Speaker 1: What up friends? Okay, so this midweek mom chat, I'm
Speaker 1: going to talk about health and keeping resolutions and what
Speaker 1: do resolutions even mean. So in the past I have
Speaker 1: been y'all who have been following my journey. I know
Speaker 1: that I have been Sunny's moving around. I might have
Speaker 1: to pause this podcast and come back to it, maybe
Speaker 1: have her as a co host on it. Um resolutions.
Speaker 1: I used to always make resolutions and they'd be like,
Speaker 1: I want to talk about this at the beginning of
Speaker 1: the year, because I know a lot of us have them.
Speaker 1: It's like, I want to get fit, I want to
Speaker 1: lose ten pounds. I'm gonna lose fifteen pounds. I want
Speaker 1: to change my whole diet. I want to change my
Speaker 1: whole life. I'm gonna be a new woman. Everything about
Speaker 1: the way I used to be. Nope, no more throwing
Speaker 1: that old girl out the window. I'm going to be
Speaker 1: a changed woman. Okay, so I've done that in the past.
Speaker 1: Just like try to like completely start over and like
Speaker 1: do some sort of crazy fad diet and I don't know,
Speaker 1: just jump on a bandwagon to completely change who I
Speaker 1: have been, because who I have been has not been acceptable.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you'll feel that way, I'm kind
Speaker 1: of done with that. I kind of think that's bullshit
Speaker 1: because first off, it's impossible to completely change who you are.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm thirty six years old. I have a long, long, long,
Speaker 1: long history of being met. I can't just change all
Speaker 1: of that in a in a day because it's a
Speaker 1: new year. And I think that's just setting yourself up
Speaker 1: for failure. And also, why do we need to change
Speaker 1: completely who we are. I think we can always make improvements,
Speaker 1: but I don't think we have to have these resolutions
Speaker 1: to just be a completely new person. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think that's just a big for me that sets
Speaker 1: myself a failure. So I, like I said before on
Speaker 1: one of my podcasts, the Vision Board one, I love
Speaker 1: to set intentions and goals, and I love to have
Speaker 1: like dreams for myself each year, and I like to
Speaker 1: have I like to have, like, um, a map of
Speaker 1: where I'm trying to go. But I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: completely change who I am because I've been there, done that,
Speaker 1: got the T shirt didn't work. Feel like a failure
Speaker 1: when you tell everyone you're doing this, you have a
Speaker 1: big plan and you're like I'm gonna do this. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do that. I'm gonna start this new diet plan
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna lose fifteen pounds and I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: this new person. And I completely changed all my wardrobe.
Speaker 1: I got rid of all my clothes that we're bigger now.
Speaker 1: And then you hit the end of your binge fad
Speaker 1: diet that you did, and all of a sudden, you
Speaker 1: gain more weight back than you've ever gained in your
Speaker 1: whole life, and all those clothes that you threw out
Speaker 1: because you are never gonna be that person again that
Speaker 1: wore the size up now because because now you've gone
Speaker 1: down the size, you're never gonna go back to that
Speaker 1: old size. Now you're not only back to that old size,
Speaker 1: but you're a higher size up. I mean, raise your
Speaker 1: hand if you've done that. Hello me all the time.
Speaker 1: So this year I decided to try something a little different.
Speaker 1: I am doing. I'm partnering with Profile. It's profiled by Stanford.
Speaker 1: And I was skeptical about partnering with anyone to do
Speaker 1: a health plan because, like I said before, I do
Speaker 1: not want to set myself up for failure. I do
Speaker 1: not want to get involved with some sort of plan
Speaker 1: and then try to change my whole life and then fail.
Speaker 1: So the reason I like this is because for the
Speaker 1: past year and a half, ever since I've been pregnant
Speaker 1: and ever since I've had a baby, I have been
Speaker 1: eating like I'm a garbage can, straight up, And I
Speaker 1: think part of it is I've been rewiring my brain.
Speaker 1: This doesn't sound really nuts, Tell me if y'all I
Speaker 1: can relate. I struggled with eating disorders and food was
Speaker 1: the enemy for so long that when I got pregnant
Speaker 1: after trying for a year and we had a miscarriage,
Speaker 1: I was so in awe of my body that it
Speaker 1: was able to be pregnant and that I was having
Speaker 1: that I was having this miracle grow inside of me,
Speaker 1: that I, for the first time in my life, stopped
Speaker 1: caring about my body image. I was like, my body
Speaker 1: is a badass, Like look at what my body is doing.
