1 00:00:01,720 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: And that's what you really missed with Jenna. 2 00:00:04,440 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 2: And Kevin an iHeartRadio podcast. 3 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 1: Welcome to you, and that's what you really missed podcasts. 4 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:15,360 Speaker 1: Hi Kevin, Hi Jenna. We were just chatting about your 5 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:17,600 Speaker 1: ascid reflex, which feels like a blast from the past. 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:21,279 Speaker 2: It just never goes away. It's my old friend, never 7 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:24,599 Speaker 2: good old acid reflex. It really derailed my day. 8 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry. Does it affect your singing voice? Yes, 9 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 1: mm hmm, that's the worst. 10 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:36,120 Speaker 2: Well now it's not so much. Actually I started getting 11 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:37,960 Speaker 2: as reflecs during a show. 12 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: Oh no, Kevin, and. 13 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:43,720 Speaker 2: So I started burping in like the second half of 14 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 2: the show, and then I have to sing like a 15 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 2: high note and my vo because I had to burn. 16 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 1: Oh my god. That is great, actually great. 17 00:00:55,000 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 2: And also it's it's more so for the long term 18 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:04,039 Speaker 2: than the short term, the acid reflex, because that's also 19 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 2: what contributes to. 20 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: Like burns on your corn. 21 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 2: I'm sorry about the laryngitis and whatnot. 22 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 1: Right, Okay, So I gotta be good. 23 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 2: I got it. I have to eat better, take care 24 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 2: of this, take care of the flux. 25 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:21,400 Speaker 1: I love when everybody's like, don't eat hot sauce and 26 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 1: they're like. 27 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 2: Well, I didn't drink though yesterday with Saint Patrick's Day. 28 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: I was gonna say happy Saint Patrick's say, I know 29 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: it's your favorite holiday. I have some friends that I 30 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: had to explain to them. My friends, my co workers 31 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: from Asian American Girl Club, they don't know about, like 32 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: they don't celebrate Saint Patty's Day, like they didn't grow 33 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:43,680 Speaker 1: up celebrating Saint Patty's Day. I, on the other hand, 34 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: have an Irish mom. I grew up going to Irish 35 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 1: pubs for Saint Patty's Day, eating Irish soda, bread, eating corn, 36 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:54,840 Speaker 1: beef and cabbage, getting green bagels and green beers. When 37 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 1: I got older, so I did the whole thing and 38 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: I had like explained to them, like that we celebrate 39 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: and how you celebrate, et cetera. I also thought about 40 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 1: how we celebrated during COVID for Shane Patti's Day, we 41 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: did a live and we took a shot at Jamison 42 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: that morning, and I remember thinking, I'm a little sick, 43 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: but I'll do it anyway. And I did it. And 44 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 1: I had COVID and you had COVID and we had 45 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: just seen each other, Yeah. 46 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 2: We had and I was freaking out, but I didn't 47 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:24,440 Speaker 2: get it. 48 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 1: We did it. 49 00:02:25,880 --> 00:02:26,360 Speaker 2: It's fine. 50 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 1: I never got it. 51 00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 2: Ever, Well, no, that's not true. 52 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: It's just kidding. You. Guys are raising money for every 53 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 1: care's equity fights aids. It's very exciting to see you 54 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: up there with the red bucket talking to the audience. 55 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:43,639 Speaker 1: I saw that Jesse Tyler Ferguson came and signed some 56 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: stuff for you talk. 57 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 2: We don't know Jesse was there. Jesse popped up as 58 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 2: we're doing our little spiel and he's like, because we've 59 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 2: been auctioning off my placard that says my name, the 60 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:56,640 Speaker 2: character name, and we all sign it, and we've raised 61 00:02:58,000 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 2: a couple thousand dollars so far doing it. 62 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: That's great. 63 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:03,519 Speaker 2: And so he stood up and it was like, I'll 64 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 2: sign it. And he's there at this two kids excuse me. Yeah, 65 00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 2: So I'm like, okay, you have to get up on stage. 66 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 2: So we forced him. We get up on stage and 67 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 2: he's here doing his show about Everybody Capodi. Yeah, Juman 68 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:20,639 Speaker 2: Capote looks wonderful and I want to go see it. 69 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 2: I was talking to him about it's like a ninety 70 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 2: nine it's a ninety nine seat like venue. It's a 71 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 2: living room basically, and he's like sitting next to the 72 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:31,799 Speaker 2: people anyway, wonderful to see him, and we're raising money. 73 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 2: I'm learning all about it because I didn't know. I 74 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 2: was like, what is a red bucket? What I know? 75 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 1: Broadaly Careers and then the easter bonnet? Will you guys 76 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: do the easter bonnet? Or no? Because you're off Broadway? 77 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: Does it think? 