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Speaker 1: This is from Sam. What's your favorite position? And why?

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Speaker 1: You know? It's so funny as I've gotten in trouble

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Speaker 1: so that's what's so fun about the beginning of a

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00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:34,960
Speaker 1: relationship is like you don't know the person well enough

426
00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 1: yet to know exactly where it's going to go or

427
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 1: how it's going to go. It's all just like you know,

428
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 1: that exciting feeling. Yeah, I've never understood like and look,

429
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Speaker 1: I know that it becomes practical when you're like married

430
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:48,199
Speaker 1: with a bunch of kids. But like the idea of

431
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,880
Speaker 1: like every Friday night at seven o'clock, we're having sex,

432
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:55,439
Speaker 1: well you do. Like once there's a lot of when

433
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Speaker 1: you have to manage a bunch of stuff kind of

434
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Speaker 1: get it. You got to make appointment. It doesn't feel sexy.

435
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,719
Speaker 1: You can make it sexy though, Like my boyfriend and I,

436
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 1: for instance, today we've been really busy, and so you're

437
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 1: just like you we both have our work schedules. You're

438
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:15,439
Speaker 1: balancing a lot of different things, different people, different you know,

439
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:17,679
Speaker 1: all of it. And it's like, okay, can we make

440
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,639
Speaker 1: an appointment today for three pm or something? You know,

441
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 1: And so you have your appointment, but you like tease

442
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:26,919
Speaker 1: the appointment. There's maybe a sex before of how much

443
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:30,199
Speaker 1: you're thinking about it, Like the appointments becomes sexy in

444
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 1: and of themselves because you start to think about that,

445
00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: like you anticipate it, you know, and you sort of

446
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,880
Speaker 1: have to do that once. There's a lot of moving parts. Yeah,

447
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:40,439
Speaker 1: I guess that makes sense. I guess it's the like

448
00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 1: did you did you watch um Little Fires Everywhere? I did?

449
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,639
Speaker 1: Not tell us more. Well, now, it's just the character

450
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 1: that Rheese Witherspoon's played, like she seems like the type

451
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:53,919
Speaker 1: that like it's like at six pm every Thursday and

452
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:58,600
Speaker 1: every Tay and she's probably like it's that's like the

453
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 1: she only does mission ry like and I feel like

454
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 1: like she's like not at all in it and feeling it. Yeah, Okay,

455
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: that makes sense. What was the question Sam asked? Favorite positions?

456
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 1: Since Sam keep it keep it interesting. I think my

457
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:20,679
Speaker 1: favorite position is changing positions. That is a great answer.

458
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 1: I've said, well, a lot of the questions we got

459
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 1: are about long term and monous monogamous relationships, and you

460
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: know a lot of people want to know how to

461
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 1: spice things up. Chip and I are not curt I mean,

462
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 1: I've only you know, I've not been with my boyfriend

463
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: for a super long time. I have been in a

464
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 1: nine year relationship before, so I do feel like I

465
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 1: have some experience with this. Um. But there's a couple

466
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 1: of these questions, so we'll just kind of go through

467
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 1: them and we can give tips. I also did a

468
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,040
Speaker 1: little research on some of them does just to see

469
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 1: what other people say. I think this is interesting, and

470
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 1: you and I are probably going to have we have

471
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:57,640
Speaker 1: some different little reactions and differents Okay. Um, So this

472
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:00,639
Speaker 1: is from Ashley. She said, I'm so embarrassed even write this,

473
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:02,880
Speaker 1: but I feel like I have no sex drive. I've

474
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: been married for nine years and it's always kind of

475
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: been on the low side, but it was worse after

476
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:10,399
Speaker 1: I had kids. My youngest kid is three. My husband

477
00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 1: has a high sex drive and we have sex pretty

478
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 1: much every other day. I would be fine with once

479
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: a week and we'll look more forward to it if

480
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 1: I didn't feel like it was such an obligation. But

481
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 1: he gets frustrated if we wait more than a day,

482
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 1: and now I feel like it's just something on the

483
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 1: to do list. And no. Sex is an important part

484
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 1: of a marriage, and I'm attracted to him, but damn,

485
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 1: I have three kids and sometimes I just need a break. Help.

