1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: It is time for today's Strawberry Letter. If you need 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex, on parenting, 3 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:12,039 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM 4 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 1: dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be 5 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 1: reading your letter like we're reading this one right now. 6 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: Let's go next. Buckle up and hold on tight. We 7 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 1: got it for you. Here it is. It is the 8 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter subject. I cheated twice and had three outside children. 9 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. My wife and I met when we 10 00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: were twelve years old, and we got married when we 11 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 1: were twenty years old. We've been married for fifteen years 12 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: and we were very happy until recently. Now I need 13 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 1: help to save my marriage. Three years ago, I cheated 14 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: on my wife and got another woman pregnant. I told 15 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: my wife about the affair and the baby. My wife 16 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: was going to divorce me, where we went to marriage 17 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 1: counseling and she had a change of heart. My wife 18 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 1: welcomed the baby into our family and she has grown 19 00:01:00,880 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: to love the child. A year later, I had sex 20 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: with my wife's stepmother. My wife and her stepmother are 21 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,680 Speaker 1: the same age, and her stepmother is very attractive. It 22 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: was a one night stand with the stepmother, but she 23 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 1: got pregnant and had twins. We passed the pregnancy off 24 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 1: as if she were pregnant by her husband, and there 25 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: was no reason for anyone to question it. We never 26 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: told anyone about our big secret. Well, it all came 27 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 1: out in the worst way. About three months ago, my 28 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: wife and her stepmother got into a really bad argument, 29 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 1: and the stepmother told my wife that the twins were 30 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: actually her stepsons and not her brothers. She told my 31 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: wife that she has DNA a DNA test to prove it. 32 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: All hell broke loose. I admitted to my wife and 33 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: my wife's father that the twins are my sons. My 34 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 1: wife hasn't spoken to me since then. My wife's father 35 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: filed for divorce. I'm afraid my wife is going to 36 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: file for a divorce too. I don't want to get 37 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: a divorce. What can I do to get my wife back? 38 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: Please advise? What can I do to get my wife back? 39 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:18,359 Speaker 1: You ask nothing, nothing, nothing, There's nothing you can do nothing. 40 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: It's too late. You messed up. I mean you messed up, 41 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: not once, but twice. You don't deserve your wife. You 42 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 1: do not deserve her. She took you back the first 43 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: time after you cheated and had a kid, and instead 44 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: of you being grateful to God and straightening up your 45 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:36,680 Speaker 1: act and doing the right thing, you go out and 46 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 1: do it again to someone who's close to home with 47 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: your stepmom, really, your wife's stepmother. I think you're disrespectful. 48 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: I think you're crazy, and you know what else, I 49 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: think you're pretty arrogant at this point to even think 50 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 1: that you still have a chance after what you've done. 51 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 1: Like I said in the beginning, nothing nothing, nothing, only God, 52 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:02,799 Speaker 1: okay himself can save you now. And that is it. 53 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: I mean, you say you don't want a divorce, but 54 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: you've done everything everything possible to kill and destroy your marriage. 55 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 1: I'm surprised your wife is still there. I think that 56 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: you're a selfish person. You're reckless with it. And just 57 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: remember you reap what you saw and you've been doing 58 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: this behind your wife's back and this is the result 59 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: of your actions. So if she, if she doesn't take 60 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 1: you back, that's what you deserve at this point, Steve, 61 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:39,160 Speaker 1: I don't know why you wrote exactly damn letter? What what? 62 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: What do you want us to do? Sir? We can't 63 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:51,119 Speaker 1: help you, sir. This ain't therapy. The only one can 64 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: help you helped you