78 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm not sure. But Broadway Cares is 79 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 2: like an incredible organization like SAG in a number of ways. 80 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 2: They help artists and non artists even in times of need. 81 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 2: They provide all kinds of services, urging, free time, emergency. Yes, 82 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 2: they literally do everything because you know, work can be 83 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 2: inconsistent the world. The world is in chaos, and so 84 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:15,839 Speaker 2: when you need it, Broadway care steps in and can 85 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:16,560 Speaker 2: really help. 86 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: One of my favorite things is that they do these 87 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: you know around the year, like in different seasons of 88 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,039 Speaker 1: the year, where they raise money for a certain amount 89 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 1: of time and then they culminate with some kind of 90 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: event in a Broadway venue that's like everybody performs and shows, 91 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 1: do parodies or wonderful you know, thoughtful numbers and whatever. 92 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:50,280 Speaker 1: It runs the gamut. But the Easter Bonnet is coming up, 93 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:52,160 Speaker 1: and I guess this is the one that ands the 94 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 1: East women. And then they announce like the top three 95 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: shows that raise the most money for Broadway Cares. 96 00:04:57,400 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 2: Correct, So we're competing. We're competing against the other off 97 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 2: Broadway shows. 98 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: A little friendly competition, a little. 99 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 2: Shop is just I don't think anybody can compete with them. 100 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 2: We've been trying to recon to see how they do it, 101 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 2: because they've been up and running. 102 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: Right, Like what are they offering? What are they selling? 103 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: Because usually you can auction off like props on the set, 104 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 1: sign posters, you can sign meat and greets. You could 105 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 1: really do anything you want. So I'm curious what they 106 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:25,160 Speaker 1: are auctioning they have. 107 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 2: I think they're auctioning off a lot of props and 108 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:30,359 Speaker 2: they put them on eBay. You don't really have to 109 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 2: be there to do it. 110 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:35,279 Speaker 1: Oh damn, they're getting like wide reaching a wider net. 111 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:37,919 Speaker 2: So we we aren't there yet. We're building our ground 112 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:38,760 Speaker 2: game here. 113 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:40,799 Speaker 1: Okay, I understood. 114 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 2: Und So we're starting. 115 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:45,560 Speaker 1: And you have a smaller theater than a lot of 116 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 1: these small and mighty but I'm I. 117 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 2: Mean, what we're doing is afterwards, I've been standing in 118 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:54,160 Speaker 2: the lobby with the red bucket and I will take 119 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 2: a picture with whoever, but you got to donate. 120 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: For fixture and I love it. Yes, Did I tell 121 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 1: you about the time that I met Jim Carrey with 122 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 1: a red bucket? Jim Carrey came to see the King 123 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: and I I was out there with a red bucket 124 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:11,599 Speaker 1: because of course they put the kids out there. You're like, 125 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 1: who's not gonna give money to kids waiting for the 126 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: red bucket. Knew Jim Carrey was there that night. I 127 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 1: brought a post it with me so that in case 128 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: I met him, I could have him sign it because 129 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 1: I was so excited, and I knew my brother would 130 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 1: want an autograph. So I'm waiting and waiting and he 131 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 1: comes by and drops one hundred dollars in my bucket 132 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: and I'm like, can I have your autograph? He's like, 133 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 1: I don't have a pen. I'm so sorry, and like 134 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:38,520 Speaker 1: had to go because, like you know, there's a crowd 135 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 1: behind him, and I was devastated. How old were you nine? 136 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:46,919 Speaker 1: So I was seven? 137 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 2: You know what's crazy? Probably was in the same year 138 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:51,599 Speaker 2: we both met Jim Carrey. 139 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 1: Really, yeah, he was in the night. 140 00:06:56,880 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 2: My sister worked shoes in the intern on The Tonight Show, 141 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 2: and so when I was like six or seven years old, 142 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 2: I'd go hang out with her at work backstage, and 143 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 2: I remember being in the hallway with Jim Carrey and 144 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 2: he passed me and we chatted for a second. 145 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: I was like this, I mean, put him up there 146 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 1: in the ranks of like Bobs Williams, Tom It's like 147 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 1: all the greats, right icon Okay, anyway, so today we're 148 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 1: doing something really different and I'm really excited for it. 149 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:30,880 Speaker 1: Thank you guys for writing in. 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So our producer Sam 158 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: compiled some wonderful questions from you guys listeners, and she's 159 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: going to read them to us, and we're going to 160 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:01,960 Speaker 1: give you our thoughts. 161 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:03,080 Speaker 2: Our two cents. 162 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 3: Okay, this first one is from Addie, Hi, Jenna, and Kevin. 163 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 3: First of all, it's really important for me to tell 164 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 3: you I love your podcast. I mean so much to 165 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 3: me and to so many fans. It's really healing and comforting, 166 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 3: so thank you. I would really like to have some 167 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 3: advice on how to actually become an actress. My school 168 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:23,920 Speaker 3: doesn't have a musical theater program, and there's nothing really 169 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 3: like this anywhere around me. I'm in a theater program, 170 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 3: but that's not the same and it's genuinely the only thing. 