Speaker 1: Watch up and welcome back to another episode of No
Speaker 1: Sealers Podcast with your hosts now fuck that with your
Speaker 1: low glasses Malone. So tell me how would a tutorial work.
Speaker 2: I mean any tutorial it's.
Speaker 3: I mean they tell you what to do step by step, like.
Speaker 4: You know they haven't in Cosmo too that you know,
Speaker 4: it'll be something like, yeah, how to pleasure your man,
Speaker 4: how to pleasure your.
Speaker 2: Pleasure your man's lower region. I don't know, you know
Speaker 2: exactly yeah, yeah, yeah, but you know it would be
Speaker 2: like I can imagine, you know, be like step by
Speaker 2: step number one, oh ship, she's about to go down
Speaker 2: the line. Just it's you know, no, you do be numbered,
Speaker 2: like make sure that what they're warm, or you cup them,
Speaker 2: I mean cup them, make sure you gently.
Speaker 1: So women read instructions. That's like in women's books Cosmo,
Speaker 1: Cosmo will have like how to give hand tutorious.
Speaker 2: They would have they would have something yeah, or what
Speaker 2: would please your man or new things that you know,
Speaker 2: stuff like that.
Speaker 3: How to what is that called peg?
Speaker 1: That's just ridiculous. Don't know that. You're just.
Speaker 2: He's a real g right there, because I don't even
Speaker 2: want listen.
Speaker 1: I just found out what that was last week you
Speaker 1: just gave. But I can't believe they made a title
Speaker 1: for being gay. Listen, swing that back to you, just.
Speaker 2: Because this makes me upset every time I think of it.
Speaker 2: I'm noting my man. Listen, my man's gonna fuck me.
Speaker 2: I'm not fucking him that type of ship. I'm not
Speaker 2: inserting anything into my man. I just don't don't feel
Speaker 2: right or comfortable, and I'm not going to do it.
Speaker 2: And it's cool if you like it that and you
Speaker 2: find someone that will love to do that to you.
Speaker 2: But I didn't even like strapping on and fucking my girl,
Speaker 2: So I'm definitely not gonna fuck up a man.
Speaker 1: I told you I had to get excited the first
Speaker 1: time you did it. You thought you was like one
Speaker 1: of us.
Speaker 3: I told you.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you man, thank you jeez that you
Speaker 2: guys have that power, because I did not know what
Speaker 2: to do with that power.
Speaker 3: That was a whole lot of you. Was like whoa,
Speaker 3: it was really exciting.
Speaker 2: It was weird at one moment. At one point it
Speaker 2: was like oh ship, Like oh she liked that ship.
Speaker 2: But at the same time it was like, oh, like
Speaker 2: this is really weird.
Speaker 1: What's crazy is when you see women doing it like
Speaker 1: you know, you've seen lesbian porn and shit, they have
Speaker 1: no stroke. Oh, they just be back there like a nigga,
Speaker 1: like like a like a seventeen sixteen year old boy, right,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, just hunching on somebody like yeah,
Speaker 1: and then they be trying to look and it's like
Speaker 1: you gotta feel for it. You feel me, and you
Speaker 1: gotta have a feel for it's a feel for it.
Speaker 1: It's just weird.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yes, the rhythm, rhythm.
Speaker 1: It's an underrated rhythm, and you gotta find it sometimes,
Speaker 1: like you have to really work your best on finding it, yep.
Speaker 2: And if you can't, then that y'all are not a
Speaker 2: match because eventually, if you really, if y'all both really
Speaker 2: want to find that rhythm, you will. But if it's
Speaker 2: just like chaotic from the time you start to end
Speaker 2: and you still can't get it together, then it's just
Speaker 2: not y'all don't have that a chemistry.
Speaker 4: So you think sex is the driving factor in the relationship, No.
Speaker 2: I don't think that sex is overrated, but I agree
Speaker 2: with you. I think that sex is overrated because if
Speaker 2: you're giving me the things that I really really need
Speaker 2: and want. I'm that's like the sex is like the
Speaker 2: cherry on the top for me, Like I want, like
Speaker 2: if everything you doing everything nice, I'm just ooh, let's go.
Speaker 2: But I don't know. It's just a cherry on the
Speaker 2: top for me.
Speaker 1: But it's not the driving well because like right when
Speaker 1: you become when you get with somebody like you start
Speaker 1: figuring out more ways to be intimate with them. It
Speaker 1: don't just become reduced down to like it's weird. Because
Speaker 1: I was talking to the homegirl Nia the other day
Speaker 1: and she was saying it like she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, don't nobody got no business. Don't know, woman
Speaker 1: got no business doing wifely duties for somebody that's not
Speaker 1: their husband. And I'm like, well, what's wifey duty? She
Speaker 1: was like, oh, cooking and cleaning. I'm like, well, if
Speaker 1: you think about it, that shit is backwards. The only
Speaker 1: wifey duty is fucking like if you you know, on
Speaker 1: normal circumstances you grow up cook, your mom is showing
Speaker 1: you how to nurture your family in the future, maybe
Speaker 1: cook for your children. She's teaching you how she gives
Speaker 1: you chores so you can learn how to clean up correctly.
Speaker 1: Like you pretty much do wifey duties. If that was
Speaker 1: the case your whole life. The one thing you're not
Speaker 1: supposed to be doing is fucking. Fucking is the only
Speaker 1: wifey duties. And we're in such a weird, like parallel universe,
Speaker 1: like we're really in the upside down, just because it's
Speaker 1: like people like, well, I just want to fuck him,
Speaker 1: but I don't want to cook him clean. And I'm like, like,
Speaker 1: people hit me back off our podcast and I was
Speaker 1: like yeah. She was like, you really think we shouldn't
Speaker 1: put out And I'm like, no, bro, Like, if you
Speaker 1: want to see if this nigga fuck, go cooking some
Speaker 1: shit that's going to determine y'all. You know y'all chemistry,
Speaker 1: go clean, Like, go pick up a load of his
Speaker 1: laundry and watch him. She's like, man, that just seemed
Speaker 1: like such work. And I'm like, oh, you're talking about
Speaker 1: fucking this nigga.
Speaker 3: Yeah it wasn't.
Speaker 2: I think that they think like it's not as much work,
Speaker 2: but honestly, you're giving yourself to someone.
Speaker 3: It should be the.
Speaker 2: Old But I think they're thinking of it as working,
Speaker 2: like I'm doing all this work for what You're not,
Speaker 2: My dude, Like you're not my husband.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's really that's like I'm saying, it's changing
Speaker 1: a tire work if you've been changing tires your whole life, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't feel like changing a tire is work. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I don't feel like that.
Speaker 1: I don't feel like taking out the trash.
Speaker 2: You're giving too much like I'm doing all of this
Speaker 2: I'm giving, you know.
Speaker 1: I think that's what I think. That's what's wrong with
Speaker 1: their minds, right, I think their minds are messed up.
Speaker 1: Because if you think cooking a meal is more work
Speaker 1: than giving up your physical and soulful energy and experience,
Speaker 1: you are severely fucked up. And I know that we
Speaker 1: severely fucked up until time.
Speaker 2: You know, do y'all always what I always say, I
Speaker 2: hate it here. I always say that because everything to
Speaker 2: me is just ass backwards. Everything is just like what
Speaker 2: is going on? I can't deal with it. And sometimes
Speaker 2: that's probably why, like I just hang out with y'all
Speaker 2: and I don't really go on social media stuff like that,
Speaker 2: because I feel like once I go on social media, yeah,
Speaker 2: the whole energy just shift. My damn, because I wouldn't
Speaker 2: even know any of that was going on to fight
Speaker 2: and go look or be you.
Speaker 1: Know, we had a dope. I had a conversation with
Speaker 1: Sallas earlier today and I was telling him shout out
Speaker 1: to Salas whatever, gulse, but I was telling him, like
Speaker 1: some fun facts about content, and it's important that we're
Speaker 1: talking about this. One day of social media is the
Speaker 1: equivalent you take in enough, you taking enough content as
Speaker 1: four real days. Oh wow, think about it. On social media.
Speaker 1: You can see three motherfuckers die, you can see a
Speaker 1: motherfucker get raped. You can see a shark eater person.
Speaker 1: You could see a woman shaking her ass like you
Speaker 1: could see this diversity, and one single day you can
Speaker 1: get instructured, a lot of cook food, you could get
Speaker 1: some girls somebody arguing about learning everything in one fucking day.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. And I was so to
Speaker 1: your point. It's like when I look and I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: this shit is moving so fast, but it's not really
Speaker 1: moving fast at all, Like it feels like it's moving fast,
Speaker 1: but it's not. It's the same day, so you have
Speaker 1: less people accomplishing true goals. Everybody is just looking the
Speaker 1: part like they're accomplishing shit, but they're not really accomplishing.
