WEBVTT - The Great Resignación 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:07.360 I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:09.800 and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:14.800 I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but i 0:00:14.840 --> 0:00:18.520 was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama, 0:00:18.600 --> 0:00:23.080 and a worker being. This is life. You know, like 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:25.560 that one video where she says, don't do a girl, 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:29.560 don't do it. What about that video? Don't do a girl, 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:34.200 don't quit that job, don't be messy, don't get crazy, 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:38.240 O Carolina. She's not talking to me directly, but she's 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:42.280 talking to you, you know, our listeners. If you're having 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:45.760 this thought right now, you can quit your job. But 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:48.360 there is a good way to go about it. Well, 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:50.760 we got to talk about the Great Resignation because I 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:54.400 feel like everybody is at this stage in their life 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:58.720 where they are reevaluating what's important to them, what they 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:02.240 really want to do. I think the pandemic hit some 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:05.559 of us harder than others. It really made us give 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:09.959 some thought to whether or not you're really wasting your 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:14.480 life at a company that doesn't value you. I know 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:16.800 there are a lot of people who might be facing 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:19.080 the same thing. There were many people who decided to 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:20.880 go back to school because they said, you know what, 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:23.200 this job is not for me. I feel like I 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:25.759 could do more. I feel like I could expand, And 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:29.360 I think the Great Resignation has a lot of people talking. 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:32.880 But the one statistic that I thought that was really 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:37.600 interesting was that it's being led by Latinas. That's a fact, 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:40.199 you know. I read the same article and I found 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:42.960 it incredible that it's like, we're like, we're not doing 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:45.440 this anymore. And this has a lot to do with 0:01:45.480 --> 0:01:48.760 the pandemic, with COVID, with being locked down, and us 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:52.800 restructuring and reshifting our I guess our thoughts on what 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:56.200 is important, and it turns out that for Latinas, the 0:01:56.320 --> 0:01:58.640 job is not at the top of the list. Well. 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:01.720 I think that culturally, we've always been the type of 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:04.520 people to really put family first, and I think that 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.520 given the situation where we were all kind of stuck 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:11.799 at home, it made us realize, or it made certain 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:15.160 people realize that they were spending more time commuting than 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:18.560 they were actually speaking to their loved ones, or that 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:20.520 they were spending more time in the office than they 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:23.720 were with their family or their friends. So I think 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:26.880 the Great resignation right now has a lot of people thinking. 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.160 But you don't want to just walk in and be like, 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:32.959 I quit this bitch, I'm out, and be like in 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:35.720 a blaze of glory. I have a co host that 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:38.400 I work with. His name is Greg t. He always 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:39.760 said that if he was going to quit a job, 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:41.560 he would go and poop on his boss's desk. And 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:44.320 I said, that's not a good idea, That's not the 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.800 way you want to be remembered. But there is a 0:02:46.880 --> 0:02:51.560 great hell no. I mean, I think his reputation precedes him. 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:55.160 Everybody knows who he is. But for people like you 0:02:55.200 --> 0:02:59.600 and I who want to maintain great relationships, who really 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:03.359 rely on those references, you want to go about it 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:05.680 in a different kind of way. You do. And you know, 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:07.840 I want to shout out everybody who's out here that 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:11.440 you know that's feeding, that's feeling, you know, burnt out, overworked. 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:14.079 You know, maybe your values are no longer the same 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:17.240 values as your job, or even just a toxic environment. 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:20.160 If you've been hanging on and you haven't walked into 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:24.280 someone's office or haven't emailed them just one line, I quit. 