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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for demanding my fiance take

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Speaker 1: his daughter's house that she inherited from her dead mother?

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Speaker 2: Okayop, I don't know. I think the dead mother's wishes

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Speaker 3: She could be haunted, bro.

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Speaker 1: Or maybe just we just completely disregard the dead mother.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you know, if.

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Speaker 2: You disregard the dead mother, she will come to haunt you.

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Speaker 2: I think that's unless you do a seance at a

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Speaker 2: graveyard and give the necessary offerings.

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Speaker 3: I think do you know what they are? What was

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Speaker 3: necessary offerings?

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Speaker 2: The second toe of your mother in law, three bales

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Speaker 2: of missile toe, right, and the incense from a foreign land.

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Speaker 3: No murr, no freaking sense. Maybe a little bit in.

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Speaker 2: The maybe a little bit that that gives, like extra spices,

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Speaker 3: Baby.

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Speaker 1: So my twenty eight female fiance thirty eight male proposed

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Speaker 1: to me last week.

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Speaker 2: Hurrah, congrats you you are now going to forever love

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Speaker 2: each other forever. It's it's never going to end. Nothing

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Speaker 2: nothing bad, ever, having bad will ever happen. Nothing bad

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Speaker 2: ever happens on Reddit. That's that's what I've We've learned.

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Speaker 2: I've learned that do you know. Actually, like there's a

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Speaker 2: that does make a lot of sense. On the front page.

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Speaker 4: Oh, on the front page.

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Speaker 3: On the front.

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Speaker 1: Page, like they like there's people dying, Oh Jesus, like

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, that's stop.

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Speaker 3: Clicking them because they're bad for that's all.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the algorithm is probably given to your Oh my god, Wow,

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Speaker 1: did not know that we've been dating for two years.

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Speaker 1: He has a fifteen year old daughter from a previous marriage.

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Speaker 3: What a drag. Yeah, he's kidding. Potentially, you know, you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, fifty or fifteen year olds are like out Actually, no,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, fifteen year old girl, dude, that could be.

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Speaker 3: Uh, that could be tough. Yeah, could be. You know,

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Speaker 3: it could be. But I.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, doue here and her mother passed away about

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Speaker 4: And I also have a six year old son.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so at least they're on equal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, each is bringing a kid to the table. That's

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Speaker 1: that's kind of nice, right, you both kind of know.

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Speaker 2: Kind of like the Aztec offerings. No, yeah, we're like sacrifice. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: sacrifice the children for the good of the tribe. Each

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Speaker 2: each person brings a sacrifice. Absolutely, not saying that you

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Speaker 4: What was the joke?

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Speaker 3: The modest proposal, the mad proposal.

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Speaker 2: Modest proposal is like it's like an eighteen Like this

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Speaker 2: That was like the global warming of the day. Not

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Speaker 4: Not right, that's what they were like worrying about because.

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Speaker 2: Like like the population was exploding, and so his solution,

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Speaker 1: Wow, dude, that that was tire, But that was a

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Speaker 2: It's like, uh, I read it like in like economics

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well I forgot who wrote it. Uh it's not

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Speaker 1: But Adam Scott, you know what Scott, Adam Scott come

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Speaker 3: I mean, look, he's a pool boy.

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Speaker 1: He's a fan of good podcasts, particularly ones that happen outside.

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Speaker 4: Except we have a pool.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, which is better, Which is much better, much better

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Speaker 1: When my fiance and I started to date, I noticed

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Speaker 2: I've willed you this master bedroom or this house. The

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Speaker 2: I didn't say anything because we were only beginning in

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Speaker 1: But now that we're engaged, I said I wanted to

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Speaker 1: But also it's like a weird scenario that he's not explaining.

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Speaker 1: It's like, why why do you say this? Your fifteen

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Speaker 3: She has it now, so damn straight, she has the

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Speaker 4: House, my rules.

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Speaker 1: Maybe Yeah, girls fro high school are going to have

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Speaker 4: Dude.

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Speaker 3: That's having a whole house at fifteen.

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Speaker 1: Imagine having a whole house that like you own and

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Speaker 4: And he's bringing his new wife into the house.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, is he asking like, hey, like dot, can we

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Speaker 3: A thousand a month get them per.