Speaker 3: Anything because that you get carried away.
Speaker 4: I know, I've been on social media and I look
Speaker 4: up and it's been like two hours. So that's why
Speaker 4: I'm like, I can't even you're just scrolling. You're just
Speaker 4: on it, and that's just idle time, like you could
Speaker 4: be doing something else.
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's and it's crazy because they say you
Speaker 2: have to really be involved with it. But at the
Speaker 2: same time, if you're not putting in the work as
Speaker 2: far as like he said, working like the content and
Speaker 2: doing the things that you need to do, it's just like, Okay,
Speaker 2: you're not doing it. It don't work.
Speaker 1: No ceilings, Yeah, ceilings, bread, what's adding that Red was adding?
Speaker 1: I got you all in on the off day because
Speaker 1: it's gonna be crazy trying to create all its content.
Speaker 1: It's goin to be next level. So thank you all
Speaker 1: for working with my schedule.
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 1: I really want to pick it up, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like my leg was hurt half of the year.
Speaker 1: It's like I gotta can start controlling. I gotta start
Speaker 1: controlling the swelling because it's going to I think at
Speaker 1: this point it's going to swell forever. Really like not
Speaker 1: all the time. But I think certain things is just
Speaker 1: gonna make it swell.
Speaker 4: It's like when you you have too much salt in
Speaker 4: your ankle, swell up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but oh yeah, I just want to tell you diet.
Speaker 1: Well I've been I've been eating one time a day,
Speaker 1: like even my in and out. I had a flying Yes,
Speaker 1: a flying Dutchman is the onion, the grill onion topping autumn.
Speaker 3: Yeah, how how was you eating and holding it?
Speaker 1: Now? You just hold it like a burger.
Speaker 2: You have to be careful of that g because inflammation
Speaker 2: comes from like salt and like sugar and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: So although you didn't have the carbs or whatnot, you
Speaker 2: still are like that meat.
Speaker 1: The white people don't use no sighing.
Speaker 3: In and out BM meat, it's.
Speaker 1: In and out. Do not see?
Speaker 3: How much water are you drinking?
Speaker 1: A gallon a day?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Well I drink roughly. I drink roughly. I drink roughly
Speaker 1: eighteen ounces every hour. So if I'm up ten hours,
Speaker 1: I end up taking in one hundred and eighty ounces
Speaker 1: of water, which is a gallon.
Speaker 3: So how you feel like on that? Like, how's that
Speaker 3: been going?
Speaker 1: I lost more than twenty pounds? You know what. It
Speaker 1: gives me greater focus. Like I hear people refer to
Speaker 1: it as like an intermittent fasting. But honestly, I think
Speaker 1: I told you this. I read it in a book
Speaker 1: that Elijah Muhammad wrote called How To Eat to Live All.
Speaker 1: Like my older brother, my older Cam, this is my
Speaker 1: brother since I've been before I start rapping, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. And his younger brother, YB. That's my
Speaker 1: little brother. And if you see these niggas, these niggas
Speaker 1: skin be glowing. Cam is probably seventy. He looked like
Speaker 1: he fucking thirty six.
Speaker 3: When I seen him, his skin was glowing.
Speaker 2: It was like wow, yeah, oh yeah, his freaking skin
Speaker 2: is amazing.
Speaker 1: That nigga might be ninety seven.
Speaker 2: No, he is not that old.
Speaker 1: I tell you. The nigga looked like he's thirty. So yeah,
Speaker 1: they they made me read this book and they're the
Speaker 1: niggas that broke me off, pork. I made a bet
Speaker 1: with them that you know, I didn't grow up Muslim, right.
Speaker 1: I grew up roughly Christian, not primarily because nobody took
Speaker 1: us to church. But you know, if you're an American,
Speaker 1: you pretty much standard come with Christian values and they
Speaker 1: were telling me in the book and the Bible. They
Speaker 1: was like, yo, you're not supposed to eat pork. It
Speaker 1: says that even in the Bible. I'm like no, or
Speaker 1: don't like. I'm thinking like I'd have been to way
Speaker 1: too many Christian events and church events and ship niggas
Speaker 1: got hog malls and ship and I'm like, nigga, no way.
Speaker 1: Everybody just ain't breaking rule. He like, Nigga, I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: they just breaking the rules because of how they interpret
Speaker 1: what Jesus talked about in the New Testament. I'm like, no, sir.
Speaker 1: And he showed it to me in Leviticus and we bet.
Speaker 1: He's like, well, bet if I if I show it
Speaker 1: to you, you wanna eat port. And it's so funny
Speaker 1: because me and here used to go to Chili's every
Speaker 1: week and get like they used to have this maple
Speaker 1: apple bacon and it's these big pieces of bacon. We
Speaker 1: would just get a lot of them, just bacon ship
Speaker 1: one day of the week. And we lost that bet
Speaker 1: and me and him never ate bacon again. Me and
Speaker 1: dj Haad never ate bacon after that bet. Damn Like
Speaker 1: we lost the bet, so we never Scripture is that
Speaker 1: it's in Leviticus. I'll find it for you. But it's
Speaker 1: it's it's dope.
Speaker 2: Because listen, they're not stating it. And now I'm all
Speaker 2: that I wasn't. I didn't eat red meat for a
Speaker 2: long as time, and then when the pandemic hit, it
Speaker 2: was bored. It was bored. We started looking at the recipes.
Speaker 2: Me agent was making food every day like everything, Oh,
Speaker 2: we're gonna try it is tonight. Hey. We had fun.
Speaker 2: People was hating. We had a lot of fun doing
Speaker 2: the pandemic.
Speaker 1: We didn't well because you really get to see who
Speaker 1: you like and who you didn't like.
Speaker 3: We got to be we knew what we always.
Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying, but you really get to see
Speaker 1: how much you like somebody.
Speaker 2: That's so true.
Speaker 1: It's just you and them, and you get to see
Speaker 1: if you can exist. The pandemic broke a lot of.
Speaker 3: That's that's how That's how.
Speaker 2: Me and my man got so close because we were
Speaker 2: together all the time, that's right. So it was like, okay, wow,
Speaker 2: I think our first was your birthday when we went
Speaker 2: during the pandemic where we actually it's like fixed with
Speaker 2: people and we were still scared, but we still we
Speaker 2: was like we were like that we a airbnb and
Speaker 2: we just had a good time and wee it was good.
Speaker 2: It was it was nice.
Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk to you about boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.
Speaker 2: Talk about this, talk about it.
Speaker 1: I was looking at some shit social media and they
Speaker 1: were talking about boundaries between like a couple. I think
Speaker 1: they were married, and I'm like, I thought that was
Speaker 1: just so crazy to have a boundary between married couples.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, you know, if you think of
Speaker 1: the kind of the the idea behind boundaries using them
Speaker 1: in like this human space that we use them in,
Speaker 1: it would to it would signify that the properties are different, right,
Speaker 1: it would signify that there were two separate sets of
Speaker 1: you know, like boundaries of a property. Right. But if
Speaker 1: you guys are together, how do you set boundaries in
Speaker 1: a relationship, in a marriage, a marriage, a relationship, any
Speaker 1: of the above. Because if you playing house, y'all married, right, Like,
Speaker 1: I see that a lot right now? Oh you know
Speaker 1: what if he not married? You single?
Speaker 2: Okay, wait, so let's go into the actual what they
Speaker 2: say boundaries a line that marks the limits of an area,
Speaker 2: a divided line, or a limit of a subject. So yeah,
Speaker 2: line that marks the limits of an area.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like properties.
Speaker 3: So boundaries in a marriage, I.
Speaker 2: Mean, so personal boundaries are the limits and rules we
Speaker 2: set for ourselves within relationships.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but that don't make sense. Like this is
Speaker 1: one of those things that I'm saying, our conflicting ideas
Speaker 1: to the general concept.
Speaker 4: Of being in a relationship or being married.
Speaker 1: What's a lot of things like that, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, we're talking about this one specifically, Like how
Speaker 1: do you have personal boundaries in a true marriage or relationship?
Speaker 1: Like the point is you become one.
Speaker 2: Okay, I know you can become one, but that don't
Speaker 2: mean you lose yourself though.
Speaker 1: G I think the point is to submerge yourself into
Speaker 1: someone else. I think that's the point of the merger itself.
Speaker 2: Maybe that's why I ain't fucking married. I gotta submerge myself.
Speaker 1: Well, I think that's the point of it, right.