Speaker 1: I am carrying a child. I get to have this
Speaker 1: miracle of life inside of me, and I didn't think
Speaker 1: once about food. I ate whatever I wanted. I didn't
Speaker 1: over eat, and I think that's been my saving grace
Speaker 1: as I stopped over eating because I allowed myself to
Speaker 1: have anything I wanted at any time, So I didn't
Speaker 1: feel like I needed to binge eat like a whole
Speaker 1: freaking large bag of Dritos. I would just eat as
Speaker 1: many as I wanted until I had no longer wanted
Speaker 1: it anymore. And that was a first for me, because
Speaker 1: like I'd always binged junk food because I thought I
Speaker 1: would never get it again. And it's like this thing
Speaker 1: I'm not supposed to be doing, so I'm gonna inhale
Speaker 1: it as fast as I can and just never stop
Speaker 1: when it's in front of my face. Not healthy, But
Speaker 1: because I had this new appreciation for my body, I
Speaker 1: stopped binging and I would just if I wanted to.
Speaker 1: If I wanted a milkshake from Chick fil A, I
Speaker 1: got a milk shad from Chick fil A and it'side
Speaker 1: of nuggets, and I didn't eat the whole thing if
Speaker 1: I didn't want the whole thing, And that was like
Speaker 1: a first for me. So I've been eating any kind
Speaker 1: of junk food that I want for the past year
Speaker 1: and a half, ever since Sunny's been here and when
Speaker 1: I was pregnant, because I have just not cared and
Speaker 1: I have not wanted food to be an issue. I
Speaker 1: have not wanted to be stressed out with food. I
Speaker 1: have not wanted to um. I just haven't wanted to
Speaker 1: have that that gross feeling about something controlling me. When
Speaker 1: I've had Sunny, and it's really it's been a kind
Speaker 1: of an amazing blessing because I have not really had
Speaker 1: a weight issue. But what my issue is now is
Speaker 1: I'm just not eating very healthy and I need to.
Speaker 1: Sunny's about start eating real food. We're going to start
Speaker 1: working like those little pures soon, you know, like the
Speaker 1: the whipped up vegetables and stuff. And I just don't
Speaker 1: want to be a garbage canned mom. I want to
Speaker 1: have healthy, balanced meals. I want to feed her healthy
Speaker 1: balanced meals. So I just need to reset my brain
Speaker 1: on how to eat healthy and what to even eat.
Speaker 1: And so I found profile by Stanford. And the reason
Speaker 1: I really like them is because it is not a diet.
Speaker 1: It's like on their wall, it is like done with diets.
Speaker 1: What they do is they teach you how to eat healthy.
Speaker 1: They teach you how to eat for your particular body
Speaker 1: and lifestyle. They work around your your the way you
Speaker 1: eat already and your diet plan already. And another thing
Speaker 1: that's cool is they have a coach. So you have
Speaker 1: a coach that you talked to, you can go in
Speaker 1: there and have a free consultation. So I went in
Speaker 1: and my coach that her name is Colleen. She's so sweet,
Speaker 1: and I went in and I just laid it out there.
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, I struggled with eating disorders and I
Speaker 1: love junk food. So those are two things that are
Speaker 1: a big part of my life. I do not want
Speaker 1: to get involved with any kind of program that is
Speaker 1: going to make me trigger eating disorders. And I don't
Speaker 1: want to give up every little bit of junk food,
Speaker 1: Like I just don't. I don't want to get to
Speaker 1: that place from depriving myself of stuff I love because
Speaker 1: then I'm gonna binge on it and it's going to backfire.
Speaker 1: And I don't want what's the point of even doing
Speaker 1: this pro this program with profile if I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: ruin it Because when I finally get a little bit
Speaker 1: of junk food my face, I binge on it, like
Speaker 1: I do not want to do that. And there and
Speaker 1: Colleen was like, I totally get that, and that is
Speaker 1: not who we are. So I love this plan because
Speaker 1: what she is teaching me how to do which I
Speaker 1: already know how to do, but she's just helping me
Speaker 1: and coaching me and giving me ideas and giving me
Speaker 1: encouragement and giving me inspiration and then like recipes, and
Speaker 1: they have shake's already made at this profile, they have
Speaker 1: food pre made, they have chips that are awesome. So
Speaker 1: she just maps it out for me what I need
Speaker 1: to eat every day. And because I'm nursing, there's a
Speaker 1: pregnant there's a pregnancy plan that either pregnant or nursing
Speaker 1: mothers on it. So I'm eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner
Speaker 1: and then three snacks. So I'm actually eating more food
Speaker 1: on their plan than I was on my regular plan.