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Speaker 2: Room, and I want you to buy all the alcohol

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Speaker 2: for my slumber parties.

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Speaker 3: I'm telling you that's a simulate.

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Speaker 2: The card, right Yeah, dude, dude, I'm kicking you out

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Speaker 2: if you don't buy me this. Uh what do fifteen

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, cosmetics, Alta Alta for sure, Alta hydro flasks.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, as you can tell John and I can peer

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Speaker 4: You know where we were going. So we're from that,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're out of touch. We're empathetic. So he has

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Speaker 3: It is hers, Yo, this is nuts.

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Speaker 3: But he said, no, it is his daughter's.

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Speaker 2: I mean, but her, his wife did give it to her,

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Speaker 1: It's because she's fifteen, Like that's such a sticky I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, imagine a seven year old just like this is

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Speaker 4: In the cover. Excuse me? Excuse me? Is anyone bother you? Yeah,

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Speaker 4: my mommy daddy will give me juice. They're evicted.

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Speaker 3: I'm the legal owner. Like, well, your's passing.

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Speaker 1: Literally, could you even imagine? It's like it's like CPS

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Speaker 1: I got angry and called him a jerk because he

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Speaker 1: it's not like we'll be homeless or anything. We still

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Speaker 2: This is such a weird dynamic, like, oh, I goeat,

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Speaker 2: I gotta move out of the house, you know, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Just just the weirdest thing ever, so reverse. I got

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Speaker 1: like we'll be homeless or anything. We still have three

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's kind of loaded. It will be chilling. But

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Speaker 2: Or move somewhere else or move somewhere else. But it's

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Speaker 1: It seems like he's like just unwilling to even talk

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Speaker 4: You know what I mean, Like.

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Speaker 3: Like, what what do you think he should say?

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's like, oh, people do rent to own, so

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Speaker 2: So you think that they should they should rent the

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Speaker 1: I mean, like he should just sit down and say, hey,

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Speaker 2: But it's like, but you also have to respect the

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying I mean in that scenario, she would

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Speaker 1: that's why he's been saving. I asked what else belonged

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Speaker 4: Even the car. He doesn't even have his own vehicle.

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Speaker 3: Bro, she really got everything. Did the wife not leave

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Speaker 1: Bro A, maybe the wife left him nothing. Also, the

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Speaker 3: All into his daughter, all to thee. Maybe they got that.

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Speaker 2: So again, maybe they got divorced and so it's his

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Speaker 4: So probably would say his x fife.

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Speaker 2: So his wife literally left him nothing. Dude, that's rough. Bro, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's a bit. That's so weird.

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Speaker 1: That's kind of a red flag, you know, right like

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Speaker 1: in you know, the will? Like that's kind of because

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Speaker 1: But man, I know, whatever casework or whatever.

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Speaker 3: We also OP could be.

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Speaker 2: I feel like OP, I'm getting like a little bit

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Speaker 1: I actually disagree. I think it's just I think it's

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Speaker 3: And you're like, like I have to pay it.

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Speaker 1: And you weren't expecting You weren't expecting that because it's

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Speaker 1: would never expect like, oh, you're living in your fifteen

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Speaker 1: that's so funny. I called him a jerk again and

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Speaker 3: I don't know if he's a jerk though, I.

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Speaker 4: Don't know if he's a jerk.

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Speaker 1: But she he should have informed her, like before they

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Speaker 1: got engaged.

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Speaker 3: For sure, Yeah, for sure.

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Speaker 2: But he said he did say so, he said this

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Speaker 2: initially when she asked.

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Speaker 1: I think that was after they were engaged. I'm pretty

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Speaker 1: sure that happened after they were So she did ask,

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Speaker 1: and he did tell her, yeah, after they got engaged.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no.

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Speaker 2: At the beginning, at the top of the story, she

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, so the.

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Speaker 2: First time she ever asked him about it. About it,

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Speaker 2: he told her the truth, you're right, but she didn't

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Speaker 1: Well, she didn't get a reason. That was the thing

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Speaker 1: No explanation. So he told her, hmm, that's yeah, he

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Speaker 1: sign him on here.