already when he put it on 65 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: her heart to take you back. Let me read to 66 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: you what you did. Sometimes you need to hit this 67 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: out loud. Three years ago, I cheated on my wife. 68 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: I got another woman pregnant. I told my wife about 69 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 1: the fan and the baby. My wife was going to 70 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: divorce me, but when went the marriage counseling, she had 71 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 1: to change her heart. My wife welcome the baby into 72 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: our family, and she's grown to love the child. So 73 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: you figured, with all this happy going on, all this 74 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:31,159 Speaker 1: new love, extra family members, your dumb mass thought you 75 00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: are to go out and get some more kids. Yes, 76 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: oh yeah, oh madge counseling. Then grown to love her 77 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:44,839 Speaker 1: and it's raised it. She's a part of my family. 78 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:51,039 Speaker 1: Let's get another, get some more family. And so you 79 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 1: go out. You don't get anybody. You get her stepmother, 80 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 1: which is the same age as your wife, which means 81 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 1: she's married to an older man, which is your father 82 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 1: in law. You sleep with her, she get pregnant, hair twins. 83 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: Who got this old ass dude thinking he's still bringing it, 84 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: but he don't. And now he got to deal with that. 85 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:23,719 Speaker 1: This is crazy, man. It is your mother in law 86 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,600 Speaker 1: is pregnant. Now what happened was your wife and your 87 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 1: mother in law got in the big argument and the 88 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: news came out, as you say, in the worst way. 89 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 1: My wife and her stepmother got into a really bad argument, 90 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:42,479 Speaker 1: and the stepmother told my wife that the twins was 91 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:51,039 Speaker 1: actually her stepsons and not her brother's. Where was you at, hey, 92 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:59,799 Speaker 1: I need to know what you're standing there, which she said, well, Jameson, 93 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:04,440 Speaker 1: are you watching your wife argre with your step MoMA 94 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 1: to t to slept with us, pregnant with kids and 95 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: yours And then she tell her you don't know what 96 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: you're talking about. I got news for you, didn't your brothers, 97 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:16,240 Speaker 1: then your step sons, me and I had his baby. 98 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:21,480 Speaker 1: He should love? An argument started, man, yeah, left town. 99 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: How you're able to type this letter is beyond man 100 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: because he thinks he still isn't. I figure were in 101 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:31,599 Speaker 1: the department eighteen flows high. If I die about this 102 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:36,320 Speaker 1: one day, it'll feel better than me. Share this. Sit 103 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:39,360 Speaker 1: for me, right, all right, Stevens. If we weren't gonna 104 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: say nothing, hang on, hang on, I know you have more. 105 00:06:42,960 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: We're gonna have purtase, we free to. We'll have part 106 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: two of your response coming up Steven twenty three after 107 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 1: right after this, you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, 108 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject is 109 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 1: I cheated twice and three outside children. Lord. This man 110 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: and cheated on his wife, got another girl pregnant, came in, 111 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: told his wife about the fan and the baby. Wife 112 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 1: gonna leave him. They go to counsel, They work it out. 113 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:16,600 Speaker 1: She accept the baby into the family and loves the 114 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 1: child like it's her own. You go out again. This 115 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: time you get the girl's mama. You sleep with a 116 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 1: mama because they the same age, dating her old ass daddy, 117 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: then married him. You the gate a woman, a baby, 118 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 1: your wife and your mother in law step mother having 119 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: a fan to have a baby. And the way it 120 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: came out was your wife got an argument with her, 121 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: and she flipped the script and told the news. Jathany 122 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: Brown knew it. I'm gonna be the dude. Yes, you're 123 00:07:55,280 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: arguing with my wife. Yes, So you just do the 124 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: one part and I'll be the dude over here listening 125 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: to this happen. Yeah, Yeah, you just listen to what 126 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:08,440 Speaker 1: I'm saying. But I'm trying to might try to get 127 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 1: in there, and here we go. I'm the mother in law, right, 128 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: see what you don't know? What you don't know? Ladies, ladies, ladies, 129 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: y'all don't need no no, no, no, no no, no no, 130 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 1: you don't know why you are everybody everything and sick 131 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 1: trying to everybody but mama, everybody ain't got nor everything. 