171 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 3: There's no plan B. So what practical advice do you 172 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 3: have for aspiring actors in the same situation. 173 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: Thanks for reading in Addie, and I'm so glad that 174 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: you want to become an actress. 175 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:43,760 Speaker 2: And thank you for loving the podcast and listening. 176 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: Yes, thank you, thank you. Okay, well, it sounds like 177 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:50,680 Speaker 1: you're in some kind of theater program, but it's not 178 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: what you hope for it to me, right, and there's 179 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:59,560 Speaker 1: nothing else around you that is you're able to access 180 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 1: in where you are right now. I would obviously try 181 00:09:06,520 --> 00:09:15,040 Speaker 1: to find the local theaters or the regional theaters that 182 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 1: are close to you that you might be able to 183 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 1: access at a point where if you have that capability, 184 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:25,400 Speaker 1: because that will be like the next step of like 185 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: kind of moving into more professional theater. I guess, but 186 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:35,280 Speaker 1: where I don't know exactly where you are in your 187 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 1: training or in your how old you are, so this 188 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:43,079 Speaker 1: is kind of hard. But my best advice is, like, 189 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 1: you have your computer, you have your music apps, you 190 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 1: have YouTube, find songs you like, find shows you like, 191 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 1: do research, find performers you like, kind of figure out 192 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 1: what you would love to do, and like pick a 193 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: lane and and then like kind of go with it. Right, 194 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: So if that's musical theater, it sounds like there's no 195 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:07,400 Speaker 1: musical theater program near you, and you kind of want that, 196 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 1: like find the people that inspire you learn that music. 197 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: You can definitely access music online. Practice practice, practice, because 198 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: the more comfortable in your skin that you are in 199 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 1: having a repertoire of music for auditions and for when 200 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:32,880 Speaker 1: people ask do you have anything you know, any kind 201 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:35,559 Speaker 1: of real or anything like to see what you've done. 202 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 1: If you don't have that, you can perfect these songs 203 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: and make videos and then have them and then you 204 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,560 Speaker 1: have this like arsenal of like knowledge, Right, you have 205 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:48,840 Speaker 1: an arsenal of music and knowledge, and you know, like 206 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: kind of the road you want to go down. I 207 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 1: think that's a really good place to start, given like 208 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: the constraints of where you are. 209 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 2: I would also add on to that that maybe in addition, 210 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 2: some next steps would be, as you're building that profile 211 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 2: and that book songbook, if you will, if there's any 212 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:15,559 Speaker 2: schooling programs that you are interested in that are further 213 00:11:15,600 --> 00:11:17,439 Speaker 2: away from you, and what it might take to get 214 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 2: in there, because like Jenna was saying that training is 215 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:23,040 Speaker 2: key and you can do a lot of that on 216 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 2: your own, I think to a certain extent. And the 217 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 2: computer does connect you to everything and everyone, and there's 218 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:33,600 Speaker 2: workshops online things like that. Obviously those things cost money, 219 00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 2: so finances can also be a constraint. But I would 220 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:41,720 Speaker 2: look for if there are any free programs or whatever 221 00:11:41,760 --> 00:11:45,400 Speaker 2: programs you're able to afford online, and then also, yeah, 222 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 2: what those requirements might be for schooling and then to 223 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:51,600 Speaker 2: be able to expand, you know, maybe outside of where 224 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 2: you are. But it's a big risk. And I understand 225 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:57,520 Speaker 2: having no plan B because same and you have to 226 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:00,960 Speaker 2: just sort of dive in the details, but you also 227 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 2: want to make sure you are prepared for that moment 228 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 2: you're never going to be completely prepared. You're never You're 229 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:10,040 Speaker 2: never going to be perfect, and that is completely fine, 230 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 2: but you have to be able to put yourself in 231 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 2: the best position possible within your constraints and then be 232 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 2: willing to grow and learn and hustle because it's it's hard, 233 00:12:25,880 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 2: but I love that you're already in a theater program. 234 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 2: It's obviously it's not the same as musical theater, but 235 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 2: that's that's the right direction. You got to take advantage 236 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 2: of whatever is around you. 237 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, make your own opportunities. And as an aspiring actor, 238 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:48,440 Speaker 1: I think the main emotional piece of this is like perseverance. 