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Speaker 2: All righty oh my gosh, we're here.

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Speaker 1: We're so on point today. Wow, this energy is very nervous.

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Speaker 2: That it is it is, I'm having I'm having a day,

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's get in, keeping my sunglasses on. You have

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Speaker 1: you been crying?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I should be crying, but it's fine. OK.

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Speaker 2: It's just I'm I'm not doing everything that I should

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Speaker 2: be doing, so but none of us are. Yeah, but

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Speaker 2: really specifically, I'm not doing what I'm supposed to be

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Speaker 2: doing on all fronts. So I'm just I'm wearing my

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Speaker 2: sunglasses on because I'm like you, I need the witness

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Speaker 1: I feel like you're being very vague. I am being vague.

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Speaker 4: You could be talking about any anybody that you buried improperly,

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Speaker 4: to somebody that you would have call like sis, do

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Speaker 4: we need to know what you did last summer?

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Speaker 1: What happened? No?

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Speaker 2: But I will say I'm an expert in my girlfriend

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Speaker 2: went away this week.

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Speaker 1: And that's the body that you buried.

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Speaker 2: No, And I am, uh spiraling, So that's what it is.

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Speaker 1: That's all.

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Speaker 4: It is spiraling in a way negatively for like you physically,

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Speaker 2: Or you know, you just doing I'm not gonna relapse.

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Speaker 2: I'm not doing anything like that. But like the house

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Speaker 1: How many days has she been gone? Too many? I

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Speaker 1: think she's been gone for three days. I think she

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Speaker 2: No, it's been like five since, been gone for a week,

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Speaker 2: or it's been too long.

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Speaker 1: She needs to get back.

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Speaker 2: The cats have called the cops on me twelve times already.

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Speaker 1: Cps. Oh, they're so mad. They have literally sat at

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Speaker 1: They're like, why did you leave us?

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I gave them food. They are not really

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Speaker 2: fucking with the food that I'm giving them.

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Speaker 1: But what you giving them?

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Speaker 4: Six white bread? Give them you slicing up white bread

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Speaker 4: and water? You're giving them ramen noodles, beef flavor. What

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Speaker 2: I'm actually giving them the seafood kind that's their favorite.

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Speaker 4: You've given your cats ramen red cats. That's a cartoon

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Speaker 1: The red cats.

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Speaker 2: They're Bodega cats that we rescued, so they should be

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Speaker 1: Have you seen these Bodaga cats. They are living the life.

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Speaker 4: They get to sleep on the doritos, they get to

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Speaker 4: like lay out on the ATM machine screen. Like what,

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Speaker 4: maybe you should bring the cats backs, bring them back

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Speaker 1: That's what I feel like. I feel like she's been gone.

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Speaker 2: And I realized, Oh, I'm at a certain age I

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Speaker 2: I was looking for one black shirt. One It was

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Speaker 1: It was like a cropped mock neck turtleneck. Is that

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Speaker 1: No, no, mock So it's like half of the neck,

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Speaker 1: it's not all. It's a turtle cropped up so your

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Speaker 1: neck is cold but your body's hot. Yes, that's me.

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Speaker 1: That's you know.

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Speaker 2: I don't have iron. I'm lowering iron turtleneck. That's what

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Speaker 2: us and realized we had nothing to steal.

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Speaker 1: They had nothing to steal. That robber was like everything

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Speaker 4: So so your life is violin because because you can't

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Speaker 4: Well? I put all my laundry away today finally, but

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, listen, I like woke up there was

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Speaker 1: It's like, am I going through a breakup? Like what's

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Speaker 2: Well, it just the house looks like you know, when

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Speaker 2: like Angel, yes getting extel, she hadn't done her hair.

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Speaker 1: Oh shit, take your shit. That's really what Adrian would

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Speaker 2: So no, but she's been gone and I just don't

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Speaker 1: She gets back one Monday. Okay, thoughts in prayer's friend.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, we're with you, but we're not gonna come

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Speaker 4: clean or nothing, but we with you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't. I haven't bought any food for myself.

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Speaker 1: The house. Well, your body looks fabulous. Thank you. Your

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Speaker 2: Our guest is very concerned. She is like, I don't

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Speaker 1: Should I give.

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Speaker 2: You the trail mix that I have in my purse

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Speaker 2: or my knapsack. It's a lot, Marie, what's going on

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Speaker 2: with you? What were you an expert in this week?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, you're lovely. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 4: I feel like the prettiest boy in the room, super

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Speaker 4: that I'm manifesting something pretty big. You feel like I'm

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Speaker 4: putting out all of the right This sounds super stupid.

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Speaker 4: I feel like I'm putting out all the right energy.

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Speaker 4: I'm saying no to things that do nothing to please

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Speaker 4: And I'm only saying yes the stuff that I feel

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Speaker 4: I was like another my slides, it's not okay, Vice

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Speaker 1: Okay, Wait, did you cut off some dick? What's going on?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 4: But I got Dick waiting for me at the house,

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Speaker 4: so I probably should go. We ought to keep these.

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Speaker 4: We should have been on time. You got a home

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Speaker 1: You're of an appointment after this, after the podcast, you know, daytime, Dick.

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Speaker 4: Wait, I thought you were late because you were getting

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Speaker 1: That's it.

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Speaker 4: That's you know, it's Saturday, all the kids are out Sydney.

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Speaker 4: You were out getting some last night? And no, absolutely not. Wow,

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Speaker 4: this is aggressive. I'm like our guest today. Wow, she's fantastic.

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Speaker 4: We've been on her podcast several times. Friends like us,

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Speaker 1: It's so good.

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Speaker 2: She's on time and she makes sure we have waters

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Speaker 2: Actually she makes us come I did, I did coffee.

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Speaker 2: You deserve better cat hair and that it's good. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: it's the cat hair.

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Speaker 1: The country, all over the world. Yes, you've done.

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Speaker 4: International, yes a while, but yes, yes, okay, Australia.

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Speaker 3: Something, South Africa. Okay, Scotland, like.

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Speaker 4: You would do well in Scotland. Okay, well, let me

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Speaker 4: just introduce you. Yeah, she is our single black female expert.

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Speaker 4: Give it up from Marina Franklin. Yes, Marina.

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Speaker 1: Marina has been kind of mean to me today.

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Speaker 1: I think it's because she doesn't like my haircut.

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Speaker 3: Well, it was new seeing you talk the way you

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Speaker 3: I used to worry about you. I was like, she

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and my braids are actually hanging on by a

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Speaker 1: Have you here. Thank you this wonderful, wonderful day.

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Speaker 3: And thank you you guys with your sunglasses. I did

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because we're friends like us.

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Speaker 2: Whenever I put sunglasses on my friends, good, thank you.

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Speaker 3: Saturdays are hard.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's what's a typical Saturday look like for you?

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Speaker 4: Oh I'm usually not up until what time?

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Speaker 3: the night before you do late gigs, you're out. Last

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Speaker 3: Was it absolutely killed? It was amazing to see her

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Speaker 3: My favorite part of that was to see how many

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Speaker 1: I should say, Yam, yeah, Yama, yam.

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Speaker 3: I was out a little later than I would want to.

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Speaker 1: But you were shaking that thing. You guys went out after.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you're let talk about your journey of First, First

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Speaker 4: What is that like, You're like, you got a yard

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Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, Marina, you don't agree. I do agree.

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Speaker 3: Rich people they get and the wash and they warm

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Speaker 1: Really, it's heated seed toilet sets.

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Speaker 1: You don't know this, Marina, You have that in your apartment.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, But doesn't that make you poop longer or pee longer,

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Speaker 1: Does have the hot she.

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Speaker 3: Has the hot toilet seat?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You have options, but I don't like.

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Speaker 3: I think you get an option, that's the whole thing.

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Speaker 1: Was at the water temperature of the bidet? Wow?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Okay, So wait, you were in Chicago and then you

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Speaker 2: First, your first bee heartbreak? Yes, he led a beige man.

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Speaker 1: That's what the white man to want to keep us educated.

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Speaker 2: He probably set it up that way. He probably broke

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Speaker 1: He was no good?

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Speaker 1: He's a bad boy. He sold drugs, was good. He

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Speaker 3: Across the teacher. Oh, he went into He was one

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because he was like he wanted to know how

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Speaker 4: That's probably you have salt in his house, no okay,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he just I was like, why did you Why

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Speaker 1: And then but you had already fell for him.

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Speaker 2: You saw him in some hard bottom shoes, and you

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Speaker 1: Wow, he wears a belt. Okay, he's got it together.

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Speaker 3: He had these like he was my first white boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: To Okay, So how was the sex in college? It

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, she's right, you're right. In college, I

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Speaker 3: how was the sex.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It was there. Yeah, we just did

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Speaker 2: But I can't say anything spectacular happened after having college

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Speaker 3: So what happened kind of destroyed it was. I went

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Speaker 2: He didn't like the distance, so he got this man

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Speaker 1: I want to find him in his first.

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Speaker 3: Name, Eric, I could say the whole name.

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Speaker 4: Mo, professor Moe gross well, no, like not even professor

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Speaker 1: Mister was he a pa, don't lie? He taught? Yeah? Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, mister Mo from Iowa. He was interesting because he

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Speaker 3: I just want to see what world you live in,

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Speaker 3: and that probably an ugly.

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Speaker 4: Interesting person before an attractive, boring person. What would you

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Speaker 4: date an ugly interesting person over an attractive yes, boring person?

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Speaker 3: Yes, Marina, yes I would.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I can say the same.

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Speaker 3: I'm just so fascinating by like, but I have dated

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Speaker 1: But you're attractive, Marina, Oh, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Think of mine.

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Speaker 4: I'm okay with the talking like that, that's with that posture,

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Speaker 1: Edges all smooth down like that.

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Speaker 2: First of all, I just want to let you know

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Speaker 1: They're grown up, they're not baby hair. No, yes, oh,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what you per your edges. I don't know.

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Speaker 6: Not.

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Speaker 3: Just edge texturizers.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, pinklations curls this.

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Speaker 3: Part with my toothbrush. No, no, this is just my

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Speaker 1: Okay, where exist three and me?

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Speaker 3: So now it makes sense?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So now they own your information?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I know. I don't even care. I know

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Speaker 1: Where where are your people from?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So twenty seven percent is like white, which I

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Speaker 1: It's a little bit of Irish in there. It is, Oh, Scotland, Scotland,

447
00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:08,520
Speaker 1: Scottish is.

448
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:16,800
Speaker 3: Iron Welsh, British, a lot of British. Yeah, and Thenazi.

449
00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:19,679
Speaker 4: Jewish Jewish Jewish. Go ahead and get them perks this

450
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 4: you're going on your what's that trip that.

451
00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:23,640
Speaker 1: They got to birthright? You better get birthright, you better

452
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:24,400
Speaker 1: get your birthright.

453
00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:28,160
Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna go, I dare you. I don't

454
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:28,960
Speaker 3: know if they'll let me in.

455
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:30,800
Speaker 1: They will, they will put a little hat on.

456
00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:34,239
Speaker 2: They want every birthright, literally, they want every put that

457
00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:35,160
Speaker 2: little hat on.

458
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:40,440
Speaker 1: They want everyone to marry the people in Israel. That's

459
00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:42,080
Speaker 1: what I think birthright is. Yeah, they're trying to like

460
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:43,439
Speaker 1: set you up and make you marry.

461
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:47,399
Speaker 6: Yes you go, yeah if you find your husband or

462
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,360
Speaker 6: wife on that trip and they pay for the entire thing.

463
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:54,919
Speaker 4: What Yeah, okay, single female. We're trying to switch this

464
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,760
Speaker 4: title now, Okay, we want to we want to amend it.

465
00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:00,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, we want married Jewish black woman.

466
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:03,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I did it, so I didn't my mom,

467
00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:07,040
Speaker 3: my mother's mother, my grandmother, my mother's mother, and I

468
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:08,440
Speaker 3: was like, okay, I'm following here.

469
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:10,480
Speaker 1: Mother's mother's friend's friend.

470
00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 3: My grandmother never knew her father, and it was during

471
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 3: that time when you know there's interracial stuff going on,

472
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:21,760
Speaker 3: you didn't talk about it. And so apparently they introduced

473
00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:23,960
Speaker 3: her to a man that was not her father. Because

474
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 3: because they lied to my grandmother for years, so she

475
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,160
Speaker 3: my grandmother died without knowing who her father was. It's

476
00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 3: really sad. And then so my mother and my uncle,

477
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:36,440
Speaker 3: my uncle, they've been on that journey to find out

478
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 3: who our grand great my great grandfather was, right, and

479
00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:42,119
Speaker 3: she found him on twenty three and meters and she

480
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 3: just recently found her.