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Speaker 2: This is I feel like, like I'm more on the

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Speaker 3: I think you're more on no peace side.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think I am, But honestly, I'm just like

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Speaker 1: going on here you go.

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Speaker 3: I want to know.

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Speaker 1: So when I told my family, my brother laughed because

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Speaker 3: I think.

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Speaker 1: I felt a trayed and lied to Am I really

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Speaker 1: the a hole? I think I am justified? But Sam,

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Speaker 1: there is an update.

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Speaker 2: Well, I I hope, like you know, everything got resolved

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Speaker 2: and yeah, if it weren't like fairy tale ending, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so what happens I read it right?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 1: So the update is he saw the post and asked

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Speaker 1: for his ring back.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, the marriage is over. We're done. It's officially

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Speaker 1: It's officially a rap, so op says, I guess this

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Speaker 1: isn't a problem anymore. No need to keep commenting. He'll

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Speaker 1: come tomorrow to get his ring and his car. Things

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Speaker 3: You mean his daughter's car? Is it his daughter?

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Speaker 4: To wow? Wow?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 4: Wow wow.

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Speaker 1: I think there is definitely no matter who side you're on,

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Speaker 1: there was definitely overreactions on both sides.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like the to taking the I mean

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Speaker 2: like it it is a weird, like all right, regardless

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Speaker 2: of like the gold diggerish vibes, it is a weird

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Speaker 2: daughter to be owning the house you're living in. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and like two to see that post and like and

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Speaker 3: Might be maybe this is our first our first split decision.

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Speaker 2: Like like, but to see the post and then be

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Speaker 1: Scene way that that was a I mean, op calling

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Speaker 1: him a jerk, I think was an overreaction and like

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Speaker 1: kind of getting like maybe a little bit too mad

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Speaker 1: the fiance don't like calling off the wedding. That is

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Speaker 1: a massive overreaction.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean I guess like he could see

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Speaker 2: it says like, you know, I can't believe you would

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe he's I think.

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Speaker 1: I think I think like it wasn't like okay, let's

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Speaker 3: It was like I want the ring back.

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Speaker 4: I want the ring back.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like no.

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Speaker 2: Happy endings here, my friend's happy endings here, be sad okop, Hey,

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Speaker 2: this is okayop. I'm Samuel Donner and I'm John Fry.

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Speaker 2: We tell the funniest stories on the Internet. And John,

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Speaker 2: what do you got for us?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Man? We got a juicy one today.

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Speaker 1: Am I the asshole for going ballistic after my brother

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Speaker 1: in law forced my son to pee himself?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: What It's not a good situation we have going on here.

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Speaker 1: My son has ADHD, he's hyperactive and has a medical condition.

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Speaker 4: There's lots of variables at play here.

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Speaker 1: Also, days ago, my best friend of ten years passed away.

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Speaker 1: Ohp He asked her husband if he could stay with

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Speaker 1: My husband said yes, but then took him over to

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Speaker 1: I was all kinds of shocked and con used and

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Speaker 1: had many questions that come to mind, like how the

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Speaker 2: She's totally blindsided, and then she comes with this information like, Hey,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and she's like, why is he at your house?

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Speaker 3: Why is he even there?

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Speaker 1: So I called my husband but he didn't answer or

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Speaker 4: Bro.

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Speaker 3: They didn't like give him a change of clothes or somebody.

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Speaker 4: Hey, like, you know, go take a shower. We'll find

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Speaker 2: You know, that's a nice thing to do. If someone

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Speaker 2: you give them an extra pair of pants.

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Speaker 1: Bro.

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Speaker 4: It's human decency, right.

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Speaker 3: What is wrong with you people?

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Speaker 4: I asked my.

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Speaker 1: Sister in law and her husband what happened, and they

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Speaker 4: Gollie, g he's having.

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Speaker 3: Too too much dem fun and you can't stand to

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Speaker 4: Joy? Why are you a pair?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I don't know. You shouldn't be a parent now.

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Speaker 1: After that, my son told him that he needed to

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Speaker 1: right where.

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Speaker 4: He was standing.