486
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 1: That's a tough one. A like Ashley's her name, Ashley,

487
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,439
Speaker 1: Like it sounds like you're living up to your end

488
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 1: of the bargain. Sure, but that doesn't mean that you

489
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:52,400
Speaker 1: you're you have to sacrifice your thoughts and your feelings.

490
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 1: And so I think it I think it comes down

491
00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: to communication. And I think you can say like, hey,

492
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: I'm fucking exhausted. Yeah I want to fuck you, but

493
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 1: it would mean so much more if I fucked you.

494
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:07,640
Speaker 1: When I want to fuck you, you you know what I mean?

495
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 1: And I said, glove sounds so gross to me. Have sex?

496
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 1: Have sex? Yeah, So I think it's I think it's

497
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 1: just about communication because when you're feeling frisky and you

498
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 1: initiate it, when you're feeling it like it is going

499
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,879
Speaker 1: to be so much hotter for him than you just

500
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:34,640
Speaker 1: being like his toy. Yeah, you know, like don't be

501
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:39,200
Speaker 1: used by your husband like he's your husband. Communicate with him.

502
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 1: It is fair. You are working your ass off as

503
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 1: a mother with three children to be tired. Well, the

504
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: low sex drift to me too, it's like when you're exhausted.

505
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 1: And also like read a little bit in this about

506
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 1: maybe like have your hormone levels checked because I think

507
00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:56,400
Speaker 1: kids and all I know is when I was doing

508
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 1: the hormone shots and stuff, Oh my ship got sucked

509
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 1: up with that. Like it's just it can throw you

510
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 1: off completely in so many ways. You don't feel attractive,

511
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 1: You just feel gross. You're like the last thing you

512
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 1: want is someone touching you. So I would also look

513
00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 1: into like get making sure all of that is balanced. Um,

514
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:15,440
Speaker 1: but also think exhaustion is huge and it's like three

515
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 1: kids is a fucking lot to balance. And it's also

516
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:22,120
Speaker 1: like if you feel like it's an obligation or it's

517
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 1: like a part of your job to take care of

518
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:26,879
Speaker 1: your husband's needs, you're not gonna want to do it,

519
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 1: Like it should not feel like an obligation now. And

520
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 1: I think right, and when you made that point about

521
00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 1: just like are you being heard, like what do you

522
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 1: want Ashley? Like? Is he whinting and dining you and

523
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 1: setting you up? Is he like helping you with the kids?

524
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 1: Is he drawing you a nice bath at the end

525
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 1: of the day, Because you might be more willing to

526
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 1: do stuff or more interested in it if it was

527
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 1: being met on the other side, what are your needs?

528
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 1: That's that's kind of I think the best question to

529
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 1: ask that I hear in that it sounds like Ashley

530
00:28:55,560 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 1: is a pretty amazing life. Hell yeah, I think that, um,

531
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 1: because I do like, look, I have I have a

532
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 1: friend who's gotten divorced over kind of this, Like he

533
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 1: was like my wife wasn't like she didn't meet my

534
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: needs and right, and so I do know that like

535
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 1: those sorts of needs exist, but you cannot ignore your

536
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 1: needs or let your needs be sort of shuffled to

537
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 1: decide there's a balance. It was gonna say, hopefully you

538
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,960
Speaker 1: could sit down and have a conversation like, hey, my

539
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: needs aren't being met here, so like how do you,

540
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: Like I want to meet your needs. I want you

541
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 1: to be happy and satisfied sexually, but like, how do

542
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 1: we meet somewhere? Saying all the right things but like,

543
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 1: look out for you girl. Yeah, but it also, like

544
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 1: to your point, it's scientific too. If your hormones aren't

545
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 1: in the place that they need to be, then that's

546
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: out of your control and you need to that's a

547
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 1: medical thing that needs to be fixed. Yeah, so I

548
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 1: think it could be both. Look into both and also

549
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 1: get some sleep. God bless you. Actually three kids? Damn? Um?

