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Speaker 3: Day, Yeah, second Date up date. The results are in.
Speaker 3: It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning, because recent studies
Speaker 3: have shown about fifty percent of couples now meet online
Speaker 3: compared to just twenty two percent only five years ago.
Speaker 2: That's crazy. That's a huge John. It's like the pandemic,
Speaker 2: like super.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it made a really normal, really quick Yeah. So
Speaker 3: now going forward, Brook, if you want to spice up
Speaker 3: the relationship with your husband, you're gonna have to make
Speaker 3: him a dating profile.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, you know, I think I could make him
Speaker 2: a really good one.
Speaker 3: I mean to be honest, Well, I think joke's on you.
Speaker 3: He already has one.
Speaker 2: Wait whoa apparently guy.
Speaker 3: You're looking for a third right now, according to him.
Speaker 3: And we're not going to go into that because I
Speaker 3: want to talk right now because to Jordy, the listener
Speaker 3: who wrote into our show because apparently he met a
Speaker 3: girl out in real life, bucking all of the latest trends, you're.
Speaker 2: The minority now, irl, Jeordy, good work.
Speaker 3: Welcome to the show.
Speaker 1: Hey guys, so where'd you meet this woman? So?
Speaker 4: I met Harper at this German bar.
Speaker 5: Actually, uh, you know, I was playing bachi ball. Do
Speaker 5: you guys know what that is?
Speaker 6: You have bought you ball on my rooftop of my apartment.
Speaker 3: Like you tossed big these like big colorful balls onto
Speaker 3: like a field and you try to toss other balls
Speaker 3: towards the ball.
Speaker 2: It's an Italian game playing at a German bar. But
Speaker 2: what happened?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, So you said her name was Harper?
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, she was actually a waitress there.
Speaker 3: Oh oh, I assumed that she was going to be
Speaker 3: like playing in the stall next year or.
Speaker 5: Something like that.
Speaker 7: Right, No, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 4: She was super cute, and I mean she was super
Speaker 4: helpful too, because I actually had to have this like
Speaker 4: long cock with her to tell her to cut off
Speaker 4: one of my drunk friends.
Speaker 2: Friend, you had to do it.
Speaker 1: Like nicely, like I told you, I'm sure that's happened
Speaker 1: to you and you just don't if you have good friends.
Speaker 3: If I think it probably makes you look kind of
Speaker 3: good to her because you seem like a responsible guy exactly.
Speaker 5: It's like watching Jerry Fringer. It's like you look better
Speaker 5: than those people.
Speaker 2: Oh can I ask real quick?
Speaker 1: Was there an indication that she was interested in you?
Speaker 1: Because cute waitresses get hit on all the time.
Speaker 3: And they smile and there everyone thinks they're getting brook
Speaker 3: tries to get them to be the third in her relationship.
Speaker 2: Harper. I mean, Harper is a hot name.
Speaker 3: But again, sorry, that is a conversation for another day.
Speaker 3: Tell us, how did you work Harper? That's not the
Speaker 3: right way.
Speaker 2: How did Jack?
Speaker 3: How did you get Harper to agree to a date?
Speaker 5: There?
Speaker 2: It is?
Speaker 4: Well, I just simply asked her on the way out.
Speaker 4: I was like, look are you single? And she said
Speaker 4: who's asking?
Speaker 5: And I said I am good.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I just said I'd love to take you
Speaker 4: out sometime, and she actually gave me her number.
Speaker 1: Oh dude, if we done this and it's our loser line, is.
Speaker 3: That your only meet up? Or did you guys actually
Speaker 3: have a date.
Speaker 5: No, no, we had a date.
Speaker 3: Okay, so it is her numbers.
Speaker 6: Because we all know she probably gave your number to
Speaker 6: get ridy.
Speaker 2: So what did you do?
Speaker 4: We went out for drinks, little food. You know, she
Speaker 4: looked amazing. I mean when she was like out of
Speaker 4: her waiter outfits.