Speaker 1: And they have all sorts of recipes on their website,
Speaker 1: which their website is profile plan dot com, which is awesome,
Speaker 1: and um, I don't know, I'm just excited about it.
Speaker 1: I'm excited to kind of retrain my brain and to
Speaker 1: work in healthy foods, to learn some new healthy recipes
Speaker 1: that are quick, because that's another thing. I'm like, I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to cook a million meals every day, Like
Speaker 1: I don't even like to cook. So I'm really excited
Speaker 1: about it. I think it's gonna be a really fun journey.
Speaker 1: I love that I have a coach um because I
Speaker 1: think that's awesome. And that's another thing that's cool about
Speaker 1: Profile is they start you off in like three phases.
Speaker 1: In the first phrase phase, they offer you you get
Speaker 1: your free consult and then they offer you um a
Speaker 1: a plan that has everything pre made so you don't
Speaker 1: even have to think about anything, Like you can get
Speaker 1: all the pre made food, which I think is freaking awesome.
Speaker 1: So then you don't have to cook, you don't have
Speaker 1: to do anything. It is ready for you. And then
Speaker 1: there's like a next phase where it's like there is
Speaker 1: high it's like a hybrid mix where it's like they
Speaker 1: you can use their pre made foods, but then also
Speaker 1: you start working in recipes of your own on the
Speaker 1: website and like you start figuring out how to do
Speaker 1: it on yourself. And then the third phases, like you
Speaker 1: just do it all on your own. You can still
Speaker 1: use some of the meals if you want to, but
Speaker 1: then you have now learned how to like what works
Speaker 1: for you and what to eat. So then you are
Speaker 1: cooking at yourself, finding yourself, and it's awesome. So I
Speaker 1: think it's great. It's also created by physicians and researchers,
Speaker 1: so you can maintain all this progress that you make
Speaker 1: and then not binge and purge because these physicians and
Speaker 1: researchers are realizing that fad diets don't work, so they
Speaker 1: are making a lifestyle for people. Anyway, I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: doing this for next six months, and I will keep
Speaker 1: you guys posted on my journey. I think it's gonna
Speaker 1: be awesome. I'm not going to be stressed out about it.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna put any pressure on myself. I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna gently follow this plan and incorporate the shakes, incorporate
Speaker 1: the meals, keep my health coach in the loop, have
Speaker 1: her keep inspiring me, keep giving me um recipes and
Speaker 1: ideas of how to to cook delicious things that work
Speaker 1: for my lifestyle. And I'm not gonna beat myself up
Speaker 1: over this because that is not my goal. I am
Speaker 1: loving my life, I'm loving being a mom. All I
Speaker 1: wanna do is just be healthier. I'm ready to be
Speaker 1: healthier because I don't want to eat mac and cheese
Speaker 1: with fritos every day. I mean, like literally the other
Speaker 1: day I cooked two boxes macaroni and cheese and I
Speaker 1: used fritos as my fork and it was so good.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, I ate basically nothing that was Basically
Speaker 1: I could should have just had like plastic because I
Speaker 1: put nothing into my body. So I'm kind of done
Speaker 1: with that. I need I need to work on having
Speaker 1: some health in my body just so I can have
Speaker 1: stamina to keep up with Sunny. And I want to
Speaker 1: be a good example for her, and now that she's
Speaker 1: gonna be eating food, I want to be cooking good
Speaker 1: food and having good recipes. And I don't want to
Speaker 1: be complicated, but I'm ready to make a change. So
Speaker 1: that is why I'm partnering up with Profile. So I
Speaker 1: encourage you guys to check them out. You can go
Speaker 1: to profile plan dot com and then use back Backslashkaro
Speaker 1: hobby and it actually takes you to my personal page
Speaker 1: that I have created for them, So check that out.
Speaker 1: It's a p R O F I L E p
Speaker 1: l A n dot com backslash Karo hobby and you
Speaker 1: can check out my journey. And I think you should
Speaker 1: fall along. I think it's gonna be fun. Okay, So
Speaker 1: Sonny is crying and I just went and got her,
Speaker 1: I put it on a pause and I went and
Speaker 1: got her, And now Sunny's here with me. Can you
Speaker 1: say Hi? Hi? Hi, Hi Hi? Tell everybody Hi? Can
Speaker 1: you tell them Hi? Hi? She just had a great nap.
Speaker 1: We're letting her do her own schedule these days because
Speaker 1: I was so strict on a schedule. If y'all followed
Speaker 1: my breastfeeding podcast that I did last week, I was
Speaker 1: telling y'all about my pumpy schedule breastfeeding schedule, and we
Speaker 1: used to be really strict on following a sleep schedule.
