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Speaker 1: Hey, let's get into the courtroom. It's welcome to the

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Speaker 1: Keiki Court podcast. It's been a minute because I was

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Speaker 1: out in Greece on an amazing trip. Shout out to

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Speaker 1: my friend Ryan for taking me and we had an amazing,

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Speaker 1: amazing time. If you haven't seen the photos, you know

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Speaker 1: I got them posted. Okay, I'll love on my Instagram,

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Speaker 1: but shout out to everybody we met in Greece.

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Speaker 2: It was just so beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, the courtroom is open and we have another case

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Speaker 1: for the podcast, so let's get into it.

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Speaker 2: It says, hey, ki Key.

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Speaker 1: Am I wrong for removing my aunt from the family

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Speaker 1: group chat because I don't want her at my house

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Speaker 1: for the holidays. It says, every single holiday, my aunt

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Speaker 1: Brenda shows up to my house with her own tupperware

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Speaker 1: and to go containers, not because she brought any food

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Speaker 1: over to contribute to the dinner, but because she comes

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Speaker 1: to every family event planning to take food home.

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Speaker 2: For example, before the.

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Speaker 1: Turkey is even carved, she's in the kitchen scooping mac

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Speaker 1: and cheese and sweet potatoes into containers to take home

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Speaker 1: and eat for later. Don't get me wrong, I'm not

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Speaker 1: being patty over food. But it is so tacky, and

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Speaker 1: I don't want her at my house this year doing

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Speaker 1: that in front of my in laws. I'm tired of

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Speaker 1: watching half of our food disappear before dinner even starts.

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Speaker 1: Am I wrong for not including her in our plans

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Speaker 1: this year?

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Speaker 2: Yikes?

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Speaker 1: Holidays always bring out the wild parts and families, and

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Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, we all have family members

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Speaker 1: who are little on the tachi side, and taking food

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Speaker 1: home and you haven't even contributed anything to the meal

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Speaker 1: is extremely tacky in my opinion.

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Speaker 2: So I don't think. I don't think you're wrong. I don't.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's your house, you're the host.

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Speaker 1: You know that you're gonna have guests over, and you

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Speaker 1: may just not want to deal with that, you know,

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Speaker 1: as your aunt. So I don't think you're wrong. Friend,

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Speaker 1: I don't think you're wrong for not, you know, having

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Speaker 1: her be a part of the celebration this year. However,

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Speaker 1: you just removed her from the group chat. I think

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Speaker 1: you should have a conversation with her and maybe tell

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Speaker 1: her like, you know, hey, this year I got my

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Speaker 1: in laws coming over, We're not going to have enough

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Speaker 1: you know, room, or you know, we're just gonna have

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Speaker 1: my in laws, like you need to kind of say

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Speaker 1: something to just not include her anymore in the family

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Speaker 1: group chat. She may not be tech savvy and kind

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Speaker 1: of know that you removed her. She may just assume

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Speaker 1: that she's invited and.

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Speaker 2: Show up anyway.

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Speaker 1: So I do feel like, although it may be a

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Speaker 1: very uncomfortable conversation, you need to say something because if

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Speaker 1: you don't say anything, she can just show up because

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Speaker 1: it's been a tradition that she comes to your house,

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Speaker 1: so she's just planning to come, or she can be like, wow,

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Speaker 1: you know, I was just disinvited and I don't know why.

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Speaker 1: So I think it is a very awkward place to be.

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Speaker 1: And maybe if you're not comfortab saying something to Unt Brenda,

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Speaker 1: maybe your parents can say something. I don't know, if

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Speaker 1: she's on your mom's side or your dad's side, maybe

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Speaker 1: they can say, hey, you know, the kids don't want

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Speaker 1: you at the house this year because you you know X,

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Speaker 1: Y and Z. I think there needs to be some

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Speaker 1: type of follow up conversation. You just can't block Brenda

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Speaker 1: out the group chat. You need to say something. But

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Speaker 1: I don't think you're wrong for, you know, maybe not

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Speaker 1: wanting to include her this year, it's up to you.

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Speaker 1: It's your house. You are the host. And I'm really

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Speaker 1: big on holidays being very, you know, an important time

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Speaker 1: in anyone's family because we all work hard to get

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Speaker 1: to the holidays. We've worked all through the year, and

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Speaker 1: this should be a time where we can really let

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Speaker 1: our hair down and kind of enjoy time with our family.

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Speaker 1: And if there is someone in your life who is

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Speaker 1: going to prevent you from enjoying your holiday time that

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Speaker 1: you've worked so hard to get to, I think you

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Speaker 1: need to. It's your prerogative to avoid being around them,

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Speaker 1: you know. So I'm not one of those people that's like, oh, well,

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Speaker 1: that's family, they have to come over, Like no, hell no.

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Speaker 1: If I don't enjoy them being in my space, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to share my holidays with them, I'm not

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Speaker 1: doing it. So if Aunt Brenda is getting under your

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Speaker 1: skin that bad where you can't enjoy your holiday time

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Speaker 1: with your family, then you have every right as the

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Speaker 1: host to uninvite her. But you have to properly uninvite her.

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Speaker 1: You can't just ghost her in the group chat and

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Speaker 1: hope that she doesn't show up, because I think that

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Speaker 1: can go really, really bad. But yeah, don't be like

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Speaker 1: Aunt Brenda this holiday season. Bring something to the table.

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Speaker 1: Bring if you can't cook, bring a nice cocktail or beverage,

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Speaker 1: or a good dessert or acts to bring. You know,

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Speaker 1: do you want me to bring the plastic war or

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Speaker 1: whatever you're using the silverware? Just bring something to the

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Speaker 1: family function. Don't just show up with your your belly

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Speaker 1: empty and you ready to eat. I mean, come on, man,

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Speaker 1: groceries are super expensive. You see how the world is

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Speaker 1: right now. People are losing their jobs left and right.

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Speaker 1: So I think every one should try their best to

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Speaker 1: contribute to the holiday dinner. But you are completely in

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Speaker 1: controlled on who you spend it with and how you

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Speaker 1: spend your holiday. But I do think there needs to

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Speaker 1: be a conversation, so help. I'm Brenda out.

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Speaker 2: Child.

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Speaker 1: Brenda is just greedy, but it's always it's always one

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Speaker 1: in every family.

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Speaker 2: So let me know your thoughts, though, of course you

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Speaker 2: are the jury.

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Speaker 1: I got a video posted on our Instagram Fresh Show

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Speaker 1: Radio at on air key kyk e k e. And

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Speaker 1: you know we'll have more cases coming up this week

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Speaker 1: and obviously every Monday on the Fred Show around eight

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Speaker 1: oh five. So love you friend, and oh else that

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Speaker 1: I want to tell you I don't remember anyway. I'll

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Speaker 1: talk to you tomorrow on the radio anyway, Love you bye,