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Speaker 1: Live from the Mercedes Benz Interview Lounge.

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Speaker 2: Jay Shetty is right here. It's so good to be back.

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Speaker 2: Thanks for having me. You know, Jay, I read lived

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Speaker 2: like a month, thinks like a month than a moth.

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Speaker 2: That was what twenty twenty? That's right, that's when it

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Speaker 2: came out. Okay. But I've heard you on all your podcasts,

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Speaker 2: I've seen you all over TV. You wake me up

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Speaker 2: with meditation. But still, when I look into your eyes,

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm swimming in pools of ecstasies. Is

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Speaker 2: that a good thing? It is a good thing? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I mean, are you? I mean it's a physical thing.

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Speaker 2: And I know that we should be talking about our

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Speaker 2: hearts and our minds, our spirits. But is it like

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Speaker 2: a shadow thing when people look into your eyes? I

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Speaker 2: know you hear a lot of people. You know what's

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Speaker 2: really funny. I was talking about this with someone else

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Speaker 2: the other day. I had a random aunt. I think

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Speaker 2: everyone has a random aunt. Had a random aunt when

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Speaker 2: I was young come up to me. I was overweight,

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Speaker 2: growing up, I struggled with being bullied and all the

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Speaker 2: rest of me. She came up to me. Here is Jay,

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Speaker 2: you know what the only nice thing about you physically.

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Speaker 2: She was talking about is your eyes not even the

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Speaker 2: shape of your eyes, just the color. And I'll never

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Speaker 2: forget it. And I'll never forget it. It's just stated

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Speaker 2: me for that long. So you can see a scard.

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Speaker 2: I am by it. But yeah, it was just your

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Speaker 2: night color. You're busted Tellian. Yes, And I was like,

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Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Last time I saw one. She looked at me and

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Speaker 1: she was like, my god, you've got a little fat

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Speaker 2: It's so great having Gandhi here is a part of

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Speaker 2: her family. You've been with us for how many years now?

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Speaker 1: Seven?

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Speaker 2: We've learned so much about Indian culture with Gandhi, her

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Speaker 2: mom and her dad, her crazy dad. She invited her

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Speaker 2: I say it?

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Speaker 1: Oh, I don't mind if you say it.

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Speaker 2: Because it's the it's a word that we don't like

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Speaker 2: to use, he said. Growing up, yes, she would learn

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Speaker 2: great things in life by leaps and bounds, quantum leaps.

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Speaker 2: But we all thought she was retarded.

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Speaker 1: Yes, providers, babysitters. He's like, watch out, there's something wrong

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Speaker 1: with right I And he loves telling people this.

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Speaker 2: I'm good I'm Scottish. I mean it's just flattery. Wow,

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Speaker 2: I mean it's just flustered. As an Indian kid, Yes,

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't survived this long. Absolutely, we have many things

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Speaker 2: to celebrate here. Jay Jay's wildly popular podcast On Purpose,

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Speaker 2: which is over five years and run in now taking

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Speaker 2: it on tour now, of course millions and millions or

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Speaker 2: ten millions of people love to download this podcast, but

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Speaker 2: taking it on the road, it's a podcast. Well, you

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Speaker 2: can just sit in a room with a microphone. Why

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Speaker 2: to all these cities to meet the people that love

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Speaker 2: listening to you. Yeah. What I'm really excited about is

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Speaker 2: I think people right now are looking for connection and

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Speaker 2: the fact that you can come to one of these

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Speaker 2: events with doing fifteen shows, fifteen surprise guests, you can

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Speaker 2: look left and right and you're going to see someone

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Speaker 2: who's like minded. You're going to see someone else who

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Speaker 2: tunes in every day every week to listen to the podcast.

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Speaker 2: You can walk out there with a new friend, maybe

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Speaker 2: I love the idea that people can actually come and

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Speaker 2: I was looking at this. Have you ever heard of

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Speaker 2: the third space theory? No? No telling. So the third

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Speaker 2: space theory says that basically, around twenty five thirty years ago,

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Speaker 2: we had three spaces we spent time in. We had home,

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Speaker 2: then as time went on, we lost that and it

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Speaker 2: can reflect and connect. That was the purpose of church,

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Speaker 2: And I think this is that space. So I feel

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Speaker 2: like this event is going to provide that for people. Wow,

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Speaker 2: And I'm sure it's very much appreciated and needed. Even

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Speaker 2: you acknowledge the people that you speak with day in

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Speaker 2: how much fun are you having compared to let's say,

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Speaker 2: when you were just doing Facebook videos or I've seen

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Speaker 2: videos of Jay Shetty in a room of like three

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Speaker 2: of him. And we were just talking about that, and

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Speaker 2: it's been such an incredible journey. I remember going to

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Speaker 2: this pre social media. And then the third time I came,

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Speaker 2: to me. And I live in gratitude because I can't

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Speaker 2: believe it myself. What was it that you think pushed

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Speaker 2: it just shows that today in a world where I

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Speaker 2: A great takeaway from where Jay was versus where Jay

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Speaker 2: confidence being able to be at ease with people. Listening

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Speaker 2: to people's a very important thing. We've all learned this

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Speaker 2: And how do you deliver that. There's two things that

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Speaker 2: constantly come up. One is the timelines of life. Should

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Speaker 2: no timeline, there is no deadline. There are so many

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Speaker 2: Some people found the person they loved at twenty but

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Speaker 2: figuring out and identifying your purpose or the journey to

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Speaker 2: figure out and identify your purpose. It's always about the pursuit,

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Speaker 2: isn't it. It's always about There's a great Nike published

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Speaker 2: turning us on, Jay Shetty is here, Gandhi. You had

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Speaker 1: So your life has evolved so much from the time

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Speaker 1: that you are working with monks, studying under monks, I

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Speaker 1: should say to now you're flying across the world private planes,

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Speaker 1: you're traveling and you're huge. There's a huge focus on you. Now,

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Speaker 1: how do you reconcile those two things? And do you

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Speaker 1: have to work harder now to find that same peace

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Speaker 2: For sure. I mean, it's it's been twelve years since

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Speaker 2: feels so different today and embracing the change of I

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Speaker 2: anyone who's grieving a former life, right. I was just

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Speaker 2: there's parts I miss about you know, what it looked

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Speaker 2: like to just be married. It will be single, Like

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Speaker 2: you grieve a former life that you had, but you

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Speaker 2: have to be okay with life is changing and moving.

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Speaker 2: As soon as I get back this week to La,

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Speaker 2: to jyshetty dot me Forward slash Tour in New York.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna. That's a lot of words. Jay Shetty dot

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Speaker 2: of it on purpose. The live tour with j Shetty.

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Speaker 2: Go to Jshetty dot me and then search for the tour.

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Speaker 2: No go. They get confused. It's a lot of letters.

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Speaker 2: They won't sell me jetty dot com whoever has it? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: who I'll go. Some guy called taking care of sal

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Speaker 2: You guys are the last. That's weird. Elvis Duran in

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Speaker 2: the Morning Show