It's not for them this time exactly. I love that
Speaker 3: for you guys.
Speaker 1: Coming back a little puss.
Speaker 3: Because they said November, right, Valentine's baby, and then Scorpio
Speaker 3: come and yeah from Valentine's.
Speaker 1: What you're doing for Valentine's Dayly, I don't know yet.
Speaker 3: I mean, I haven't decided I do. I don't know
Speaker 3: if it's going to be sand or snow or what.
Speaker 1: I don't options.
Speaker 2: I don't, I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't mind being booed up. I mean it's a
Speaker 3: time to get a seedbla.
Speaker 1: Wait, what do you want to do.
Speaker 2: I'm open. It's whatever.
Speaker 3: Like if someone is like, let's go out or let's
Speaker 3: let's go away, I can.
Speaker 1: Get away and get a room on the other side
Speaker 1: of town.
Speaker 2: I'm down for all of that.
Speaker 3: So it needs to be planned a little bit so
Speaker 3: I can, like, you know, bring some some some uh accessories.
Speaker 1: White legs. What are thees I need to know?
Speaker 3: I mean it could start with clothing, so some some
Speaker 3: I feel like, yes, some lunch of ray, we have
Speaker 3: some accessories like that, and see with a trench coat
Speaker 3: with nothing, nothing about It's okay, It's okay, you know,
Speaker 3: look at me.
Speaker 2: I'm over here getting ready to get excited. Okay, okay
Speaker 2: for the game.
Speaker 1: Look, the viewers need the lex Burt. What they gotta do,
Speaker 1: the lex Furt expert. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I just like I like the element of surprise. I
Speaker 3: also like just the teasing and just like the show
Speaker 3: of it all.
Speaker 2: That's cute and sexy and I just want to have
Speaker 2: a good time.
Speaker 1: And you bring like dessert to the bed.
Speaker 2: No, that's messy to me, Like, I don't need dessert.
Speaker 2: I'm the dessert.
Speaker 1: Have you ever had pop rocks?
Speaker 2: Tell me about that.
Speaker 1: You gotta get the pop rock.
Speaker 2: What are the pop rocks for surel you put.
Speaker 1: Them in your mouth? I do you put the pop
Speaker 1: rocks in your mouth? M so then there's a lot
Speaker 1: of Yes, it's poppened while you sucking.
Speaker 2: Sucking and looking and sucking and look.
Speaker 1: Okay, then this is the dirty edition of mumble Babies.
Speaker 1: I like hot rocks.
Speaker 3: So you're saying, bring some something I thought you were
Speaker 3: going to meet, Say something like some syrup and some honey,
Speaker 3: some whip cream.
Speaker 4: You should have a little good for your Gallentine's a
Speaker 4: good idea, so.
Speaker 1: Gallant before some Norman and cream. Yeah, this is too
Speaker 1: much lemmon cream for the mouth. Can't take it?
Speaker 2: You got for the mouth? I've never heard of it
Speaker 2: for the mouth.
Speaker 1: Man like when you put it if you don't.
Speaker 2: Other numb and cream I've heard for like the anal.
Speaker 1: Not man for the ainal. I never heard of that.
Speaker 1: This is too much, okay, too much listen for the
Speaker 1: mouth that makes you slop mooring and being like when
Speaker 1: you slop.
Speaker 2: Okay, this is.
Speaker 1: A lot, is it? I mean it could be batter.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we gotta put some some little portier in
Speaker 1: the back. They can get. I'm telling y'all, get y'all
Speaker 1: some little Portier. The Laportier just turned everything like it's
Speaker 1: like a heat of like a warm get you and
Speaker 1: ready to go. Yeah, something about that.
Speaker 3: And something you know that yack that the good brown,
Speaker 3: That good brown gets.
Speaker 1: You, right. You gotta stay away from that right now.
Speaker 1: That should have get you in trouble.
Speaker 4: All right, y'all, So back to Gallantine day. You're gonna
Speaker 4: put the goodies in the goodie bag.
Speaker 3: Gotta okay, We're gonna take you to a whole other
Speaker 3: level of sex. I don't mind, never out of my name,
Speaker 3: and like you won and the more one.
Speaker 1: All right, you guys. We always get your dms, your
Speaker 1: suggestions on what we should talk about. So today we
Speaker 1: listen and we don't judge.
Speaker 2: Don't don't judge.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna talk about it. The rise of love bombing.
Speaker 1: Have y'all ever heard of it? Love bombing? Yeah, I've
Speaker 1: heard of it. I've definitely heard of it. Is it
Speaker 1: real romance or is it manipulation?
Speaker 3: I think it is manipulation.
Speaker 1: But how do you know the difference?
Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a good question too, like a certain question
Speaker 3: to it.
Speaker 2: I don't know love bombing.
Speaker 3: Like an example of love bombing would be like over
Speaker 3: exaggerating something, right. I feel like, if you can't follow
Speaker 3: up and you can't be about what you're speaking on,
Speaker 3: then don't say it. I feel like you're exaggerating and
Speaker 3: you're getting my hopes up, And to me, that's the turnoff.
