Speaker 1: Hey, it's I Do Part two.
Speaker 2: I am one of your celebrity mentors, Bob Guinea, and
Speaker 2: I am in.
Speaker 1: Beautiful Carmel, California.
Speaker 2: I believe it's my fifth or sixth year here with
Speaker 2: this awesome trip for the Pebble Beach Pro Am Golf competition,
Speaker 2: and of course with our iHeart family, and we have
Speaker 2: two women that we love on this pod Pod Bless America.
Speaker 2: It's Golden's Kathy Swartz and Cindy Colors. Welcome, ladies.
Speaker 1: Hey, how are you?
Speaker 2: Thanks so much for I'm better now getting to talk
Speaker 2: to you too. So okay, let's just talk about how
Speaker 2: great this has been, right we have. We've had a
Speaker 2: wonderful time. Did you guys get to do the shopping
Speaker 2: always thing yesterday?
Speaker 3: This is my third time. I think I've been to
Speaker 3: every store now in Carmel.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 4: It's my first and we have had such a good time.
Speaker 4: Did you buy some good stuff?
Speaker 5: We all bought the same pants yesterday?
Speaker 1: Oh, very nice.
Speaker 3: It was the three women in the traveling pants.
Speaker 2: Except I don't have to travel. We all take them home. Yeah,
Speaker 2: there you go, it's perfect. Well, I loved it. I
Speaker 2: know real quick. I know you're talking about this a
Speaker 2: little bit last night. But uh you you two were
Speaker 2: given an assignment by one of the producers. Probably if
Speaker 2: I if I had to guess which producer, I bet.
Speaker 1: I could guess which one she'd be right.
Speaker 2: And she gave you an assignment to try and each
Speaker 2: grab some digits while you're out in the town cavorting.
Speaker 1: How did I go? Let's start.
Speaker 2: Let's start with you, Sidney. Let's start with you. Were
Speaker 2: you able to score some digits last week? Have no digits?
Speaker 2: But I thought my I thought I had through today.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, if you can give you some today, I'll
Speaker 2: get to okay, sound, we will do a follow up.
Speaker 1: We might have someone in an early lead.
Speaker 2: I guess you're say, apparently I gave out my digits
Speaker 2: last night, and I was getting blown up by the
Speaker 2: same uh same friends and family members that you were.
Speaker 1: Yep, So let's talk about this. What you did? You
Speaker 1: give out your number? Did you get a number? What happened? No?
Speaker 3: I gave my number too. It was like three degrees
Speaker 3: of separation whatever to a gentleman who you and I
Speaker 3: were talking to him and his wife, Stephen Lee and
Speaker 3: Stephen Lean at the bar and lovely people. And I,
Speaker 3: of course always take every opportunity to say, do you
Speaker 3: have any friends or family who are single?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: And he said, actually I do, and took me over
Speaker 3: and introduced me to this guy who's handsome, good looking guy.
Speaker 3: And then Steve asked for my number, and then Steve
Speaker 3: passed it on to him.
Speaker 2: So we'll say, oh, well, hey, dude, if you're listening,
Speaker 2: fire up that phone, all right, give us a call.
Speaker 3: But now I've got another one yet two second called
Speaker 3: me this morning. She has another one. He lives on
Speaker 3: the golf course. Sweet, hey, zeus. So you know I
Speaker 3: am in the early lead.
Speaker 2: Here are we going to see this dude out there
Speaker 2: that we're all going to a party house?
Speaker 1: He is on the course. Wait, we are going to
Speaker 1: his house today for a party.
Speaker 3: Yes, that's confirmed that. I'm just waiting to hear from him.
Speaker 3: Holy smokes, You're welcome.
Speaker 1: Welcome.
Speaker 2: I can't wait to meet him. I will be vetting him.
Speaker 2: I did tell Leanne would bring you by on. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I will be properly vetting this man. You know. I
Speaker 2: got to say, I think it's interesting because uh, times
Speaker 2: have changed, right, I mean, I I meet women in
Speaker 2: the old fashioned way I hand out flowers on TV shows.
Speaker 2: But I happen to know that, you know, the dating
Speaker 2: apps and all that kind of stuff. Have you two
Speaker 2: ever done the apps thing?
Speaker 1: The day?
Speaker 4: I think I think everybody who's single has at least
Speaker 4: tried it. Yeah, and some of us have gotten off
Speaker 4: of it, right, some are still participating in Kathy Kathy.
Speaker 3: I'm it was a moment with my daughter where alcohol
Speaker 3: was involved and she made me get on and I
Speaker 3: am literally canceled it the next day.
Speaker 1: Do you were you swiping? Did you do any swiping?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 3: I swiped a lot and a lot of these people
Speaker 3: I think they're memes. I don't think they are real people.
Speaker 7: Oh really, lots of catfish, lots of cat fishing, lots
Speaker 7: of bodies without clothes, shirts on, and yeah, you know,
Speaker 7: holding beers in the bathroom kind of guys.
Speaker 4: And it's like people who are just wanting to get
Speaker 4: attention and not really have a relationship.
Speaker 2: Right, I could see that. I mean it's interesting. I
Speaker 2: think if I were, you know, God forbid to ever
Speaker 2: be single again. I don't know that you have.
