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Speaker 1: Second dat Date. You know, normally during a second date update,
Speaker 1: we talk about what happened during the date. Today's a
Speaker 1: little bit different though, because Patrick is on the phone.
Speaker 1: He wants to call a girl today that he met
Speaker 1: off of Tender. Apparently they had a great date, but
Speaker 1: it's what happened after everything was done that gets really
Speaker 1: strange for him. Patrick, how are you, hey? Guys? How
Speaker 1: you doing good? Man? So you met this girl on Tender? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I did all right? And your email said that this
Speaker 1: girl was different than other girls that you've met on Tinder.
Speaker 1: Why is that? Well, I don't know if you've been
Speaker 1: on Tender, but this girl is classy, he's educated, she's funny,
Speaker 1: she's smart's great. So it's not so somebody that you
Speaker 1: wanted to hook up with. No, I mean I likes
Speaker 1: her a lot. Actually, did she seem like, you know,
Speaker 1: impressed by you or pleasantly surprised? Well, she said it
Speaker 1: was her first time on Tinder. So you're all right, man,
Speaker 1: let me show you out tender works, come back to
Speaker 1: my place. Did I'd be so nervous if I was
Speaker 1: going out on my first Tinder date? Was she like
Speaker 1: hesitant at all? Well maybe at the start she was,
Speaker 1: but aswer some wine and some more wine and some
Speaker 1: more wine. It always seems to help. Yeah. So your
Speaker 1: email says that you guys had a great time during
Speaker 1: your date and everything went well. But the weird part
Speaker 1: was after the date. What do you mean by yeah? Well,
Speaker 1: there the night, I put her in a cab and
Speaker 1: you know, we had a make passionate kiss, liked bye,
Speaker 1: and then you know, the next day I started getting
Speaker 1: some really bizarre text exchanges with her. I mean, just weird.
Speaker 1: Did she text you first? No? I actually texted her
Speaker 1: and said, hey, I had a fantastic time. Can we
Speaker 1: see each other again? That's super weird? Yeah, crazy? No,
Speaker 1: no here? Oh you know what, let let me bring
Speaker 1: it home? Um here? And then her response after I
Speaker 1: said that was would you go to South America? With me?
Speaker 1: What was she joking? Exactly? So I text back, Lol,
Speaker 1: you're funny, and then she text back I'm serious. Okay,
Speaker 1: I mean obviously at the point, You're like, what are
Speaker 1: you talking about? We went on one date and you
Speaker 1: want to go to South America. That's exactly what I said.
Speaker 1: I said, you're not serious, lol. We just had our
Speaker 1: first date. And then I wait a while, and then
Speaker 1: she text back never mind, and I text right back,
Speaker 1: how about we hang out within the country somewhere. Lol.
Speaker 1: I think that's a good response. Yeah, I talked to
Speaker 1: it too, right, So I'm waiting and I'm waiting, and
Speaker 1: the whole day goes by twenty four hours and she
Speaker 1: finally gets back to me, and this is her text.
Speaker 1: I can't see you anymore. You're a real great guy.
Speaker 1: Good luck in the future. What that is? Weird? So
Speaker 1: she asked you to go to South America. You were like,
Speaker 1: are you joking? She said no, I'm serious. And then
Speaker 1: because you wouldn't go, she said, I don't want to
Speaker 1: see you anymore. That's what it seems like. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: what's the You know, I texted and a call and
Speaker 1: she won't return any of my calls or texts, So
Speaker 1: I mean, what's the I have no idea. What is
Speaker 1: that the first time you guys talked to I mean,
Speaker 1: like did you know she's going on vacation in South
Speaker 1: America or she's moving that the first time ever? Heuth America?
Speaker 1: So you met her off a tender How much do
Speaker 1: you know about her? How much did you discuss about
Speaker 1: her personal life when you were on your date? Well,
Speaker 1: you know, we joked about our families and our jobs,
Speaker 1: and you know where we went to school. So I
Speaker 1: mean I kind of feel like I got to know her.
Speaker 1: I guess what I'm asking is is she rich? And
Speaker 1: was she like a rich girl who was like I
Speaker 1: like this guy, I'm gonna take him to South America?