Speaker 2: If you can't deliver, I don't want it. I don't
Speaker 2: want it.
Speaker 3: If it's not real exactly. I mean, that's how I
Speaker 3: feel about that. What about you, guys?
Speaker 4: I think, you know, if somebody something comes off too
Speaker 4: good to be true in the beginning, that's like a
Speaker 4: red flag.
Speaker 1: So I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 4: I think a woman or anybody who is looking for
Speaker 4: love and then finally meet somebody that they feel like
Speaker 4: is giving them everything that they need and they're you know,
Speaker 4: doing all the things with affection and the gestures and
Speaker 4: everything like that, I feel like it can feel like
Speaker 4: it's real, But I think sometimes we have to take
Speaker 4: off the the rose colored yeah, and you know, just
Speaker 4: be a little realistic, like is this something that somebody
Speaker 4: can sustain, you know, right? Or is it just they're
Speaker 4: just trying to make me like them, Like they're just
Speaker 4: doing things to make me you know, yeah, exactly. I
Speaker 4: feel like it's kind of hard because when I first
Speaker 4: met Chad, he was I mean he's standing wine and
Speaker 4: dine and everything, so I would wouldn't call it love
Speaker 4: bumb and.
Speaker 1: I felt like it was like true behavior. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: but it's still consistent behavior when we were together, like
Speaker 1: he always I mean in the beginning, he was like
Speaker 1: going extra extra press, like every week I would wake
Speaker 1: up with something new. I don't know, because I mean
Speaker 1: he kept that behavior like it wasn't like it was
Speaker 1: just temporary, so he sustained it. He sustained it. It
Speaker 1: was it wasn't. I wouldn't say it was a love bomb, okay,
Speaker 1: but it's like, how do you know when does it
Speaker 1: come to an end when someone loved? Love bombs?
Speaker 4: Like I think when they show you that if they
Speaker 4: if they don't get something from you and then they
Speaker 4: try to like take it from you to punish you.
Speaker 1: Or so basically they doing it until they get what
Speaker 1: they want.
Speaker 2: Right, until they basically gain control of you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like here are these big gifts, here are these
Speaker 3: big wishes and these big things, and then now that
Speaker 3: I've got you, what are they actually chasing after now
Speaker 3: that they've captured, and.
Speaker 1: Then would it become manipulation once they feel like they
Speaker 1: want to regain you and get you back, so they
Speaker 1: go back to doing the thing. Do you is it
Speaker 1: still love vombing or is it now manipulation?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's both. I think it's both. It's one and
Speaker 4: the same. But I think, like, I don't know. For me,
Speaker 4: I feel like when somebody's doing too much, I just
Speaker 4: automatically I'm like, but who.
Speaker 1: Are you really?
Speaker 4: You know, if I can't if it's so much that
Speaker 4: I can't really tell, like and I'm not getting to
Speaker 4: know who you are, and like the reasons why you
Speaker 4: love me or like me outside of like you giving
Speaker 4: me stuff, and I can't figure out the reasons why
Speaker 4: I really like you outside of the stuff that you're
Speaker 4: love bombing me with. Then I think that's like a
Speaker 4: que to be like what is this?
Speaker 1: I respect, I've seen this. I was listening to this
Speaker 1: guy talk and he was basically saying, like, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to overdo it. I'm not going to give you
Speaker 1: expectations from as a man and not you know, not
Speaker 1: follow through with it. So you're gonna how I treat
Speaker 1: you when I first meet you, this is what you're
Speaker 1: gonna get. I like that throughout the durate, right throughout
Speaker 1: the duration. So if I'm not texting you like that, yeah,
Speaker 1: then that's what you're gonna get. Get used to that.
Speaker 1: And he said that he had problems with women like
Speaker 1: dating women because they felt like he wasn't serious. It
Speaker 1: wasn't that he's a busy man and I don't want
Speaker 1: to promise you something that I can't continue to do.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, I respect that
Speaker 1: because a lot of a lot of men love bomb
Speaker 1: like they go over the top to get what they
Speaker 1: want and once they got it, once they got what
Speaker 1: they have, then it's you know, you get complacent and
Speaker 1: it's not the same.
Speaker 3: I feel like courting is essential to this, like courting,
Speaker 3: like old school courting. Let me let me show you,
Speaker 3: let me let me show you what my intents are.
Speaker 3: I prefer someone who's consistent. It's very attractive and you
Speaker 3: mean what you say, You say what you mean to me.
Speaker 3: I appreciate someone who's intentional, like I feel like when
Speaker 3: you're we're having dialogue and conversation.
Speaker 2: I like the phone calls. I like the little text message.
Speaker 1: You'd be on the phone with your legs in the air.
Speaker 3: I like all of that shit, like talk to me
Speaker 3: on the phone, I do I kill my three am.
Speaker 3: My three am wake up call was like, hey babe,
Speaker 3: I'm just I just made it in and I just
Speaker 3: want to talk and you look up, it's like thirty minutes.