Speaker 3: A best whyfe you will never be single again?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Well, she gets kind of tired of my antics.
Speaker 2: But I always think I often wonder like what would
Speaker 2: I do? Would I go on a thing like that.
Speaker 2: I don't think I would, only because I feel like
Speaker 2: for me it'd be easier to But I say this,
Speaker 2: but you're right, I mean, it's not easy to do.
Speaker 2: I always think it maybe be easier to meet through
Speaker 2: friends and family, right or whatever.
Speaker 4: But maybe now friends have known this for we both
Speaker 4: lived in the same neighborhood for a long time. I've
Speaker 4: lived in Austin for thirty years. So if somebody has
Speaker 4: a single friend, I've probably exhausted that resource by.
Speaker 1: Now exhausted that right. And she and I've been in
Speaker 1: Austin twenty five plus.
Speaker 3: Heres and Cindy, he has handed me all her rejects
Speaker 3: and they haven't worked out either.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, twice two million or so. Yeah, jeez, it's
Speaker 2: tough out there, it is, right. Well, it's probably not
Speaker 2: tough to meet I mean, it's going to sound inappropriate,
Speaker 2: but it's probably not tough to meet.
Speaker 1: Someone to hook up with.
Speaker 2: But it's probably tough to meet someone to actually have
Speaker 2: a relationship with, right.
Speaker 4: I mean, I wouldn't say we're not meeting to hook
Speaker 4: up any of them but for yourself. You can meet people,
Speaker 4: and so you do, like have a couple of dates.
Speaker 4: It's just getting past that second date, third date and
Speaker 4: really looking at compatibility. You know, especially Kathy is a
Speaker 4: unique person, right, I'm going to put a plug in
Speaker 4: for her because it's going to take a really special
Speaker 4: man to capture her attention and to make a good
Speaker 4: partner for her. But when you do find a partner,
Speaker 4: you're going to be the best partner. So I think
Speaker 4: we're going to have to expand our search outside of Austin.
Speaker 2: How about I want to do to Carmel, California. We're starting,
Speaker 2: we're gonna be walking the golf course. Right, there's a
Speaker 2: lot of a lot of there's a lot of tall men,
Speaker 2: very tall. Well in the particular circle you're hanging out,
Speaker 2: and yes, we're all we're all tall drinks of water.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I can see you know, you walk in
Speaker 2: on the golf course, you think the golf course.
Speaker 1: Would be a good place to meet.
Speaker 3: I mean, then why not? I think a lot of men,
Speaker 3: single men are going to be out on this golf
Speaker 3: course either, right, but how do we really know that
Speaker 3: they're single?
Speaker 4: A lot of men at our age category have stopped
Speaker 4: wearing their wedding rings even if they are married, and
Speaker 4: I think they don't realize that they can get them resized,
Speaker 4: just get the resizing on the ring, so they stop,
Speaker 4: they stop wearing them, and then they give the signal
Speaker 4: that they might be sing.
Speaker 3: Cindy, how long do you think would take either one
Speaker 3: of us to figure out if a guy is married?
Speaker 3: Just take how many minutes that you guys two questions?
Speaker 3: Yeah there you got, there, you got.
Speaker 1: I can see that.
Speaker 3: And the difference between Cindy and one of the differences
Speaker 3: is she will give a guy like two or three days.
Speaker 1: We've talked about this.
Speaker 3: I can tell you, like the guy last night at
Speaker 3: the bar, I locked eyes with him, and when you
Speaker 3: brought me back in to meet Leanne and Steve brought
Speaker 3: me over to meet him, that was the same guy
Speaker 3: that I locked eyes with. But so I know really
Speaker 3: quickly if I'm interested in somebody, I don't need to
Speaker 3: go on two or three dates, right And I and I.
Speaker 1: Don't dude, were you two friends before? Never met her?
Speaker 4: Never looking the same zip code. We have a couple
Speaker 4: mutual friends, but not too many. But the first time
Speaker 4: we met was when Kathy came to the mansion during
Speaker 4: can put the Pajama party.
Speaker 2: And you were and that's when you were like everybody,
Speaker 2: let's let's give three cheers for Mel's get on the
Speaker 2: bel train the train, and then some people got off
Speaker 2: with the train. Yes, yes they did, all right, So
Speaker 2: let's talk about this when it comes to men, what
Speaker 2: are your biggest ick things? I have the hardest time
Speaker 2: saying ick, But what is your biggest ick and what
Speaker 2: are your biggest turn ons?
Speaker 5: Wow?
Speaker 4: Okay, so a man who knows how to manage me
Speaker 4: and handle me is my biggest turn on. Okay, somebody
Speaker 4: knows how to like touch me appropriately, like move me around,
Speaker 4: look at me. Oh that connection, I miss it. That
Speaker 4: is the biggest turnout turn on? What about you, Kathy?
Speaker 3: My biggest turn on is probably a man who I meet,
Speaker 3: looks me in the eye, smiles like that connection. That's
Speaker 3: not a guy who and my biggest turn off. It
Speaker 3: goes with that, because my biggest turn off is a
Speaker 3: guy that I meet and all he wants to tell
Speaker 3: me about is his money and his cars and his
Speaker 3: It's superficial, superficial stuff. Because at our age, we've got
Speaker 3: what we've got. I'm looking for a genuinely kind human
Speaker 3: being who's interested.
