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Speaker 1: Letter, subject Thanksgiving Surprise.

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Speaker 2: Woo.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty seven year old married

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Speaker 1: man and I'm on my second marriage. My wife has

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Speaker 1: two daughters from a previous marriage, and they're both grown

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Speaker 1: and live in different cities. The oldest daughter is twenty

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Speaker 1: nine now and she has a one year old son.

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Speaker 1: My wife is looking forward to Thanksgiving because she will

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Speaker 1: have the girls home and she can spend quality time

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Speaker 1: with her grandson. But I'm not excited about us all

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Speaker 1: being under one roof because because I had an affair

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Speaker 1: with the oldest daughter. It started when she was twenty seven,

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Speaker 1: and she moved back in with us briefly to save

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Speaker 1: some money. She was very flirtatious and she'd rubbed my

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Speaker 1: to talk to me and call me handsome whenever her

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Speaker 1: mom wasn't around. One night, while her mom was asleep

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Speaker 1: on the couch, she took a bath with a door cracked,

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Speaker 1: and I mistakenly went in to use the bathroom. This

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Speaker 1: was the first time we had sex, and I felt terrible,

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Speaker 1: and so did she, so she moved out the next week.

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Speaker 1: The next week, my wife insisted that I help her move,

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Speaker 1: so I did, and we had sex the second time

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Speaker 1: at her apartment. The affair went on for a while.

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Speaker 1: You ready for this. The affair went on for a

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Speaker 1: while until she got pregnant. Paternity test so I know

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Speaker 1: it's my son, but my stepdaughter has her boyfriend thinking

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Speaker 1: it's his son. I've always wanted a child, but my

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Speaker 1: first wife couldn't have children. I want to be part

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Speaker 1: of this child's life so badly that I'm willing to

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Speaker 1: end my marriage if I have to. I will not

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Speaker 1: allow another black boy to grow up without a father.

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Speaker 1: I know this is all a big mess, but I'm

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Speaker 1: ready to tell the truth when we're all together for Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 1: My wife will be heartbroken, I'm sure. Am I being

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Speaker 1: selfish in this situation. Woo, that's the question you want

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Speaker 1: to ask her? Are you being selfish? I mean, really,

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Speaker 1: that's it that responds is whooh? I mean, how dare

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Speaker 1: you write us with this mess? I mean, Steve and

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Speaker 1: I we are in this. You did this, You did

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Speaker 1: this with your stepdaughter, your stepdaughter, dog, your stepdaughter, and

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Speaker 1: it's foul. This is foul right here. This is so foul.

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Speaker 1: If you had to cheat on your wife, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: say this. I'm gonna say this, if you just had

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Speaker 1: to cheat on your wife, if you could not keep

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Speaker 1: it in your pants because someone was flirting with you

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Speaker 1: and rubbing your ball head and sitting in your lap, Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I would have rather for you to step outside the

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Speaker 1: marriage than to get with your wife's daughter. I mean, really,

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Speaker 1: that would have made more sense. Now, you and your

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Speaker 1: stepdaughter have a son together that she had to lie

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Speaker 1: to her boyfriend about, and she has a boyfriend thinking

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Speaker 1: the baby is his. This is so wrong on so

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Speaker 1: many levels. I mean, just lie on top of lie,

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Speaker 1: on top of lie. I'm hurt for your wife. I'm

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Speaker 1: hurt for her, and she doesn't even know what's going

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Speaker 1: on yet, all because you couldn't stay away from her daughter.

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Speaker 1: Why did you allow her to sit on your lap

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Speaker 1: and all that? Anyway? Why did you do that? Why

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Speaker 1: didn't you say no? Why didn't you get up? You

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Speaker 1: know why? That's the part that killing me. And you

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Speaker 1: know what, there's no good ending. There's no way to

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Speaker 1: end this nicely or respectfully. There's no good ending to

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Speaker 1: this nightmare of a story. There just isn't. There's no

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Speaker 1: way to make it right. I want you to leave.