481
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:47,000
Speaker 1: Cousin's no way. Okay, well maybe I'll try this.

482
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:49,840
Speaker 4: But now do we believe everything that they're saying? In

483
00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:51,840
Speaker 4: my mind, I feel like maybe it's like a trick.

484
00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,479
Speaker 3: There's also phone records that my uncle found that is

485
00:22:55,480 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 3: connecting the man to my grandmother. So for this, before

486
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,479
Speaker 3: the technology of twenty three and meters, that's how you

487
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:06,480
Speaker 3: can sort of find out who's linked to you. It's

488
00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 3: through phone records. And when someone got pregnant, oh, well,

489
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:12,520
Speaker 3: they were talking a lot and then all of a

490
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:14,640
Speaker 3: sudden she was pregnant, and then they'll call stopped.

491
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 2: That's insanity. I'm really interested. This can turn into a documentary.

492
00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 1: Marina. I think you should fighting your Jewish root. Yeah,

493
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:22,919
Speaker 1: flip this fighting.

494
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:31,360
Speaker 4: I think you should get into a z Okay, So

495
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 4: how did this first heartbreak happen?

496
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:38,200
Speaker 3: So the first harp, it was basically because I wanted

497
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 3: to continue at Syracuse. I wanted to finish my thesis,

498
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 3: and I wanted to continue in my acting career. It

499
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 3: wasn't going to happen for me in Chicago, just because

500
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 3: that's not really where things were at that time. I mean,

501
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:54,440
Speaker 3: now you could say like Chicago's like a real thriving

502
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 3: comedy scene, but back then, because I grew up there,

503
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:01,239
Speaker 3: there wasn't a lot that I saw that was like

504
00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 3: for me an opportunity. I really wanted to go to

505
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 3: New York City. Yeah, but and he got depressed about

506
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:07,680
Speaker 3: the fact that I wanted to go to New York

507
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,919
Speaker 3: or the fact that I was even into my career.

508
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:13,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that was already a red flag.

509
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 4: Like any dude that's like I watch you here with

510
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 4: me and I'm not changing anything about my life, but

511
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 4: I want you to change anything about your life so

512
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 4: we can.

513
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 1: Be together is problematic. But people think that's love though.

514
00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:26,439
Speaker 2: They think like, oh, you just really love me and

515
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 2: you're you're obsessed and you just want to be near me.

516
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 1: But it's just like it's control, that's all.

517
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 3: It is troll, and it's also bringing someone down to

518
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 3: your level, which he didn't seem like.

519
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:40,880
Speaker 1: Drag him, Marina, drag him cracking, like how he tried

520
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,120
Speaker 1: to drag you back to Chicago. Drag him yep.

521
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 3: Well, I will say, you know it's funny, is like

522
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:49,919
Speaker 3: area years later, I you know, I always felt like

523
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 3: this is gonna sound weird, but I wasn't black enough

524
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:57,679
Speaker 3: for him. He really like he had a stereo type

525
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 3: like I was dating a white guy who only had

526
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 3: stereotype ideas.

527
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 4: Like yeah, oh, I was thinking like something real, somebody

528
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 4: real African like bald head. Like he had like tribal

529
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 4: clothes at the house. Like he was like, you wear that, right,

530
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:12,719
Speaker 4: that's that's cool for you.

531
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, like I wasn't doing the job as

532
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:18,159
Speaker 3: far as like I wasn't tough enough because.

533
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 4: You read, you read books and stuff, and he was like,

534
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 4: actually I don't like that.

535
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:24,120
Speaker 3: Like yeah, it was just not Yeah. He was from

536
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 3: a small town in Iowa, so he absolutely had an

537
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 3: idea of what black was and.

538
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:33,120
Speaker 1: It was somebody from Maury. Absolutely. Yeah.

539
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 3: So years later when I.

540
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:39,159
Speaker 1: Called you called him, I did to say look at me.

541
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:40,360
Speaker 1: I'm thriving on Netflix.

542
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 3: No, it was one of those little calls where you go, Hi,

543
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 3: how are you? Like I just wanted to check it. Oh,

544
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 3: Marie's gonna be like why do you do that?

545
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, like let him see you out and thriving, let

546
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 4: him google you today and be and.

547
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:55,960
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm sorry, well you want to answer that.

548
00:25:58,080 --> 00:25:58,280
Speaker 4: Is it?

549
00:25:58,320 --> 00:25:58,639
Speaker 3: Okay?

550
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 1: I'm just going to tell her that we're here.

551
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 4: What I'm so, we have a whole podcast. Just FaceTime call.

552
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:08,360
Speaker 2: Hey, your phone should have been We're still in the podcast.

553
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 2: I have to call you back.

554
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:11,320
Speaker 3: I want her to be happy.

555
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:16,679
Speaker 1: Okay, we're at the podcast, babe. She wanted to broke.

556
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 2: Sid that you've been lying at him.

557
00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: Stop it Ray.

558
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 4: She was like, well, let me see, let me see

559
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 4: the microphone. What producer was there? What's the guest expertise is.

560
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 1: Like, I just want to make sure nobody's beating you

561
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:35,360
Speaker 1: at home.

562
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:44,640
Speaker 4: Okay, you started with this, I need to pick it up. Yeah,

563
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 4: Sendy hasn't removed her sunglasses, Sydny. Somebody pushed you. Shut up,

564
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 4: luber eated somebody to push you do the stairs while

565
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 4: she sr girl.

566
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,640
Speaker 1: Okay, so it was you weren't what he was looking for.

567
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:58,120
Speaker 1: You broke up. He broke up with you.

568
00:26:58,160 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 3: But the point I'm trying to get at is that

569
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:05,400
Speaker 3: I called him and she answered his new black girlfriend.

570
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,880
Speaker 3: And minute when I say he got the real deal,

571
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 3: I heard it.

572
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:11,400
Speaker 1: Over the phone. When she sounded like give us some impersonation.

573
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 1: She picked up his cell phone. When your name popped.

574
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 3: Up, it wasn't his cell phone At that time, there

575
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 3: was everyone still.

576
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:21,879
Speaker 1: She had a rotary, a landline. It was all the

577
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 1: way around. And you guys are so cute. Yes, it

578
00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 1: was one. You had to pick up the thing, you.

579
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:31,359
Speaker 2: Put your finger in the Okay.

580
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 1: You had stay.

581
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 3: That's what they had. That's what you could do. Actually

582
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:42,439
Speaker 3: dial a number. Yeah, and so she answered it his

583
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 3: house phone number.

584
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:44,439
Speaker 1: How did she pick up?

585
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 3: Hello?

586
00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 1: It was? It was hello? I was like, may I

587
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 1: was that? Actually just sounds like somebody's mother. It could

588
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 1: have been his Iowa mom, time is it? And that's

589
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: how you want to speak to whom? Eric his phone?

590
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 1: Milk Yeah, Eric with a He's like and who is this?

591
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, never mind, and I just

592
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 3: hung up.

593
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 4: No, we don't even know if that was his girlfriend

594
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 4: that Gilme was it was.

595
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:16,680
Speaker 3: I knew he had a new girlfriend and she was black,

596
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 3: so I knew, and I could tell from the way

597
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 3: she her tone and everything that I should not be called.

598
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 3: And then I found out, like years later, because I

599
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 3: left it alone. After that, he saw me at the

600
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:31,639
Speaker 3: comedy seller. He actually came in saw the joke that

601
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 3: I wrote about him. Yes, And then I said, so,

602
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 3: how is that going, And he goes, oh, she turned

603
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 3: out to be crazy. She had split personalities and one

604
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 3: of them did not like me.

605
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 1: That was like a movie I would watch a Night

606
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 1: Shamalan split.

607
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 4: I would watch that film a black girl with two

608
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 4: personalities and one of them don't like.

609
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 1: A white boy. You need to write that, Marina.

610
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 2: Let's get let's get in this, writer's do this.

611
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 4: Let's get Netflix on the phone, get a Lifetime on

612
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 4: the phone.

613
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 3: It's hilarious. And I was like, this is what he deserves.

614
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 3: Good good for Eric motory.

615
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 2: And that's the wonderful thing about Like I feel like you.

616
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 2: You're successful in comedy in all the romances that you don't.

617
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 1: That's fine. I told you.

618
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 2: If you don't, just get on Amazon and listen. I'm

619
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 2: gonna give you a day. How about that gifted gift.

620
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: But you have to get somebody to put it in

621
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 1: because I can't. You need help that face nobody toilet, no, no,

622
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: no no.

623
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 2: But I will say the thing about being in comedy

624
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 2: and also being successful, you get to all these romances

625
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 2: that you used to have. You get to stunt quick

626
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 2: and fast, so like you're a single black female but

627
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 2: not it's not a negative connotation.

628
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: It's just like empowering.

629
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is just what has happened to me. I mean,

630
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:54,360
Speaker 3: I've had so many boyfriends.

631
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: Over the year. You have, Marina, Marina.

632
00:29:56,320 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 4: I've seen boyfriends. No, I only know like two or

633
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 4: three of your boyfriends.

634
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

635
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 3: Like and a lot of the comics who've known me

636
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 3: for years, Like I've been doing this for twenty years

637
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 3: or twenty years. All the comics who have known me, No,

638
00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 3: they know from my first boyfriend, which was he was Haitian.

639
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 3: Oh so that was my first boyfriend entering the comedy scene.

640
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 1: Okay, how did he feel about you doing comedy?

641
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 3: He did not like it?

642
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, so did he look like Marie right now?

643
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 3: I said, you are bringing back feelings.

644
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 4: Okay, let me go, let me go get my bandana, let.

645
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 1: Me put my du rag on six.

646
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 2: She about to get her for Dora ready, Okay.

647
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 3: But he was old school Haitian too, like your new generation.

648
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 4: Because I'm Haitian American.

649
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 3: He was from Haiti, but he did grow up in America.

650
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 3: But you could see the effects of moving here and

651
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 3: what it did because he was he grew up in

652
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:56,520
Speaker 3: Knarsi during the time when it was still mostly Italian,

653
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 3: so he tells me all those stories.

654
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: But yeah, Marina, you like, I'm rough around the edge

655
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 1: but able to make a good little pasta sauce.

656
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 4: Okay, what he's making of his sauce from scratch this

657
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 4: They showed me how to do this in the neighborhood. Also,

658
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 4: you're not going out tonight to do comedy. He's staying

659
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 4: in tonight.

660
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 3: The lumbee was the thing that the lumby, Yes, girl,

661
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 3: what's that?

662
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 1: See?

663
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 3: That's the afrodisiac in the Haitian culture. Talk about you're

664
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 3: American to know that one. But oh, they used to

665
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 3: go crazy over the lumbia.

666
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 1: Did you go crazy for?

667
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 3: It was for the men, not for me. But I

668
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 3: love the lumbie like I have a dick for you to,

669
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 3: Oh you have a lumbe?

670
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 1: How was the sex with the Haitian guy?

671
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 3: I don't again, you know, I feel okay? Well, I

672
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 3: mean you're sitting become good for a long time.

673
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 1: Do you remember the best that you've had?

674
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 3: H yes, I have for recentce.

675
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 4: Okay, let's get into the good stuff. Let's get into

676
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 4: the good stuff about being single, single black.

677
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 1: Female sad Haitians. We want, we want because you're because.

678
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 3: Voodoo controlled sex.

679
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 1: No, no, no, you will like it.

680
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:09,959
Speaker 4: No, because I feel like as women, they they they

681
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 4: want you to pick your family over your career a

682
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:15,960
Speaker 4: lot of times, or they look at you funny if

683
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 4: you don't have children or you're not in a relationship.

684
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 1: My aunt TATSI.

685
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 4: Every time I see her, she's like, you have a boyfriend,

686
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 4: because you need to get married.

687
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 1: And I'm like, your daughter ain't got no mad and

688
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:26,680
Speaker 1: she's here.

689
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 3: But I had them praying over my belly the first

690
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 3: weekend I met his.

691
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 4: Family praying over your belly for a baby, which who's

692
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 4: We were just the Haitian because we were just dating.

693
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

694
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:41,719
Speaker 3: So he was like I remember his his grandmother.

695
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: She was like, oh, oh baby, old baby, Oh baby.

696
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 3: I was like, what's happening. I'm from Chicago and this

697
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 3: is a lot.