Speaker 2: Asking is that where I'm what I'm missing? I gotta
Speaker 2: submerge myself. You were getting ready to tell him something.
Speaker 2: You let him switch you what you were going to say?
Speaker 2: You got me drinking? I p A. I will never drink.
Speaker 1: I p A's first, it's not like a beer.
Speaker 2: It's well we're trying a beer. It's an actual it's
Speaker 2: a banana, I pa, that's why I want to try it.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, somebody say, I don't remember now.
Speaker 1: Just because Okay, so this is what you were saying.
Speaker 1: You were saying something about, you know, personal boundaries in
Speaker 1: a relationship.
Speaker 3: So I don't lose yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want to lose yourself.
Speaker 1: I think the point of a relationship or a marriage
Speaker 1: is to lose yourself.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I'm gonna tell you this, and you tell
Speaker 2: me if that means. I don't really know, so my
Speaker 2: I just give this example. So my grandparents, right, my
Speaker 2: grandpa's a really like laid back, chill dude, don't really
Speaker 2: like to go out of like that. My grandmother was
Speaker 2: more of like she liked to travels, you know, stuff
Speaker 2: like that, but she always maintained the household, do the
Speaker 2: things that he liked, like makes his favorite meals or whatever.
Speaker 2: If she's gonna go somewhere, she's packing up meal, prepping everything,
Speaker 2: make sure he has everything he needs before she leaves.
Speaker 2: But she's gonna go and he didn't care. But that
Speaker 2: was something that they self like. It was him.
Speaker 1: That's not really a boundary.
Speaker 2: Though, But I'm just saying, but it was separate lives, though.
Speaker 4: The boundary would be like, okay, so when she's out, okay, well,
Speaker 4: personal boundary against them.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 4: So I guess if she's out and she's entertaining someone
Speaker 4: else or that's that's.
Speaker 1: Not a personal boundary, And that's what I'm saying. Well,
Speaker 1: that's my point.
Speaker 4: I'd be like, don't come in the bathroom when I'm
Speaker 4: using the bathroom because I need.
Speaker 2: My Oh well, then that's a fucking boundary, think you know. Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I was so like I said, I p a.
Speaker 2: I apologize, y'all who is listening, I apologize, But no, no,
Speaker 2: that's a fucking boundary. Don't come in the bathroom when
Speaker 2: I'm in the bathroom, bro, I don't come in the
Speaker 2: bathroom when you're in the bathroom.
Speaker 1: That's like you're like nine, No, it's I always think
Speaker 1: that's the worst like perspective of a comis. I didn't
Speaker 1: do that to you, nigga, I did it to you.
Speaker 1: You're not me.
Speaker 3: I mean I don't.
Speaker 4: I don't want to. I don't want to, you know,
Speaker 4: ship while you're in the bathroom.
Speaker 3: I don't want to do that.
Speaker 1: He's putting your vagina in his mouth.
Speaker 4: My space to have my own time to do that
Speaker 4: with you around, you know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: So let me get this. Obviously, we're not talking about
Speaker 1: him coming and sitting there and talk to you.
Speaker 4: Because but there's where they want to come.
Speaker 2: Let's not talk to you while you're trying to get out.
Speaker 3: I've done that, though.
Speaker 2: I want to go talk to you, you know, I
Speaker 2: want to come in there while you're taking a douce.
Speaker 2: I'm not coming in there while my dude is taking
Speaker 2: the duce to talk about that. It's something that I
Speaker 2: need to explain him because he's about to jump in
Speaker 2: the shower after or something.
Speaker 1: I mean being that if he crossed that boundary, Are
Speaker 1: you gonna break up with him?
Speaker 2: No, I've never I'm not gonna break it with him
Speaker 2: because of it's a human.
Speaker 3: You gotta ship. There's boundaries with money?
Speaker 1: Is there really boundaries with money?
Speaker 4: I mean there there are some situations where you know
Speaker 4: it's like, Okay, this.
Speaker 3: Is my account.
Speaker 1: That's not a bound like, don't touch my account. But
Speaker 1: I think we're having situations where we're trying to coexist
Speaker 1: in spaces that we're supposed to.
Speaker 2: They're seeing like, like I said, they say, personal boundaries
Speaker 2: are rules ourselves within relationship. Yes, you don't.
Speaker 1: You really don't, Like you're not in a relationship.
Speaker 2: Person, How do you have a rule?
Speaker 3: What what rule do you have in your relationship?
Speaker 2: I don't have a rule.
Speaker 3: Do you not have a rule? Okay?
Speaker 2: I don't know what you mean. Okay, Like, okay, I
Speaker 2: give a rule, like okay, if I go out, I
Speaker 2: ain't supposed to be coming in, like the fucking son
Speaker 2: should not be beating me? Like the fuck that's what
Speaker 2: you But I'm saying, I don't have.
Speaker 1: Rules, Like I was talking. Rule, That's what I said.
Speaker 1: I was talking to somebody was like, well, my boundary
Speaker 1: if somebody is not cheating, that's a.
Speaker 3: Part of a relation.
Speaker 2: I know what dislikes and likes.
Speaker 3: Are not cheating. My boundaries are not cheating.
Speaker 1: I was like that. I was like, okay, I think
Speaker 1: that goes against the consensus of a relations relationship, of
Speaker 1: a committed situation. So is that really a boundary? Like, well,
Speaker 1: you know sometimes you know some girls, I'm like, I
Speaker 1: don't think no girls like people cheating.
Speaker 3: There could be sexual boundaries.
Speaker 4: There could be you know, boundaries where like you know,
Speaker 4: the woman she doesn't want anal sex. You know there's
Speaker 4: a boundary I don't or you know, for a man
Speaker 4: even though you should know.
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Where we're at.
Speaker 2: Now, no, so you might have to think, but you know,
Speaker 2: you think about it. Where we're at right now, you may.
Speaker 3: Have to tell.
Speaker 1: So you have person you're in.
Speaker 3: A relationship, don't touch my ass because may.
Speaker 2: Don't want yeah, or some crazy shit like you know
Speaker 2: you know that your women like women before she's by,
Speaker 2: but yeah, you want to try to make it to
Speaker 2: where you want a threesome.
Speaker 1: It's not a bound like I'm saying.
Speaker 2: It happens, that's not but that's.
Speaker 1: Not I think we're in this weird space we are
Speaker 1: to where it's like some of this ship is ridiculous,
Speaker 1: Like come on, like listen, I bounded, Like what kind
Speaker 1: of boundary?
Speaker 2: I don't honestly, I can't really think of a boundary
Speaker 2: like that. I just like I said, like, you know,
Speaker 2: when you're with someone what they like and dislike or
Speaker 2: whatever like that, You know what I mean? So I
Speaker 2: mean you just try most times.
Speaker 4: I mean you can have a boundary if I mean,
Speaker 4: you're not living with the person you guys are dating,
Speaker 4: and you're saying, you know.
Speaker 2: Exactly, don't pop up my house for setting that boundary
Speaker 2: right there. Yeah, you don't know, like it said this
Speaker 2: personal don't come out, don't look hey, listen, whatever your
Speaker 2: personal rules are.
Speaker 1: That So then at that point, you're not trying to
Speaker 1: become one? Why do you want a relationship at that point?
Speaker 1: Is it just for your time?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Is it just for your enjoyment when you feel like
Speaker 1: being bothered?
Speaker 2: Right? And most of the time when that that's yeah,
Speaker 2: when you you don't think about that. But when you
Speaker 2: think about it now you're like, did I fucking did
Speaker 2: I want a relationship?
Speaker 4: I'm telling you no, don't show up here, no, don't
Speaker 4: come more.
Speaker 2: I'm mad, you know, you know stuff.
Speaker 3: Like now I don't care, come.
Speaker 1: No. But I'm saying like, at that point, how are
Speaker 1: you trying to become one by still becoming yourself? Like
Speaker 1: what's the And I think this is all part of
Speaker 1: the same ship, right, Like I think everybody's playing to
Speaker 1: lose You mean by that, it's like that's why you're
Speaker 1: scared to lose yourself. You like, well, if I lose
Speaker 1: myself if we felt, if we don't work, then I
Speaker 1: lost my.
Speaker 3: Son and I lost myself.
Speaker 1: How could you lose yourself? Like, if you really want
Speaker 1: to be a wife, you could never lose yourself. How
Speaker 1: could you? Like, how is that possible? Like is this
Speaker 1: the goal? Like who goes into the game and doesn't
Speaker 1: shoot be cause they're like, oh, you know what, I
Speaker 1: might not make it, you know what I'm saying, or
Speaker 1: let me let me you know, you don't focus on
Speaker 1: your follow through, so you shoot the shot and you
Speaker 1: you're so busy trying to chase the rebound that you
Speaker 1: did miss the damn shot on purpose trying to get
Speaker 1: the rebound. And I think that's how like Britt, when
Speaker 1: you talk sometimes specifically you in this case, right, I
Speaker 1: think you going to relationships worried about missing the shot.
