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Speaker 1: Oh John, Oh, Sam, I love you so much.

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Speaker 1: Ex boyfriend cheated with his sister.

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Speaker 4: familial relations and general family dysfunction. So I was with

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Speaker 4: this bloke for three years, and for months I had

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Speaker 4: this gut feeling he was cheating. He'd stay up late

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Speaker 4: at night on his phone, nothing weird in itself, but

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Speaker 4: he would literally turn his whole body so I couldn't

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Speaker 4: see his screen, like lying there facing me but holding

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Speaker 4: his phone away proper shady. I asked him about it,

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Speaker 4: but he'd always get super defensive. By the way, This

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Speaker 1: I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're here to

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Speaker 1: give good advice goofully. But we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 1: We only know what we'd do, So tell us what

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Speaker 1: you would do in the comments.

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Speaker 3: I've never been through this, and I'm scared.

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Speaker 1: I don't have any siblings.

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Speaker 3: Oh I don't have any Sturblay.

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Speaker 1: Can't possibly go through this, Op says, so yeah.

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Speaker 4: One night I thought forget it and went through his

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Speaker 4: phone while he was in the shower. This man was

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Speaker 4: on every dating app going sliding into random girls DMS. Honestly,

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Speaker 4: it was pathetic. Half the girls left him on red

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Speaker 4: and the rest gave him one word replies. He looked thirsty.

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Speaker 4: I was honestly embarrassed. I'd even touched him.

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Speaker 1: Let alone.

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Speaker 4: Wasted three years, and I benned him off the next day.

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Speaker 4: Fast forward six months, I'm minding my business. A mate

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Speaker 4: sent me a random video she found in some group

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Speaker 1: I notice the tattoo.

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Speaker 3: Wait, I'm sorry, your friends just sending you.

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Speaker 1: Corn, but it's like where they even have how? Why?

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Speaker 1: Why is that floating around?

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Speaker 3: Why is that floating around?

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Speaker 5: Your friends don't send you any Thank.

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Speaker 2: Goodness knows, Sophia just admitted her and all her friends

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Speaker 5: You're my friend.

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Speaker 1: You We're all boring. Dunk dunked on because.

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Speaker 3: We know what the rice purity test was.

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Speaker 5: Dakota would pass that with fly colors, you would probably

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Speaker 5: get a hun knew it was. Of course, I know

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Speaker 5: what it was because I'm Asian.

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Speaker 4: What what someone's crossing off a very unfortunate box on

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Speaker 1: On this toy? So true, my blood ran cold. I

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Speaker 1: knew that tattoo. I zoom in and then I see

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Speaker 3: It's his sister.

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Speaker 5: Oh man, are you really going to say it? This?

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Speaker 5: This is that's the story where we actually say it.

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Speaker 3: Eh.

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Speaker 5: He probably kissed his sister.

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Speaker 2: That's I said it like that, I know.

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Speaker 4: I swear to god, I almost threw my phone. This

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Speaker 4: But nope, apparently their whole circle already knew what like

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Speaker 4: this was some open secret.

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Speaker 3: Ha ha. I'm sorry. The second I find out about that,

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Speaker 1: Don't kiss your sister, George Lucas.

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Speaker 4: Meanwhile, I was playing Happy Families, planning our future, kissing

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Speaker 4: this man who.

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Speaker 1: Was literally with his sister. I felt physically ill.

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Speaker 4: Like I used to think being cheated al was humiliating,

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Speaker 4: but this is trauma on another level.

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Speaker 5: Is it like a specific tattoo that nobody else has ca.

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Speaker 3: Wh It's just that she even recognized his sister's face.

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Speaker 1: Somebody could have done the nick cage face off.

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Speaker 2: Well.

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Speaker 3: She also went and checked with his friends and family,

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Speaker 3: and it's an open secret.

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Speaker 3: Man, also pretty concerning. I want to know, like what

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Speaker 1: I don't know, because there's life. They're both to fia a.

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Speaker 3: Lot of like genetic intimate.

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Speaker 1: Old enough unviable to make a child. More.

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Speaker 3: My point is that a lot of those types of

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Speaker 5: So yes, it looks like our residents from the UK. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: did say it's illegal, but cousins can.

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Speaker 1: All right, folks, let's get through this. I feel like

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Speaker 1: I need bleach for my soul. Yeah me, too.

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Speaker 4: Now, can someone help me on what I should do

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Speaker 4: about this blow? Shall I tell his mom because I'm

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Speaker 1: Do you think I should just leave it?

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Speaker 3: Don't just leave it.

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Speaker 1: You probably tell his mom.

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Speaker 3: Pile his mom if you have, If you're still in

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Speaker 3: contact with his mom, tell his mom, I hope, and

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Speaker 3: then if she knows, then go to the police.

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Speaker 5: If she knows and she's like, yeah, I love that

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Speaker 3: I love how close my children are.

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Speaker 5: We're a tight knit family.

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Speaker 3: Here to jail all of you.

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Speaker 4: Ah. So I'm already really pissed off. I got cheated

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Speaker 4: anyone have any recommendations on how I can ruin his life? Sorry,

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Speaker 4: I'm a little evil. My recommendation is that vengeance is

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Speaker 4: bad for your brain.

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Speaker 5: His life is already ruined.

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Speaker 3: His life is already bad.

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Speaker 1: Just yeah, tell the relevant parties that.

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Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, hey found this information out. You can even

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Speaker 3: do it anonymously. Text his mom from a different number.

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Speaker 4: Do not get involved in this in a way that

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Speaker 4: back to other family members. Interfamilial relations are explosive and

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Speaker 4: extremely taboo. People react with such disgust, and rightly so.

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Speaker 4: It is entirely possible he will face real pushback and

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Speaker 4: If not, the best revenge is just living well. Honestly,

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Speaker 4: if this is happening to me, I'm like, I tell

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Speaker 4: these people ever again, lose all of their information, all.

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Speaker 3: Of their information and then I go to the front

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Speaker 3: and say, where did you get this? Why did you

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Speaker 5: By the way, why do the why does the circle know?

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Speaker 5: These friends know?

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Speaker 1: And they're like, yeah, that's cool, let's just keep going coming.

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Speaker 4: Number two, Please do not send the video to anyone,

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Speaker 4: as this is classed as revenge coorn and has been

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Speaker 4: illegal in the UK for years. Update to address a

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Speaker 4: few things. The video was on an Instagram reel on

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Speaker 4: a bait account. It was up for a while and

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Speaker 4: my friend was sent it by another friend on a

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Speaker 4: got asked why my friend wasn't freaked out, and yet

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Speaker 4: to me. I've messaged the account and reached out, but

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Speaker 4: I've still not received a reply. The video got taken

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Speaker 4: down the day before yesterday. His sister is older by

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Speaker 4: about three years. I've met her and the rest of

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Speaker 1: His dad has always been a bit of a weirdo.

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine this family's normal.

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Speaker 5: This can't be real.

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine this family is normal.

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Speaker 4: I'm not completely sure if his parents knew about it before,

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Speaker 4: On the bit account post his at was being posted

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Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone knows. You don't need to. Also, I'm wondering

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Speaker 4: A creep Sometimes when you realize family's down with this

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Speaker 5: This is definitely down with the sickness. Yep.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't have to do anything, Opee. Everyone knows.

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Speaker 4: I've been getting messages from our old mutuals and rumors

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Speaker 4: that he always was way too close to his sister.

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Speaker 4: And what my brother means by close is they were

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Speaker 4: For example, I remember this one time when we were

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Speaker 4: I'm such an idiot I didn't speak up. I mean,

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Speaker 4: holding your sister's hand is not an identicator that you would.

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Speaker 3: what would you do? He's holding his sister's hand, and

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Speaker 1: Yeah, now you're the weirdest.

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Speaker 3: Oh you're weirdo, cause now it's like, that's my sister, bro,

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Speaker 3: why are you being weird?