Speaker 1: So not gonna be impressed by somebody.
Speaker 3: I mean, do I want a guy to have enough
Speaker 3: money to take me to a nice restaurant and open
Speaker 3: the door for me and you know, not put me
Speaker 3: in his VW bug where my legs are coming through
Speaker 3: the windshill. Yes, but that's not you know, it's not
Speaker 3: that's not going to money is not going to make
Speaker 3: the guy for me.
Speaker 1: Right, I think that makes sense.
Speaker 2: Well, we've got Cosmo came out with twenty seven of
Speaker 2: the biggest X. So the twenty oh wait see here
Speaker 2: just came out with twenty seven men on their dating
Speaker 2: X and non negotiables who some of them were expecting
Speaker 2: sex on the first date. This individual said, maybe I'm
Speaker 2: an anomaly, but that's not my initial desire when meeting someone.
Speaker 2: It's actually to connect and build a bond first. Another
Speaker 2: one here was being overly interested in my financial situation.
Speaker 1: Yep, so kind of like what you said. I think.
Speaker 2: For if this is coming from a guy saying, and right,
Speaker 2: I think the guy it's interesting because you know, I
Speaker 2: think there's a lot of people think certain things about guys, right,
Speaker 2: And for a guy to say, expecting sex on the
Speaker 2: first date would be a turnoff for him. That's interesting
Speaker 2: to me. I get the being overly interested in my
Speaker 2: financial situation. That's kind of like what we're talking about
Speaker 2: last night, when and we were kind of hitting on
Speaker 2: some different hot button topics. And if a woman, you know,
Speaker 2: for me, when I was single, if I met a
Speaker 2: woman and she would immediately be like, you know, so
Speaker 2: what is this, I'd.
Speaker 1: Be like, well, it's nothing. The hell are you talking about?
Speaker 1: You know? And I was like, it is what it is.
Speaker 2: And I don't know what that is yet because I
Speaker 2: met you fifteen minutes ago or whatever, or but I
Speaker 2: would think of that same moment if someone were to
Speaker 2: be like, so tell me about your you know, your portfolio, Like,
Speaker 2: what the hell are you talking about? You know, there
Speaker 2: are certain things I think would be major turnoffs in
Speaker 2: that regard, and those are two of them. You already
Speaker 2: kind of addressed that absolutely. Oh are there of you
Speaker 2: cat ladies? I have two geriatric cats, geriatric cats, so
Speaker 2: you're you. I am not a cat lady. They're not
Speaker 2: a cat lady, but you're just taking care of some.
Speaker 3: I rescued these cats, I fostered them when they were
Speaker 3: three weeks old, fostered them. Yeah, and they never left
Speaker 3: now thirteen and a half and I love them. But
Speaker 3: you know, to me, being a cat that has this
Speaker 3: pejorative connotations and I am not that cat lady.
Speaker 2: There was a thing I saw a dating app profile
Speaker 2: that was it went viral and I don't know if
Speaker 2: any of you guys are I'm sure how they saw it,
Speaker 2: but it was like this thing where the woman was like, Hi,
Speaker 2: my name's Debbie. I am a nurse and I have
Speaker 2: two cats and.
Speaker 1: I love them so much. I don't understand why men
Speaker 1: don't like her. It's like, have you heard your story
Speaker 1: about cats?
Speaker 2: You?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Cats?
Speaker 2: For some reason there is You're right, there is quite
Speaker 2: a thought process there with cats.
Speaker 1: I'll let it be known. I'm I'm putting it out
Speaker 1: there right now.
Speaker 2: I'm not a crazy cat, not a crazy cat lady.
Speaker 1: Oh, here you go.
Speaker 2: This is a good one. Here picks being fake right,
Speaker 2: pictures being fake, filtered, faked or filter faked or filtered right.
Speaker 3: College And here's I just have to ask, that is
Speaker 3: a huge turn off to me to go and meet
Speaker 3: a man. And we've talked about this, Cindy, go and
Speaker 3: meet a man, and literally this has happened to me.
Speaker 3: I walk right by him because the guy that's there
Speaker 3: does not resemble in any way the guy how we
Speaker 3: portrayed himself in his.
Speaker 5: Do you FaceTime men before you meet them?
Speaker 3: I talked to them on the phone. Okay, maybe I
Speaker 3: should do that.
Speaker 5: I think if you FaceTime then you would then you know,
Speaker 5: see their real s.
Speaker 3: That's good question. Can I tell you what I do?
Speaker 3: And this is a PSA for all single women. I
Speaker 3: have a Google phone number, and when I it doesn't
Speaker 3: matter where I meet him. Except for the guy last night,
Speaker 3: I give him my real number. But I do make exceptions.
Speaker 3: But with a Google phone number, you cannot find, you
Speaker 3: cannot research, You cannot find your name, your address, anything
Speaker 3: about you. With a cell number, you would not believe
Speaker 3: how much information you can find out about selling. So so,
Speaker 3: and I've taated a couple of guys. One guy, when
Speaker 3: he called me said, because you have what happens is
Speaker 3: they call you and they have to give their name
Speaker 3: and you can choose to accept or reject the.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, so that's interesting.
