1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need 4 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having 5 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: issues with your family, or maybe you have a question 6 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in 8 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue 9 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 2: Hi Cheeky's, I just wanted to get on here just 13 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 2: to say hi to you and see how you were doing. 14 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 2: I know I had sent your messages through Instagram and 15 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 2: ozapin that iching, but anyways, yeah, I do want you 16 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 2: to answer me. I know you're gonna be really busy. 17 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:12,440 Speaker 2: I know you're planning to have a baby soon, so 18 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:14,680 Speaker 2: I know there's a lot of factors into it, so 19 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 2: I understand. But the actual question that I had right 20 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:22,640 Speaker 2: now is I seen the podcast that you made with 21 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 2: somebody that was related to ghost therapy that you were 22 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 2: able to connect to your mom and your stepdad in 23 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:35,320 Speaker 2: a spiritual way. And I am just I don't know. 24 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 2: I'm just curious and I want to hear how that 25 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 2: made you feel, because honestly, throughout that podcast, it made 26 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 2: me freaking cry. It like I don't know, like the 27 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 2: wind chimes how they how they rang, whenever your mom 28 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 2: was talking to you, like I don't know. It was 29 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 2: just so so touching and it touched my heart and 30 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 2: it made me cry because I felt so many emotions 31 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 2: and I don't know. It's just something that I want 32 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 2: to hear from you, and I just want you to 33 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 2: know that I love you so much and keep doing 34 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 2: what you're doing because you're awesome and you're meant to 35 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:13,639 Speaker 2: do this to get muncho. 36 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: Oh Ivan, thank you so much. Okay, So those of 37 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:22,799 Speaker 1: you who don't know what he's talking about. I went 38 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: on a podcast called Ghosts There Be back in April, 39 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 1: and she basically the host of the podcast, she connects 40 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: with your loved ones or people that have passed, and 41 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:40,520 Speaker 1: she connects with my mom. We got a lot of 42 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 1: really great feedback from that podcast, and I also got 43 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: some not so positive feedback, you know, from religious people, 44 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:52,640 Speaker 1: which I understand and I respect, but for me, I 45 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: felt at the very beginning a little skeptical. Maybe I 46 00:02:57,320 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 1: don't know if that's the right word, but I was 47 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:03,960 Speaker 1: a little. And then as the conversation progressed, I felt 48 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: better about it and even more and more and more, 49 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 1: and like at the end, I felt so much peace 50 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:13,639 Speaker 1: and I let out a good cry and I felt good. 51 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 1: I have been feeling very connected to my mom lately, 52 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: so I think that that conversation happened at the perfect time. 53 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: So many things were said that I haven't told a 54 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 1: lot of people, just very very close people, and especially 55 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: people that don't talk to her. So I'm like, Okay, 56 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening here, but something is happening. 57 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: And I do believe obviously in the spiritual world. And 58 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 1: I just had the conversation. I took what I needed 59 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 1: and everything else, I just I left it there, you know. 60 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 1: So that's kind of how I take things like that. 61 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: I don't try to think more than I have to, 62 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: if that makes sense. But it definitely gave me a 63 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: lot of peace and just oh, it was just like 64 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: a sigh of release. But thank you for listening to that, 65 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: and thank you Papah for I love it, Keep it, 66 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: keep keep it going. I love it. Sending you a 67 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: big hugbub okay. Second question comes from Diana. 68 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 3: Hi Cheeky's. I know you're very big on therapy and 69 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:21,359 Speaker 3: I'm trying my best to do some healing. The only 70 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 3: thing is I'm in a very tight budget. I live 71 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 3: a frugal lifestyle in the process of paying off debt, 72 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 3: and I would like to know do you have any 73 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 3: suggestions for someone like me that cannot afford therapy? You know, 74 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 3: is there a certain any books that you recommend, any 75 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 3: other resources, because the only thing I can think of 76 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:52,119 Speaker 3: right now are books, but I don't know what else. 77 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 3: I will already appreciate your feedback. 78 00:04:57,080 --> 00:05:00,359 Speaker 1: Oh, thank you so much Diana for your question, and 79 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: I definitely understand. I get it. I know that therepy 80 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 1: can be pricey, but I know that there are groups 81 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:09,479 Speaker 1: you can find near you. I don't know exactly where 82 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: you live, but you can check online. There's online communities 83 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: as well. Also, prayer is huge, you know, I'm huge 84 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: on prayer and meditation. Good podcast like mine, you know, 85 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 1: we love this podcast, but also I love Jay Shetty's 86 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: podcast on Purpose. I love a good cry. There are 87 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:32,839 Speaker 1: so many great podcasts. It just all depends what you're 88 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 1: looking for, but there are amazing podcasts out there. Also. 89 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 1: You did mention books, and there is a book that 90 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:41,920 Speaker 1: I'm reading right now that I'm loving. Okay. It's called 91 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:45,159 Speaker 1: This Is Enough by doctor Sarah Alexander and I bought 92 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 1: it on Amazon, and it's a book but also a journal. 