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Speaker 3: Ever, after my ex boyfriend proposed to me and we

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Speaker 4: What twas the.

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Speaker 3: Christmas before last my boyfriend proposed to me. I broke

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Speaker 3: up with him a few weeks later. Honestly, I don't

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Speaker 3: thirty female, wasn't a tumultuous or just bad on and

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Speaker 3: Year before he proposed was genuinely awful. He would get

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Speaker 3: I also have pets that I would get up early

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Awkward Turtle on the

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Speaker 3: r slash Okay storytime, so I've read him. So I

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Speaker 3: had an ovarian cyst rupture and was the most pain

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Speaker 3: Then I finally had enough of the pain and went

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Speaker 1: Was not doing so hot right now, not doing so.

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Speaker 5: Would you even do in that situation.

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Speaker 3: To God that something will be fixed?

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Speaker 3: What was the size of the golf ball and the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't want to go through this again and

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Speaker 3: He even went as far as saying, you could even

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Speaker 3: I just have never enjoyed or liked anything about it.

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Speaker 3: Chris I have done in a long time. Midway through,

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Speaker 5: Don't do it. Don't do it.

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Speaker 3: So Christmas goes and he's telling this whole family that

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Speaker 3: I kind of have been wanting to see how Jay

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Speaker 5: You already have your answer, though you already know I

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Speaker 5: don't you know that he's like not treating you right

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Speaker 5: this already is tough. You're already going through all this

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Speaker 5: He's gonna do. Yeah, and you shouldn't have to, like

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Speaker 3: Leave him call of family. Remember to make sure that

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Speaker 3: He spent two weeks playing video games. Even got as

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Speaker 1: I'm not dead, Babe.

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Speaker 3: I can't pause this online game. The house was in

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Speaker 3: complete disarray. I am forever grateful to my amazing coworkers

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Speaker 3: make sure I had something to eat every day, neglecting her.

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Speaker 3: She needs to help and he's not doing anything.

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Speaker 5: I feel like that's hard because I feel like you

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Speaker 5: can't there's no legal action that you could take against that.

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Speaker 5: But I really love that the coworkers did that.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, coworkers.

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Speaker 5: When I was a kid, I remember like certain neighbors,

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Speaker 5: Of course, of course, because of course, because of course

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Speaker 3: I thought I was seeing things. We didn't have roommates.

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Speaker 3: I just turned over and pretended to fall asleep. Once

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Speaker 3: My heart sunk, through my stomach and out my butt.

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Speaker 3: It just wasn't one person. It was over twenty.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: He would send them pictures of my pets, talking about

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Speaker 3: He would then flirt with them. The roughest part was

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Speaker 3: he proposed to me. He did this on Christmas. He

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Speaker 3: I felt like I had been hit by a bus.

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Speaker 5: Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 3: I confronted him the next day about it. At first,

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Speaker 3: he tried to deny everything, even craft, and said, I've

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Speaker 3: been meaning to tell you I'm a catfish. This was

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Speaker 3: the most absurd thing I've ever heard. I told him

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Speaker 3: of yourself if you were catfishing.

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Speaker 3: He had no intention of meeting up with any of them.

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Speaker 3: He just used them to boost his confidence and ghost them,

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Speaker 3: He spent months groveling and begging for me back, and

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Speaker 5: She bound back though, Oh yeah, she totally did.

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Speaker 1: Happy whoa Yeah.

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Speaker 3: That dude's real review would be negative five yeah yeah,

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Speaker 3: and then all the pictures on the Yelp review would

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Speaker 5: Dude, crazy, it's crazy, crazy stuff.

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Speaker 3: That's seeing that story.

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Speaker 5: That's the end of the story. My friend and her

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Speaker 5: Oh no, oh no. A friend and her mother are

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Speaker 5: utter astonishment and dismay, that the mother is still in

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Speaker 5: Does this type of harassment qualify as a crime? Would

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Speaker 3: Time the fl this happened to my mom's friend's mom. Really,

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Speaker 5: Does she write this story? It's he says me.

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Speaker 5: They've never met, never talked in the phone, except once

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Speaker 5: So worried about the mother and Sarah, whose mental health

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Speaker 5: ideas about what can be done for her mom? Not

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Speaker 3: You just have to pay the shipping fee.

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Speaker 5: You just have to give me your address. Why he

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Speaker 5: that feels right now, and we do have a sad update. No,

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Speaker 7: Sad update the hopeless I'm sorry, yeah, hopeless, Like, yeah,

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Speaker 5: Honestly, I think what you would need to do with

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Speaker 5: Now her friends fear that she's going to sell the

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Speaker 1: You know what, whoa whoa whoa whoa yees.

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Speaker 5: Seven hundred and fifty that's a lot retirement fund inheritance.

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Speaker 5: She's thrown it away. And let me ask you, what

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Speaker 5: And this is like a real idea. They should see

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Speaker 5: if this rock guy has a cameo and then get

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Speaker 3: Oh, I thought the scammers would find this out high No, no, no,

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Speaker 3: So this is what I was thinking. The scammers hire him. No,

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Speaker 5: Bab, I'm just send me thousands and millions of dollars

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Speaker 6: Now.

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Speaker 5: Oh, and this is a person whom she's never video

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Speaker 5: We're not scammers.

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Speaker 3: Just Tapper profile, Just Tapper profile all we're going to

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but anyway, there is more to this story, so

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Speaker 5: let's jump into it. Unless you have more things to

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Speaker 5: Like at this point, people need to intervene. People actually

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Speaker 5: need to intervene. There's no like nice talking to it anymore.

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Speaker 5: I agree, but there is more to this story. It's

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Speaker 5: If you see this, please look for a cameo from

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Speaker 5: be like, no, babys, I love you, and then she'd

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00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:04,879
Speaker 5: be like, well, what you know? You just told me

438
00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:10,440
Speaker 5: you have a wife and you're still staying together. Like, oh, man,

439
00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:14,760
Speaker 5: that's what I'm saying, to go search, cameo, dude, I

440
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:18,439
Speaker 5: still need to update my my hacker stories that not

441
00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:22,000
Speaker 5: really hacker but like my scam possible scam story to

442
00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:26,240
Speaker 5: read it. Do you remember where they texted my mom? Yeah,

443
00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:29,720
Speaker 5: they texted my mom with the problem that I had.

444
00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:32,760
Speaker 5: And I was only texting people over like Instagram, and

445
00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:36,600
Speaker 5: oh I texted you over Instagram an email? Yeah, an email?

446
00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:39,399
Speaker 5: And I emailed my mom too, But they texted my

447
00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:43,119
Speaker 5: mom using words that I only used for you on Instagram,

448
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 5: saying like help my phone is broken, text me at

449
00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:48,560
Speaker 5: this number instead anyway. But that's the end of that story,

450
00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:51,440
Speaker 5: so let's get into this next one.

451
00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:51,840
Speaker 4: Go.

452
00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:55,520
Speaker 3: My fiance wants to end our relationship because I chose

453
00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:58,399
Speaker 3: another man first. I mean, that sounds about right. This

454
00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,879
Speaker 3: seems like a relationship, but end. I'm sorry if this

455
00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 3: whole thing sounds a little rushed, but my fiance, Ryan,

456
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 3: who I've been with for seven years, told me today

457
00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:07,840
Speaker 3: that he's not sure whether he wants to be with

458
00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:10,399
Speaker 3: me anymore. And I realized it may sound stupid, but

459
00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:12,600
Speaker 3: I love him so much feels like my world is

460
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 3: falling apart around me. I don't know what I can

461
00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 3: do either way. This comes from throwaway ninety eight on

462
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 3: the art slide showcase story tom Sebreddit. So this all

463
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,200
Speaker 3: started a couple of days ago when we were celebrating

464
00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:24,919
Speaker 3: our anniversary. We invited a bunch of people, including one

465
00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:27,680
Speaker 3: of my closest friends, Ellie. She noticed my fiance being

466
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 3: affectionate towards me and made some stupid comment about how

467
00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:33,439
Speaker 3: she told me so that Ryan would be better for

468
00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,879
Speaker 3: me than my ex and deep. My fiance was a

469
00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:38,360
Speaker 3: little confused and asked Ellie, what you meant. Back when

470
00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:40,159
Speaker 3: I was in college, Andy and Ryan both asked me

471
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:42,400
Speaker 3: out to the same event. I know Ryan since high

472
00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:44,800
Speaker 3: school and we'd always had a thing, but we weren't

473
00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:46,919
Speaker 3: a couple. On top of that, we went to another

474
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:49,640
Speaker 3: college that was half an hour away from me. Andy

475
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 3: went to my college. His duram was five in a

476
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:55,160
Speaker 3: walk away, and he was someone completely new. I began

477
00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:58,120
Speaker 3: to feel like my relationship with Ryan wouldn't be exciting

478
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:01,440
Speaker 3: enough because we already knew almost everything about each other.

479
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:04,800
Speaker 3: With the added headache of being half an hour away

480
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:08,120
Speaker 3: from each other, by Ellie's prospects, I decided to go

481
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,639
Speaker 3: with Andy. I know my reasoning is stupid, but I

482
00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,479
Speaker 3: never thought this decision had the potential to blow up

483
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:15,919
Speaker 3: in my future. Ryan was already hurt that I redeclined

484
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 3: his request to go on to day. I didn't want

485
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,080
Speaker 3: to make him feel worse by telling him I was

486
00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:22,480
Speaker 3: going with someone else, not that it mattered because he

487
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:25,120
Speaker 3: stopped talking to me for about six months. During this time,

488
00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:27,879
Speaker 3: it became obvious that me and Andy weren't right for

489
00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 3: each other, so we ended it. When Ryan and I

490
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:33,080
Speaker 3: began talking again, I realized how much I missed him.