Speaker 3: I had a guy who called and he when I answered,
Speaker 3: he said, wait, what is this, and I explained that
Speaker 3: my children are really concerned about my safety and it
Speaker 3: was my kid's idea, and he said, yeah, well that's
Speaker 3: not going to work for me. I said, it's been
Speaker 3: so nice chatting click.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, you know that.
Speaker 3: It says a lot about a man who doesn't care
Speaker 3: about your right, it's safety.
Speaker 4: You know, they should be as protective of as even
Speaker 4: if they don't know us.
Speaker 1: Right, that's.
Speaker 3: Offer me a guy that has a problem with a
Speaker 3: Google phone.
Speaker 1: Now I can see that. Oh it's interesting.
Speaker 2: There's there's two about texting on here that I think
Speaker 2: are pretty interesting. One is being a slow Texter is
Speaker 2: a nick to this guy. Everyone always has her phone
Speaker 2: on him all the time. There are very few reasons
Speaker 2: why it would take you a day to reply to me.
Speaker 1: Can I have this guy's number?
Speaker 2: I'm just going to assume you're not interested? So that
Speaker 2: was his thing. What do you think of that, Sime.
Speaker 5: I'm kind of busy, yeh.
Speaker 4: And when I'm with people, I try not to have
Speaker 4: my phone out so there will be delays and when
Speaker 4: I respond back to.
Speaker 1: You, well see that's kind of a thing too.
Speaker 2: That's a that's an age thing, right, because I think
Speaker 2: younger people today like they never are they will set
Speaker 2: their phone down that if it goes there in the
Speaker 2: middle of a conversation, you're telling them something meaningful and
Speaker 2: they're like texting. Whereas I love that. I love when
Speaker 2: people like put their phone away and don't look at it.
Speaker 2: I think that's pretty awesome. That's another rick for me.
Speaker 3: If I go out to dinner or have a drink
Speaker 3: with a guy and his phone's there and he's checking
Speaker 3: his phone, he'll never see me again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, yeah, it used to be that you would.
Speaker 2: There was like a three day rule, right, like if
Speaker 2: you like someone and you can active that in three days.
Speaker 1: I can't wait days.
Speaker 5: Well, back in the answering machines, I have an answering machine.
Speaker 1: Message, I can tell you.
Speaker 3: We talk about this women, my friends, my single friends,
Speaker 3: and I'm much more. I'm just going to answer right now.
Speaker 3: I'm not playing games. I think a day to wait,
Speaker 3: a whole day. I think that's probably game playing, because
Speaker 3: if you're not picking up your phone in a day,
Speaker 3: then you're playing one.
Speaker 4: I do think what they're probably alluding to is playing games. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: how long it takes? And especially, don't you hate it
Speaker 4: when although I people text you and you answer back
Speaker 4: and you see the bubbles yea, and then they don't
Speaker 4: send anything.
Speaker 3: I know you saw it. But here's my question. And
Speaker 3: you are the guru. Bops, you tell us I'm the guru.
Speaker 3: You are do the guys. If you answer right back,
Speaker 3: when is now the chase over? Like, oh, no, she's
Speaker 3: too weaker?
Speaker 1: Question? I don't think so.
Speaker 2: I think if you're texting in the first place, you're
Speaker 2: looking for a response, right, unless it's an informational text, right,
Speaker 2: But if it's if I'm texting someone, If I'm texting someone,
Speaker 2: I think I would like a response, you know, I mean, ultimately,
Speaker 2: that's why you're sending them a message in the first.
Speaker 3: You know, you wouldn't think like, oh, she's pretty eager,
Speaker 3: maybe she's too weak.
Speaker 1: Now. I don't ever think things though. I'm a pretty
Speaker 1: simple guy.
Speaker 2: I would say an hour or two is okay from
Speaker 2: a standpoint of someone me toeking someone and then not
Speaker 2: replying right away, or or you know, if life gets
Speaker 2: in the way and they're busy, or if they have obligations.
Speaker 1: I totally get that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But if we're in the middle of texting and
Speaker 2: then all of a sudden that person just bails a
Speaker 2: day later, I'm going to be kind of like, well,
Speaker 2: screw this person.
Speaker 1: You know, I will tell on the dading app.
Speaker 3: I had a guy reach out to me and literally
Speaker 3: it was probably forty minutes later he said Hi, I
Speaker 3: didn't see it thirty forty minutes later and then he
Speaker 3: wrote back, thanks for not answering.
Speaker 1: It's like.
Speaker 6: Texting question for you all that I have to ask,
Speaker 6: as singles and a non single good morning and good
Speaker 6: night texts, how are our feelings about that?
Speaker 5: Well, I've I.
Speaker 1: Would say, are you from two situations?
Speaker 8: Right?
Speaker 2: So a good morning good night text from a guy?
Speaker 2: Maybe you just met too much? Good morning again? We
Speaker 2: just said that too much?