Speaker 1: And did you just pass up an opportunity of a lifetime?
Speaker 1: I hope not? My guy, He's like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: why did I say yes? I should have said yes.
Speaker 1: I never thought of that. I mean that would not
Speaker 1: be true because I would actually love to go to
Speaker 1: South America. Yeah, you should have just played a long
Speaker 1: and said absolutely, I'll go to South America? Are you
Speaker 1: paying because I will go? Well? That is strange, and
Speaker 1: you haven't heard anything from her other than after her
Speaker 1: that text exchange going like sorry, I can't see any more.
Speaker 1: Good luck. She has not responded. Maybe she found a
Speaker 1: South American replacement taking somebody else down there? Did she
Speaker 1: come off as someone who is like a lot of
Speaker 1: spur of the moment decision? No, I mean it was
Speaker 1: it was one date. I mean I don't know that
Speaker 1: much about her, but she seemed sane. Yeah, until you
Speaker 1: read those texts and then you're like, are you sure
Speaker 1: you want to call her? You sure you want to
Speaker 1: try to get her on the phone. I want to
Speaker 1: know what the hell I mean, what was kind of
Speaker 1: all about? Okay, so you do want a second date maybe,
Speaker 1: but you also are just like why the invite to
Speaker 1: South America and then blowing me off after yes and yes? Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, well well play a song, come back, call
Speaker 1: her and get your second day update? All right? Okay,
Speaker 1: say ye hang looking jubil in the morning. The guy
Speaker 1: on the phone for a second day update today passed
Speaker 1: up the opportunity of a lifetime, in all expense paid
Speaker 1: trip to beautiful South America. That's right. Have you met
Speaker 1: a girl on tender? They went out for a fabulous date.
Speaker 1: According to him, everything went fine, even into the night,
Speaker 1: with a passionate kiss, and then it was what happened
Speaker 1: after the date that was strange. He got invited on
Speaker 1: a trip to beautiful South America, and he said no,
Speaker 1: and then she won't talk to him ever again, Right, Patrick,
Speaker 1: that's what happened. Yep, yep, I thought he was joking.
Speaker 1: So Patrick went on a date with a girl. They
Speaker 1: off tender. They had a good time, but after the date,
Speaker 1: they were texting back and forth, and out of the blue,
Speaker 1: she asked if he would go to South America with her.
Speaker 1: He said no, thinking she was joking, but apparently she
Speaker 1: was serious because it pissed her off, and she's never
Speaker 1: talked to him since. You know, I don't even know
Speaker 1: if we're gonna be able to do the second day update,
Speaker 1: because I'm assuming we're gonna call her, she's gonna be
Speaker 1: in South America and her phone's gonna be off. Patrick. Well,
Speaker 1: that'll be an answer. I guess I really want to
Speaker 1: know why she would invite you to South America the
Speaker 1: day she met you. You want to know? Yet? Are
Speaker 1: you regretting turning her down already? You guys keep patching
Speaker 1: like I was offered a trip from a game show
Speaker 1: or something. I mean, I don't think she was kidding.
Speaker 1: I don't even know. All right, Well, I'm gonna down
Speaker 1: the phone number right now, see if we can get
Speaker 1: her on the phone and get your second date update.
Speaker 1: You're ready to go? Yeah? Hello? What was this? Can
Speaker 1: I speak to please? Yeah? This is hi. How are you?
Speaker 1: This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm sorry. This is Jewbil from Brook and Jewil
Speaker 1: in the Morning. How are you doing today? I think
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I can give a wrong number. I didn't
Speaker 1: sign up for anything. I'm sorry. I know you didn't
Speaker 1: sign up for anything, but somebody sort of signed you
Speaker 1: up for something. Okay, well I'm sorry. If that's true,
Speaker 1: then you can take me off the list. I'm not
Speaker 1: really interested. Unfortunately, I can't take you off the list
Speaker 1: because this is a morning radio show and you recently
Speaker 1: went out with one of our listeners but aren't calling
Speaker 1: him back. So he asked us to get you on
Speaker 1: the phone and find out why. I'm not. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I'm I don't know. If I's comfortable with this,
Speaker 1: I'll give you. I'll give you a little bit. I'll
Speaker 1: give you a little background first. Okay, his name is Patrick.