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Speaker 4: There were many times when his sister or mom would

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Speaker 1: He was cheating on me, I just left. One thing I.

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Speaker 4: Did find really weird about him is that when his

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Speaker 3: So don't beat yourself up, is what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: Oh my brother was not shocked, but my mom was

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Speaker 1: Yeah no, but I agree, cut your losses, move on

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Speaker 3: Did something like this, would you not be like you

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Speaker 4: But that's already kind of late because our pictures were

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Speaker 3: Rough it just.

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Speaker 5: Kind of ruined my Wednesday vibe.

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Speaker 3: Ah, why was this the first story? Man?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I mean, don't advertise that you dated this guy. You

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Speaker 5: I don't know. I would be like, I don't want

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Speaker 4: Oh at the Great Icebreakers, Soovia instant about getting myself checked.

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Speaker 1: I feel fine.

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Speaker 4: Been almost seven months since I left, and I'm finding

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Speaker 4: They're always fully booked, but I will at some point

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Speaker 2: I didn't want no one.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't want that no one. People watched that.

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Speaker 3: People wanted you to send the video of her children

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Speaker 1: You're probably crime doing that.

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Speaker 5: Whole game of thrown one crime.

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Speaker 6: Don't who I'm sorry who said send the video of

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Speaker 1: Y'all move different, y'all are free. Okay, let's also just

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Speaker 4: I want all of your Internet privileges revoked permanently, everyone

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Speaker 5: If I were a good friend, like I'm gonna warn you,

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Speaker 3: You don't want to watch it.

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Speaker 5: It's one of those videos online that you never want

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Speaker 5: Da Coda knows those videos.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, there's a little lift.

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Speaker 4: I was all for that when I was angry, but

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Speaker 1: Like I said, I live in the UK.

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Speaker 4: And it would be seen as revenge corn and I

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Speaker 4: I could report it to the police, but like I said,

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Speaker 4: think she would be happy if she found this post. Also,

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Speaker 4: if you're feeling bad for my ex, please don't.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't deserve it.

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Speaker 1: Why would I feel bad?

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Speaker 5: Who would feel bad for him?

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Speaker 1: One he cheated, but two with his sister.

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Speaker 5: He kissed his sister.

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Speaker 3: If the parents were in any way you know, knowledgeable

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Speaker 5: I need saltine, no business. I have this and I

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Speaker 2: Was it like, were they step siblings? Hopefully?

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Speaker 3: All right, let's do this. My ex asked me to

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Speaker 2: I'm the flowery oh Laurie.

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Speaker 3: Basically me thirty five male and my ex thirty six females.

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Speaker 3: Split up three years ago when we had been together

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Speaker 3: At first, we were very rocky when we separated, but

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Speaker 3: Over time, we became not just friends again, but in

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Speaker 2: Lovely little co parenting fur baby.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from deleted and if you

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Speaker 3: slash Okay storytime separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and

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Speaker 3: I'm ke On, and we're here to give good advice goofly,

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Speaker 3: but we only know what we'd do, So let us

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Speaker 3: when our dog passed away in the summer, we got

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Speaker 3: I think she meant remarriage to a man, really, presumably

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Speaker 2: I thought she just wouldn't get married in general, because

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Speaker 2: divorce is just so hard. She wouldn't want to go

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Speaker 3: Well, she's about to get married.

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Speaker 2: That's the plot of this, right, I know that. But

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Speaker 2: what I just think, Like, because he's like, I'm not

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Speaker 3: Because she's getting married and she that she was Gothic.

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Speaker 2: I know that, but if someone makes oh got it,

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Speaker 3: She met a new woman, thirty female last year after

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Speaker 3: We get on, but we're not close, just civil. They

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Speaker 3: They are coming up to only you're together this month.

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Speaker 3: This took me by surprise, considering how opposed she was

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Speaker 2: Wait, is this put a joke now or not here.

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Speaker 3: I'll explained to you. She was in a relationship with

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Speaker 3: why didn't she want to marry me because she didn't

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Speaker 2: Okay, but no, no budes much. Can I ask a question?

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Speaker 2: She made a statement, I don't want to be married again.

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Speaker 3: I think that she just said, Well.

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Speaker 2: She just said that because she was with the man

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Speaker 2: I don't like you've got there. I don't like beards.

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Speaker 2: I'm here, I'm here now, he's there, I'm here here.

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Speaker 3: While I was taking it in, she said that as

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Speaker 3: She thinks I am the best man she knows, and

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Speaker 2: Because she used to call you daddy.

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Speaker 3: Oh, without thinking, I said, you must be kidding, No way.

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Speaker 3: Like I, on the one hand, I understand why. I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, She's like, Oh, I realized I was never really

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't go anyway. Oh dang, y'all getting nasty, getting

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Speaker 3: but good enough to help make her big days special.

446
00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:01,639
Speaker 3: I do not seem and her regaining our friendship like

447
00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:03,880
Speaker 3: we had. I think even if we patch it up,

448
00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:06,680
Speaker 3: we will always have this over us. Am I wrong

449
00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:08,720
Speaker 3: for doing it? Should I have bit the bullet and

450
00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:11,119
Speaker 3: given her away? I think what is annoying me a

451
00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:13,560
Speaker 3: lot is that I consider what she did a big no.

452
00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:16,360
Speaker 3: Inviting an ex to a wedding is something I would

453
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:19,440
Speaker 3: not do, and consider it a bit insensitive on her part.

454
00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:22,639
Speaker 3: Why does she, her fiance and others think it's okay?

455
00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:25,159
Speaker 3: And why does she get a pass on the basis

456
00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:27,760
Speaker 3: that she's a woman and marrying a girl. Uncles and

457
00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:30,119
Speaker 3: aunts of mine who divorce stayed cool with her exes

458
00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:33,399
Speaker 3: and later remarried never dreamed of asking exes to be

459
00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 3: a part of and go to their future weddings. Why

460
00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:37,800
Speaker 3: should my situation be any different?

461
00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:39,639
Speaker 2: Okay, I see where he's coming from.

462
00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:43,439
Speaker 3: I think he is not over her. He hasn't been

463
00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:46,480
Speaker 3: in a serious relationship for three years. When she came

464
00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:49,560
Speaker 3: to him, instead of being polite and being like, hey,

465
00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 3: you know, I'm not super comfortable doing that, he went, no, way,

466
00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:57,399
Speaker 3: that's great. Like he had this huge reaction, which was rude,

467
00:20:57,840 --> 00:20:59,520
Speaker 3: and now he's going on this thing like why is

468
00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,200
Speaker 3: it indifferent? Why is it different because she's marrying a girl.

469
00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:06,080
Speaker 3: It's different because you guys literally said you were best friends.

470
00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:10,160
Speaker 3: Her fiance is fine with it, and also she said

471
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:11,480
Speaker 3: she wasn't attracted to men.

472
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:15,280
Speaker 5: I think, Op, he's hanging out that note. Yeah, exactly,

473
00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:18,200
Speaker 5: he's still into her, still hanging out to the notion

474
00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:20,200
Speaker 5: like she didn't marry me. How is that possible?

475
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:20,600
Speaker 3: Yeah?

476
00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, why couldn't she marry me?

477
00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 3: It's five hundred days of summer.

478
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:27,640
Speaker 2: He's definitely not over her. And from her point of view,

479
00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 2: I'm just thinking in the movie or the TV show,

480
00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:33,840
Speaker 2: how about your mother? Yeah? How I think like Head

481
00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:37,560
Speaker 2: dated Robin but everyone was still friends or like New Girl.

482
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:40,280
Speaker 2: You know, you can still date someone and be friends

483
00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:43,399
Speaker 2: and be close, but you can definitely season over by

484
00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:45,920
Speaker 2: the way he's like, you would never invite an extra wedding.

485
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not still seized.

486
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:49,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you're not an ex to op anymore. You're

487
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,600
Speaker 2: a best male friend. Yeah. She doesn't have a lot

488
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 2: of those in her life.

