1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,680 Speaker 1: It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer, 2 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey. Here we go. This one's from Tristan and Philly. 3 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:11,720 Speaker 1: Tristan writes him, twenty five years old, and I've been 4 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:15,120 Speaker 1: with my girlfriend for almost five years. She and her 5 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: mama have baby fear. But I don't want a child 6 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: until I figure out if I want to marry my girlfriend. 7 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:23,159 Speaker 1: I want to wait a couple of more years. Is 8 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: that too much to ask of my girl? 9 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:26,280 Speaker 2: Well? 10 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 3: Dog, if you been with a woman five years and 11 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:34,519 Speaker 3: you don't think this is the one after five years? 12 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 2: Yeah? See? 13 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:40,519 Speaker 3: Or could you be not phrasing what your concerns are 14 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 3: the correct way? 15 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: Yeah? At twenty five, Well, at. 16 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:49,480 Speaker 3: Twenty five it's young to get married. Maybe your fear 17 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,840 Speaker 3: is you're financially not where you want to be right 18 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 3: now to get married. And now you just said you're 19 00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 3: trying to figure out if she the one. 20 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 2: I don't know now. 21 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 3: If it's true then that you don't know if she's 22 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 3: the one. Then if I was you, I going by 23 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 3: my business because you done got five years in you 24 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 3: don't know this the one? I going by my business? 25 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 3: Maybe she not? And the baby talking all like this? 26 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:21,480 Speaker 3: Or is it that you're financially not ready yet, which 27 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 3: is often the case in some men. 28 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 2: And you're not verbalizing that. 29 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 3: But if you're right about what you're saying, you don't 30 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 3: think she's the one. You're gonna wait a couple of years. 31 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 3: What's gonna change in two years? I mean you've been 32 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 3: with her five years? What's finished change with two more 33 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 3: years that you ain't feeling right? 34 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 2: Now? Good food for though information you missing now? Yeah? Yeah, 35 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 2: all right? 36 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: Moving on to Lakeisha and Tampa. Lakeisha writes, my daughter 37 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: moved into a new apartment and her dad told her 38 00:01:56,200 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 1: to hire movers. She couldn't afford movers. Boyfriend and his 39 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: friends helped her move instead. Okay, her dad is upset 40 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 1: and he thinks my boyfriend was out of line? Was 41 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: he really? 42 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 2: No, it's they moving. 43 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, the boyfriend is out of line for helping for 44 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 4: helping your daughter move. 45 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 2: No, I don't. I don't think the guy's out of line. Right, 46 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:30,679 Speaker 2: sounds like a decent guy. 47 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: Next guy. 48 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:35,799 Speaker 2: Ye, See, here's what's here's what's wrong. Let me just 49 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 2: tell you what's wrong. 50 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:37,120 Speaker 1: Break it down. 51 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 2: The mama. 52 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 3: The mama found out that you told y'all's daughter to 53 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 3: hire a mover. You know your daughter don't have the money. 54 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 3: You told your boyfriend. Your boyfriend said, hey, will help 55 00:02:55,280 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 3: her move. Now you got a problem with the boyfriend 56 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:05,079 Speaker 3: because he didn't done something you didn't do. Because if 57 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 3: you had a found out that she didn't have the 58 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 3: money for the movers, as her dad, you could have 59 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 3: helped her move. 60 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 2: But you didn't. 61 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 3: And maybe they didn't share the news with you that 62 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:19,640 Speaker 3: your daughter couldn't afford to So the man just stepped up. 63 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 3: The man was not a line. He was just feeling 64 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 3: the knee. You do know you're not married to her anymore. 