Speaker 1: You guys met on tender. You know. I'm sorry. I'm
Speaker 1: really not I'm not comfortable talking about this. I'm not interested.
Speaker 1: Can I just ask you one question. I'm just curious
Speaker 1: about the text messages that you sent him after your
Speaker 1: date when you invited him to South America? Were you
Speaker 1: being serious? Whoa ile? Patrick? You must have really pissed
Speaker 1: her off by not agreeing to go to South America.
Speaker 1: This is getting even weirder. All right, I'm gonna try
Speaker 1: to call her back it. Look, I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: be a If I'm going to talk to you, I
Speaker 1: need you guys to beleeve my name out. Okay, that's fine,
Speaker 1: I can beap your name out. You're pretty much I mean,
Speaker 1: you're anonymous anyway. Nobody really knows who you are. Do
Speaker 1: you have friends that listen to the show? I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't even know who you guys are. So you're
Speaker 1: pretty much anonymous. Well, I promise you if you let
Speaker 1: us talk to you for a minute, I will beep
Speaker 1: your name out. Nobody will know who you are. So
Speaker 1: what do you need to know? Well, I'm curious about
Speaker 1: the text messages that you sent to Patrick. So we
Speaker 1: talked to him about your date. He said that it
Speaker 1: was great, and then he told us after your date,
Speaker 1: you asked him to go to South America. He thought
Speaker 1: you were joking, and then it sounded like you were serious,
Speaker 1: and that's the last he's heard from you. Those were
Speaker 1: private messages, and I don't he probably shouldn't have shared
Speaker 1: them with you, okay, but he did, and he liked
Speaker 1: you a lot, so he asked us to get you
Speaker 1: on the phone. Do you not like Patrick? No? I thought,
Speaker 1: I mean, I thought Patrick was a really cool guy.
Speaker 1: I thought he was, you know, cute and funny and smart.
Speaker 1: Um okay, And were you serious about the invite to
Speaker 1: South America? I? Um, you know, I'm just my life's
Speaker 1: been pretty complicated lately, and it's just I'm just going
Speaker 1: through some weird stuff right now. So I don't okay,
Speaker 1: I don't want to get into all your personal stuff.
Speaker 1: I appreciate you taking the time to talk to us.
Speaker 1: If you liked Patrick, though, can you help us give
Speaker 1: him some sort of explanation, because he really enjoyed your
Speaker 1: time together somewhat so that he emailed us to get
Speaker 1: you on the phone. And I feel super shy. I didn't.
Speaker 1: I didn't want him to feel I don't want him
Speaker 1: feel bone off. I don't him to feel like he's
Speaker 1: not a good guy. He is. It has absolutely nothing
Speaker 1: to do with him. If Jess has to do with
Speaker 1: what I'm dealing with right now. Okay, can you give
Speaker 1: me anything that I can say to him? Though, Like,
Speaker 1: just just tell me what I can tell him so
Speaker 1: that he can feel good about it and move on
Speaker 1: if you don't want to see him again. I I, um,
Speaker 1: I'm getting married in two weeks. And what You're getting
Speaker 1: married in two weeks? Oh? Girl, Yeah, I'm I'm yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm getting I'm yeah, I'm getting married in two weeks. Okay,
Speaker 1: I only did it once. I just I'm just having
Speaker 1: a lot of second thoughts. And um, Patrick seemed like
Speaker 1: a really cool guy after talking, and I figured if
Speaker 1: I went on one last date, um, maybe if I
Speaker 1: liked it, the universe to tell me where I was
Speaker 1: supposed to be, whether it was eating or getting married.
Speaker 1: And so you were kind of having second thoughts about
Speaker 1: getting married, and thought, I'll try one more date. If
Speaker 1: it's good, that means I shouldn't get married. I don't
Speaker 1: know what I was thinking. I just it's been a
Speaker 1: really stressful time and I know it was too good married.