491
00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:35,400
Speaker 3: Now he was perfect for me, so I asked him out.

492
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:37,920
Speaker 3: I was overjoyed, and that's how we got to this point.

493
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 3: For the rest of the party, I could tell that

494
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:43,520
Speaker 3: his mood was off. He kept pulling away from my

495
00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 3: kisses and touches and responded to me with one sentence answers.

496
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 3: After the party, when I asked him what was wrong,

497
00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:52,640
Speaker 3: he just said he felt sick. The next two days,

498
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:55,280
Speaker 3: he continued to be cold and distant. I had no

499
00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,720
Speaker 3: idea what was happening, so I waited patiently for him

500
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,680
Speaker 3: to become comfortable to talk to me today. He told

501
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:03,880
Speaker 3: me the reason he'd been acting off From the story,

502
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 3: it sounded like I had kept him as my backup

503
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:09,080
Speaker 3: or plan B in case my relationship with Andy Feld,

504
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,240
Speaker 3: and that it was essentially messed up since we'd obviously

505
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:15,360
Speaker 3: had feeling for each other a long time before. Then,

506
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 3: he also said that he deserved to be someone's first choice.

507
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 3: I thought that this was just an insecurity that we

508
00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 3: could get through, but then he went to say that

509
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 3: he's not sure whether he can see our relationship in

510
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 3: the same light anymore, so it might be best if

511
00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 3: we split up. I pleaded with him that we don't

512
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:35,080
Speaker 3: need to take it that far, and that we should

513
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:37,919
Speaker 3: just go to counseling or even just live separately for

514
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:40,720
Speaker 3: a few days while he wants to think about whether

515
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,240
Speaker 3: this is what he actually wants. So far, he hasn't

516
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 3: said anything except that he absolutely refuses to go to therapy.

517
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 3: I can tell that this is weighing on him heavily

518
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:52,200
Speaker 3: because he's been drinking more than usual, and I don't

519
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:54,359
Speaker 3: know what to say to make it feel better. We've

520
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,800
Speaker 3: had a beautiful relationship. He's never been overly jealous or possessive,

521
00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:00,360
Speaker 3: and although neither of us are perfect. I could ask

522
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 3: for a more loving, respectful, intelligent, and charming soon to

523
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 3: the husband. I don't understand how all of that could

524
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 3: come to an end for a foolish mistake I made

525
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 3: seven years ago. I don't know what exactly I'm looking

526
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 3: for by posting on here, but if anyone has any advice,

527
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 3: please please let me know.

528
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 2: Edit.

529
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 3: I think I may have messed up with my wording.

530
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 3: He doesn't care that I dated someone else before him.

531
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:23,920
Speaker 3: It bothers him that I had the choice between him

532
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 3: or Andy, and I chose Andy. We got an update.

533
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 3: I mean, you're right, Opie, Yeah, this is just but

534
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:31,639
Speaker 3: I see two red flags.

535
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 2: Man.

536
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,359
Speaker 3: Maybe he's hurt right now, is that he usually copes.

537
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 3: But after a few days, if he's still saying no

538
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 3: to therapy, he's still going to the bottle.

539
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's hard because this just seems like it's just

540
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:43,199
Speaker 5: a rough time for him in general, not because of

541
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 5: this situation.

542
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 3: And more's going on.

543
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:45,120
Speaker 5: What'd you say?

544
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 3: Do you think more is going on?

545
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 5: I think more is going on because I mean, if

546
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 5: he's been turned into the bottle recently anyway, because it

547
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 5: doesn't seem like it's just because of this, like it's

548
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 5: just been he's been drinking more lately in general, and

549
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 5: if he's been doing that, something's going on. And then

550
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:03,159
Speaker 5: he's obviously whatever this is is affecting his security and

551
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 5: his self confidence in himself. And then because of that,

552
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:09,159
Speaker 5: all of that like priming, then it's like this is

553
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 5: now a bigger deal than it needs to be because

554
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 5: of you know what I mean.

555
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,159
Speaker 3: I agreed after what happened in the last post. He

556
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 3: said that we should put off the wedding while we

557
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 3: decide on how to proceed. That means something right he

558
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,199
Speaker 3: used the exact words put off instead of cancel. And

559
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:25,920
Speaker 3: while we'll decide how to proceed, I think that means

560
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 3: he still hasn't decided that we should break up yet.

561
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 3: Maybe he'll just decide not to marry but to continue

562
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 3: our relationship. I don't think he's ready to give up

563
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 3: on our relationship yet, but he's moved to a hotel.

564
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 3: I know some people have told him to give him

565
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,159
Speaker 3: some space, but I've decided that if a part of

566
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 3: him is willing to stay with me, I'm going to

567
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 3: do everything I can to give him another chance. I've

568
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 3: been dropping off food, leaving notes under his door. And

569
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:50,160
Speaker 3: while we've been calling every day, sometimes twice a day,

570
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,720
Speaker 3: right now we're both stuck in limbo. Most of the time.

571
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 3: We talk about how much we miss each other, the

572
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 3: plans we had, and me convincing him that he's my

573
00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 3: soulmate and that, regardless of whatever happened with Andy, I

574
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 3: know we would have ended up together. Then there's moments

575
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 3: where he calls in the middle of the night, having

576
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,719
Speaker 3: obviously been crying, asking questions like what did he have

577
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,120
Speaker 3: that I didn't? Do you love him? Was he better

578
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:13,439
Speaker 3: in bed? Was he better looking than me? Do you

579
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 3: still think he's better than me? What does more exciting mean?

580
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,639
Speaker 3: Do you wish he gave you another chance? He says

581
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 3: he wants to be with me desperately, but when he

582
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,159
Speaker 3: thinks about me, but it's here into his mind that

583
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:26,639
Speaker 3: I was always his first choice, he will always have

584
00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 3: been my second. It hurts him that we had feelings

585
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,480
Speaker 3: for each other all the way through high school, but

586
00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 3: the moment I met Andy, none of that meant anything anymore,

587
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 3: which must have meant I thought Andy was worth my time,

588
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 3: and he was. It breaks my heart to hear him

589
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,439
Speaker 3: holding back his tears and trying to cry silently, but

590
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 3: I swear I'll do anything to say a relationship, and

591
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:47,440
Speaker 3: that part of that means not hiding anything from him.

592
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 3: I begged him to reconsider going to therapy, but he

593
00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 3: absolutely won't Bunch. Some of our mutual friends are saying

594
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 3: that they're not sure if he'll recover from this, but

595
00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 3: I don't care. He hasn't told me to stop trying,

596
00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 3: so I'm not going to. I wish to God that

597
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:02,480
Speaker 3: I could go back and change the past, because I

598
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:04,920
Speaker 3: love him more than anything, including myself. It feels like

599
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 3: I'm in some sort of surreal nightmare. Less than a

600
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 3: month ago, we were lying in bed fighting over which

601
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,160
Speaker 3: one of us got to name our kids, and now

602
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 3: a similarly insignificant mistake that I made seven years ago

603
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 3: might wipe away the beautiful future I want with Ryan.

604
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 3: All I can do right now is be there and

605
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 3: hope he can give me another chance. But I don't

606
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 3: know what he's thinking. I know this isn't a common

607
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:29,479
Speaker 3: relationship problem, but if anyone has anything they can give me,

608
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 3: whether it's advice or reassurance that things are going to

609
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:34,199
Speaker 3: work out, please please tell me.

610
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 2: Edit.

611
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,200
Speaker 3: He called me an hour ago, and some of this,

612
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 3: Frants found this Reddit post and showed it to him,

613
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 3: so he's called angry, asking why I would tell strangers

614
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:44,679
Speaker 3: about overpersonal problems. Now is he supposed to face his

615
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 3: friends and family now after they all know that the

616
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 3: only reason I'm with him is because Andy broke up

617
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:52,239
Speaker 3: with me. After reading the comments, he's realized that it

618
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 3: wasn't right for him to keep me in the dark

619
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 3: for so long without making a decision. He decided that

620
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 3: we should go our separate ways so that I can

621
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 3: decide whether it's it's really him that I want to

622
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:05,120
Speaker 3: be with and that he wasn't just the convenient choice

623
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 3: For now. I can't describe how I'm feeling. It's like

624
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 3: I'm so tired. I just want to go to sleep forever.

625
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 3: I know some of you have the impression that he's

626
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 3: a horrible man. This was a small fragment of a relationship,

627
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,439
Speaker 3: and it doesn't reflect who he is as an individual.

628
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 3: In the slightest, He's the guy who spent days learning

629
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 3: about my major on top of his own studies so

630
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 3: he could help me study for exams and proofread my coursework.

631
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:28,399
Speaker 3: He spent thousands of his own hard earned money to

632
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 3: give my parents their dream vacation to Australia, and it's

633
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 3: just that I say I paid for it because they

634
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 3: feel bad for taking money from him. When my ex

635
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 3: threatened to leaknudos that I'd send him when we were together,

636
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 3: I was terrified that he would leave. He took me

637
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 3: out of my favorite restaurant and said that there was

638
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 3: nothing anyone could do or say that would ever affect

639
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 3: how much he loves me, and that he asked to

640
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 3: marry him so I'd never have to worry about him

641
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 3: leaving ever again. My fiance is the best man I've

642
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 3: ever known, and the assumption that everyone has made from

643
00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 3: hearing about how such a small part of our lives

644
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 3: is just disgusting. And I didn't come here for people

645
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 3: to convince me that he's immature, insecure or any of that.