Speaker 2: I like that because I came up in.
Speaker 3: The error of that. Like on the phone, if we
Speaker 3: lead together, yes, you'd better have the extra extra extra
Speaker 3: long court because there's only two lines in the house.
Speaker 3: If you were lucky, you would pull it into your
Speaker 3: room one hang up, like one ring, one hang up,
Speaker 3: and then you like call back the real quiet, you know,
Speaker 3: or nights and weekends, that's when you can turn up.
Speaker 3: So like, I come from that era of just like
Speaker 3: that intention. So I appreciate that because we do all
Speaker 3: live busy lives. And I feel like when people are
Speaker 3: transparent and they're open and honest about their time, then
Speaker 3: they're like, okay, well I can text you little quick thing.
Speaker 3: You know, you start to know your schedule or they
Speaker 3: know your schedule. I think it becomes sexy and kind
Speaker 3: of flirty when you're like sending like your little timestamps
Speaker 3: of just what you got going on.
Speaker 1: And that's the best feeling. Like, how do you let
Speaker 1: that feeling continue to last? Like the butterflies and the
Speaker 1: just being what what are things that you can do
Speaker 1: to continue that, like when you first meet someone to
Speaker 1: have that same feeling five ten years from now? Is
Speaker 1: it possible, ash you want to answer that for how
Speaker 1: to keep the butterflies? Yes?
Speaker 2: And is it possible? Because I feel like it is.
Speaker 4: I mean, I feel like I don't have butterflies anymore.
Speaker 1: I have excitement.
Speaker 4: I have I don't know what you call it. It's
Speaker 4: not butterflies. It's definitely different. It's definitely a more mature feeling.
Speaker 4: It's not butterflies. It's like a sense of like safety
Speaker 4: and home. Like yeah, it's like at the end of
Speaker 4: the day, I know where home is. I know, I
Speaker 4: just have this sense of like feeling safe. You know
Speaker 4: what I mean, you're secure, you know, so I think
Speaker 4: I still you know, we're I'm excited to you know,
Speaker 4: not necessary. It's not excitement. I wouldn't say it's excitement.
Speaker 4: It's just literally for me, a peace of mind, a
Speaker 4: piece of home when I get back to the house,
Speaker 4: you know, I know, like he's home or if I'm
Speaker 4: out and he calls me, like you know, it's him
Speaker 4: checking to make sure I'm safe.
Speaker 1: Like it's just for me. It's like a safety thing.
Speaker 4: Like I know, somebody in the world is always making
Speaker 4: sure I'm good and for me. Yeah, I mean that
Speaker 4: kind of like Trump's butterflies, it kind of that grows
Speaker 4: into something more. But I think just making sure that
Speaker 4: you guys still relate on an everyday basis because we're
Speaker 4: together all the time.
Speaker 1: We live together.
Speaker 4: You know, he's retired, so he's home, so you know,
Speaker 4: it's not the same as like you know when you
Speaker 4: go days or whatever without seeing somebody, Like I see
Speaker 4: him all the time, so it's not like the same excitement,
Speaker 4: but just being happy to have somebody to share life with, yes,
Speaker 4: to share like experiences, like I still get excited to
Speaker 4: come home and tell him things that I've done or
Speaker 4: things that I'm excited to do.
Speaker 1: So for me, it just it's a best friend. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: I like the chase, I like the butterflies. I love
Speaker 2: all of that.
Speaker 3: Like I want to keep it going because I feel
Speaker 3: like I see older couples that are really in love
Speaker 3: and I attain to that, like even just where you
Speaker 3: can dance if that's what you started off doing and
Speaker 3: sharing music, vibing together or traveling those shared interests.
Speaker 2: I feel like that is a goal of mine.
Speaker 3: That I want to sustain and be able to like
Speaker 3: look forward to in my relationship going forward.
Speaker 1: So this one is for you dating while healing. This
Speaker 1: one for you, can you truly find love without being
Speaker 1: one hundred percent heal?
Speaker 3: I believe so only because I feel like no one
Speaker 3: is ever one hundred percent hell, And I would even
Speaker 3: say that despite if you've been married divorce. We all
Speaker 3: have as humans, we have different triggers, we have different
Speaker 3: experiences in different ways that we move because of whether
Speaker 3: it's how we were raised with audnesses exactly exactly.
Speaker 2: And to me it's always daily struggles too.
Speaker 3: You know, it could be something today, it could be
Speaker 3: in something another month from.
Speaker 2: Now, and so to me, it's just like I feel, yes,
Speaker 2: you can.
Speaker 3: To me, it's more about where you are in your
Speaker 3: heart and where what are you willing to give?
Speaker 2: What is what space? What capacity is left?
Speaker 1: Right? But don't get it, I feel like, don't get
Speaker 1: it twisted, Like start dating and you're not over that relationship,
Speaker 1: because that's what a lot of people, Oh yeah, you
Speaker 1: have to get You definitely have to give yourself grace
Speaker 1: and Tom, a lot of people get caught up and
Speaker 1: you know, going to the next without fully healing and
Speaker 1: recovering from the previous relationship.