698
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 2: Did he have a job, like a baby?

699
00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: Well, we pray for his for one k.

700
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 3: I just think it was cultural. They just wanted a

701
00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: baby right away. They were like, there's no time to waste.

702
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 4: I mean, but you're allowed to be like, I don't

703
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 4: know if I ever want to have children.

704
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 1: I feel like I just want to be a cool aunt.

705
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 3: You know, Yeah, there was that pressure. I mean I

706
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 3: had his sister come over and say that she didn't

707
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 3: understand why it's speaking of toilets again. Why the toilet

708
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 3: was not clean when you have a woman here. Oh,

709
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 3: first of all, I don't live.

710
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 4: We just you don't live with him, and you got

711
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 4: to go to his house to clean his toilet fit.

712
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 2: And I'm also not in a relationship to do toilets. Okay,

713
00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 2: I don't do toilets. I don't do dishes, and I

714
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 2: don't do the what is it windows? Yeah, I don't

715
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 2: do anything.

716
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 1: You don't do windows.

717
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 2: I mean you don't like places the windows, I don't.

718
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 2: I don't do windows, you know, like you have to

719
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 2: clean the windows. I don't do those either. I don't

720
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 2: do dishes, I don't do what.

721
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 1: Why your houses a shamble?

722
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 4: But my sunglasses on top of your sunglasses, you should

723
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 4: be a shamed who's scrubbing the tub because you live there?

724
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 2: The cats, Wow, they're exfoliating the tub with their with

725
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 2: their hair.

726
00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 3: The whole expectation that I was going to be that

727
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 3: type of woman was a bit much. When I was

728
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 3: just dating him for the first time. I even had

729
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 3: her show me how to stirt like, she's like, you

730
00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 3: need to come over. We need to make sure you

731
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 3: know how to fix the rice. You know how to

732
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 3: stir the rise and.

733
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 4: Do you know how you need to learn how to

734
00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 4: stir rice? Yeah, you don't cook at all.

735
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:16,840
Speaker 3: I mean I could not really.

736
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 1: I went over there. Marine should be boiling things.

737
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: I make vegetables a lot of you know.

738
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:28,240
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, Marina, you do day white Man, because.

739
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 4: I'm gonna slice these peppers real thin and then we're

740
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:35,600
Speaker 4: gonna dip them in something hummus.

741
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:36,840
Speaker 1: You do hummus.

742
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 3: I do a lot of hummus, humus and carrots.

743
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: I can't cook either, so it's fine.

744
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that you can't cook, but I just

745
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 2: I feel your energy that you're like, we're we're kindred spirits.

746
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 2: I'm not a salt bag or an iron chef, but

747
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 2: I don't how to cook things that I like I'll

748
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 2: be able to eat and not die like for the

749
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:54,839
Speaker 2: rest of my life.

750
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 4: I got an instant pot, so I'm doing I don't

751
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 4: even know what that means. And instant you put everything

752
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 4: in the pot like a crack pile.

753
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you make rice in it. Insta pot you

754
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 1: can make chicken.

755
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can make rice, you can you can do

756
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:08,200
Speaker 2: like a stew. You do chili, but you have to add.

757
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 1: All the ingredients. Yeah, you just throw it in there.

758
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 1: You don't watch it or nothing. Just a hole onion,

759
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:21,319
Speaker 1: not chopped, all the skin is still on it. The chicken. Leave,

760
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 1: run your errands and come back.

761
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:27,200
Speaker 4: It's done, house burnt down, but the chicken is ready.

762
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:30,280
Speaker 3: But back then, I really like I would say, now

763
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:33,760
Speaker 3: I can do some meals, but back then really couldn't.

764
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 3: And he caught me trying to make greens. Speaking of greens, right,

765
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:40,319
Speaker 3: I didn't know I had back choy.

766
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 2: So that's different. That's not just like any old type

767
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 2: of like green.

768
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, back choy is very different.

769
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 1: And then really it's very Niche.

770
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:54,239
Speaker 3: I have to go back to the store get turn

771
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 3: up greens. And then what happened was I didn't follow directions.

772
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 3: I had put a cup of baking FDA into the pot.

773
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 4: Disintegrated, they disintegrated, and he came in and he was

774
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 4: like something smell.

775
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 3: In my hand like this, and the greens are just

776
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,719
Speaker 3: and he just he found it funny though. But yeah,

777
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:13,399
Speaker 3: I was not.

778
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: Well because Haitian man thought it was funny. Could he cook?

779
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, if he could cook, I mean, as long

780
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 4: as one of us could cook, I feel like we

781
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 4: gonna be fine.

782
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 3: He made some jerk chicken wings, and oh my god.

783
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:25,240
Speaker 1: That sound basic?

784
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 4: What else, Sidney, You're making things in an instant pot,

785
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:29,800
Speaker 4: but you're saying it wouldn't sound basic.

786
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: You chef DDA over here, you're ratitude. I can get

787
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:36,400
Speaker 1: dir chicken and golden crests.

788
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 2: That's nothing to me. Give me something I can't pronounce.

789
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 2: Come on, let's go.

790
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 3: What he made oxtail like? Yeah, that was pretty much

791
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:50,600
Speaker 3: his oxtail, his jerk chicken, his lumbe. He made plantings

792
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 3: like fried and fried, and the rice the way he

793
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,560
Speaker 3: would make the rice. I've never had rice like that,

794
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 3: so I really kind of do miss him some there

795
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:04,239
Speaker 3: we're talking about the rights too or what was really fantastic.

796
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 3: There was a way that he seasoned the rice.

797
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, my mother is good at that.

798
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 4: I don't know how to do it either, and it'll

799
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:11,920
Speaker 4: be a big ass pot of rice and I'd be like,

800
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 4: I make this little tiny thing and I can't figure

801
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 4: it out.

802
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 1: So whatever? Uh?

803
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 2: What relationship like made you kind of change as a person?

804
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:22,400
Speaker 1: Like they were they were. So was your breakthrough?

805
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:25,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, fantastic as a person that they made you want

806
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 2: to change.

807
00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 3: Oh, I gotta think I think they all did all that.

808
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:30,719
Speaker 1: Every single make you.

809
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:33,720
Speaker 3: Change, either, make you learn. I'm not doing that again,

810
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 3: but I would say the one that made me really

811
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 3: change as a person was the one that probably this

812
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 3: one did break my heart the most is the one

813
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 3: he was.

814
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 1: He was white, Marina, how many of them have been black?

815
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 4: We should have you an expert as white you white men, expert.

816
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 3: Expert timeline of white guys.

817
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 1: How many white guys you think you've been with?

818
00:37:56,560 --> 00:38:00,640
Speaker 3: Well, this was two whites ago. So I would say

819
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 3: he was probably the most calm guy like I've ever met.

820
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 3: Like we were functional together, Like he actually worked with me,

821
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 3: like with my temper, he managed it.

822
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,759
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's what he was.

823
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 3: He Well, he was willing to listen when I was upset.

824
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 3: He was willing to talk me through.

825
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 1: And he was like yes, sounds like your therapist is yes.

826
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, but the thing is is like it was a

827
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:30,440
Speaker 3: give and take. It was like I would do the

828
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 3: same for him.

829
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:34,880
Speaker 1: Okay, so he would share his issues with you.

830
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:39,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, he wouldst therapists sometimes, So yeah, shut up.

831
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:43,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, where your therapist is like, actually the check balance,

832
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 4: So I'm not gonna be able to see you this session.

833
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 3: But the real test in a relationship is if it's

834
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 3: gonna work, as if you can go on a long

835
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 3: road trip and not fight.

836
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 1: Yes, ah, and we.

837
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:56,280
Speaker 3: Had that and that was like kind of the beginning

838
00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 3: of our relationship.

839
00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 1: I was going Vermont.

840
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 3: No, we were actually.

841
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 1: Massachusetts. You're like, you would have to.

842
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,279
Speaker 3: Have gone to Vermont, this little interracial.

843
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 4: Couple, because I went with my white boyfriend to Vermont

844
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 4: for a wedding. So that's why I threw that out there.

845
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 4: I thought, that's that's like they're that's their pilgrimage. You

846
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,280
Speaker 4: gotta go touch a horse in Vermont.

847
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 3: It was all the way to California driving. Well, no,

848
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:31,440
Speaker 3: we drove from Ventura, California to Sonoma Valley.

849
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 1: Okay, girl, we don't know what none of that means.

850
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:33,839
Speaker 1: How long is that?

851
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 3: No, that's a long drive. That's like about a good

852
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 3: eight hours. What yeah, that can it can with traffic

853
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 3: And there's mountains and there's like the one you know,

854
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:46,360
Speaker 3: you drive on the one and when you go around

855
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 3: those mountains and those curves.

856
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 2: The Wi Fi cut off and then you can't like

857
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 2: you to talk to them, you have to make eye

858
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:54,480
Speaker 2: contact with.

859
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:01,760
Speaker 1: God and what series unavailable in his own.

860
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 3: We I don't even think Wi FI was discussed at

861
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 3: the time when we were had CDs.

862
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:13,320
Speaker 1: That you had all the CDs in the pockets.

863
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 4: Remember, yes, you had records, said.

864
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 1: Tapes a track in the bar.

865
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 3: But we it was like testing because there was a

866
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:30,439
Speaker 3: point where I was talking and he was like, Okay,

867
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:32,319
Speaker 3: you're gonna have to be quiet right now because if

868
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,760
Speaker 3: you go around on the one on those mountains, it's terrifying. Yeah,

869
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 3: his back was stiff and he was sweating. But we

870
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 3: never thought it was like a very like we worked

871
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 3: together on that journey because there are moments where I

872
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:50,160
Speaker 3: could see someone else getting really upset and fighting, and it.

873
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:53,320
Speaker 1: Was good, can you can you drive? Did you switch

874
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 1: off and drive?

875
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 3: But he wanted to do that trip.

876
00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 1: Okay, let him be the man sist.

877
00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, Jesus take the wheel.

878
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 2: When I went to Detroit with Adrian and we drove

879
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,439
Speaker 2: all the way there, she drove all the way back.

880
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 2: She was so annoyed because she was like, Wow, I

881
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:10,799
Speaker 2: really wish you could do something, And I was like,

882
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:12,359
Speaker 2: I played music.

883
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:15,200
Speaker 4: The whole time, and you probably slept and she was

884
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 4: awake driving that by herself.

885
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 2: No, I had one eye open and I was shut up.

886
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 2: But yeah, we didn't argue because we barely spoke, Like

887
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 2: we said enough to get things going. But I feel

888
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 2: like when you're talking and talking then it gets repetitive

889
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 2: and you're like, do I actually.

890
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 1: Like this person? So that's how you survive on a trip?

891
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 4: You don't, no, not necessarily that, because some sometimes sitting

892
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:45,400
Speaker 4: in silence is comfortable, right, but sometimes it's like tense

893
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 4: and you feel like you have to feel the silence.

894
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:49,880
Speaker 4: But if if you can have a conversation with somebody

895
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:51,839
Speaker 4: that you're in a relationship with, then like, why are

896
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 4: you with that person?

897
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:57,839
Speaker 1: In my mind, you a single female didn't come.

898
00:41:58,120 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 3: I thought that was for you and you were like,

899
00:41:59,560 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 3: I'm not.

900
00:42:01,239 --> 00:42:03,759
Speaker 1: I'm just asking the room.

901
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 4: I'm asking the listeners, Like you should be able to

902
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 4: sit comfortably in silence with the person that you're in

903
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 4: a relationship with. It don't feel like you need to

904
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 4: fill all of that silence all the time. But also,

905
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 4: if you can't have a conversation with somebody and you

906
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 4: don't have anything to say to.

907
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:21,359
Speaker 3: Them, Yeah, there is a point where that silence goes

908
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:24,959
Speaker 3: too long, where you're like, oh, we're not even in nothing,

909
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,759
Speaker 3: we're just together, right. But yeah, when you're like out

910
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:30,359
Speaker 3: and you're eating and you realize like an hour has

911
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 3: gone by and you're not even in the same space

912
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:36,320
Speaker 3: with each other, you're just existing for whatever reason.

913
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, have you ever been in a relationship like that?

914
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 3: Sure, I mean that happens in all really after a

915
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 3: while of being definitely the Haitian. I mean we were

916
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 3: together for four years and I didn't even know.

917
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 1: Was that your longest relationship?