Speaker 2: No, you're right, so you're right, Like I'm not.
Speaker 1: Like some kind of I don't like when no seller's
Speaker 1: go into relationships. But I just was thinking about boundaries
Speaker 1: and I was like like, yo, what's the fear? Like
Speaker 1: these are really simple rules. I remember I was on
Speaker 1: Live and I was telling the girls like, yeah, well,
Speaker 1: just don't put out She's like, ain't nobody gonna wait?
Speaker 1: I'm like the wrong people not gonna wait.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't, I wilsh I definitely wouldn't worry about
Speaker 2: like that situation like that, Like if I don't want
Speaker 2: to fuck on you and you want to hang out,
Speaker 2: if you want to hang out, we're gonna hang out.
Speaker 2: And if not, you want some other shit, then whatever.
Speaker 2: But you're not gonna make me feel any type of
Speaker 2: way because I don't want to give you no vagina.
Speaker 2: You can go over there, but I don't girls that
Speaker 2: will give you.
Speaker 1: But I don't think nobody who really want to fuck
Speaker 1: with you that would matter.
Speaker 2: That's why I don't care.
Speaker 1: I think you'll start really filtering. We had this conversation
Speaker 1: about again bringing it back. Attention and connection. There used
Speaker 1: to be exclusive agents of care, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like if somebody paid attention, you knew they cared about you.
Speaker 1: If somebody connected with you, you knew they cared about you.
Speaker 1: And that is far gone. It's it's attention and connection
Speaker 1: are literally like McDonald's. They on every corner, so eventually
Speaker 1: where down and you're not even eating food no more.
Speaker 1: It's not a part of care. Anymore.
Speaker 4: Right, So you can reach everybody anytime.
Speaker 1: Entirely to accession.
Speaker 2: Remember before you would see somebody at a spot somewhere.
Speaker 2: Remember you see somebody, and then if you didn't see
Speaker 2: them at the next spot or somewhere, you wouldn't see
Speaker 2: them no more. Now you can find them on social media.
Speaker 2: If you don't even know they handler, you can search
Speaker 2: the event that they were at and you might see
Speaker 2: a picture.
Speaker 1: That she or you might know a nigga that she
Speaker 1: was with, that he was with, and.
Speaker 2: It's right there, bam now in your DM, like damn,
Speaker 2: I saw you the other night, And.
Speaker 1: So at that point, that's what I'm saying. It's like
Speaker 1: all of these things, like even that concept like if
Speaker 1: somebody just want to fuck on you, they don't really
Speaker 1: just fuck.
Speaker 3: With you, right, they just yeah, they just.
Speaker 1: Want you become serviceable, not only me wrong. You can
Speaker 1: get them some pussy and they could fuck with you later.
Speaker 1: But most likely, like we had this conversation, men used
Speaker 1: to get married just to have consistent pussy, like pussy
Speaker 1: would soul like rare, you know what I mean, and
Speaker 1: scoured after it was special, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: You either was gonna marry a bitch or pay a prostitute,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. That was it, and now
Speaker 1: you have this like this middle ground. Like I said,
Speaker 1: where it came from that seventies, that woman independence movement
Speaker 1: where white women was trying to get the same pay
Speaker 1: as their husbands. And it turned into we want the
Speaker 1: same pay as men, to we want we are the
Speaker 1: same as men. And then like I've said this a
Speaker 1: million times to y'all, Right, it's like men and women
Speaker 1: are not equal. Like women are greater literally right, like
Speaker 1: you could bring like literally we could have sex and
Speaker 1: it takes me two seconds. I can nut and you
Speaker 1: could hatch a child and bring a child into the universe. Nigga,
Speaker 1: we are different.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So the.
Speaker 1: Way I can treat my body versus the way you
Speaker 1: should treat your body, I don't care what nobody preached.
Speaker 1: The way we treat our bodies should be completely different. Look,
Speaker 1: your body is completely different and special. This motherfucker is nothing.
Speaker 1: It's meant to be beat up on. It's meant to
Speaker 1: put three hundred pounds on shoulders. It's meant to just
Speaker 1: busting up and keep on moving and not y'all. Shit
Speaker 1: is meant to like bring life. Sure, why the fuck
Speaker 1: would you step down to a man's standard, like we're lowered.
Speaker 1: That's but again, that's not a compliment. It's a responsibility.
Speaker 1: And you don't you know, yes, not a negatives like
Speaker 1: you and you treat it like a ship.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you just treat it like ship. Yeah, you just
Speaker 1: treat it like shit. And it's like, I'm not complimenting
Speaker 1: you by saying you greater. I mean, I guess that's
Speaker 1: a compliment if it matters to be greater or lesser
Speaker 1: than somebody, But I'm saying your responsibility on the planet
Speaker 1: Earth it's more important.
Speaker 3: It is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, it takes both of us to make
Speaker 1: a child an inception, but all we could do an
Speaker 1: inception is make a child, and then you have to
Speaker 1: do ten months of the fucking work. So if you
Speaker 1: treat your body like I treat minds, we got a problem.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's one thing to treat the interior of
Speaker 1: this car. Certain, it's another thing to fuck with the
Speaker 1: engine or the transmission or that we're in or any
Speaker 1: of the drive trained components. So it's it's it bothers
Speaker 1: me because like we're so out of whack, right, and
Speaker 1: people obviously make me you know, the villain, that the
Speaker 1: anti hero whatever. But it's like I ain't telling somebody
Speaker 1: something that ain't like this the truth, like it's a fact.
Speaker 3: Just you just put it out there and it's very.
Speaker 2: Real.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: You know why they get you know why they get
Speaker 1: nobody pregnant because I think, like other colors in the
Speaker 1: in the in the world, like if I got you pregnant,
Speaker 1: we getting married because I'll be damn you fuck up
Speaker 1: my kid. M you know what I'm saying. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna let you do that. We're gonna get me a doner. Fuck.
Speaker 1: We don't even love each other, just like anybody else,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. We're gonna make this work
Speaker 1: because we thene fucked up already. So that's why I'm
Speaker 1: at permanently, Like if I was to mess up, like yo,
Speaker 1: we're getting married. Whatever I got going on is irrelevant.
Speaker 1: We getting married, Yeah, I mean, because I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: let you raise my seed by yourself. If you ever notice,
Speaker 1: like women don't, I mean, I think y'all want I
Speaker 1: think women want children for company. Men look at children
Speaker 1: as a extension of lineage legacy. Ye, I mean air
Speaker 1: y'all don't be doing that. That's why y'all don't name
Speaker 1: kids after y'allself. Brick, you be MATHI move, you name
Speaker 1: your daughter little Britt, you'd be like, I don't want
Speaker 1: another little meat. This little bitch is how to control all.
Speaker 2: My girls that have little girls. I always say that
Speaker 2: that's their mini means, and I always say I'm so
Speaker 2: happy I to have them mini me.
Speaker 1: And even when they say that, they be thinking, they
Speaker 1: be just like this motherfucker. Because mostly you watch people
Speaker 1: try to discipline themselves out of their children. That's the
Speaker 1: fucking funniest shit they trying. People be trying to discipline
Speaker 1: themselves out of their children, and you be just looking
Speaker 1: and they be like this, motherfucking I be looking like this, motherfucker.
Speaker 1: You you motherfucker, You know what I mean? And they
Speaker 1: never see that like that. They never see it like that.
Speaker 1: But I just so many weird terms are being manipulated
Speaker 1: to make people feel good about every dumb ass thing
Speaker 1: they're doing. And boundaries is one of those terms.
Speaker 3: It just make people boundaries in the relationship.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's like that goes against the concept of a
Speaker 1: committed relationship. It goes against the concept of a marriage.
Speaker 4: So is that I guess that's where you set boundaries
Speaker 4: during dating.
Speaker 1: But at that point are you really setting boundaries? I
Speaker 1: guess you could, yeah, because because you're a separate person.
Speaker 4: Saying okay, this is what this is what I want,
Speaker 4: and then you everybody has a decision to decide I
Speaker 4: want to.
Speaker 3: Move forward like with this relationship or.
Speaker 4: We're dating to talk to see if we want to.
Speaker 1: But what what what boundaries if you're if you're dating
Speaker 1: or courting correctly right, because those are two different, but
Speaker 1: I guess we interchange to use them. If you're like
Speaker 1: what would be a boundary in dating?