239 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:51,960 Speaker 1: Just keep going if this is if you are sure 240 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 1: this is what you want to do this and you 241 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,040 Speaker 1: need to do this or there's nothing else to do, 242 00:12:57,120 --> 00:13:00,679 Speaker 1: live and breathe, like, go for it and don't give up. 243 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, And like regional theater is great, community theater is great, 244 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:07,080 Speaker 2: So it doesn't have to all of a sudden be 245 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:11,560 Speaker 2: I'm going to New York, right, that's not what it 246 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 2: needs to be. 247 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:14,600 Speaker 1: Good places to start, Yeah, good. 248 00:13:14,480 --> 00:13:25,720 Speaker 2: Luck, Yeah, thank you, Addie. Sam. What we got next? 249 00:13:26,040 --> 00:13:29,160 Speaker 3: Okay, the next one is from Danny. How do you 250 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 3: all deal with the fear and anxiety of getting too 251 00:13:32,040 --> 00:13:35,079 Speaker 3: old to start over or start something new. I'm thirty 252 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:37,959 Speaker 3: one and recently got into grad school and I'm starting 253 00:13:38,040 --> 00:13:42,600 Speaker 3: my career over and life essentially completely. I'm excited, but 254 00:13:42,640 --> 00:13:45,560 Speaker 3: I can't help but keep around this lingering anxiety of 255 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 3: I'm too old to be doing this. I should be 256 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 3: further ahead in life, more realized, more accomplished, et cetera. 257 00:13:51,559 --> 00:13:53,199 Speaker 3: Any tips for that nagging voice. 258 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 2: Oh, what a great, great, great question. 259 00:13:57,920 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 1: I it's so good. It's so good. 260 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:06,439 Speaker 2: That's the magic of being in your thirties. That nagging 261 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 2: voice really just turns up. 262 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, okay, I know this is a very good question. 263 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:17,800 Speaker 1: This is very sound, and it's very I think common 264 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: the average person who and not that this is financially driven, 265 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 1: but the average millionaire doesn't become a millionaire until they're 266 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: like fifty. So I'm just saying, like, we need to 267 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 1: celebrate and we live in a society and culture where 268 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:39,920 Speaker 1: we are so achievement based and time is running out 269 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: and it's too and you're you've wasted time if you failed, 270 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:50,000 Speaker 1: right like this like idea of failure. But how many 271 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 1: things did you need to do in your twenties and 272 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:56,320 Speaker 1: early thirties to get to this place where you're about 273 00:14:56,360 --> 00:14:59,400 Speaker 1: to take this huge leap and need that to succeed 274 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:03,640 Speaker 1: in this next chapter of life. So I feel the same. 275 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:07,680 Speaker 1: I feel like, oh my god, I've you know, I've 276 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:10,120 Speaker 1: done this one thing really well for a really long 277 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:12,600 Speaker 1: amount of time, and I'm pivoting in my career too. 278 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 1: And then I'm like, oh my god, it's too late. 279 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 1: What am I doing? Go back? 280 00:15:19,680 --> 00:15:19,920 Speaker 2: Right? 281 00:15:20,640 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 1: But there's like this feeling that I know that's strong me, 282 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 1: like I have to try this, I have to keep going. 283 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 1: Sorry I just made that personal, but I think you 284 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: have to be really sound in knowing that like you 285 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:40,240 Speaker 1: are making, you are making choices for yourself that feel 286 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:42,520 Speaker 1: right in that moment. They may not pan out to 287 00:15:42,560 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 1: be exactly what you imagined, but I think that's life. 288 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:51,280 Speaker 1: I think that we back to the society culture thing 289 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:55,120 Speaker 1: of like it's too we're too old to start over. 290 00:15:55,240 --> 00:15:59,240 Speaker 1: I think it's so brave and so courageous to take 291 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:03,600 Speaker 1: that because in the end, I think your instincts are 292 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 1: probably right and it's going to make you happier in 293 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 1: the long run. So I think you have to listen 294 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 1: to drown out the noise, right and listen to the real, 295 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:14,920 Speaker 1: deep inner voice of like why you did this in 296 00:16:14,960 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 1: the first place. And I also think we need to 297 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 1: take like we need to just drown out the noise 298 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:26,400 Speaker 1: of like what everybody else is doing, because it's very easy, 299 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 1: especially with social media, to turn you know, get in there, 300 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:35,520 Speaker 1: see everybody around you in person and on social media 301 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:39,480 Speaker 1: having all these wins, doing all these things that we 302 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:45,920 Speaker 1: are so complimentary of. But really, when you get down 303 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:48,560 Speaker 1: to it, like we need to be celebrating everybody's wins. 304 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:51,400 Speaker 1: And I think we should be celebrating when people decide 305 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 1: to take a leap of faith and start over and 306 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 1: start different. So that's my two cents is just really 307 00:16:59,760 --> 00:17:02,600 Speaker 1: dig deep into listening to the voice of why you 308 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 1: did it in the first place. 309 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, very well said it's easy to lose track of 310 00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:11,200 Speaker 2: that voice in the especially like the moments you got 311 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:14,760 Speaker 2: caught up. I think something that you mentioned too is 312 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:19,479 Speaker 2: like the comparison of other people. We do celebrate often 313 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:23,560 Speaker 2: really young people achieving these miraculous things at a really 314 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:29,200 Speaker 2: young age that is so rare, that is so incredibly rare, 315 00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:31,960 Speaker 2: But yet we are all comparing ourselves to that made 316 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:37,600 Speaker 2: up metric, and I think the framing of I fully 317 00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:39,720 Speaker 2: understand like the fear and the anxiety and sort of 318 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 2: like the existential crisis of being thirty one and feeling 319 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:47,600 Speaker 2: like you're starting over. However, you're not completing, you're not 320 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:50,399 Speaker 2: completely starting over, and you're not starting