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Speaker 3: Bro, you've gotta go, you gotta go.

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Speaker 1: This isn't like, oh, he's in high school and you

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Speaker 4: No, this is a four year old, four year old

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Speaker 4: who doesn't understand, bro, and.

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Speaker 3: He just needs the pee. Let the kid pee.

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Speaker 2: The kid pee like also like with teachers that don't

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Speaker 1: we can like pee while we were recording.

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Speaker 3: I think that's a diper diaper.

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Speaker 1: I lost it on her and her husband completely. I

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Speaker 1: lost it on her husband for denying my son access

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Speaker 1: to the bathroom, damn straight, and her letting this happen

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Speaker 1: and not doing anything about it. Her husband explained to

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Speaker 1: me that he thought my son was like any other

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Speaker 1: kid and is old enough to hold it in time,

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Speaker 1: which was ninety minutes according to him. So someone goes

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Speaker 1: you have to hold.

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Speaker 4: It for a ninety minutes, Brandy minutes.

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Speaker 3: I hate that.

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Speaker 4: It's awful.

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Speaker 3: It sucks thinking about being a kid like a lot

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Speaker 3: like child it is.

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Speaker 2: It's all that, that's great, but like you don't have

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Speaker 2: any agency over your life. No, or at least this

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Speaker 2: kid doesn't when he's over at this freaking numbskulls place.

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Speaker 4: I berated them for treating my son so cruelly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, deservedly so, and denying him a simple request.

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Speaker 1: I asked how they could do this to a child

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Speaker 1: with a condition when they themselves are parents.

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Speaker 3: A great question, great question, you should not be parents.

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Speaker 1: So then my sister in law got offended that I

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Speaker 1: implied that her and her husband were neglectful parents.

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Speaker 2: They are, you are, Bry, your guests heed themselves.

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Speaker 1: So then we argued, and then I took my son

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Speaker 1: and went home, and my husband still wasn't there. Bro

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Speaker 1: where's the husband, where's the seriously? He My husband then

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Speaker 1: came home fuming, asking why the hell I berated his

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Speaker 1: sister and her husband after they've done him a favor

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Speaker 1: and watched his step son for him because he had

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Speaker 1: an emergency. Bro nice, I asked him was he okay

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Speaker 1: with the way they treated my son? And he said no,

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Speaker 1: but the way I went about it was totally wrong,

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Speaker 1: and said I should apologize to them both after insulting

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Speaker 1: them and their parenting skills in their own house when

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Speaker 1: they were doing us a favor. Then I said, no,

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Speaker 1: they did him a favor because I never asked them

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Speaker 1: to watch my son.

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Speaker 4: He did.

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Speaker 1: He said to still apologize, but I loudly said to him,

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Speaker 1: in your dreams after how my son was treated, He

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Speaker 1: was taken aback and described my behavior as juvenile for

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Speaker 1: refusing to take responsibility for my actions. Bro responsibility for

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Speaker 1: her actions? How about them taking responsibility for their actions.

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Speaker 1: At that point, things escalated and I had to take

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Speaker 1: my son away and go stay with a friend. My

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Speaker 1: husband kept texting me stuff like how I was avoiding

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Speaker 1: confrontation and refusing to admit I overstepped, et cetera, et cetera.

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Speaker 4: He said he expects me to.

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Speaker 1: Come home only after I apologize to his sister and

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Speaker 1: brother in law.

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Speaker 2: First thing I disagree with here. If you're raising a

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Speaker 2: child together, you're sharing responsibility of that child. So I

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Speaker 2: don't think it's fair to say, like, oh, like, that's

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Speaker 2: your responsibility. He's doing you a favor. Like whoever's minding

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Speaker 2: the kid is doing the favor. Yeah, for whoever's not

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Speaker 2: minding the kid.

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Speaker 4: Also, like he didn't tell her where the kid was.

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Speaker 1: It's been a simple text like, hey, I have to

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Speaker 1: run out for emergency whatever, leaving son with you know anyways,

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Speaker 1: a fun and nuanced discussion, Yeah, on the skills of

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Speaker 1: parenting from two non parents editors.

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Speaker 3: Cut that shit down as long as fuck. But you

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