Speaker 1: Don't get married? If you're kissing another guy, don't get married.
Speaker 1: What are you thinking? That's the worst decision you could
Speaker 1: ever possibly make. You know, as I already feel, I
Speaker 1: don't even want making me feel far right, We're not
Speaker 1: trying to We're not trying to make you feel We're
Speaker 1: not trying to make you feel crappy about it. I'm
Speaker 1: want to keep rolling full. I'm not trying to make
Speaker 1: you feel We're not trying to make you feel crappy
Speaker 1: about it, I promise. And I appreciate you taking the
Speaker 1: time to tell us what happened, because then I can
Speaker 1: go back to Patrick and sort of explain things to him.
Speaker 1: I do have a question about the South America thing.
Speaker 1: Can you shed any light on that? Um? You know,
Speaker 1: I just thought we had a connection. I thought he
Speaker 1: was really special and I figured if we were both
Speaker 1: willing to drop everything and just leave and go be
Speaker 1: ourselves elsewhere, then maybe maybe that would make us happy.
Speaker 1: And I thought maybe he said yes. I thought, Um,
Speaker 1: he said that you guys had a lot of wine.
Speaker 1: Was it the alcohol talking that night? No? I was
Speaker 1: sober when I texted him. You were sober when you
Speaker 1: texted him about South America? So good? In your mind,
Speaker 1: if you, guys ran away to get like you were
Speaker 1: willing to run away with him if he said yes.
Speaker 1: I thought, if he said yes, that would be where
Speaker 1: we were supposed to be. So you're just gonna run
Speaker 1: away from all your problems, leave everything in the dust.
Speaker 1: I think it's kind of sing to say, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: What look I I whatever you're going through, you're going through.
Speaker 1: I appreciate you staying on the phone with us, and
Speaker 1: I appreciate you talking to us. Okay, yeah, I just yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't want him to think it's him. It's not him. Okay,
Speaker 1: well you can actually tell him that because he's on
Speaker 1: the other line listening. It was almost really true. Are
Speaker 1: you kidding me? It's Patrick. I'm so confused right now.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, guys, I don't I don't want to talk
Speaker 1: to I don't want to talk to you Patrick, and
Speaker 1: I d'n't. I'd love to talk to you. Can we
Speaker 1: get together or oh? No? Hello? Wow? Patrick? What you devil? You?
Speaker 1: You almost got a girl that's getting married to leave
Speaker 1: the country with you and ditch your husband. Yeah, it is,
Speaker 1: it's all your fault. Patrick. You didn't throw those away. Guys.
Speaker 1: I am blown away. You had no idea that she
Speaker 1: was in another relationship, like, none at all. I had
Speaker 1: no idea. I had no idea. I'm like freaked out right, Wow,
Speaker 1: not only was she in another relationship, engaged to be married,
Speaker 1: and was thinking about leaving her husband and the country
Speaker 1: with you. I really want to talk to her again.
Speaker 1: Why what do you want to talk to her about?
Speaker 1: What are you going to say? Because I felt the
Speaker 1: same way. I don't know. Why would you want to
Speaker 1: run away with a woman who's about to get married
Speaker 1: in two weeks. I don't know what to think. I mean,
Speaker 1: I really liked this girl, but then again, I mean
Speaker 1: it was only one date, and I mean I don't
Speaker 1: think I'm ready to run away to South America with her.
Speaker 1: But I mean she shouldn't even get married into the
Speaker 1: sky if she feels that way. Yeah, that sucks for
Speaker 1: that dude. Now, if she would have been on the
Speaker 1: date with you and told you, I'm assuming you would
Speaker 1: say no, but I don't know, and told you, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm about to get married, but I really like you,
Speaker 1: and I think that I would leave him for you.
Speaker 1: What would you have done? I have no idea? Oh
Speaker 1: my god, why would you know, you say, no, why
Speaker 1: are men so attracted to crazy women? That girl is
Speaker 1: a nut job? I am sorry, works in mysterious ways. Patrick.