646
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 3: I should have known better than to post here. But

647
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 3: I can hope for now he sees this, and we

648
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 3: got a little note to the fiance. But I think

649
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 3: you should save herself right now. I don't know. I

650
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 3: don't know. I get that, like all the other parts

651
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,400
Speaker 3: of your relationship, probably be best, but this is kind

652
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 3: of concerning.

653
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 5: I think it can be concerning, but I don't think

654
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:24,719
Speaker 5: it's breakup worthy.

655
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Speaker 3: He's not breakup worthy.

656
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 5: No, yeah, I don't think it's which I think all

657
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 5: the commentaris are probably suggesting.

658
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 3: It would be for Opie's sake.

659
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Speaker 5: Well yeah, but but I don't think that it needs

660
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,480
Speaker 5: to go that far at all. I think I think

661
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 5: in seven years, you know, you didn't have problems, right,

662
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 5: and I think there will. Probably it makes sense that

663
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 5: there would be times where someone is feeling really insecure. Yeah,

664
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 5: you know, that just happens. That's he's so human, you know,

665
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 5: And especially like after a long relationship like that, Like

666
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 5: I wouldn't be surprised if it becomes normal for you

667
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 5: to like not have to say all of these reassurances

668
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 5: all the time, because like you know, you know, like

669
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 5: you're getting married, you know what I mean, So like

670
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 5: maybe you don't say it and verbalize it as much,

671
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 5: and maybe that's getting to him at a certain point

672
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 5: and then he just needs it a little more. I

673
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 5: think that's totally fine, And I think this is just

674
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 5: one of those moments it just kind of dipped a

675
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 5: little bit. But I don't think this is breakup worthy

676
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Speaker 5: at all.

677
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Speaker 3: Absolutely not do my fiance. I don't know what I

678
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 3: can say to make this better, and I don't know

679
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 3: if you'll be able to heal from this. What I

680
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 3: can say, though, that you were wrong in thinking that

681
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 3: I chose you out of convenience. I chose you because

682
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 3: you were the most thoughtful, handsome, intelligent, and charming man

683
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,719
Speaker 3: I've ever known. Every single moment that we had together

684
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,400
Speaker 3: for the last seven years, every kiss that we shared,

685
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 3: every bagel that we split, and every I love you

686
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 3: that I've said was meant for you and was an

687
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 3: affirmation that you are and always will be my first choice. Oh,

688
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 3: I don't believe that you want to cut our lives

689
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 3: together short. I think you were trying to heal from

690
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 3: the consequence of a mistake that I made, and then

691
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 3: I advertally set a fire underneath you by forcing you

692
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 3: to come to a decision by making this post. Take

693
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 3: as long as you need to do whatever it is

694
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 3: that you need to do to hit ill from this,

695
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:02,959
Speaker 3: and I'll be there a waiting for you when you're

696
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 3: ready to talk. If you decide that it is something

697
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 3: that we cannot overcome, I would accept your decision, but

698
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 3: I know we are stronger than this. I love you

699
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 3: so much. We got a second at it. I know

700
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,160
Speaker 3: this is starting to get really long, but he had

701
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 3: my open letter and got in contact with me to

702
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 3: say that he's not promising anything except that he'll listen.

703
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 3: He still refused to see a therapist because he doesn't

704
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 3: view our relationship as strong that there's anything to salvage

705
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 3: right now. However, some people here have expressed that they

706
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 3: wish they could give him advice directly, and that I've

707
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 3: convinced him to talk to others who have experienced this

708
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 3: and healed from it. Update two. Before I get into

709
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 3: the update, I want to say that I asked my

710
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 3: ex fiance before posting this, and he said it's fine

711
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 3: as long as I don't give away any details that

712
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 3: could reveal us to more of our family and friends.

713
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:49,080
Speaker 3: Ex fiance, I've always been the type of person who

714
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:52,440
Speaker 3: values other people's input when it comes to making good decisions,

715
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 3: and he knows that a lot has happened since the

716
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 3: last update. After we spoke, he went completely quiet for

717
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 3: around two weeks for time to thinking was almost unbearable,

718
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 3: but he promised that as soon as he had an

719
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 3: answer for me, he would contact me. I wasn't allowed

720
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 3: to come to his hotel to drop off food, try

721
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 3: to see him, or any sort of contact. When he

722
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 3: finally called, the first thing that he established was that

723
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 3: our relationship was over.

724
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 5: Ah Man.

725
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 3: However, despite our relationship ending, he still wants to be

726
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 3: with me. I still want to be with him. We

727
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 3: can restart our relationship completely from the beginning, with the

728
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 3: board wipe clean. In his own words, while you look

729
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 3: back at our relationship and see something wonderful, I look

730
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 3: back at it and discuss because you lied bi omission

731
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 3: every single day. Initially, I was ready to agree on

732
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 3: the spot, but he insisted that I take a week

733
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 3: to decide whether I want this. His logic, that is,

734
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 3: if I choose to restart our relationship from the beginning,

735
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 3: he would be my first choice. Later in the week,

736
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 3: it began to settle what this would mean. I would

737
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 3: go from fiance back to girlfriend. I don't know when

738
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 3: he is going to propose again. I don't want children

739
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 3: until we are married, so I don't know how long

740
00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 3: that is going to be. In short, it would completely

741
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 3: throw off the life plans we had for a little

742
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 3: bit more time. He doesn't want to resent me in

743
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 3: the future, so we've agreed to give me as much

744
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 3: time as I needed to come to the decision. This

745
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 3: is a better outcome than I expected, and maybe better

746
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 3: than I deserve. But I would be lying if I

747
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 3: said I don't wish things could go back normal. I've

748
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 3: decided that I'm going to agree to starting over. It

749
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 3: is really hurts that the past seven years doesn't mean

750
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,680
Speaker 3: anything anymore. Not long ago, we decided to celebrate our

751
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:25,560
Speaker 3: seventh anniversary. But this time next year we'll be celebrating

752
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:28,120
Speaker 3: our first anniversary. And then people will be like, oh,

753
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 3: we've been together for a year, And then you have

754
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 3: to explain to everyone of the comments want this is yeah.

755
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 2: Edit.

756
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:35,240
Speaker 3: He read the post and wanted to address some of

757
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 3: the comments. We do restart a relationship. He won't hold

758
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:39,040
Speaker 3: anything over my head.

759
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: Oh how great.

760
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 3: It'll be exactly as he said, and our relationship would

761
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 3: start over completely. He is so confident of this that

762
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 3: he insists I leave him if he ever splits up,

763
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 3: brings it up if we argue. Some people said that

764
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 3: being first is an arbitrary construct that doesn't mean anything.

765
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:58,720
Speaker 3: Marriage is a construct, monogamy is a construct. Something Being

766
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 3: a construct doesn't make it any less real or capable

767
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 3: of inflecting pain. A reminder that this isn't about me

768
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 3: dating people before him. He doesn't care about that. He

769
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 3: cares that I knew him for years, and that we

770
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 3: had a bond in high school, and that we've waited

771
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 3: when we were in college so we could officially be

772
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 3: a couple. But I picked someone else I barely knew.

773
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 3: It's come up very often that the length of our

774
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 3: relationship should have some influence over his decisions. He says

775
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 3: it does because it makes it even worse. I never

776
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 3: told him about what happened during those six months while

777
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 3: we were together. On top of that, I wasn't the

778
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 3: one to tell him. In the end, we know everything

779
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 3: about each other, so he can only assume that I

780
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:39,960
Speaker 3: constantly hid it from him, and we'll never hide that.

781
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 3: We go live every weekd at three PMPSD. Where do

782
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 3: we go Live?

783
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:45,760
Speaker 5: Andjreie We go live on Facebook, on YouTube, on TikTok,

784
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 5: on Twitch. All you have to do is just tap

785
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 5: the profile.

786
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 3: Tubity tap tap three PMPSD. I'm not insecure, fragile, or rational.

787
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:55,280
Speaker 3: The fact is that our old relationship is now ruined

788
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 3: in my eyes, silly. It's ruined because she took away

789
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 3: my ability to make an informed decision set years ago.

790
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 3: If I had known the circumstances of her return, I'm

791
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 3: not afraid to say that I would have told her

792
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 3: to go f herself. Now I'm giving her the option

793
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 3: to restart our relationship with me knowing all the facts.

794
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 3: This time will be equals. And that's the end of that.

795
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 5: Dude, I hated that end.

796
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 1: It's gonna be Oh my.

797
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 3: God, he's so emotionally exhausting, and you guys are gonna

798
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 3: have to divorce. This is yeah, this is crazy.

799
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 5: If you if you're literally saying that, like you, if

800
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 5: you're telling your partner that, like, oh, back then, I

801
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:28,319
Speaker 5: would have told you to f off and it was

802
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 5: not a big deal at all. That's the end of

803
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 5: that story and the end of the episode.

804
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807
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808
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Speaker 2: My own family ruined my wedding because they wouldn't stop

809
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 2: fighting each other.

810
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 4: We know how to settle this. Settle this and smash this.

811
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Speaker 2: Is not asking for advice or if I'm the a

812
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 2: whole I know I'm not, and we didn't deserve our

813
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 2: day that we spent thousands of dollars to create, to

814
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 2: be ruined by a bunch of wasted as My husband

815
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 2: male twenty six and I female twenty six got married

816
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty two after meeting and creating a life

817
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 2: together since twenty fifteen.

818
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,919
Speaker 1: If you do some quick math, we were seventeen years old.