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:26.919 I give you props because I know a lot of 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:29.200 people that struggled with this every single day, and they 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:32.200 tell me like, I love my life, but my job 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:34.320 is making me hate my life. Well, that's no way 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:36.600 to live, though, And I know that we all need 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:41.320 a job to survive, we all need food, shelter, etcetera, 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:44.720 all of the all of the things, but you also 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:46.400 need to have a quality of life, which I think 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:50.160 is something that we need to examine. The issue for me, 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:52.000 I think is that there are a lot of people 0:03:52.040 --> 0:03:55.640 who have looked at their requirements for their job and 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:59.320 they're seeing that a lot of companies they downsized during 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:02.880 the pandemic, So now you're not just doing one position, 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:07.280 You're you're taking on to three four positions because they 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:11.120 decided to streamline the company, and you're the person who's 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:13.520 paying for it, not the person at the top. The 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:16.240 person at the top never sees that they never have 0:04:16.400 --> 0:04:19.800 to deal with taking on more or biting off more 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:22.560 than they can chew. And yes, a CEO has his 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:25.760 or her own issues and problems, and I understand that. 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:30.359 But for the everyday working American woman, which I believe 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:33.000 we're speaking to a lot of women, but we also 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:34.960 have a lot of men that listen to this podcast too. 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:37.160 I think that there comes a point in time where 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:39.800 you really stand back and you look at what you're contributing, 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:42.360 and you think, is this how I'm going to go out? Like? 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:46.240 Is this? Is this what the American dream is really about? 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:48.640 Because for a lot of people at this point, it 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:51.640 really isn't. It's not you know, it's just spending time 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:54.599 with your family, not being Like for me, let's say 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:56.960 I would be now I work remote, but before I 0:04:56.960 --> 0:05:01.839 would spend three hours on trains. That's three hours on trains. 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.480 Now i'd be I'm reevaluating. I'm like, Wow, do I 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:07.279 ever want to do that to myself? Ever? Again, I 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:11.120 didn't even know my husband half the time. I don't, 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:13.520 I know, I don't. And I've spoken to my friends 0:05:13.560 --> 0:05:15.800 who have started to go back into the city to 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:18.200 three times a week, and they say, I don't understand 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:22.000 how I maintained this before. I don't know how I 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:26.200 juggled so many things and I didn't realize everything that 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:29.359 I was missing at home. There are so many different 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:32.240 angles and way used to look at it. For example, 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:35.599 for me, my quality of life, where I think it 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:39.320 really matters is family and sleep. I used to have 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.279 to wake up at three thirty forty five in the 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:46.480 morning to go into the city, and I was basically trying, 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:48.440 let's say I was I was thinking, Okay, I got 0:05:48.480 --> 0:05:50.880 about an hour and a half commute, give or take, 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:55.559 because you never know what traffic, construction, an accident, things 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:57.960 of that nature, and you've got to be live in 0:05:58.000 --> 0:06:01.360 the studio. So for me, just taking that extra hour 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:03.240 and a half that I used to devote to being 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:06.240 on the road and white knuckling it and stressing out 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:09.040 because I didn't know when that accident was going to 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:12.520 get cleared. I don't need to have that anxiety in 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:16.000 my life. But on the flip side, I love my job, 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:19.279 so that's where you have to look at the bigger 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:22.279 picture and decide what direction you really want to take. 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:25.240 But the Great Resignation saw a lot of people just 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:29.320 super frustrated and feeling uncertain and just throwing their hands 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:31.400 up in the air and saying, I'd rather quit than 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:33.880 continue doing this. And you know what, good for them, 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:35.880 because you know, it takes a lot to make that decision, 0:06:35.960 --> 0:06:37.960 especially people that have been with accompanied me for a 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:40.279 very long time. And I feel like, you know, this episode, 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:42.200 I feel like we should make it about you know, 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:45.360 that person that wants to quit and just doesn't know 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:47.800 how to quit, Maybe we can give them some steps 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:50.160 on how to quit properly. I don't even know if 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:52.960 that sounds right, but how to make your exit out 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:55.360 of your company, I guess a good exit. I think 