WEBVTT - Dear Chiquis: Did You Really Speak to Your Mom with the Help of a Medium?

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached

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<v Speaker 2>Hi Cheeky's, I just wanted to get on here just

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<v Speaker 2>to say hi to you and see how you were doing.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I had sent your messages through Instagram and

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<v Speaker 2>ozapin that iching, but anyways, yeah, I do want you

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<v Speaker 2>to answer me. I know you're gonna be really busy.

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<v Speaker 2>I know you're planning to have a baby soon, so

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<v Speaker 2>I know there's a lot of factors into it, so

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<v Speaker 2>I understand. But the actual question that I had right

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<v Speaker 2>now is I seen the podcast that you made with

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<v Speaker 2>somebody that was related to ghost therapy that you were

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<v Speaker 2>able to connect to your mom and your stepdad in

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<v Speaker 2>a spiritual way. And I am just I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just curious and I want to hear how that

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<v Speaker 2>made you feel, because honestly, throughout that podcast, it made

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<v Speaker 2>me freaking cry. It like I don't know, like the

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<v Speaker 2>wind chimes how they how they rang, whenever your mom

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<v Speaker 2>was talking to you, like I don't know. It was

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<v Speaker 2>just so so touching and it touched my heart and

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<v Speaker 2>it made me cry because I felt so many emotions

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't know. It's just something that I want

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<v Speaker 2>to hear from you, and I just want you to

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<v Speaker 2>know that I love you so much and keep doing

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<v Speaker 2>what you're doing because you're awesome and you're meant to

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<v Speaker 2>do this to get muncho.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Ivan, thank you so much. Okay, So those of

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<v Speaker 1>you who don't know what he's talking about. I went

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<v Speaker 1>on a podcast called Ghosts There Be back in April,

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<v Speaker 1>and she basically the host of the podcast, she connects

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<v Speaker 1>with your loved ones or people that have passed, and

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<v Speaker 1>she connects with my mom. We got a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>really great feedback from that podcast, and I also got

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<v Speaker 1>some not so positive feedback, you know, from religious people,

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<v Speaker 1>which I understand and I respect, but for me, I

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<v Speaker 1>felt at the very beginning a little skeptical. Maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if that's the right word, but I was

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<v Speaker 1>a little. And then as the conversation progressed, I felt

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<v Speaker 1>better about it and even more and more and more,

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<v Speaker 1>and like at the end, I felt so much peace

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<v Speaker 1>and I let out a good cry and I felt good.

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<v Speaker 1>I have been feeling very connected to my mom lately,

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<v Speaker 1>so I think that that conversation happened at the perfect time.

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<v Speaker 1>So many things were said that I haven't told a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people, just very very close people, and especially

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<v Speaker 1>people that don't talk to her. So I'm like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what's happening here, but something is happening.

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<v Speaker 1>And I do believe obviously in the spiritual world. And

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<v Speaker 1>I just had the conversation. I took what I needed

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<v Speaker 1>and everything else, I just I left it there, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's kind of how I take things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't try to think more than I have to,

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<v Speaker 1>if that makes sense. But it definitely gave me a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of peace and just oh, it was just like

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<v Speaker 1>a sigh of release. But thank you for listening to that,

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<v Speaker 1>and thank you Papah for I love it, Keep it,

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<v Speaker 1>keep keep it going. I love it. Sending you a

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<v Speaker 1>big hugbub okay. Second question comes from Diana.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi Cheeky's. I know you're very big on therapy and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm trying my best to do some healing. The only

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<v Speaker 3>thing is I'm in a very tight budget. I live

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<v Speaker 3>a frugal lifestyle in the process of paying off debt,

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<v Speaker 3>and I would like to know do you have any

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<v Speaker 3>suggestions for someone like me that cannot afford therapy? You know,

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<v Speaker 3>is there a certain any books that you recommend, any

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<v Speaker 3>other resources, because the only thing I can think of

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<v Speaker 3>right now are books, but I don't know what else.

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<v Speaker 3>I will already appreciate your feedback.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, thank you so much Diana for your question, and

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely understand. I get it. I know that therepy

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<v Speaker 1>can be pricey, but I know that there are groups

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<v Speaker 1>you can find near you. I don't know exactly where

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<v Speaker 1>you live, but you can check online. There's online communities

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<v Speaker 1>as well. Also, prayer is huge, you know, I'm huge

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<v Speaker 1>on prayer and meditation. Good podcast like mine, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we love this podcast, but also I love Jay Shetty's

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<v Speaker 1>podcast on Purpose. I love a good cry. There are

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<v Speaker 1>so many great podcasts. It just all depends what you're

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<v Speaker 1>looking for, but there are amazing podcasts out there. Also.

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<v Speaker 1>You did mention books, and there is a book that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm reading right now that I'm loving. Okay. It's called

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<v Speaker 1>This Is Enough by doctor Sarah Alexander and I bought

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<v Speaker 1>it on Amazon, and it's a book but also a journal.