Speaker 2: There's a lot like what like what like A just said,
Speaker 2: don't pop up in my house?
Speaker 1: If somebody here dating and courting, do they pop up
Speaker 1: at your house?
Speaker 2: You don't know? There's motherfuckers that probably was in the neighborhood.
Speaker 3: They're not eve gonna know where I live. If I'm dating,
Speaker 3: you would.
Speaker 1: Think like why do people know what? You know? Where
Speaker 1: you live.
Speaker 2: Is a boundary.
Speaker 1: But this is my point, we're getting out of fucking like,
Speaker 1: why the fuck would you be telling somebody that not
Speaker 1: pop up at your house? If you if you don't
Speaker 1: trust them enough to not pop up you out. Why
Speaker 1: the fuck would you tell them where you live.
Speaker 2: Hey, I'm just saying, you know, but the point.
Speaker 1: I can't give you a gun. I can't give you
Speaker 1: a gun.
Speaker 3: Don't you might, that's what.
Speaker 1: That's okay, walk down the.
Speaker 2: Streets, fuck up. They might fuck up. Like you might
Speaker 2: say most of the time, like let's just go back
Speaker 2: whenever somewhere where I'm at.
Speaker 3: What an event?
Speaker 2: Well, you can't say that because anybody can go to
Speaker 2: an event. A flyer is a flyer, even know you
Speaker 2: were there.
Speaker 1: That shouldn't be a boundary that you said, I want
Speaker 1: to like you say that to people like.
Speaker 4: Hey, don't I'm not going to say that, like you
Speaker 4: don't pop up at the I'm not going to say that.
Speaker 3: But would a boundary be like let me know if
Speaker 3: you're coming.
Speaker 2: No, that's not even a boundary because you would want
Speaker 2: to know that too. I was about saying, what if
Speaker 2: someone said some shit like you know, like who is
Speaker 2: that they seeing you out and they like ask you
Speaker 2: questions ship.
Speaker 4: And you're saying you're saying, I mean and you know what,
Speaker 4: I have actually been with somebody and I have said,
Speaker 4: don't ask me no question.
Speaker 2: Ship, Yah man, you told him no.
Speaker 3: I mean when somebody I was dating that's X, tell
Speaker 3: man that you can't.
Speaker 2: They want to know. They want to know girl, and
Speaker 2: I'm finding this out.
Speaker 1: They want to know.
Speaker 3: He wasn't gonna ask me about it.
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck. I'm gonna take you.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's super interested then and invested in right y'all
Speaker 1: be in courting for six months and you see him
Speaker 1: hugging and kissing some girl, You're not like, who is that?
Speaker 2: You're definitely asking who the fuck is that? How you doing?
Speaker 1: So I'm saying, are boundaries rooted in insecurities or boundaries
Speaker 1: rooted in the fact of Are they rooted in securities
Speaker 1: or they rooted in trauma? Like why do you I
Speaker 1: think they're rooted in trauma like a failure. But again,
Speaker 1: it's like who goes up taking shots worried about missing?
Speaker 1: Like if you missed the first seven shots, but then
Speaker 1: you might go ten for twenty you feel me like
Speaker 1: you have to shoot the ball. But if you like, oh,
Speaker 1: I miss the first seven shots and now you're going
Speaker 1: to the game, like, don't pass it to me there,
Speaker 1: don't pass it to me here. I can't shoot right here.
Speaker 1: I can't shoot right here. Guess what, It's gonna be
Speaker 1: tough for you to have a great game. It's gonna
Speaker 1: be tough for you to have a great game.
Speaker 4: And that's why getting back out there dating was like
Speaker 4: big for you know, that.
Speaker 1: Was big for her.
Speaker 2: That was that was big for.
Speaker 1: Me because you was traumatized.
Speaker 2: I was very traumatized. I talked about it. You laughed
Speaker 2: at me when I almost cried on this Like.
Speaker 1: I definitely laughed, but I didn't laugh at you, like
Speaker 1: I didn't laugh at your pain.
Speaker 2: It's just like I know you like you.
Speaker 4: You got it well because it was just because laughing.
Speaker 1: It's not laughing at I wasn't like cackle. It wasn't
Speaker 1: like laughing. But it was just surprising that terminator actually
Speaker 1: have emotions.
Speaker 2: To have feelings and emotion.
Speaker 1: Brit is the fucking terminator.
Speaker 2: Listen, let me tell you if.
Speaker 1: I want to fuck on a nigga, I want to
Speaker 1: funk on the nigga.
Speaker 4: No this, brit even though you guys even knowing six
Speaker 4: point long time, this bridge is different from when we
Speaker 4: first met.
Speaker 1: Six points different than brid two point.
Speaker 3: Oh, very very rich. I can't wait for ten because
Speaker 3: y'all not ready.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. If all the software
Speaker 1: updates rooted in progress and evolution or they rooted in
Speaker 1: trauma to where you literally gonna get in your way
Speaker 1: of operating properly.
Speaker 2: Okay, so I've left that trauma alone, Like that's why?
Speaker 1: What was the trauma you left alone?
Speaker 2: It's a lot of different things. Give me too, but
Speaker 2: that's a whole show.
Speaker 1: Well give me, give me too.
Speaker 2: I have a lot of trauma, man, Like, what's the worst.
Speaker 1: Thing that you feel like happened to you with a guy?
Speaker 1: He was like, I cannot believe this happened to me.
Speaker 1: That's that was so unique within the landscape of motherfucker's
Speaker 1: Dayton that you ain't seen a movie, TV show or
Speaker 1: nothing that the same shit happened into someone. So then
Speaker 1: why the fuck would you be trauma traumatized on things
Speaker 1: that's happening in traumatized?
Speaker 2: It hurt me, like the person, the person I was
Speaker 2: in love with. I gave my you know everything too
Speaker 2: what happened, But.
Speaker 3: Speak it out, let it, Okay. I know it's already released.
Speaker 2: I mean it's been released, but I don't know. I
Speaker 2: just had a lot of trust issues. I feel like
Speaker 2: a lot of the well not even a lot of them,
Speaker 2: because I haven't had many relationships, but the relationships that
Speaker 2: I did have, Like, I just feel like.
Speaker 1: Was that the one you was telling me where you
Speaker 1: went to the club and the girls at the club
Speaker 1: with him and he was at the club with the.
Speaker 2: Girl and oh shit, that was yeah he was there.
Speaker 2: Yeah that was one. That's the same one.
Speaker 3: That's serious.
Speaker 1: But this is my point, like right, and this is
Speaker 1: what I'll be telling Red, because why are you taking
Speaker 1: your funky ass to the club In a relationship, Like
Speaker 1: some of this ship, we have to get to a
Speaker 1: space to where we stopped being, we stopped wanting it all,
Speaker 1: we choose and again part of the.
Speaker 2: Relationship. So maybe that's a boundary and rule for you.
Speaker 1: It's not a boundary or rule.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying that's for you because you're saying.
Speaker 1: I'm asking you, why would you go to a place
Speaker 1: people strangers?
Speaker 2: Bro?
Speaker 1: You can hang out a thousand people, Like why would
Speaker 1: you go to Hell to watch a football game? Bro?
Speaker 1: They have a thousand fucking other places that.
Speaker 2: You don't dream, You don't party like that, you don't, I.
Speaker 1: Guess guess why guess fucking why, that's guess why, guess
Speaker 1: why you make bad decisions on top of bad decisions,
Speaker 1: Why the fu?
Speaker 2: You may go for a birth like right now, we
Speaker 2: don't club at all, so if you do, it's for
Speaker 2: we're celebrating Christ.
Speaker 1: Like drinking is not some kind of fun even talking
Speaker 1: about it. But you missing.
Speaker 3: Celebrate a birthday.
Speaker 2: If you hit me.
Speaker 1: As a grown ass man, I'm not having no fucking
Speaker 1: birthday party clubs. You're missing the point because you're so
Speaker 1: busy defending something you hold on to that's cast nothing
Speaker 1: but trauma in your life. The club has literally been
Speaker 1: the place of nothing but traumatic. Experience is whether you
Speaker 1: understand you poison yourself in there and meet strangers and
Speaker 1: throw your life away.
Speaker 3: Well, I don't really hook up with guys from clubs.
Speaker 2: Of course, you know, we don't all the time.
Speaker 1: Of course you have.
Speaker 3: You're not being a relationship with anybody, but.
Speaker 1: You have literally gave yourself away to people you met
Speaker 1: at the club.
Speaker 3: I never actually hooked up with anybody.