Speaker 2: You didn't need to mention the second part.
Speaker 7: She knows.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I did have one embarrassing moment on
Speaker 5: the date.
Speaker 4: We tried to order some keyshe Lorraine, and I said, quickie, Loran,
Speaker 4: you know I didn't take French in high school, Like
Speaker 4: excuse me, Yeah, well, you're.
Speaker 6: Also clashing with the batch you ball in the Germans.
Speaker 2: Don't want to be elitist by being able to say keish.
Speaker 5: Tough. What was her reaction, She totally laughed it off.
Speaker 4: It was a little embarrassing, but after that, like, I
Speaker 4: think it kind of lightened the mood a little bit,
Speaker 4: and from there the.
Speaker 1: Date was great, especially if you can be self deprecating
Speaker 1: about it, you know what I mean, Like it could
Speaker 1: almost even turn into like your inside joke together.
Speaker 6: Yeah, the next thing, I speak German and then.
Speaker 3: You just ruin it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So we actually like kissed at
Speaker 5: the end of the day, so that was nice.
Speaker 4: And she was the one who texted me that night
Speaker 4: saying that she got home safe and that she certain
Speaker 4: wait to see me.
Speaker 5: So whoa, Like, it seems super clear, right, Are.
Speaker 2: You sure you didn't read that wrong too?
Speaker 3: There's no way to read that I.
Speaker 5: Was in English, I think.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you've you've had a solid first date. You
Speaker 3: kissed her at the end of it. She's the one
Speaker 3: saying I can't wait to hang out again, and how
Speaker 3: long has it been?
Speaker 5: It's been like ten days or so, well.
Speaker 6: Something must have happened in her life, Like I already
Speaker 6: have a feeling this is not your fault.
Speaker 1: I oh, I can see that where I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe work got crazy or there's a family emergency.
Speaker 3: She kindled something and was just like, yeah, but what's
Speaker 3: happened in those ten days? That's a long time. Have
Speaker 3: you asked her like what.
Speaker 5: Have you doe? Yeah?
Speaker 4: I mean there was one time where I thought one
Speaker 4: date was gonna work, but then she asked about a
Speaker 4: different date, So I don't.
Speaker 2: Know, all player came into her work.
Speaker 3: Might be Okay, Well, we can reach out to Harper
Speaker 3: for you and see if she agrees to going out
Speaker 3: with you one more time. If not, then you might
Speaker 3: have a backup. Often because Brooke and her husband.
Speaker 5: You know, but.
Speaker 2: Jeff not online.
Speaker 3: Oh that's right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we only like the online one.
Speaker 3: To be able to keep some distance. Sorry, but you
Speaker 3: know what, We'll work on Harper first and try and
Speaker 3: get you your second date update. Right after this second
Speaker 3: date update, we're in the middle of a second date
Speaker 3: update with our listener Jordy, and Jordy likes cute waitresses
Speaker 3: at German bachi ball bars. He likes to mispronounce keish
Speaker 3: lorraine just to seem vulnerable and flawed.
Speaker 2: How did he say something?
Speaker 3: Yeah, he said, you said quickly? What did you say, Jordie,
Speaker 3: I said quick loran quickly. And he really likes to
Speaker 3: receive texts saying I can't wait to see you again,
Speaker 3: because that's exactly what is dade, Harper said to him
Speaker 3: after they went out. So why is she not jumping
Speaker 3: at the chance to hang out again?
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's the one that said she wanted to Jeordy.
Speaker 3: You think there's another guy who mispronounces French words even
Speaker 3: worse than you do. Maybe that's her thing.
Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe, Yeah.
Speaker 6: He tried to order me a quabernet, having gone.
Speaker 3: Oh oh yeah, that's hot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, I don't even know how you have mispronounced
Speaker 1: so much yeah pronounced.
Speaker 4: I mean, look, Harper's a really cute waitress. She probably
Speaker 4: has a lot of guys asking her out.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I bet she's saying no fifty times
Speaker 1: a day, every other table.