Speaker 2: Of course, so it takes time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely takes Tom.
Speaker 3: But I also have talked to friends now that have said,
Speaker 3: you know what Alex is, I see that that vibrancy
Speaker 3: in you now where it's more attractive compared to there
Speaker 3: was a little grayer vibe before.
Speaker 2: Because I'm just coming off.
Speaker 1: Of this lex that I know now from the lex
Speaker 1: when I first met. It's totally different. And I love
Speaker 1: this this lex right now. It's like you own it,
Speaker 1: like you you just come in a room and it's
Speaker 1: just sunshine.
Speaker 2: Thank you for that.
Speaker 1: And that's what I love about you. Like you're very
Speaker 1: You're very secure in who you are as a woman.
Speaker 1: No matter what you've been through. You can't see it
Speaker 1: because you've overcome all that. And I just love that,
Speaker 1: Like every time you thank you, come next to us,
Speaker 1: I feel like it's nothing but sunshine, thank you.
Speaker 3: And that comes from healing, that comes from doing the
Speaker 3: work that comes from really like therapy, talking to myself,
Speaker 3: self love, reassurance, and really just opening up and really
Speaker 3: discovering that spark of who I am as a lexus.
Speaker 3: Because I feel like in any relationship, you want to
Speaker 3: be a whole. And I pray and hope that my
Speaker 3: partner is a whole too. That way we can come
Speaker 3: together and really be secure in ourselves separately, be to
Speaker 3: create that one hole together.
Speaker 2: So that's what I've tanged for.
Speaker 1: So I'm there.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm ready and I'll open so we shall
Speaker 3: see what I'm.
Speaker 1: Happy for you. Lex. I love this leg Thank you.
Speaker 2: I love this lex too.
Speaker 1: It's so beautiful, the sexiness, the it's like it's a
Speaker 1: different type of vibe from when I'm here and.
Speaker 2: I'm in my essence right now.
Speaker 3: You know, it's just I just feel like my I've
Speaker 3: done my work. I've done I put in the work,
Speaker 3: and I'm at this space now where I'm just open
Speaker 3: and and I and I'm like, there was some sad times,
Speaker 3: there was some some heavy times, but I'm so aware
Speaker 3: now of who I am and you overcame it. I did,
Speaker 3: I did, and whoever can tap into this space right.
Speaker 2: Now and catch this butterfly. Good luck to them, you know,
Speaker 2: because they'll be blessed, right.
Speaker 1: Yeah about that's right. Listen, ladies, I mean we all have.
Speaker 1: I mean you've been in your you're still in your relationship,
Speaker 1: but we have you know, we've overcame the hurt and
Speaker 1: it's another size. It's sunshine.
Speaker 2: It is it's sunshine.
Speaker 3: It's just what do they say, you know, weeping myndor
Speaker 3: for a night.
Speaker 1: But joy in the morning. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Amen, it happens. I'm a prime example in a witness.
Speaker 3: So that's one of my testimonies for sure.
Speaker 1: My last one lone distance relatelationships in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: I'm down for that shit.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I actually, honestly, I wouldn't. I would be
Speaker 1: down with the lone distance relationship.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm down for yeah, just because I have my
Speaker 3: home that I'm sharing with my children right now.
Speaker 1: Like it feels good to be by yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that.
Speaker 3: I like when they're away. I like when they're with
Speaker 3: their dad. I like when I have my time and
Speaker 3: to be long distance it's cool just because you know,
Speaker 3: absence makes the her girl fonder and so you know,
Speaker 3: it's the anticipation of when we're gonna meet next.
Speaker 2: That's how I love that.
Speaker 1: Right when Chad and I was together, you know, it
Speaker 1: was a I was in Tampa, he was in Miami,
Speaker 1: and it was just it was excitement to oh, I'm
Speaker 1: going to see my baby. I feel like it's more
Speaker 1: excitement and the lone distance and then you still get
Speaker 1: you're still able to get back home and just have
Speaker 1: your own like you don't have to deal with someone
Speaker 1: twenty four hours of a day like okay, now, cause.
Speaker 3: We're nurturers too, like give a lot, we want to
Speaker 3: might want to make sure they're good, So it's good
Speaker 3: to like kind of like look forward to that.
Speaker 1: I like that. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I know a couple actually who were married for seven years,
Speaker 3: lived apart because they both had their own separate lives,
Speaker 3: finished building a home together while they were in this relationship,
Speaker 3: and have just now moved in together after seven years
Speaker 3: oh wow of marriage. So like, I see it and
Speaker 3: they love it. They love it, and I'm down with that.
Speaker 3: I could see that happening.
Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not mad at that.
Speaker 1: I think I wouldn't be mad at it either.
Speaker 2: You know I like their marriage to yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3: Just because I'm on I'm on this my trajectory of
Speaker 3: where I'm at as alexis, whoever my partner is will
Speaker 3: understand that. You know, we are in and out of
Speaker 3: the country at times, and you know where I'm at
Speaker 3: in my space and just where I am with my children.