819
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user dems the breaks

820
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Speaker 2: on the r slash okay storytime subredit. Anyway, our wedding

821
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 2: day was disappointing and reflective of a possible World War three.

822
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 1: Firstly, it rained the entire day.

823
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 2: We were supposed to get married outside in front of

824
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 2: this gorgeous river backdrop, but instead the venue created an

825
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:35,200
Speaker 2: undercover area so everyone could be dry for the ceremony. Luckily,

826
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 2: our venue was crafty in their wet option. Top tip,

827
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 2: have a well crafted wet option haha. Honestly, the rain

828
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:44,319
Speaker 2: was the least of our worries by the time we

829
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 2: got to the end of the night. But first, let

830
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 2: me backtrack to just list a few things that also

831
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 2: happened alongside WW three and the rain.

832
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 4: We're calling it. It's that bad. We're calling it that catastrophe.

833
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 2: Maybe this is just a misspelling of doublee. I'd spent

834
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 2: the previous week with my bridesmaid and her now ex partner,

835
00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 2: who were fighting the entire time, meaning the week leading

836
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 2: to my wedding was full of anxiety for me. My

837
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:14,399
Speaker 2: second cousin, who was the MC for the wedding, ran

838
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 2: over my great aunt's foot with her car.

839
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:18,920
Speaker 4: Twice once but twice.

840
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,879
Speaker 2: My Aunt the Trooper still turned up in her moon

841
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,799
Speaker 2: boot with a few tears and lots of pain. My

842
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,279
Speaker 2: cousin's partner had a car accident on the way to

843
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 2: the wedding. He's fine, he was driven into a when

844
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 2: reversing out of their own driveway, But I guess the

845
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:37,399
Speaker 2: pull of free food and booze stops no one. Four

846
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:40,280
Speaker 2: of our guests couldn't make it because it was currently

847
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 2: flooding all over the countryside of Australia. Sorry should have

848
00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:47,120
Speaker 2: mentioned where Ozzie. During the reception, a girlfriend of middle

849
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:49,399
Speaker 2: cousin he will be introduced later, who I didn't even

850
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 2: want to invite but it was easier to just do

851
00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 2: so to avoid drama, decided to get hoisted and throw

852
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 2: food at her boyfriend. They have since broken up, hence

853
00:37:58,440 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 2: I didn't want her at the wedding.

854
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 1: Two of my.

855
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 2: Guests had to sit at the end of my husband's

856
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 2: family table and were treated like crap by a lot

857
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 2: of them.

858
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:08,320
Speaker 1: There seemed to be a fight over steak.

859
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 2: The best man was being gross and wouldn't leave my

860
00:38:11,520 --> 00:38:13,960
Speaker 2: cousins alone. They are gorgeous, so I get it, but

861
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 2: it was like, really gross how he wouldn't take no

862
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:20,319
Speaker 2: as a full sentence. I had to have words with him,

863
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 2: but karma came for him as he barfed in his

864
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 2: own underwear, Thanks Universe. Finally, back to the husband's lovely

865
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 2: extended family, they were reportedly rude to the serving staff,

866
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 2: literally throwing trash on the ground in front of them

867
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 2: to pick up. You're kicked out of my event at

868
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 2: that point. If I see you do that, I don't

869
00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 2: care who you are. I'm kicking you out. I don't

870
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:43,319
Speaker 2: be rude to servers because that now reflects on me

871
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 2: because you're at my event. I wouldn't stand for that.

872
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 2: If I'm in charge, You're gone. If I see you

873
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 2: do that, this is a mess, and so is the wedding.

874
00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:50,319
Speaker 4: Hope.

875
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 1: He says like, are you okay?

876
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 2: Do you want to lift back to your tiny town

877
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:56,720
Speaker 2: where you think you matter a lot more than you do. Okay,

878
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 2: that was mean, but I have reason to be pissed

879
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 2: at them. Moving on, So, my husband's oldest cousin, who

880
00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 2: is a few years older than us. He's the eldest

881
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 2: of five boys and a father of two kids, decided

882
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 2: red wine was the drink of choice for the night.

883
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 2: Weird choice, but okay, I digress. He got wasted, and

884
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 2: we know how this goes. He starts annoying everyone and

885
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 2: being downright rude to a lot of my guests, which

886
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 2: I found out later. At some stage, he's speaking to

887
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 2: my uncle and giving my aunt the cold shoulder. My aunt,

888
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 2: being sober and sensible, tried to redirect the cousin. However,

889
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 2: he takes this very badly. The next thing I know,

890
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 2: my cousin is telling me about how my aunt was

891
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,439
Speaker 2: being rude and how he doesn't understand why she's so

892
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 2: mad at him. He starts crying, etc. I'm just trying

893
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 2: to get him to settle by saying, she just acts

894
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 2: like that, it's not you just go have a dance.

895
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 2: Actually though she isn't like that, but he doesn't know

896
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 2: her from a bar of soap. So you know how

897
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 2: I mentioned five brothers. Yeah, this is where that comes in.

898
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:57,320
Speaker 2: Cousin tells his brothers what's happened. One of the middle

899
00:39:57,360 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 2: ones decides to get all amped up, because why not

900
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 2: just get mad for no reason. I came out of

901
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:04,840
Speaker 2: the venue where my husband and I have been crying

902
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 2: our eyes out because people are arguing and it was

903
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 2: horrible on our special day.

904
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 1: Little did we know it would get worse.

905
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 4: I knew it was gonna get it was so much worse.

906
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:14,720
Speaker 4: This is just the tip of the iceberg.

907
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 2: To save time, I'll quick fire what happened. Cousin and

908
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 2: middle cousin are on one side of the walkway, My sibling,

909
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,960
Speaker 2: their partner, and two of my aunt's daughters are on

910
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 2: the other side. They are spitting hectic crap at each other.

911
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,720
Speaker 2: My family is literally trying to leave also its raining,

912
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:33,359
Speaker 2: and are being hounded by these men they've never met.

913
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 2: Cousin is trying to shake my aunt's hand to say sorry,

914
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 2: but won't stop going on and on with bs. My

915
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 2: family escapes to their cars. Some have anxiety attacks as

916
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 2: they're all female and being screamed at by a bunch

917
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 2: of males they don't know, many of whom are being

918
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:53,760
Speaker 2: at Gratsev. They stay in the cars awaiting taxis to come.

919
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 2: And side note, we were about twenty minutes from the

920
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 2: nearest sign of civilization and no one could drive. This

921
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 2: will be important cousin and middle cousin keep up the fight. Now,

922
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:07,799
Speaker 2: fighting between the five boys and their dad commences as

923
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 2: half of them know the troublemakers are being ridiculous. Oh

924
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 2: and my mother in law and cousin's wife almost have

925
00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 2: a physical altercation as cousin's wife decided that he was

926
00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 2: somehow in the right and my mother in law was

927
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:21,400
Speaker 2: in protective mom mode considering she just had to console

928
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 2: her son and daughter in law on their wedding day

929
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 2: because of her side of the family's crap. Husband and

930
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 2: I get in the first tax that turns up as

931
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 2: we are done with it all. At this point, I

932
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:33,319
Speaker 2: leave my parents and one of my bride'smaids there as

933
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 2: they are just hanging out in the smoker's area. Anyway,

934
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 2: this sounds like the nightmare wedding from Hell.

935
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,440
Speaker 4: This literally does sound like a WWE event. It's like

936
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 4: and now we have the other cousins, Yeah, fighting with

937
00:41:46,480 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 4: these other cousins and kill the brothers. The brothers go.

938
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:52,879
Speaker 1: And the cage begins to descend from the.

939
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 4: Roof of the church and que the wild animals.

940
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 2: Now Hobby and I get back to the hotel, I

941
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 2: get out of my soaked dress and throw it in

942
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 2: the bath top. Tip if it rains and your dresses soaked.

943
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 2: Bathtubs are a great storage place. I spend hours on

944
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 2: my phone trying to get a taxi or uber to

945
00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:11,879
Speaker 2: the venue to pick up my parents and bride'smaid, as

946
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 2: I know they're all country folk and don't really know

947
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 2: how this works. But the reason taxis were so difficult

948
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:20,319
Speaker 2: is because the five boy cousins and their father get

949
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 2: into a physical altercation between them. Of course, one of

950
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 2: them hits another in the head while a taxi is

951
00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 2: driving down the road, so the venue was blacklisted. No

952
00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 2: taxis were allowed to go there. In this part of

953
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 2: the world. Ubers are hard to get, but I eventually

954
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 2: got one for my parents and bride'smaid to get them home. Well.

955
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 2: The next day, I'm having to apologize to my family

956
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 2: as I feel terrible that they were all legitimately threatened

957
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 2: with violence.

958
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 1: They are all understanding and telling me.

959
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 2: That it wasn't on me, but to this day, I

960
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:51,799
Speaker 2: still feel so bad about it all.

961
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:54,319
Speaker 1: Hubby and I go to the resort his family are at.

962
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 2: His parents apologize to us and ask us to pass

963
00:42:57,160 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 2: that to my family, but we have not heard a

964
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 2: thing since that night from the cousins who did these deeds.

965
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 1: He actually blocked all of us on Facebook.

966
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 2: His parents never apologized, like my mother in law's sister,

967
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 2: never came over to the next villa and said, hey, sis,

968
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 2: that was messed up and I'm sorry. Nothing we heard

969
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 2: from middle cousin via a message on Facebook, but nothing more.

970
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 2: At this point in twenty twenty four, my mother in

971
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 2: law's entire family has imploded.

972
00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 1: I feel for her and her kids. I really do.