550
00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: Okay from Samantha, what is a normal amount of sex

551
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: in a week in a monogamous relationship? So I did

552
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 1: actually google this because I was like, oh, I don't

553
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 1: even know. And the answer that I came up with

554
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 1: from Google is the average adult enjoys sex fifty four

555
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 1: times a year, or a little a little more than

556
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 1: once a week. While married couples under the same reef

557
00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 1: don't fool around quite as much, they still have sex

558
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 1: about fifty one times a year. I was like, what

559
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:28,560
Speaker 1: that sounded low to me? Low thing? I mean, I

560
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 1: might as well be dead at this point according to

561
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 1: that statistics. But um, but yeah, I mean I think

562
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 1: that does sound low. If you're happy, you know, I

563
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 1: always I've had friends who were married for years, and um,

564
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 1: there was one couple who I knew and they they

565
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 1: have sex. She was like, it's probably around three times

566
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 1: a week, and I was like, that felt that feels

567
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 1: really great for a super long term relationship. They have kids.

568
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:01,959
Speaker 1: Like to me, that sounded pretty reasonable and like a

569
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: healthy amount. Is that? I think? I don't even know

570
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: if I know, because that sounds good to me. I

571
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 1: don't know if I know. I mean, I also think

572
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 1: there's so many factors, like your age, how many kids

573
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 1: you have, if there's if one of if one of

574
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: you is traveling a lot for work, like travel, there

575
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: is a huge wrench in it. I mean, nobody's traveling

576
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:26,719
Speaker 1: right now, No, I mean right, so hopefully you're having

577
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:31,960
Speaker 1: a lot of sex up that anti um Monique asked,

578
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 1: how do you spice it up after eleven years of marriage?

579
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 1: I did find an article on red book. Hold on,

580
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: let me pull it up really fast, and they had

581
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:49,040
Speaker 1: she's been married for thirty seven years. I mean she didn't,

582
00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,400
Speaker 1: but they had. They had this thing that I liked

583
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: the way they did it. It was a scrolling um

584
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 1: note of all these different things you can try, and

585
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 1: some of them are so fucking stupid that I had

586
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 1: to read them out loud because it's challenge your partner

587
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: to a game, like like like challenge your husband to

588
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 1: a game of ping pong. Sometimes the competition makes us

589
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: horn makes you horny, Like that's so stupid, don't play

590
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 1: ping pong. Well, if you were really good at ping pong,

591
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 1: if you can like whoop his ascidt something you might

592
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 1: make him feel. I'll say this, the flirting that could

593
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,680
Speaker 1: happen through that, Like when you're talking ship and you're

594
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 1: just like I'm about to take you down, you know,

595
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: or you're like getting into something. Maybe that's a little

596
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: hot break out, the oil massage, oils loops. I do

597
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 1: think those kind of things when it's when you've been

598
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 1: in a long term relationship, you can spice things up

599
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 1: a little bit, like shift things, change things. Um, set

600
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 1: the scene. This is what I was saying to Ashley,

601
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: Like for a guy, guys, all guys out there, do

602
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: you ever really want to just like, you know, get

603
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 1: her panties wet? I couldn't think of anything more classy

604
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,760
Speaker 1: to say. That was terrible. It's I didn't morning for

605
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 1: these people. I'm sorry, y'all um, but just like set

606
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: the scene, like do something a little bit nice for her,

607
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: And it doesn't even have to be a lot. It's

608
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 1: just like help her with dinner and then drawer a bath,

609
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 1: have some fucking candles going something like that is just

610
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 1: so nice because as women, I think we just take

611
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 1: care of everyone all day, all the time, and so

612
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,680
Speaker 1: to feel doated upon in any sort of capacity and

613
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 1: to feel kind of like you can get back in

614
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 1: your body and be like oh this well and like this,

615
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 1: you know that scene is sexy, like a bath, a candle,

616
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:39,960
Speaker 1: you know, candles being lit. That's sexy. So like it

617
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 1: can help you to feel sexy sometimes when you feel

618
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 1: just like disgusting after a long day, right, yeah, like

619
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 1: a relaxed setting is. It's certainly more inviting than like

620
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 1: being like, well, thank god the dishes are done. Let's

621
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 1: fuck right, you know, yeah, like let's go to pound town.

622
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: No thanks, Like that's just not going to work for me.