Speaker 4: You've just met, But it is nice sometime during the day, Hey,
Speaker 4: thinking about you, you know, looking forward to having a
Speaker 4: live chat later or dinner this weekender.
Speaker 5: You Wednesday or whatever.
Speaker 1: But I will tell you.
Speaker 3: It irritates me if even if I'm I have to
Speaker 3: be in really deep like I met last night, he
Speaker 3: can say good morning, good night?
Speaker 1: Can you tell? This a repeating thing?
Speaker 3: But no, Seriously, if if I don't know a guy, well,
Speaker 3: I find it annoying. I really do find it annoying
Speaker 3: if they're good morning, Kathy, thinking about you. I'm like,
Speaker 3: I just met, we haven't even met, just talked, texted.
Speaker 3: But what I do, and I told you this, I
Speaker 3: have a new thing that I do when whether whatever
Speaker 3: it is, when I meet a guy or this horrible
Speaker 3: dating app that's about to expire. Thank god, I only
Speaker 3: text a few times and then I say, you know,
Speaker 3: why don't we chat on the phone. And I get
Speaker 3: it so quickly. I can tell just by the conversation
Speaker 3: if I want to go down the road.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good that's probably a good thing. I
Speaker 1: would say.
Speaker 2: From a married guy perspective, the good morning and good
Speaker 2: night texts, I would probably be welcoming of them, because
Speaker 2: my wife completely ignores me.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah she is.
Speaker 3: Well what I'm like, hold on, I'm going to defend
Speaker 3: your fabulous wife. First of all, the poor thing is
Speaker 3: sick as a dog and on the sofa, and I'm.
Speaker 4: Sure you sent her phone in her hand, and I'm like,
Speaker 4: she's probably too weak to get up. She's too weak.
Speaker 1: Oh, there's a nanny there, give me a break. Did
Speaker 1: you send her get well flowers? I'm thinking of you.
Speaker 1: I love Oh I sent her.
Speaker 2: You might be coming up on my dating now she's
Speaker 2: gotta get well flight credit coming her way for missing
Speaker 2: her flight.
Speaker 1: No, I would say, uh, I welcome it.
Speaker 2: I welcome a good morning organ night text, but it's
Speaker 2: it's from a different place, like for example, like this morning,
Speaker 2: I wanted to talk to my kids this morning before
Speaker 2: they went to school. I want to check on my wife,
Speaker 2: make sure she was feeling okay and that our or
Speaker 2: nanny was there to help with the kids that get
Speaker 2: him off to school and stuff, because we originally hired
Speaker 2: her to be there for us being out of town.
Speaker 2: But then when when Jessica was sick, I was like, well,
Speaker 2: let's just keep Katrina there and she can help you,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 5: So so what a guy, I'm very sweet like.
Speaker 2: That's and next way, she doesn't expect flowers, right, totally kidding, No,
Speaker 2: But I think it is different depending on your relationship
Speaker 2: status with someone.
Speaker 1: But I will say that.
Speaker 4: In a relationship, I do prefer that the man send
Speaker 4: the good morning good night.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 4: I don't like to initiate that. I feel like that's
Speaker 4: something that the man should initiate.
Speaker 1: This is interesting, This is a question for me.
Speaker 2: Do men want a woman that embraces her feminine side,
Speaker 2: or do men like women that are always taking charge?
Speaker 2: That's a loaded question to me because I am used
Speaker 2: to very strong women in my life, my mom, my sister,
Speaker 2: my wife. But I also I like it both ways.
Speaker 2: I like her to occasionally allow me to take charge
Speaker 2: and take the lead. But there are times when I'll say,
Speaker 2: you know, where should go for dinner? And I don't
Speaker 2: want her to say I don't care wherever.
Speaker 1: You want to go. That's not what I want. I
Speaker 1: want to say Mexican. Yeah, awesome. But here's the thing.
Speaker 3: That you just said that you talk about taking charge
Speaker 3: feminine and you can address it, but femininity does not
Speaker 3: necessarily it's not necessarily in contention or again, they don't
Speaker 3: have to be exactly, they're the same. To me, A
Speaker 3: strong woman is a feminine woman, sure, or Kenby doesn't
Speaker 3: have to be. But to your question, I mean finding
Speaker 3: where you want to go to dinner?
Speaker 4: That is probably one of the top fights that couples always, always, always,
Speaker 4: so in that situation, if you don't want to pick,
Speaker 4: is there a different way that you could bring it
Speaker 4: out in your wife?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, for example, I'm thinking of chopsticks or tacos perfect.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like what you do with the two year old,
Speaker 1: you know either or yeah, you always get me.
Speaker 4: And I can tell you from a feminine perspective, if
Speaker 4: I wanted to pick a place, but I don't want
Speaker 4: to take a place, I would say, I bet you
Speaker 4: know exactly where I want to go to dinner tonight.
Speaker 1: Right where do you think? What do you think? Where
Speaker 1: do you think?
Speaker 4: I'm thinking Mexican or talking or a Mexican right, yeah,
Speaker 4: And I can say, oh my gosh, that would be perfect.
Speaker 4: And actually that sounds great. But I was thinking sushi.
Speaker 4: But you're right, Mexican would be great. But no, no, babe,
Speaker 4: let'sh no.