489
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 3: She even says she's like, I don't have a lot

490
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 3: of you know, good male figures.

491
00:21:57,520 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 2: Which confuses me on why he can continued the relationship

492
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 2: of friendship with me.

493
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:06,440
Speaker 3: Exactly if you saw this as so like taboo, Yeah

494
00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:09,200
Speaker 3: that's the thing. I think that you are absolutely justified

495
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:12,199
Speaker 3: and being like I'm not comfortable, yeah doing that, but

496
00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:14,920
Speaker 3: it could have done it more respectfully. And even if

497
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 3: your first thing was like no way, then you take

498
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,200
Speaker 3: a minute and you go, I'm so sorry I reacted

499
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:22,439
Speaker 3: that way. You asked me this really special thing, and

500
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,199
Speaker 3: I am not comfortable, but I shouldn't have reacted like that.

501
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:28,320
Speaker 3: Comment one strip away all the other stuff, and it

502
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 3: comes down to this. The woman who didn't want to

503
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 3: marry you and who broke your heart wants you to

504
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 3: come to her wedding and literally give her away to

505
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:37,800
Speaker 3: someone else. You're allowed to say no comment to. I

506
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 3: would say any chance of reconciliation flew away as soon

507
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 3: as your ex decided to let her fiance and your

508
00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:46,240
Speaker 3: family members get involved and pester you about it. I

509
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,679
Speaker 3: would also agree with that. I don't blame you for

510
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,119
Speaker 3: saying no. Definitely could have been worded better, but she

511
00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:53,960
Speaker 3: should have talked to you more about it before just

512
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 3: telling everyone you're an awful person and making them mad

513
00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,880
Speaker 3: at you, Opie says. A cousin of mine even tried

514
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 3: to guilt me saying bye my actions, I was subconsciously

515
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 3: showing my internalized homophobia. I mean, WTF right? Also, that's

516
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 3: not what internalized homophobia is? Internalized homophobia? That would be

517
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:16,119
Speaker 3: like homophobia. Oh, I don't know's I feel like that

518
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:19,919
Speaker 3: doesn't make sense? Reply? I hate this logic. Ask them

519
00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 3: to take their identity out of it completely. Ask them

520
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 3: would you be comfortable if your ex who broke your

521
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:26,920
Speaker 3: heart asked you to give them away at their wedding

522
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:27,640
Speaker 3: to someone new?

523
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:28,360
Speaker 2: No?

524
00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:30,960
Speaker 3: So why should I treat her any differently because of

525
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 3: her identity?

526
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:33,159
Speaker 1: Is their best friends?

527
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,200
Speaker 3: You told us they were best friends. Comb and three.

528
00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 3: From reading the whole thread, it's obvious that she sees

529
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,719
Speaker 3: you Ope as a very dear and platonic friend. In

530
00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 3: her mind. It's honoring the connection you have as friends.

531
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 3: Asking you to give her away. She does, however, obviously

532
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 3: not get at all how much the initial rejection of

533
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:55,199
Speaker 3: the breakup and its aftermath have hurt you and still do.

534
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 3: I don't think he realizes this either. She's got up

535
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,640
Speaker 3: in her own happiness and didn't think to consider perspective.

536
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 3: Nobody's trying to be an ale, but you both hurt

537
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 3: each other bad. Honestly, I'd say that since you have

538
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 3: not properly healed, you should consider if it's really healthy

539
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:13,560
Speaker 3: to stay friends, to stay close friends, or if you'd

540
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 3: heal better on your own. Obviously you feel strung long.

541
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,840
Speaker 3: I honestly think it's great when people start living for

542
00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 3: you to themselves, but there is often a partner left

543
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 3: behind feeling tricked, and there is an update. I don't

544
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 3: really agree with all those comments. I agree with some

545
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 3: of them and parts of some of them, except for

546
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:32,360
Speaker 3: that last comment. I think they were all leaving out

547
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,159
Speaker 3: that he said that they were best friends. Yeah, and

548
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:38,679
Speaker 3: I think that he is not realizing that he is

549
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:40,440
Speaker 3: not over this relationship.

550
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:44,879
Speaker 2: Definitely not man, But you're gonna apologize for saying the

551
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 2: word you said and not go to the wedding and

552
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:52,159
Speaker 2: be on okay terms with Opie or your ex right, yeah, right, Opie.

553
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:55,360
Speaker 3: I also wonder because he was saying that you would

554
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,920
Speaker 3: never invite an X to a wedding, So is he's

555
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 3: not even going to go to their wedding? He's like,

556
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 3: don't now he's not. But before his friend asked oh

557
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:04,919
Speaker 3: him to walk her down the aisle, was he not

558
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 3: even planning to go to the wedding. I don't think

559
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:09,639
Speaker 3: he was, which is crazy because she was absolutely going

560
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 3: to invite him even if she wasn't asking him to

561
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,639
Speaker 3: walk her down the aisle. Like, imagine your best friend

562
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:16,000
Speaker 3: not going to your wedding.

563
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:19,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you're hanging out with someone one on one regularly,

564
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:22,400
Speaker 2: you're going to their wedding. Yeah, that makes them crazy.

565
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 3: I don't know.

566
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:25,159
Speaker 2: The correlation doesn't make any sense at all.

567
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 3: Yeah. Update, I have lots of great advice, but one

568
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 3: was to write a letter to convey my feelings. I

569
00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:32,880
Speaker 3: was in the process of doing so when I got

570
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 3: a text from her yesterday asking if she could come

571
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 3: to my house in the evening so we could chat

572
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 3: about what went down and clear the air. I agreed,

573
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 3: and she came over. The first thing she did was

574
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 3: apologize for her fiance's behavior and for people pestering me.

575
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:48,880
Speaker 3: She admitted that she was so upset when she got

576
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:51,399
Speaker 3: home that afternoon that her partner freaked out and how

577
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 3: to go at me without thinking the others found out

578
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:55,719
Speaker 3: because she has a WhatsApp group that she set up

579
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 3: to talk about her proposal, and she mentioned in there

580
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,119
Speaker 3: that she was going to ask me, so people had

581
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 3: been messaging her on there to ask how she got on, which, honestly,

582
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:07,120
Speaker 3: I feel like kind of takes a lot of the

583
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 3: you know, blame off her because that was the only

584
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:11,240
Speaker 3: thing that I was saying that she was the a

585
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 3: hole for uh And she didn't even do it on purpose.

586
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 3: She was just like he didn't accept. She assured me

587
00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 3: she's going to ask people on there to leave me alone.

588
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 3: Now you let me go first, And I said, basically

589
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 3: that I was so taken aback because of her stance

590
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 3: on marriage when we were together and the fact I

591
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 3: wanted to marry her so much. When she asked me,

592
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 3: I guess all the feelings I had when she first

593
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 3: came out and we separated came flooding back. She said

594
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 3: she could see where I was coming from, and admitted

595
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 3: in hindsight, she didn't really stop and consider my feelings

596
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 3: because she's so caught up in her happy little world.

597
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 3: She then said that the reason why she wants me

598
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 3: to not only be there is that she loves me

599
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:50,359
Speaker 3: so much, and even though she's not into me spicily

600
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 3: or romantically, she still considers me her soulmate in a way.

601
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:56,240
Speaker 3: She said she feels I get her more than anyone

602
00:26:56,280 --> 00:27:00,639
Speaker 3: else in the world, including her fiance. This took me

603
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,919
Speaker 3: by surprise to actually hear, and I broke down and

604
00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 3: started crying, and so did she. I don't know if

605
00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:07,399
Speaker 3: that is the thing that OP needs to hear, but

606
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:09,920
Speaker 3: I understand what she's saying. He's like, you're my best friend,

607
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 3: soul mat Yeah, I would consider my best friends like

608
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 3: I have a best friend, I would consider it is

609
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 3: my soulmate.

610
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 2: Soulmate.

611
00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, BOMT doesn't have to be romantic.