Speaker 1: I used Moms on Call and my night nurse, Paula
Speaker 1: Power Nashville Baby Boss. Check her out if you're a
Speaker 1: Nashville She also just consults on the phone. She's amazing.
Speaker 1: Totally changed my life, got us on a great schedule,
Speaker 1: got Sunday sleeping to the night at two months. I'm
Speaker 1: not kidding, but Mom's on Call is the book to
Speaker 1: use if you don't have access to night nurse because
Speaker 1: it just gets your baby sleeping. But anyway, so I
Speaker 1: was strict about getting Sunny on schedule until the holidays
Speaker 1: hit and then we had to fly and travel or planes, trains,
Speaker 1: automobiles minus the trains and we had to kind of
Speaker 1: just wing it, and so she started kind of making
Speaker 1: her own sleep schedule. It's sort of the same as
Speaker 1: the as the mom's on call, the one that we
Speaker 1: were using. But now it's just like she goes to
Speaker 1: sleep when she's tired, she gets a tired cry. I
Speaker 1: know exactly what it is. It's usually about an hour
Speaker 1: and a half after she wakes up. She goes to sleep,
Speaker 1: and then she wakes herself up. Um from that's her
Speaker 1: long nap, and then she usually has two quick naps
Speaker 1: later in the day. So I just let her do
Speaker 1: her I'm like, do you girl, you got this? You
Speaker 1: know when you want to sleep? You figured it out.
Speaker 1: We're gonna syste him. So anyway, that's been great. I'm
Speaker 1: actually gonna work in a little formula today. Also, if
Speaker 1: you're following my um Breastfeeding podcast last week, y'all will
Speaker 1: hear that my supply has dropped dramatical, lee dramatic late,
Speaker 1: very stressful because I used to have a ton of milk.
Speaker 1: So now I am like scrounging to get her a
Speaker 1: full bottle every time, and it's I'm getting I'm having
Speaker 1: it happened, but I'm having to go into my supply,
Speaker 1: my freezer supply, and so I'm gonna start working a
Speaker 1: little bit of formula. I'm actually gonna do formula for
Speaker 1: the first time today. I'm gonna do mixed breast milk.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do uh four ounces, five ounces of breast milk.
Speaker 1: She eats seven ounces each bottle. I'm gonna do five
Speaker 1: ounces of breast milk, and the I'm gonna two ounces
Speaker 1: of formula. And something I did here is you need
Speaker 1: to mix the formula up separately in its own bottle,
Speaker 1: mix the water in the formula, and then pour it
Speaker 1: into the breast milk. So I don't know why it's like,
Speaker 1: doesn't work if you put the formula and the water
Speaker 1: in the breast milk. So just make the breast milk
Speaker 1: its own thing, and then the formula it's own thing
Speaker 1: and then mix it together. Anyway, so we're about to
Speaker 1: try that here in a second. I'm interested to see
Speaker 1: how it'll go. I'll keep y'all posted because I gotta
Speaker 1: make sure my baby can get fed um anyway, though,
Speaker 1: So that's my goal. That's what I'm starting this year
Speaker 1: health wise. I'm trying profile by Sanford because I'm ready
Speaker 1: for some health in my life. I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: lose weight. If I do lose a few pounds, that's awesome,
Speaker 1: but that is not my goal. I do not care
Speaker 1: about losing weight. I feel good, I feel healthy in
Speaker 1: my body. Sunny, you're just looking at this microphone. I
Speaker 1: just want to be healthy and have energy from my baby.
Speaker 1: Um and because being a mom, let's get real, you
Speaker 1: have so many things to do. You have to have energy.
Speaker 1: I just started following Cat and That on Instagram. It's
Speaker 1: at C A T A and d N A T
Speaker 1: Cat and that Holy guacamole. If y'all have not checked
Speaker 1: them out. I stayed up in my bed last night
Speaker 1: for probably an hour. Michael's on the road watching their
Speaker 1: Instagram videos. There Mom Truth Friday's Holy cow. I was
Speaker 1: peeing my pants laughing. I have not that hard and
Speaker 1: so long. It's like they have crawled inside of my
Speaker 1: brain and they are talking about everything that I'm thinking,
Speaker 1: and they're so funny. They are so funny and so
Speaker 1: raw and honest. I'm like, oh my gosh, I appreciate
Speaker 1: this honesty because it is hard to be that honest
Speaker 1: because you kind of have to throw your husband under
Speaker 1: the bus a little bit. They're like talking about sex
Speaker 1: and their kids and all this stuff, and it's they
Speaker 1: obviously love their families, but they're just real about what's
Speaker 1: going on in mom life and it is so funny.