Speaker 2: It's so annoying.
Speaker 1: But that's why you're so special, is that she said
Speaker 1: yes to you and you guys had a great day.
Speaker 7: Issue she said, yeah, But like look, guys, if that's it,
Speaker 7: if that's the thing where she has another guy, like,
Speaker 7: just convince her that I'm a good guy, you know.
Speaker 2: In the five minutes we've spent with you, totally will
Speaker 2: vouch for you. Thank you, You're welcome, like.
Speaker 3: A good guy, honestly, not even kidding. Yeah, a lot
Speaker 3: of good guys insist how good they are. So we're
Speaker 3: just gonna trust you on that, and we're gonna call Harper.
Speaker 3: Let's see if she answers. Okay, I don't know you.
Speaker 3: I mean you seem nice from a little bit be spoken. Okay,
Speaker 3: you just stay where you're at, though, buddy, we don't
Speaker 3: know you that.
Speaker 2: Let's get her on the phone.
Speaker 3: Hello, Hey, is this Harper?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 8: Who's calling?
Speaker 3: We're a radio show calling called Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 3: the morning.
Speaker 2: Good morning, Hi Harper.
Speaker 3: That half of the room isn't very excited to talk
Speaker 3: to you, obviously, but.
Speaker 2: I don't think she talked to us.
Speaker 3: This half of the room very good.
Speaker 2: I just don't want to come into jeff what are
Speaker 2: you calling for? See?
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is this is something we do call the
Speaker 3: second Date Update. And one of our listeners named Jordi
Speaker 3: asked us to reach out to you?
Speaker 2: Were you anyone else?
Speaker 9: I said, what do you want me to say?
Speaker 3: Okay, we're just trying to help him out because according
Speaker 3: to Jeordi, he says he's been putting in a lot
Speaker 3: of effort trying to figure out a good time that
Speaker 3: would work for you to meet up just because he
Speaker 3: felt like you guys bonded connected.
Speaker 2: Is it just something where the schedules aren't aligning.
Speaker 9: No, there was just like a lot of effort.
Speaker 8: That's kind of a problem too much.
Speaker 2: What do you mean?
Speaker 3: Yeah, can you elaborate?
Speaker 10: I mean, like on the surface when I met him,
Speaker 10: like I was working and then we went and hung
Speaker 10: out and like he was a good guy, and well
Speaker 10: that's what I was looking for.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like he's what you were looking for. I mean,
Speaker 2: like I thought, so okay, so what changed?
Speaker 9: So we hung out and it It wasn't until after
Speaker 9: that I realized something was off.
Speaker 8: What Like I had every intention to go out again.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, what's the problem. Is it something about him?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 9: He gave me three options to hang out all in
Speaker 9: a row, like Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 8: Like why is he so available?
Speaker 3: Wait? What do you hold on?
Speaker 6: Did he want a three day date, or he was
Speaker 6: just like pick a day and we can do that one.
Speaker 9: No, he was like, these are all the days that
Speaker 9: I'm available, and I have to believe me and my
Speaker 9: friends do that. There's a guy between the age twenty
Speaker 9: four and thirty two ish. If they have that much
Speaker 9: time to hang out, it really means that he's a loser.
Speaker 3: Oh oh wait, wait a a loser. Wow, you're calling
Speaker 3: him a loser because he gave you multiple options of
Speaker 3: times where he wants to hang out because he likes you.
Speaker 9: Yeah, because like they're all in a row, and it's like, Okay,
Speaker 9: he should be grinding away planning for his future, maybe
Speaker 9: not working or like working on a promotion or getting somewhere.
Speaker 1: Maybe he is like, in my mind, you're a waitress.
Speaker 1: So he's probably just trying to give you options because
Speaker 1: it's probably hard to align schedules, Like he probably figures
Speaker 1: you work on the weekends.
Speaker 8: I mean that sounds like an excuse he to use.
Speaker 3: I guess well, it sounds like he's doing it for you.
