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Speaker 1: Yeah, they talk better than they excited.

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Speaker 2: These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show. It's

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Speaker 2: like we're writing in our diaries, except we say him aloud.

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Speaker 2: We call the blogs Paulina Row. Yes, the birthday, the

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Speaker 2: post birthday girl, Yeah, post birthday.

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Speaker 3: I take it away, she had a birthday. Thank you

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Speaker 3: so much, dear blog. So, as you guys know, I

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Speaker 1: I have a daughter.

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Speaker 3: As Teresa Judy, she would say daughters, I can't even

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Speaker 3: say it right. But anyways, I have a daughter and

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Speaker 3: her name is Gabriella. She's two months old. And one

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Speaker 3: thing that I want to do, and I've been thinking

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Speaker 3: about it for some time now, is I would really like.

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Speaker 1: To pierce her ears. Controversial, I understand, rightfully. So is it?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Extremely I think so? Yeah, which is wild?

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Speaker 3: So like I had my ears pierced when I wasn't

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Speaker 3: not even being funny, like five days.

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Speaker 2: Old, maybe my mom my, mom, here's my belly button

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Speaker 2: in like two weeks.

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Speaker 1: Stop now I'm picturing that. Yeah, I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: want to do it. I want to pierce my daughter's ears.

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Speaker 3: But and I had my ears pierced too, and everything

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Speaker 3: and even like culturally like my daughter's Mexican and Polish

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Speaker 3: So I was like, okay, you know, we're onto something.

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Speaker 3: But of course her dad does not want that. I'm

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Speaker 3: not surprised, right, He's kind of like, let her get

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Speaker 3: wait till she's at least a year. Her argument is

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Speaker 3: that the clothes that you take off of their their

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Speaker 3: earring when you tat onesies and stuff. Oh yeah, and

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Speaker 3: like then they cry. It's a whole production. And I

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Speaker 3: don't want to do that to her. I don't want

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Speaker 2: But I think I would rather as an infant, like

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Speaker 2: I think, I don't remember it, you haven't.

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Speaker 3: Remember, It'll be so temporary. And I want to put

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Speaker 3: let her make that choice herself, right when she's a

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Speaker 1: And understands what an earring is.

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Speaker 3: Maybe then she'll tell me if she wants her ears Piers,

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Speaker 3: and I'll take her.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I want to do it now, but

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Speaker 3: everyone's like fighting me at home about it.

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Speaker 1: I'm the only one that wants to do it.

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Speaker 5: I say, do it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: My nieces got theirs done when they were infants. Literally yeah,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Stee.

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Speaker 5: I understand it's a cultural thing, but I mean you're

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Speaker 5: if that's what you want. I mean you're the mom

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Speaker 5: that's right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to do it.

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Speaker 3: I just it sucks because I'm always like going back

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Speaker 2: Like what does he I don't mean to say it

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Speaker 2: but like he does, I don't know why. What's what's

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Speaker 1: I honestly have no idea.

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Speaker 3: He just wants her to be a little bit older,

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Speaker 3: all that ball I remember, Yeah, let let's make her

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Speaker 4: And I think it is so cute when you see

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Speaker 1: You ain't putting on? Well maybe I don't, why not, baby,

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Speaker 2: I mean, the only experience I have, I guess is

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Speaker 2: there's a lot of that stuff I wasn't there for.

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Speaker 2: But I also feel like my dad had objections to

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Speaker 2: perspective objection to things that involved, you know, things that

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Speaker 2: don't know. There's just there's just things that like we

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Speaker 2: know what happens to their children. But there are certain

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Speaker 2: things that I think you would have a better you

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Speaker 1: I get that completely.

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Speaker 3: And I think that pertains more to like the topics

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Speaker 3: maybe when she's older, right like when she comes to

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Speaker 1: But I don't, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I feel like with this, he does have a right

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Speaker 3: because that is a kid, you know, and then he's

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Speaker 3: gonna see the ears Pierce, I can't lie.

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Speaker 1: They're right there if I get him done.

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Speaker 5: But I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I just feel like that's something I feel strongly about,

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Speaker 5: It's it's funny your mom is against it, but she

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Speaker 5: did it to you. God's like the clothes might get

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Speaker 1: I was screaming, I'm three months old.