Speaker 2: There's things that they need.
Speaker 3: And whoever invest in me and understands I am, I'm
Speaker 3: like down to really accommodate them because I want them
Speaker 3: to accommodate me. Whether it's travel and we can. I
Speaker 3: love that, getting hopping on the plane, doing a quick
Speaker 3: forty eight hours or trips and tapping in real quick look,
Speaker 3: you know, meeting up for a date night somewhere in
Speaker 3: the middle. I'm down for that too.
Speaker 2: That's fun. It's axhilerating showing up in a trench coat with.
Speaker 3: Nothing, you know, as long as they know, you know, security,
Speaker 3: they don't put me over to the side, right somethings
Speaker 3: beeping or something that I have to do a.
Speaker 1: Real strip shirt, you got a bullet out, That's what
Speaker 1: I've heard.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying no, but loo key, it's just I
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 3: I would be open to it, just because it's twenty
Speaker 3: twenty five and been in a space and the fact
Speaker 3: that we travel so much.
Speaker 2: I meet I meet people in the airport.
Speaker 3: I meet people, you know, in these these parties, these events,
Speaker 3: and these exclusive vibes. So they have their life going
Speaker 3: on and that's attractive, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I got things going on here in Florida. I'm a
Speaker 2: Miami girl right now. So it's like, but I'm also
Speaker 2: a travel friend too.
Speaker 3: So okay, look at that little laugh, look at the maths,
Speaker 3: lex blessed. But you know we're excuding love over here.
Speaker 2: And this is my month. This is my birthday.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it is your birthday month.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm off for a little freaky little.
Speaker 1: They say. They say them posses are freaky.
Speaker 2: We are fish, you know.
Speaker 1: They are the true definition of a sex expert. Sexpert
Speaker 1: or lexfort.
Speaker 4: Like, I don't know what you're talking about, but now
Speaker 4: it's time for the hot girl headlines.
Speaker 1: I would rather play a game? Are you down? Okay?
Speaker 4: I mean, y'all got me going nervous?
Speaker 1: Games?
Speaker 4: I like games, Okay, So the game is called would
Speaker 4: you rather? Okay, so like Yack in the day basement,
Speaker 4: would you rather wait? What he was playing games in
Speaker 4: the basement? What y'all used to do back in the day.
Speaker 2: That day, I'm just saying, I'm throwing it out.
Speaker 1: There's your mind, not the good, and I'm just playing.
Speaker 4: Actually, yes, would you rather I'm gonna give y'all some
Speaker 4: scenario and you gotta let me know what you would
Speaker 4: rather do? Would you rather date someone who's amazing in
Speaker 4: bed but terrible at communicating, or someone who's an incredible
Speaker 4: communicator but average in the bed.
Speaker 1: You gotta be good in bed.
Speaker 4: Yeah, good in bed, but he sucks at communicating.
Speaker 1: This is because I know how to carry a conversation, baby,
Speaker 1: I just need you to be good.
Speaker 4: But communication, I feel like it breaks up relationships like immediately,
Speaker 4: like you can help somebody.
Speaker 1: Get better in the bed. I mean, we ain't doing nothing,
Speaker 1: but like we get married.
Speaker 3: I don't know, I feel like four place starts a hello,
Speaker 3: you know, Like, so the communication is part of like
Speaker 3: the like that little bit of that.
Speaker 1: You know what? That is true. You can't say with
Speaker 1: women it doesn't get you here first. Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 3: So I feel like communication is a big deal because
Speaker 3: then you can communicate what you like and don't like
Speaker 3: and don't what you need and don't need.
Speaker 2: You know what, I'm saying so.
Speaker 1: That, but what if they know how to give it
Speaker 1: to you?
Speaker 3: And so I'm trying to tell you, like I can
Speaker 3: work with the like, oh if they can?
Speaker 1: Okay, what if? What if they what if they are
Speaker 1: a good communicator? And what is this? Maybe's average? Let's
Speaker 1: make it because average can make it. Let's make it interest.
Speaker 3: So just average sex, No, Nope, nope, we're gonna make
Speaker 3: it interesting.
Speaker 1: Okay, average, but we're gonna make.
Speaker 2: It in Oh, my goodness, what.
Speaker 1: If he's a great communicator and he's probably not, probably not.
Speaker 4: It's a past, it's at hall ass game.
Speaker 1: It's okay.
Speaker 2: He's a tickler, all right, tickle with no pickle?
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 4: Next one, next rushing.
Speaker 2: Y'all know, we don't want nobody.
Speaker 1: With a little but we gotta lexico the communication.
Speaker 3: But with a pickler, my goodness, a tickler with a good.
Speaker 1: You don't want it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't do it.
Speaker 1: Don't want that. I like death.
Speaker 4: Like we're gonna say, no, everybody wants that. Nobody wants
Speaker 4: that little Internet.
Speaker 1: Well, everybody ain't blessed with.
Speaker 2: But you also don't want anything ginormous either.
