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Speaker 1: Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington,

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Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, Hello, Hello.

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Speaker 2: Hello Call It crew. Welcome to another episode of Short

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Speaker 2: and Sweet, brought to you by BMWW.

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Speaker 1: For all our female listeners. We hope you are treating

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Speaker 1: yourselves the month of March.

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Speaker 2: And don't forget we are celebrating women's history months. So

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Speaker 2: treat yourself, ladies.

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Speaker 1: You don't need to keep it to Jesus month, by

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Speaker 1: the way, treat yourself all the time.

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Speaker 2: A double treat this month. Yeah, all the tree why

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Speaker 2: know the treads.

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Speaker 1: Sonny even double them, triple quadriple. Who cares all of them?

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Speaker 1: So we're getting a little is going TikTok you We're

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Speaker 1: going TikTok trendy tis TikTok trend nostalgia.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and instead of doing this on TikTok, we thought

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Speaker 2: we'd do it on here. Yeah yeah, okay.

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Speaker 1: So the TikTok trend that we are talking about is

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Speaker 1: getting coffee with your younger self, which is a way

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Speaker 1: to reflect on your life and appreciate, I appreciate how

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Speaker 1: far you come and uh it might even help you

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Speaker 1: reckon with how far you've come, right, who you were

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Speaker 1: then and who you are now and see some growth.

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Speaker 2: According to Alice to, this trend is hitting a nerve

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Speaker 2: because it allows you to mentally reconnect with the past

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Speaker 2: version of you who was once insecure or struggling, likely

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Speaker 2: because they didn't have direction, knowledge or support.

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Speaker 1: Go to a cafe and you have coffee with your

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Speaker 1: younger self and you can pick well, I guess you

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Speaker 1: could pick all of them, but your thirty year old you,

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Speaker 1: your twenty five year old you, or even.

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Speaker 2: Your eight whatever, I think, whatever age you are. Okay,

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Speaker 2: So which age have you picked?

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Speaker 1: Me? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I think I'm fudging this. I'm picking twenty two year

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Speaker 2: old me for a reason. Oh okay, I'm going brogue.

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Speaker 1: Such okay, Well then great, you know exactly what you're doing.

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Speaker 1: You pick your you go?

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Speaker 2: Should I go first? Yes?

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Speaker 1: I think so.

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Speaker 2: Okay. So I'm meeting twenty two year old me yep,

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Speaker 2: and I would love I want to say that I

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Speaker 2: would love to meet for coffee at like nine thirty.

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Speaker 2: That's good for me. Have to drop off twenty two

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Speaker 2: year old Kmila is not awake, So this is going

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Speaker 2: to be like an eleven am coffee and I'm going

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Speaker 2: to show up in like kind of you know, like

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Speaker 2: sweatpanties sort of situation, sweatshirt and probably no makeup, hair

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Speaker 2: pulled back. Twenty two year old me was always done up.

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Speaker 2: I would not leave the house without makeup, very very rare.

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking like a full fresh spray tan, a lot

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Speaker 2: of makeup, a lot of liner. And I know what

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Speaker 2: I would order. Twenty two year old me orders a

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Speaker 2: one of those green tea frappuccinos that you can get

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Speaker 2: from Starbucks, the ice ones, yep. And then I would say, no, sugar,

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Speaker 2: can you not do the extra pump of sugar? And

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Speaker 2: then I would take about fifty of the equals and

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Speaker 2: I would dump those bad boys in because you know,

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Speaker 2: I was doing a low carb and this was better.

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Speaker 2: And I honestly, i'm surprised I don't have a third arm.

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Speaker 2: And I would just order a regular coffee and I'd

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Speaker 2: only have one because otherwise I get and I will

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Speaker 2: that's my that's my first part. I think you should

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Speaker 2: do your first part and then we'll go back and forth.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I would I would meet well, just to make

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Speaker 1: it different, let's meet my I. Let's do eighteen eighteen.

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Speaker 2: That's fun.

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Speaker 1: My eighteen year old self. She slept in, but she

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Speaker 1: she also could bake an early morning meeting if need be,

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Speaker 1: and we would meet at Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf

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Speaker 1: for the lended mocha Chuka latte whatever that was.

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Speaker 2: You're both doing that or just she's doing that.

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Speaker 1: She's doing that. I'm ordering a whole milc late.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's.

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Speaker 1: Gonna want to go next door to the Noah's Bagels

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Speaker 1: and grab and everything bagel with cream cheese. But she's

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Speaker 1: gonna feel guilty about it. I'm gonna go and get

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I love this. I love this. Oh

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Speaker 2: my god, But I like, you know what's funny you

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Speaker 2: saying this right now? I have such warmth for eighteen

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Speaker 2: year old jesss already, I'm like, I love her.

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Speaker 1: Oh, she's cute. She's wearing likely some sort of like

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Speaker 1: nineties early nineties, like low slung, juicy cature linen pant

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Speaker 1: Uh yeah, hey but yeah baby yeah, and then like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there was almost like a cargo pant era.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and she had huge boobs. Oh she had I

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Speaker 1: mean enormous, like good dunga dungas. Oh they were like

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Speaker 1: a I mean I think I bought a double D,

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Speaker 1: but I think they really were like good eat.

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Speaker 2: Were you in the were you in the Victorious Secret?