973
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 2: Late last year, we had a family event for a

974
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 2: mutual cousin's eighteenth mother in law's brother's kids, and I

975
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 2: was sitting with my mother in law's sister, sister's husband,

976
00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:42,239
Speaker 2: and middle cousin he's back alongside grandmother. They started talking

977
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:45,319
Speaker 2: crap about my mother in law. Now, to premise, I

978
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 2: have built a good relationship with my in laws in

979
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:48,840
Speaker 2: the last few.

980
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 1: Years, so I am protective.

981
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 2: I decided this absolutely wasn't happening, so I had my say.

982
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:57,880
Speaker 2: I have only one thing to say, which is that

983
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:02,120
Speaker 2: y'all should join us every weekday at three pm PST

984
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 2: when we go live on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch.

985
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 2: All you gotta do is tap our profile on any

986
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 2: one of those platforms. In your live I would say,

987
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:13,279
Speaker 2: you can just like, never interact with these cousins ever

988
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 2: again for the rest of your life. It's very plain

989
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 2: and simple. I'm sorry that your wedding happened, but again,

990
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, it's not on you,

991
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 2: it's on them, and they kind of ruin your parade

992
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 2: and that sucks. They are one hundred percent in the wrong.

993
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:27,840
Speaker 2: You had to leave your own wedding early because people

994
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:31,399
Speaker 2: were literally trying to throw down like it like it

995
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 2: was a cage match.

996
00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:34,400
Speaker 4: Surely is, dude, like they're gonna they were fighting for

997
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 4: the cake.

998
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 2: I think it's time to just move on and enjoy

999
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 2: your beautiful marriage with.

1000
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 4: Your husband and with the select few members that you

1001
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:41,839
Speaker 4: want to be with.

1002
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:44,320
Speaker 2: So I pointed right in the middle of my cousin's

1003
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 2: face after he disrespected my mother in law and said,

1004
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 2: you try having your family ruin your effing wedding and

1005
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 2: see how you feel. I wish I had said more,

1006
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:56,280
Speaker 2: but I'm not good with this crap. Collectively, as a family,

1007
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 2: we got up and left after my father in law

1008
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 2: said very assertive that we ain't it sis. Lol, So

1009
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 2: that's not what he said, but you get the idea.

1010
00:45:06,040 --> 00:45:08,239
Speaker 2: So after that it was done for good. I have

1011
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,800
Speaker 2: left out names. But if you're reading this or listening

1012
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:14,000
Speaker 2: to it and know it's about you, good thanks for nothing.

1013
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:16,480
Speaker 2: Maybe I should send you a bill. And that is

1014
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:18,799
Speaker 2: the end of that story. And yeah, just leave those

1015
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 2: people in the past us.

1016
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 4: Don't waste your brustle them, don't waste your energy. You

1017
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 4: don't need toxic people to be in your life.

1018
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:28,280
Speaker 2: Indeed, be happy, Indeed, enjoy your new husband and perhaps

1019
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 2: maybe do a little fun get together with some friends

1020
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:34,960
Speaker 2: who won't start trying to reenact to wwe match at

1021
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 2: your wedding.

1022
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 4: I think that's the best yess of action, indeed.

1023
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story. So if

1024
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 2: you love us, make sure you subscribe. We love you

1025
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 2: and see you tomorrow.

1026
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 4: I've removed my sister in law from my wedding party

1027
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 4: because she never cared about it.

1028
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 1: You never cared in the first place.

1029
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,839
Speaker 4: I Female, twenty one, and my husband, Mail, twenty two,

1030
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:58,799
Speaker 4: got married when I was nineteen. For some background, we

1031
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 4: had known each other for nine years at that point

1032
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:02,920
Speaker 4: and dated for three. By the way, this comes from

1033
00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:06,759
Speaker 4: user random writer zero on the Arsala Showkay Storytime. Cebret So,

1034
00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 4: I wanted a really chill wedding. My family doesn't have

1035
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 4: a ton of money, so we kept the wedding on

1036
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,279
Speaker 4: a tight budget, which I was completely fine with. We

1037
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:15,840
Speaker 4: got the cheapest venue we could find, the cheapest catering,

1038
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:19,080
Speaker 4: and so on. I had six bridesmaids in my wedding party,

1039
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 4: my two sisters, two cousins, my sister in law, and

1040
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 4: a friend. Sister in law isn't technically my husband's sister, however,

1041
00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:27,400
Speaker 4: she was raised by my husband's dad but never actually

1042
00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 4: was adopted. He considers her his sister. It was really

1043
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 4: important to my husband that she be in the wedding.

1044
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 4: I was super excited to include her and assume she

1045
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 4: would be very happy as well. She's over a decade

1046
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 4: older than the both of us and is married and

1047
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:41,080
Speaker 4: has children, but this would be the first wedding she

1048
00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 4: would have been in. When we asked her to be

1049
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 4: in the wedding. She said yes, of course, and seemed excited.

1050
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 4: I was soon to find out I was wrong. First,

1051
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 4: I selected bridesmaid dresses that were thirty dollars each. They

1052
00:46:52,320 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 4: were dresses that could be styled twenty different ways, and

1053
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:57,279
Speaker 4: I had two shades of pink. Three bridesmaids would be

1054
00:46:57,360 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 4: in one shade and the other three in another. Now,

1055
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 4: not that it matters, but sister in law is pretty

1056
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 4: well off financially, so a thirty dollars dress is nothing.

1057
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 4: I kept it very cheap because I couldn't afford to

1058
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 4: buy all the dresses and would never ask my loved

1059
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:12,840
Speaker 4: ones to spend a ridiculous amount of money on a

1060
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 4: dress for one specific day. Everyone bought the dresses right

1061
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 4: away six months before the wedding, except for sister in law.

1062
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:22,280
Speaker 4: I asked them all the same pictures of the dresses,

1063
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 4: and they did and again except for sister in law.

1064
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:31,839
Speaker 4: After about a month, I texted sister in law asked

1065
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 4: if she had bought the dress. She said she didn't

1066
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:36,839
Speaker 4: know when she was supposed to order it. I sent

1067
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 4: the link again and told her it takes about a

1068
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 4: month for the dress to arrive, so please order as

1069
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:44,560
Speaker 4: soon as possible. We're now four months away from the wedding.

1070
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 4: I sent out invitations to my bridal shower that was

1071
00:47:47,160 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 4: in four weeks. Everyone RSVP'd and I was so excited

1072
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:53,319
Speaker 4: to see them all. The day of sister in law

1073
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:55,399
Speaker 4: texted and said she couldn't make it due to one

1074
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 4: of her kids being sick. This made perfect sense to

1075
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 4: me and I had no problem with it at all.

1076
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 4: I'm not sure why her husband couldn't stay at home,

1077
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 4: but that wasn't my problem. After the bridal shower, we

1078
00:48:04,960 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 4: sent out invites for the bachelorette party, which was really

1079
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 4: just a chill dinner with all my close friends and bridesmaids.

1080
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:13,360
Speaker 4: These invites were sent a month before the event. Sister

1081
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 4: in law RSVP just like everyone else. Then the day

1082
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 4: up comes, she texted me and said she had to work.

1083
00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 4: I found this odd since her job isn't one that

1084
00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:24,239
Speaker 4: is on call, but I said no worries and I

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Speaker 4: would see her at the rehearsal. Then the rehearsal day

1086
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:29,320
Speaker 4: rolls around. Can we make a guess what's gonna happen?

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Speaker 1: I would bet every last dollar to my name.

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Speaker 4: She's not ready for is it third times the charm

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Speaker 4: do you think it's there?

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Speaker 1: Maybe third time she's unprepared, she's gonna go. I thought

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Speaker 1: I could just wear there.

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00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 4: Maybe she doesn't have her dress yet either.

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Speaker 1: Oh, we know that.

1094
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 4: Then the rehearsal day rolls around the day before my wedding.

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Speaker 4: Everyone is at the venue helping set up and decorate.

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Speaker 4: I receive a text from sister in law. She says

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Speaker 4: she is sick and won't be able to make it

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Speaker 4: to the rehearsal and possibly the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Dude, at this point, just.

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Speaker 2: Say you don't want to just be honest. It's like

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Speaker 2: you're not fooling anyone. At this point, I.

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Speaker 4: Ask her if I need to find a replacement bridesmaid,

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Speaker 4: as I have a friend who had gotten very close

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00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 4: to over the wedding planning time. She tells me yes,

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Speaker 4: and that she doesn't think it would be wise for

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Speaker 4: her to be in the wedding and risk getting me

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Speaker 4: or anyone else sick. I agreed and apologize. You had

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00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 4: nothing to apologize for. I mean, maybe you're like, oh,

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, you're sick, and that sucks.

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Speaker 2: We have the additional insight that this person just like

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00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:27,240
Speaker 2: didn't want to have anything to do with the wedding anyway.

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Speaker 1: So we at this point know that this.

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00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,719
Speaker 2: Is probably BS, but in the moment, sure, it's like there's.

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Speaker 4: It could be the benefit of the doubt. Maybe again,

1115
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 4: it just crap happens. Crap happens, and ironically it's just

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Speaker 4: on very specific days for this wedding.

