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Speaker 1: one right here, right now. Yeah, buggle up and hold

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Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you. Here It is

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject she had my clothes

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Speaker 1: on when he walked in. Dear Stephen Shirley, I just

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Speaker 1: got into a bad fistfight with my best buddy because

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Speaker 1: of a woman that he is secretly in love with.

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Speaker 1: I had a house party recently and we all had

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Speaker 1: a lot to drink, so I offered to let a

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Speaker 1: few people stay over all night. My boy was trying

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Speaker 1: to talk to the finest girl that was there, and

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Speaker 1: she was not really receptive to him. He told me

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Speaker 1: so I didn't pay it any mind. She ended up

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Speaker 1: and had been drinking. In fact, two other girls that

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Speaker 1: a pair of basketball shorts and a T shirt to

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Speaker 1: sleep in because she had on a dress. I had

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Speaker 1: another girl in my bed that night, and we had

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Speaker 1: a great time. Let me be clear, it was not

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Speaker 1: the fine girl that my buddy has a crush on.

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Speaker 1: The Next morning, my buddy popped up at my place

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Speaker 1: and the girls were still there and making breakfast, so

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Speaker 1: his crush still had on my clothes. I could tell.

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Speaker 1: He assumed that something went down between us. He asked

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Speaker 1: me to step outside, and without saying a word, he

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Speaker 1: then we started tussling. The girls ran out and broke

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Speaker 1: up the fight, and he told the fine girl she

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Speaker 1: was trash. She was puzzled because she had no idea

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Speaker 1: he was crazy about her. All I care about now

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Speaker 1: is getting him back for punching me. He has messed

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Speaker 1: up my any possibilities of getting with the girl, and

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Speaker 1: it was all over nothing. So should I try talking

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Speaker 1: some sense into him or should I beat his ass

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Speaker 1: first and then see what happens with our friendship? Let

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Speaker 1: us say it. Should I beat his ass first? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And I spelled it same thing, all right? Yeah? Should

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Speaker 1: I beat him up first and then see what happens

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Speaker 1: with our friendship? Please help? Okay, how old are you guys?

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Speaker 1: Are you seven and eight? Because I don't know any

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Speaker 1: grown men who act like this? I just don't, And

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Speaker 1: your friend more so than you. I think you know

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Speaker 1: he's immature. He sucker punched you and for no reason. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but now he was so wrong. He had no proof.

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Speaker 1: He didn't catch you guys doing anything. He didn't he

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Speaker 1: didn't see anything. I mean, all he saw was her

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Speaker 1: own wrong conclusion. Okay, I just none of the stuff

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Speaker 1: that would make a man just haul off and put

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Speaker 1: his hands on you. And they don't go together, they're

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Speaker 1: he feels a certain way about her. I don't think

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Speaker 1: this guy is really your friend. He sounds like a

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Speaker 1: little hater to me, and just a little child. I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't waste my time trying to explain to him what

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Speaker 1: at least asked you when he asked you to step outside,

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Speaker 1: why couldn't he ask you what happened? Why does she

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Speaker 1: have on your clothes? Whatever? Before he just hauled off

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Speaker 1: and swung on you. I think at this point fighting

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Speaker 1: him is a waste too, especially since time has gone by.

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Speaker 1: I just think he needs to I just think he

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Speaker 1: needs to grow up. I just think he needs to

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Speaker 1: grow up. Steve. I know you want to fight, because

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Speaker 1: that's what you do. But you know, surely yesterday I

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Speaker 1: agree with Okay, we don't always agree, now, just im

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Speaker 1: I know you're missing a key element. You said the letter.

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Speaker 1: Men don't do that. They do it all the damn time,

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Speaker 1: down about some sex? Now? But there was no sex? Well,

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Speaker 1: Ain't nobody missed no sex? Yes? Right? Not some people? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but surely here's what happens to It's what happens. Toweet

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Speaker 1: it because I don't want you to miss this house party.

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Speaker 1: We all had a lot to drink, so you let

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Speaker 1: all night, your boy was talking to the finest girl

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Speaker 1: feeling it. But now he crazy about it? Right? He

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Speaker 1: this dude say, she ain't my type, so I ain't

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Speaker 1: paying no mine. Hold up, dog, hold up, see that

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Speaker 1: like him? Baddest girl at the party, ain't your damn

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Speaker 1: tight boy. Oh that's the liar saying he's not sure.

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Speaker 1: This is Jez's young dudes. Now they are? They are?

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Speaker 1: Because you said my boy was trying to talk to

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Speaker 1: you observed it. He told me that she asked about me. Now,

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Speaker 1: this fine girl asked about you, But she's not my type,

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Speaker 1: so I ain't paying no mind. What So she ended

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Speaker 1: up staying at my house because she lived in suburbs

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Speaker 1: and had been drinking. And two other girls came with

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Speaker 1: reading this fine girl ain't your type? Is because she

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Speaker 1: hold that, hold that, hold that, hold that. Where are

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Speaker 1: you going, Steve boy? We'll come back and I have

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response to this letter coming up

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Speaker 1: at twenty three minutes after the the hour, subject she

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap the Strawberry letter today. Subject she

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Speaker 1: had my clothes on when he walked in. Yeah, dude,

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Speaker 1: got a best friend talking to this party they had.

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Speaker 1: They got to drink, and he decided to let some

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Speaker 1: the reason the fine girl ain't Joe type is cause

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Speaker 1: you were in there with mighty Joe Young all night long.

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Speaker 1: I do not say that. Yeah, and a little mighty

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Speaker 1: ass time all right. Now. Now, then you said in

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Speaker 1: Which is cool, bro, I ain't mad at you at all.

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Speaker 1: This was not the fine girl you gave the basketball

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Speaker 1: your boy popped over the girls was there making breakfast,

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Speaker 1: She ain't there with his basktbrusher? What you what you

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Speaker 1: what you're doing? Were cooking breakfast? Night got his shots,

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Speaker 1: He asked me to step outside, not not dog mean

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Speaker 1: you already know now how he feeled about this girl.

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Speaker 1: You saw the you're still here? Yeah, you stid now

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Speaker 1: But he told you that the girl was asking about you.

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Speaker 1: without friend show? Yeah, because all I care about nas

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Speaker 1: getting back at him for punching me. Well, he tagged

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Speaker 1: fine Chick got your clothes on? He said, Tom defined

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Speaker 1: had a good time. He said, he had a great

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Speaker 1: there wrestling with God's jeller. What he said if she

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Speaker 1: she did? Third, we gotta go you back in the end,

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