623
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: You better ring a lot fucking lu because it's not

624
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 1: gonna be working down there. Um, do something out of

625
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:08,880
Speaker 1: the blue spontaneity like you said, uh, talk it up

626
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,880
Speaker 1: on board with that, get and see. Oh talk it

627
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 1: up means like the flirting like text sexting. If you

628
00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:19,239
Speaker 1: need tips on sex and go listen to our last episode,

629
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 1: UM get handsy. You know what? This is so funny

630
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 1: because I was listening to a podcast last week. It was, um,

631
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 1: they call her Daddy podcast. Do you ever listen to that?

632
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 1: It's so funny. It's gone through a couple of changes,

633
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 1: but they're adjusting. But they were talking um a while back.

634
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: I don't remember if this is an old episode or new,

635
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 1: but about the beauty of hand jobs. And I will say,

636
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 1: as I've gotten older, I've let go of the hand

637
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: job a little bit. That feels very junior high to me,

638
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 1: and I did not know that guys enjoyed it so much.

639
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 1: But like this article is saying, at the end of

640
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:54,479
Speaker 1: the day, sometimes a good old hand job does a trick.

641
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 1: And I do think it's sort of like what we

642
00:34:56,760 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 1: were saying. It's switching things up. Well. Also, if you're

643
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 1: not feeling sexy, it allows you to pleasure him without

644
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 1: or maybe you want a finger. Well, I mean that's

645
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 1: that true? Yeah, so um yeah, I mean I think

646
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:18,839
Speaker 1: it's it's a hand using your hands for sex, whether

647
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 1: it's a hand job or finger or whatever. It allows

648
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: you to give pleasure without necessarily having to receive it.

649
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 1: Unless you really love giving hand jobs. Because I do

650
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 1: think it's like it's a one sided sort of exchange.

651
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,839
Speaker 1: You're like, hey, maybe let me do this for you. Yeah,

652
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,920
Speaker 1: I think too. Um. In my head as a girl,

653
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, he could do this himself, and he actually

654
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 1: knows what it feels. Different it does. That's interesting. You

655
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 1: ever had someone like just scratch your arm? Yeah, that's true.

656
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 1: It's so different because, Okay, that's interesting. I never thought

657
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 1: of it that way. I've always just been like, oh,

658
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 1: my technique is not going to be as good as that,

659
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 1: because like you can tell what feels good. But that's okay,

660
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 1: that's a really good point. Take it slow rather than

661
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:09,800
Speaker 1: jumping into sex sometimes off this person is saying, sometimes

662
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:11,439
Speaker 1: I'll force the two of us to slow things down.

663
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,720
Speaker 1: I think that's huge for girls. Like the teasing gets

664
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:19,239
Speaker 1: me so worked up, I can't yes, Like I mean

665
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 1: the four play, I need the kissing, I need the

666
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 1: sexier than the sex often for play. I did a

667
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 1: podcast UM this is like way long ago UM with

668
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,839
Speaker 1: a sex therapist and David Yarian, and he told me

669
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 1: that four play is the show. He's like, people equate

670
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:40,920
Speaker 1: um orgasm with sex and he's like, no, sex is

671
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: the four play. Sex is all of the build up.

672
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 1: Sex is everything else. And he's like, you don't even

673
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:47,880
Speaker 1: have to have an orgasm if that part isn't in play,

674
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 1: Like if that's good, you know, because sex isn't about

675
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 1: the orgasm, it's about the connection. In the four play,

676
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:57,919
Speaker 1: he was it was very interesting to keep your heels on, Chip,

677
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 1: do you wear heels? Make him in my side? Oh yeah,

678
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:05,240
Speaker 1: I've tried to walk in heels once. I would pay

679
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:09,680
Speaker 1: to see that. Ladies, I got your back when it

680
00:37:09,719 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 1: comes to that, Like, that is hard. My friend Sarah

681
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:16,240
Speaker 1: only wears he I mean, she would run a marathon

682
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:19,800
Speaker 1: and heels if they would let her. Yeah, a little,

683
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 1: She's like she's short, but like god, I don't know

684
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: how she does it. I don't know how anybody does

685
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: once you get used to it, though, I mean, I

686
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 1: don't know. Some people say they never do, but I