Speaker 1: I am dying. They go on tour and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have to check out one of their like live tours,
Speaker 1: because I have never laughed so hard in my life.
Speaker 1: And then they have a really heartfelt post to like,
Speaker 1: you're doing a good job, don't compare body image, don't
Speaker 1: get hung up on a number on a scale. It's
Speaker 1: like they're really just such a great asset for women
Speaker 1: and moms, especially if we're all we're all in this
Speaker 1: thing together, we're all trying to do the best we can,
Speaker 1: and they're just like letting us know that we're doing
Speaker 1: a good job. And then they're laugh making us laugh
Speaker 1: our booties off along the way, so fall of them.
Speaker 1: They're amazing. They talked about resolutions too, and how resolutions
Speaker 1: are just like it's a disappointment. I don't I can't
Speaker 1: remember exactly what they said, but it kind of got
Speaker 1: my brain going too, because at this point in my life,
Speaker 1: I don't want to make a resolution that I have
Speaker 1: to live up to. I just want to be better.
Speaker 1: I want to encourage myself to like try to be
Speaker 1: a little bit better each year and to do what
Speaker 1: feels good. But I do not want to set myself
Speaker 1: up for disappointments. I do not want to set myself
Speaker 1: up for a letdown, because what is that going to
Speaker 1: do for me? To set this giant, huge goal and
Speaker 1: resolution that I have to get and if I don't
Speaker 1: get it, then I'm a failure. I am not trying
Speaker 1: to be a failure because we are killing it as moms,
Speaker 1: just like doing everything that we have to do every day,
Speaker 1: we are crushing it. So the last thing we need
Speaker 1: to do is make ourselves feel like a failure because
Speaker 1: we didn't achieve some resolution. So to me, let's just
Speaker 1: set goals. Let's just set little like goals to like,
Speaker 1: what can we do each week to try to be
Speaker 1: better that would make us feel better, to give us
Speaker 1: more energy, to make us just feel better about ourselves.
Speaker 1: And if you don't do it that week, fine, who cares?
Speaker 1: Try again next week? But just do it for you
Speaker 1: because you want to. Don't make some big announcement that
Speaker 1: you're going to change your whole life, and this is
Speaker 1: what's going to happen, because then, let's be real, those
Speaker 1: kind of things always backfire and we just don't need
Speaker 1: that in our life. So my resolution this year is
Speaker 1: to have no resolutions. That's my resolution. My resolution is
Speaker 1: too search for joy every day. Two get I want
Speaker 1: to have more energy every day. I want to be
Speaker 1: happy every day. I want to count my blessings every day.
Speaker 1: I want to be in the moment every day. I
Speaker 1: want to have less anxiety. That's my resolution. So how
Speaker 1: can I do that? What steps can I take every
Speaker 1: day to have more joy, to have more energy, to
Speaker 1: have less anxiety. One, I can make healthier eating choices,
Speaker 1: because that's just good for my life. It will give
Speaker 1: me more energy and it will make me feel better.
Speaker 1: So that's something I can do and I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: work on that as best I can. Too. To have
Speaker 1: and to have less things. Oh my gosh, I wish
Speaker 1: I could see Sunny, she is an angel. To have
Speaker 1: less anxiety, I want to be in the moment. I
Speaker 1: want to turn my fear over to God. And like
Speaker 1: I said, I don't know what podcast I said this on,
Speaker 1: but every time I have a fearful thought. I'm going
Speaker 1: to push it down and say three things I'm thankful
Speaker 1: for because I am not going to live my life
Speaker 1: with anxiety and miss all the great things that are
Speaker 1: happening in my life. I have so many blessings that
Speaker 1: I have prayed for. I have a beautiful daughter that
Speaker 1: is sitting in my lap right now, holding her toes
Speaker 1: and being the cutest thing in the whole world, trying
Speaker 1: to talk on the microphone. And why am I going
Speaker 1: to sit around and think about every bad thing that
Speaker 1: could possibly happen in the world when I have this
Speaker 1: blessing in my life right now. I Am not going
Speaker 1: to live in fear, and God will equip me to
Speaker 1: handle and deal with anything that comes my way. I'm
Speaker 1: going to be as responsible as I can. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make the best choices I can every day. But I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna sit around and dream up every bad thing
Speaker 1: that can happen, because that is no way to live,
Speaker 1: no way to live. I will not live with that anymore.