from scratch in 321 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 2: terms of you now have thirty one years of life 322 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:58,159 Speaker 2: that you have lived and you're putting yourself in a 323 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:02,760 Speaker 2: position now to make decisions based off of all of that. 324 00:18:02,760 --> 00:18:05,080 Speaker 2: That is so much more experience and so much more 325 00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 2: valuable than if you were doing this a decade ago. 326 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:10,439 Speaker 2: And so I think if you can take that with 327 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:13,920 Speaker 2: you as your foundation, because whatever you did before this, 328 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 2: like Jenna said, has led you to this, and taking 329 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 2: that experience, the good and the bad, and informing how 330 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:24,720 Speaker 2: you handle this new chapter will make you successful in 331 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:28,480 Speaker 2: whatever you're choosing to do now. And thirty one, by 332 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:32,840 Speaker 2: the way, is not old and i at all. It 333 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:37,199 Speaker 2: is super super super young, And I think the beauty 334 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 2: of your thirties is having that experience and being like, 335 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 2: I know what I'm good at, I know what I'm 336 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 2: not good at, and I know it scares me, but 337 00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:48,040 Speaker 2: yet I'm doing it anyway, m h and I think 338 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 2: you know when you are younger than that, sometimes the 339 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:54,560 Speaker 2: ignorance or naivete can make you do things that you're 340 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:57,800 Speaker 2: scared of, but also knowing that you're going to have 341 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:03,560 Speaker 2: to push harder or persevere through these certain moments coming 342 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:06,840 Speaker 2: up and feeling like like getting into grad school is 343 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:09,800 Speaker 2: hard on its own. You already did that, You already 344 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 2: got one degree. 345 00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:13,000 Speaker 1: Literally, I haven't done that. 346 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:17,159 Speaker 2: Jenna has. But we didn't get into grad school. No, 347 00:19:17,280 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 2: we didn't know, And so like that's already a huge 348 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:23,240 Speaker 2: thing that not a lot of people have accomplished. So 349 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 2: take the wins where you can, and like Jenna said, 350 00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:27,840 Speaker 2: listen to that voice of why you decided to do 351 00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:30,000 Speaker 2: this in the first place, and trust your thirty one 352 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:30,919 Speaker 2: years of experience. 353 00:19:31,440 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 1: That's right, Trust yeah, trust that inner voice. Okay, thanks 354 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:41,359 Speaker 1: for writing in and we wish you the best of us. 355 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:43,920 Speaker 2: Yes, thanks Danny. We need an update, you know. 356 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:46,560 Speaker 1: Yes, we need to do these more so that we 357 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:48,560 Speaker 1: can get the goods. 358 00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 2: Okay, Sam, that's next. 359 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:51,920 Speaker 1: Sam. 360 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:57,600 Speaker 3: Next one is from Jack and we're heading into relationship territory. Hi, 361 00:19:57,680 --> 00:19:59,840 Speaker 3: Jenna and Kevin, I hope you both are doing well. 362 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:02,200 Speaker 3: I'm a longtime fan of Glee and truly enjoy listening 363 00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:05,080 Speaker 3: to your podcast. I'm writing to seek your advice regarding 364 00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:08,760 Speaker 3: as situationship I have been in for about two years. Recently, 365 00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:11,879 Speaker 3: I found it increasingly difficult to navigate my partner's behaviors, 366 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:15,160 Speaker 3: particularly when we are in social settings. Whenever a third 367 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 3: party joins us, such as his best friend, he tends 368 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:21,840 Speaker 3: to act arrogantly and largely ignores me. He will engage 369 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:24,000 Speaker 3: fully with his friend for hours, and if I attempt 370 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:27,520 Speaker 3: to chime in, my contributions are often dismissed as iological 371 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:30,679 Speaker 3: or immediately corrected. While he views this behavior as normal, 372 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:34,000 Speaker 3: I find it disrespectful and hurtful. I would greatly appreciate 373 00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,480 Speaker 3: any insight or advice you might have on how to 374 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,760 Speaker 3: handle this dynamic. Thank you for taking the time to 375 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:41,280 Speaker 3: read my message and for all the great content you create. 376 00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 2: Best Jack Well. First of all, Jack, thank you for 377 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:48,240 Speaker 2: being a fan of Glee and listening to the podcast. 378 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:53,679 Speaker 2: We appreciate that, yes, I have questions, I immediately have 379 00:20:54,160 --> 00:21:00,360 Speaker 2: the contextual questions. Yeah, when you say situationship and it's 380 00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:03,680 Speaker 2: been going on for about two years, but then also 381 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:08,840 Speaker 2: call them your partner. I I'm not sure what the 382 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:12,879 Speaker 2: situation is, you know, are you together are you not? 383 00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:17,160 Speaker 2: But I off the bat, I will say, whether it's 384 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 2: a friend, a romantic partner, or whoever, somebody you're spending 385 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:27,080 Speaker 2: two years with, in any capacity, you should be around 386 00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:31,680 Speaker 2: people who respect you, your opinions, you as a human being, 387 00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:36,320 Speaker 2: and in any situation, especially someone that you consider a partner, 388 00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:41,240 Speaker 2: to be treated with that respect regardless of who you're around, 389 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:44,479 Speaker 2: but even more importantly around people that are important to 390 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 2: you or your partner. So for me, I would say, 391 00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:53,040 Speaker 2: I think that's a bigger conversation to have with them 392 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:59,360 