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean a lot of this, this story has

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Speaker 3: taken place over months.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I then asked my friend's mom, who was helping decorate,

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Speaker 4: if her daughter would be my bridesmaid. She was so

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Speaker 4: ecstatic and immediately left to buy her daughter's shoes for

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Speaker 4: the wedding and pick her up from the track. I

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Speaker 4: then see my mother in law on the phone. I've

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Speaker 4: been talking to my husband the whole time about what

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Speaker 4: was going on, so he I knew that the sister

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Speaker 4: in law had told me to find a replacement and

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Speaker 4: wouldn't be in the wedding. As soon as mother in

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Speaker 4: law gets off the phone, I get a text from

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Speaker 4: sister in law saying, never mind, she wants to be

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Speaker 4: in the wedding. You are outrageously Oh yeah, you're annoying, annoying, annoying, annoying. Now,

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00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 4: first of all, you're either sick, it can't be in

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Speaker 4: the wedding, and I sure as heck don't want to

1133
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Speaker 4: be sick. Or second, you're lying. Now I'm panicking because

1134
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Speaker 4: I have to either tell my friend never mind and

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Speaker 4: remove her from the wedding party or tell my sister

1136
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Speaker 4: in law she can't be in the wedding. My husband

1137
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Speaker 4: starts telling me that I need to kick my friend

1138
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Speaker 4: back out and let sister in law be the bridesmaid.

1139
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 4: Yeah right, I don't think it works like that. She

1140
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:45,160
Speaker 4: said no, and we agreed that it was okay. This

1141
00:50:45,160 --> 00:50:46,640
Speaker 4: didn't make any sense to me, though, as she was

1142
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:50,280
Speaker 4: supposedly too sick to even come to the wedding. Thirty

1143
00:50:50,560 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 4: minutes ago, my husband and I ended up getting into

1144
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:55,400
Speaker 4: an argument and staying behind at the venue. Everyone had

1145
00:50:55,480 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 4: left to get lunch while we stayed back and talk

1146
00:50:57,760 --> 00:51:00,200
Speaker 4: about what to do. After discussing the fact that she

1147
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 4: literally told me to find someone else and how wrong

1148
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 4: it would be to then kick my friend back out,

1149
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 4: we both finally agreed to tell sister in law we

1150
00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:11,840
Speaker 4: had already replaced her, of course in a much nicer way.

1151
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:14,360
Speaker 4: That's fine. I hope she's understanding.

1152
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 2: It's it's perfectly fine. I don't know how the husband

1153
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:20,960
Speaker 2: didn't go. I mean, I know it's your sister, but like, dude,

1154
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:23,359
Speaker 2: like she she lied, she's being a liar.

1155
00:51:23,480 --> 00:51:26,520
Speaker 4: She also she also this was communicated. Hey, she could

1156
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 4: come to the wedding, but she can't be a bridesbad anymore.

1157
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:30,760
Speaker 4: That sucks. My husband and I set out the venue

1158
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 4: for two hours, crying and trying to figure out what

1159
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 4: to do because we didn't want to hurt anyone. Sister

1160
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:37,759
Speaker 4: in law was super understanding, though, and said she would

1161
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 4: drop the dress off for the other bridesmaid. This is

1162
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 4: very sweet. Okay. Everything seemed okay until sister in law

1163
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 4: texted again saying she never opened her dress and just

1164
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:48,759
Speaker 4: now realized she ordered the wrong one.

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Speaker 2: Ah did we have that one on the bingo car?

1166
00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:52,719
Speaker 4: And I don't we did?

1167
00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 1: I mean, I had no dress at all.

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00:51:55,080 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 4: I had no dress either, but I didn't even have

1169
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Speaker 4: an surprise. I'm shocked at this.

1170
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Speaker 1: Point, surprise surprise.

1171
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 4: I was absolutely ticked it was the wrong color and style.

1172
00:52:07,239 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 4: I went back to the link I had sent her

1173
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:11,880
Speaker 4: to make sure it was correct, and guess what it was.

1174
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,239
Speaker 4: I had sent pictures of the dress, the description of

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00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 4: the dress, and the correct link to the dress, and

1176
00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 4: somehow she ordered a completely different one.

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00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:20,960
Speaker 1: So now it's did she do that on purpose?

1178
00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:24,400
Speaker 2: Did she purposefully order a different dress because she didn't

1179
00:52:24,560 --> 00:52:25,719
Speaker 2: like the bridesmaid dress?

1180
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Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't care. It's my wedding. I

1181
00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:29,440
Speaker 4: just don't care. I have no energy to give to

1182
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:32,480
Speaker 4: you whatever. Thankfully, I had planned to have the girls

1183
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 4: in different styles, so we made it work, and since

1184
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:37,240
Speaker 4: the dress was a different shade of pink, it looked

1185
00:52:37,280 --> 00:52:41,360
Speaker 4: like I chose three shades. It was still absolutely infuriating, however,

1186
00:52:41,560 --> 00:52:43,759
Speaker 4: because it showed that she never cared about being a

1187
00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:46,319
Speaker 4: part of our wedding from the get go. She came

1188
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 4: to the wedding, and I later found out she was

1189
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,880
Speaker 4: never sick. She was in a fight with her husband

1190
00:52:50,920 --> 00:52:52,799
Speaker 4: and didn't feel like cubbing. So I think I made

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00:52:52,840 --> 00:52:55,560
Speaker 4: the right choice by having my friend by my side

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00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 4: rather than someone who couldn't even be bothered to get

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00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,360
Speaker 4: the correct thirty dollars dress or show up to anything

1194
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 4: leading up to the wedding. But you know what you

1195
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 4: can lead up to every weekday three pm on YouTube, Facebook, Twitch,

1196
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:10,800
Speaker 4: TikTok every weekday. Just chap that profile.

1197
00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 2: That's all it takes is a couple of taps. We

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00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:14,759
Speaker 2: might even be live right now and you can go

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Speaker 2: check that. But if you do that right now, you're story.

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00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 4: We're gonna find out this'n be a crazy wedding and

1201
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:22,560
Speaker 4: we don't care for sister in law.

1202
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:25,520
Speaker 2: I think this is all a perfect like her having

1203
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:29,360
Speaker 2: never ordered the right dress and and the lying and everything,

1204
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:30,880
Speaker 2: it's all it just shows.

1205
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:32,640
Speaker 1: It's like she didn't even need to be there.

1206
00:53:32,719 --> 00:53:36,800
Speaker 2: No, she didn't ever really care about celebrating O P

1207
00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:40,440
Speaker 2: and her brother getting married. She was just like, I

1208
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:41,880
Speaker 2: guess this would be a fun thing for me.

1209
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 4: I've never been a part of a wedding. I wonder why, Yeah,

1210
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 4: I wonder why you've never been a part of a wedding.

1211
00:53:47,040 --> 00:53:50,239
Speaker 1: It certainly shows, but like, how can you out again?

1212
00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:53,160
Speaker 4: I would again selfish? Your selfish?

1213
00:53:53,200 --> 00:53:57,319
Speaker 2: After you you bold face lie about being sick the

1214
00:53:57,480 --> 00:53:59,920
Speaker 2: day before and the day of the wedding and the

1215
00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:01,879
Speaker 2: and you try to flip it back around a half

1216
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:03,600
Speaker 2: hour later and go, actually I can go.

1217
00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:06,319
Speaker 1: I'm not letting you go. You're now uninvited.

1218
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 4: I was like, are you sick or oh you like

1219
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:10,239
Speaker 4: to me, oh, so you're a liar well, because then

1220
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:12,160
Speaker 4: it immediate and a liar at my wedding.

1221
00:54:12,239 --> 00:54:14,799
Speaker 2: It brings into question all of the other lies that

1222
00:54:14,880 --> 00:54:17,480
Speaker 2: she told about her kid being sick and about not

1223
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:18,319
Speaker 2: being able to make it.

1224
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:19,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, any other time.

1225
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:21,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, let us know in the comments. Would you still

1226
00:54:21,840 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 4: invite her to the wedding? Yeah? Or you still have

1227
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 4: her come to the wedding because at this point, I'm like,

1228
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 4: you're like the boy you cried wolf. I don't care

1229
00:54:27,680 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 4: for you, and either you're lying and I don't want

1230
00:54:29,719 --> 00:54:31,560
Speaker 4: you in my wedding or at all in the vicinity

1231
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 4: of me because I'm infuriated with you, or you're sick,

1232
00:54:33,960 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 4: which again, second thing, I don't want you in my

1233
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 4: wedding because you're gonna get everyone else sick. Perfect. Easy,

1234
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:40,720
Speaker 4: But let's finish up the store. All this to say, brides,

1235
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:43,680
Speaker 4: don't let people guilt you into having people you don't

1236
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 4: want in or at your wedding. Make sure you are

1237
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 4: surrounded by people who actually love and care about you. Yes,

1238
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:53,040
Speaker 4: our wedding day ended up being absolutely perfect, and it's

1239
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:57,120
Speaker 4: my favorite memory to look back right now. Yes, the

1240
00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:59,840
Speaker 4: day before, however, I would like to leave in the past.

1241
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 4: Somehow we made it through the entire wedding process with

1242
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 4: almost no drama or stress until the day before. It

1243
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 4: seems like there was always someone determined to make your

1244
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:09,400
Speaker 4: wedding about them.

1245
00:55:09,480 --> 00:55:11,840
Speaker 1: Oh boy, isn't that the truth?

1246
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:14,200
Speaker 4: Ain't that the way we.

1247
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 2: Always seem to be reading wedding stories of people thinking

1248
00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:18,200
Speaker 2: it's their day.

1249
00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:21,440
Speaker 4: Guess what, it's it's not your day, it's their wedding,

1250
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:23,960
Speaker 4: their rules. And guess what, You're not the only one

1251
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:25,200
Speaker 4: experiencing this, So.

1252
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're not alone.

1253
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 4: I'm happy for op getting the wedding that she so deserved.

1254
00:55:30,760 --> 00:55:32,400
Speaker 4: Absolutely amazing.