612
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:22,879
Speaker 2: What Yeah, okay, never thought about that. To be honest,

613
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 2: kind of gave up on the concept of soulmates long ago.

614
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 3: I don't believe in one soulmate. I think that soulmates

615
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 3: are just people that I think that you can have

616
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 3: multiple sumets and that yeah, that are meant to be

617
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 3: in your life, oh joy. And yeah, after we cleared

618
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:41,679
Speaker 3: our heads, she told me I can still come to

619
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 3: the wedding if I wanted, and there's no pressure to

620
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,239
Speaker 3: be involved as such. I said to her, I do

621
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 3: not think I can, as the love I have for

622
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:51,959
Speaker 3: her is not strictly platonic on my party and there

623
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 3: it is still not.

624
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 5: Ever he thought it was just a phase. Yeah, he

625
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 5: thought it was just a.

626
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 3: Phase, and to give her away in the way she

627
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,639
Speaker 3: wants feels like a punt in the ball. I just

628
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 3: don't think I can.

629
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 2: Do.

630
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 3: You seem to get angry at this thinking about it.

631
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 3: In hindsight, I think she was just being direct and

632
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 3: told me I need to accept we are over.

633
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 1: Yeah.

634
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 3: I think that's just direct. I think that's her being like,

635
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 3: it's been three years, you need to get over me.

636
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, But the late nuts hanging out with the fur

637
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 2: baby's why.

638
00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 3: I don't think that helped him. She stressed to me

639
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 3: that she is not into me in that way. I said,

640
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 3: I do not think I can, and that we may

641
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 3: be best to properly cut ties, at least for a time,

642
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 3: as it's eating me up. There is a little bit

643
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 3: left of the story, but I do think that is

644
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 3: the right move for op Oh?

645
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 2: Absolutely.

646
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 3: I don't think that you can be friends with the

647
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 3: next who you're into.

648
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Yeah. There was There's this friend of mine

649
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 2: that was going through a breakup and I was like, Oh,

650
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 2: we should hang out and go on dates. And then

651
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 2: it kind of got a little and I was like,

652
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 2: you need to process your breakup. We can't be friends.

653
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 3: Oh he's here, he's been here for three months hoping

654
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 3: that she'll come back, and she can, so you have

655
00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 3: to leave that. I guarantee that's why he's not had

656
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 3: a sixful relationship or like a long term relationship in

657
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 3: three years.

658
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 2: What's soul mate, dude? That's wild. I understand the differ

659
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 2: between twin flame and soulmate now, but if I just

660
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 2: got heard that, I'd be like screaming on the inside.

661
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 3: That I assume that's how he feels.

662
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 2: Souse.

663
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 3: She's seeing us as like a platonic soulmate, and he's

664
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 3: being like, you're my you're my romanticsmate, I'm in love

665
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 3: with you.

666
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I understand the feeling. I want to date with

667
00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 2: one chick. Yeah, now she's with another woman now. And

668
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 2: then I went through the mindset of like, yeah, what

669
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:32,680
Speaker 2: is my sexuality if I'm attracted to lesbian? And I

670
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 2: was like, what does this mean? I was just like,

671
00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 2: I'm attracted a woman.

672
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 5: What is this?

673
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,520
Speaker 2: I'm attracted to a woman? Attracted a woman? What am

674
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 2: I straight?

675
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 5: Three? Okay, but guess what She's not attracted to just

676
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 5: attracted to you? Does that make her simple?

677
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 1: Math?

678
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 3: She said, if that is what I want, she understands,

679
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 3: and she started to really cry.

680
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 2: Oh.

681
00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 3: We hugged and parted there. Before she left, she told

682
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 3: me she could tell I'm drinking again and said, if

683
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 3: all else fails and this is it, but please try

684
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 3: and at least get sober again. To say my head

685
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 3: is a mess is an understatement. Luckily, I've not heard

686
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 3: from her since she left, and I have deactivated all

687
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 3: my social media so I cannot see what she's up to.

688
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 3: Smart comment Wan, this is literally the weirdest, most unhealthy

689
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 3: relationship dynamic post separation that I've ever heard of. You

690
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 3: cannot stand contact with her. This whole thing is super unhealthy.

691
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 2: Also hit the gym reply to be frank, it.

692
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 3: Sounds like they both aren't over each other. She literally

693
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 3: told them she sees him in a way she doesn't

694
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 3: even see her fiance because this is her best friend.

695
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 3: Separation in this instance might serve them both for the better.

696
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 3: She needs to focus on her fiance and he needs

697
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 3: to find someone else. Comment two says, not the a

698
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 3: whole reality didn't meet her ideas, and she blames you

699
00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 3: for not being what she embodied you to be. She

700
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 3: should have managed her expectations out of respect. She didn't

701
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 3: even think you could say no worse, she thought you'd welcome.

702
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 3: Mitt speaks volumes. Oh Pi says good point. I think

703
00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 3: she thought she knew me so well that she assumed

704
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 3: it would be an instant. Yes. I think because she

705
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 3: put me on the spot, I had to make a

706
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 3: decision there and then where If she did it over

707
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:06,960
Speaker 3: the phone or text an email, I have thought about

708
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 3: it differently, in the outcome may have been different. Common three.

709
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 3: Has she been paying attention to your emotional state in

710
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 3: the slightest Opie says when we first split up, she

711
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 3: was amazing. I was drinking loads and she was so

712
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 3: helpful and trying to get me out of that and

713
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 3: helped me into therapy. She's also trying to help me

714
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 3: with my self esteem, even vetting some of my dating choices.

715
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 3: In the last three years since the argument, however, we

716
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 3: haven't spoken really much at all, so not lately, I

717
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 3: don't feel and that's the end of that story. Again,

718
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 3: I feel like they're letting Opee way too off the hook.

719
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 3: They're like, oh, she did this, Why is she still

720
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 3: trying to be friends with you? It's like they both

721
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 3: did that. Yeah, and she thought he was over her

722
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 3: and now is finding out that, Oh no, he's really

723
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 3: not over me. And I thought we had this friendship

724
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 3: and yeah, maybe she was being a little oblivious, but

725
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 3: I feel like they're both you know, a blame for

726
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 3: all this relationship was.

727
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 5: I think like they should have definitely communicated where they were.

728
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 3: Taking some time off, and because it seems like they

729
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:08,960
Speaker 3: broke up and then he was she was just helping

730
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 3: him with his you know, drinking problem.

731
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 2: This separation seems best for both of them. Angry because

732
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 2: if you're about to get married to someone and you

733
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 2: consider your ex even though you're not attracted to them anymore,

734
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 2: you're closer to them than you are your fiance, that

735
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 2: honestly would not sit right with me.

736
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 3: I will say she's known a p four five years,

737
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 3: probably three years at least, well at least three years

738
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 3: because they broke up three years ago, but probably more

739
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 3: because they were talking about marriage. So let's say like

740
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 3: five years at the most. She considers him her best friend.

741
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 3: She's known her fiance for a year. Their marriage was

742
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 3: pretty quick or their engagement was this just happened. Not

743
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 3: saying that it should be, but it does make sense.

744
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 3: Why the timelines, why she sees this person, you know,

745
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 3: p as her platonics told me, and like best friend,

746
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,240
Speaker 3: and she's close to him, especially again, she doesn't have

747
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 3: really great male figures in her life.

748
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 2: Just wouldn't sit round with me.

749
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, says totally equal blame on this.

750
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was gonna say the same thing, like they're

751
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 5: both that fault. It's it's one of those situations where

752
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 5: you think you can be best friends or friends with

753
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 5: your eggs. Yeah, and one moves on and one is

754
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 5: always hung up.

755
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 2: Anyways, we got another story coming up for you guys.

756
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 2: All right, my boyfriend dumped me for his sister's pregnant

757
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 2: best friend.

758
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 3: Did he make her pregnant?

759
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 2: My ex friend set me up with a guy, let's

760
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 2: call him Chris. She considered him to be like a brother.