687
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:35,720
Speaker 1: feel like I've gotten it down. Thoughts on kitten heels,

688
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: You know, I used to hate them, and I think

689
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:41,720
Speaker 1: they're I used to be like disgusting, and they're so

690
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 1: in trind right now that I have um kind of

691
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 1: gotten used to seeing them and I have a pair

692
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:50,399
Speaker 1: and I'm not even too I am so I don't

693
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:53,400
Speaker 1: need the height necessarily, they just I think I always

694
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: associated like feeling good and feeling sexy with a pretty

695
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 1: tall heel because it's the way that it makes your

696
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 1: legs look and all that. And I thought a kitten,

697
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 1: he'll just didn't leave flatter my legs, but kind of

698
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 1: into it. I'm not gonna lie, um this, this says

699
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 1: open your mouth. Sometimes I'll wake my husband up by

700
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: giving him oral I'm a big fan of morning sex

701
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 1: is a great way to start the day. I agree,

702
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:20,839
Speaker 1: like I actually started. I've started to prefer morning sex

703
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: to any kind of sex. I like morning sex too,

704
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 1: I don't. I mean the idea of just like starting

705
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,279
Speaker 1: to suck somebody's dick though, like while they're asleep, to

706
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: be like, well they're gonna be resid, right. I mean,

707
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 1: I guess it's pretty hot. I mean I can imagine

708
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: that he would think it's pretty hot. It just depends

709
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 1: on I've had conversations with female friends where it's like,

710
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 1: what do you think is sluttier like sleeping with somebody

711
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 1: the first night or like, and it's I feel like

712
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 1: the response is always fifty fifty, and to me, I'm like,

713
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 1: if you're to do something like you should be pleasured

714
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 1: to like just sleep with somebody. Like I feel like

715
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,840
Speaker 1: a lot of people think that like sleeping with someone

716
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:11,360
Speaker 1: is worse because you slept with someone it's all sexs.

717
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 1: But like I'm like, wait a minute, but you put

718
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 1: it his dick in your mouth. It does feel I

719
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:17,799
Speaker 1: will say, it feels a little more invasive if you

720
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:19,959
Speaker 1: like first meet someone and you're like, I'm gonna suck

721
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:25,439
Speaker 1: your dick. I don't know why, because you should both ways,

722
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 1: but there's something about it in your mouth that is

723
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:30,360
Speaker 1: like feels a little more intimate or something like you

724
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 1: don't want to do that with a total stranger, right,

725
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 1: I don't know where that should have been. People do it,

726
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 1: and people do it, but you don't put a condom

727
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:41,640
Speaker 1: one in your mouth. I've known people to Okay, that's gross.

728
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 1: That's gross to me. I guess it's like safe sex.

729
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 1: That's the whole thing is Like it wasn't because it

730
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 1: tasted good, it's because of safety. Yeah, I couldn't do that.

731
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: I couldn't do it either. Okay, the last one I'm

732
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:56,880
Speaker 1: gonna read. There's a lot more, but the last one

733
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:59,120
Speaker 1: is give him, give him a peep show. If my

734
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,080
Speaker 1: husband and I are getting ready to go out, but

735
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:03,600
Speaker 1: I'm in the mood for a little action later, then

736
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: I make sure to get dressed last, spend the entire

737
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: time getting ready wearing a sexy bra and panties. He

738
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,840
Speaker 1: always wants to do something right away, but I usually

739
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 1: shoot him off. I like that, like you let the

740
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:18,839
Speaker 1: anticipation build a little. That's like what we were talking

741
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 1: about last week. It's like that feeling of when you

742
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 1: first meet someone and there's the anticipation is naturally there

743
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: because you don't probably jump right into stuff. You like, wait,

744
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 1: a couple of days you see him again, there's that

745
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 1: that whole build up. So when you're married or you've

746
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 1: been together a long time, you lose that. So this

747
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:38,759
Speaker 1: is the perfect way you can you can sort you

748
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,800
Speaker 1: can get to go back to being strangers for a second. Totally.