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<v Speaker 1>So what I like about it is that it's almost

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<v Speaker 1>like a life coach, and it gives you, It prompts

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<v Speaker 1>you to think and think outside of the box and

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<v Speaker 1>really be honest with your feelings, and it's helping you

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<v Speaker 1>throughout the book, and the more you journal, it's helping

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<v Speaker 1>you figure out what is that one situation, whatever it

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<v Speaker 1>may be, or that one person even that is causing

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<v Speaker 1>you to get sad or angry or is triggering you

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<v Speaker 1>in some way. So it's something that I would definitely recommend.

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<v Speaker 1>And another one of my favorite authors. I love all

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<v Speaker 1>her books. Her name is Marianne Williamson. Amazing, great stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't go wrong with any of her books. And

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<v Speaker 1>one thing that I have found that has helped me

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. I used to do it a lot more

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm starting to get back into it is journaling.

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<v Speaker 1>So this book this is enough will get you started

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<v Speaker 1>on it. But I like to handwrite things, although my

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<v Speaker 1>hand now hurts when I handwrite because I'm so used

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<v Speaker 1>to my phone. So whatever works best for you, either

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<v Speaker 1>you handwrite it or you put it in your notes

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<v Speaker 1>on your phone. Regardless, the important thing is to let

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<v Speaker 1>your feelings out. That will help you so much. We

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<v Speaker 1>are the medicine. Okay, remember that. I know that. Obviously

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<v Speaker 1>therapy helps. Of course, I'm a huge advocate, as you

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<v Speaker 1>know this, but also, like you said, if right now

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<v Speaker 1>is you can't afford it, then journaling will definitely help you.

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<v Speaker 1>What I like to do is start off by writing

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<v Speaker 1>down the date, because it's important. I like to write

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<v Speaker 1>down the date and the time, and then three things

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<v Speaker 1>that you're grateful for. There has to be three things

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<v Speaker 1>at least that you're grateful for. It could be as

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<v Speaker 1>simple as I have a roof over my head. Someone

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<v Speaker 1>smiled at me. I don't know whatever it is that

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<v Speaker 1>you're grateful for that made you feel good. And I

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<v Speaker 1>like to journal at night because I like to go

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<v Speaker 1>through my day and then I go through Okay, was

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<v Speaker 1>there something that made me sad, What made me sad?

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<v Speaker 1>How I can fix it? And in between the sadness,

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<v Speaker 1>what made you happy? There has to be something, because

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<v Speaker 1>it's good to let out your feelings but also compensate

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<v Speaker 1>it with something good because that keeps your heart nice

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<v Speaker 1>and light and with time, and the more you write,

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<v Speaker 1>the better you'll feel. And it feels really nice to

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<v Speaker 1>go back and read certain entries and realize, Okay, what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on, what is it that's really triggering me? What

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<v Speaker 1>is happening? And how can I make myself feel better

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<v Speaker 1>or what can I do to make myself feel better?

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<v Speaker 1>Even if it's if it's like I always say this,

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<v Speaker 1>self care is so good and that helps a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, journaling is great. Try it. And also before

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<v Speaker 1>I let you go on Instagram, there are a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people that are coming out with podcasts that aren't

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<v Speaker 1>really podcasts. They're more of like motivational videos that really

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<v Speaker 1>helped me. They're super short and concise and straight to

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<v Speaker 1>the point and like something like that, like fifteen seconds,

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<v Speaker 1>thirty seconds, like they really just put you back into gear.

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<v Speaker 1>So make sure you follow the right pages. And also

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<v Speaker 1>you're feeding your soul on a daily basis. With good,

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<v Speaker 1>positive things so that you can feel better, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So hopefully that helps a little Diana, and sending you

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<v Speaker 1>a big big hug and don't worry, read this too

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<v Speaker 1>shall pass. I always tell myself that and always you

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<v Speaker 1>got this girl, We got this, okay, guys. So last

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<v Speaker 1>question comes from Betty.

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<v Speaker 4>All the Chickson Comte persona thirty form to the TMO

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<v Speaker 4>Temando mill Bass when dis hoest basis.

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<v Speaker 1>Much bessos iveticlyds do com was when okays? So I

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<v Speaker 1>was telling Betty that very soon I will be going

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<v Speaker 1>on my book tour. I have a book coming out.

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<v Speaker 1>If you didn't know, now you know it's a children's

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<v Speaker 1>book and it's called The Girl Who Sings to Bees.

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<v Speaker 1>So I will be sharing very soon the dates and

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<v Speaker 1>locations of where we will be so that hopefully that

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<v Speaker 1>they can give me a hug because I love hugs.

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<v Speaker 1>I see Betty, I see Okay, Ivan, Diana, Betty kisses hugs.

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<v Speaker 1>I love your guys energy. Thank you so much. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys keep me so happy and honestly, I'm so grateful,

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<v Speaker 1>and you guys tell me that I am inspire you,

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<v Speaker 1>and in reality, you guys always inspire me. You guys

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<v Speaker 1>make me feel better. So thank you so much, and

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for supporting Dear Cheeky's and coming back every

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<v Speaker 1>week to listen to the podcast. So and don't forget

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<v Speaker 1>about cheeks and choke. Okay anyway, I love you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>and I will catch you here on the next episode

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