918
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 3: That was my longest four years Marina? Yeah, four years

919
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 3: was long, and four years is a long time. I

920
00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 3: think it was the voodoo personally, Oh, here we go,

921
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 3: the stereotypes, here, here we go.

922
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 1: Come on, Chicago, let's go put it out.

923
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,799
Speaker 3: I just think it was unexplained.

924
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 1: It was that rice. You stayed for the rice, Marina

925
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:13,760
Speaker 1: for four years. It's the lumbe.

926
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, the food will keep you. It'll keep you

927
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:20,360
Speaker 3: if you're a girl or a guy.

928
00:43:20,520 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 4: A man that can cook is so sexy? Really, yes, yes,

929
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 4: it's so hot.

930
00:43:26,880 --> 00:43:30,399
Speaker 2: I guess I haven't met one of those. So that's

931
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 2: why I'm a lesbian. But you haven't met so a

932
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 2: woman that can't cook.

933
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 3: Well, anyone who can cook for you would be sexy, right.

934
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 2: That's very triggering and aggressive when you come down. She said,

935
00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 2: I can't cook.

936
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 1: Because you can't. You just told us you couldn't.

937
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 2: But I can't cook because I'm out here working. You

938
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:55,360
Speaker 2: hear that I haven't looked.

939
00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:03,160
Speaker 1: Starving. That's merch. It's fine.

940
00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 4: But yeah, I think that men that can cook is attractive.

941
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 4: It's beautiful because I feel like men are so like

942
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 4: useless most of the time.

943
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 3: A lot of men can cook too. Men know how

944
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 3: to season meat very well.

945
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: Oh, you're talking about grilling when they grilling.

946
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 3: Like my cousin out speaking of Ventura where we started.

947
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:25,840
Speaker 3: My cousin is a professional chef, so he's single, or.

948
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:27,879
Speaker 4: He have a tattoo of a radish on his leg

949
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:30,840
Speaker 4: or something. I feel a lot of these professional cooks nowaday.

950
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:36,239
Speaker 3: He's like that grill Master is one of those barbecue competition.

951
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:42,720
Speaker 3: His brisket wins award. What in your mouth? Very sexy?

952
00:44:43,120 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course he's he's well when he's doing friends

953
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:49,239
Speaker 2: like us, you know, and invite friends like us.

954
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 1: To friends like we'll be on time. He's not very shabby.

955
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 1: That's the problem. He too busy cooking, Okay, seasoning. People

956
00:44:57,760 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 1: just travel for massaging the meat.

957
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 2: Simply marvelous barbecue. That's what is his brand is. Yeah,

958
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 2: he got a sauce.

959
00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 3: Yes, makes a cherry rub and he makes a cherry barbecue.

960
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 1: How long you been married? You married? He is married? Hello,

961
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:14,840
Speaker 1: you want to.

962
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:18,880
Speaker 3: Break you want to break up for some barbecue?

963
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:19,760
Speaker 1: They got kids?

964
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 3: They don't y.

965
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 1: No.

966
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:24,400
Speaker 2: I was just gonna go over there and like, can

967
00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 2: you teach me I need help take off work short shorts. No,

968
00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 2: I'll come in there and sweats you gonna put on

969
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:34,479
Speaker 2: she gonna put on nibble tassels Like this is how.

970
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 1: I could.

971
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 2: Shut up anyways, Uh, Rina, have you recently had like

972
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 2: a relationship that you're just like you want to dog

973
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 2: that person out, but you're trying to be a bigger

974
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:50,800
Speaker 2: person girl.

975
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 3: Yes, Yeah, I mean I've had a few I've wanted

976
00:45:54,840 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 3: to go on some rants about and then I found

977
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 3: out I was wrong about it because I had a

978
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 3: person recently actually that I dated that I thought was

979
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 3: not there for me during a very tough time.

980
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 1: Was it your cat?

981
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 3: It was something else? But that too. Yeah, but I

982
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 3: was you know, I got some health stuff going on

983
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 3: that's very intense, and I felt abandoned. So yeah, I

984
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:21,839
Speaker 3: really wanted to. I want to go on a lot

985
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 3: of podcasts and like really trash him. I wanted to

986
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 3: dog them through the me too movement. I want to

987
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 3: make that of me too. I was like, oh, yeah,

988
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 3: you abandoned me. Isn't this a me too?

989
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 1: Yes, you abandoned me, But you put your dick on

990
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:39,399
Speaker 1: my forehead before you left. That's me too. Yeah, that's

991
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:39,799
Speaker 1: me too.

992
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,400
Speaker 3: You know I would have liked the dick on my forehead.

993
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:46,359
Speaker 1: That's what that's what the baby hairs lay.

994
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:58,359
Speaker 3: Wait, man, I just see like a dick.

995
00:46:58,600 --> 00:47:06,040
Speaker 1: Just wait, Marina, how did you be a bigger person

996
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:06,239
Speaker 1: with that?

997
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:08,320
Speaker 2: Because I see a lot of people doing that in

998
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 2: this day and age, just social media, live tweeting breakups

999
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:14,600
Speaker 2: going off, and it's just like, how do you be

1000
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 2: that person where you're like, I'm not gonna trash.

1001
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 4: That's so crazy to me that people be live tweeting

1002
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:23,760
Speaker 4: breakups and relationships like people share.

1003
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 3: That's who movement got kind of is like one of

1004
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:29,880
Speaker 3: the things we have to be honest about as women,

1005
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:32,839
Speaker 3: is we do have that part of us that when

1006
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 3: we're when we're hurt, that we do want to burn

1007
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 3: you down. And so that was kind of corrupting the

1008
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:41,840
Speaker 3: me too movement. It's like, no, no, no, this is

1009
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:47,479
Speaker 3: not bad. That's something different. Oh yeah, yeah, you can't

1010
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:49,760
Speaker 3: cancel this guy just because he hurt your feeling.

1011
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 4: Well, yeah, there was a there's a guy in particular

1012
00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 4: a couple of years ago. People were talking about him

1013
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:57,239
Speaker 4: and I was like, well, what did he do? And

1014
00:47:57,280 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 4: they're like, he's not nice and he's not a good guy.

1015
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 4: And it was this all over this Facebook group and

1016
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 4: I finally get the story. And what happened is he

1017
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:10,439
Speaker 4: met this girl. She really liked him. He was trying

1018
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 4: to hook up with her, and she was like, we

1019
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:14,880
Speaker 4: can't hook up if we're not going to be boyfriend

1020
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 4: and girlfriend. They hooked up and then he kind of

1021
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 4: ghosted her. And that's a story, a tale as old

1022
00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:24,239
Speaker 4: as time, because she you know, women are dumb and

1023
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:26,719
Speaker 4: we do stupid stuff like that, and by weyam and y'all,

1024
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:30,800
Speaker 4: but she made they made this dude seem like he

1025
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 4: did something horrible to her, like and they were being

1026
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,160
Speaker 4: so vague about it, and they were like, don't book

1027
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:39,160
Speaker 4: him on your shows. He's not a nice person. He

1028
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:41,880
Speaker 4: was losing opportunities, like job opportunities because of it. And

1029
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:45,120
Speaker 4: all that happened is he had sex with her and

1030
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 4: then lost interests. Yeah, a few days later, a few

1031
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:49,239
Speaker 4: weeks later.

1032
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:53,480
Speaker 3: So yeah, you're right, Marie, like I mean, and Sidney like,

1033
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 3: there's a point where you have to acknowledge the fact

1034
00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 3: that you are just her. And I think it takes age, actually,

1035
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 3: and years of experience to come to that point when

1036
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 3: you're younger. It just sometimes it doesn't you don't understand it.

1037
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:12,919
Speaker 1: But it's so big when you're young.

1038
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, and yes, you feel like your life is over,

1039
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,840
Speaker 3: Yeah you do. But I think there is that moment

1040
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 3: where you you do have to kind of accept the

1041
00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:24,960
Speaker 3: fact that, oh my god, I was wrong about this.

1042
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 3: And then you I have had friends like who've acknowledged

1043
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:32,279
Speaker 3: the fact this person's a nice guy and what you're

1044
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 3: doing is wrong. So my friends checked me as well.

1045
00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 3: So you have your friends check you, and then you

1046
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 3: gotta listen, and then you check yourself and then you

1047
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 3: just swallow that big lump of like, okay, let me

1048
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:48,200
Speaker 3: just be, let me be okay, And I actually wrote

1049
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:50,880
Speaker 3: them a text and I said, I'm sorry, but I

1050
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 3: really felt like I thought you didn't understand what was

1051
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:55,400
Speaker 3: going on with me. But now that I know that

1052
00:49:55,520 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 3: you didn't know, I'm actually sorry because my rage was

1053
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:02,360
Speaker 3: more about what was going on with me, not you.

1054
00:50:02,920 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 1: That's so honest, Marina.

1055
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 2: I rarely hear people just being upfront about, hey, I

1056
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,320
Speaker 2: made a mistake and this person really isn't trash.

1057
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 1: I rarely hear that. I heard that.

1058
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:16,800
Speaker 2: I always hear the bad story about the person, and

1059
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:20,360
Speaker 2: then I have to do the investigating work myself or

1060
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 2: I won't get the truth.

1061
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:24,160
Speaker 3: And who's got the time to do all that investigation?

1062
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 4: Well, since when you're unemployed, you got, you got weekends,

1063
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 4: you got, you got a job.

1064
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 1: The public record, what so?

1065
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:38,759
Speaker 3: What is so?

1066
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:40,000
Speaker 1: What do you want?

1067
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:40,560
Speaker 4: Like?

1068
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:43,560
Speaker 1: Are you dating now? Where are you on the apps?

1069
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:43,840
Speaker 4: Are you.

1070
00:50:46,280 --> 00:50:48,400
Speaker 3: Right now? I am just trying to focus in on

1071
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:52,399
Speaker 3: my life, what I'm doing. My health has to get better.

1072
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 3: So that's most of my energy right now is I

1073
00:50:55,719 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 3: don't really have the energy to let someone else in.

1074
00:50:58,719 --> 00:51:02,759
Speaker 3: I've got to work on myself and that had you know,

1075
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,240
Speaker 3: sometimes when you get older, because I am an older

1076
00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 3: black woman, you can't tell, but when you get to

1077
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:16,239
Speaker 3: a certain age you have the panic sets in. I've

1078
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 3: got to do this. I got to have children, I've

1079
00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 3: got to have a family. You're looking around, but at

1080
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 3: the end of the day, you've got to be happy.

1081
00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 3: So really it's about working on myself and sometimes relationships,

1082
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 3: when you force yourself into one, you get distracted by that.

1083
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 3: So it's about right now, just making sure everything is

1084
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:41,480
Speaker 3: good with me, my finances. That day, toilet I want,

1085
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 3: I want the hot water splashing my ass. You know,

1086
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 3: a better place where I'm living. I'm looking at like

1087
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 3: other homes and stuff, and I'm like you, I want

1088
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:59,960
Speaker 3: to make things good for me and not for someone else.

1089
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 3: And until that happens, yeah, I can't be in a relationship.

1090
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 3: So single Black Female is that's great.

1091
00:52:08,120 --> 00:52:11,320
Speaker 2: The title is also the title of your new special

1092
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:12,359
Speaker 2: that's out as well.

1093
00:52:12,719 --> 00:52:14,320
Speaker 1: You could chat a little bit about that.

1094
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:19,839
Speaker 2: Just that's everything that encompasses empowerment for me, because it's

1095
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 2: there's so much pressure to want to settle down and

1096
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:25,800
Speaker 2: have a family and think that's the only thing that

1097
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:29,239
Speaker 2: makes you makes you worthy. So to hear someone saying no,

1098
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 2: actually it's okay, I'm doing this and I'm fine, Yeah, absolutely.

1099
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 3: And you know, when I was working on the material

1100
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:40,439
Speaker 3: for Single Black Female, a lot of the producers wanted

1101
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 3: me to do a lot of my old material, so

1102
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:45,480
Speaker 3: I kind of like we made a you know, I

1103
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 3: work negotiated with them, whereas like, I kind of need

1104
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:51,279
Speaker 3: to talk about this stuff now, and I'll bring in

1105
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 3: some of the older material that fits with that idea

1106
00:52:54,000 --> 00:52:56,720
Speaker 3: of just being okay with being a single black woman.

1107
00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 3: That's really what was on my mind and that's what

1108
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 3: I wanted to talk about. And then people in the

1109
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 3: audience I would find, like specifically young women shaking their

1110
00:53:04,640 --> 00:53:06,600
Speaker 3: heads like yes, it's okay to be single. So I

1111
00:53:06,680 --> 00:53:09,839
Speaker 3: knew I was resonating with what was in the air.