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:57.840 that's a great suggestion because I think that there are 0:06:57.880 --> 0:07:00.400 steps that you can take where maybe you you think 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:01.919 this is the time for you to move on, but 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:05.560 you just haven't spoken or advocated for yourself. Maybe you 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:09.240 need to have that conversation with your manager and hint 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:12.320 to them that you are thinking of leaving, and see 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:15.320 what their vision is for you and the company. So 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:18.840 maybe before you even start thinking of leaving, you have 0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:21.440 a sit down and you write down all of the 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:26.600 things that you bring to the company. I am very friendly, 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:30.320 I have great client relations, blah blah blah. Write down 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:33.320 all of the qualities that make you a superstar and 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:37.040 make you an asset to the company. Schedule a time 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:40.920 with your manager and sit down and really try to 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.280 dive in and say, these are the things that I 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:45.640 see that I'm contributing to the company. Where do you 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:48.760 see me heading in the next five to ten years 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:51.520 or is there no plan? And then I think that's 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:54.360 when you decide whether or not it's time to move on, 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:57.480 because I think there are so many conversations that people 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:00.320 don't have and then you look back and your man, 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:02.320 I wish I would have just stood up for myself, 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:04.360 or I wish I would have said something. So I 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:06.600 think that that that for me would be the beginning. 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:08.760 That's a great place to start, because I feel like 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:11.280 a lot of people Carolina, they just feel like, no, 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:14.040 I'm unappreciate it. No matter what I say, nothing is 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:17.080 going to change. My boss doesn't appreciate my work. I'm 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:18.600 just quitting. You know, a lot of people did just 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:21.520 get in their feelings and you know what's that saying like, 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:25.920 don't make permanent decisions on temporary emotions. And I feel 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:27.760 like a yeah, And I feel like a lot of 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:29.520 people that go in and just be like I quit. 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:33.120 It's just temporary emotions. So it's like, have a conversation 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:36.520 with your boss. No matter how scary the conversation may seem, 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:38.400 they might see your side of things or they might 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:40.280 be like, wow, I was just thinking about this new 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:42.480 role for you, or you know what you're up for? Review. 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.480 I was thinking about a great race. It might not 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:46.680 go that way, but it might, so it doesn't hurt 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:48.880 to try. Well. The other thing too, that I was 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:52.640 thinking of ever forever married to the financial planner is 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:57.200 do you have enough money tucked away so that you 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:59.440 can make a decision like that and you could actually 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.880 take them or two or three to find that next 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:05.120 position that's the right one for you. You may not 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.360 find something in three months, you may not find something 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:10.760 in in in six or even a year, because it 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.280 is just so uncertain right now. So I would highly 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:16.840 highly suggest maybe looking at finances, seeing if this is 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:19.920 a good time. Where can you look at look at 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:23.520 your lifestyle. Maybe there are things that you can, you know, 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:27.640 do away with. Maybe your entertainment budget won't be as big, 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:30.760 or maybe you won't be going to specialized classes at 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:33.720 certain gyms. You know, you have to really look at 0:09:34.480 --> 0:09:36.640 what you're going to do to set yourself up so 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:38.480 that you're not a failure, so that you don't have 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:40.280 to go and ask people for a loan or for 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:43.480 help because you made such a rash decision. Now you 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:45.560 better not quit this job if you don't have a 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:48.400 nice stash of money in the bank, or better yet, 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:50.240 if you don't have something else lined up, because you 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:54.480 know what, online interviewing, you can interview at any time 0:09:54.520 --> 0:09:56.360 from any place. It's not like before we have to 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:58.000 put on a suit and show up with a printed 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:00.240 resume in front of an office and wait one hour 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:02.600 and your boss would be like, oh, that's a long lunch. 