Speaker 1: No, you've never met, no knowing. But you missing a
Speaker 1: point because okay, you're right, you're not. I have met
Speaker 1: I have met guy and then y'all hung out. That's
Speaker 1: not the point. Again, Again, you're missing the point of
Speaker 1: the fact, right. The fact is it wasn't.
Speaker 4: But I knew that they were not the relationship type
Speaker 4: of person that I wanted to be with because I
Speaker 4: met them in the club.
Speaker 3: I never would have.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you don't. But you don't understand what happens, right,
Speaker 1: What happens in that situation is now when you finding
Speaker 1: me the decent guy, you start comparing them to the
Speaker 1: fucked up niggas you had before.
Speaker 2: No, yes, not comparing nobody. That's that has been my growth. No,
Speaker 2: I used to I don't compare any.
Speaker 1: Stop argument for two seconds, I know, but just listen
Speaker 1: to these hardcore facts. Just these are facts. One, yes,
Speaker 1: you have you both met people in the club and
Speaker 1: games and pussy problem to one that you're missing a point.
Speaker 1: You're missing the point of things that I'm telling you.
Speaker 1: Why a club causes trauma. It's a traumatizing thing that
Speaker 1: we have normalized into a space that we think is fun.
Speaker 1: That's why you have to poison yourself to do it.
Speaker 1: Drinking is poisoning yourself. I'm not knocking alcohol.
Speaker 3: Like everybody to drinks, but.
Speaker 1: You're missing a point drink, just like just like everybody
Speaker 1: don't go to the crack spot to buy a crack,
Speaker 1: but most people buying crack. I used to go hang
Speaker 1: out at the crackspot with Miamis. But it's a crack spot, right,
Speaker 1: So I'm not knocking you, right, Listen to what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You literally go to a place you poison yourself to
Speaker 1: enhance having like it's so you don't have a conscious
Speaker 1: about the things going on, right, that's the point of it.
Speaker 1: It's for people and strangers to meet. That's the that's
Speaker 1: the creation of the establishment. So why the fuck if
Speaker 1: you met a person, right, and you have a person,
Speaker 1: why would you go to the place where strangers meet
Speaker 1: each other? And it's because you're holding on to something
Speaker 1: that doesn't make sense. I understand. It's not about it
Speaker 1: if you think it's fun or not. Like Seven Street cripping,
Speaker 1: being a game bag hand on the seven is fun
Speaker 1: to me, but I lost a lot of fucking friends.
Speaker 1: That don't mean it's not a traumatizing spot that I
Speaker 1: go back to. But I'm also not delusional thinking that
Speaker 1: it's someplace that's all fun. Like I have not convinced myself,
Speaker 1: even though more days than not it's fun. On the
Speaker 1: seven it was fun. I made money.
Speaker 4: It's not fun anymore.
Speaker 1: I made money. I made money, I have my child,
Speaker 1: my lifelong friends. But it's trauma, jail, people going to
Speaker 1: you know, getting shot at, friends getting shot, friends going
Speaker 1: to prison, friends dying right fucking there. So I am
Speaker 1: not confused on it. So I don't go there with
Speaker 1: the mentality of I understand what it represents, and when
Speaker 1: I go there, I go there for that person. It's
Speaker 1: like I don't go to soul for new I don't
Speaker 1: go to Soulful for nutrition. I go to Soulful to
Speaker 1: think about the struggle of black people in this country.
Speaker 4: I can't believe that people are really going to go
Speaker 4: to the club and think that they're, oh, I'm gonna
Speaker 4: find somebody that I'm.
Speaker 1: People go to the club all all that.
Speaker 3: Most people they're going, most.
Speaker 1: People are open. So this is the worst part.
Speaker 2: You can meet somebody, But to think like, okay, well
Speaker 2: I'm you know, I'm going to find my husband.
Speaker 1: Then why the fuck else would you be going?
Speaker 2: You know, the younger most times if you club it.
Speaker 2: Most times when you're clubbing, you're younger. You're going out,
Speaker 2: and that's what you're doing.
Speaker 1: You're going out, so you're just going out to throw
Speaker 1: away your life time experience.
Speaker 2: You what I say before, yolo is not really when
Speaker 2: we're younger, you say yolo.
Speaker 1: When you get you realized life could be long. That
Speaker 1: that life you said you only live once, but every
Speaker 1: bad ass decision you make can make that life long.
Speaker 1: And lord knows if you're wrong. You had to double
Speaker 1: back with the same dumb ass shit you went through,
Speaker 1: and you take that same dumb ass trauma into the
Speaker 1: next lifetime. See, they say you only live once, so
Speaker 1: they say, but we don't know what this motherfucker is,
Speaker 1: so you gotta live every day like you possibly might
Speaker 1: be here tomorrow, just might. And a lot of times
Speaker 1: we feel like, oh fun lies on the other side
Speaker 1: of when we don't make oh fun lies on, Like
Speaker 1: if I didn't try cocaine, I might have missed out
Speaker 1: on some fun. No, I didn't.
Speaker 2: No, But everybody has their own definition of they're fun like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but fun but fun but fun and happiness are cheap.
Speaker 1: They're like cheap like when because you.
Speaker 2: Don't know most times, you don't need anything to have
Speaker 2: fun most.
Speaker 1: Times, or to be happy. Right, But but we have
Speaker 1: convinced ourselves that we do. So we go to a
Speaker 1: place where we poison ourselves to go there, right, We
Speaker 1: poison ourselves literally. And I'm not talking shit about I mean,
Speaker 1: I mean.
Speaker 3: You know you've been to clubs.
Speaker 2: You've been to clubs. You just go to clubs.
Speaker 3: You didn't drink.
Speaker 1: And I watched a bunch of people be poisoned. And
Speaker 1: then they acting and being dumb, look like they're halfway
Speaker 1: to death leaning over on you, right, they are looking
Speaker 1: like zombies. And then they be all, I'm not.
Speaker 2: Going no club because he would sit there people I
Speaker 2: say some deep.
Speaker 1: Ship while you I'm not gonna say nothing there. I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even dare talk to a drunk person.
Speaker 2: No, you don't have to be drunk.
Speaker 1: If somebody is, if somebody drinking, I'm not talking to.
Speaker 2: Everybody is not embarrassing when they.
Speaker 1: Every last person breathing air is embarrassing when they're poisoned.
Speaker 2: You of course you don't drink, so you're probably like
Speaker 2: you've probably picking apart everything.
Speaker 1: It's not picking apart. They're not themselves. That's the point.
Speaker 1: They don't even have the simple things as batter No, that.
Speaker 2: Them being drunk might actually be themselves. They say, what
Speaker 2: do they say about the drunk? Look?
Speaker 1: Wo when I tell you when I was, when I
Speaker 1: was just telling people just pass bad advice and bad expersons,
Speaker 1: that's one of them. People might be themselves when they drunk,
Speaker 1: when they poison themselves, you might be your real self,
Speaker 1: they say, like.
Speaker 2: You speak your real self whatever, like a drug, a.
Speaker 1: Drug mind speaks.
Speaker 4: So to say that with them voka goggles you.
Speaker 1: See, but you so, you're so, you're saying you so.
Speaker 1: In other words, you're saying people really be wholes, but
Speaker 1: not being a drunk is how they keep it in.
Speaker 2: That's not what she said?
Speaker 1: Is that? Roughly an idea?
Speaker 2: That's what you said?
Speaker 1: Oh godly right? Like you're saying like not, you know,
Speaker 1: like you're really a whole, but you be fighting when
Speaker 1: you sober, but then you drink, your true wholeness come out.
Speaker 2: What I can't remember why I said, damn, ship, he
Speaker 2: broke down the different holes. I gotta look at that, damn.
Speaker 2: But that was funny.
Speaker 1: I got that riding.
Speaker 3: Drunks.
Speaker 1: You did well. We we we we started with the
Speaker 1: conversation of why, like why would you take your mate?
Speaker 1: And I've talked to about this, like I've talked to
Speaker 1: you about this. Why would you take your spouse to
Speaker 1: a fucking club.
Speaker 2: I'm not taking my dudes to a club. He crazy?
Speaker 1: Why are you going in the clubs? Why are you
Speaker 1: doing these things if you have a spouse and these.
Speaker 3: Are some of it. That was the first time.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it. I'm saying that's not the point though, right,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying the fracture things because it's not specifically
Speaker 1: about but it's not fun.
Speaker 2: Just want it's.
Speaker 1: Not just stop saying stop staying stop, because that's that's
Speaker 1: the same reason why niggas cheats. Sometimes you just want
Speaker 1: to He wanted to come. No, they the point we
Speaker 1: never want to come.