1112
00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 3: So that's why I talked about it in the set.

1113
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:13,719
Speaker 6: Well.

1114
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:17,000
Speaker 4: Also, I feel like it's younger women are connecting with

1115
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:19,880
Speaker 4: it because we live in a different time, right, Like

1116
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:22,280
Speaker 4: women are making their own money, we paying our own bills,

1117
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 4: We got htations and stuff now, like we know that

1118
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:28,160
Speaker 4: we don't need men to do anything for us, right,

1119
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:30,759
Speaker 4: And being single and being able to travel and have

1120
00:53:30,880 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 4: a hot girl summer and like eat prey, hoe it

1121
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 4: up is something that like people like maybe my mom

1122
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:39,080
Speaker 4: and my grandmother weren't able to do, but like I

1123
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 4: could do whatever I want now because I can afford

1124
00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:43,840
Speaker 4: to do it right and I'm not and I'm my

1125
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 4: identity is not tied to a relationship or a man

1126
00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:47,719
Speaker 4: or a family or blah blah blah blah blah.

1127
00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 3: And it feels great and it feels it's so powerful.

1128
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,239
Speaker 3: How nice is it to come home and not have

1129
00:53:52,400 --> 00:53:53,600
Speaker 3: to check in with anyone?

1130
00:53:53,840 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 1: Oh girl, I hate a good morning, beautiful text, good

1131
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 1: morning beautiful. Oh my goodness.

1132
00:54:02,480 --> 00:54:04,480
Speaker 3: I mean, I got to respond to that, and if

1133
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:05,720
Speaker 3: I don't, I'm in trouble.

1134
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:13,640
Speaker 1: I just be sending SpongeBob memes or criminal. Yeah I did.

1135
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,920
Speaker 1: I didn't mean to text you. Yeah, I totally agree

1136
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:17,439
Speaker 1: with you. Guys.

1137
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 2: I just think because my family was so disheveled and

1138
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:26,360
Speaker 2: people weren't married or people didn't have enough family, so

1139
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 2: when like three people passed away, then that's like the

1140
00:54:29,160 --> 00:54:32,399
Speaker 2: whole tree. So for me, it's like, oh, I don't

1141
00:54:32,840 --> 00:54:35,439
Speaker 2: need to be in a relationship, but I do want

1142
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:39,799
Speaker 2: to have some type of family tree for the future.

1143
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 3: And so I do understand that.

1144
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:45,759
Speaker 2: It's it's sometimes we think about, oh, it's a societal

1145
00:54:45,880 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 2: thing that you think you need to get married. But

1146
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:51,160
Speaker 2: it's also like, yeah, family is kind of important, no,

1147
00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:53,880
Speaker 2: because I mean, I'm not closer to my family at all.

1148
00:54:53,880 --> 00:54:56,200
Speaker 2: I don't speak to my mom, so you know, I

1149
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:58,800
Speaker 2: know what it is to be a single black female

1150
00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 2: because of why my mom and in the back of

1151
00:55:02,200 --> 00:55:04,360
Speaker 2: my head is like, I don't really want to be that.

1152
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:07,040
Speaker 2: I want to I want to figure out something else

1153
00:55:07,120 --> 00:55:09,800
Speaker 2: for my path and that's why I'm gay, and you

1154
00:55:09,880 --> 00:55:10,160
Speaker 2: know I.

1155
00:55:10,200 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 1: Won't be You're just trying to have all the babies.

1156
00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:15,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I've got to make your family, see,

1157
00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 3: and you're a good example of the idea that you

1158
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:20,360
Speaker 3: have to meet a man to make a family is wrong.

1159
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,280
Speaker 3: You can do it on your own. You can adopt

1160
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:26,440
Speaker 3: on your own, if that's really what you want. I mean,

1161
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 3: but the thing is there is that reality, like you

1162
00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:32,680
Speaker 3: were saying, like to have people around you, right, is

1163
00:55:32,760 --> 00:55:35,799
Speaker 3: really this is something that I I do go through.

1164
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 3: I mean, the reality is you're okay with your singleness,

1165
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:41,799
Speaker 3: but there are times where it sets in and you're

1166
00:55:41,880 --> 00:55:44,680
Speaker 3: looking at like, you know, at my age, everyone's married,

1167
00:55:44,719 --> 00:55:49,319
Speaker 3: everyone has kids, and it's a holiday. So when you're

1168
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:51,840
Speaker 3: just kind of by yourself.

1169
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 4: Just on Instagram, minding your business, and you're like, oh,

1170
00:55:54,239 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 4: everybody were matching red velvet sweaters this year, like I

1171
00:55:58,239 --> 00:55:58,719
Speaker 4: can see that.

1172
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 2: Or you're the friend that they invite you to their

1173
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:03,799
Speaker 2: little family thing, and then you're the friend that everybody's like, oh,

1174
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 2: come on, yeah, they're like feeling sorry for you, and

1175
00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:09,239
Speaker 2: it's like, bitch, I'm just here because I heard there

1176
00:56:09,360 --> 00:56:10,279
Speaker 2: was Glaize Ham like.

1177
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:13,239
Speaker 1: Like, why are you stressing me out?

1178
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:14,440
Speaker 3: Yes, exactly.

1179
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 1: Then it's awkward.

1180
00:56:15,560 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 3: Right you're at the family and they're looking at you

1181
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:18,000
Speaker 3: like oh you.

1182
00:56:18,080 --> 00:56:20,840
Speaker 2: Have no family, yeah, Or you're relying on your friends

1183
00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:22,879
Speaker 2: and you go to that dusty as friends giving where

1184
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 2: nobody could do mac and cheese properly and is canned.

1185
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:30,520
Speaker 2: Why but that can be funny, it can be No,

1186
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 2: when I'm hungry, It ain't funny when i'm family.

1187
00:56:34,200 --> 00:56:37,000
Speaker 1: I'm not laughing when I'm hang When I'm hungry.

1188
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:40,440
Speaker 2: When I'm eating somebody's turkey and I almost choke because

1189
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 2: it's that dry, that ain't funny.

1190
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:43,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't be going to people friends givens.

1191
00:56:43,960 --> 00:56:45,040
Speaker 1: I just go to my mother's house.

1192
00:56:45,280 --> 00:56:47,360
Speaker 3: Well that was like my first wife, boyfriend. That was

1193
00:56:47,360 --> 00:56:50,240
Speaker 3: probably the saddest Christmas I've ever had was in Iowa.

1194
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 3: The sound glorified rice, glorified rice, and it was not seasoned.

1195
00:56:57,640 --> 00:56:59,800
Speaker 3: It was not glorified. He could have learned from the Haitian.

1196
00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:02,279
Speaker 1: Now, okay, you should introduce your excess to your exits. Yeah,

1197
00:57:03,800 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 1: you should have dropped them a little book.

1198
00:57:07,920 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 2: You should have dropped a little you know, a little

1199
00:57:09,600 --> 00:57:11,520
Speaker 2: recipe book on their hands right there.

1200
00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:14,279
Speaker 3: But it's it, you know, you you figure it out.

1201
00:57:14,440 --> 00:57:17,080
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's all about what you need

1202
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:19,280
Speaker 3: to do at the time, and then you make choices

1203
00:57:19,360 --> 00:57:22,120
Speaker 3: to make that if you think, because there's families that

1204
00:57:22,200 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 3: are miserable. It looks like they're happy, but they're not.

1205
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:28,280
Speaker 3: There's you know, you look, I mean you go to

1206
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:30,680
Speaker 3: senior citizens' homes and you find out, oh, I guess

1207
00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 3: this didn't work out for this person because there's no

1208
00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 3: one visiting, you know, so sad.

1209
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:36,280
Speaker 1: That is the sad, right.

1210
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:39,440
Speaker 3: So that's why you have to make sure you're happy

1211
00:57:39,520 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 3: within yourself. You've got to do things for you, You've

1212
00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 3: got to work hard to be happy.

1213
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:46,560
Speaker 4: But then you also then have to think about your

1214
00:57:46,640 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 4: future because do you want to be that senior citizen

1215
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 4: by yourself.

1216
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 3: What I'm saying, it's no guarantee that there is no Yeah,

1217
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 3: there's no guarantee that I've seen family where it's like

1218
00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 3: they have a family and they're not visit. Yeah, So

1219
00:58:01,560 --> 00:58:03,960
Speaker 3: there's no guarantees. So you might as well just do

1220
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:06,640
Speaker 3: for you while you can. And if if you can't

1221
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 3: make that family happy, good. If you can't make that

1222
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:12,439
Speaker 3: family happy, then good too. Make yourself happy.

1223
00:58:12,520 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 1: Yep.

1224
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 4: And nobody will be in the will with me, but

1225
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:18,760
Speaker 4: with me, nobody will be in my last will and testament.

1226
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:20,600
Speaker 1: How about that. But I'm saying you don't if you

1227
00:58:20,640 --> 00:58:21,360
Speaker 1: don't have any kids.

1228
00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:26,439
Speaker 4: Like, Okay, So my mother's friend, like an old family friend,

1229
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:29,720
Speaker 4: passed away recently. My mother was at the wedding, the wedding,

1230
00:58:30,240 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 4: at the funeral yesterday. So it's a big family. This

1231
00:58:34,240 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 4: woman was like one of eight her eight brothers and

1232
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:39,440
Speaker 4: sisters each had eight kids or whatever, but she only

1233
00:58:39,480 --> 00:58:41,680
Speaker 4: had one. She had a daughter, and her daughter never

1234
00:58:41,720 --> 00:58:45,400
Speaker 4: got married and her daughter just had her mom. And

1235
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:49,120
Speaker 4: now the daughter is sixty something, seventy something and has

1236
00:58:49,600 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 4: no family.

1237
00:58:51,040 --> 00:58:53,760
Speaker 1: So I'm saying that is scary.

1238
00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:57,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's just sad, you know. But it's all

1239
00:58:57,120 --> 00:58:59,280
Speaker 3: about looking at it as it's always the grass is

1240
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:01,360
Speaker 3: always green here on the other side, you know, it's

1241
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 3: like when we're in it and we feel it, we

1242
00:59:03,640 --> 00:59:06,280
Speaker 3: think we're so miserable and this is our story. But

1243
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:08,600
Speaker 3: someone on the other side of it has their miserable

1244
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 3: story about being with the family that they hate. So

1245
00:59:12,480 --> 00:59:15,560
Speaker 3: it's all it's hard in the moment to have that perspective,

1246
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:18,840
Speaker 3: but that is the perspective. It's not always what it seems.

1247
00:59:19,240 --> 00:59:21,320
Speaker 3: That's sixty year old woman. She may be having a

1248
00:59:21,360 --> 00:59:21,920
Speaker 3: great weekend.

1249
00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:25,800
Speaker 1: You pray she might be out there too, trying to

1250
00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 1: break the hips back, just putting her walker with the

1251
00:59:30,800 --> 00:59:35,080
Speaker 1: tennis balls up in the air. The best life. Absolutely.

1252
00:59:36,320 --> 00:59:40,120
Speaker 1: Do you have a type? What is your type? I don't.

1253
00:59:40,280 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 1: I don't.

1254
00:59:40,640 --> 00:59:42,520
Speaker 3: I don't think. I think my type may be a

1255
00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:45,320
Speaker 3: little purple thing that was around.

1256
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:47,720
Speaker 1: I think you have I read he walk around? Ye

1257
00:59:48,280 --> 00:59:49,760
Speaker 1: what you get that one from.

1258
00:59:51,680 --> 00:59:56,640
Speaker 3: Me? Maybe I don't know what my type is. Is

1259
00:59:56,760 --> 01:00:00,840
Speaker 3: that it sounds it sounds not. I mean, I don't

1260
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:04,880
Speaker 3: think there is. I try not to go with I

1261
01:00:05,000 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 3: only date like you date a white guy, and everyone

1262
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:09,440
Speaker 3: thinks that's all you date. I've never been that person.

1263
01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:13,280
Speaker 3: I only date who I find interesting, Like, is this.

1264
01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:16,840
Speaker 1: Okay, So it's not like a tall or short or

1265
01:00:17,120 --> 01:00:19,000
Speaker 1: y'all just got a vibe. Y'all gotta connect.

1266
01:00:19,720 --> 01:00:22,200
Speaker 3: I mean I used to date a lot of unattractive men.