761
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 2: Back in twenty twenty. I twenty two at the time,

762
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:38,360
Speaker 2: didn't really date guys didn't really seem attracted to me.

763
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 2: I'm a bigger woman with hEDS pcos pots among other issues.

764
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 3: What does that mean, well, polycystic ovarian syndrome. I know

765
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 3: one of the symptoms is like if you stand up

766
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 3: fall like you get the blackout thing really easily. Oh no,

767
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 3: it's like a lot of iron deficiencies. Often a company.

768
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 2: Okay. The guys who seem interested only seemed to be

769
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 2: interested in getting me in the bedroom, so I rarely

770
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 2: got to the relationship basis. By the way, this comes

771
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 2: from a witchy woman nineteen ninety eight. And if you

772
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 2: would have spit your own stories, go to the r

773
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:16,440
Speaker 2: slash okay story t I'm stubborned where this story came from?

774
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 2: What this is one of our own? My name's Riley,

775
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're here to give good

776
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 2: advice s gooefully. But we don't have all the answers.

777
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 2: We only know what we do know. So let us

778
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 2: know what you would do in the comments below. So

779
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 2: Opie says Chris twenty three at the time, had a

780
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 2: child from a previous marriage. My ex friend thought he

781
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 2: was looking for someone to settle down with after the

782
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:43,240
Speaker 2: stuff he went through with his ex. She was violent.

783
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 2: I was iffy due to the last few guys. I

784
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 2: tried dating with kids who led me on, just to

785
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,879
Speaker 2: ghost me after a few weeks, but I finally cave

786
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,720
Speaker 2: and had her tell him to message me. We talked

787
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 2: and hung out for a few weeks. Two a month,

788
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 2: he said he wasn't sure if he wanted a relationship.

789
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 2: What was hope he would be soon. I told him

790
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 2: there was no rush because I'd rather him be sure

791
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 2: than the lead me on. Yeah, that's that's smart. About

792
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,160
Speaker 2: a week after he told me that, he asked me

793
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 2: to be his girlfriend.

794
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:16,960
Speaker 3: Okay, so he took a week. He was like, I'm

795
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:17,480
Speaker 3: pretty sure.

796
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,400
Speaker 2: He liked that. He was schmitten by the idea.

797
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam.

798
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 5: We're gonna get back to the stories.

799
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,240
Speaker 1: But here's three minutes bads from our sponsors.

800
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 2: I asked him if he was sure, since it wasn't

801
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:30,720
Speaker 2: long after he said he wasn't sure he'd be ready

802
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 2: for a relationship. He told me he was one hundred

803
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 2: and ten percent sure he was ready.

804
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 3: So I said, yes, See, that would make me less suer,

805
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 3: I'd be like, oh, that's not even possible. He can't

806
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 3: be one hundred and ten percent short, ridiculous.

807
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 2: Maybe they're bad at math that they don't know what

808
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 2: one hundred ten percent.

809
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 3: Well, maybe he's bad at relationships too, hot.

810
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 2: Take you're bad at math. You're bad at relationships by Sophia.

811
00:35:54,400 --> 00:36:00,839
Speaker 3: Dang it, I'm bad at that's su trure. I'm good

812
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 3: at math, just not mental math. So if i'd keep

813
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 3: the relationship in my head, it's bad.

814
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 5: Yes.

815
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 2: About a week into us dating, he decided he want

816
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 2: me to meet his family, which I figured was going

817
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,320
Speaker 2: to happen quickly since they all lived across the street

818
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:19,280
Speaker 2: from my friend and I was going over there quite often.

819
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 2: All of this family seemed to love me, except or

820
00:36:23,200 --> 00:36:24,280
Speaker 2: his sister Lola.

821
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 3: Uh oh.

822
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 2: That weekend I met his family, his sister showed up

823
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 2: with her baby daddy and her pregnant best friend. This

824
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:35,320
Speaker 2: was Chris's first time meeting Lola's best friend, Grace.

825
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 3: Hmmm, love at first sight hopefully not?

826
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 2: Hopefully not. As I was talking to Lola before they left,

827
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 2: I noticed, for some reason, when Grace said bye, she

828
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 2: hugged into Chris for an awkwardly long time. I mean

829
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:52,319
Speaker 2: Chris sort of looked uncomfortable with how long it was,

830
00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 2: so I wasn't concerned, especially since Chris hadn't given me

831
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 2: any reason to not trust him. A couple of days later,

832
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:02,399
Speaker 2: my ex friend told me Grace thought I hated her

833
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 2: because of the hug, so I went and found her

834
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 2: social media messaged her to let her know I didn't

835
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:10,080
Speaker 2: hate her, as I had no reason not to trust

836
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:12,919
Speaker 2: Chris for some reason. Chris at this point had gone

837
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 2: radio silent on me.

838
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 3: What this is? How long into the girlfriendness is this?

839
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 2: I want to say, like a couple of weeks, not yeah,

840
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,560
Speaker 2: like a week fresh, it's super fresh. He went from

841
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 2: texting and video chatting every often to leaving me on

842
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:34,000
Speaker 2: red or giving me one or two word responses other

843
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 2: than him telling me he was going through something mentally

844
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 2: and thought he needed some space. I thought it was

845
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 2: a bit weird, but said I understood and left him

846
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 2: to be for about a week. After week, he just

847
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 2: continued to leave me on red.

848
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, these are the signs. These are the breakup signs.

849
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 2: His family would ask me we were still together. I

850
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 2: would just say at this point, I don't know, go

851
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 2: ask him yourself doesn't know how to respond to me.

852
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:04,800
Speaker 2: About a month after he asked me to be his girlfriend,

853
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 2: two months since we started talking, he came over to

854
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:11,240
Speaker 2: my ex friend's house in a T shirt. I gifted

855
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 2: him with his kid I haven't met before this.

856
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 3: You hadn't met his kid before y'all started dating. I

857
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,400
Speaker 3: take that back, because I feel like oftentimes when you

858
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:23,399
Speaker 3: have kids, you don't want to introduce them until you're serious. Yeah,

859
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 3: that does make.

860
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,479
Speaker 2: Sense, mind you. He was still leaving me on read

861
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 2: other than a couple of one word responses. Three to

862
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:32,760
Speaker 2: four days after, I got a message from Grace asking

863
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 2: for Chris and I were still together. I told her

864
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:38,319
Speaker 2: to ask him because he wasn't responding to me. She

865
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 2: responded with, you should ask him again. So, of course,

866
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 2: being that it was a weird message to see from

867
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 2: another female, I asked Chris lo and behold. He did

868
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 2: not respond. A couple of days later, I was sick

869
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 2: of it and message Chris saying we need to talk

870
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 2: because are we even together? He responded with I'm sorry,

871
00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:00,359
Speaker 2: but I forced myself to be in a relationship with

872
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,240
Speaker 2: you when I wasn't ready for one. Again, I'm so sorry.

873
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 2: I just responded to him with the thumbs up emotion.

874
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 3: That's ridiculous. What do you mean you forced yourself to

875
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 3: be in a relationship that you weren't ready for?

876
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 5: Remember one hundred ten percent?

877
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I knew that was a lie because one

878
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:20,840
Speaker 3: hundred percent is impossible.

879
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 2: Probably was just ten percent to be ready.

880
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 3: Ridiculous, you freaking little liar.

881
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 2: Or he was eleven percent ready and just added a

882
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:30,280
Speaker 2: zero own.

883
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 3: Assaid yes, sir, I didn't I didn't mean to.

884
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 5: It was a point sorry, it was a point zero.

885
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 3: It was eleven point zero percent. And it was like

886
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,239
Speaker 3: he was like, I was really confused. Why you were

887
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 3: so excited about the eleven percent. Uh, that's ridiculous. Stop

888
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 3: doing that. People don't do that if you're not ready

889
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:49,439
Speaker 3: to be in a relationship.