Speaker 1: I like that. Men.
Speaker 3: Let me just say, I've known a lot of men
Speaker 3: who are not who want you. They want the woman
Speaker 3: to say. They don't want to play that game. They
Speaker 3: want Kathy, where do you want to go for dinner?
Speaker 3: I'm not a foodie, so I really don't care. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but I'm learning that I have to because men say
Speaker 3: it annoys them. If you say I don't care, they
Speaker 3: want you to. Well, I think it's yeah, I get that,
Speaker 3: I don't care.
Speaker 2: Part if you if you genuinely could eat a twinkie
Speaker 2: or have you know, a steak dinner. But if you
Speaker 2: throw out a couple options, I think that's kind of nice,
Speaker 2: and then you could still let the guy decide.
Speaker 8: Right.
Speaker 2: So it's like, well, I don't know, I would I
Speaker 2: would like sushi or I would even love a steakhouse.
Speaker 2: Either one would be great, awesome. Well let's go to
Speaker 2: the stage. Oh no, no, no, no, you both have it
Speaker 2: all wrong. What you want to do is say how
Speaker 2: high do you want my heels tonight?
Speaker 5: Babe?
Speaker 1: That should determine where we go. That's nice. Oh nice.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you something. Cindy has this scam down.
Speaker 4: It's not a game. It's a dynamic. It's a ying
Speaker 4: and yang, it's a back and forth. It's a play
Speaker 4: that I really enjoy. I really, it's I don't feel
Speaker 4: it's a game. I think it should be how we
Speaker 4: look a fun game? Yeah, relationship dynamic.
Speaker 2: You know, I agree with you because I think the
Speaker 2: relationships should be fun, and they're not fun, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean?
Speaker 1: Exactly?
Speaker 2: Yeah, we can probably have a lot of fun by ourselves.
Speaker 2: You have to be with someone who you can't have
Speaker 2: fun with, So it's like.
Speaker 1: And I will tell you that is so high on
Speaker 1: my list. I have dated men.
Speaker 3: We talked about this, so it's like somebody who wrote
Speaker 3: answers these questions.
Speaker 1: You were reading our minds.
Speaker 3: Men always say how I'm so funny and I make
Speaker 3: them laugh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what?
Speaker 3: I want? Guy that makes me laugh? Sure, I want
Speaker 3: a guy who's playful. I want a guy who's fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: It's not enough for me to be fun and playful.
Speaker 3: I need them to be that way.
Speaker 2: Well, and you feed off of it a little bit too,
Speaker 2: like as being someone who I love making people laugh.
Speaker 2: It's like sometimes I want someone who gives as good
Speaker 2: as it gets, you know, and then I can be like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I got a partner here.
Speaker 1: This is gonna be fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it can be a romantic relationship of friendship
Speaker 2: whatever it is. Still, I still want someone to make
Speaker 2: me laugh too.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: But your kids get older and you have it with
Speaker 4: your kids. Yeah, Oh, I mean you probably already do.
Speaker 4: I dynamic my boys are pretty funny kids.
Speaker 8: I gotta be honest, all right.
Speaker 2: So brand new year ahead, Right, We're in February, so
Speaker 2: we've got ten months to go.
Speaker 1: Eleven months if you count February.
Speaker 2: I guess, what are some of your goals like for
Speaker 2: each of you, Like if you have some goals around dating,
Speaker 2: around relationships, just you know, it doesn't have to necessarily
Speaker 2: be a romantic relationship, but around what you want to
Speaker 2: accomplish this year from a standpoint of putting your heart
Speaker 2: out there.
Speaker 4: Well, I have to get some digits today, you do.
Speaker 4: I have to get two sets of digits today. So
Speaker 4: that's goal number one. Yes, you know, I don't really
Speaker 4: I don't really play the New Year's resolution thing. Last year,
Speaker 4: you know what I did? It actually was such a
Speaker 4: great idea depended on TikTok. All things good on TikTok.
Speaker 4: I did a Bingo card. So instead of having a
Speaker 4: set of resolutions, I put together a Bingo card of
Speaker 4: all the things that I wanted to accomplish. Some were professionals,
Speaker 4: some were personal, some were seeing my children, some were
Speaker 4: learning how to arrange flowers, and I put them in
Speaker 4: little blocks on the Bingo card and I would cross
Speaker 4: them out. Such a great sense of accomplishment. But you
Speaker 4: hit all the I hit all the categories of my life.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Actually I did it.
Speaker 4: After I got off the show as well, because I
Speaker 4: kind of felt like I needed something to stable sure
Speaker 4: and to recharge yourself a little to get it.
Speaker 3: That's a great Yeah, I'm a little bit. I also
Speaker 3: do not make New Year's resolutions. I think every day
Speaker 3: is a brand new day and if you don't like something,
Speaker 3: today's the day to change it.
Speaker 1: So that's how I live my life.
Speaker 3: But for dating, for me, believe it or not, as
Speaker 3: outgoing as I am, I have a really hard time
Speaker 3: initiating going up to a man or.
Speaker 5: Oh no, no, oh no.
Speaker 4: We traveled together here, so we live in Austin, but
Speaker 4: we don't live together.