Speaker 1: I'd rather have something enormous than a little don't think.
Speaker 2: So, I don't you rather go big big dog? Like
Speaker 2: you rather go like?
Speaker 1: Now? I don't know now, so you will rather have
Speaker 1: a tickler than big dog?
Speaker 3: Now, with the influx of toys and like other things.
Speaker 2: I feel like you can work with a smaller penis one.
Speaker 1: You can work with the tickler.
Speaker 2: I don't want to.
Speaker 3: Give me the communication, give me the four play, give
Speaker 3: me the other things.
Speaker 1: I don't want.
Speaker 2: I don't want to smell I.
Speaker 1: I don't think I could say she want a big dog.
Speaker 2: She don't want a puppy, she want a big dog.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, can we move on now? Please?
Speaker 2: Yes you can.
Speaker 4: Would you rather have an intimate encounter in a public
Speaker 4: place or a private location.
Speaker 1: Or private?
Speaker 2: I would do public. I would definitely do public.
Speaker 1: I fine, it's the excitement. Okay. So have you done
Speaker 1: it in a public location? Yes? Dress the room? Okay?
Speaker 2: What about you a private bathroom in the back.
Speaker 1: Of a club.
Speaker 2: Okay, I've done it on an airplane.
Speaker 1: Airplane. You really got the private?
Speaker 2: Yeah, my high clubs.
Speaker 1: Next part of my high club an? Okay.
Speaker 4: Would you rather have a secret admirer or a confident
Speaker 4: person who makes their intentions known immediately.
Speaker 3: I don't mind the secret admirer that is going to
Speaker 3: eventually reveal themselves, like.
Speaker 2: We gotta I need. I want someone to come up
Speaker 2: to me.
Speaker 3: I don't. I'm not, I don't go after It's often
Speaker 3: I feel like I want someone to be interested in me.
Speaker 3: And if it's mutual, then I'm like, oh yeah, let's
Speaker 3: let's lock in. Okay, let's see what's let's see what's
Speaker 3: up with this?
Speaker 4: What do you want secret admirer or a confident person
Speaker 4: who comes up to you immediately?
Speaker 1: I like playing the cat in the mouse. Okay, colaborate.
Speaker 1: Tell me I would like a secret at Mars.
Speaker 3: So you want you want someone to just not reveal
Speaker 3: who they are, but give you all the hints, give
Speaker 3: you awesome vibes, but like you don't even want them
Speaker 3: to You want you want to figure out who it is.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm trying to say. What if the grand
Speaker 3: revel after all these things. Let's say, for example, no,
Speaker 3: you know like that man who was messaging you that time, No,
Speaker 3: I need situation.
Speaker 1: I need you need to know.
Speaker 3: And if they pull up on you and then they
Speaker 3: show like interest and all of that.
Speaker 1: Then yeah, I need to know. Yeah, there you go.
Speaker 3: I need to know too. I want to know what's up.
Speaker 3: But come after me if you want this, come get me.
Speaker 4: Last one, would you rather be blindfolded or tied up
Speaker 4: during a spicy encounter?
Speaker 2: Both?
Speaker 1: Oh? Ship? Right? All right?
Speaker 3: That was because that element of surprise is there and
Speaker 3: your senses are heightened, because if one of your major
Speaker 3: senses is taken away, then each you know, your taste,
Speaker 3: your hearing, your smell, your touch, everything turns up a bit.
Speaker 3: Yeah like that ship, Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: And give me a safe word.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, thank you for playing. I like that.
Speaker 4: We need to do a little bit more of that,
Speaker 4: all right, I got y'all. Next time we'll dive a
Speaker 4: little deeper. And so would you rather yes?
Speaker 1: But we have now like.
Speaker 2: Never out of my Name's like you won in the moon.
Speaker 3: This is a segment of unfiltered and unfollowed.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 3: Yes, the wedding invites snub. I mean we all feel
Speaker 3: some kind of way when we're not invited. Somewhere right,
Speaker 3: A girl you considered a friend gets engaged, plans a
Speaker 3: big wedding, but doesn't invite you, but still watches all
Speaker 3: your ig stories, follow, unfollow, or block.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't.
Speaker 4: I would keep following her. I feel like we're still friends.
Speaker 4: Not everybody's invited to everything, especially like life events. Weddings
Speaker 4: are big. Weddings are expensive, exactly expensive, all the things. Therefore,
Speaker 4: you know whoever the bride and groom want to be there. Yeah,
Speaker 4: so I wouldn't take it personal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wouldn't take it personal unless it's a close friend.
Speaker 1: But if it's just a friend, you know they have
Speaker 1: who they want to invite into there, and like Ashley said,
Speaker 1: they are expensive. Yes, nothing to take personal.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you.
Speaker 3: Never know, like you know, it could be an intimate
Speaker 3: wedding of ten, it could be or it could be whatever.
Speaker 2: So we don't know, we don't know.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 3: The Toxic podcast Bro, a guy you went on a
Speaker 3: one day with, starts a podcast where he rants about
Speaker 3: how modern women bring nothing to the table.