890
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 2: Yep, don't be in one and just say you're giving

891
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 2: it your one hundred percent, not one hundred and ten percent.

892
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 2: Two days later he blocked me on everything is hundred

893
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 2: ten percent problem. Two days after that, I saw Grace's

894
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 2: Facebook that she and Chris were in a relationship.

895
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:07,719
Speaker 3: Well, it won't last long because he forced himself to

896
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 3: be in a relationship with you, And if a man says, ah,

897
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 3: I'm sorry I forced myself to be in a relationship

898
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 3: with you and then gets into another relationship right after that.

899
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 3: He is not handling anything healthily. He does not know

900
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:20,360
Speaker 3: how to be alone.

901
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 2: My first thought was they knew each other longer than

902
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 2: they mentioned, and she was pregnant with Chris's baby.

903
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 3: That would be my first thought.

904
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 2: But my ex friend and Chris's other sister confirmed that

905
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 2: she was pregnant with another man's baby who wanted nothing

906
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 2: to do with Grace for the baby. My ex friend

907
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:39,720
Speaker 2: threw a fit to both of them because she knew

908
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:43,399
Speaker 2: I had started to fall for Chris pretty hard when

909
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 2: he had me meet his family. I tend to fall

910
00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:49,719
Speaker 2: for someone pretty hard and sometimes a bit fast. The

911
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 2: fit my ex through had Chris's sister, Lola, messaged me mad.

912
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:57,600
Speaker 2: I was upset Chris was already with another woman, not

913
00:40:57,719 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 2: even a week after he told me he wasn't act

914
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:02,719
Speaker 2: ready for a relationship. A couple of months went by

915
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,920
Speaker 2: and I was finally mostly over him, only to find

916
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 2: out they were engaged.

917
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:09,799
Speaker 5: Wow, they're really rushing.

918
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 3: Yikes. I mean, just comfort yourself with the fact that

919
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 3: that relationship is going to be so messy.

920
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 2: You don't want any part of that.

921
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 5: That ship is on fire from the beginning, like.

922
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:23,279
Speaker 3: It's super zocks that you know he led you on

923
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:26,160
Speaker 3: and treated you like this, but just know that he

924
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 3: was not a man that you want to be in

925
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 3: a relationship with and that you will find someone better.

926
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:33,840
Speaker 2: It only bugged me a tiny bit. It had been months,

927
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 2: but there was still a sting knowing they were working

928
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,319
Speaker 2: out the way I was hoping. About eight to ten

929
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 2: months after that, my ex best friend told me go

930
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:46,440
Speaker 2: look at Grace's page because it was interesting. Her and

931
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 2: Chris got married the day after what had been his

932
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 2: and mine one year anniversary. My ex friend told me

933
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,279
Speaker 2: she had overheard Grace wanting to do it on the day,

934
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 2: but there were no time slots at the courthouse to

935
00:41:59,480 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 2: do it.

936
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,720
Speaker 3: That's insane and feels like on purpose.

937
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 2: That's weird.

938
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 3: Why the day that can't be coincidental.

939
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:10,400
Speaker 2: The only good thing that came out of this relationship

940
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:13,600
Speaker 2: and the friendship with my ex friend is I got

941
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 2: a wonderful dog who absolutely loves Dakota and Riley. Reading

942
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 2: from my ex's younger sister, not Lola, who is best

943
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 2: friends with my ex friend. Dude is this Jamie, Jamie?

944
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 1: Are you here?

945
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:27,959
Speaker 2: Someone d m Jamie that we're reading.

946
00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:32,560
Speaker 5: We don't know that love our voices for sure?

947
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 2: Sorry, I just I thought so.

948
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:35,320
Speaker 3: I just got excited.

949
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:38,279
Speaker 2: Dang, that's crazy. I also learned not to trust most

950
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:39,240
Speaker 2: guys named Chris.

951
00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 5: No, you can't do that.

952
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:45,600
Speaker 3: Come on, Chris's prap no, very lovely Chris.

953
00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:48,239
Speaker 2: I was like, I love Chris. Chris Pine's pretty cool

954
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 2: Chris Pine.

955
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: Chris Evans sevens.

956
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 2: Dude, Uh your friend, Chris, I.

957
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 3: Said, I know.

958
00:42:56,120 --> 00:43:00,879
Speaker 2: Christoph Waltz, Christian in college, was named Chris. There you go,

959
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 2: because if Chris crossed applesauce, what would he do to you?

960
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:09,320
Speaker 3: Sure? And I've always said that yop.

961
00:43:09,160 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 2: Caught on at number one. Chris showed you who he

962
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 2: is by leading you on, ignoring your messages, and then

963
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 2: turning around to be with someone almost immediately. That is

964
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 2: not a reflection of your worth. It's a reflection of

965
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:23,239
Speaker 2: its immaturity and dishonesty. You gave him the benefit of

966
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 2: the doubt and patience when he asked for space, and

967
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 2: he chose to use that time to move on behind

968
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 2: your back instead of being upfront with you. Best thing

969
00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 2: you can do now is gut ties with Chris and

970
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 2: anyone in his circle who stirs up drama or tries

971
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:40,799
Speaker 2: to make you feel guilty for having emotions. Protect your

972
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 2: peace and distance yourself from people who do not respect

973
00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 2: your feelings. It might still sting, especially knowing how quickly

974
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 2: he moved on, but healing will come from focusing on

975
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 2: yourself and refusing to let him or his family take

976
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:57,279
Speaker 2: up any more of your energy. Spend time with people

977
00:43:57,320 --> 00:44:00,080
Speaker 2: who uplift you, and invest in things that remind you

978
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 2: of your value. This is also a chance to practice

979
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:07,800
Speaker 2: setting stronger boundaries for future relationships. If someone starts pulling away,

980
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 2: going quiet, we're acting inconsistent, It's okay to step back

981
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 2: and protect yourself instead of waiting around for clarity. You

982
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:16,680
Speaker 2: deserve a partner who is clear about what they want

983
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 2: and who values your trust from the very beginning. We

984
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 2: have an update John here.

985
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 4: We're gonna get back to this juicy story, but a

986
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 4: quick three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

987
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 3: Yes, I agreed to all of that. Was this a

988
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 3: piece like first relationship? No one of her first Okay,

989
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:33,719
Speaker 3: I think it's like I think go specified that like

990
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:37,000
Speaker 3: she hadn't been in very like serious, like long lasting relationships.

991
00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 3: So I feel like when you have that mindset or

992
00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 3: you know or don't have that experience.

993
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 5: And you're yearning for one and you're.

994
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 3: Yearning for one, you're kind of not attuned to red flags. Yes,

995
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 3: but you were getting the hang of it.

996
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 5: It's also experience. Yeah, I think everyone when when we

997
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 5: all had our first relationships, you're like, this is perfect,

998
00:44:57,480 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 5: this is I can see my future with this person.

999
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 5: And then you look back on your oh boy, that was.

1000
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, you get the hang of it. And next time,

1001
00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 3: if a guy says one week ago, I'm not ready

1002
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 3: for relationship, and then says the next week I'm one

1003
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:12,839
Speaker 3: hundred and ten percent ready for relationship, you're gonna be like,

1004
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 3: that doesn't sound right.

1005
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 5: It's a learning experience. I mean some people can get

1006
00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:20,800
Speaker 5: it right off the bat, which is great for others,

1007
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:23,360
Speaker 5: it takes takes multiple partners.

1008
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:25,959
Speaker 2: And we got an update. My boredom got the best

1009
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,760
Speaker 2: of me and I went to see if my ex's wife,

1010
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,400
Speaker 2: the woman he left me for it still blocked me

1011
00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:34,720
Speaker 2: on Facebook, mainly because I saw she viewed my TikTok

1012
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 2: profile and liked a few of my videos from five

1013
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 2: years ago, right after he broke up with me, he

1014
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 2: blocked me on Facebook. When I laugh reacted to her

1015
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 2: and Chris making things official on Facebook, well, she unblocks me.