Speaker 2: about treating someone that you are with, that you presumably 393 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,960 Speaker 2: like and love, with that courtesy, regardless if it's a 394 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:06,959 Speaker 2: private or in public, because yes, that is disrespectful, disrespectful 395 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:12,200 Speaker 2: to you as a human being, especially someone who supposedly 396 00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 2: cares about you. You know, it seems like based off 397 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 2: of this, obviously we're getting one side of this, but 398 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:23,919 Speaker 2: based off of what we are given, it feels like 399 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:29,120 Speaker 2: you are being sort of tossed aside and not being 400 00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:33,280 Speaker 2: respected that way. Yes, I would, I would say, you 401 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,080 Speaker 2: have to. It's a line in the sand. I would 402 00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:39,640 Speaker 2: think you know of Yes, I'm either treated as somebody 403 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 2: that you want to be around, because otherwise why would 404 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:48,440 Speaker 2: you be with me? And yep, I it's it's complicated. 405 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: Well, I do think I gathered that they were in 406 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:55,360 Speaker 1: a relationship, and this is the situationship, like the three 407 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:57,879 Speaker 1: of the dynamic is the situationship. That's the way I do. 408 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,960 Speaker 1: I I agree with you, Kevin on all friends, and 409 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,960 Speaker 1: I think there's two things here that we need to address. 410 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:10,879 Speaker 1: One is boundaries for yourself of really looking deep inside 411 00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 1: yourself to say, where is the line that I'm willing 412 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:18,119 Speaker 1: to let people Like Kevin said, where's the line, like 413 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:20,960 Speaker 1: where you cross the line if you treat me like this, 414 00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:24,479 Speaker 1: if you disrespect me, if you speak to me, you know, 415 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:28,480 Speaker 1: like it's just it's something that you have to decide 416 00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:32,760 Speaker 1: how far you're willing to let that go and then 417 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:37,480 Speaker 1: decide what happens at that point when they pass that 418 00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:40,640 Speaker 1: line or if this is acceptable to you. I think 419 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:45,000 Speaker 1: the other thing is I don't obviously we have like 420 00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:49,840 Speaker 1: contextual questions. I'm curious because you said he views this 421 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:54,359 Speaker 1: behavior as normal. I'm assuming you've addressed this to him before, 422 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,479 Speaker 1: But how you've addressed it, I think is the question 423 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 1: of saying me, maybe going and doing it from only 424 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 1: your perspective, not putting the blame on him, not saying 425 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,960 Speaker 1: that you're you know you're doing this when you're out 426 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:12,399 Speaker 1: with your friends, but saying I feel this way, I 427 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:17,840 Speaker 1: feel disrespected, I feel hurt, I feel like a lone 428 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:20,959 Speaker 1: wolf when you're with your best friends, and then you know, 429 00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:24,200 Speaker 1: whatever transpires after that. I think it's a really good 430 00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:27,800 Speaker 1: way always to go into a conversation, and it allows 431 00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,800 Speaker 1: the other person to hear things more clearly versus feeling attacked. 432 00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:34,560 Speaker 1: So I do think it's really important that when you 433 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:36,800 Speaker 1: go into these conversations and I think you should address 434 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 1: it again because it sounds like it has not been resolved, 435 00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,640 Speaker 1: you go in and you say, this is these are 436 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 1: the things I'm feeling, and this is why, And if 437 00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:48,480 Speaker 1: this person genuinely cares about you, they will hear it, 438 00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:52,760 Speaker 1: maybe not right away, but will take steps to change 439 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:55,359 Speaker 1: this behavior. And then we go into the boundary place 440 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:58,359 Speaker 1: of if they don't, how what are you willing to 441 00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 1: accept for yourself and what are you not willing to accept? 442 00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:04,800 Speaker 1: So I think that's that's my take on this, and 443 00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:08,959 Speaker 1: I hope that you so that this works out for 444 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 1: you because you deserve to be treated Everybody deserves to 445 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:16,240 Speaker 1: be treated well and kindly. Base level. 446 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:24,080 Speaker 2: That's a bare minimum, especially after that amount of time. Right, 447 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:27,800 Speaker 2: Because I'm also assuming you know his friends, you know, 448 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 2: and so I think other people also have different expectations 449 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 2: for themselves. And I think, yeah, you were saying, Jenna 450 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,120 Speaker 2: is like correct. It's because maybe, like you know, there's 451 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:42,000 Speaker 2: a world in which your partner, he never notices this 452 00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:44,120 Speaker 2: because it's not never an issue for him. Someone did 453 00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:45,959 Speaker 2: this to him, he wouldn't be bothered by it, so 454 00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 2: he it's a problem, right. 455 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,560 Speaker 1: But it's about you, right. I think there's also like 456 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:56,280 Speaker 1: you can't control how other people act, how they react, 457 00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,880 Speaker 1: how they do anything. You can only control your own 458 00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:02,800 Speaker 1: emotions and your own And I think that in this 459 00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:09,600 Speaker 1: example or situationship, if you choose that you're like, oh, 460 00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 1: I love him and every other way and trip and 461 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,199 Speaker 1: for him, this is the only thing that you know 462 00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:19,480 Speaker 1: is an issue. You could also remove yourself from these situations. 