Speaker 2: Do you follow, back, unfollow, or block.
Speaker 4: It's a lot of those child will be on following
Speaker 4: the whole goddamn Instagram. If Yeah, I feel like everybody
Speaker 4: you know has an opinion, everybody wants to share their opinion,
Speaker 4: and if it's if you disagree with everybody and everything,
Speaker 4: like you won't have any friends.
Speaker 1: You won't you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: It's like, it's your right to feel how you feel
Speaker 4: and say what you want to say.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You can't take everything to heart. Now.
Speaker 4: If I like something like, you know, there are some
Speaker 4: topics that we can really like stand on and be like, Okay,
Speaker 4: I need to set myself apart from this person. Yeah,
Speaker 4: but if it's just you know, it's a lot of
Speaker 4: dumb stuff on the Internet, I feel like you just
Speaker 4: have to filter it out, let it go in one
Speaker 4: air and.
Speaker 1: Out the other. Yeah, Charille, what do you think? I
Speaker 1: feel like it's just a podcast. Like they're entitled to
Speaker 1: their opinions, just like we are entitled to our opinions.
Speaker 1: We have a podcast. So it's nothing to get mad about.
Speaker 1: That's what it's for.
Speaker 2: That was their experience very much.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 2: What about the ghosting comeback?
Speaker 3: Someone who ghosted you six months ago suddenly pops into
Speaker 3: your d MS, Hey stranger or hey big hand.
Speaker 2: What are we gonna do? Ladies?
Speaker 1: Ignore?
Speaker 2: Yeah, because six months is a minute, right, that's a lie.
Speaker 3: They see you popping, They see you maybe a new haircut,
Speaker 3: new vibe new vibe like, yeah, yeah, ignore, ignore, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I like that. What about the ex's new boo? Your
Speaker 3: ex's new girlfriend follows you first likes all your old
Speaker 3: posts and comments, so pretty? What are we doing, ladies?
Speaker 3: From a pick two years ago? That's so weird two
Speaker 3: years ago, that's weird? Yeah, what are we doing?
Speaker 1: I would probably ignore that too. Ignore.
Speaker 2: He's a bear fan, right fan behavior?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, weird behavior, weirdos.
Speaker 2: Okay, the one who owes you money.
Speaker 3: They still haven't paid you back, but they're posting luxurious vacations,
Speaker 3: brunches and concert tickets.
Speaker 2: What are we doing, ladies?
Speaker 1: I'm calling them messaging where is my money? Exactly? Where
Speaker 1: are my coins? You're doing a little bit too much
Speaker 1: over that in come text noney, I need my coins.
Speaker 2: So not only are we we're gonna still keep following. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and we're gonna follow up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, follow up, absolutely, follow up.
Speaker 2: And lastly, the gym selfie overload.
Speaker 3: Someone posts fifteen gym selfies a day plus every workout set.
Speaker 2: Are we following blocking or is that too much? What
Speaker 2: are we doing?
Speaker 1: I mean, if it's something that they do and it's there,
Speaker 1: how they get paid, it's motivating.
Speaker 2: So it's lifestyle.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll be like, Okay, they got some new.
Speaker 4: I feel like I wouldn't unfollow or anything, but sometimes
Speaker 4: people do overposte. I mean, I love the mute, not
Speaker 4: for gem Sophie's because like I need motivating, like for gym.
Speaker 4: But if somebody's posting, for instance, them always shopping or
Speaker 4: always like spending money frivolously, you know, that's something that
Speaker 4: I need to work on, So I might like mute
Speaker 4: them because I don't need to be seeing that. Like
Speaker 4: I have to be conscious of the stuff that I'm
Speaker 4: taking in every days. So it's something that I feel
Speaker 4: triggers me and it's something that I'm trying to work on.
Speaker 4: Like if I see them going out to the club
Speaker 4: all the time or drinking all the time, and it's
Speaker 4: something that I'm personally trying to work on, then I
Speaker 4: might mute them or unfollow. Understand, But going to the gym,
Speaker 4: I need to do more.
Speaker 3: Listen, I see you motivate me by my little gym post.
Speaker 1: I throw up the deuces.
Speaker 3: They're motivating, the motivating I'm them. Last, let me see
Speaker 3: what Charilla doing today. I need to get that work
Speaker 3: out in and that fit, so I'm following.
Speaker 1: I don't be doing too much. But you don't be
Speaker 1: doing too much.
Speaker 2: No, no, you don't.
Speaker 1: Some people be Yeah, some people be doing too too much.
Speaker 1: I'll be in a gym like, girl, you need to stop. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then they'll pull their pants up tight so they
Speaker 1: little camel toe will move stuff. Wait, what is you
Speaker 1: doing over there?
Speaker 4: One time I feel about me, those bands were like
Speaker 4: sprunch up in the booty.
Speaker 1: Camera was like, that's a skirch. Yeah, I got what
Speaker 1: scrench booty is that. I just can't do it.