1016
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 2: I immediately noticed her profile picture wasn't of her and my

1017
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 2: ex or her and the kids like normal, But I

1018
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 2: quickly realized who was in the picture with her. It

1019
00:45:58,280 --> 00:45:59,960
Speaker 2: was my ex's brother.

1020
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 3: Who wait, whose picture?

1021
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 2: Is this her ex's wife? So the profile picture isn't

1022
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 2: with her ex and the wife, it's with her ex's

1023
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 2: wife and brother. Ooh, Naturally I got more curious, so

1024
00:46:15,360 --> 00:46:18,919
Speaker 2: I looked up my ex's second Facebook that I wasn't

1025
00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:21,600
Speaker 2: blocked on to see what was on his page. His

1026
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:26,279
Speaker 2: profile picture was with the same brother's baby mama. They

1027
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 2: just flip flopped. That's insane, Sophia Keon, What do we

1028
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 2: think of the switcher room here?

1029
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 3: I mean, clearly they're messy. Yeah, clearly they're messy, and

1030
00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:39,160
Speaker 3: you got out of their op. So just be thankful

1031
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:39,400
Speaker 3: for that.

1032
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 5: I told you that ship was on fire.

1033
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 2: Yikes, Honeybee, keep it in the family.

1034
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,839
Speaker 3: I guess. So they just did a little wife swap.

1035
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:50,279
Speaker 2: So messy wrestling mama. Yeah, I'm shocked too.

1036
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 5: Crazy honestly, MOPI good, you dodged this bullet.

1037
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:57,959
Speaker 2: Finish it off. Chris, my ex has one biological kid

1038
00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:00,040
Speaker 2: with the woman he married after breaking up with me,

1039
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:03,280
Speaker 2: and his brother has one biological kid with the woman

1040
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:06,359
Speaker 2: my ex is now with. So my ex and his

1041
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 2: brother have become Uncle Daddy's apparently.

1042
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 5: Okay, hey, oh all right then, Ah, we're just gonna

1043
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:13,959
Speaker 5: have a lot of these today.

1044
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 2: Huh Uncle Daddy. It made me even more glad I

1045
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,720
Speaker 2: wasn't with Chris anymore and totally made me laugh because

1046
00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:23,759
Speaker 2: what kind of Jerry Springer bs is going on with

1047
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 2: that family?

1048
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:25,839
Speaker 1: Oh?

1049
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 3: I don't know, man, that's crazy, But you're out of

1050
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:31,319
Speaker 3: there and hope you find someone better.

1051
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:34,759
Speaker 5: Yeah, and think we have one like mini story.

1052
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 3: My ex dumped me to be with his stepsister, not

1053
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:42,760
Speaker 3: the steps and this comes directly from the R slash

1054
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 3: Showcay storytime severed it. Oh a little backstory, Me twenty

1055
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 3: eight female and my now ex let's call him John,

1056
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:53,719
Speaker 3: Oh twenty seven male. Oh, we're going through what I

1057
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:56,960
Speaker 3: thought was a rough patch. He'd distance himself from me

1058
00:47:57,200 --> 00:47:59,919
Speaker 3: and by extension are three now four year old daughter.

1059
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 3: He began to hang out more around his close in age, stepsister,

1060
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 3: staying out late, hanging out with friends, and definitely drinking.

1061
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 3: The more days went by, I noticed how weirdly close

1062
00:48:11,000 --> 00:48:12,760
Speaker 3: they had gotten more than normal.

1063
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, they always hang out in the laundry room.

1064
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 3: Eh. By the way, this comes from Wolf of Snow

1065
00:48:17,719 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 3: ninety seven, And if you want to spit your own stories,

1066
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 3: go to the r slash Okay, storytime subured it. I'm Sophia,

1067
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:25,839
Speaker 3: I'm Riley and Keon, and we're here to give good

1068
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 3: advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We

1069
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 3: only know what we'd do, So let us know what

1070
00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 3: you would do in the comments. But Op says he'd

1071
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 3: almost never help around the house when I asked and

1072
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 3: told him how I needed the.

1073
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,399
Speaker 2: Help, but Stepsister was kept getting stuck, so I had

1074
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 2: to kept getting her unstuck.

1075
00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:45,920
Speaker 5: Eh, more like he got stuck in her a.

1076
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 3: Instead, he enlisted his stepmom and stepsisters out help, which

1077
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:54,719
Speaker 3: I thought was weird but a nice gesture until he

1078
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:56,839
Speaker 3: voiced how he thought it was embarrassing that he had

1079
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:59,399
Speaker 3: to ask for help for me. Looking back, I think

1080
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 3: he was trying to create a reason to break it off.

1081
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 2: It's the stepmom too.

1082
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 3: I then started to become aware that it was getting

1083
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:10,080
Speaker 3: way more suspicious after I caught them close face to

1084
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 3: face in the front of the house, not kissing, but

1085
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 3: definitely close enough distance to be awkward to watch. He

1086
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:19,439
Speaker 3: noticed me and backed away before walking out the garage door.

1087
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:22,799
Speaker 3: I also backed up, wondering what I just witnessed at

1088
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 3: the time. As forward a bit, the night before, I

1089
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 3: received his breakup text, not even in person. He had

1090
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 3: been so seemingly loving and we had spicy sleep, giving

1091
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 3: me the illusion that maybe we'd be okay after all.

1092
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 2: Oh no, the breakup. Spicy sleep, the breakup sleep.

1093
00:49:41,239 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 3: We'd been together seven almost eight years, oh and threw

1094
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:50,279
Speaker 3: one breakup and back together. But looking back, it was

1095
00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:53,840
Speaker 3: the optimism of love blinding me. I tried to bargain

1096
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 3: how we could work it out and get past it

1097
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 3: for our little family and little one, but every suggestion

1098
00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 3: was shot down. I tried to find a job so

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00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:04,480
Speaker 3: I could get stable and help, but him being my

1100
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 3: only ride, he left me to miss my interview without

1101
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 3: feeling supported. I packed me and my daughter up to

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00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:12,480
Speaker 3: leave and talked to my family to see if they

1103
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 3: would be able to get us out, and they did.

1104
00:50:14,800 --> 00:50:17,399
Speaker 3: Not without some defensiveness that I was taking the daughter.

1105
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 3: I was pretty much there for everything. For while he

1106
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 3: only ever wanted the fun side of being a dad,

1107
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:24,720
Speaker 3: there's a little bit left to this story.

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00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 2: He wanted the fun side of being a dad and

1109
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 2: a brother.

1110
00:50:28,280 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 5: Yikes, today's theme is just not on it.

1111
00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 3: I don't I don't like this. I don't like this.

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00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:39,200
Speaker 5: Today's theme has played like guitar rift from a Lynyrd Skynerd.

1113
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 3: I don't like this. I don't want it. I don't

1114
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 3: want any of my stories. I don't want to read it.

1115
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:49,080
Speaker 2: It's just spicy sleep, Sophia. No, it's my spicy sleep

1116
00:50:49,520 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 2: in the confounds of family.

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00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:52,600
Speaker 5: All right, Fast and furious.

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00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 3: Fast forward to after we left. John, his best friend,

1119
00:50:57,120 --> 00:51:01,160
Speaker 3: and oddly his stepsister followed us down the week after

1120
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 3: for Father's Day week, despite claiming no money for months,

1121
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 3: he traveled to all the places he wanted to take

1122
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 3: our daughter to with her tagging along, including to his

1123
00:51:10,640 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 3: other side of his family's houses. I now recognize this

1124
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:18,239
Speaker 3: as him introducing her to his family. How did he

1125
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 3: introduce her? How exactly did he what did he introduce her?

1126
00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 5: Ass, this is my step girlfriend?

1127
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,439
Speaker 3: Fast forward a few months after the breakup after being

1128
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 3: told he's not interested in dating. News flash, she's dating.

1129
00:51:33,120 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 5: Her girlfriend stepsister. That's crazy.