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.840 You don't got to do that anymore. You can set 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:07.320 up you can hook up with a recruiter online, do 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:09.559 all your interviewing before you even walk into your into 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:11.720 your boss's office and say I quit. I love that 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:14.400 because you're so right. I would. I remember there were 0:10:14.440 --> 0:10:16.920 people who were I was friends with that would say 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:18.840 to me, oh, I have to go on this job interview, 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:22.000 say that you're meeting with me so that they know 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:25.120 that it ran long, and and I just say to them, oh, 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:27.240 we had a meeting and I have to cover for you. 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:28.880 And I said okay. I mean they never got that 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:31.320 serious where anybody would ever ask me. But still you 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:34.440 have to create these or fabricate these different stories just 0:10:34.520 --> 0:10:36.240 to get out there and just to promote yourself or 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:37.720 just to be able to get in front of people. 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.840 Now it's a zoom. Now it's a team's meeting, so 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:47.040 you're straight. One thing. My friend she works for HR 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:49.600 and she tells me all the time, like I advised 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:54.040 people to follow recruiters for different companies. Pinpoint a company 0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:55.520 you want to work for it. Let's say you want 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:59.440 to work for Google. Find the recruiter I Google follow them, 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:02.000 and you know, just connections on LinkedIn. There's a lot 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:04.160 of different ways you know that you can go about this. 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:06.240 But I think the first thing you gotta do is, 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:09.360 you know, make the decision when you want to quit. 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.640 That's I think that's a good starting point. I think. 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:14.800 So it's like really having that conversation with yourself and saying, Okay, 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:16.920 this is it. You look yourself in the mirror that 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:19.000 one day and you're getting out of the shower and 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:21.200 you just know you just have that. Have you ever 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:23.679 quit a job, honey? I have yet. But I've never 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:25.880 quit a job without not having another job. I've never 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:28.560 just gone home like and hope for the best. I've 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:31.080 always done the whole, you know, from one job to another. 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:33.920 I've been working since I was fifteen Carolina with practically 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:36.199 no time off. I'm trying to think if I ever 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:39.760 quit a job. I mean waitressing jobs, yes, but that 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:43.080 wasn't really in my career. But no, nothing. I don't 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:45.840 think that i've ever really quit when it comes to 0:11:47.200 --> 0:11:50.160 TV or radio or you know. So, I actually I'm 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:51.600 not sure if I'm the best person to be given 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:54.240 this advice right now. I'm just realizing that I haven't 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:57.000 been in this. I always tell people canna get mad 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.080 at me. So I would always prepare like a two 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:02.360 week letter of a two weeks notice or whatever, and 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:04.480 then whenever the big boss wasn't around, I would like 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:06.400 put it on their desk with their name on it. 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.160 Like I was never like that ballsy person that would 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:11.640 go in and be like I quit. I never had 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:15.600 like a negative quitting experience, but definitely two weeks noticed 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:18.520 that would get planted right on their desk, and I 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:20.280 guess they would read it privately if you like, this 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:23.240 little bitch is leaving right, so then you don't have 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.640 to see their face or their disappointment. See, that's the thing. 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:28.240 I would always feel so guilty. But even though you 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:31.520 do realize that these companies you're just a number, at 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:34.400 that point, they're just gonna put your job posting up. 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:36.880 They're gonna wait for people to respond, and it's gonna 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:40.600 get filled unless unless you say to them you're gonna 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:45.200 quit and they come to you with the counter offer. Baby, 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:48.080 And that's what I'm talking about. You need to be prepared. 