1267
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:25,960
Speaker 1: My father used to say, and I didn't, but you

1268
01:00:26,040 --> 01:00:27,600
Speaker 1: were like, but I'm so interested in him.

1269
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:30,320
Speaker 3: Well, he got really upset with me in high school

1270
01:00:30,320 --> 01:00:32,400
Speaker 3: because my dad used to stay in a hotel and

1271
01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 3: I had snuck a boy up and to the hotel

1272
01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:38,520
Speaker 3: room and he crashed in and he I thought he

1273
01:00:38,640 --> 01:00:40,560
Speaker 3: was really mad at me until I heard the conversation

1274
01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 3: later and he was like, I wouldn't have been so

1275
01:00:42,240 --> 01:00:44,320
Speaker 3: mad if he wasn't so goddamn ugly you were.

1276
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:44,840
Speaker 2: Dad.

1277
01:00:45,400 --> 01:00:48,360
Speaker 1: Dad got standards. Okay, he cares about his baby.

1278
01:00:48,480 --> 01:00:51,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, unattractive people. But I think that's why I went

1279
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,560
Speaker 3: towards unattractive people.

1280
01:00:54,240 --> 01:00:55,760
Speaker 1: Despite that, Dad, I got it.

1281
01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 4: Your dad only wanted you to like have the most

1282
01:00:59,520 --> 01:01:02,440
Speaker 4: likes on Instagram. That's what it really was about you.

1283
01:01:02,680 --> 01:01:07,120
Speaker 1: Even that was subconsciously, that's what he knew the future

1284
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:07,880
Speaker 1: with the future.

1285
01:01:08,840 --> 01:01:11,320
Speaker 3: But yeah, he's just you know, I always just found

1286
01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:14,440
Speaker 3: if a person was interesting and smart. I love smart.

1287
01:01:15,320 --> 01:01:18,760
Speaker 3: If I can't have a conversation with you where it's

1288
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:21,480
Speaker 3: we're on the same level, like not even on the

1289
01:01:21,520 --> 01:01:24,480
Speaker 3: same level, but if you just have something interesting and

1290
01:01:24,600 --> 01:01:26,880
Speaker 3: intellectual to say. I mean, because I am not the

1291
01:01:26,920 --> 01:01:29,200
Speaker 3: brightest person in the room, so I need someone there

1292
01:01:29,240 --> 01:01:30,440
Speaker 3: who can help me out at time.

1293
01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:31,960
Speaker 4: But also you want somebody that you can have an

1294
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:34,280
Speaker 4: interesting conversation with and you can be like, really, oh,

1295
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:37,040
Speaker 4: I had no idea that you can learn teach me something.

1296
01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:39,040
Speaker 4: That's another reason why I would never date a comedian

1297
01:01:39,080 --> 01:01:41,120
Speaker 4: because I don't want to talk about comedy.

1298
01:01:40,840 --> 01:01:41,240
Speaker 1: All the time.

1299
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I have to learn the hard way.

1300
01:01:43,160 --> 01:01:45,480
Speaker 3: I dated too many comedians. And then now I know,

1301
01:01:46,040 --> 01:01:49,960
Speaker 3: it's so nice to get away from that conversation of

1302
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:53,360
Speaker 3: comedy and with someone who's has something else going on.

1303
01:01:53,560 --> 01:01:54,720
Speaker 3: It's just interesting and.

1304
01:01:54,760 --> 01:01:57,360
Speaker 4: It gives you a different perspective for your comedy later,

1305
01:01:57,640 --> 01:01:59,760
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, Like, it'll only help you.

1306
01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:03,800
Speaker 4: I was a person and as a performer, absolutely, Okay,

1307
01:02:03,880 --> 01:02:04,880
Speaker 4: ball Marie is smart.

1308
01:02:06,920 --> 01:02:07,560
Speaker 1: Here for it.

1309
01:02:07,800 --> 01:02:10,920
Speaker 4: She's still not on time, but she's smart. What's the

1310
01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:14,480
Speaker 4: deal breaker for you before we go, Like, what are

1311
01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:16,959
Speaker 4: like what are things that like? Maybe give us three things,

1312
01:02:17,040 --> 01:02:18,479
Speaker 4: three deal breakers and we can go around.

1313
01:02:19,000 --> 01:02:21,439
Speaker 3: That's a deal breaker because now I actually do enjoy

1314
01:02:21,520 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 3: you care. Yeah, yeah, you know.

1315
01:02:28,600 --> 01:02:32,000
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, we don't. We don't care about micro penis is.

1316
01:02:32,040 --> 01:02:34,480
Speaker 4: Here you can shame them. I did have one, have

1317
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:37,200
Speaker 4: you seen I've never seen one. I want to see one,

1318
01:02:37,240 --> 01:02:38,000
Speaker 4: just so I can see.

1319
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:38,160
Speaker 1: What I read.

1320
01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:40,680
Speaker 3: I felt one, but didn't You didn't feel.

1321
01:02:41,160 --> 01:02:49,960
Speaker 1: You had sex micro penis Eric, mister, you know the

1322
01:02:50,080 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 1: real story, guys.

1323
01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:51,640
Speaker 3: I didn't want to hurt.

1324
01:02:52,880 --> 01:02:55,320
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yeah, that you know.

1325
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:58,160
Speaker 3: There's nothing like pretending that that sex is good and

1326
01:02:58,240 --> 01:03:01,440
Speaker 3: you don't feel anything. I'm not thinking out of acting

1327
01:03:01,520 --> 01:03:03,600
Speaker 3: going on. So that's a deal breaker for me. No

1328
01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:04,360
Speaker 3: shame on it.

1329
01:03:04,480 --> 01:03:07,360
Speaker 1: You can have your small no shame, shame, shame, shame.

1330
01:03:07,800 --> 01:03:10,560
Speaker 4: But that's but you know, find the person that your

1331
01:03:10,600 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 4: little puzzle piece fits with. It's not gonna be nobody

1332
01:03:12,680 --> 01:03:15,800
Speaker 4: at this table tree puzzle piece, that little penis puzzle,

1333
01:03:16,080 --> 01:03:16,919
Speaker 4: micro puzzle piece.

1334
01:03:17,240 --> 01:03:19,320
Speaker 1: It'll fit with some some people might like it. Yeah

1335
01:03:19,320 --> 01:03:21,800
Speaker 1: that little piece of meat on the curry board or whatever.

1336
01:03:21,960 --> 01:03:25,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that little vienna sausage. Yeah somebody, Yeah, somebody

1337
01:03:26,080 --> 01:03:26,439
Speaker 4: likes those.

1338
01:03:26,600 --> 01:03:28,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, somebody's in the little cans of meat.

1339
01:03:29,400 --> 01:03:31,920
Speaker 3: There's a lot of anger behind those micropiece.

1340
01:03:32,600 --> 01:03:34,040
Speaker 1: Of course they're furious.

1341
01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:36,600
Speaker 3: Those are very angry, man.

1342
01:03:36,640 --> 01:03:40,160
Speaker 2: They're angry because they pieces are small and they're usually short.

1343
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:41,840
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, yeah.

1344
01:03:41,840 --> 01:03:44,760
Speaker 4: Do tall people have micro penises? I feel like Noah

1345
01:03:44,960 --> 01:03:45,960
Speaker 4: Andrew saying yes.

1346
01:03:46,240 --> 01:03:50,560
Speaker 1: Finally gave product.

1347
01:03:49,120 --> 01:03:52,720
Speaker 6: Andrew, I've definitely seen. I feel like it's more common

1348
01:03:52,920 --> 01:03:53,840
Speaker 6: with taller guys.

1349
01:03:55,520 --> 01:03:57,320
Speaker 1: Yes, but a micro penis not a small penis.

1350
01:03:57,440 --> 01:03:58,840
Speaker 6: But like, what are you talking about when you say

1351
01:03:58,880 --> 01:04:02,080
Speaker 6: micro penis? I feel like, my oh really, I've never

1352
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:02,600
Speaker 6: actually seen.

1353
01:04:03,840 --> 01:04:06,160
Speaker 1: I had one in college. Asian guy.

1354
01:04:06,400 --> 01:04:06,640
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1355
01:04:07,280 --> 01:04:11,640
Speaker 1: I don't like to throw stereotypes out there, but questions as.

1356
01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:17,800
Speaker 3: Well. To help that Asian stereotype, Ice love with the

1357
01:04:17,840 --> 01:04:20,320
Speaker 3: Asian guy who was wonderful, very limber.

1358
01:04:20,240 --> 01:04:23,080
Speaker 1: Look at you. Okay, he was the dude from Oceans

1359
01:04:23,080 --> 01:04:25,280
Speaker 1: of the Flips. Okay, he was the.

1360
01:04:25,240 --> 01:04:30,480
Speaker 4: One flips in and what's he doing that guy? Okay, well,

1361
01:04:30,880 --> 01:04:32,400
Speaker 4: okay you said that sex was good, But.

1362
01:04:33,920 --> 01:04:35,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it was and it wasn't big.

1363
01:04:35,960 --> 01:04:38,400
Speaker 1: It was just necessary, necessary, it was cute. I like

1364
01:04:38,480 --> 01:04:41,400
Speaker 1: that necessary clothing. An older woman will be like a

1365
01:04:41,480 --> 01:04:42,880
Speaker 1: necessary dick. It was necessary.

1366
01:04:42,920 --> 01:04:46,880
Speaker 3: So I think chemistry. Sexual chemistry is very important. I

1367
01:04:46,960 --> 01:04:49,600
Speaker 3: think that's definitely a deal breaker. If that's not there,

1368
01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:52,280
Speaker 3: it can't happen. Conversation is a deal breaker if I

1369
01:04:52,320 --> 01:04:54,640
Speaker 3: can't talk to you and you can't come back with

1370
01:04:54,800 --> 01:04:58,960
Speaker 3: something that Like if if I'm always stunned by how

1371
01:04:59,200 --> 01:05:00,800
Speaker 3: dumb your response, it's just.

1372
01:05:00,880 --> 01:05:03,360
Speaker 4: Not gonna work, right because I'm stunned and you think

1373
01:05:03,400 --> 01:05:05,479
Speaker 4: I'm dumb, but I'm just looking at how dumb you are.

1374
01:05:05,520 --> 01:05:07,600
Speaker 2: Right, I'm just like, oh my god, when you meet

1375
01:05:07,640 --> 01:05:10,280
Speaker 2: somebody that you're like, wow, I'm really not that dumb.

1376
01:05:10,520 --> 01:05:14,120
Speaker 3: Okay, cool, Yeah, it's a deal breaker because they're not

1377
01:05:14,680 --> 01:05:17,240
Speaker 3: We can't go into the world together. Really, I can't

1378
01:05:17,320 --> 01:05:18,520
Speaker 3: show you to people I know.

1379
01:05:18,720 --> 01:05:21,280
Speaker 1: Because you're gonna embarrass me in front of people that

1380
01:05:21,360 --> 01:05:21,840
Speaker 1: I care.

1381
01:05:21,720 --> 01:05:25,320
Speaker 3: About, right, And I can always my dad has since passed,

1382
01:05:25,320 --> 01:05:27,560
Speaker 3: but I could always hear my dad's conversation, like what

1383
01:05:27,720 --> 01:05:29,960
Speaker 3: is this guy gonna do? My dad used to always

1384
01:05:30,040 --> 01:05:33,320
Speaker 3: say he believed in dreamers, right, people who had dreams.

1385
01:05:33,360 --> 01:05:36,240
Speaker 3: So even if you weren't working, my dad was always

1386
01:05:36,320 --> 01:05:40,280
Speaker 3: into people who look like they could get something done.

1387
01:05:40,360 --> 01:05:44,000
Speaker 3: They had more than just a work ethic. They had

1388
01:05:44,120 --> 01:05:47,200
Speaker 3: dream passion. So for me, and that he installed that

1389
01:05:47,280 --> 01:05:49,960
Speaker 3: in me, So for me, I like to see someone

1390
01:05:50,040 --> 01:05:51,560
Speaker 3: that has that that dream, that.

1391
01:05:51,640 --> 01:05:52,920
Speaker 1: Passion, that wants to ambition.

1392
01:05:53,360 --> 01:05:54,880
Speaker 3: Ambition, yeah something, But.

1393
01:05:54,960 --> 01:05:59,720
Speaker 1: There's something I need you in my life. City. My

1394
01:05:59,800 --> 01:06:02,400
Speaker 1: need you to help her find a black mock neck turtle.

1395
01:06:02,600 --> 01:06:04,520
Speaker 3: Oh man, I don't want to get in the middle.