Speaker 3: You say this, This was my quote unquote New Year's
Speaker 3: resolution to force myself to do it. And I've done
Speaker 3: it a couple of times. It gets somewhere, but I'm
Speaker 3: telling you I've done it like twice, and I'm so
Speaker 3: my goal is kind of to do that, to go
Speaker 3: up and say hello, and you know, it doesn't go anywhere.
Speaker 1: I'm no worse off and it might go somewhere.
Speaker 2: So but I feel like you're like me though, Kathy,
Speaker 2: Like I talk to everybody. So it's like said, you know,
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, is a guy standing
Speaker 2: next to me, like, Hey, how you doing.
Speaker 3: Man, It's not like I do hit, but see if
Speaker 3: I'm interested. Absolutely, you and I are very similar. I
Speaker 3: have never met a stranger. But if I like that
Speaker 3: guy last night, then it was a little bit more
Speaker 3: tentative because sikes were a little hot, stakes are a
Speaker 3: little hot.
Speaker 1: Interesting.
Speaker 3: But I still do it and I didn't used to
Speaker 3: do that, So that's kind of my dating.
Speaker 4: You're doing well, yeah, I mean you're taking up the
Speaker 4: pace today.
Speaker 3: I'm going to just see if I can like push
Speaker 3: you out of the contest totally.
Speaker 1: And just you know, when I.
Speaker 2: Was single, so my wife used to say this about
Speaker 2: me because we were really kind of like friends with
Speaker 2: benefits before we were dating.
Speaker 1: Well, then she loves you putting that out. She knows.
Speaker 2: But I was always so noncommittal, right, and she would go,
Speaker 2: you just like flirt with everybody. I'm like, yeah, but
Speaker 2: it was true, like I'd be like, hey, how you doing,
Speaker 2: and it was and so I was never thinking. I
Speaker 2: was never putting too much on it. Like it wasn't
Speaker 2: like I was trying to sleep with this girl. And
Speaker 2: that's why I'm going to talk to her, right, I
Speaker 2: was just talking to her and if it went somewhere else.
Speaker 2: Great if it didn't, I'm totally fine with that too.
Speaker 4: Will they say, that's really important when you have any
Speaker 4: conversation to forget about the outcome. You're not doing it
Speaker 4: with the intent of I'm going to get a date
Speaker 4: from this. I'm going to have a friend from this. Like,
Speaker 4: just forget the outcome, Just enjoy people.
Speaker 2: Enjoy the moment and be in the moment right, and
Speaker 2: put your phone down and be in the moment right,
Speaker 2: But make sure you.
Speaker 1: Text back in ten minutes exactly. Yeah, don't.
Speaker 2: I just kidding, all right, So, uh, let's ask for
Speaker 2: some advice here. You two obviously masterful at.
Speaker 1: The game of dating.
Speaker 5: I'm still single.
Speaker 2: Well, that's because that chicly until yeah, only until the
Speaker 2: end of today, That's right. If you have people out
Speaker 2: there that are listening that are are just ready to
Speaker 2: give up on love, right, they're just like, I'm done.
Speaker 1: Don't don't give up on love. It's it's every day,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be honest, I don't like when people say
Speaker 3: manifest that's almost a four letter word to me at
Speaker 3: this point. Sure, I just believe, if believe that's my
Speaker 3: work for twenty twenty six belief. Just live your life
Speaker 3: with intention, enjoy who you are, and and good things
Speaker 3: and bad things will come into your life. But don't
Speaker 3: give up, because you're not even giving yourself an opportunity
Speaker 3: if you give up. And there's so much I mean,
Speaker 3: I'm just so grateful for every day of my life
Speaker 3: that I thoroughly enjoy every day, and good people come
Speaker 3: into my life and great opportunities come into my life.
Speaker 3: But if you sit home and say I give up,
Speaker 3: it's not in my vocabulary.
Speaker 4: I just also enjoy this season of being single, right, Yeah,
Speaker 4: don't continue to put a really long winner. It's a
Speaker 4: very long season sometimes and sometimes a short win. But
Speaker 4: you know, if it ends, you will probably miss this time.
Speaker 4: I was at church the other day. I've told this
Speaker 4: story a couple of times. There was a man like
Speaker 4: man spreading. He was like, legs apart, touching my leg.
Speaker 4: I'm a stranger. He's making all these noises.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you forget, Did you give me your digits?
Speaker 1: Did not give No.
Speaker 5: He was with his family, but yeah, even weirder.
Speaker 4: So sometimes it's okay to be single, and we should
Speaker 4: just appreciate the love that we have in our life
Speaker 4: and if it's not the partner love, still be open
Speaker 4: to it, but don't rely on it again, let go
Speaker 4: the outcome.
Speaker 3: And I would add to that, love yourself. Just now, downstairs,
Speaker 3: one of the men who works at this hotel said
Speaker 3: to me, do you have a hard time dating? I
Speaker 3: don't know why, he asked me, and I said, you know,
Speaker 3: I gave the answer, and then he said, well, you
Speaker 3: know what there is You're fabulous.
Speaker 1: There is a guy out there for you.