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:50.760 You need to be ready to go with all your facts, 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:54.680 like like just a machine gun. That's it, given them 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:57.319 all the facts about you, telling them about all the 0:12:57.360 --> 0:12:59.439 wonderful things that you do. Because if they present you 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:02.400 with a counter offer, that means that you're valuable, and 0:13:02.440 --> 0:13:04.760 that means that you need to use that point to 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:07.560 get that leverage, and the leverage that you make there 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:09.880 is going to set you up for that next promotion. 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:12.200 So that's why I say, you really got to sit 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:13.959 back and think about all of the things that you 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:16.679 contribute to your job while you're there, so that if 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:19.440 you're ever in this position, you're you're ready to go. 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:22.320 One thing I will say, if if this job is 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:25.640 not good for your mental and it is a toxic environment, 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:29.440 no matter what they say, please you can find a 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:33.040 better situation and a better environment where it will not 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:35.200 affect your mental health. Because I do know people that 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:38.280 are like, my job is making me sick. I can't 0:13:38.360 --> 0:13:40.560 the stress is killing me. The anxiety is killing me. 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:42.920 I don't care what kind of counter offer these people 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:44.839 come with. If it is not good for your soul 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:47.760 and it is not good for your mental please walk away. 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:51.120 But back to the counter offer, they can come with 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.000 a lot of great things, Carolina. If you love it 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:55.839 there and the problem is to pay, they might come 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:58.240 with a counter offer. Have a solid number. This is 0:13:58.280 --> 0:14:00.280 how much I'm worth if you want me to day, 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:01.800 this is how much you're gonna have to pay me. 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:04.400 So money could be a counter offer. I want the 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:07.520 private jet, I want Harah makeup, I want a wardrobe, 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:09.760 I want a stylist. I want it at all. No, 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:11.360 I'm kidding. And actually, you know what I did. Just 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:13.000 think I did quit a job, and I can't even 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:14.720 believe it's like one of the most important jobs of 0:14:14.760 --> 0:14:18.160 my career. I mean, it's not that I quit. I 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:22.280 Elvi stir in And when I decided to walk away, Yes, 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:25.960 they were starting a TV show and they needed anchors. 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:28.760 And the agent that I had at the time knew 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:30.920 that I wanted to work in television and I had 0:14:30.920 --> 0:14:33.280 been auditioning for the few and all this other stuff, 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:35.840 and this opportunity came up and he said to me, 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:39.840 look for a woman to begin her TV career in 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:42.640 the number one market anchoring a morning show. It like 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:47.800 basically never happens. So it's a local opportunity. Even though 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:50.760 it wasn't national, which is something that I wanted. He said, 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:53.800 this is where you could really get your start. But 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:57.360 they need an answer, and they need you to decide 0:14:57.400 --> 0:14:59.040 and they want you to sign. And so there was 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:01.640 the pressure, and so that's where you know what I did. 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:05.000 I had to look at everything that I was contributing 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:06.720 to the radio show. I had to look at my 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:09.200 quality of life, the things that I wanted, not now, 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:12.520 but ten years from now at that point, which was 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:14.560 a family and all of the things that I needed. 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:17.200 And so that's when I made the really really tough 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:20.600 decision to walk away from the show. But I did 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:24.200 confide in my mentor and in my boss at the time, 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:26.480 because I said, I never wanted him to hear from 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:29.160 somebody else. This industry is so small, and so that 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:31.520 brings us to our next point. Yeah, it's like, if 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:33.840 you have this on the brain and you when you 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:36.520 make that choice, or when you make that decision, you 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:38.680 want to leave in good graces. You don't want to 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:41.360 leave with them saying like oh she's x y Z, 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:44.440 or she let her job go just because she knew 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:46.960 she was walking out the door. You definitely want to 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:50.640 leave with a good reputation. That's a fact, especially what 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:52.560 you just mentioned. You know, don't let your job go 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:55.080 just because in your heart you've decided you no longer 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:58.440 want to be here. Don't just stop working. Don't don't 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:00.600 