Speaker 1: She was hot, wasn't she? She was extremely hot. There
Speaker 1: you go, That's what it is. Normally, this is the
Speaker 1: time where I ask if you want to go out
Speaker 1: on a second date. But she's not on the phone
Speaker 1: and she's gonna be being married, so probably not interested
Speaker 1: in another date with you. I guess I'll ask the
Speaker 1: listeners text in seven eight, five nine two? What should
Speaker 1: we do from here? Oh my god, Yes, that is
Speaker 1: what I call a second date success? No that yeah? Wow.
Speaker 1: So if you tuned in like in the middle of that,
Speaker 1: you didn't know what was going on. Sky Patrick went
Speaker 1: out with this girl. We had to beat her name,
Speaker 1: otherwise she wouldn't let us er it at all. But
Speaker 1: we beat her name anyway. They went out. They met
Speaker 1: off a tender. After their date, she said, come with
Speaker 1: me to South America and he was like, uh huh.
Speaker 1: We went out on one date. I'm are you serious?
Speaker 1: She said, yes, I'm serious, come with me to South America?
Speaker 1: And he said, how about we just hang out in
Speaker 1: the States and maybe someday later we could go to
Speaker 1: South America, and then she was like, it's not going
Speaker 1: to work and stop texting him back. The reason being
Speaker 1: she it's about to get married and was having second
Speaker 1: thoughts and thought that maybe he was the one for
Speaker 1: her and wanted to run away with him to beautiful
Speaker 1: South America. I'm sorry, after one day you don't think
Speaker 1: he's the one. You just want any excuse to get
Speaker 1: out of the marriage period, like you're trying to let
Speaker 1: yourself talk yourself out of it. And people are getting
Speaker 1: mad at me because I was saying that she's crazy.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Oh, she's absolutely crazy. She's definitely crazy nuts,
Speaker 1: but she was hot, so he wants He actually at
Speaker 1: the end of that was thinking that he would actually
Speaker 1: be interested in a relationship with her. Still, it is
Speaker 1: amazing what men will say yes too when you've got
Speaker 1: the right size waist in a nice rack. Is like,
Speaker 1: the power of that is beyond compare and crazy girls
Speaker 1: in the bedroom a plus and we all know that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but in you're if you're gonna plan on breaking up
Speaker 1: somebody's marriage, chances are she's gonna want to marry you next. Yes,
Speaker 1: she's gonna want to marry you, and then you're going
Speaker 1: to be about to get married to her, and she's
Speaker 1: gonna do the same thing to another guy, try to
Speaker 1: whisk him away to South America so that she can
Speaker 1: get out of getting married. I feel bad for her husband.
Speaker 1: There's no idea. Yeah, I'm sorry, but people keep texting
Speaker 1: in brook. I can't believe you said that to her.
Speaker 1: She already felt bad about it. Well, she was playing
Speaker 1: She was playing the victim role big time. It wasn't
Speaker 1: about the fact that, oh, I'm kind of a d
Speaker 1: bag to my husband who I'm about to marry right
Speaker 1: now by wanting to run away with this guy. It
Speaker 1: was like, I just it's so hard for me and
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. The craziest thing is,
Speaker 1: like you said, though the other guy was actually like,
Speaker 1: well I felt that connection. I know you. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's like, what do you mean you don't know? Dude,
Speaker 1: crazy has a funny way of finding more crazy. That
Speaker 1: is a very that is eloquent. And two I could
Speaker 1: have sent them on a second date to South America
Speaker 1: or just even a South American restaurant in town. We
Speaker 1: asked what we should do? We said, text in its
Speaker 1: seventy five too. What should we do? A lot of
Speaker 1: people are saying, crash the wedding, show up at the
Speaker 1: wedding and play the audio of the second date update.
Speaker 1: Another person said pay for that dude to go to
Speaker 1: her wedding, and another said send him to South America. No,
Speaker 1: he blew his shot at that he had a chance
Speaker 1: to go South America. Wherever you want a second date update,
Speaker 1: I'll have to do his email the show Brook and
Speaker 1: Jewel at Moving nine to five dot com. We will
Speaker 1: call the person who didn't call you back.