1396
01:06:07,720 --> 01:06:10,720
Speaker 1: Oh mid No, No, it's fine. She'll probably be like,

1397
01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:11,440
Speaker 1: please take her.

1398
01:06:12,360 --> 01:06:14,400
Speaker 2: She'll have my garbage bag ready for you at the door,

1399
01:06:14,520 --> 01:06:19,000
Speaker 2: like she's ready, garbage bag, suitcase.

1400
01:06:19,080 --> 01:06:20,439
Speaker 1: It'll be at least two garbage bags.

1401
01:06:20,520 --> 01:06:22,840
Speaker 4: If you got a lot of shoes. Also a bag

1402
01:06:22,880 --> 01:06:27,480
Speaker 4: for the wigs. So three bags, closed, shoes, wigs, everyone

1403
01:06:27,600 --> 01:06:28,000
Speaker 4: take a bag.

1404
01:06:28,080 --> 01:06:28,920
Speaker 3: Wigs are gone.

1405
01:06:29,240 --> 01:06:31,280
Speaker 1: No, I still have my wigs. I just I'm not

1406
01:06:31,320 --> 01:06:33,200
Speaker 1: gonna put them on because I'm afraid there's nothing for

1407
01:06:33,320 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 1: this week to sit on. Also, you know, I feel

1408
01:06:36,040 --> 01:06:36,640
Speaker 1: like I gotta.

1409
01:06:36,440 --> 01:06:38,560
Speaker 3: Let my such a pretty face, it doesn't matter.

1410
01:06:38,840 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 1: Well, you cut your hair off too a couple of

1411
01:06:40,720 --> 01:06:41,080
Speaker 1: years ago.

1412
01:06:41,200 --> 01:06:42,880
Speaker 3: Yes, I just made it shorter.

1413
01:06:43,040 --> 01:06:44,280
Speaker 1: I just you know what it is.

1414
01:06:44,360 --> 01:06:48,040
Speaker 3: I went natural long like before, years ago, like before

1415
01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:48,880
Speaker 3: it was cool.

1416
01:06:49,000 --> 01:06:52,200
Speaker 1: And I didn't know that you had to shape style.

1417
01:06:52,640 --> 01:06:55,920
Speaker 1: You could do it. That's when my guys, Marina, they

1418
01:06:56,000 --> 01:06:58,160
Speaker 1: don't shave their hair either. They don't know.

1419
01:06:58,760 --> 01:07:00,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just had no click. And then I had

1420
01:07:01,480 --> 01:07:03,480
Speaker 3: you go on those movie sets or you know.

1421
01:07:03,520 --> 01:07:06,320
Speaker 1: How you go on movies. Everyone, we all know how.

1422
01:07:06,360 --> 01:07:09,080
Speaker 1: You'll be on them sets. Son, honest, Marina, Okay, you

1423
01:07:09,400 --> 01:07:12,320
Speaker 1: on the credits, you'll be on these search lights present.

1424
01:07:12,880 --> 01:07:15,080
Speaker 3: But you know when they do your hair and don't

1425
01:07:15,080 --> 01:07:17,640
Speaker 3: do it right? Yeah? What is It was the Jim

1426
01:07:17,720 --> 01:07:19,760
Speaker 3: Gaffigan show, actually, and the guy was like, you know

1427
01:07:19,920 --> 01:07:22,800
Speaker 3: your hair is beautiful, but you couldn't shape it. You

1428
01:07:22,880 --> 01:07:23,960
Speaker 3: can actually get a style.

1429
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:28,000
Speaker 1: Did a black person say this white person? A white

1430
01:07:28,000 --> 01:07:30,800
Speaker 1: person got you together? That's homophobic and racist and I'm

1431
01:07:30,840 --> 01:07:32,880
Speaker 1: not fee here for it. He was not the one.

1432
01:07:33,200 --> 01:07:35,480
Speaker 1: He was like, you know, you can shape He was right.

1433
01:07:36,120 --> 01:07:37,800
Speaker 1: I just didn't want him saying that.

1434
01:07:38,280 --> 01:07:40,680
Speaker 3: Oh why he was he? He? You know what was

1435
01:07:40,760 --> 01:07:43,280
Speaker 3: cool about him? He actually understood black hair.

1436
01:07:43,560 --> 01:07:47,000
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, he did a really great job. Well, I mean, well, Marina,

1437
01:07:47,080 --> 01:07:49,720
Speaker 1: how did you show up with your hair? Well? Sin, yeah,

1438
01:07:49,880 --> 01:07:50,800
Speaker 1: you had a do raggle.

1439
01:07:51,480 --> 01:07:54,520
Speaker 3: Talk about I used to take a scarf and because

1440
01:07:54,560 --> 01:07:57,800
Speaker 3: I didn't know, just wrapping around my natural hair and

1441
01:07:57,920 --> 01:08:00,120
Speaker 3: that would give it the shape that I actually needed it.

1442
01:08:00,840 --> 01:08:02,640
Speaker 3: You know, what do you call that when you wrap

1443
01:08:02,720 --> 01:08:05,400
Speaker 3: a scarf around? You got the little Thelma from Good Times?

1444
01:08:05,480 --> 01:08:07,280
Speaker 1: Little pineapple, pineappled.

1445
01:08:07,760 --> 01:08:09,760
Speaker 3: Yes they call it Vanish word for it too.

1446
01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:10,920
Speaker 1: But I don't know it.

1447
01:08:12,200 --> 01:08:18,200
Speaker 3: Well, I know, but yeah, that's pretty much it was.

1448
01:08:18,720 --> 01:08:22,360
Speaker 3: They showed me how to do a better hairstyle.

1449
01:08:22,400 --> 01:08:25,040
Speaker 1: Shout out to white man, but also no shoutouts to

1450
01:08:25,080 --> 01:08:25,439
Speaker 1: white man.

1451
01:08:25,520 --> 01:08:28,240
Speaker 3: Why gay man on movie set?

1452
01:08:28,840 --> 01:08:31,160
Speaker 1: Shout out on movie sets that know what they're doing.

1453
01:08:31,160 --> 01:08:34,240
Speaker 2: Yep, and hot gay producer in turn Andrew, those are

1454
01:08:34,439 --> 01:08:35,759
Speaker 2: those are the only ones we stand.

1455
01:08:35,880 --> 01:08:38,200
Speaker 1: Okay, Also it could have been Andrew.

1456
01:08:40,280 --> 01:08:40,479
Speaker 3: Hair.

1457
01:08:40,880 --> 01:08:41,320
Speaker 1: Look at him.

1458
01:08:41,400 --> 01:08:44,600
Speaker 4: I can do hair, yeah sure, and those absolutely not

1459
01:08:44,800 --> 01:08:47,800
Speaker 4: absolutely Andrew's like, I can call you an uber, but

1460
01:08:47,840 --> 01:08:48,760
Speaker 4: I'm not doing hair.

1461
01:08:48,920 --> 01:08:50,200
Speaker 6: You can probably find someone.

1462
01:08:50,000 --> 01:08:50,360
Speaker 2: For you to do.

1463
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:54,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, Marina, this has been fantastic. I feel like I

1464
01:08:55,120 --> 01:08:56,160
Speaker 1: was at the game.

1465
01:08:56,479 --> 01:09:00,760
Speaker 3: I love whenever someone tells me, I interrupted, oh no, no, no,

1466
01:09:00,800 --> 01:09:02,720
Speaker 3: I want to hear it. I was like, whenever they

1467
01:09:02,800 --> 01:09:04,439
Speaker 3: tell me there's a gay man that's going to do

1468
01:09:04,560 --> 01:09:06,960
Speaker 3: something for me. I'm so happy.

1469
01:09:08,000 --> 01:09:09,840
Speaker 1: But that doesn't mean that all the gay men do

1470
01:09:10,000 --> 01:09:10,519
Speaker 1: good works.

1471
01:09:10,760 --> 01:09:13,960
Speaker 4: They have, though, But I've been on many a set,

1472
01:09:14,640 --> 01:09:19,800
Speaker 4: not as many sets a show. Yeah, okay, I'll show

1473
01:09:19,880 --> 01:09:21,280
Speaker 4: up and they'll be like, how are we doing your hair?

1474
01:09:21,280 --> 01:09:23,679
Speaker 4: I'm like I already did it, and they'd be like okay,

1475
01:09:23,880 --> 01:09:24,320
Speaker 4: all right.

1476
01:09:24,400 --> 01:09:26,760
Speaker 2: Or they'll pull out some weird wax and they'll try

1477
01:09:26,800 --> 01:09:28,160
Speaker 2: to put my baby hairs down.

1478
01:09:28,000 --> 01:09:32,200
Speaker 1: And what is that for locks? They're gonna put on

1479
01:09:32,360 --> 01:09:34,360
Speaker 1: my edge to lock my baby hairs.

1480
01:09:34,520 --> 01:09:36,800
Speaker 3: Oh my god, your baby hair down on.

1481
01:09:37,080 --> 01:09:40,200
Speaker 1: Movies and they try that. I've had an Asian man

1482
01:09:40,320 --> 01:09:42,439
Speaker 1: do it. It's it's a lot. He had a toothbrush

1483
01:09:42,439 --> 01:09:43,720
Speaker 1: and everything. It was a lot going on.

1484
01:09:44,000 --> 01:09:45,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, he had he had a suitcase full of weeds.

1485
01:09:46,439 --> 01:09:48,640
Speaker 4: It was like, none of these are necessary for me.

1486
01:09:49,240 --> 01:09:50,840
Speaker 1: It was like I was like, are you selling this?

1487
01:09:51,120 --> 01:09:52,680
Speaker 1: After what's going on?

1488
01:09:52,800 --> 01:09:55,040
Speaker 2: They had all these packets. I was like, beauty supply

1489
01:09:55,240 --> 01:09:56,640
Speaker 2: store down right.

1490
01:09:56,680 --> 01:09:56,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1491
01:09:57,400 --> 01:09:59,439
Speaker 1: That was just panicking because he didn't know what to do.

1492
01:09:59,720 --> 01:10:01,920
Speaker 1: He was it all our hair was ready. He was

1493
01:10:01,960 --> 01:10:03,320
Speaker 1: like he was like, I'm doing these black girls. Let

1494
01:10:03,360 --> 01:10:05,920
Speaker 1: me bring my blackest kid. It was looked like it

1495
01:10:06,000 --> 01:10:07,120
Speaker 1: said from Love and Hip Hop.

1496
01:10:07,160 --> 01:10:07,760
Speaker 3: I was like this.

1497
01:10:07,880 --> 01:10:09,759
Speaker 1: I was like, is this your soul Plaine suitcase?

1498
01:10:09,840 --> 01:10:12,840
Speaker 2: There was like a purple colored like wig. I was

1499
01:10:13,040 --> 01:10:14,759
Speaker 2: nobody's doing that? Okay, it was gross.

1500
01:10:17,400 --> 01:10:17,960
Speaker 6: What was this for?

1501
01:10:18,960 --> 01:10:20,640
Speaker 1: We can't say because it hasn't come out yet, but

1502
01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:24,799
Speaker 1: we'll tell you. We'll tell you after hashtag ass.

1503
01:10:28,160 --> 01:10:30,639
Speaker 4: So what do you want to Is there a word

1504
01:10:30,800 --> 01:10:34,200
Speaker 4: of advice or something that you could say to Uh,

1505
01:10:35,280 --> 01:10:37,240
Speaker 4: any of the women that are listening right now, who

1506
01:10:37,640 --> 01:10:40,360
Speaker 4: you know, maybe they're going through something or they looking

1507
01:10:40,400 --> 01:10:40,800
Speaker 4: for something.

1508
01:10:41,040 --> 01:10:44,760
Speaker 3: Well, my mom Marina will say this before you get

1509
01:10:44,800 --> 01:10:47,920
Speaker 3: into relationships and say you need to fix the relationship,

1510
01:10:48,320 --> 01:10:49,560
Speaker 3: fix yourself.

1511
01:10:50,160 --> 01:10:50,919
Speaker 1: Fix yourself.

1512
01:10:51,160 --> 01:10:54,120
Speaker 4: Merchet that on windbreak of jackets.

1513
01:10:57,520 --> 01:11:01,679
Speaker 1: Fix yourself. We're going to put that on a little coin, yourself,

1514
01:11:01,840 --> 01:11:03,000
Speaker 1: yourself And Yeah, you.