132 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 1: Everybody needs to notice because we all walking around like 133 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 1: we know something, but we don't know what. God damn it, 134 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: we're about to know. Hey, that's just that's don't go wow, listen, baby, listen, 135 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 1: I mean, mama, but not but not don't talk to me. Okay, 136 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 1: do not talk to me. But I'm trying to not look. 137 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: Do not talk to me, because when I say what 138 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:56,439 Speaker 1: I got to say, everybody's gonna be quiet up in here. 139 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 1: When I get drinks hold us, everybody gonna be looking 140 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 1: and stupid. Hold on, hold on, hold hold on, hold on, 141 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: hold on, hold Lord, that us around for a long time. 142 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: You're hiding birthday cakes on God, you know, gonna check 143 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 1: the cheese and stuff. And I ain't saying a damn thing. 144 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:29,679 Speaker 1: What a dad today? Dat, Lord, I'm hiding you know what. 145 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 1: I'm letting you take off your play brothers, I'm playing alone. 146 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 1: What damn it? It's your truth? Lord, I feel like 147 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:44,960 Speaker 1: you're pretty. God, you're pretty way your old where you 148 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:51,199 Speaker 1: want to prea too? Dad? You know is love? It's 149 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:57,720 Speaker 1: coming out to day. You know what? Damn's not your 150 00:09:57,920 --> 00:10:03,320 Speaker 1: brother jee at all. Jim is not your brother. Me 151 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 1: and this fool right here now, I know he's gonna 152 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:08,680 Speaker 1: heal with you one time. You want, No, damn one time. 153 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 1: Who's gonna hit this once and not ever wanted again? What? 154 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:21,400 Speaker 1: What that's That's that's insulting to me? Cud, It's just 155 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:23,280 Speaker 1: it he gonna, Oh, we just hit the one thing 156 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 1: he ain't hitting us for alarm time? What is shit 157 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: talking about talking about? I'm talking about you, that man. 158 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:48,319 Speaker 1: Your husband is my babby daddy. What she said? What 159 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 1: in case y'all didn't hear me? Lint to me again? 160 00:10:53,679 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 1: Your husband? Look at all the roachest roaches in here, 161 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: y'all just gonna let him walk round. Y'all don't see him, 162 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:13,199 Speaker 1: but I see him, your husband in my baby dade. 163 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:15,959 Speaker 1: Anybody won't tell me, I'll be in living room eat 164 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 1: ice cream. Your mamma, don step you'll step mama. I'm 165 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:36,880 Speaker 1: just saying, gonna hear my crowd, y'all hears you. You 166 00:11:36,960 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 1: didn't done it bad. You gotta run. You too late 167 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:43,280 Speaker 1: to call on him. Now you can't call on him 168 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 1: after the fact. That's that's when the love's gonna stave 169 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:54,920 Speaker 1: you on. Y'all. Just say, this is gonna be good 170 00:11:54,920 --> 00:12:04,960 Speaker 1: for you teaching moment. I got me. Yeah, y'all'll trip it, 171 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: don't you know what I'm saying? She gonna just file 172 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:17,000 Speaker 1: something like that? It ain't. Your voice is high ready. 173 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: You sound like in the world would who was not 174 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: saying I was going back the money? No me for that? O? God? 175 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:35,679 Speaker 1: That wow? Ain't then you do about that? And you 176 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: don't know why he wrote the letters man and his wife. 177 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:41,240 Speaker 1: I mean she took the first kid in grew to 178 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 1: love the first child, and you go out and do 179 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: it again, no, sir, And and here the first kids 180 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:50,440 Speaker 1: just getting in close, and here you come messing up 181 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:57,679 Speaker 1: every damn right. All right, guys, we gotta get out 182 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 1: of here. You can email us your Instagram us. Yeah, yeah, 183 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:05,360 Speaker 1: email us our instagram us, your thoughts on today's Strawberry 184 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:07,960 Speaker 1: letter at Steve Harvey f M. All right, coming up, 185 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 1: more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show. 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