do that to your team. Don't do that to you know, 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:03.840 to your reputation. Don't do that to your reference. Because 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:06.040 you spent five years at a company, what are you 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:08.200 gonna do? Say, do not call this company when you're 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:11.720 here job searching, so you don't do it right, And 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:13.920 especially when you're in front of the boss or whoever 0:16:13.920 --> 0:16:16.840 it is that you're quitting with. You know, just know 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:19.240 what to say when you're gonna quit. Well. I also 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:21.000 think that there are great things to say, and I 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:23.760 also think that there are things that you shouldn't say, Like, 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:26.160 this isn't the time for you to vent your frustrations 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:30.640 about you know, Louis in the mail room or you 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:34.720 know g G that brings fish in on Wednesdays. This 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:38.040 is not your time to just like start rambling off 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:40.320 about all of the things that you hate about the job. 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:44.280 I think that it's very productive to let your boss 0:16:44.400 --> 0:16:48.400 know maybe the places that they can improve, because you 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:50.320 want to leave it better than you found it. So 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:53.280 I would say, maybe that's your opportunity to say, look, 0:16:53.760 --> 0:16:56.360 the reason why I'm leaving is because I was never 0:16:56.400 --> 0:17:00.880 expected to do accounting. And HR don't not making this up. 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:04.040 You know, obviously, um, but that's where you spell it 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:06.520 out for them and say, perhaps the next person that's 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:09.080 coming in here, you might want them to have this 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:12.320 skill set or I found that this was really challenging, 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.359 or the hours just aren't working for me and my 0:17:15.440 --> 0:17:18.600 family anymore, you know, just give them some solid reasons 0:17:18.920 --> 0:17:21.080 so that they may be able to build off of 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:23.439 that for the next person. Because you're leaving, it's not 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:25.880 gonna make it's not gonna affect you in any way. 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:28.480 But I do feel like you should. It's if you 0:17:28.520 --> 0:17:30.399 have like a big boss, let's say that it's not 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:33.080 really in tune with your position of what you do. 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:36.719 I really think that you should let them know. If 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:40.639 their company is going through some struggles and the struggles 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:43.800 pushed you out, I think you should make no and 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:46.160 be like, Okay, I understand, you know, my direct supervisor, 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:48.040 you don't really know what's going on, let's say in 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:51.760 my department. But these are all the reasons that I'm leaving, 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:54.080 And these are also all the areas where you can 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:56.800 improve so that other people like me don't up and 0:17:56.880 --> 0:17:59.000 quit on you. So it's like, it depends really how 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:01.280 comfortable you are with them and how much you really care. 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:04.719 But I would definitely mention the reasons I quit so 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:06.879 that they can fix it absolutely. And you know, you 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:10.680 want to be really constructive in your criticism, and that's 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:13.200 where we're saying, give them key points where they could 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:16.359 actually do something to improve the work environment for that 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:20.480 next person. I definitely think bad mouthing people before you 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:23.960 walk out is not the move. It's just gonna make 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:27.040 you look slimy. It's just gonna make you look bad. 0:18:27.200 --> 0:18:31.600 So reserve your thoughts to m f M up and 0:18:31.680 --> 0:18:37.360 down when you're with your girlfriends and be like, yeah, 0:18:37.400 --> 0:18:39.399 that's when you do it when you're with your family 0:18:39.480 --> 0:18:41.600 or with your friends or people that you actually trust. 0:18:42.040 --> 0:18:46.000 But that's not exactly exactly. Then you can give all 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:49.359 the chiefsment to all of your friends. But at the workplace. No, 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:51.040 the other thing that I was going to say, and 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:55.199 this actually does relate to it. You may think, you 0:18:55.240 --> 0:18:57.879 may think that you can confide in people at work, 0:18:58.280 --> 0:19:01.879 but the minute you leave, they will tell your mess. 0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:07.680 So just stay quiet, stay consistent with your story, and 0:19:07.840 --> 0:19:10.080 leave it at that, and don't tell nobody talking about 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:12.200 I'm gonna give notice. I'm gonna give notice because in 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:14.520 five minutes gets who's gonna know? Your boss is gonna 0:19:14.520 --> 0:19:17.080 know you're gonna give notice. People cannot hold that in. 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:19.600 You know how many places I've worked in that everyone say, oh, 0:19:19.640 --> 0:19:21.600 such and such is gonna quit. Oh such, that's given 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:23.920 us two weeks for such such up getting thirty days. 0:19:23.960 --> 0:19:26.240