749
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 1: I like that. Um, so those are some ways to

750
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:48,879
Speaker 1: spy things up. I do think that it's hard, and

751
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:51,840
Speaker 1: you know, obviously we talked about schedules and just like

752
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 1: the routine when you have a busy life. Um, but yeah,

753
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 1: I think it's about like keeping it interesting, switching things up,

754
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:00,759
Speaker 1: and also like putting in the f to do that,

755
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 1: because the second you get lazy with it, it just

756
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 1: is going to get super boring. What what age? I mean?

757
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 1: Maybe this is for another podcast, but like, at what

758
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 1: age is it okay just to start going to bed

759
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 1: with your husband or wife? You know? Like, what do

760
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:17,799
Speaker 1: you mean without sex? Yeah? Like what age is that?

761
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's an age or just a

762
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: level of your relationship. What do you mean? I don't

763
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: have sex every night? No? I mean, like my parents

764
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 1: is it? Like it's not a thing anymore? Your parents

765
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 1: aren't not gonna. I don't know that they're not, but

766
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure they're not. I would die if your

767
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:41,600
Speaker 1: parents had sex like every night? Yeah? Or like what's

768
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:44,280
Speaker 1: your favorite position? They're like where do we start? We start?

769
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:50,160
Speaker 1: Is not our favorite? That's so criss to think about. Um, okay,

770
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 1: so this one, actually maybe you would be really helpful

771
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: for because this is about dating apps, and we talked

772
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 1: a lot about these last week how tricky they can be.

773
00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:00,799
Speaker 1: But from Dora, she said, how want to start dating

774
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:03,359
Speaker 1: again after being married twenty seven years and starting all

775
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: over again? I hate dating apps. I haven't had any

776
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 1: good results. They feel like just like hook up sides

777
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 1: and I'm not interested in any of that. Well, I

778
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 1: think we touched on this a little bit last week.

779
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:18,359
Speaker 1: I think, UM, skip the app for right now and

780
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:21,279
Speaker 1: do some of the dating sites that require you to

781
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: fill out a more robust profile that asks questions like

782
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:28,800
Speaker 1: match dot Com, Plenty of Fish, e Harmony. Of those things,

783
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: I think you're going to get um, more concise results

784
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 1: UM versus just pictures and short little bios and you

785
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 1: know those connection and I think they're designed to connect

786
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 1: you better. I think, whereas the apps are more about

787
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: like who's nearby and who's looking UM. Not to say

788
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 1: that you can't find somebody of substance on those things,

789
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 1: because I do think it happens. I know plenty of

790
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 1: people that are together because of them. But I think

791
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 1: for someone in your position that like isn't doesn't want

792
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:04,239
Speaker 1: to play that game. UM. I think some of those

793
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 1: other like dating sites that have like surveys you have

794
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: to fill up probably just more in depth about your personality,

795
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 1: so it's better. But you know, like I don't have

796
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,759
Speaker 1: no her Dora's her name, I don't. I don't know

797
00:43:15,800 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 1: how she's been married twenty seven years, so she's UM

798
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 1: probably somewhere around our age a little older, maybe like

799
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 1: going out to bars and like meeting people that way.

800
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 1: It's like that I have zero interest in that myself,

801
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 1: and I'm forty four, so it's I can't imagine if

802
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:35,319
Speaker 1: being a little older than forty four, I would not

803
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: want to do that. So I think doing those dating

804
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 1: websites like a match dot com or other website like that.

805
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 1: Um Kim asked on the tails of that, any tips

806
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 1: for people outside of the apps. It's tough these days,

807
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 1: especially right now during quarantine. It's not like you're going

808
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 1: out and doing things. I would just say, like I

809
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:58,360
Speaker 1: met my boyfriend through mutual friends, Yeah, mutual friends, or

810
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 1: like if you have a hobby, like that's a great one.