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Speaker 3: It was okay, yeah, No. The things she says now,

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Speaker 3: it's so funny. She would like things that she did

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Speaker 2: Well, I see, it's the whole revision is history thing, too, right.

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Speaker 2: My mom remembers things that never happened. They never happened,

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Speaker 2: or they happened completely differently than the way she remembers

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Speaker 2: them now, And she'll call me later and be like,

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Speaker 2: it's true, It's totally true.

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Speaker 1: Calin.

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Speaker 2: Have any thoughts on this.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I think that it should be up

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Speaker 6: my opinion. I got mine peers when I was seven.

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Speaker 6: I asked for them to be pierced. But I think

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Speaker 6: whatever your parents are into, yeah, you know, yeah, I

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Speaker 6: is things in milestones with girls, little girls that it

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Speaker 2: And the kind of stuff I'm talking about, like I

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Speaker 2: talking about, but I know there are certain you know,

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Speaker 1: Or makeup is a big saying makeup or.

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Speaker 2: Leg shaving or whatever else. It's like, why do I

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Speaker 2: get a voted? I really I can care, but I

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Speaker 2: also don't know what it's like to be a woman,

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Speaker 2: so I don't. I don't know that my perspective matters

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Speaker 2: as much as hers does.

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Speaker 6: Right, it does feel odd to have your dad like

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Speaker 2: Brother allan Italian? Hi Ellen, good morning. It's like, yo,

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Speaker 2: you want me here? Like maybe he does.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's why he said no, yeah, good morning.

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Speaker 5: What do you think?

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Speaker 2: Ellen?

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Speaker 4: Oh? I?

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Speaker 7: Well, first of all, anything about bringing up a baby's controversial,

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Speaker 7: Like literally every single thing you do is going to

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Speaker 7: offend somebody, or somebody's gonna have an opinion about it.

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Speaker 7: And the ear piercing. My daughter's turning seven, and she's

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Speaker 7: super excited to like phone her body and make that choice.

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Speaker 7: And when she was little, like I couldn't there to

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Speaker 7: like that's just how I felt. She's just so perfect

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Speaker 7: and I didn't want to ruin, you know, hurt her

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Speaker 7: in any way. But yeah, now she's like deciding what

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Speaker 7: pick out her ear rings, and and your mom's right

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Speaker 7: about like it's getting snagged on stuff. So I mean

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Speaker 7: there's a lot of pros and cons of your piercing. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 7: that's whatever you want to do. You know.

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Speaker 2: Well, for sure, man Harvey does, Harvey doesn't get a vote. Whatever.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Ellen, by the way, have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: I don't know Mave does, and I don't think Polly does.

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Speaker 1: No, and I don't.

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Speaker 2: I guess I don't know why, but I suppose if

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Speaker 2: it's something that is there's no objection to, and it's

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Speaker 2: going to happen anyway, then I guess I would rather

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Speaker 2: that it happened when for me, if it were me,

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Speaker 2: I would rather have When I'm a baby, I can't remember,

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Speaker 2: like like Kiggy said, is supposed to going to you know,

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Speaker 2: the mall at thirteen and some teenager where the gun

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Speaker 2: comes out. You know that, you know that the figure.

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Speaker 6: Oh my god, I was at Claire's and I saw

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Speaker 6: a girl's chunk of her ear fly right into the clothes.

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Speaker 6: I'm like, oh, I know, sorry, so sorry, but I'll

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't know about all that, so

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Speaker 2: we'll see. But anyway, you think you're gonna are you

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Speaker 2: gonna override him on this?

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Speaker 3: I think so someone's pick and choose your battles. That's

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Speaker 3: my everyday life. But I think this one I'm gonna do.

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Speaker 3: I feel strongly about it, and I want her to

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Speaker 3: have her earspirs.

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Speaker 1: I want to put cute earrings on her, maybe some hoops.

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Speaker 5: Get a hole downstairs, let's just girl get her earspearce.

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Speaker 1: That's right.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, you're pretty good at trading is

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Speaker 2: one thing for another? Self there, I'm not. I'm not

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Speaker 2: going to make that parallel, but like, I think you'll

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Speaker 2: figure it out.