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Speaker 1: I want you to get a divorce and pay child

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Speaker 1: support for your son because I feel at some point

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Speaker 1: the truth is going to come out anyway. It really

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Speaker 1: is whether you tell your wife at Thanksgiving or not.

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Speaker 1: And what a way to spoil Thanksgiving dinner. I bet

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Speaker 1: you guys are going to continue to live out this

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Speaker 1: lie until something happens. This is just a mess, it

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Speaker 1: really is. Are you being selfish in this situation? You

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Speaker 1: have always been selfish in this situation?

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Speaker 2: Steve boy boy?

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Speaker 1: Yes he did?

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Speaker 3: Yes, sure, sir? You in so much damn trouble right now.

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Speaker 3: You you have not seen the truble, see you know.

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Speaker 3: Look I tell my sons all the time. The older

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Speaker 3: because as you get older, you're supposed to get better

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Speaker 3: at handling errors and situations to help you to avoid

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean. Look, you're gonna always make.

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Speaker 3: Mistakes till you leave this world, but you try to

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Speaker 3: get the big ones out the way early. You know,

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Speaker 3: before you you fifty seven, it's half a hundred years,

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Speaker 3: you've been here over over your stupid.

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Speaker 2: Ass that had done.

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Speaker 3: This ignorant ass mess that you that wrote us like

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Speaker 3: we got some help for you.

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Speaker 2: We don't have no help for you, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, Steve, hang on, hang on. We'll have part two

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Speaker 1: the hour My Strawberry letter for today's subject Thanksgiving Surprise.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: hardy Morning show. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter, the subject Thanksgiving Surprise.

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Speaker 3: Sir, fifty seven year old man, you so ignorant, ignorant

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Speaker 3: fifty seven year old married man that had an affair

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Speaker 3: with your stepdaughter when she moved back in because she

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Speaker 3: needed to get on her feet. She was twenty seven

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Speaker 3: years old, always calling you handsome y'all had sex while

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Speaker 3: your wife was asleep on the sofa. You felt bad, bad,

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Speaker 3: she felt bad, so she decided to move out the

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Speaker 3: next week. Then your wife tells you help her move

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Speaker 3: you over at the apartment having some most sex. Now

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Speaker 3: she twenty nine, so y'all been having this affair for

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Speaker 3: two years. All this started when she was in there

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Speaker 3: taking a bathroom left the dough crack. This is what

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Speaker 3: you said when this happened. One night while her mom

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Speaker 3: was asleep on the couch, she took a bath with

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Speaker 3: the doe cracked, and I mistakenly went in to use

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Speaker 3: the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: Boy, Yeah right, boy, how big is y'all bathroom?

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Speaker 1: And they only had one?

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Speaker 2: Well, when the.

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Speaker 3: Dough cracked, you mistakenly went in to use the bathroom.

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Speaker 3: When you open the door and you saw in the bathtub,

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Speaker 3: you ain't turn around, right brouh. Now the fair been

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Speaker 3: going on for a while. Then guess what he said?

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Speaker 3: Until she got pregnant. Now she got a boyfriend and

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Speaker 3: got the boyfriend thinking it's his son when it's really

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Speaker 3: your son. And you've always wanted a child, even from

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Speaker 3: your first wife, but she couldn't. And now you want

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Speaker 3: a son so bad you're willing to leave your wife

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Speaker 3: so you can have relationship with this son because you did.

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Speaker 3: Here come the noble part you throw in because I

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Speaker 3: will not allow another black boy to grow up without

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Speaker 3: a father.

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Speaker 2: He got two damn daddies.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't feel sorry for you, broh.