463 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:21,240 Speaker 1: When they go hang out with their friends, you could 464 00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:22,520 Speaker 1: say I'm going to stay home. 465 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:29,640 Speaker 2: No, yes, but also no, this this guy needs two no. 466 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:31,880 Speaker 1: No, I mean there definitely say be a beggar, come 467 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,959 Speaker 1: to Jesus. But I'm just saying you could also remove 468 00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:38,359 Speaker 1: yourself from these situations until in a smaller picture and 469 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,680 Speaker 1: a bigger picture, right, like in a bigger way. But anyway, 470 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:43,920 Speaker 1: I think that's we just want the best for you, 471 00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 1: Jack n Yeah, you know, and thanks for writing. 472 00:26:47,359 --> 00:27:00,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, just love yourself, Thanks Jack, Sam. What else we 473 00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:01,439 Speaker 2: got going on? 474 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,439 Speaker 3: Okay, So this was in a submission from Instagram, and 475 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 3: this person says, I'm twenty five, still single, hate dating apps? 476 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:10,920 Speaker 3: Where can I find my mate? 477 00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:17,000 Speaker 1: Who? That is a good question, Well, twenty five is 478 00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:20,600 Speaker 1: also young. Like I'm not discounting your feelings or like 479 00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:25,240 Speaker 1: your experience here, but I'm like, you know, you've got 480 00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:30,360 Speaker 1: time and and like you know, like the world isn't 481 00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:34,960 Speaker 1: over for you, Like there's still time, yes, and there's opportunity. 482 00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:40,399 Speaker 1: So I'm like, don't stress out, Like it's okay. Some 483 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:44,679 Speaker 1: people don't meet their partners till way later. Yeah, I know. 484 00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:46,680 Speaker 1: The dating apps are like kind of the new norm 485 00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:52,800 Speaker 1: and the way a convenience. You could output ask other friends, 486 00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:56,480 Speaker 1: do you have any friends or who are look single? Friends? 487 00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,280 Speaker 1: Who are you know? And you could name the things 488 00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,840 Speaker 1: that you're looking for in a mate and you know, 489 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,879 Speaker 1: ask them and just put your kind of put it 490 00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,160 Speaker 1: out there into the world, like I'm looking for somebody. 491 00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:12,359 Speaker 1: You could also do join a hobby or something that 492 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:15,359 Speaker 1: you like to do, like and see if there's like 493 00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:19,040 Speaker 1: people you meet in a like minded way. Right, Like 494 00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 1: so if you go and you do tennis lessons or classes, 495 00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:25,360 Speaker 1: group classes and you meet some friends, like you're opening 496 00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:28,959 Speaker 1: yourself up and also with like minded people if you 497 00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 1: like to play tennis, like these people also like to 498 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,679 Speaker 1: play tennis. So there's just like ways in which you 499 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:37,439 Speaker 1: can like involve yourself in communities. I think that, like 500 00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,720 Speaker 1: I just believe like putting it out into the universe 501 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 1: that you're looking for this like is a little woo woo, 502 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,600 Speaker 1: but I do believe that it brings you things that 503 00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:48,440 Speaker 1: you're looking for. 504 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:51,880 Speaker 2: And putting yourself in situations, just putting yourself out there 505 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 2: in situations where you're more able or likely to meet people, 506 00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,440 Speaker 2: especially with shared answers like you said, like hobbies or 507 00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,240 Speaker 2: anything like that. But also it's like the old joke 508 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,760 Speaker 2: of like when we were growing up, it's like how 509 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,040 Speaker 2: did your parents be like, oh, at a bar, not 510 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 2: saying you need to go to a bar and you 511 00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:12,200 Speaker 2: have to drink, but like just going places where you 512 00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:15,760 Speaker 2: are able to be social, to branch out, expand those 513 00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:19,600 Speaker 2: friend groups because if you're not I understand hating dating apps. 514 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:21,600 Speaker 1: It's totally just hard. 515 00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,520 Speaker 2: And also like I think, really hard to get a 516 00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:27,120 Speaker 2: fair impression of somebody through an app and then you 517 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:32,080 Speaker 2: selling something, and so it's I think it takes a 518 00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 2: lot more effort because you physically have to put yourself 519 00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:39,920 Speaker 2: out there. But I also think you know, knowing in 520 00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:42,200 Speaker 2: the back of your mind that's your goal to go 521 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:44,960 Speaker 2: out there though, and not put as hard as it 522 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:47,680 Speaker 2: may be, to not put pressure on it because you 523 00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:49,800 Speaker 2: don't want to come off. You don't want to operate 524 00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:53,720 Speaker 2: from a fear or desperation. You want to just be 525 00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:57,720 Speaker 2: out there, be positive, knowing that that's what you're looking for, 526 00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:02,520 Speaker 2: and doing the going extra mile of yeah, putting yourself 527 00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 2: in as many situations where you maybe people as possible. 