1515
01:11:03,120 --> 01:11:06,760
Speaker 3: Have to work to be happy, you do. You have

1516
01:11:06,840 --> 01:11:09,559
Speaker 3: to put work into being happy. It's not just gonna come.

1517
01:11:10,360 --> 01:11:14,599
Speaker 4: Yeah, happiness is hard. Yeah sounds exhausting, so dumb. I'm

1518
01:11:14,640 --> 01:11:15,960
Speaker 4: tired of just thinking about it.

1519
01:11:15,960 --> 01:11:18,040
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna stay I'm just gonna stay angry. Yeah

1520
01:11:19,320 --> 01:11:20,080
Speaker 1: that rings me joy.

1521
01:11:20,200 --> 01:11:23,800
Speaker 3: Painting your apartment can actually change your mood.

1522
01:11:25,240 --> 01:11:28,880
Speaker 4: Moving moving your furniture around, like making the room feel

1523
01:11:28,920 --> 01:11:29,720
Speaker 4: like a brand new room.

1524
01:11:29,800 --> 01:11:33,200
Speaker 3: Can all absolutely when my cat pat you guys know

1525
01:11:33,240 --> 01:11:36,840
Speaker 3: I love Billings. Yeah, so when he passed, that was

1526
01:11:36,880 --> 01:11:38,880
Speaker 3: probably the hardest. I know, it sounds weird, but that

1527
01:11:39,040 --> 01:11:41,559
Speaker 3: was my family. How long did you have the cat

1528
01:11:41,600 --> 01:11:44,120
Speaker 3: for I just wanna say twenty years as long as

1529
01:11:44,120 --> 01:11:47,479
Speaker 3: I no, but about fifteen years. Yeah, and he was

1530
01:11:47,760 --> 01:11:52,120
Speaker 3: well seventeen really and he because he was seventeen. But

1531
01:11:53,000 --> 01:11:54,960
Speaker 3: I would say that was a hard loss for me

1532
01:11:55,000 --> 01:11:57,639
Speaker 3: because I was like my baby. Yeah, so I had

1533
01:11:57,720 --> 01:12:00,200
Speaker 3: to and I realized at the time, I really how

1534
01:12:00,240 --> 01:12:02,880
Speaker 3: to be happy. I can't be walking around like this.

1535
01:12:03,680 --> 01:12:06,919
Speaker 3: I gotta make some choices. So I painted my apartment

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01:12:07,280 --> 01:12:09,040
Speaker 3: and I and I'm well, I didn't paint it. I

1537
01:12:09,120 --> 01:12:12,280
Speaker 3: paid for someone. You got some text rabbit text rabbits, Okay.

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01:12:12,520 --> 01:12:14,360
Speaker 1: I was like, let's be honest. Did you put the

1539
01:12:14,400 --> 01:12:15,080
Speaker 1: jumpsuit on her?

1540
01:12:15,120 --> 01:12:15,160
Speaker 2: No?

1541
01:12:16,040 --> 01:12:17,479
Speaker 1: You put the blue tape du I know.

1542
01:12:18,160 --> 01:12:20,320
Speaker 3: I was like, I'll pay for someone to make me happen.

1543
01:12:20,800 --> 01:12:23,200
Speaker 3: So I had a guy come over. I call him Gary,

1544
01:12:23,280 --> 01:12:25,800
Speaker 3: the Pink guy, and he what do he look like?

1545
01:12:26,560 --> 01:12:27,480
Speaker 3: He's Trinidadian?

1546
01:12:27,720 --> 01:12:32,280
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, he might be a looker in the back,

1547
01:12:32,360 --> 01:12:39,679
Speaker 1: but that's okay, okay, no, definitely, you mean you've seen it, Okay,

1548
01:12:39,840 --> 01:12:40,120
Speaker 1: got it.

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01:12:40,800 --> 01:12:42,680
Speaker 3: But here was something cute about him. There was a

1550
01:12:42,720 --> 01:12:46,160
Speaker 3: little bit of a connection. So I don't know, he's

1551
01:12:46,240 --> 01:12:47,439
Speaker 3: gonna fix some pipes in.

1552
01:12:48,960 --> 01:12:50,200
Speaker 1: Some pipes in your body.

1553
01:12:51,040 --> 01:12:56,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, girl, that is possible. But you know, it was

1554
01:12:56,200 --> 01:12:58,360
Speaker 3: all because, Yeah, I just wanted to change the color

1555
01:12:58,439 --> 01:13:01,120
Speaker 3: of my space. And it did change everything, you know,

1556
01:13:01,160 --> 01:13:03,000
Speaker 3: because like a lot of people say this, when you

1557
01:13:03,120 --> 01:13:05,599
Speaker 3: walk home and you have a pet that's passed away,

1558
01:13:05,680 --> 01:13:08,439
Speaker 3: walking in the door is the hardest thing. And I

1559
01:13:08,520 --> 01:13:11,080
Speaker 3: knew that before he passed, so I knew. I was like,

1560
01:13:11,160 --> 01:13:12,920
Speaker 3: I think, I'm gonna have to change the way the

1561
01:13:13,000 --> 01:13:15,960
Speaker 3: space looks, so when I walk in, it just looks different.

1562
01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:17,519
Speaker 3: It's not the same.

1563
01:13:18,040 --> 01:13:20,479
Speaker 1: I'm smart. Yeah, yeah, and then I did.

1564
01:13:20,600 --> 01:13:24,400
Speaker 3: I felt better. It worked. It worked with the grieving process. Sure,

1565
01:13:24,800 --> 01:13:26,840
Speaker 3: my little baby, my little billy.

1566
01:13:26,800 --> 01:13:29,040
Speaker 1: L ip Billy, I'm sorry about your loss again.

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01:13:29,200 --> 01:13:34,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, but he had to say good bye.

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01:13:35,880 --> 01:13:46,559
Speaker 1: To yes today. Marina took the base. Yeah, fix yourself.

1569
01:13:46,600 --> 01:13:47,280
Speaker 1: We're leaving on that.

1570
01:13:47,720 --> 01:13:51,320
Speaker 2: Uh, Marina, please shout out any of like Instagram, social

1571
01:13:51,400 --> 01:13:53,240
Speaker 2: media where can people find special?

1572
01:13:53,960 --> 01:13:57,240
Speaker 3: So they can go to Marina Franklin dot com. And

1573
01:13:57,479 --> 01:14:01,160
Speaker 3: because it's available on all platforms, which means anyone can

1574
01:14:01,320 --> 01:14:05,439
Speaker 3: watch it. It's also an album that they can listen to.

1575
01:14:05,960 --> 01:14:07,840
Speaker 3: But I would prefer you to watch it because my

1576
01:14:07,920 --> 01:14:12,920
Speaker 3: facial expressions is what really sells it. Uh, So go

1577
01:14:13,080 --> 01:14:16,960
Speaker 3: to Marina Franklin dot com. And then also if you

1578
01:14:17,000 --> 01:14:19,439
Speaker 3: want to check out my podcast, yes, that's also on

1579
01:14:19,560 --> 01:14:22,280
Speaker 3: Marina Franklin dot com. It's Friends Like Us, Friends Like

1580
01:14:22,400 --> 01:14:27,439
Speaker 3: Us podcast, So yeah, yeah, just check out my special

1581
01:14:27,479 --> 01:14:29,439
Speaker 3: there at Marina Franklin dot com.

1582
01:14:30,560 --> 01:14:34,439
Speaker 1: Yes, Marina Franklin Instagram, I guess you know.

1583
01:14:34,600 --> 01:14:36,519
Speaker 3: I feel like such an old lady on Instagram.

1584
01:14:36,640 --> 01:14:39,960
Speaker 2: No, but our followers are are quite nice. The listeners

1585
01:14:40,000 --> 01:14:42,960
Speaker 2: are quite positive and amazing, so please follow her yeah

1586
01:14:43,080 --> 01:14:44,080
Speaker 2: on Instagram as well.

1587
01:14:44,200 --> 01:14:50,600
Speaker 3: So Marina why Franklin on Instagram, Ivonne, how dear you

1588
01:14:51,560 --> 01:14:52,960
Speaker 3: came out with my middle name?

1589
01:14:53,520 --> 01:14:55,240
Speaker 1: I want to know what the why was for? And

1590
01:14:55,320 --> 01:14:58,400
Speaker 1: I guess on the first guest you did, Wow, Marina,

1591
01:14:58,439 --> 01:15:03,960
Speaker 1: I didn't, wouldn't, Marina why Franklin. I have an aunt

1592
01:15:04,160 --> 01:15:08,920
Speaker 1: named Event It's so it's an old name. It's beautiful,

1593
01:15:09,040 --> 01:15:09,479
Speaker 1: it's old.

1594
01:15:09,600 --> 01:15:12,400
Speaker 3: I like it threw up on a slot when I

1595
01:15:12,520 --> 01:15:14,320
Speaker 3: was going down as a young age, so it's.

1596
01:15:14,200 --> 01:15:14,800
Speaker 1: Stuck with me.

1597
01:15:15,320 --> 01:15:16,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's my middle name.

1598
01:15:17,640 --> 01:15:18,040
Speaker 1: I love it.

1599
01:15:18,439 --> 01:15:21,439
Speaker 2: Thank you, Marina, you're great. Thank you for all your stories.

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01:15:21,520 --> 01:15:23,599
Speaker 2: And you guys are great, very uplifting.

1601
01:15:23,720 --> 01:15:26,320
Speaker 4: And Marino wanted to. Marina wanted to come in and

1602
01:15:26,400 --> 01:15:29,280
Speaker 4: be our house music expert. So before we go, tell us.

1603
01:15:29,720 --> 01:15:32,120
Speaker 1: Your favorite house music song.

1604
01:15:32,479 --> 01:15:35,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, just put it out there so people can hear

1605
01:15:35,840 --> 01:15:38,240
Speaker 4: it and enjoy it and that'll be their vibe for yesterday.

1606
01:15:39,080 --> 01:15:41,280
Speaker 3: I'll give you Like. What's really a good song that

1607
01:15:41,360 --> 01:15:44,800
Speaker 3: I love that people probably do know of is By

1608
01:15:45,200 --> 01:15:48,599
Speaker 3: It's called Black Coffee, which is South Africa. Yes, love him,

1609
01:15:48,960 --> 01:15:50,919
Speaker 3: turn me on. It is one of my favorites.

1610
01:15:51,080 --> 01:15:51,679
Speaker 1: It's boosy.

1611
01:15:52,000 --> 01:15:55,360
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, we're here for it's a good song. Let's

1612
01:15:55,360 --> 01:15:58,000
Speaker 2: play that song at the end for the listeners.

1613
01:15:58,040 --> 01:16:02,880
Speaker 1: And it's hot, it is. It's a sexy song. Yeah,

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01:16:02,920 --> 01:16:03,280
Speaker 1: I like it.

1615
01:16:03,560 --> 01:16:06,719
Speaker 4: Tell me Okay, okay, Marina, we gotta we have another

1616
01:16:06,720 --> 01:16:08,160
Speaker 4: episode that we've record so I can go home and

1617
01:16:08,200 --> 01:16:08,640
Speaker 4: get some dud.

1618
01:16:08,960 --> 01:16:11,879
Speaker 1: So, guys, thank you so much for listening.

1619
01:16:12,200 --> 01:16:14,640
Speaker 4: Keep eating, Keep praying, keep hoeing, make sure you're go

1620
01:16:14,640 --> 01:16:16,000
Speaker 4: to Marine Franklin dot com.

1621
01:16:16,680 --> 01:16:18,960
Speaker 1: Watch Watch, don't just listen.

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01:16:19,160 --> 01:16:22,519
Speaker 4: Watch single Black Female after you've listened to this episode

1623
01:16:22,600 --> 01:16:23,800
Speaker 4: on all platforms.

1624
01:16:24,000 --> 01:16:29,920
Speaker 3: Hello, it supporting these young beautiful women of color.

1625
01:16:30,280 --> 01:16:34,439
Speaker 4: Yay, and you get a woman of a color, and

1626
01:16:34,520 --> 01:16:40,160
Speaker 4: you get a woman slavery. Subscribed by.

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01:16:45,640 --> 01:16:56,879
Speaker 5: Charlie Forever. This has been a Forever Dog production executive

1628
01:16:56,920 --> 01:17:01,559
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1629
01:17:01,640 --> 01:17:06,879
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1630
01:17:06,920 --> 01:17:10,400
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1631
01:17:10,200 --> 01:17:11,720
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01:17:12,040 --> 01:17:14,839
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