1130
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:38,720
Speaker 3: It's always the parentheses of not dating.

1131
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 2: You also going to meet the family. What do you

1132
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:45,440
Speaker 2: think they're thinking? Hey, honey, so what happened to your

1133
00:51:45,480 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 2: other girlfriend?

1134
00:51:46,680 --> 00:51:49,919
Speaker 3: Yeah? Why is your stepsister here? I find out through

1135
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:52,240
Speaker 3: some of her posts tagging him and his dad's post.

1136
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 3: That's so weird tagging him and what to anyone would

1137
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 3: look like Cutesye, dating poses whether fishing or even in

1138
00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:02,400
Speaker 3: the car with him leaning on her shoulder. The audacity

1139
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 3: to not only lie then make it public is wild.

1140
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 3: His Facebook relationship status reflects that yes, he's definitely dating.

1141
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:15,600
Speaker 3: There's no misconception, including his dad's photocaption about them's dealing

1142
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 3: kisses so amy the ale if I expose them publicly

1143
00:52:19,080 --> 00:52:23,040
Speaker 3: for what definitely seems like cheating, Nah.

1144
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 5: Well, I feel like just get away from that pecular explosion.

1145
00:52:27,680 --> 00:52:30,360
Speaker 5: I feel like, just get away from the fire, walk away,

1146
00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 5: don't look.

1147
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't need to be anywhere near that.

1148
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:36,040
Speaker 2: If you can, this is my only advice I could

1149
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 2: give to you. Save up as much money as you can,

1150
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:42,439
Speaker 2: fly to BALI, go to a bood and stay there

1151
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 2: for a week or.

1152
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 5: Two, maybe three.

1153
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:47,560
Speaker 2: Fore you would be perfect. A month would be amazing.

1154
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 2: Just find yourself in Bali because that's what people do.

1155
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 2: That's what I did.

1156
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:53,760
Speaker 5: And what do you find in Bali?

1157
00:52:53,960 --> 00:52:56,279
Speaker 2: You guys, and you found me and.

1158
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:57,960
Speaker 5: BALI found in Bali.

1159
00:52:58,120 --> 00:52:59,440
Speaker 2: It led me to you guys.

1160
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 3: Oh that's nice.

1161
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:03,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I would definitely get out.

1162
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 3: Hit a different talent. But that's the end of that

1163
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 3: story and the end of this cursed episode.

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00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:10,880
Speaker 2: We got comments.

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00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 3: We got comments here.

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00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:17,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, that means this video was posted on August thirteenth

1167
00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:20,680
Speaker 2: and the TLDR. The first story was Opie's dad decided

1168
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:24,440
Speaker 2: to leave the entire family business to his older brother

1169
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 2: instead of giving op any ownership, even though op does

1170
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 2: most of the physical work. Opie quit got offered a

1171
00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:36,239
Speaker 2: way better job by their biggest client, which meant the

1172
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 2: client would stop using Dad's company. When op told his

1173
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:43,279
Speaker 2: family about the new job, they called him selfish tried

1174
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:46,400
Speaker 2: to sabotage him by bound mouthing him to his new boss.

1175
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 2: Now Dad's business is failing and they had to fire people,

1176
00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:53,400
Speaker 2: and the family isn't speaking to Ope anymore.

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00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:55,600
Speaker 3: I remember the story all right.

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00:53:55,680 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 5: So Cynthia Guzman seventy one thirty take it from the

1179
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 5: top here. I'll have to comment on this. You. Dad

1180
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 5: and brother never acknowledged Ope's contribution to the business. They

1181
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:05,759
Speaker 5: thought of him as just a loathly grunt, so they

1182
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:08,440
Speaker 5: never would have treated Op the way that he earned.

1183
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:10,920
Speaker 5: He was the reason that their business was staying afloat,

1184
00:54:10,960 --> 00:54:13,640
Speaker 5: and they never would have seen that their biggest client

1185
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 5: always requested Op for the work that they needed done.

1186
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 5: That should have been a sign for Daddy, Deer and

1187
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:22,759
Speaker 5: beloved brother to try and keep him, but instead they

1188
00:54:22,760 --> 00:54:25,720
Speaker 5: just figured that he was replaceable and business would continue

1189
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 5: as normal. L O L. I really do love watching

1190
00:54:29,600 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 5: Karma work her incredible magic when greatly deserved. As far

1191
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:35,799
Speaker 5: as the will goes well, beloved Brother will be lucky

1192
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 5: if there's anything left after the business folds. Opie has

1193
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:41,600
Speaker 5: a lifetype of wins coming towards him, and I'm quite

1194
00:54:41,640 --> 00:54:44,719
Speaker 5: sure that he will be hearing from dear Daddy and

1195
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:47,760
Speaker 5: brother in the future when they are both hurting for money.

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00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:50,279
Speaker 5: He won't be needing any inheritance in the future. The

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00:54:50,320 --> 00:54:52,680
Speaker 5: company that hired him will continue to appreciate him, and

1198
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,240
Speaker 5: even if they don't. With the experience that OPI's building,

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00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 5: someone will that is the first come real.

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00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 2: Quick working for a company and being there from like

1201
00:55:00,760 --> 00:55:03,359
Speaker 2: the round up. Yeah, you really understand like the inner

1202
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 2: workings of it, and you kind of come up to

1203
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:07,759
Speaker 2: your own ideas of, oh, I could do this better,

1204
00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 2: do that better because that story the dad was very

1205
00:55:10,200 --> 00:55:14,160
Speaker 2: traditional in everything. And I'll just come a long way.

1206
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 3: Remember like Opie wasn't getting paid, well he wasn't, and yeah,

1207
00:55:17,760 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 3: there's just a bunch of other problems.

1208
00:55:19,239 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 2: If you can bring new technical innovations to a company,

1209
00:55:23,160 --> 00:55:23,839
Speaker 2: he's gonna kill.

1210
00:55:23,840 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 3: It's gonna do already got like a way better job.

1211
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 5: So yeah, we have a second comment. This is from

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00:55:29,960 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 5: Nana pe A two seven. The father and brother use

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00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:36,040
Speaker 5: the son as a grunt worker. It's the grunt workers

1214
00:55:36,040 --> 00:55:38,399
Speaker 5: that make you money. To me, it looks like God

1215
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:40,400
Speaker 5: had a plan for this young man and open a

1216
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 5: window for him.

1217
00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 2: That's right, God does. And you know if he wants

1218
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:47,239
Speaker 2: to close it, he'll just not make it happen, just

1219
00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:48,080
Speaker 2: won't get anything.

1220
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:52,240
Speaker 5: And one more comment from code Rain. If the client

1221
00:55:52,280 --> 00:55:55,759
Speaker 5: can replace twelve people with the one son they're hiring directly,

1222
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:59,279
Speaker 5: that's a damn shame, and I don't love layoffs. But

1223
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:01,839
Speaker 5: from a family business point of view, it shows who's

1224
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:05,400
Speaker 5: been carrying the business. They clarify OPI has been generating

1225
00:56:05,400 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 5: the revenue that keeps twelve people employed, but being excluded

1226
00:56:08,520 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 5: from the decision making and value. If this were a

1227
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 5: normal business relationship, it'd be enough to quit. If it's

1228
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 5: a family, it's a demonstration of inequitable access to support,

1229
00:56:17,920 --> 00:56:21,640
Speaker 5: emotional et cetera. Opie is carrying the family and the

1230
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 5: company he really was.

1231
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:26,359
Speaker 3: Really it didn't do well when he left.

1232
00:56:26,719 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 2: Being a part of a company is like you gotta

1233
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 2: you have so many processes and so many things you

1234
00:56:30,960 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 2: gotta stay on top of m hm. Kind of crazy door.

1235
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:39,400
Speaker 3: And that's the end of that comment session and the

1236
00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 3: end of the story and the end of this episode.

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00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:44,359
Speaker 3: But if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 2: We freaking love you and see you tomorrow.