Speaker 3: Because nowadays we hear from a lot of women who
Speaker 3: tell us guys don't put in enough effort. They want
Speaker 3: the easy thing. They don't really care. Geordy sounds like
Speaker 3: the total opposite, like he's willing to do whatever just
Speaker 3: to see you.
Speaker 2: Make plans the other days that you say you can't.
Speaker 8: Yeah, but he didn't say that.
Speaker 9: He was like, I'm wide open, and I'm like, well,
Speaker 9: what else are you doing with your life? Just pursuing me?
Speaker 3: What?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 6: Sadly this makes sense, but doesn't mean we agree with it.
Speaker 2: I don't know that it does make sense to me.
Speaker 1: He's not a sir like you liked him, You liked
Speaker 1: everything about him. You said that he checked all your boxes. Basically, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean he did.
Speaker 9: He actually had decent hygiene.
Speaker 3: Which okay, But but he's too available for you.
Speaker 2: Maybe that's why it's hygiene is so good. He has
Speaker 2: got time for it.
Speaker 1: I mean, again, you don't want date someone who wants
Speaker 1: to hang out every single day sometimes like they need
Speaker 1: to have a life.
Speaker 9: Well sure, oh god, and especially in the beginning getting
Speaker 9: to know who they are, and it just seems like
Speaker 9: he's just.
Speaker 8: Wide open to do whatever.
Speaker 9: And okay, but we're trying to build who we are
Speaker 9: as people.
Speaker 1: What would you want his response to be when you say, hey,
Speaker 1: I can't wait to see you again.
Speaker 2: What should he have.
Speaker 8: Written back to He shouldn't have. He should have just
Speaker 8: let me hang for a bit.
Speaker 3: That was a red flag.
Speaker 2: Okay, well it's cutting like a game.
Speaker 3: I don't I don't want to tell you this because
Speaker 3: it's not that he's like super available to talk to you.
Speaker 3: That's not what this is.
Speaker 2: He was so busy. It's like I had to call
Speaker 2: him so many times just in.
Speaker 3: The middle of his extremely hectic day. He's taken a
Speaker 3: little bit of time to jump on the phone right
Speaker 3: now to talk to you because Jordie's there.
Speaker 5: Hey, Harper, Oh so you've.
Speaker 3: Been on the phone just a little bit barely.
Speaker 5: I heard you call me a loser who has too
Speaker 5: much time on his hands.
Speaker 9: Well, yeah, they asked me to be honest, and I
Speaker 9: was honest. She didn't asked me what.
Speaker 2: Was I mean, that's what Jordie wanted. He wanted to know.
Speaker 4: So, do you think I'm a loser because I want
Speaker 4: to go out a second time?
Speaker 5: Like that part doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 9: No, it's just it's just a little red flaggy to
Speaker 9: be able to hang out three nights in a row,
Speaker 9: and like, my perfect.
Speaker 8: Guy would never do that.
Speaker 9: He shouldn't have all the time in the world for me, you.
Speaker 1: Know, I'm sorry, shouldn't have all the.
Speaker 4: To be totally clear, I didn't want to hang out
Speaker 4: with you three nights, and I gave you three options.
Speaker 5: Okay, you're just.
Speaker 9: Being a little weight to chill at this time in
Speaker 9: your life.
Speaker 8: You know, now the time is to work hard and
Speaker 8: we're going to chill later.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, well you're servant. Stein's in a German bar, like,
Speaker 2: I mean, she probably makes more than I do here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, it's just the what are you doing to
Speaker 1: do the same thing.
Speaker 8: Well, you don't even know me, so how about you
Speaker 8: shut your mouth?
Speaker 3: Yeah, shut your mouth, Michael. Who are you complaining about
Speaker 3: the people bringing you alcohol?
Speaker 2: I think being a server is a great job.
Speaker 1: But she's like expecting him to like do all these
Speaker 1: big great things, like what are you doing to plan
Speaker 1: for your future?
Speaker 3: You stay in your lane and keep not tipping people.