Speaker 1: I said that this one time before, but I declare
Speaker 1: in the name of God, I will not live in fear.
Speaker 1: So that is another one of my resolutions. I am
Speaker 1: going to counteract my fear with gratefulness. So every time
Speaker 1: I feel fear, I'm gonna say three things I'm grateful for,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna push that fear right out of my
Speaker 1: mind by Felicia smell yeah, leta geta um. So that's
Speaker 1: how I'm going to do that, And I want to
Speaker 1: know how you guys are gonna do it. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: take a few questions, so let me see what you
Speaker 1: guys have to say. Hold on one second, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: pull up my phone on and Sonny, you have any resolutions?
Speaker 1: What do you want to say? Hi? Hello, Hello? Anything
Speaker 1: you want to say? So anybody? Nope, not yet? Okay, okay.
Speaker 1: So I love it. Of course, as a women, it's
Speaker 1: all about food and skincare, because let's be real, we
Speaker 1: are so concerned about the way we look me too.
Speaker 1: Like that is like we're also worried about like getting
Speaker 1: skinny and having a perfect face and hair and all that.
Speaker 1: I know, sunny, I know. So the first question is
Speaker 1: how do you try to balance your weekly food intake
Speaker 1: eight twenty count calories? Help? I mean, why is it
Speaker 1: that we are so worried about women? Oh? Something? Cat
Speaker 1: and net set and Cat and Nat said on their
Speaker 1: Instagram page was We're gonna start living like a man
Speaker 1: on the beach. When you see a man on the beach,
Speaker 1: they're walking out there, they got their guts hanging out,
Speaker 1: they got little fat pockets everywhere, they got hairy chests
Speaker 1: that aren't trimmed, and they are flaunting their stuff like
Speaker 1: they are hot shot and they don't care. But a woman,
Speaker 1: we're like grapping ourselves in a million cover ups and
Speaker 1: not standing up from our like our loungehare, because we
Speaker 1: don't want anyone to see the little bit of cellulite
Speaker 1: on the back of our legs. Look at a man,
Speaker 1: he's got a big old barrel gut. He don't care.
Speaker 1: He is like, look at me, I am fine. And
Speaker 1: I was like, that is so true. Men plot whatever
Speaker 1: they have and they don't even care. They got a
Speaker 1: zero six pack, they got an opposite of six pack,
Speaker 1: they got a six flat pack, and they're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I look good, ladies. So that's another reason how I
Speaker 1: want to live. I want to just beat in my body.
Speaker 1: I do not want to miss out on an opportunity
Speaker 1: because I feel like I got a little jiggli stomach.
Speaker 1: Screw that. No way I am in. I am going
Speaker 1: to be in life. Another thing my sister said, My
Speaker 1: sister Catherine is such a google in my life. She's like,
Speaker 1: I want my daughter to have happy memories of me
Speaker 1: being involved in the picture, in life, in the big
Speaker 1: middle of it, laughing and having fun with her, not
Speaker 1: the one stressed out, missing all the moments because I'm
Speaker 1: over there in the corner analyzing about every little detail,
Speaker 1: like is everything perfect? Do we have everything in order? No,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be in the big middle of it. So
Speaker 1: that is another one of my resolutions. I'm gonna call
Speaker 1: this pod casts resolutions to have no resolutions. But that
Speaker 1: is another one of my resolutions, to have no resolutions
Speaker 1: this year. I'm just gonna be in the big middle
Speaker 1: of life and in it. I don't care if I
Speaker 1: feel a little giggler or self conscious. I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: that man on the beach who's walking around with his gut.
Speaker 1: He don't care. I don't care either. So balance for me,
Speaker 1: I have been completely unbalanced with my food. Like I've
Speaker 1: said before, I've been eating so much junk food almost
Speaker 1: to like prove to myself that food is not the enemy.
Speaker 1: Because I had it as an enemy for so long,
Speaker 1: so now I'm not gonna I don't even know if
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do like an split, like a healthy junk.
Speaker 1: I'm just going to try to make healthy choices that
Speaker 1: sound good to me. And if I do eat a
Speaker 1: bag of Drito's in the middle of that, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be fine with that. I'm not gonna like put limits
Speaker 1: on myself or be like I have to eat this
Speaker 1: way or have failed, or like if I don't eat
Speaker 1: this way, I'm gonna blow up and become a whale.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to do that because that always backfires.