93 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: So what I like about it is that it's almost 94 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: like a life coach, and it gives you, It prompts 95 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 1: you to think and think outside of the box and 96 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 1: really be honest with your feelings, and it's helping you 97 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 1: throughout the book, and the more you journal, it's helping 98 00:06:04,640 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 1: you figure out what is that one situation, whatever it 99 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 1: may be, or that one person even that is causing 100 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:16,040 Speaker 1: you to get sad or angry or is triggering you 101 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,359 Speaker 1: in some way. So it's something that I would definitely recommend. 102 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:22,360 Speaker 1: And another one of my favorite authors. I love all 103 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: her books. Her name is Marianne Williamson. Amazing, great stuff. 104 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: You can't go wrong with any of her books. And 105 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:32,159 Speaker 1: one thing that I have found that has helped me 106 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:34,119 Speaker 1: a lot. I used to do it a lot more 107 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: and I'm starting to get back into it is journaling. 108 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 1: So this book this is enough will get you started 109 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: on it. But I like to handwrite things, although my 110 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 1: hand now hurts when I handwrite because I'm so used 111 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 1: to my phone. So whatever works best for you, either 112 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 1: you handwrite it or you put it in your notes 113 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: on your phone. Regardless, the important thing is to let 114 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 1: your feelings out. That will help you so much. We 115 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: are the medicine. Okay, remember that. I know that. Obviously 116 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: therapy helps. Of course, I'm a huge advocate, as you 117 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: know this, but also, like you said, if right now 118 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: is you can't afford it, then journaling will definitely help you. 119 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: What I like to do is start off by writing 120 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: down the date, because it's important. I like to write 121 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 1: down the date and the time, and then three things 122 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: that you're grateful for. There has to be three things 123 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: at least that you're grateful for. It could be as 124 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: simple as I have a roof over my head. Someone 125 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 1: smiled at me. I don't know whatever it is that 126 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 1: you're grateful for that made you feel good. And I 127 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: like to journal at night because I like to go 128 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: through my day and then I go through Okay, was 129 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:40,559 Speaker 1: there something that made me sad, What made me sad? 130 00:07:41,240 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 1: How I can fix it? And in between the sadness, 131 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: what made you happy? There has to be something, because 132 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 1: it's good to let out your feelings but also compensate 133 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: it with something good because that keeps your heart nice 134 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 1: and light and with time, and the more you write, 135 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 1: the better you'll feel. And it feels really nice to 136 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: go back and read certain entries and realize, Okay, what's 137 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:08,600 Speaker 1: going on, what is it that's really triggering me? What 138 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 1: is happening? And how can I make myself feel better 139 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 1: or what can I do to make myself feel better? 140 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 1: Even if it's if it's like I always say this, 141 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 1: self care is so good and that helps a lot. 142 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: So anyway, journaling is great. Try it. And also before 143 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 1: I let you go on Instagram, there are a lot 144 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 1: of people that are coming out with podcasts that aren't 145 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:35,440 Speaker 1: really podcasts. They're more of like motivational videos that really 146 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:39,000 Speaker 1: helped me. They're super short and concise and straight to 147 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 1: the point and like something like that, like fifteen seconds, 148 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: thirty seconds, like they really just put you back into gear. 149 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:49,080 Speaker 1: So make sure you follow the right pages. And also 150 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: you're feeding your soul on a daily basis. With good, 151 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,680 Speaker 1: positive things so that you can feel better, you know. 152 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: So hopefully that helps a little Diana, and sending you 153 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: a big big hug and don't worry, read this too 154 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:04,959 Speaker 1: shall pass. I always tell myself that and always you 155 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: got this girl, We got this, okay, guys. So last 156 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: question comes from Betty. 157 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 4: All the Chickson Comte persona thirty form to the TMO 158 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:47,479 Speaker 4: Temando mill Bass when dis hoest basis. 159 00:09:47,200 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 1: Much bessos iveticlyds do com was when okays? So I 160 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 1: was telling Betty that very soon I will be going 161 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:23,679 Speaker 1: on my book tour. I have a book coming out. 162 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 1: If you didn't know, now you know it's a children's 163 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: book and it's called The Girl Who Sings to Bees. 164 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 1: So I will be sharing very soon the dates and 165 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,839 Speaker 1: locations of where we will be so that hopefully that 166 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: they can give me a hug because I love hugs. 167 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:51,520 Speaker 1: I see Betty, I see Okay, Ivan, Diana, Betty kisses hugs. 168 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: I love your guys energy. Thank you so much. You 169 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: guys keep me so happy and honestly, I'm so grateful, 170 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:00,559 Speaker 1: and you guys tell me that I am inspire you, 171 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: and in reality, you guys always inspire me. You guys 172 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 1: make me feel better. So thank you so much, and 173 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 1: thank you for supporting Dear Cheeky's and coming back every 174 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: week to listen to the podcast. So and don't forget 175 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:12,960 Speaker 1: about cheeks and choke. Okay anyway, I love you guys, 176 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 1: and I will catch you here on the next episode 177 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 1: of Dear Cheekys. Have a beautiful week, you guys, misito. 178 00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 1: This is a production of iHeartRadio and the Michael Dura 179 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:29,440 Speaker 1: podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael Doura Podcasts 180 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: and follow me Cheeky's That's c h i q U 181 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:36,679 Speaker 1: i s. 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