1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,560 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, we got it for you here. 2 00:00:02,600 --> 00:00:05,480 Speaker 1: It is a Strawberry letter. Alright subject she's doing too 3 00:00:05,559 --> 00:00:08,200 Speaker 1: much on the Graham Just Steven Shirley. I have an 4 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: issue with my wife's image on social media. My wife 5 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: has an Instagram account, and I feel like the picture 6 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: she posts are inappropriate for a married woman. I don't 7 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: have an Instagram account, so for a long time I 8 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 1: had no idea what she was posting on her page. 9 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: One day I asked to I asked her to see 10 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 1: her Instagram page, and as I was as I started 11 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:32,839 Speaker 1: flipping through the pics, I was so shocked by what 12 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:36,840 Speaker 1: I saw. My wife, the mother of our children, had 13 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 1: some very revealing pictures posted for the world to see. 14 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 1: I am from the old school of thought, where your 15 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: wife is supposed to keep covered in public and only 16 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: show those types of things to her husband. I told 17 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: her the classy women don't post swimsuit picks, butt picks 18 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: and suggestive poses on the on the internet. My wife 19 00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: told me that every woman does it now and I 20 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: should just relaxed and stop being so oh fashioned. I 21 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: honestly think she uses Instagram to boost her ego. You 22 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: should see the comments she gets random guys and her 23 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:13,400 Speaker 1: girlfriends about how she looks. This really upsets me. I 24 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: don't want my wife showing the world the special things 25 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 1: that are from my eyes only. How do I get 26 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: her to understand that the pictures are not appropriate? Or 27 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:23,039 Speaker 1: should I just loosen up? Um? You know what, I'm 28 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: in total agreement with you, husband. Um, you have the 29 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: right to feel the way you you feel about How 30 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: about your wife showing her stuff for the world to see? 31 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:33,759 Speaker 1: As you say on social media, I don't think it's 32 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:37,919 Speaker 1: appropriate either. I mean, in a second, any self respecting 33 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 1: married or even single woman for that matter, should refrain 34 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: from that type of behavior. Is it gonna happen? Probably not. 35 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: But I think any husband or real man is going 36 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: to want his wife to stop it because it looks 37 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 1: like the wife is inviting other men to come check 38 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:00,200 Speaker 1: her out, to see her goods, you know. Uh, And 39 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 1: then you know, men are gonna think they have a 40 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: chance with you, you know, of getting something. You know, 41 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: That's what it looks like when you post pictures like that. 42 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 1: I just think you should tell your wife that she's 43 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: a beautiful, sexy woman, helped build her self confidence, her 44 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: self esteem, because maybe she is lacking in in that department, 45 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 1: and just because you see other women do it, it 46 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 1: doesn't mean you could do it. There's a way to 47 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:25,080 Speaker 1: post beautiful pictures on the site if you want to 48 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: do that, classy pictures, like you say, you don't have 49 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,399 Speaker 1: to be on the web showing your butt and all 50 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,679 Speaker 1: of that. You're someone's wife. Come on, and you have children. 51 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: Do you want your children to follow in your example? 52 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 1: I don't think you do, so you should cut this 53 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: out right now, Steve totally disagree with you, Hm, because 54 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: this is what this guy wrote this letter, and if 55 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:53,359 Speaker 1: you listen to him carefully, there's some red flags that 56 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: pop up in his letter. My wife has an Instagram account. 57 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: I feel like the pictures she posts an inappropriate for 58 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: a married woman. I don't have Instagram, so for a 59 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: long time I had no idea what she was posting 60 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: on her page. When they asked her to see her 61 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: Instagram page, I started flipping through the pics. I was 62 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:14,839 Speaker 1: so shocked by what I saw. My wife, the mother 63 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: of our children, has some very revealing pictures posted for 64 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: the world to see. Here is the red flag. I 65 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 1: am from the old school of thought where your wife 66 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: is supposed to keep covered in public and only show 67 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:32,360 Speaker 1: those types of things to her husband. He said, he 68 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,839 Speaker 1: old school. When we come back, we're gonna find out 69 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: how old he is. How old is old school? How 70 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: revealing is the pictures she's sending it? How is he 71 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 1: the one determining what should be posted? And why is 72 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: she having to get attention from other men in the 73 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: first place? All of this when we come Okay, all right, Steve, 74 00:03:57,280 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 1: come on, let's get to part two of your response 75 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: to today A Strawberry letters subject. She's doing too much 76 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: on the gram. She doing too much on the gram. 77 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 1: Now we went over this this a married woman got 78 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 1: Instagram account. He don't. He found out that she had one. 79 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 1: She saw flipping through the pages. He discovered that he 80 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: thought that was shocked by what she saw. The mother 81 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,719 Speaker 1: of our children has some very revealing posted for the 82 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 1: world to see. Here's where the red flags begin. I 83 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 1: am from the old school of thought, of thought, where 84 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 1: our wife, where your wife is supposed to be covered 85 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:36,159 Speaker 1: in public and only show those types of things to 86 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 1: her hus Now let's talk about from old school of thought. 