65 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 3: You just share you know, he over there doing some 66 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 3: other things to wow, moving is the least of your ware? 67 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 2: Would she do with helping move it? They're over there 68 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 2: moving furniture. It's just in the same. 69 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 1: Room, all right. Moving on to Rico in Seattle. Rico writes, 70 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 1: I have a male coworker that we call Sandy. He 71 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: has saved in my phone as Sandy. When I call 72 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 1: Sandy at six fifteen am yesterday to tell him that 73 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: I was going to be late, my wife cursed me 74 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: out for saying good morning to my girlfriend. How do 75 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: I get her to stop going through my phone and 76 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:17,720 Speaker 1: making assumption. What wait a minute, Yeah, it's a guy's name. 77 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:19,040 Speaker 4: Sandy is a guy. 78 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:28,279 Speaker 3: Well, okay, I'm confused me two women that's in the relationship, 79 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 3: because let's ask again. 80 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 1: Okay, listening, Okay, this the letter of the question is 81 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 1: from Rico. Rico says, I have a male co worker 82 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: that we call Sandy. He is saved in my phone 83 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 1: as Sandy. When I call Sandy, the male co worker 84 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:49,280 Speaker 1: at six fifteen am yesterday to tell him that I 85 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:52,839 Speaker 1: was going to be late, my wife then cursed me 86 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 1: out for saying good morning to my girlfriend. How do 87 00:04:56,120 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: I get her to stop going through my phone and 88 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 1: making assumptions so her his wife assumed that Sandy was 89 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 1: a female. 90 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:13,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's that's an assumption. 91 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 3: Now, bro, how do you stop your wife from going 92 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:21,159 Speaker 3: through your phone? That's not your problem. Your problem is 93 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:25,839 Speaker 3: you got to straighten out who Sandy is. See, that's 94 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 3: what you need to do. I can't tell you how 95 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 3: to get your wife to stop going through your phone 96 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 3: because she done went through it. Yeah, and I don't 97 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 3: know what I'm gonna tell you to tell your wife 98 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 3: to get her to quit going through your phone. Not 99 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:43,720 Speaker 3: Rico I'm just gonna go out on the limb here. 100 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:46,720 Speaker 3: I don't know you, but with a name like Rico, 101 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:53,360 Speaker 3: you have acted out several times in your life with that. 102 00:05:53,480 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 2: Name Rico Suave. Yeah, go Rico beanco Oh. 103 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:06,239 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. 104 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:08,239 Speaker 2: I got a pardoner name Rico. Yeah. 105 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 3: He has done the most and that's what causes the suspicion. 106 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:15,240 Speaker 2: I don't know if he's cute. 107 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: He is, come on now, So that's all he has 108 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 1: to do is tell his wife that Sandy is his coworker. 109 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 2: Well, that'll get you off the hook with this one. 110 00:06:25,440 --> 00:06:27,640 Speaker 3: Why she's going through your phone has something to do 111 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 3: with something altogether different that you didn't mention in this letter. 112 00:06:31,360 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 3: And that's something you got to cope with. But right now, 113 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 3: you just need to straighten out who Sandy is. 114 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 2: That's her, all right? 115 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 5: All right? 116 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 2: He just changed the name. Can he change the name 117 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 2: in the phone to it's that or something something more? 118 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 3: Mastering? 119 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 1: All right, let's too late. Rashida in New Orleans. Rashida writes, 120 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:52,279 Speaker 1: my husband told me to shut up in front of 121 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 1: our nine year old daughter. She got sassy and told 122 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:57,359 Speaker 1: him not to talk to her. Mama like that. My 123 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: husband punished her. I don't allow my child to be sassy. 124 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:04,159 Speaker 1: But is there a lesson in what happened here? 125 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 3: Well, children do what they see. They don't always do 126 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 3: what you're telling me to do. Uh, she was correct. 127 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 3: You don't talk to my mama like that. He done 128 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 3: punished her. I think you now you got to punish him. 129 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:23,360 Speaker 3: He has to have some consequences for telling you to 130 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 3: shut up in front of anybody or period. 131 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 5: Yeah. 132 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 2: I would love to tell my wife to shut up. 133 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 2: I really want. 134 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:38,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, but I know the consequences part. 135 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: I'm here you all right, all right, up, you're listening 136 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: Hardy Morning Show