Speaker 2: We don't know going.
Speaker 1: That's because he's smart, Like I'm gonna go watch my bitch.
Speaker 2: That's what it was. He had watch oh ship. I
Speaker 2: mean I didn't find out so after why do I
Speaker 2: want to go? If he think you gotta watch me,
Speaker 2: He's just not gonna let me go, not like no,
Speaker 2: not going like.
Speaker 3: He said, Why would I Why would be stupid?
Speaker 1: Never talked to clubs about this in my life and
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 2: Exactly what you're saying.
Speaker 3: That makes sense. Perfect, you don't want to go.
Speaker 2: He didn't want to go, but he was like, no,
Speaker 2: you think you want by yourself.
Speaker 1: The club is a traumatic experience for ninety percent of
Speaker 1: the people who go. They just don't know what trauma is.
Speaker 3: Not a club, like, he's not it's.
Speaker 1: Not, it's not he's a club. There's no such thing
Speaker 1: as he.
Speaker 2: Does not really, it's not really special occasions he drink.
Speaker 1: You know, people who ninety nine percent of people who
Speaker 1: don't enjoy the club don't drink. There's one percent of
Speaker 1: people who don't drink that actually enjoy the club, and
Speaker 1: they enjoy fucking bitches. Don't nobody go? Don't know. Women
Speaker 1: will tell you they go to the club to hear music.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you the facts. I'm not giving you something.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm not hating, like I'm not hating because I
Speaker 1: don't like it.
Speaker 2: Girls stop going to the club.
Speaker 1: God damn y'all go to the club. Every girl said,
Speaker 1: I want to go to the club because they got
Speaker 1: drinks or you could have drinks at home. I want
Speaker 1: to go to the clubs they got music when you
Speaker 1: can have music at home. Why want all that, right,
Speaker 1: But then the thing is, it don't matter why you're
Speaker 1: in the club. It matters why every nigga in the
Speaker 1: club is there, right, And that's the point if you
Speaker 1: don't accept that, like like, we can want to go
Speaker 1: to a park, right to just have a good time,
Speaker 1: but this white man could come into the park like
Speaker 1: I'm going to murder niggas. So if you don't care
Speaker 1: about what else is going on and what the intenses
Speaker 1: of people that are in the vicinity in those boundaries
Speaker 1: that we you know, falsely using relationships or but the
Speaker 1: but the but the boundaries of a park, if you
Speaker 1: don't care why nobody else is going fimi, you might
Speaker 1: find yourself in a lot of dumb ship. And I
Speaker 1: think that's why I said, as much as you feel
Speaker 1: like the club was this fantastic experience and you have
Speaker 1: fond memories of it, that's like I got fond memories equipment.
Speaker 1: I do like most of the days it was fun.
Speaker 2: Those moments where you're like, girl, remember we went here
Speaker 2: or there? But you're right, I mean, after why you'd
Speaker 2: be like there, you know what, be.
Speaker 1: There the same trauma, the same bullshit, the same and
Speaker 1: you the same motherfucker.
Speaker 2: What the fuck are you still here?
Speaker 1: Nigga?
Speaker 2: I've been going for three three and a half years.
Speaker 2: As I come back, this nigga still damn you still here?
Speaker 1: Yes he is? You thought he was playing?
Speaker 2: I thought, I guess not.
Speaker 1: You thought the nigga was playing, didn't you know?
Speaker 3: I just told Bred On the way over here. I'm like,
Speaker 3: what clubs is going on?
Speaker 2: I have actually no idea, girl, I am out the
Speaker 2: little you know. I had the best time of my
Speaker 2: life at the Winery though.
Speaker 4: I just saw some it's some club in Hollywood.
Speaker 3: I had to figure it out because it's a couple
Speaker 3: of them. But I just seen.
Speaker 4: Some videos, some photos for one that looked really fun.
Speaker 4: I just want to go and see, like what kind
Speaker 4: of music.
Speaker 3: Not like like I know what they're playing.
Speaker 2: I know what music they're playing, but I want to
Speaker 2: see because the last time I was in the club.
Speaker 4: They don't dance. It's just more so everybody sitting down
Speaker 4: looking at each other.
Speaker 2: And when you go to the older crowd, like like
Speaker 2: the TG three, like like thirty five and older, the
Speaker 2: motherfuckers still party. They still dan't. They still you know,
Speaker 2: they still mingle, but they come from that air.
Speaker 3: You're about to bring that dance back to.
Speaker 1: The irony? Is the coolest thing about clubs is gone? Yes,
Speaker 1: the thing that made it innocent and kind of okay
Speaker 1: for like twenty thirty forty one hundred fucking years. However
Speaker 1: long nightclub's been going, maybe seventy what's dancing? And guess
Speaker 1: the first thing.
Speaker 3: That left rancing?
Speaker 2: That sucks it really.
Speaker 1: Because niggas never stopped going because you know why, because
Speaker 1: no fucking body was going to dance. It was always
Speaker 1: a lie in the first place. You know, that was
Speaker 1: just a liar. That was a lie.
Speaker 2: You told you to get close to the women.
Speaker 1: You want to get on some masks exactly. He was
Speaker 1: trying to get the vibe and we went.
Speaker 2: For We went to dance like I used to carry
Speaker 2: my scringey with me and my brush of my damn
Speaker 2: purse because I'm gonna come I already knew I'm gonna
Speaker 2: come in there in my hair like fuck it up.
Speaker 2: My shit was gonna be fucked up by the end
Speaker 2: the night. Dance all night, I guess all night.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But again, like I might go into a crack
Speaker 1: spot to watch the super Bowl for real, like I've
Speaker 1: went to my homeboys Crackspot and watched the Super Bowl.
Speaker 1: But if the police raid, I'd be hard pressed to
Speaker 1: go in there and say, hey, you know, I see
Speaker 1: customers coming in and out buying cracking. I'm watching the
Speaker 1: game like nothing going on, and then the police rad
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I came to watch the game.
Speaker 2: You going to jail.
Speaker 1: Yep, you going to jail, going to jail. I don't
Speaker 1: care why you went. I don't care if you went
Speaker 1: to dance. I don't care if you went to just drink.
Speaker 1: I don't care if you want to just hear music.
Speaker 1: I don't care if you want to celebrate your fucking
Speaker 1: funky ass friend birthday. The niggas are there to hunt.
Speaker 4: But we just because they're there to hunt don't mean
Speaker 4: you know it's going to celebrate our friend.
Speaker 3: Leave us alone. We're not talking to you, just enjoying.
Speaker 1: That's just a horrible music.
Speaker 2: Guys don't even you don't have to worry about that
Speaker 2: now because guys don't even approach you.
Speaker 1: But to me, the fact that y'all still can get
Speaker 1: past that and make like that don't matter. It's just
Speaker 1: a which is the point of what I'm saying. The
Speaker 1: issues in society is it's literally delusional and ridiculous and selfish.
Speaker 1: The way y'all think it is horrible, not like horrible
Speaker 1: as humans, but like like you're like, well, even though
Speaker 1: every nigga here is trying to fuck, that don't mean
Speaker 1: I gotta fuck. Why would you want to put them?
Speaker 1: I'm asking you? Why the fuck would you put yourself
Speaker 1: somewhere where everybody want to fuck you? How does that
Speaker 1: even make sense to your life?
Speaker 2: Because they want to fuck you don't mean you can't
Speaker 2: be somewhere the fuck. That's not your problem that that
Speaker 2: person want to fuck you.
Speaker 1: Why would you want to be there when that's the energy.
Speaker 2: I could go anywhere a motherucker might want to fuck me,
Speaker 2: so it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: So would you go to a klu Klux Clan bar
Speaker 1: because you wanted to fucking drink?
Speaker 3: Want to?
Speaker 2: You might want to do something to me afterwards, but
Speaker 2: he still might want to tap that.
Speaker 1: I'm asking you, So would you go to a klu
Speaker 1: Klux Clan bard to have a drink because you like drinking?
Speaker 1: So then what the fuck? Why does it make sense there?
Speaker 1: But that's because you don't dislike the attention no I'm
Speaker 1: giving you I'm giving you obvious.
Speaker 2: To be way over here, you have to go well,
Speaker 2: and of course nobody's gonna go to kou clus that
Speaker 2: I'm black. Why would I go to kuklus here bar?
Speaker 1: Because you like drinking, bro, because you love drinking bro.
Speaker 2: Because you like alcohol, love drinking.
Speaker 1: What if they got three dollars hennessy shot?
Speaker 2: Now I don't know that ain't worth it?
Speaker 1: Okay? What's your drink.
Speaker 2: And where is it?