87 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 1: Are you from an Arabic nation? M I don't know, 88 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:52,279 Speaker 1: but if that's the case, you'd have a valid point 89 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: because that's their custom. This ain't your custom, bro, So 90 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: what you think it's revealing may not be revealing all. 91 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:11,479 Speaker 1: The woman probably ain't naked. She might have on swimsuit. Huh. 92 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: You if you see a woman, you're gonna see her. 93 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 1: But you're talking about now, she ain't got her whole 94 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: but out naked. It's on Instagram. She then turned around 95 00:05:25,279 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: and look back over her shoulder at it. That's a 96 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 1: butt pick that looks good. But let's talk to this. 97 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 1: Why do you think she's doing it? She should. You 98 00:05:37,920 --> 00:05:40,600 Speaker 1: should see the comments she gets from random guys and 99 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:45,040 Speaker 1: her girlfriends about how good she looks. Now, let's talk 100 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:47,840 Speaker 1: about why she's putting it on the page anyway. Could 101 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: it be Mr. Old School that you ain't paying your 102 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: wife no attention? Could it be Mr. Old School that 103 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: you don't compliment your wife or how beautiful she is 104 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 1: because you probably think that all just between you and 105 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:02,839 Speaker 1: her too. So maybe she's not feeling her femininity around 106 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: you no more because she didn't have them kids and 107 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 1: you old old as school and you don't compliment your 108 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:11,119 Speaker 1: wife no more. You don't tell her she beautiful because 109 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: you think that's just between you and her. So now 110 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: the woman needs attention that you're not giving her. She 111 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:22,360 Speaker 1: ain't getting it from you, so now some other people 112 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 1: are complimenting her. I don't know really how scantly dressed 113 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:29,839 Speaker 1: your wife is, and I doubt that she's that scantly dressed. 114 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,479 Speaker 1: It's just you don't like it. You so old, but 115 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 1: you're stuck in your ways, and now this woman trapped 116 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 1: in your life, the one you created for them. You 117 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: cannot determine for another person, especially a woman, what isn't 118 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:52,680 Speaker 1: what can't be. Now you can have a discussion with 119 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: her and y'all can come to some conclusions, but you 120 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 1: can't just tell her what she can't do because she's 121 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: doing it, and who are you. Let's see, she not 122 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 1: the only one making a mistake in this relationship. I 123 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:12,880 Speaker 1: bet you you'd made a bunch of mistakes in Shirley 124 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 1: said something, we would do it because she has low 125 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 1: self esteem and stuff like that. That could be true, 126 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: but you get low self esteem from people not around you, 127 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: not building you up and helping you with your confidence, 128 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: and that's your husband's job. So I don't really see 129 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: nothing wrong with it. I think the real prominence letter 130 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 1: and the fact that this man wrote in it's something 131 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:40,680 Speaker 1: else going on with him. He think it's inappropriate. He owed, 132 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 1: see I can see, oh see right there. That's how 133 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 1: we're gonna letter. You have to go by what he said. 134 00:07:54,880 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: But picks did sit in her accountany Shirley, you got 135 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: butt picks on yours? Yes you do. I do not. 136 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 1: I'm pulling your instagram right now. I don't have. But there, 137 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 1: you ain't got a picture your butt nowhere that you 138 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: take a picture, you think your bud ain't there? Huh 139 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: my girl? Right there, Look on the second row. Look 140 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:33,319 Speaker 1: on the second row of Shirley's instagram right now, two 141 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: rolls down. What do you see? Tommy Jeddy Brown is kill? 142 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: And look at Jay looking at it? No, I'm not crazy, Shirley. 143 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 1: What go look at your instagram. I'm looking. I know 144 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 1: what's on my instagram. Steve Okay, count from the left 145 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:56,320 Speaker 1: top one to three, go back to the left frow. 146 00:08:56,400 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: Five six pictures, second picture on the rock, blue jeans. 147 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: Come on, Tommy is shot a butt shot? Guys, I'm 148 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 1: walking away. That's all that is that? What is showing? 149 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:18,679 Speaker 1: And look at Ja looking any bottom Jesus blood shoes. 150 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 1: But we make blood. Yeah, dollar, it was a dollar 151 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 1: on the ground. Steve, what shots are your actual? But yeah? Okay, 152 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:43,559 Speaker 1: what is your point? What is your point? Oh my god, 153 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 1: she didn't drug me into this. Oh now they'll go 154 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 1: a butt shot. Oh my god. Now go down there 155 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:50,559 Speaker 1: and look at the picture of her on my show. 156 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 1: He is all right, Look, we gotta get out of here. 157 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:58,080 Speaker 1: Email us or Instagram. That's your thoughts. Go to go 158 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: to my Instagram at my girls earlier. 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