Speaker 4: I just feel like you see too much, like you
Speaker 4: can see all of my ass up in the crack.
Speaker 1: You know you can I have.
Speaker 2: I cannot wear those. I would turn that gym upside down.
Speaker 1: I can't wear those. I don't have the big old booty.
Speaker 1: But I just still feel like I wear some of them.
Speaker 1: But it's not too much of a scirnch. It dances
Speaker 1: it for sure, It doesn't hance it.
Speaker 2: You think people want to be.
Speaker 1: I love my low cut, my low back cuts where
Speaker 1: it's like the whole back out and then it's a
Speaker 1: low cut.
Speaker 4: I am not cute in the gym when I work out,
Speaker 4: I look you locked in. That's yeah, that's nothing cute
Speaker 4: about it. Yeah, I mean, but I.
Speaker 1: Get cute sometimes. Yeah, I do not be cute out.
Speaker 4: Yes, the clothes, I got all my old Nike stuff
Speaker 4: from when Phil had his Nike contract.
Speaker 1: I got brand new Nike stuff.
Speaker 4: It's old but for you like, but it's not like
Speaker 4: the cute scrunch booty and all the new like cut
Speaker 4: outfits that they have.
Speaker 1: I don't have none of it. Look, the gym has
Speaker 1: turned into a fashion show. It does like you gotta
Speaker 1: come in there match from It's the club at this point.
Speaker 1: Even even the prison gyms and I go to a
Speaker 1: prison gym. You waiter, what prison gym? Well, don't loose,
Speaker 1: tell me what. It don't look good on the inside.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of free weights. It's it's like.
Speaker 2: Ready prison gym.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we call it the prison jam. You got trap
Speaker 1: music in there, and you you and not.
Speaker 2: Just you're in there locked in.
Speaker 1: Even the prison gyms turning into a fashion show.
Speaker 2: I'm not mad at the motivation though, Like I'm here
Speaker 2: for it.
Speaker 3: Let me see what's going on. I want to see progress.
Speaker 3: I want to see the vibes all of that.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, listen I'm coming out with a little bit
Speaker 1: a leg video, so y'all make sure y'all stay and let.
Speaker 3: Us know you do have some beautiful legs. But thank
Speaker 3: you well, ladies. It was getting real hot and spicy
Speaker 3: up in here, you know, even in the gym in
Speaker 3: the bedroom. Got Shorty is a big one. What do
Speaker 3: we have next, Lady Charelle?
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Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship with the man who is paralyzed,
Speaker 1: and despite all my efforts to care for him, washing
Speaker 1: his clothes, helping him daily, he keeps mistreating me. He
Speaker 1: throws things at me when he's upset, and he recently
Speaker 1: started hitting my legs with his cane. I understand he's
Speaker 1: likely frustrated, but I'm reaching my breaking point. Do you
Speaker 1: think it's time for me to walk away? Since he
Speaker 1: can't not Rondo. First of all, was that shade talking
Speaker 1: about is it time for me to walk away? Since
Speaker 1: he can't, it's that shade.
Speaker 3: Or not Rondo to get some distance. Okay, let's let's
Speaker 3: start with that first.
Speaker 4: I don't care if you're paralyzed, it's stable or whatever, youbody,
Speaker 4: I should endure abuse like, there's not much for that.
Speaker 4: If he can't use his words, then it's an issue.
Speaker 1: It's a problem.
Speaker 4: So I definitely think that you should step away, make
Speaker 4: sure you find like a safe space.
Speaker 1: You should run away. You should be able.
Speaker 4: To find a safe space so that you guys can
Speaker 4: figure out your situation. And if he can't figure out
Speaker 4: a way to discuss whatever y'all issues are, then it's
Speaker 4: time for you to walk away for sure.
Speaker 1: Run away, run away.
Speaker 2: I agree with ash Like it's time to go.
Speaker 1: Maybe he needs some therapy of some sort.
Speaker 3: Because if you're the caretaker and this person is depending
Speaker 3: on you, that's abuse. Like it is ways to communicate,
Speaker 3: there's verbal ways. Yeah, I don't like that.
Speaker 2: I don't like that, Randa. You might have to let
Speaker 2: him go and he.
Speaker 1: Needs to get some help.
Speaker 4: If he's frustrated, he needs to find better ways to
Speaker 4: deal with his frustration not hitting you, And.
Speaker 2: I know they have assistant assistance for that.
Speaker 3: Given the situation, there are people who can handle the
Speaker 3: influx and the up and down of behavior issues that
Speaker 3: that sounds a little deeper. I'm nobody's doctor or anything
Speaker 3: like that. But you know, when you're starting to abuse
Speaker 3: others emotionally and mentally and they're taking the time to
Speaker 3: help you, that's not good.
Speaker 1: It's not good. Serious on a serious note, Yes, he
Speaker 1: needs help, and you need to get away from that relationship. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because physical abuse is not it and we don't condone
Speaker 1: it like and you shouldn't either. You shouldn't take that
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Speaker 2: Away, Yes, don't walk.
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