Speaker 3: And I looked at him and I said, I hope
Speaker 3: there is, but if there isn't, I'm still happy. It's
Speaker 3: being happy with who you are regardless. A man is
Speaker 3: not going to make me complete. I am complete, you
Speaker 3: we are all complete. It's finding someone that adds to
Speaker 3: your life, right, That's that's you know.
Speaker 2: A great former bachelor once said, it's amazing what a
Speaker 2: difference a year makes.
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I think he even wrote a book sounds
Speaker 1: like sounds I think it's.
Speaker 3: I think it's this guy that's really smart and has
Speaker 3: a fabulous he's so funny.
Speaker 4: So I.
Speaker 2: Say that because I was in like, you know, I
Speaker 2: was going through a divorce.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what is going on? And then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden.
Speaker 2: A year later, I'm sitting on Oprah's couch and everyone
Speaker 2: wants me to be the bachelor.
Speaker 1: Right, And so that's what I did.
Speaker 2: But it was kind of interesting because when you let
Speaker 2: go of the outcome and when you just embrace the
Speaker 2: fact that, you know what, I'm a good person, and
Speaker 2: I know that, you know, if somebody's out there, I'll
Speaker 2: find them, and if they're not, I'm fine with myself.
Speaker 1: I'm perfectly happy, right.
Speaker 2: And it's amazing if you give yourself that grace and
Speaker 2: allow yourself to, you know, just sort of embrace life
Speaker 2: and do whatever you got to do to wake up
Speaker 2: every day and put a smile on your face and
Speaker 2: get out there and say hi to a couple of people.
Speaker 2: It's amazing the great things that can come your way.
Speaker 4: I remember telling my kids when they're in middle school,
Speaker 4: everybody has to take that public speaking class.
Speaker 1: I taught it.
Speaker 4: You tell me this, I told my kids all the time.
Speaker 4: Nobody wants to watch a nervous speaker. It's so uncomfortable
Speaker 4: for everyone to watch that. And no one wants to
Speaker 4: look at a desperate dater. Now you can tell those
Speaker 4: people who are desperate to have a relationship. Live your life,
Speaker 4: be happy, be confident in who you are, and that's
Speaker 4: so much more attractive. It's so much more alluring and magnetic.
Speaker 3: But even but see, even when you said that, Cindy,
Speaker 3: it's it's it's and I know this isn't what you mean,
Speaker 3: but it sounds like you're saying that to attract someone.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, lively happy.
Speaker 3: With yourself for yourself, not for the attraction of other people,
Speaker 3: because because if you're happy with yourself, that radiates and
Speaker 3: that and that's something I've learned actually since my husband died.
Speaker 3: Uh And and so I do it for me, you know,
Speaker 3: I wake up and put a smile on my face
Speaker 3: for me. Yeah, I think it's a great way to
Speaker 3: live your life. Well, guys, I love you both. This
Speaker 3: has been really great for me.
Speaker 5: We we love you too.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 3: And I know that you have to run because you
Speaker 3: have to call you your wife and find out what
Speaker 3: she wants for Balentine's Day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, for sure, some digits do we have to
Speaker 2: give or get digits?
Speaker 1: I think we're good either way.
Speaker 2: It's just digit digital change.
Speaker 1: So you have to get theirs and give. Well, no,
Speaker 1: I don't have to get digits. We have to yeah,
Speaker 1: give or get Yes.
Speaker 4: Well, you know, I'm going to be at a party
Speaker 4: on the course, so I hope he has friends.
Speaker 1: Well, I appreciate you ladies coming on. Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: We love everyone knows how to follow you guys on online?
Speaker 1: Follow you on the socials?
Speaker 7: Right?
Speaker 1: What is what is yours?
Speaker 2: My?
Speaker 3: I'm KB Swarts. You can find me on on on Facebook, Instagram.
Speaker 1: They can tune in and listen. You can tune in
Speaker 1: and listen.
Speaker 3: To our podcast which is under Batchel Happy Hour, Golden Hour.
Speaker 3: The we talk about dating and we have a great
Speaker 3: time with that too.
Speaker 5: So I am more obscure. I'm obscure.
Speaker 4: You're gonna have to look for me under CM colors
Speaker 4: but spelled differently. I know what was I thinking? I
Speaker 4: should change it C M C U L L E
Speaker 4: R S okay, and they'll be able to find me.
Speaker 1: This is how they slide into our dm This is
Speaker 1: how we want them.
Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our producer to sliding into their d
Speaker 2: ms count as an exchange of digital information.
Speaker 1: No, okay, why not? You know what our producer I
Speaker 1: think was of the high school. Oh yeah, and when
Speaker 1: eight am, when bell rang those doors were locked. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: you missed it.
Speaker 2: You're out well two an iHeartRadio podcast where falling in
Speaker 2: love is the main objective. Let's find you, guys, let's
Speaker 2: go I am I am in charge of that ting.
Speaker 4: These men, okay, just looking for one. We'll take ten,
Speaker 4: but I'm just looking for one that's right.
Speaker 1: One? How hard I'll take her?
Speaker 8: Rather?
Speaker 2: Not? All right?
Speaker 1: Well of you guys. Let's go out there and do it.
Speaker 1: Let's do it.
Speaker 8: M