811
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:02,400
Speaker 1: I don't know if you're like a tennis player or

812
00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:05,680
Speaker 1: you're like doing pottery or doing something that like pottery,

813
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's like I'm trying to think like

814
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,320
Speaker 1: you just like you're just like fantasizing about the Ghost

815
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: movie and you're like, oh, the hot Patrick Swayzy is

816
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 1: in my pottery class. Like the guys in the pottery

817
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 1: class are not going to look like that. Just saying

818
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: that is true, But I think if you like, lean

819
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,960
Speaker 1: into something that is of interest to you and focus

820
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:27,839
Speaker 1: on that. Yeah, I don't know who you might meet

821
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 1: while you're doing it, and then at least you know

822
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:35,680
Speaker 1: that you have a common interest, right, which is awesome. Yeah, yeah,

823
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:39,320
Speaker 1: any sort of outside at all of those in churches

824
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 1: hard right now, although churches seem to be opening back up,

825
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 1: but they might close again. He knows, weird times right now.

826
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 1: So I think, like, get a vibrator, kid, That's a

827
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: whole another conversation. I was gonna say, are you kidding now,

828
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:56,240
Speaker 1: because I'm not? Okay, um Nina asked on the toes

829
00:44:56,320 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 1: of that vibrator conversation, what type of lube? What type

830
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:05,320
Speaker 1: of lube? And when? And how is this the question

831
00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 1: for me? Damn it? Well, oh I guess not a

832
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:14,440
Speaker 1: lot of questions. What I'm water based? Okay? Well, I

833
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,320
Speaker 1: was going to just be like coconut oil or actually

834
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:20,080
Speaker 1: I posted about one in my stories today that has

835
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 1: CBD oil in it too. It's O shot. There's a code.

836
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 1: If you guys want to I should Well, today is Wednesday,

837
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: is right, it's going to run late, but anyway, there's shot.

838
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: It's um it's got CBD in it, so it has

839
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:36,520
Speaker 1: other you know, different things that relax as you it's

840
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 1: supposed to enhance your orgasm, having it enhance orgasm, but

841
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:54,360
Speaker 1: honestly just also if you just want to try something

842
00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 1: and see how it feels. I think like organic coconut

843
00:45:57,120 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 1: oil is always going to be my recommendation. Yeah, I Um,

844
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 1: I think like water, anything that's got a water base

845
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:08,439
Speaker 1: to it is better. I think they staying less, they're

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Speaker 1: like didn't tell him how much do you? So he's

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Speaker 1: and you can just do it front. Like the when

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Speaker 1: It doesn't you don't want to like show up to

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Speaker 1: like do a little travel pack or something, but also

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Speaker 1: I've never used lube, have you. I guess yours is

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Speaker 1: that there's definitely. That's when Nina like that those are

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Speaker 1: like what we were reading about long term relationships. Um,

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Speaker 1: in a heterosexual relationship, those would be nice ways to

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Speaker 1: way to spice things up. Or Nina, if you're on

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Speaker 1: your own, it's the only way to go right. You

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Speaker 1: you have anything else to add to that chip? No,

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Speaker 1: I think we comforted. Well, those are all the questions

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Speaker 1: that we're going to get to this week. We these

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Speaker 1: at Casual episodes have been so much longer than normal episodes.

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Speaker 1: I like it. I don't even know what these people

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Speaker 1: think about us after this though. Do you think that

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Speaker 1: hope not. I hope they feel like they know us better.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if they don't, I feel like they know

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Speaker 1: us in the most intimate way, intimate, Like how came

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Speaker 1: the word intimate even sounds intimate? It kind of grosses

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Speaker 1: me out. It sounds a little bit like panties to me. Intimate.

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Speaker 1: We digress, but you guys keep the questions coming. Also,

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Speaker 1: let us know what you think about this. We have

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Speaker 1: gotten a lot of request to keep the sex and

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Speaker 1: dating combo going, so we're willing. I mean, I'm willing. Look,

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Speaker 1: I'm down to answer questions. I can't say that I'm

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Speaker 1: an expert in any of it, but I think that's

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Speaker 1: what's like endearing to people as we're just talking like

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Speaker 1: they talked to their friends. If you're if there's something

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Speaker 1: that you're scared to ask your friends, ask us. We'll

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Speaker 1: give you the friendly answer. We're not, I mean, we'll

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Speaker 1: give you the straight up answer. Is the deal. So

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Speaker 1: keep your questions coming. Email us at at casual at

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Speaker 1: velvet edge dot com. Also follow us on Instagram. I'm

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Speaker 1: if you wanted to be, we'll do just about anything

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Speaker 1: for an ad at this point. All right, thank you

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