528 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,920 Speaker 2: That's hard though. It's a hard question for everybody, and 529 00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:11,479 Speaker 2: it's like you just never know. It's sort of I 530 00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:16,720 Speaker 2: sort of feel like it's like auditioning, like you're always 531 00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:19,680 Speaker 2: prepared and willing to work and you never know when 532 00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,760 Speaker 2: it's gonna come. But the more you go into it 533 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:23,840 Speaker 2: with the more pressure, the worse it usually goes. 534 00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:27,040 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, exactly. And the more open you are 535 00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:32,360 Speaker 1: and like willing for whatever, you'd let it go right Yeah. 536 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,400 Speaker 2: Well, which feels counterintuitive and counterproductive. 537 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:36,600 Speaker 1: But we're rooting for you. 538 00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:38,680 Speaker 2: Yes, thanks for writing in. 539 00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:42,080 Speaker 3: This is from Anthony, and there's no advice. He's just 540 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:43,120 Speaker 3: sending in a thank you. 541 00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 1: Oh. 542 00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:47,440 Speaker 3: As someone who doesn't like teen dramas or musicals, I'm 543 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:48,480 Speaker 3: not quite sure why I'm. 544 00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:49,120 Speaker 1: A fan of Glee. 545 00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:52,280 Speaker 3: It's still strange shocking to me, but I love the 546 00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:54,360 Speaker 3: show and have done a rewatch of the series a 547 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,360 Speaker 3: few times. I recently discovered your podcast and I wanted 548 00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,480 Speaker 3: to write and say how terrific it is. You guys 549 00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 3: make us see you I love even more meaningful to 550 00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,600 Speaker 3: me with your review of the episodes and all the 551 00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:07,840 Speaker 3: backstage stories and bts dish. You two have wonderful chemistry 552 00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:09,880 Speaker 3: and are great hosts. And I'm working my way through 553 00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 3: your archives and I'm enjoying the interviews with actors and 554 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,280 Speaker 3: others who worked on the show. Keep the apps coming 555 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,200 Speaker 3: and I'll keep listening. I've always liked the character of 556 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:19,840 Speaker 3: Artie and I always thought Kevin was one of the 557 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 3: most talented cast members. 558 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 1: He was a favorite. 559 00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,480 Speaker 3: I liked Tina too, but it wasn't until the podcasts 560 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 3: that I've come to realize that Tina and Jenna were 561 00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:31,000 Speaker 3: really underappreciated, but not only myself but the show itself, 562 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,640 Speaker 3: which never gave her the flowers she deserves. In my opinion, 563 00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:38,160 Speaker 3: of the many mistakes gle made over the years, that 564 00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:41,000 Speaker 3: was one of the most glaring. But I've grown to 565 00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,720 Speaker 3: enjoy both Tina and Jenna in a way that I 566 00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:45,920 Speaker 3: didn't know while the show was airing, and that has 567 00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,560 Speaker 3: increased my overall love for the show. So thank you both. 568 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 3: Signed Anthony Anthony Anthony by Discuss for Today. 569 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:58,760 Speaker 1: Thank you so so much. Wow, that's really sweet. I 570 00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:01,520 Speaker 1: love I love stories of like people who are like 571 00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:07,160 Speaker 1: converts and you know there's something special about it and 572 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,800 Speaker 1: that's always like just always rings true and everything that 573 00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:12,960 Speaker 1: we do. So we're just so grateful to hear from 574 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,400 Speaker 1: you guys, and that's really kind. 575 00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,360 Speaker 2: I also love that because like teen dramas and musicals 576 00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:22,400 Speaker 2: are definitely not your thing, but you haven't shied away 577 00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:25,080 Speaker 2: from it. In fact, you've leaned in and you're listening 578 00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:28,680 Speaker 2: to the podcast, So thank you, because you never know 579 00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:30,920 Speaker 2: when somebody's going to find you that time in your 580 00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:34,040 Speaker 2: life and holds a special place and you don't need 581 00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:36,000 Speaker 2: to know why you like it, you just do and 582 00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,720 Speaker 2: I appreciate it. Thanks for sharing, Thanks for liking Artie 583 00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:41,680 Speaker 2: and now Tina and Jenna really appreciate it. 584 00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:43,160 Speaker 1: And thanks for listening to the podcast. 585 00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:45,840 Speaker 2: Yes, thanks everybody for writing in. 586 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:47,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, this was really fun. Let us know if you 587 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:50,040 Speaker 1: liked it, and if you have questions. It doesn't have 588 00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:52,400 Speaker 1: to be a serious like, it can be whatever you. 589 00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:55,000 Speaker 2: Want to be. Yeah, anything, get creative. 590 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:56,680 Speaker 1: Let's get created. 591 00:32:57,000 --> 00:33:00,000 Speaker 2: Jenna, I'm very excited about what we're doing next week 592 00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:04,840 Speaker 2: because this is something that has come up time and 593 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:09,000 Speaker 2: time again. I get asked weekly by people. But we're 594 00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:12,600 Speaker 2: gonna be talking about songs Glee would cover if it 595 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:13,280 Speaker 2: was on today. 596 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:15,600 Speaker 1: Oh my god, let's do it. 597 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:18,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do so. Thank you for writing in. Continue 598 00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:21,920 Speaker 2: to write in and that's really miss pod at gmail 599 00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:25,360 Speaker 2: dot com or the Instagram. That's what you really miss 600 00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:29,040 Speaker 2: Thanks for listening and follow us on Instagram at and 601 00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:31,360 Speaker 2: that's what you really miss pod. Make sure to write 602 00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:33,720 Speaker 2: us a review. And leave us five stars. See you 603 00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:34,120 Speaker 2: next time.