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Speaker 2: Also remember that bra that happed like rocks in the

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Speaker 2: side of it so that you get told, please, this is.

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Speaker 1: How you know that. I actually didn't even see them

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Speaker 1: as an asset. I saw them as a liability. I

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Speaker 2: God, oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I was just trying to harness them.

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Speaker 2: God, okay, wait, let me go, let me go back

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Speaker 2: to twenty two. You were me because little Camilla is

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Speaker 2: definitely wearing the Victoria, the wonderbra, the wonderbra that had.

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Speaker 2: And it was like, I was trying to rally those girls. Yes,

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Speaker 2: but I you know that, my little bees. I was

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Speaker 1: You said, yes, I love that.

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Speaker 2: I did. I listen.

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Speaker 1: I know you know perfect.

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Speaker 2: Little boobies I had little, I had some great Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I had some great little boobs, but I needed them

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Speaker 2: to be wonderbroad.

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Speaker 2: You wanted them to be perfect.

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Speaker 1: Just in greater volume and closer to your chin.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I want a hundred person He inches up in.

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Speaker 2: Like no one, like everyone would think that that was

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Speaker 2: how they naturally were.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, so you're ordering that, that's the food you're getting.

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Speaker 2: Uh So, twenty two year old little me is gonna I'm.

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Speaker 1: Gonna see what I was wearing.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, what are you wearing? Okay, so she's wearing

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Speaker 2: she's wearing wearing the cargoes and she's got the.

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Speaker 1: Not gonna say cargoes. I don't like car.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, using the linen, the linen yea.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, So I'm wearing I'm so boring. Now I'm

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Speaker 1: wearing some like cute high waisted jean with a cute

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Speaker 2: Yeah that's yeah, that is you lots of yummy jewelry.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. Little Me would definitely be

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Speaker 2: scanning the bakery situation at Starbucks and being like, oh, no,

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Speaker 2: you're not gonna get me carbs.

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Speaker 1: And God forbid one of those carbs jumps out of

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Speaker 2: When the South Beach diet book just came out.

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Speaker 1: The dieting when we were younger, so gross. It was

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't miss that. I don't miss it at all.

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Speaker 2: I probably still wouldn't. I'm not a super breakfast person.

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Speaker 2: I probably still wouldn't order something to eat, but I'm

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Speaker 2: I'm always down for potentially a blueberry muffin. And I

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Speaker 2: feel no guilt over any garbs in my life.

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Speaker 1: Great. So a younger me and I. Younger me would say,

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Speaker 1: eighteen year old me would say how much she loved

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Speaker 1: her family, how excited she was about going to college,

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Speaker 1: how nervous she was about going to college, and how

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Speaker 2: Oh really need to be a Hollywood star? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for me and me now would talk about how

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Speaker 1: much I love my family. Yeah, how excited I am

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Speaker 1: How I do get nervous about everyone in my life

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Speaker 1: being okay. I just want everyone to be okay. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and uh yeah, that'd be that part.

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Speaker 2: Would you tell would you be like, go to college,

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Speaker 2: You're still going to be a movie, You're going to

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Speaker 2: be a star still.

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Speaker 1: I would have told myself to Yeah, I really did

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Speaker 1: enjoy college, but it did take me a minute. You

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Speaker 1: and your freshman year is kind of hard. I don't

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Speaker 1: at home anymore. So freshman year was not easy for me.

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Speaker 1: I was grateful to get through it. I made a

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Speaker 1: that I didn't keep. I made a lot of friends

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Speaker 1: that I did keep. Sophomore year is a lot more

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Speaker 1: I would have told myself back then, just give it

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Speaker 2: I love this, Okay. Twenty two year old me had

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Speaker 2: just been dumped. Yeah, and uh, I was feeling very

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Speaker 2: a dream board manifesting all the things I want. I

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Speaker 2: cut a bunch of stuff out of the magazine. And

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Speaker 2: I know that little me, I would believe that I

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Speaker 2: for that period of my life, and I could lean

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Speaker 2: going to be amazing, and you're going to talk about

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Speaker 2: sharding and farting on the podcast with your You know

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Speaker 2: be true love. No, But I would also you know,

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Speaker 2: I don't mean.

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Speaker 1: Said aggressive farting.

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Speaker 2: You don't.

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Speaker 1: You didn't just talk about farting. You talked about aggressive

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Speaker 1: farting the question. The question was about farting in a relationship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but you brought up ripping butt.

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Speaker 2: I don't understand that different to be ripping button, ripping ass.

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Speaker 2: Somebody explained it to me.

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Speaker 1: Somebody explained to me how you could say rip butt

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Speaker 1: or rip ass?

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Speaker 2: Well, why do I.

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Speaker 1: Need to talk about the difference when I just really

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Speaker 1: want to tell you should talk about it.

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Speaker 2: Neither. Can I talk to my little me, attorney? Can

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Speaker 2: I just talked to my little self? Thanks, Jess. And

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Speaker 2: I would also say everything you made on your dream

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Speaker 2: but everything you made on your trip, No, seriously, after

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Speaker 2: that many equals, you know, know what could happen? That's

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Speaker 2: my point, exactly my point. But I would say everything

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Speaker 2: on your dream board literally comes true. Oh yeah, this

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Speaker 2: It's just so cute.

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