Speaker 1: Okay? So what if they got what if they got
Speaker 1: that little vase, that vase tequila and they got six
Speaker 1: dollars shots that that you know, that tequila that costs
Speaker 1: two hundred dollars, It.
Speaker 2: Don't matter that, Like I don't she.
Speaker 1: Ain't so because the reality is all I've tried to
Speaker 1: get you guys to explain, was you like the fucking
Speaker 1: attention and you like turning it fucking down. So why
Speaker 1: don't you fucking be honest and say it to niggas
Speaker 1: so they could actually make it quite a decision about
Speaker 1: who you are and if they want to be invested
Speaker 1: with somebody that's that thirsty. Because that's the truth. The
Speaker 1: reason you wouldn't go to a klu klux Klan bar
Speaker 1: bridge is because you know it's dangerous, you know it
Speaker 1: could cause a problem in your life.
Speaker 2: They know what time it is, bang bang exactly.
Speaker 1: You feel me, They know that you bring your ass
Speaker 1: up in here. You know what's going happening.
Speaker 2: Listen, I'm not doing I listen.
Speaker 1: It's funny that you can't see these obvious truths for
Speaker 1: the sake of just thirsty.
Speaker 2: I get it, just.
Speaker 1: Thirsty, and I swear to God, I'm not saying it's
Speaker 1: not just y'all. Listen, I'm not singling out y'all. I'm
Speaker 1: telling you women as a gender, women as a gender.
Speaker 1: You guys are completely thirsty, and it's fucking horrible that
Speaker 1: you need this much thirst And I don't know if
Speaker 1: it's our faught or God's fault. I don't know if
Speaker 1: God made y'all thirsty, like as a as a gender,
Speaker 1: as a sex. If you want to go to a
Speaker 1: place where everybody want to fuck you, but you just
Speaker 1: want to be there for the sake of something else,
Speaker 1: you don't care.
Speaker 2: They're fully covered. Why the fuck would you go there?
Speaker 1: So my homie invited me to the fucking game, So
Speaker 1: I'll just take her out to dinner. A Super Bowl game.
Speaker 2: Because Super Bowl game, because he does not I'm not thirsty,
Speaker 2: so he doesn't see I'm not.
Speaker 4: You're not who you to be thirsty going to the
Speaker 4: super Bowl crackhouse.
Speaker 1: I'm not. I get it because it's a fucking crackhouse.
Speaker 1: I care about when I was ignorant and dumb and
Speaker 1: I told you. The difference is, I'm not lying, and
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to explain why it makes sense, like
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to find it.
Speaker 3: Be thirsty.
Speaker 1: I was no, yes, because I wanted to hang around
Speaker 1: my homeboard. I wanted to be in my hood. I'm
Speaker 1: a fucking rapper with a fucking multi a million dollar,
Speaker 1: multi million dollar deal and I'm sitting in a fucking
Speaker 1: crackhouse watching the game because I still want to be
Speaker 1: Glasses from Seventh Street every day. The difference is I
Speaker 1: know it, and I'm just telling you, like it's a
Speaker 1: thirst like women naturally are thirsty. You guys wear ship
Speaker 1: for strangers to compliment you. You're thirsty, and it's okay.
Speaker 1: It's way deeper than just attention. But I don't know
Speaker 1: if it's men fora like my I fought or God's fought.
Speaker 1: I don't know if he made you thirsty or somewhere
Speaker 1: along the line that Thursty became y'all.
Speaker 2: Defining blame y'all. I think it's God we didn't care
Speaker 2: about bbls and fucking all this extra ship trying to
Speaker 2: look like the next girl. Like what's his name just
Speaker 2: said I was the first one to put a woman
Speaker 2: for with a BBO. We talk about Buffy the body
Speaker 2: and all stuff like that. So we're seeing all this
Speaker 2: ship and all this. But I'm saying, but I'm that's stupid.
Speaker 2: But I'm saying, we're seeing this, and we're seeing that
Speaker 2: that's what y'all are liking or going to. So it's
Speaker 2: like if I go out with her, right and we
Speaker 2: go to a club and I see like all these
Speaker 2: girls with all these bodies, and we see all these
Speaker 2: men just going after them, is that that is that
Speaker 2: because they're thirsty? Is that what you're meaning? And we're
Speaker 2: just bystanders what I'm saying, Okay, So what I'm saying
Speaker 2: is these girls be up in there, have they cleave it,
Speaker 2: y'all whatever, whatever, trying to get attention. And so that's
Speaker 2: thirsty and in a regular outfit, why would you same
Speaker 2: spot you're saying that that's still thirsty.
Speaker 1: Why would you want to be at a Like everybody
Speaker 1: in the crack house ain't necessarily buying or selling crack.
Speaker 1: They could be watching the game too, So what the
Speaker 1: fuck difference did that make when a police raid the house?
Speaker 1: Why would you be somewhere so unsavory? What is wrong
Speaker 1: with you? I mean now, I mean ever in your
Speaker 1: every in your life, like ever in your life? Why
Speaker 1: would be?
Speaker 2: Before I was younger, like you said, I was young
Speaker 2: and I didn't get.
Speaker 1: So why are you defending it now?
Speaker 2: I'm I'm saying, like, what's the problem though? I mean,
Speaker 2: it's not nothing.
Speaker 1: You just thirsty, thirsty? You take your thirsty ass somewhere.
Speaker 1: If I take my thirsty ass to a crack house
Speaker 1: today right now, knowing what I got to lose to
Speaker 1: watch the Super Bowl game, I got everything my stupid
Speaker 1: ass got coming to me because we could take already
Speaker 1: somewhere else and watch the goddamn.
Speaker 2: Gay Basically, if you go the club and you meet
Speaker 2: a guy and he do you wrong, you was thirsty
Speaker 2: and at home, well you know what he's thinking. Can't
Speaker 2: be aske at home? Why would you talking to a guy?
Speaker 2: Agent said, I don't even I already know what time
Speaker 2: it is. When niggas in the club, I don't talk
Speaker 2: to do.
Speaker 1: Except you literally participated, did it? Of course you have.
Speaker 1: You met niggas in the club and you knocked them
Speaker 1: down before. Now I'm not saying you knocked them down
Speaker 1: the same night. I'm saying, but you met guys that
Speaker 1: was looking for girls to knock down, and then you
Speaker 1: knocked them down. You became a part of the statistics.
Speaker 1: That was Yes, that was the point of it. That's
Speaker 1: why niggas go niggas for now. Listen, you might find
Speaker 1: a woman or two that's crazy to be like because
Speaker 1: I hear pooring old women be like I can't wait
Speaker 1: to find my husband and be like, girl, you make porn.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying poor women can't find husband. I'm just
Speaker 1: saying that's just a weird But that's just a weird thought,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And I think it's because
Speaker 1: because we're so far about what marriage is, we're so
Speaker 1: far trying to keep redefining words. Hell, you can't even
Speaker 1: say what a man or a woman is. So that's
Speaker 1: why you thought that so freely, Like you just say it,
Speaker 1: like why would you be giving away the one thing
Speaker 1: that this nigga's supposed to have, its special that's the
Speaker 1: point of marriage. You're supposed to give yourself to somebody.
Speaker 1: If you gave it to every other nigga, it is
Speaker 1: not the greatest present that you could keep rewrapping that
Speaker 1: dirty motherfucker handing it off. It's going to lose value
Speaker 1: because it's dirty. Cause you to let all these dirty
Speaker 1: niggas you made in the club tagging.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: But again it goes back to the but it goes
Speaker 1: back to the point of what I'm saying initially, Right,
Speaker 1: we're not you nigga. You are the bearer. You bring
Speaker 1: life into the universe. Why would you compare yourself?
Speaker 2: You and you can have your dirty dick and bring
Speaker 2: or whatever the fuck. So it don't matter.
Speaker 1: The difference is your silly ass is not doing it.
Speaker 1: So your nigga could be a fuck up, but you
Speaker 1: shouldn't be a fuck up because it's your fucking body,
Speaker 1: it's your property. It's the way somebody else treat your car,
Speaker 1: so way you supposed to treat your care. You shouldn't
Speaker 1: be treating your car the way a motherfucker that don't
Speaker 1: respect cars treat cars.
Speaker 2: Keep that thing right. You never know.
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ.
Speaker 2: Blame the I P A man. I told you she
Speaker 2: gave me I P A. I never had this. It's
Speaker 2: just bomb.
Speaker 3: What's that same right?
Speaker 2: That ain't right, y'all?
Speaker 1: So you're just poisoned now.
Speaker 2: I'm poisoned tonight and I ain't at the club. I'm
Speaker 2: at the studio, not at the club.
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