Speaker 1: So my goal, and that's why I'm partnering with Profile
Speaker 1: by Sanford, is I just want to make healthy choices
Speaker 1: because I want to be healthy and have energy. That
Speaker 1: is it. So that is my goal, and however that
Speaker 1: shakes out every single day is how it's gonna shake out.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do the very best I can, but I'm
Speaker 1: never gonna beat myself up. If I have a day
Speaker 1: where I eat freaking ice cream and like loaded potato
Speaker 1: fries and a dr Pepper, Like if that's what my
Speaker 1: day ends up being one day, that's my day. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna sit around feel bad about it. I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna start over the next day and try better because
Speaker 1: I want to be better. I want to be healthy
Speaker 1: for myself and for Sunny and for my life, not
Speaker 1: for a number on the scale. So that's that's that
Speaker 1: for me. Um. How do you handle your minor eating disorder? Well,
Speaker 1: I think for a long time, I um struggled with it,
Speaker 1: and I went to therapy over it, and I kind
Speaker 1: of got to the root of the problem. Then it
Speaker 1: was really a blessing for me to marry Michael because
Speaker 1: I realized that he loved me no matter what size
Speaker 1: I was. He saw me all different sizes and he
Speaker 1: thought I was beautiful no matter what. And then I
Speaker 1: started realizing that men don't see women the way women
Speaker 1: see women. Men's see confidence. Men see um just like
Speaker 1: an empowered woman who's like ruling, ruling her life, and
Speaker 1: they're like, whoa that girl has it together, who takes
Speaker 1: care of herself, who presents herself well, who like has confidence?
Speaker 1: That's what men see. Women see that too, But then
Speaker 1: women are also like, oh my gosh, she's did you
Speaker 1: see the cellulette on her leg? Or oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: how is she walking? In public like that with you know,
Speaker 1: she probably should lose thirty pounds. It's like women, we
Speaker 1: see all that we nitpick, you know, each other, because
Speaker 1: we're nitpicking ourselves. Men don't do that. And I realized
Speaker 1: that after being married that like, why am I nitpicking myself?
Speaker 1: My husband thinks I'm beautiful no matter what. He's not
Speaker 1: sitting around thinking I have cellulent on my legs. He's thinking, dang,
Speaker 1: she looks good, Like can I get lucky later? No
Speaker 1: matter what size I am? And I'm like, why am
Speaker 1: I beating myself up? So I think being married to
Speaker 1: him and realizing that he is not at all judging
Speaker 1: my body and doesn't care what size I am gave
Speaker 1: me some freedom. And then I started realizing I want
Speaker 1: to enjoy my life and I don't want to be
Speaker 1: a slave to a scale or a number. I don't
Speaker 1: want to make. My sister said, I do not want
Speaker 1: to be out of the picture. If there's a picture
Speaker 1: being taken people having fun, that are my people. I
Speaker 1: want to be in the big freaking middle of that picture.
Speaker 1: If everyone is like laughing and in it, count me in.
Speaker 1: If we are going somewhere and we're gonna go to
Speaker 1: the movies and everyone is to order a slushy and popcorn.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be the ones sitting who brought my
Speaker 1: freaking like tofu bar No, I'm gonna enjoy my life
Speaker 1: with my people and I'm gonna be in it. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna have fun and I'm gonna live this life. So
Speaker 1: that's how I deal with that. And then I just
Speaker 1: don't over eat anymore because now I know, after I
Speaker 1: did this junk food bench for the past year and
Speaker 1: a half, I'm sorry, I'm getting blogging back into my questions.
Speaker 1: After I did this junk food binge for the past
Speaker 1: year and a half, I'm I realized I can have
Speaker 1: junk food anytime I want. It's not like some unicorn
Speaker 1: that's is gonna disappear from my life. So I don't
Speaker 1: need to binge eat. So I just don't binge eat anymore.
Speaker 1: I eat until I'm fool and that's that. And now,
Speaker 1: after I have done that for a year and a half,
Speaker 1: I've almost reprogrammed my brain that junk food is not
Speaker 1: the enemy. And so now I'm trying to come into
Speaker 1: a middle ground work and I have healthy balance with
Speaker 1: not just eating junk. I can eat health food and
Speaker 1: junk food, and I just want to be healthy. So
Speaker 1: that's that's how I balance it. Okay, someone's asking me
Speaker 1: about my skin care routine. I want to say, I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry. I I try all different things. I have
Speaker 1: so many skincares that I love, Like, I love Tula,
Speaker 1: They're amazing. To U l A They're great, I mean
Speaker 1: love them. Um. I love Woods Cosmetics their local and Nashville. Um,
Speaker 1: there are Woods Aesthetics. They're amazing. Um. I love Hello Body,
Speaker 1: I love Keels. The problem that I have found is
Speaker 1: I am not having time right now to go and
Speaker 1: like stay committed to a skincare routine. So I kind
Speaker 1: of just use anything that I have and it's different
Speaker 1: every day. But those are the brands I really like.