1255
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Speaker 2: I'm very glad that that is where the drama kind

1256
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:36,719
Speaker 2: of stopped.

1257
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:38,759
Speaker 4: Let us know the comments if you would still let

1258
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:41,200
Speaker 4: her come at least not be in the wedding, of course,

1259
00:55:41,280 --> 00:55:43,719
Speaker 4: but let her come to the wedding, that's another thing.

1260
00:55:43,760 --> 00:55:45,440
Speaker 4: But let us know the comments. But again, that's the

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00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 4: end of that story.

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Speaker 1: And we've got another one coming right up, So stick around.

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Speaker 4: gonna get back to these juicy stories.

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Speaker 6: My mother forbid me from picking a venue for my

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Speaker 6: own wedding.

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Speaker 4: Tosser in, yeah, tosser in there, She'll go there.

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Speaker 6: My fiance twenty two mail proposed to me in May

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Speaker 6: this year. It was gorgeous. We plan to get married

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Speaker 6: next year, sometime around September October. We both have always

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00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:18,360
Speaker 6: wanted a fall wedding, so we are very excited. My mother, however,

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Speaker 6: does not seem to be. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 6: So I never imagined my mother would do this. I've

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Speaker 6: seen so many videos and I've always been like, thank God,

1278
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 6: my fiance's mother is sane, until recently when I realized

1279
00:56:33,960 --> 00:56:36,719
Speaker 6: that my fiance is the one with the crazy mother

1280
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:39,400
Speaker 6: in law. Now, my mom isn't crazy, but she's not

1281
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:42,279
Speaker 6: making wedding planning super easy. I've been looking for a

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00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:44,880
Speaker 6: venue since June of this year. We have found so

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00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:48,600
Speaker 6: many stunning locations and have toured many of them. Unfortunately,

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00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:50,719
Speaker 6: due to the economy, we have had to turn many

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Speaker 6: of these locations down due to prices. This leaves us

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00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:57,480
Speaker 6: with very slim options. Now, for some background, I've always

1287
00:56:57,520 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 6: wanted to be married outside my fiance's family. It lives

1288
00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:03,759
Speaker 6: eight plus hours away and have a gorgeous estate where

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00:57:03,800 --> 00:57:06,719
Speaker 6: I originally wanted to have the wedding. Sadly, due to

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00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 6: some of the elderly in my family, the drive meant

1291
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:11,600
Speaker 6: that not many people would be able to make it.

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Speaker 6: Because of this, I have opted to have the wedding

1293
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Speaker 6: closer to my house. My fiance was okay with this

1294
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 6: and said that his family would come no matter what.

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Speaker 6: He's the oldest of the grandchildren, so they are very,

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Speaker 6: very excited to watch him get married. So we found

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Speaker 6: a range of venues, five of them to be exact,

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Speaker 6: that fit into our budget or slightly broke it by

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Speaker 6: under three thousand, and began the decision making. My mother,

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Speaker 6: being the mother of the bride, wanted to help me

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Speaker 6: make the decision. I love my mom, so I said yes.

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Speaker 6: I gave her all of the details and even let

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Speaker 6: her join me on one of the tours. What a

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Speaker 6: mistake that well, oh oh, my mom has done nothing

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Speaker 6: but reject every single venue I proposed. Now I may

1306
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Speaker 6: be crazy in saying this, and tell me if I am,

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00:57:55,120 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 6: but does a three hour drive really seem long for

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Speaker 6: a wedding. I've even six hours wedding.

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Speaker 4: I've driven like seven hours for a wedding. Yeah, but

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Speaker 4: I got I mean, I stay for a weekend, but I.

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Speaker 6: Don't even I think we stayed for I think we

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Speaker 6: stayed overnight and that was it. Yeah, the people and

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Speaker 6: also we went during this was in Tahoe and it

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Speaker 6: was when Tahoe was on fire. Oh so, anyone who's

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00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 6: complaining about going to your wedding is the wedding.

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Speaker 4: The wedding for you was literally fire.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it was no. Literally we were like there was

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00:58:22,520 --> 00:58:24,680
Speaker 6: like we might have had to be evacuated because there

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Speaker 6: was so much smoke.

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Speaker 4: You're like, nothing will prevail this wedding.

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Speaker 6: I don't want to make this super long, but here

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Speaker 6: is the list of each wedding venue I had picked

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Speaker 6: out in order and the response that my mother gave

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00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:37,680
Speaker 6: me when I told her I wanted to pick it.

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Speaker 6: I know that I don't state how long the drive

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Speaker 6: is for my fiance's family, but they all told me

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00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 6: how to get together this weekend, that they will come

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00:58:44,640 --> 00:58:47,840
Speaker 6: no matter where it's at, even if it's a destination wedding.

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Speaker 6: So I didn't include their distances. However, about sixty percent

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Speaker 6: of them will have to fly in from Texas, Vermont, Georgia,

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Speaker 6: and Florida. Gorgeous venue ceremony outside, reception in an old barn,

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Speaker 6: most defensive venue I found, but only a thirty minute

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Speaker 6: drive for my family. My mother's response, Well, it's a

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Speaker 6: bit expensive, don't you think, Plus the barn will be.

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Speaker 4: Too cold for the elderly folks.

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Speaker 6: It's a nice drive, though, check for other venues first

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00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 6: understandable response.

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Speaker 4: That's a reasonable response. Yeah, that wasn't anything in a pocket.

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Speaker 6: Just like it's expensive. Grungey location ceremony in a bar

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Speaker 6: with cement floors and reception in same location. My mother

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Speaker 6: picked this one out and rejected it immediately because it's

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00:59:27,280 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 6: too far away. It's an hour and a half long

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00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:32,920
Speaker 6: drive for my family. Stunning lake house with gorgeous views

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00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:35,840
Speaker 6: and on site management for the whole wedding. Ceremony outside,

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00:59:35,880 --> 00:59:39,640
Speaker 6: reception inside, the whole inside is heated, falls within the budget,

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Speaker 6: and is way cheaper than option one. Plus we get

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00:59:42,280 --> 00:59:44,520
Speaker 6: a discount for having a fall wedding. It's a two

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00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:47,960
Speaker 6: hour drive for my family. My mother's response, are you serious?

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Speaker 6: Where will your family stay? You expect them to drive

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Speaker 6: that far, no one will come. You better expect your

1351
00:59:53,920 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 6: guest list to fall short. It's basically a destination wedding.

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Speaker 4: Girl. What what this sounds perfect? This sounds like the

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01:00:02,600 --> 01:00:03,480
Speaker 4: perfect location.

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01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:05,840
Speaker 6: Is not that far to drive for a wedding. No,

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01:00:06,360 --> 01:00:08,120
Speaker 6: I would even do that in like I would I

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01:00:08,120 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 6: would do that and then come back.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Like I wouldn't even stay the night if I was

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Speaker 6: driving that month.

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Speaker 4: No, I mean maybe maybe if you have a like

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Speaker 4: a long night, maybe go to a hotel. There's to

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01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 4: be a hotel nearby. People like people.

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01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 6: Stay in hotels and airbnb's all the time for weddings.

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Speaker 4: It's not hard. This is hard. This is not hard

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Speaker 4: at all. And this is not in like some rural

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01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:27,440
Speaker 4: part of town. It just seems very simple and easy.

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Speaker 6: A golf course, venue, stunning rivers and lots of trees,

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01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:35,040
Speaker 6: ceremony outside, reception outside, low cost cover, tent rental, and

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01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:37,400
Speaker 6: venue rental. An hour and a half long drive for

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01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:40,680
Speaker 6: my family. My mother's response, that's still a really far drive.

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Speaker 6: You're not gonna have anyone show up. Plus, there's no

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Speaker 6: hotels nearby. There were a few hotels nearby, but this

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01:00:47,160 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 6: was more of a the RBO Airbnb location, which I

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01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:53,320
Speaker 6: explained to her the last option I have. I found

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01:00:53,360 --> 01:00:56,360
Speaker 6: this venue literally two days ago. It's stunning. It's a

1376
01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:59,960
Speaker 6: country club outside ceremony by the lake, all colored trees

1377
01:01:00,040 --> 01:01:03,960
Speaker 6: in the background, outside reception, with open bar and stone footing,

1378
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 6: no dance for needed, insanely cheap cost, literally one tenth

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01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:11,040
Speaker 6: of our budget. Catering company down the street offers food

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01:01:11,040 --> 01:01:13,640
Speaker 6: for weddings on the site also but one tenth of

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01:01:13,640 --> 01:01:17,560
Speaker 6: the budget. Speakers included on site for music, multiple stunning

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01:01:17,560 --> 01:01:20,360
Speaker 6: hotels nearby. My fiance's uncle is a member of this

1383
01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:23,760
Speaker 6: club and can get a discount, and my fiance's father

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01:01:23,880 --> 01:01:26,360
Speaker 6: said that if we decided yes on this location that

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01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:29,120
Speaker 6: he'd buy the liquor for the party. We also found

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01:01:29,200 --> 01:01:31,960
Speaker 6: a cake company nearby that's very cheap and the cake

1387
01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:35,080
Speaker 6: is so delicious. So basically we get all of that

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01:01:35,240 --> 01:01:37,960
Speaker 6: for two tenths of the entire budget, leaving all of

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01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:41,680
Speaker 6: the extra money for de court photography, DJ, the dresses

1390
01:01:41,680 --> 01:01:45,520
Speaker 6: and tuxes, and the honeymoon. It's a three hour drive

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01:01:45,600 --> 01:01:46,320
Speaker 6: for my family.