Speaker 2: I just like, I hate when people do that.
Speaker 3: This is about Jordie, Jordi. She's concerned that you're too
Speaker 3: free and you're too available. Prove to her that that's
Speaker 3: not true. And how much you got going on?
Speaker 2: You don't want to date?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, it sounds like that would be more
Speaker 7: attractive to you. I mean, I just don't know why
Speaker 7: you want to play these games. Like we met in
Speaker 7: real life, I thought you were a good person.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's actually a point. How busy are you right now?
Speaker 5: I mean I'm kind of busy. I'm not totally busy.
Speaker 8: I mean.
Speaker 3: He's super busy, right slam?
Speaker 10: Okay, Like, look, I'm looking to get busier, all right,
Speaker 10: red flaggy much?
Speaker 2: Oh god, he sounds like a nice guy.
Speaker 3: That's not what she wants. She doesn't want that, but
Speaker 3: you did want it that night.
Speaker 7: Look, look, Harper, let's rewind. Pretend I didn't call you
Speaker 7: for two weeks.
Speaker 8: Are you turned on now weeks?
Speaker 9: It's only been ten days.
Speaker 3: We're imagining, Harper.
Speaker 9: I mean, the reality is you sent me a lot
Speaker 9: of freaking texts with like a lot of freaking days,
Speaker 9: and now you have me on a radio show.
Speaker 3: It does look bad. It's pretty bad. You know what
Speaker 3: The thing is? We made him do it. Yeah, we
Speaker 3: got all the time in the world. He didn't even
Speaker 3: want to.
Speaker 2: Be here, he didn't have time, no, but he.
Speaker 3: Was kind enough to take a little bit of time
Speaker 3: out to do this with us. Just so that I
Speaker 3: could ask you if you would like to see Jordi
Speaker 3: one more time, and we would pay for that date.
Speaker 3: I don't even know if he's free. Honestly, Jordy, are
Speaker 3: you even free?
Speaker 2: Interested?
Speaker 5: Not anymore? I'm all booked up.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. She's like, so I'll see you next weekend.
Speaker 9: I mean, I'm not really into these games that he's
Speaker 9: playing with me, and I'm not going to follow.
Speaker 5: Sweetie.
Speaker 3: Oh God, that was talking like Brooke. Now this is okay,
Speaker 3: you know what. No, second day, this is going bad.
Speaker 7: Looking.
Speaker 3: Jeffrey in the morning got a text into seventy eighty
Speaker 3: five nine two that says, with that out look, I
Speaker 3: hope she's ready to die alone.
Speaker 1: God No, I mean, honestly, I think she just doesn't
Speaker 1: actually want a boyfriend.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, likebody's.
Speaker 2: Saying that she's like looking.
Speaker 1: She says she's looking for something, but she found it because.
Speaker 3: What she just wants to be wanted. And the outlook
Speaker 3: that I think they're referring to is the theory that
Speaker 3: if a guy says he's available to hang out with
Speaker 3: you multiple nights in a row, that means he's a
Speaker 3: loser and must have absolutely nothing going on.
Speaker 6: You correct that, because when girls try to hang out
Speaker 6: with me and I tell him I'm sorry, I got
Speaker 6: two jobs. I'm streaming video games every single night, it
Speaker 6: also deters that.
Speaker 3: Yes, it also matters what you're busy doing.
Speaker 1: My D and D club on Friday on Saturday night,
Speaker 1: so I can't hang out.
Speaker 3: Sorry, but I make tons of money. Hello, Hello, guys,
Speaker 3: just give up. It's going to be easier to be
Speaker 3: just quit because actually they're going to feel more attracted
Speaker 3: to you that you've given up on that.
Speaker 2: Based on him, I mean, just too late.
Speaker 3: She speaks for all women.
Speaker 2: Hey, I just cancel on my two guys.
Speaker 3: But you know what, if you need help with your
Speaker 3: dating life, go ahead email the show. We'll call that
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