Speaker 1: So the ones I would really recommend our Hello Body, um, Tula,
Speaker 1: Woods Aesthetics in Nashville, you can get them online, and
Speaker 1: Keels k I E l S I think UM and
Speaker 1: I just kind of rotate through whatever is sitting around
Speaker 1: on my vanity, and I try to use a lot
Speaker 1: of moisture because what I struggle with is dry skin.
Speaker 1: I have really dry skin and that drives me nuts.
Speaker 1: But sometimes it's because I go to bed and I
Speaker 1: don't wash my face, and I wake up in the
Speaker 1: morning and I don't wash my face, and so I'm
Speaker 1: not putting moisturizer on it. So that's my thing. Is
Speaker 1: I tried and moisturize when I can. Sunny is over
Speaker 1: there talking, I just put her on her play mat. Um.
Speaker 1: So anyway, I just want to wrap up with saying
Speaker 1: this year, let's not be harder on ourselves. Let's not
Speaker 1: set ourselves up for failure by thinking we have to
Speaker 1: completely transform who we are. Who you are is awesome, right, Sonny,
Speaker 1: She says, yes, She's like, give me my bottle of milk.
Speaker 1: Who you are is awesome. You're already doing a great job.
Speaker 1: You're already a badass. So don't set these resolutions where
Speaker 1: you're gonna fail miserably, or like you have to change
Speaker 1: your whole life. And then all of a sudden you
Speaker 1: change your whole life. But then you you fall back
Speaker 1: into this awful routine when you splurge just a little bit,
Speaker 1: because now it's like you've forbidden yourself to have this
Speaker 1: amount of food or this type of food or this
Speaker 1: is the enemy, and you are working out so hard,
Speaker 1: six days a week. You have to do this. If
Speaker 1: you don't do this, you're not going to reach your resolution.
Speaker 1: So you do it, do it, do it, do it,
Speaker 1: do it, and then you hit your goal and then
Speaker 1: what all of a sudden you crash and burn and
Speaker 1: then you feel like a total failure. Then you feel
Speaker 1: embarrassed because you know, working so hard to hit these goals.
Speaker 1: You hit these goals, everyone told you how great you are.
Speaker 1: You're such a badass. Oh my god, you transform your life,
Speaker 1: lare to go, and then guess what, here you come
Speaker 1: and you're back to not only not transform in your life,
Speaker 1: you're worse off than when you started before. Let's not
Speaker 1: do that. That is not good. So I encourage us
Speaker 1: all to just have little goals to make ourselves feel better,
Speaker 1: to bring more joy, more health, more adventure, and more
Speaker 1: um and less anxiety into our life. So whatever is
Speaker 1: going to do that that should be your resolution. Don't
Speaker 1: have to announce it to everybody and their dog what
Speaker 1: you're going to change about yourself, because then you're already
Speaker 1: setting yourself up for a letdown because people are gonna
Speaker 1: start asking you about it, and then they're gonna start
Speaker 1: wondering did you stick with it? Are you doing your resolutions?
Speaker 1: And then when you don't do them, you're gonna feel
Speaker 1: like a big idiot. So why why do we want
Speaker 1: to do that to ourselves? So let's have resolutions to
Speaker 1: have no resolutions. Let's just try to be better, healthier, happier,
Speaker 1: more in our lives, more in the moment instead of
Speaker 1: out of the picture. Get in the picture, whatever the
Speaker 1: picture is happening in your life, your people, the people
Speaker 1: that you love, even if okay, maybe not people that
Speaker 1: whoever is in your life. Whatever is in your life,
Speaker 1: whether it's a pet, whether it's a job, whether it's
Speaker 1: your family, whether it's your riends, whether it's just taking
Speaker 1: a big adventure for your life. Whatever the picture is
Speaker 1: in your life, get in it, get in the middle
Speaker 1: of it, get messy with it. Put if people are rolling,
Speaker 1: if there's a mud fight happening, get some mud on you.
Speaker 1: If it's raining outside and somebody wants to dance, jump
Speaker 1: in there. Who cares if your clothes are gonna get
Speaker 1: wet and you're wearing a designer outfit, screw that. Live
Speaker 1: your life, getting the big picture of your life. Be
Speaker 1: in your life this year, Be in it. Be in
Speaker 1: the moment, resolution to have no resolutions. I love y'all.