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Speaker 3: Let's tell the truth. You don't want to leave the

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Speaker 3: mama so you can raise the son. You want to

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Speaker 3: leave the mama so you can have the fleeing with

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Speaker 3: the twenty nine year old. Come on, now, that's really

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Speaker 3: what you talking about. I want this son so badly,

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Speaker 3: I'm willing to leave my wife so I could raise

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Speaker 3: this son.

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Speaker 2: But what dog? What doc? Do you know?

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Speaker 3: How? That don't even sound right to no damn other man?

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Speaker 3: So how you think this is gonna work? You're gonna

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Speaker 3: wait on Thanksgiving? She gonna come to the house with

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Speaker 3: the baby with her boyfriend. The other daughter gonna be there,

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Speaker 3: You and your wife gonna be sitting up there, and

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Speaker 3: then you're gonna tell her what happened. That young ass

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Speaker 3: boy gonna whoop your hands. I'm talking about he gonna

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Speaker 3: go off. The other sister gonna go off your wife. Lord,

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Speaker 3: have mercy. What you're gonna do to this woman. See, bro,

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Speaker 3: this is a disaster now it is. Do not wait

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Speaker 3: to Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 1: Right, thank you?

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Speaker 3: But if you're gonna go in here with this noise,

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Speaker 3: going here right now, if that's what you're gonna do,

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Speaker 3: and I don't really know what you should do. Really,

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Speaker 3: I really told her that Shirley got it right. I

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Speaker 3: don't what you write us for. We ain't got nothing

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Speaker 3: for you. There is no right way to do this

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Speaker 3: because everything, by what it is wrong. See people think

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Speaker 3: if I just come clean to be honest, that's the

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Speaker 3: right thing to do.

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Speaker 1: What it's still a mess?

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Speaker 2: Hey man, honesty. See, let me tell you something.

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Speaker 3: When you've been so dishonest for so long on so

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Speaker 3: many levels, how do you think one moment of honesty

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Speaker 3: is supposed to correct it off? So you think by

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Speaker 3: coming clean at least I came clean, at least you

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Speaker 3: You've been screwing this woman for over two years, your

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Speaker 3: wife's daughter, she got your son. You're finn to ruin

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Speaker 3: your relationship with your wife. You find to ruin the

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Speaker 3: mother and the daughter relationship. Oh yeah, it's gonna damage

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Speaker 3: the other child's relationship, the other sibling with her sister.

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Speaker 3: How could you do this to our mother? Yes, you

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Speaker 3: ain't gonna be right with the two of them no more.

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Speaker 3: The boyfriend been buying these pampers and everything. He gonna

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Speaker 3: he had something. Now you fin to tell him it

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Speaker 3: ain't his son, it's your son. And now you was

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Speaker 3: over here screwing my girl.

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Speaker 2: Dog.

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Speaker 3: Do you understand the complexity of all of this that's

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Speaker 2: Have you lost your ever loving mind? And now you

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Speaker 2: think on Thanksgiving? It's the time while everybody there.

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Speaker 3: Boy, you you that listen to.

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Speaker 2: Me, it's gonna be food everywhere.

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Speaker 3: It's too muy, it's too many knives that Thanksgiving. Oh,

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Speaker 3: you're gonna be busted over your head with the yellow mold,

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Speaker 3: gonna dunk your ass down in the punch bowl trying

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Speaker 3: to drink.

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Speaker 1: Sir, sir, it's terrible, surely.

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Speaker 3: And I do not have an answer for you. You don't

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Speaker 3: know what you're gonna do. This is a mess and

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Speaker 3: you're gonna figure it out. But you're gonna pay.

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Speaker 1: Bro.

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Speaker 3: All I can tell you is you fins pay daily

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Speaker 3: for this. Now you can try the little noble line.

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Speaker 3: You try it with me.

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Speaker 2: I'll not see another black Boy raise without fuck.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Google, it's a really trouble dog.

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Speaker 1: It's really bad.

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Speaker 2: Hey, ho let before I go Happy Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 1: Gobble, I was back.

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Speaker 2: Let him know how it went.

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