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01:01:46,440 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 4: Oh, I bet mom's gonna love that.

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01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 5: She's gonna love it.

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01:01:48,640 --> 01:01:50,680
Speaker 6: I think she's gonna be like, Wow, my children. I

1395
01:01:50,720 --> 01:01:51,840
Speaker 6: want them to be happy.

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01:01:52,120 --> 01:01:52,920
Speaker 1: Three hours.

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01:01:53,280 --> 01:01:56,480
Speaker 4: That's nothing. It's nothing for family, nothing for the perfect

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01:01:56,560 --> 01:01:59,080
Speaker 4: wedding for my daughter and my son in law.

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01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:02,600
Speaker 6: But actually, she said my mother's response, it's that far.

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Speaker 6: Are you serious? You thought your guest list would be

1401
01:02:05,560 --> 01:02:08,320
Speaker 6: short before? You really need to think about this before

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01:02:08,320 --> 01:02:11,280
Speaker 6: I'm making this decision. That's not a good idea. Where

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01:02:11,360 --> 01:02:15,440
Speaker 6: will your family stay? What happens if someone's vegetarian? Our

1404
01:02:15,440 --> 01:02:18,200
Speaker 6: food options here are chicken and pulled pork. What happens

1405
01:02:18,200 --> 01:02:20,320
Speaker 6: if your vendors don't want to drive that far? So

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01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:23,200
Speaker 6: at this point, I'm about to say screw you and

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01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:25,959
Speaker 6: just pick up Venue number five and call it good.

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01:02:26,040 --> 01:02:28,600
Speaker 6: I love it so much. It's stunning and everything that

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01:02:28,640 --> 01:02:31,000
Speaker 6: I wanted. The only issue is that my mother is

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01:02:31,040 --> 01:02:33,440
Speaker 6: fronting a good portion of our budget, and I was

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01:02:33,480 --> 01:02:36,200
Speaker 6: scared that by making her upset that she will pull

1412
01:02:36,280 --> 01:02:36,800
Speaker 6: the money.

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01:02:36,920 --> 01:02:38,439
Speaker 4: Oh this makes a lot more sense now.

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01:02:38,480 --> 01:02:40,120
Speaker 6: I was like, why do we care what she thinks?

1415
01:02:40,160 --> 01:02:44,320
Speaker 6: But she's paying for it. However, it's one tenth of

1416
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:46,440
Speaker 6: your budget, so like, maybe you could pay for it,

1417
01:02:46,480 --> 01:02:48,040
Speaker 6: could pay for it. We had to pull out of

1418
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:50,560
Speaker 6: venue number one because they ran out of dates. For

1419
01:02:50,640 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 6: twenty twenty five, three days ago. So now we are

1420
01:02:53,920 --> 01:02:57,000
Speaker 6: left with only four locations. I really don't want to

1421
01:02:57,040 --> 01:02:59,160
Speaker 6: lose option five because I love it, so I think

1422
01:02:59,200 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 6: I'm gonna take it red wardless. Plus I could pay

1423
01:03:01,360 --> 01:03:04,200
Speaker 6: for the whole wedding myself. There we go, easy, my

1424
01:03:04,280 --> 01:03:06,840
Speaker 6: fiance and I. I mean, if I really needed to

1425
01:03:06,960 --> 01:03:09,520
Speaker 6: at that point, and what I really needed you guys

1426
01:03:09,560 --> 01:03:11,640
Speaker 6: to do was that join us live every weekda at

1427
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:13,920
Speaker 6: three pmpst on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok.

1428
01:03:14,160 --> 01:03:16,200
Speaker 1: Easy just tap her profile.

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01:03:15,960 --> 01:03:19,000
Speaker 4: Four taps, one, two, three fours. I did it.

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01:03:19,000 --> 01:03:20,600
Speaker 6: It might even work on the first top. There is

1431
01:03:20,640 --> 01:03:22,800
Speaker 6: a little bit left to the story. Any thoughts at

1432
01:03:22,840 --> 01:03:23,520
Speaker 6: the end of the day.

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01:03:23,560 --> 01:03:26,320
Speaker 4: I always say this about weddings, it's your wedding. It's

1434
01:03:26,360 --> 01:03:28,479
Speaker 4: your choice, as long as you can pay it off,

1435
01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:29,400
Speaker 4: do whatever you want.

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01:03:29,560 --> 01:03:31,920
Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, it seems like because at first it

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01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:34,080
Speaker 6: was like, oh, your mom has got to be paying

1438
01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:35,800
Speaker 6: for it and you could afford it or something. But

1439
01:03:35,840 --> 01:03:38,200
Speaker 6: it seems like you said you could afford it. It's

1440
01:03:38,360 --> 01:03:40,480
Speaker 6: one tenth of your budget, which means that you're going

1441
01:03:40,560 --> 01:03:41,720
Speaker 6: to be saving a lot anyway.

1442
01:03:41,880 --> 01:03:43,440
Speaker 4: You're getting the liquor for free.

1443
01:03:43,560 --> 01:03:45,360
Speaker 6: Yeah, you're getting like cheap cake.

1444
01:03:45,480 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 4: You're getting everything's right there. It sounds like you literally

1445
01:03:48,320 --> 01:03:51,000
Speaker 4: listed everything. You're like glittering in the eye. You're like,

1446
01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:53,120
Speaker 4: this is perfect, this is business what you want. It's

1447
01:03:53,200 --> 01:03:56,040
Speaker 4: just the distance. Don't let the distance. Hey, you know what,

1448
01:03:56,160 --> 01:03:57,240
Speaker 4: you can go the distance go.

1449
01:03:57,320 --> 01:03:59,640
Speaker 6: The distance in three hours is not that far. I

1450
01:03:59,720 --> 01:04:02,840
Speaker 6: just thought i'd have this issue, and I figured i'd share.

1451
01:04:02,920 --> 01:04:05,360
Speaker 6: When my fiance's family found out what was causing the

1452
01:04:05,360 --> 01:04:08,680
Speaker 6: delay and choosing a venue, they were appalled, how embarrassing

1453
01:04:08,680 --> 01:04:09,640
Speaker 6: to be like, sorry, it's my.

1454
01:04:09,600 --> 01:04:12,960
Speaker 4: Mom, it's three hours. Jesus, we can't do it.

1455
01:04:13,080 --> 01:04:15,280
Speaker 6: I even explained to my mother that if our family

1456
01:04:15,320 --> 01:04:17,960
Speaker 6: couldn't drive three hours to see my wedding, whereas my

1457
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:20,960
Speaker 6: fiance's family can fly in from all around the country,

1458
01:04:21,080 --> 01:04:23,120
Speaker 6: then maybe they didn't need to be at the wedding

1459
01:04:23,200 --> 01:04:26,280
Speaker 6: at all, which is a freaking great point because I

1460
01:04:26,320 --> 01:04:29,560
Speaker 6: was thinking, I was like, does everybody they know live

1461
01:04:29,680 --> 01:04:32,560
Speaker 6: three hours away for the wedding? Presumably not? Presumably these

1462
01:04:32,600 --> 01:04:34,120
Speaker 6: people farther as we know.

1463
01:04:34,040 --> 01:04:36,240
Speaker 4: There are people are flying from out of the state.

1464
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:38,800
Speaker 6: Yeah, and these people can't drive, And Mom is garis.

1465
01:04:38,720 --> 01:04:40,320
Speaker 4: I guarantee you, Mom's like, I don't care. That's not

1466
01:04:40,360 --> 01:04:40,840
Speaker 4: my family.

1467
01:04:41,280 --> 01:04:43,880
Speaker 6: My mom wasn't happy about that comment, but at least

1468
01:04:43,880 --> 01:04:47,160
Speaker 6: she's still communicating with me, no matter how chaotic it's been.

1469
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:49,520
Speaker 6: At least I know that all of my fiance's family

1470
01:04:49,560 --> 01:04:52,960
Speaker 6: will be there. They have been so welcoming so far. Anyway,

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01:04:53,280 --> 01:04:55,240
Speaker 6: I hope you got quite a bit of joy out

1472
01:04:55,280 --> 01:04:57,480
Speaker 6: of my misery. I'm going to hopefully pick a venue

1473
01:04:57,480 --> 01:04:58,760
Speaker 6: this week, so wish me luck.

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01:04:58,880 --> 01:05:01,120
Speaker 4: Good luck. Pick the one you want, the one you wanted,

1475
01:05:01,200 --> 01:05:02,800
Speaker 4: the one you want, your wedding.

1476
01:05:02,680 --> 01:05:05,600
Speaker 6: Your choice, do it it, don't let anyone tell you.

1477
01:05:06,280 --> 01:05:08,000
Speaker 4: Invite me and I'll fly out.

1478
01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:09,400
Speaker 6: I'll fly out to your wedding.

1479
01:05:09,520 --> 01:05:10,320
Speaker 4: Sounds beautiful.

1480
01:05:10,720 --> 01:05:11,720
Speaker 6: DJ for your wedding.

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01:05:11,960 --> 01:05:15,400
Speaker 4: I'll dance on the outdance for free. Yeah.

1482
01:05:15,400 --> 01:05:18,160
Speaker 6: I don't know how to DJ, though, so no, don't

1483
01:05:18,160 --> 01:05:18,440
Speaker 6: do that.

1484
01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:18,840
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1485
01:05:18,880 --> 01:05:21,120
Speaker 6: That is the end of the story and the end

1486
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:25,120
Speaker 6: of this episode. Yes, so, if you love us, make

1487
01:05:25,120 --> 01:05:26,000
Speaker 6: sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 4: We love you and see you tomorrow.